Hello Stella, nice job you are doing I am the wife of the man who claims to be sexually starved. I never thought I would be on your blog but the story matches my husband.
First of all sex is psychological, just three days after my traditional wedding, the violence in my marriage started. I couldn't believe that this caring and generous man could be violent. Few days after our traditional wedding my husband starting hitting me, even during honey moon.
This continued even while pregnant. My family tried to intervene but my husband disrespected them that if not for the spiritual maturity of my parents the marriage would have been over. They took it as a young man just exhibiting superiority. I married my friend cos my husband is a year older but the way he talks down to me even in front of his mum and brother and , tears my clothes and throws food i am cooking away in the heat of anger is alarming. This is a man that told me he can't hit a woman during courtship.
In d beginning I tried to engage him during quarrels cos I felt deceived but I decided to retreat and realize that acting like a beast would not help me. Even if I decide in my heart to be peaceful my husband will come home and lay his frustrations on me. His reaction to my pleas is its a mans world
I was a virgin with not so high libido when we got married but my Husband attitude has made me not crave sex at all and I don't even have interest in men.Even pregnancy did not stop my husbands violence, in my weak state my husband would claim i am lazy, insult. it was a trying period for me. That i didn't lose my baby is the grace of God.
If my husband wants a good sexual relationship, he should have an attitude change towards me and even women(My husband has no respect for women). He is educated and yet has this ancient belief that women have no say in marriage. He should realize that money is not all that counts (We are not rich but he provides for the home.) He believes once a man provides he can do anything even slap and insult his wife . This is because I lost my job and as a result of my pregnancy I could not secure another job immediately but i m in d process of doing so. Therefore, my husband has taken advantage of my financial dependence to insult me even insulting my degrees since I am jobless but caring for our baby.
I was a virgin with not so high libido when we got married but my Husband attitude has made me not crave sex at all and I don't even have interest in men.Even pregnancy did not stop my husbands violence, in my weak state my husband would claim i am lazy, insult. it was a trying period for me. That i didn't lose my baby is the grace of God.
If my husband wants a good sexual relationship, he should have an attitude change towards me and even women(My husband has no respect for women). He is educated and yet has this ancient belief that women have no say in marriage. He should realize that money is not all that counts (We are not rich but he provides for the home.) He believes once a man provides he can do anything even slap and insult his wife . This is because I lost my job and as a result of my pregnancy I could not secure another job immediately but i m in d process of doing so. Therefore, my husband has taken advantage of my financial dependence to insult me even insulting my degrees since I am jobless but caring for our baby.
My husband can't even apologize after all these ,calls me all sorts of names to pull me down. Slaps me, tears my clothes, locks me up in the room just to prove he is in charge. Honestly this has affected my self esteem. How can I think of sex with such a person who makes me feel like nothing. The story is long but in all it is well.
My husband is not bad person but his anger and treatment is what has created the divide between us.
My husband is not bad person but his anger and treatment is what has created the divide between us.
Just negodu abeg
ReplyDeleteHisssss
Your hubby is a useless man, asin very useless. That's if it's ac him from yesterday's chronicle. Oga I am a woman and I say you are useless, oya come and beat me
DeleteSo you said a beast who beat, tear your dress, lock u up in a room even in pregnancy is not a bad person, ok o may be he's worst than bad. This woman stop defending the fool
DeleteDidn't yesterday's poster claim that sex was good before he married his wife?
DeleteAnd this poster said she married as a virgin.
No correlation, na just similar story.
Beast of burden!!!!
DeletePoster the chronicle of yesterday was not About you because you were a virgin but poster and his wife were having sex before marriage.
DeleteGod bless u princess, two different stories,you were a virgin before marriage and Oga said otherwise, with all this his beating u still have the guts to spill when u know say Na flog he go flog u, even tear your cloth join, deceive urself
DeleteMadam Abeg no be you be yesterday poster wife.
DeleteI smell Contradiction .....
DeleteObviously not yesterday's story and if it is, there are some lies
Anyways, "Mr OGA power mighty", pls look for a man yur size if u want a fight.
Madam, pls no vex. He isn't a bad man but he dey tear yur cloth, dey insult you, dey slap u freely even with pregnancy.......
