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Good day Stella and fellow BV'S.
I met this guy sometimes in June 2015.


He was asking me out but I turned down his proposal(he's yoruba and muslim).
But he didn't stop calling and texting me on WhatsApp on daily basis, our office is not far from each other, so every morning he call to ask me if I have eaten if I say no he will say ok come let's go and eat.during all this time I was single.


At afternoon's he calls to know how is work going and all that.
When I close he would ask me to wait for him at the busstop , I close by 6pm,he close by 8pm.
Then he will come and give me transport money and he will return back to his office.
He will call me to find out if I have gotten home and all that continued until July 4th 2015.


I texted him on WhatsApp around 6:am in the morning, when I woke up telling him that I have agreed to date him, he reply me by 6:30am or so saying "wow i love you so much, and I promise to take care of you, i promise not to break your heart" e.t.c.
That day was on a Saturday, and I close by 4pm on Saturdays from work.


When I close from work he took me out, we went swimming after swimming he took me to shoprite he bought lots of stuff for me.
He gave me some amount of money to use for my Sunday.
He calls me regularly, first thing 6:am he calls atimes 5am telling me to pray and get ready for work.


He continues this lovy dovy treatment until August 2015 my phone fell into water and stop working. He said he will take it to engineer to repair it for me.


After he brought the phone he just frow his face, i asked him what happened to him, he said so i am a prostitute I asked him that what kind of stupid talk is that .he said look at all the messages on my phone that they are all from men, and they are always asking how and when you people are going to see each other , i told him that they are just message (and truly they are just message ).
He was like if that is the case I should Change my sim I agree because I was so in love with him then.


Next day he took me to Etisalat office bought the new sim, but it will work in 24hours time, he said the sim will be with him till it get activated i agreed. Next day was on a Sunday i went to his place. I changed my sim in august 2015.
I told him that before I change the sim I would like to copy important contacts out. He began to shout on me that I want to copy all those peoples numbers i was like no my friend's and office colleague's number he said ok. Immediately he brought out pen and paper gave to me to write down the numbers in his presence. Immediately i finish writing them down he opened my phone removed the sim, then he put the new one, he told me that he's going to keep the other sim with him , i didn't argue with him but I was very angry inside me.


Because our office are very close to each other(just two blocks apart), if he see me with any other guy it becomes and issue except i say the person his a client. if I miss his calls we qurel about it no matter my explanations.when he miss mine no explanation just baby am sorry i was busy and I wnt say futher.


Everytime we qurel physically he becomes very hot on me like he's going to hit me,and after the qurel he doesn't pick my calls or reply my chats and when he finally picks he will ask me "why are you calling me " and insults will follow. I will beg and beg and later he will calm down and forgive me for what I didn't do. Then we would continue again. If he offend me he doesn't apologise instead he will not call me for like 2 or 3days. And I will be the one to call and apologise. After a while he told me that when I close from work i have to come and wait for him in his office then when he close for the day we would go to the bus stop together and go our separate destination. I wasn't happy with it but I agreed.


Then on December 20th 2015 (on a Sunday our off days) i went to visit him like i normally do every Sunday , i went around 1pm after church, immediately he opened the door he went to bed and started sleeping mean while he asked me to come. By 6pm he was still sleeping i have to tap him up to tell him that I will soon leave.

Immediately i put my hands on him to tap him he just screamed on me that what happened i told him that I will soon leave. He said so is that why you have to distract his sleep. I reply him that baby am sorry he screamed on me that don't baby me, learn how to respect people. I said how he said you are stupid for asking me such questions i was like am stupid because I woke you up or what. He just stood up from the bed and started slapping me i slapped him back he overpowered me and began to pull my weavon and he was shouting you are very stupid, I pushed him pick my phone and ran out of the room.

 I called his close friend told him what happened he told me to calm down that I should sit outside that he's coming. His friend came went inside to talk to him, he was screaming on top of his voice that the relationship is over between us that how can he slap me and i will have the guts to slap him back. That he's a yoruba guy and he cherish respect.


His friend came outside to meet me that I should go inside and beg him i refuse his friend pleaded with me telling me that he has anger issues and he would talk to him bla bla.
I went inside and pleaded with him, he just screamed that how can I be standing to apologise that I don't have respect, his friend wisper to me to kneel down. I knelt down to beg him,before he finally agree. Immediately his friend left he began to apologise to me that he's so sorry that he has anger problem, that he would work on it, that he loves me, he will change we made up and had s3x.