Both of una doooooh oh
Allow me to say, this your reply in itself is a chronicle.
DeleteBye for now
Are you sure its your husband madam? I don't think a man treating his wife this way will be wondering why their sex life is dead
ReplyDeletePlease. I don't think that man of yesterday's chronicle is your husband. Because the story seem like yours doesn't mean he is the one.
Delete10times like to your comment. Poster, how do you manage your conji? pls tell me. hmmm....God is your strength.
DeleteMy thoughts exactly.
DeleteMy thoughts exactly.
DeleteExactly My tot.madam did you send in this chronicle from that man's house?if yes pls face front.if no then good idea you left the beast.
DeleteThanks anonymous exactly my thought. I doubt the poster of yesterday will be beating his wife. We have seen cases on this blog that one person will send in a story and 3 people will think it's their case.
DeleteReading this, it sounds so unrelated to what the man of yesterday said oh. Madam I dont think it was your husband. Most pwoplw have similar cases but yesterday's is sure not yours.
DeleteI think you are the problem madam, you cut off how you use to confront him, how u disrespect him telling him ur age different isn't much, how you allow your ego overshadowed your respect and submission at home as a wife, I think I woman that stand in front of a man for combat should receive it because you do call for war until you see that Russia no be Israel mate for battle. Imagine you saying ""In d beginning I tried to engage him during quarrels cos I felt deceived but I decided to retreat and realize that acting like a beast would not help me"" which crase dog wan get beside lion...Go and talk to your self your husband will change
DeleteOga you said you are a beast in bed? So you are also a beast in other rooms.
ReplyDeleteBoth of you should go for deliverance.
Lol. I don't think yesterday poster is hubby to this woman.
DeleteThis woman got married a virgin, man claimed sex was great before marriage!!
Man is beast in bed, woman's hubby is beast all round!!
Madam poster, your hubby is a very bad person. Stop defending him and get help!
Hope you've read the Ogochukwu Onuchukwu(Née Onugu) story? Consider how many lives will never remain the same if your life gets messed up!
Peace.
MrsBee
This case may be different but Madam you are in an unhealthy marriage. My goodness, mtcheeeew. And your husband is brother to the devil, why beat up your wife lock her up. See people even treat there cats and dogs with respect not to talk of a human being. May God give you wisdom in what you call marriage.
DeleteHehehehehehe
Delete"My husband is not bad person but his anger and treatment is what has created the divide between us."
ReplyDeleteMadam did i just read you say he is not bad??? Are you for real? For hitting you over and over again, not only makes him bad. But your dear horseband is a devil! Go figure..
Better leave now that you still have life and in sound health! And i was even pitying the idiot tester! Rubbish
*yesterday
DeleteThat statement for me as well.he's not a bad person but he's beating you up,tearing up your clothes and all.Lol.low self esteem is a terrible thing.you need to pick yourself up,and get up strong.ask for a separation if that's is what will help you think straight.and then get boys to beat him up so no matter how angry I gets he dare not touch you again.I pity any man that dares to lay a hand on me again.
Deletebtw poster how are you sure the guy is your husband?dsnt sound like the guy from the chronicles
COMMON.... WHAT DID YOU EXPECT HER TO SAY... THAT HER HUSBAND IS BAD... AND EXPECT THEM TO LIVE TOGETHER.
Delete@Anon 16:14 if you like twist and argue from now till next century, he is a bad man! No good man will dare raise his hands on his partner. Shikena
DeleteChai Stella no put red biro again oooo.
ReplyDeleteOga no wonder you say you are a beast in bed. Now i know the beast you are. U really qualify that BEAST WITH YOUR CHARACTER. Chai idi wicked ooo. Madam so you endure all this. Madam next time use pestle on top his opiororo head. Stupid man. Beat in human form. Madam you no get bros wey go beat him. Next time, look for correct agberos, pay them and let them break every bone in his body.
DONT GIVE HIM SEX... LET HIM GO TO HELL
What if that chronicle poster is not your husband? I trust Stella sha.
ReplyDeleteI pray peace into your home
I doubt if yesterday's chronicle poster is her husband because he said that he's wife was not like that during courtship. But this woman is saying that she married as a virgin...
DeleteDid I just comment under Ideato's comment? Funny enough!
I wonder oooo
DeleteI don't think it's her husband.the beatings has confused her
DeleteMy thought too. It does sound the man
DeleteFan! One love
DeleteNa wa oooo with all these you stated you still stayed married to him because of what? He beats you and tears your cloths haaaa is it by force to be a mrs?? Its until you die in his hands before your eyes go clear.
ReplyDeleteMadam oversabi..I don't think dat starved chronicle poster is ur horseband. U women too dey jump into conclusion..Dat man doesnt sound like someone who could be dat violent as u stated ..
ReplyDeleteHe said his wife walks around d house naked..U don't sound like someone who will walk about ur house naked to seduce a man who u claim is very abusive..
No male blog visitor will dare do half of what u wrote up there after reading d heartbreaking chronicles fro female bvs..
On dat note madam I think u should go and find ur cloth where u took ur bath..Imalu ebe isalu ahu,gaa chiri ogodo gi..
Yes it so does not sound like the guy that posted the chronicles.he didn't sound like a violent person I dunno.
Deleteno male bv will do what she wrote up there lol 😂😂..you're funny.what planet do you live on?they are many wife and gf beaters reading this blog and nothing can change them unless they decide within themselves to change.
And your last statement,Aren't you jumping to conclusions??
lol.....hehehhehe@ Imalu ebe isalu ahu, gaa chiri ogodo gi.
DeleteLmao @ find ur clothes where u took ur bathe. I second ur opinion . 'Madam do u carry front and back ?do u walk around the house naked? Does ur hubby sleep in the sitting room ? I don't think yesterday's poster is ur husband . Moreover he said they had sex before marriage
DeleteIsi Gini?
DeleteI agree. From the man's narrative, it seems he'd been having sexual relations with his wife before marriage so this poster saying she was a virgin till she got married seems like a mismatched ROR to me.
DeletePoster, if your husband is violent, pls find a solution. Don't wait till he kills you.
Was thinking the same thing oh cos yesterday poster sounded kinda of sweet n patient.
DeleteGosh... You're so smart and you're indeed very observant.
DeleteYesterday's poster isn't your husband so pls bear with this ur husband or take a walk,abi wetin make we talk again? It's ur choice to continue receiving beatings or walk away before u go swear affidavit say no be u write chronicle again lol
ReplyDeleteI doubt the poster is your husband...I just refuse to believe. Might just be a coincidence..#myconviction#
ReplyDeleteHow sure are you that the poster is your husband?
ReplyDeleteYesterday's poster said he and his wife collected during courtship, you are talking about being a virgin.
Exactly.. Now now she has rushed and sent right of reply. When it's not even her husband. If you have issue in your marriage, send your chronicle but that yesterdays poster is not your husband
DeleteGbam
DeleteThank you for this very smart comment
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DeleteI don't feel like its your husband that sent that in. Just my opinion. Doesn't feel like same person.
ReplyDeleteMadam, I don't think the man that sent that chronicle is ur husband. The story differs Mbok
ReplyDeleteThe man who sent in the suppose version of this story yesterday is not the same man you are trying to describe here.Am certain there is a mix up some where.. The kind of man you just talked about would rape you easily just to have his way or would be cheating by now and would have no complains whatever so ever. The real wife should send in her story
ReplyDeleteI don't think this is the wife from the story of yesterday.
ReplyDeleteThey were already gbenshing before wedding, but this poster married as a virgin.
Well, no matter how hard a man pretends during courtship, the devil inside must surface once in awhile. You probably ignored the signs.
Enrol him in anger management class and make him see the need to attend.
Godspeed.
He could've added the gbenshing part to twist the story. I don't think anyone would be foolish enough to spill their stories verbatim on a blog read by almost all Internet savvy persons in Nigeria.
DeleteThe abuse she's going through has confused her. I can imagine the terror, the fear and hope for change! Please get help now that you are still able to read blogs.
DeleteMrsBee
Your husband is not a bad person indeed, dunce! How else can a man be badder than this? Keep fooling yourself
ReplyDeleteShe's just saying that to pacify the beast incase he reads this,so as not to receive another lashing
DeleteMadam, are you sure you are replying "the right husband"?