The next day Dec 21st he use my picture as his dp on his phone, laptop, WhatsApp and Facebook. He used my name as his password on his phone and laptop. Those things calmed me down. Until he finally change the pictures January 1st 2016 but he left my name as passwords.
Then this year 2016 badoo became his new addiction we quarel countless time over it, he will be asking the girls how much for s3x and when can they come and see him.
They should send him nudes, we quarel over it one time he stopped talking to me for nearly 2weeks because of it.


He stoped spending money on me like at first. He stop subscribing my phone, he stop paying for my hair and stop buying my body cream. When I complain he said he doesn't have money. I told him that he doesn't have money but he buys new clothes almost every week and they pay him salary every month . He screemed on me that am I not receiving salary too that what do I do with my money. 

So I let him be i didn't ask or depend for anything from him again. If he falls sick i buy drugs and blood tonic for him, but when I fall sick he will ask me that hope have taken drugs, even if I complain to him that I don't have money to buy drugs (but I have ) he would say eya sorry if that I have i would buy for you, but please take care of your self for me.


Then MAY this year 2016 , he fell really sick he couldn't go to work for 2weeks they said(doctor)he has pneumonia I was always their for him after work hours (cooking washing and cleaning his house ). He got well and fell sick after 3days this time around he couldn't even breath well only with his mouth. His body was so hot like charcoal fire, his chest was swollen, he couldn't eat and even if he eat he would vomit it.
He was admitted at the hospital again, after 3 weeks he didn't get well . His late mom called from the village that she went to some where they told her that it's spiritual attack from his father's family background, that his elder brother will come and take him back to the village for spiritual cleansing.
When he was about to travel he needed #20,000 naira to complete his money out of care, love and pity i gave him.


He came back from the village and became well again until July this year after our 1 year dating aniversary he began to give me all atitude again. He goes to the restaurant to eat breakfast on his own he changed my name from his passwords.
He chats with girls on WhatsApp asking if they are single.
When I complained he said they are just chats and I should not be angry.
When I go to visit him on Sundays i pay my transport fare tro and fro, even the cooking i cook with my money.
And anytime i write a cooking list if for example the total is two thousand naira he would give me one thousand naira that let's share it eat.


2nd week of September is my birthday. We had issues 3weeks to my birthday courtesy of him(starting from mid August ). We didn't communicate for 2 and half weeks. When I decide to make up with him. He said am trying to make up because my birthday is around the coner right (6 days to my birthday ),and he said what if he has gotten another girl bla bla that do i think am the only pretty girl with hot body that almost every girl is looking like me both facially and body shape that he's just trying to control him self that they are too many hot girl if I think am too special or something that one day he will surprise.
I sha apologies for what I didn't do.

On my birthday he didn't give me any gift by 6pm that day i complain to him via WhatsApp, he said he's sorry that he ran out of idea on what to buy i told him that but he bought me several nice things on my birthday in 2015 why is 2016 different he said that was last year and not this year.
I just let it rest.
Later that night of my birthday he took me my friend's and some of his 4 friends to club and that was all(and on his birthday in March I spent almost 30k on gifts cake(cynham cakes)and watch and the rest).


October 11 2016 his mom died he travelled for her burial and came back on the 15th because of work.
I went to visit on the 16th of October.
As I was arranging the stuff the he brought back from the village i saw the picture of a lady in his bag i asked him who is she.
He collected the picture from me and shouted on me that I should stop asking stupid questions all the time that does this person in the picture look like who he can date I told him that, that's not the answer to my question. He said my friend just shut up i told him that he's disrespecting me, he shouted on me that what stupid disrespect?.
I got angry pick up my bag to leave he said if you like leave i wont call or beg you.
I left with anger
He didn't call me neither chat me up.


November 1st 2016. I sent him new month message he replied and we began chatting. I began to apologise to him.he said that he's tired of me and my attitude and we quarel too much and what if he has gotten a new girlfriend we settled again. Until November 10th, he told me that he bought a house on November 2nd 2016 I told him that but you didn't tell me. He was like he doesn't need to tell me everything. That in fact the reason why he's just telling me because he's still owing the seller of the house hundred thousand and he needs fifty thousand naira from me.


I told him that I don't have he said he saw my account balance on my phone I told him yes that I want to start selling ladies cloths in 2017 he said since the money is meant for 2017 he will pay me November ending after salary payment i said no. He said ok he will pay me back with 20 percent intrest I agreed and transfered the fifty thousand immediately to him.