ReplyDeleteNawaoooo, see how the man painted the story to suit him but hubby why now why treating your wife as if she your slave somebody you open your mouth and called your wife mbanu Nna nkea esozikwaooo. When I first read the man's chronicle I narrated it to my husband, then my husband told there is more to that chronicle maka na awo anaghi agba oso ehihie n'efu. Oga you better have a rethink and retrace your step else God will judge you for treating her like that.
ReplyDeleteONYI WAS HERE
Now let's wait for the truth! I can't believe this tho
ReplyDeleteMe i dont think this person is ur husband oo.. Cos the story no too match. #jstmythot#
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, you are very silly for saying that your husband is not bad!!! WHAT HUSBAND BEATS their wife when she is pregnant? You need to leave that house unless you want to leave as a corpse. Forget education my friend, it is innate in him to think low of women. If your chronilcle is what is actually going home in your home, you need to leave whether you have work or not! Go back to your parent's house! You are suffering from psychological vaginismus, no craving for sex soon!
ReplyDeletePlease explain how someone who inflicts physical pain on you is not a bad person?
ReplyDeleteAnyway, this just goes to show that a lot of you are married smiling through it but suffering and that's why I don't envy any of you.
I do hope that you both resolve this as a couple who genuinely love each other and want to make it work.
If a man can hide his discretions even in front of his family then he has no respect or fear for anyone and as far as I'm concerned shouldn't be referred to as "husband".
Nothing should be loveable or desirable about a man who hits his wife, there is no excuse for it.
It is also possible that the poster of yesterday isn't your husband because a lot of you obviously have similar situations in your home
Later they'd write epistle on my head and call me bitter when I go to bed everyday smiling and sleeping like the baby girl that I am.
Single to stupor😆😆😆
Every story has 3 sides to it. As much as I tried to believe the man's part, I couldn't really wrap my head around his complaint yesterday. Mr man work on yourself. This report isn't encouraging at all. No woman with self worth will allow any form of intimacy with a disrespectful husband. Madam, calm down and forgive every wrong. If you want your marriage to work, You need to have a positive mental attitude towards your marriage. You both need to have a heart to heart and of course some counseling by an experienced relationship expert. Note: I said relationship expert not daddy or mummy in tha Lord.
ReplyDeleteIt is well with you guys.
Evil HorseBandMaN
ReplyDeletePoint of correction poster,your husband is a bad person if he does all these to you.
ReplyDeleteAnd he was acting like you were depriving him of sex for no just cause.
Oga, if you're reading this just know that you're a terrible person
You're one of the pretentious men out there that hide their bad sides just to get what they want.
Change your ways man
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ReplyDeleteHahaha, nothing to forgive. Pretty sure this isn't the madam from yesterday.
Deleteposter, your husband doesn't even seem like the kinda man that would come asking for help on what to do. He'd just beat you to stupor if you tried denying him sex and have his way with you.
Your husband is a horrible, horrible human being!
Please seek help,don't suffer and die in silence.
Poster are you sure it was your husband that wrote in before because I find it difficult to understand how he will do all this and will write in that people should advice him but if am wrong both of you can sit and read the advises given before. Forgive each other and start anew.
ReplyDeleteHmmm..'my husband is not a bad person but bla bla bla bla!... Pls y do married women say this?
ReplyDeleteBut wait oo, madam are u sure this is your husband?
@ex-poster is this ur wife ?
Hian, madam abeg leave that abusive marriage while u can, forget your parents will say, ur husband is a psycho, don't wait for him to disfigure u before u use ur brain, receive sense.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm. Over to you Boo
ReplyDeleteIf I were to profile the initial story of the starved husband and this rejoinder, I will say I doubt that this rejoinder isn't for the initial story. Poster I do not think it was your husband that sent in the initial story.
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts.
The man who sent in yesterday's chronicle sounds like a faithful man who loves his wife and wouldn't want to hurt her. A man who just wants his marriage to be spiced up and interesting with all the elements of marriage(sex and all) in place hence his rant via chronicle.