November 18th i didn't go to work i was sick vomiting and all that. He only called by 7:am to ask about my health he didn't call again till 6:pm I Decided to call him he didn't pick from 6pm till 9pm I called like 17 times he didn't pick.
Then by 11:03 pm at night he called me and I said so since morning is now you have my time right.
He began to screem on me that I don't have patience and I can't wait for him to explain that infact good night sleep well.


I called him back i said why is he too harsh on me all the time he said "hmm no vex dear " that he's moving thing's from the rented apartment to the new I asked him how many load and besides today his Friday and you didn't tell me you wnt be going to work he said "sorry" I said and you know am not feeling fine you should at least call to know about my health.
He said that's your problem too much talk he cut the call.
I got angry text him that first thing tomorrow morning(November 19th ) i want my money back and i am no longer in intrested in the relationship he didn't reply the text i called him 12:04ammidnight told him that hope he got my text he said yes don't worry first thing in the morning i will Bring it for you in your office.


I cut the call. The next day November 19th i resume work. He called me by 3pm that he's outside my office he gave me the 50k and left.
November 26th i went to the small shopping mall beside my work place to get stuff before I went home.
I saw him with another lady he was holding her hands and carrying her hand bag and the girl was holding the shopping basket he was buying stuff for her i was behind them, they didn't see me, i nearly faint it was just as if I have electric shock i left without buying what I came for.
I was so sad throughout November 26th.


November 28th i went to the restaurant at my work place to eat breakfast as I sat down I saw him coming in with 3 of his friends i remove my face and concentrated on my phone.
He came to sit me saying madame you saw me and remove face i didn't answer just pressing my phones he said talk to me or am I not your love again I didn't reply him.
He stood up went back to meet his friends at their table.


Evening of that same day i told my friend about it she said if I still love him I should beg him i said ok.
November 30th i called him we talk briefly then I began to apologise he said no need that he has a new girlfriend, I told him that I know i saw them together at the mall. He said thank God you saw us.
That as i can see we have almost the same shape and am only lighter than her in skin tone.
So he wonder what was so special about me that other girls don't have.
I continue begging him till midnight he said he's only accepting because the girl doesn't Base in Abuja that she just came to visit her friend that works in their office and she has gone back to her Base.
I was ok oh.


December 1st the next day he didn't call me he normally calls as early as 5am or 6am, so when I was leaving for work I called him 3 times he didn't pick the 4th time he pick saying "please stop calling me as early as this again, you can call me by 10am and if I can call you before 10 am i will thank you "
I was surprised i just say ok happy new month dear he said ok bye and cut the call.


Later that night when we close he took me to one garden we where gisting i brought out my phone and told him that I want to show him something he said what's that.
I showed him pictures of him when he was sick in MAY and I was sitting on chair sleeping beside his hospital bed (his friend took the picture ).
He look at it and say this is rubbish for now. Why are you showing me you want me to praise you or what I said no to remember the good old times he hissed pick up his phone's and left.
I sat down their for a while and left sad.


November 4th i went to his side after church as usual but before going i text him to please keep something before I reach he replied me that his house is not restaurant.
I didn't reply till I got their.
When I got to his house immediately he opened the door he said hope you got my text i said yes he said ok my house his not restaurant I said ok and sat on the chair we where watching movie together.
He look at me and said so what will you eat i say I don't know am just hungry he brought out one thousand naira that I should go and buy chips and egg from restaurant, as I was about to collect the money he put it back in his pocket and said why should I still care for you.
I didn't utter any word.


Then his phone rang he pick I was sitting close to him I could hear everything he was saying.
The girl that introduced him to his new distance girlfriend was the one calling. She said she wants to come and greet him on behalf of her friend they where speaking yoruba he said no don't come my main girlfriend his around the lady was like and so what since my friend is not around i want to come and since you on her behalf i don't care if your real or fake girlfriend his around he replied ok you can come in yoruba.


When she came she sat on the second chair, immediately he move and sat with her they where just gisting in yoruba as if I am not in the parlour with them(but I understand yoruba very well, although I can't speak fluently ) I was angry inside me but quiet outside I took his phone and was going through his messages on WhatsApp he has change my name to my real name.
He saved the girls number as mine . I was reading him and the girl chats they where chatting about all the sex they have within 3days he wish she can come back very soon to Abuja she said she wished but she's plaining her introduction with her boyfriend, he said that she should break up that he's ready to wife her.
I scrolled to pictures he took the girl to shoprite they but lots of things took pictures .
And since June this year he has not take me out always complaining no money got angry and kept the phone Continued waching the movie.
While him and the lady continue talking in their yoruba language .
It was 6pm I expect the lady to leave she didn't leave instead she called her friend on phone (new girl )she gave my boyfriend the phone to speak with the new girl I was just boiling but I didn't talk.
By 7pm she asked him in yoruba that hope this girl(me) is not sleeping here he said no one.
She said in that case let me be going .when she was going she took the only 2 wines in the fringe went to kitchen pack indomie and egg that can enter her hand bag.
He even escort her,am sure he even gave her transport.