This rejoinder and the profile of the man talked about seem like one who has no respect for women, one who will be sleeping around and dumping women like trash as well as an arrogant being. A man who does not give a hoot about his wife's emotion or cares about the feeling of anyone but himself.
There is always 3 sides of a story
ReplyDeleteStella,did you confirm if she is d wife to yday's poster. Because oga of yday did not write violence ooo( e fr write b4?) so dere won't be a mixup sha
ReplyDeleteWhen women like you say he is not a bad person but the man beats you at the slightest provocation, how do you mean? what is your understanding of a bad person? a thief?a murderer? what?
ReplyDeleteAnd your parents know about your husband pummeling but are comfortable with the idea enough for them to let you stay in this marriage? My God!!!!!
See eh, no matter the level of awareness or education that goes on about domestic violence, you would get mumu's like this woman who would rather stay and be killed or maimed than LEAVE!!
I am not even upset at your husband like most here would, i am upset at your level of thinking and how low you have sunk to say a man is not bad despite the fact that you are his punching bag.. it is really pathetic and sad..
Wish you all the best, it seems you have no intention of leaving this toxic relationship till you are dead lying in your coffin
Her parents are spiritually matured that's why..hahahaha
DeleteThe last paragraph though...he is not a bad person, so what is he???
ReplyDeleteAn angel.
DeleteNow I see why your husband said he is a beast.
ReplyDeleteIf what dis woman said is true, she is a good wife. Mr husband, pls change ur attitude, let d change mantra touch u positively. D last paragraph of ur wife's reply showed she loves u, pls reciprocate.
ReplyDeleteAll this people always making young ones scared if marriage!
ReplyDeleteMadam are you sure you are the wife of the sex starved man? The man sounded so nice, that one will think you are denying him sex because of spirit husband. Lol, the spirit hubby was a joke.
ReplyDeleteIf truly, you his wife, then I give up. I won't believe or comment on any life story shared here until I see a reply from the other party involved. In fact I won't believe Toke Makinwa's story abi na book, until the other two parties involved in their triangular love affair write their own books. Your husband sounded so gentle and responsible. You'd think he won't be able to hurt a fly. Some people sha. Na wa.
Madam no vex too much eh. Just find a way to talk to him and let him know how much he hurts you by his animalistic attitude. If need be, call his family and yours together for a solution. While at this, please don't totally deny him sex, make konji no kill am. I hope he sees reason to retrace his steps.
May God help fix your family. Amen.
Sounds like the kind of relationship I'm into nw.. Tho he promised never to hit me again but I'm sexually detached from him.I'm scared we may not av a good time together wen we marry cos n dis may result to him beating me in marriage. Above all I put all in Gods hands. Pls leave d marriage or make him learn in s hard way.
ReplyDeleteAre you that desperate must you marry him ? And you are advising someone else to leave while you are there planning to enter pls love yourself a little now haba
DeleteA decision that you can easily make yourself, why are you putting it in God's hands?
DeleteDon't tell me u still want to marry d guy dat promised neva to hit u again, my dear u'll still send in ur own chronicles too trust me.
DeleteAnon pls tell me u are joking. He promised not to hit u in marriage. I laugh in Spanish. If u dare marry him, he will graduate from using his hands to using cutlass.
Delete@anon14:51-And you are still in the relationship! It is wrong for a man to hit a woman. Dont take that shit 4rm any man.
DeleteBelieve me there are gentle men out there, my sister dont reduce yourself to a punching bag. 🏃🏃🏃 dont look back.
I said this yesterday that yesterday chronicle was one sided,now the real gist is here,of actually what your wife is saying is true,then Mr man how do you expect your wife to be thinking of sex in such a situation like DAT.
ReplyDeletePls try and settle d difference you both have,control your anger,cause anger is very bad,which can destroy a home,anything you can think of,so I wish you both luck.
Ehya...
ReplyDeletePlease is your husband, the guy that said he's a beast in bed??? if yes, then there's an element of truth in what you just posted. God will provide you with a job and hope what you just posted is the whole truth??? STELLA, where is your red pen or are you now partial?.
ReplyDeleteYour husband beats you occasionally, tears your clothes even when you were pregnant and you're still in denial lying to us that he is not a bad person (your last paragraph)
ReplyDeleteYou are a what? You are a mumu.