He came back and ask me that madame are you not ready to leave i said am waiting for him so that we can talk about us.
He said which us that the last time he check they was no us but just go ahead sha.
I told him that I don't like what's going on and beside his new girlfriend his in a serious relationship he said how does that concern you am I complaining that I should please leave that he doesn't want to loose his temper so that he will not end up slapping him. I told him that does he realise that today his Dec 4th and we are 1year and 6 months old he said that one is no longer relevant please leave.
I left without him giving me transport or escorting him.
I got home and deleted his numbers. When I was inside taxi going home i decided I would let him be.


By 10pm I saw his numbers calling him, i pick he said haven't i gotten home yet i said i have he Began to shout that and I didn't call him.
I told him that I didn't call him because I wnt call him forever in my life again he said that's good take care.
He sent me message on WhatsApp around 10:24 saying "baby please am very sorry for what happened today ,i know thats why you are angry at me I promise you it wnt happen again, i love you so much don't want to loose you dear"
I replied ok.
He said please call me before you sleep i told him I wnt call him but he can call me.
He called by 10:45 pm that he wants to sleep now I said ok.
He said "i love you so much " I hissed and cut the call.


He called back 5times I didn't pick the next morning November 5 he started calling from 6 am till 9am i didn't pick 19missed calls .
He came to my office around 9:40 am I told my colleague that I don't want to see him he left he called 5more times I didn't pick he sent me message on WhatsApp "baby please what's going on please talk to me".
I replies am no longer intrested in this confuse relationship please move on with your new girl.
He replied ok but you are the one who is too confused one minute you want me the other minute you don't want me.
I said this time am serious thanks for the experience good and bad he said ok move on with your confused life.


Dec 7 he called by 10pm that he want to hear my voice, Dec 8 he called by 10pm to hear my voice again, Dec 9 still called by 10pm that he wants to hear my voice.
Dec 10th still called by 10pm that he want to greet me.
I ask him that this one you are calling every night to hear voice hope all is well he said yes all is well. .that he's so sorry for all the pains he caused he loves me so much that let's reconcile that everybody his asking him about me even his MD that he will change after much talking from 10pm till 1am I agree.
The next day was Sunday he in the morning that I should please come after church let's cook and eat that it's been a while.
I went we cook together and other stuff together.
Time for me to leave he begin to ask hope I have transport I provoke and shout on him that I don't have he gave one thousand five hundred naira for the transport.


That's when I told him am surposed to see my period November 27th but till December 10th have not seen it he said I should go for lab on December 13th if it show face.
I bought pregnancy kit strip and test it was positive, he said I should still go to lab want to lab still postive .


December 13th when we close from work we went to a garden to discuss about the baby he was saying I should keep it he want baby bla bla but I will convert to muslim because it means before or after the birth of the baby will would get married, I told him I can't he said he always know that my love is only inside my mouth not my heart.
We both letter agree for D&C after plenty talks and almost qurel.


December 15th he gave me one drugs misoprostol for the D&C I Google it. It was truly for D&C .December 16th I didn't go to work.
I took the drugs December 16th with the hand written prescription on paper he gave me written by a pharmacist. I i took the drugs according to prescription but it didn't work I told him(my boyfriend ) December 17th. So December 19th he took me to the pharmacist the guy gave me an injection that almost ran me mad immediately my ear even got block for two days I began bleeding after 1hour sha.


After the injection he partially calls me and when he calls he complains that I don't call him bla bla me that am not feeling well.


Am in pains and serious bleeding after the D&C December 20_22 I couldn't go to work too much blood cramps and pains can't walk well too.
December 23 because of our xmas party and end of the year bonus I couldn't even wait for the party to start I just collected my bonus and left by 2pm because of too much pains .
I called him that am going home he came to work me up to bus stop I told him I was given 50 percent bonus of my salary plus I was paid December salary.
He was like wow please borrow me 10k I told him I can't I need to take care of my self during the holidays (i will resume back to work January 4th 2017 ).
I sha borrow him 5k.


I went to his house around 8am December 24th the next day he want to work came back by 7pm telling me stories of how they didn't pay him November and December salary and they didn't give end of the year bonus.
I didn't even know if he was lying or saying the truth .
He told me that he can't take me out for Christmas no money that I should rest at home since am not even feeling fine i said ok and left with anger.