Big one
Deletethe writer sounds like someone I know but lemme keep it to myself jare...
ReplyDeleteThere is always 2sides of a story or in this case 3 sef
So the man is the "causer" of the whole problem. Now acting the victim.
ReplyDeleteI remember I Said some nasty things in your support oga. I take them back. You deserve all you are getting and even more. You have no right to hit a woman.
There is always two sides to every story. Hearing from both is the best way.
Madam poster your husband is a bad person!
ReplyDeleteBetter go and settle your home oga. And you quickly ran here so we can pity you. How do you expect sex from a woman you keep treating in such a manner. Abeg change ur ways oga
ReplyDeleteI don get Toks boook ooooo sent to me by my girlfriend. Who NEED OYA HANDS UP
ReplyDeleteI need.
DeleteI need ooo lovemejeje
DeleteSo sorry about your ordeal poster! But I don't think the man that sent in the chronicle of yesterday that is your husband, (I might be wrong), the guy that send in yesterday's chronicle seems like someone with a good head on his shoulder.
ReplyDeleteI don't know why some men like to release the beast in them on their wives; why beat a woman that is carrying your child? Why lay your hands on any woman at all!
Anyways, poster please talk to your husband, tell how you feel about the way he treats you, tell him you don't like it and that it's killing your libido.
Try and make peace with him and also sensualise your marriage.
I pray you both fins peace.
"Him"
DeleteNo wonder he said he was a Beast in bed.
ReplyDeleteHe actually meant a Beast in real life.
Men that hit heir wives are Lower than Animals!
Shocked to say anymore.
Issit north that man who was bitting his chess saying he is a beast in bird??? Wen I saw beast, my mine was doing me som-aww som-aww....
ReplyDeleteLmao. Pele
DeleteErrrm...I really doubt that its your husband that sent that chronicle o. madam, you are on your own.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm.....na wa oh..
ReplyDeletesee the man dey make mouth yesterday. ..so u ar a wife beater nd u want sex...poster thank ur star say he kwn dey force u join..
Wrong wife. You said you got married as a virgin. See what "your husband" said :
ReplyDeleteBefore we got married the thing no dey like dis oooo! My people don't think about me not being good in bed. I can beat my chest I say am a beast in bed. I good die. But everything just change after marriage and its affecting our relationship as I now sleep in the sitting room coz of anger.
Wife, try to resolve things with your husband, this isn't him.
You're right, yesterday's chronicle poster confirmed they've been sexually active before they got married.
DeleteYoung woman, your reply doesn't correspond with yesterday's poster's
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DeleteThanks kemi
DeleteOk,firstly I doubt this woman is the wife of yesterday's poster cuz I think I remember the man saying they were already sexually active before they got married.
ReplyDeleteNow Madam to you,so you mean you've been enduring all these in your marriage? I think you know that yesterday's poster isn't your husband but you just decided to write in anyway so people would hear your story.Truth is,even if we advice you to leave him, you'd still go back to him,so let me give you the usual advice and what you really want to hear:
Please,pray for him,apologise when he hits you,cry and beg.Watch war room,drink coconut oil,anything to remain a MRS is worth it.DO NOT, I repeat...DO NOT LEAVE THAT HOUSE.
And still he is not a bad person. Kudos to you for ur tolerance till u loose an eye.
ReplyDeleteStory of my life. I can't say it all, he claims he can never hit a woman too but this man beats me like a child, even till I lost my last pregnancy. We are separated finally and I am back to my mother's house with our first child.
ReplyDeleteYou have sense. Instead of writing in chronicles and being in denial, you did what you can do.
DeleteMy dear hold your head up high, a living dog is better than a dead lion. I have great respect for you. Start a small business or get a job you will be fine.
DeleteThe story matches your husband but you can't in absolute terms claim your husband wrote the story. Your husband is a very violent man yet you parade your nakedness before him and not once did he make effort to rape you. If he is that violent why not go back to your father's house. Must your endure the humiliation and die there foolishly
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmmmmmmm.....
ReplyDeleteWhat if the story only matches but may not be the same couple. There are many couples who have the same kind of story with either the man or woman having a higher libido. I'm not sure a violent man would come and "open his nyash" like that knowing his wife has a right of reply. Ah,well.....
ReplyDeleteSome Bv's refuse to talk yesterday because they wanted to hear her side, the shallow minded ones said buy her gifts and radarada. Like the poster likely said who wants to make love to a man who has no respect for women, foolish son of the devil after beating her and ripping her clothes apart you expect her to lay down and open leg for you as a man that you are! Why do I feel you are ugly ontop of all these things? Coming here to form like sex is your right it's a consensual thing not one-sided....
ReplyDeleteYou are the one who is very very shallow minded. Can't you even use your shallow mind to see that this poster's chronicle does not match with the one that was sent? She obviously jumped to conclusions and maybe too emotional from her own problems to see straight. You abuse others when it is obvious there is nothing in your own head.
DeleteIt's well, let's hope it's a phase that ll surely pass. If you don't give in to his needs he ll only be more difficult. Just try to be submissive even in his difficult mood.
ReplyDeleteIf this is true, then oga you have a BIIIIGGG problem and i realy dont blame your wiFe. Fix yourself!
ReplyDeleteMr beast in bed, what do you have to say? This is not the picture you painted yesterday oo, so you even beat your wife sef.
ReplyDeleteI think both of you need marriage counselling.
Ur husband is a bad man ooo, I know dia is more to d story ur husband narrated in d first place.
ReplyDeleteMay God deliver him from d spirit of anger and dominion
Ermm, I don't think yesterday chronicles poster is ur hubby, cuz u said in dis ur write up dat u married as a virgin but yesterday poster said him n his wife has been 'collecting' before, it changed after the marriage. Lemme go check if am wrong sef *walksouttapost....scrollsdowntoyesterdaychronicles*
ReplyDeleteGbegeeeee!!!!!
ReplyDeleteMr man, shame on you.
The foolish man sounded really nice n sweet.
No pussy for a violent man like u.
Madam, don't die in that marriage oooh.
From ur chronicle, the marriage is already dead.
Can't deal menh!!!!
Shout out to the good men out there...... 😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘
Poster,you said you married as a virgin but yesterday's poster said his wife was sexually active before they married so are u sure there isn't a mix up somewhere?
ReplyDeleteYou said your husband is a good man?No good man treats his wife like trash.
madam your husband is a bad person.please don't make excuses for him!!!
ReplyDeleteThis your last sentence just made me smh.
ReplyDeleteAll the best.
Madam so all the while you dated,you never see any sign? Of his battering?. Not true OK.
ReplyDeleteso where is the original chronicle? hian i have really missed alot oooh.
ReplyDeletelet me go back and read it carefully coz this one seem to be very interesting.
*grabs cucumber*
Yesterday's chronicle
DeleteMadam pls I don't think yesterday poster was ur husband. Cos d 2 story does not tally.
ReplyDeleteSO OGA CAME HERE TO PLAY PITY PARTY WHEN HE'S THE CAUSE OF HIS PROBLEM AND TO THINK THAT HE IS EVEN PLANNING OF CHEATING TO SATISFY HIS SEXUAL URGE.....
ReplyDeleteOGA MAN UP AND TREAT YOUR WIFE WELL STOP BEING AN ASS HOLE COS YOU ARE DEFINITELY A DEMON IN SHEEP CLOTHING IF WHAT YOUR WIFE SAID IS TRUE.
OGA EVEN IN PREGNANCY YOU TREATED HER BADLY? ARE YOU THAT HEARTLESS?
Y RUN TO STELLA'S BLOG WHEN YOU DON'T VALUE WOMEN? HAVE YOU FORGOTTEN STELLA IS ALSO A WOMAN?
YOU DON'T VALUE WOMEN YET A WOMAN BROUGHT YOU INTO EXISTENCE....OR Y DO U NEED A WOMAN TO IN BED WHEN THEY ARE NOTHING TO YOU! YOU FOR JUST PACK WELL NA YET YOU DEY FIND WOMAN.
ONLY A FOOL AND A COWARD MALTREATS HIS WIFE TO SHOW SUPREMACY!