December 25th at morning my pains and bleeding increased he only called me by 10amChristmas morning, I told him that I can't even get up because of pains and stomach rumbling he said ok go to pharmacy I told him no hospital and pharmacy open today more over today is Sunday and Christmas he said eya Pele dear i would soon call you soon.
He didn't call me through out I didn't call him too then on 26th December i decided to call him around 10:30 am first line switch off 2nd line went through (i was still bleeding ).
I began to call him from 10 till 1pm 16times he didn't pick i was already upset he called me back by 1:20 that "hello baby please don't be angry i was playing " na the ball matter vex me too much i got angry insulted him called him beast, fool and mumu.
I cut the call he called me back saying I get angry too much just because he didn't call bla bla i told him f**k you he said oya na vex and kill your self he cut the call.


I got angry went to dressed up went to his house without calling him.
Got to his house and the house was filled up with 8 guy's they drinking chatting in their yoruba language he was in the kitchen cooking for the boys i just sat down in the parlour he after some minutes he came out from the kitchen and he was shock to see me.
He i should please wait for him in the bedroom that the smell of acholol is not good for my health.
We went to bedroom I told him am in pains and he should take me back to the pharmacy.
He took me their they gave me drug's and blood tonic bill was three thousand three hundred naira #3,300 .
My guy did as if he wasn't having money he asked me if I was with my purse i said no, he brought out #3,500 and paid.
Those his friends that where drinking in the parlour left and he came to meet inside bedroom he lie down beside me that I shouldn't be angry that through out 25th they where at the club all through the might he doesn't have credit to call and all that .
In my mind I say somebody that they didn't and he even borrow my 5k is the one buying drinks and taking guys to club up and down.


He slept off and I took his phone and went through his WhatsApp messages he was chatting with his distance about to be engaged girlfriend almost through out on the 25th .
How they miss their self's, how they can't wait to see each and all that shit got me angry I just off the phone looked at him he was deep asleep i felt like giving him a turderios slap, but I just fell asleep beside him i was super weak.


Before I got ready to leave 1 of his friend came to collect his xmas drink, as he went to the parlour I check his wallet no money I checked his trouser they was six thousand naira inside.
I check his phone to see what my numbers was saved it he has changed them back to "iyawo" and "ifemi"
He came back into the room and ask me if am ready to I said yes.
We reach bus stop he told me that hope I have transport I said no he said ah he doesn't have money too only this 300 naira I looked at him head to toe, he was like "baby what" I didn't reply he said this 300 hundred naira will transport me na I said yes just give me.


Got home and deleted his numbers because of the 6 thousand naira and 300 hundred naira matter i got super confused about him.
I sent him series of messages on WhatsApp about his new stingy character.
I told him that how can he be so stingy and wicked to give me 300 hundred naira out of 6000 naira.
He said "baby please don't be angry that's my last cash you know they have not pay me 2 months salary trying to manage this one till January thanks for the understanding i love you ".


I poured my heart to him that I don't understand the relationship anymore and am already tired of him didn't reply but read the messages via WhatsApp next day December 28 I didn't call him through out I decided not to call he was the one calling through out and complaining that I didn't bother to call him just because am sick.


28th December am still lying down in pains he called me from 6 am till 2pm in the afternoon i didn't pick.
I got small strength and type him message on WhatsApp that am no longer intrested in this confused relationship he didn't reply he was just busy changing dp and WhatsApp status he called by 9pm that "baby how far, how is your health . Hope you have eaten. How was day i saw your day have missed you bla bla, I saw your message on WhatsApp I know is because you are in pain that's why you are sending me that kind of messages don't worry you will soon be fine. We would go out in new year I promise you just take good care of your self and heal fast. I love you iyawo".
My mindset soft again he called by 11pm we spoke for about 30 minutes we said our good nights with him saying try and be calling me oh I miss the way you call me Ayomi.


The problem now is i don't want to continue with this kind of drama full relationship in 2017 , i know i have fallen in love with him that's why it's hard to pull out. I need mature advices please.
He's 26 years and am 20 year's old.
He's Muslim am Christian
Please I need advise on weather to leave or stay and talk to him just so confuse right now thank you all.

*SMH in anger*

What is all this darling?Why are you not in school?Abortion?OH FREAKING HOLY MOSES.................At your age?I am crying for you darling and my tears are real...I am too shocked to give a proper response right now...IS THIS STORY REAL?