NO WONDER THEY SAY A FOOL IS A FOOL WHETHER HE'S EDUCATED OR NOT.
OGA U EVEN TORE HER CLOTHES CHEI! YOU NEED TO BE LOCKED UP AND BEATEN SO THAT YOU WILL KNOW HOW PAINFUL IT IS ...ANUPAMA
HOW CAN YOU BE THIS HEARTLESS TO THE MOTHER OF YOUR CHILDREN? YOU GET SENSE AT ALL? YOU PAID BRIDE PRICE...HOW MUCH DID YOU PAY THAT GAVE YOU THE RIGHT TO TREAT HER LIKE THAT...E EWU KAMBIA!
YOU READ CHRONICLES EVERY DAY AND YET YOU CAN'T TREAT YOUR WOMAN RIGHT....U R A BUFALLO!
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ReplyDeleteHahahahhahahhahhaha
Your husband beats you up but he is not a bad person
Your husband disrespect your parents but he is not a bad person
Your husband tears your cloth but he is not a bad person
Your husband locks you up in the room but he is not a person
I am sure you are one of the people laughing at Toke for writing that book or just laughing at Toke's life with her ex-husband.
I am sure if he kills you, you will be like...he is not a bad person.
Are you sure you are the wife of that CBVN yesterday?
You are crazy, completely crazy. You need someone to rescue you from yourself.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
You know this. Very confused somebody
DeleteI don't think you are replying the right person
ReplyDeleteThere are really three sides to a story. The man painted the picture in his favour and the woman did the same. But only God knows the truth.
ReplyDeleteBased on these two sides, both of you need to sit down and talk it out. Its just a year into the marriage. Is this how you want to run your home? There is supposed to be an advantage marrying your friend. Three things are really important in a marriage. ..love,respect and communication. When you love truly,you are selfless. Other things like "being rich" enhances the marriage. But its not the mos5 important thing as most people here claim it is. Try to talk a lot about anything and everything.
Men, hitting your womandoes not show strength or that you are the head of the house. It shows weakness and cowardice. Your wife is yours to nuture and protect and not to harm and destroy. You guys should talk to each other rather than SDK. You live in the same house.
Like the saying there are always 3 sides to a story...the two people involved and God...I had suggested that he has a talk with you but this is more than both of you having the talk together. I think both of you need to go for counselling. And the counselling cannot work except both of you consciously decide to work towards making your home and marriage work. Situations like this that leads to divorce, cheating and it is endless...Hope both of you can work on making your home filled with love, respect and happiness for the sake of your child(ren).....ProudlyDeltan
ReplyDeleteWow.. and you stayed back and accept all this shit?
ReplyDeletelet me walk away abeg
i nor just get strength
You are not even the wife of yesterday's poster.
ReplyDeleteOr is it the usual Nigerian women colorful story. Nigerian women are either celibate or virgins when they marry on WNB but when their husband narrate, they will detail how the woman was receiving before marriage.
Why can't our women be real for once?
Yesterday's poster said the wife was sexually active before marriage. You claimed yesterday's poster is your husband and you alleged you were a virgin when you married.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
I also do not think the man of yesterday is your husband,....anyhow sha, u and ur husband need help if not this abuse will continue,or u leave that marriage.think abt it & make wise decision. may God help u
ReplyDeleteposter you are crazy woman, how can you say ya horseband is not a bad person? he is a terrible being. its unfortunate he has crushed ya self esteem to the point where you begin to make excuses for him. this is the reason i stay clear married peoples chronicles bcoz no matter wetin we talk here it will still fall on deaf ears. ya horseband needs help do it the right way or the other way, only queen and boss knows what am talking bout.
ReplyDeletepermit me to jejely waka outta this post,
am so glad am back home, people say home is where the heart is but i will say home is where my bed is kwakwakwakwakwa.i miss my bed alot my bed is my best companion, it provides comfort, its always there to embrace me when am back from yawo, its knows all my secret yet hasnt told anyone, its faithful and its never a snitch. i love love love you my bed.
*grabs cucumber*
Madam "my husband is not a bad person",the chronicle poster of yesterday isn't your husband.
ReplyDeleteThen the Pope is the Bad person....which kain silly rubbish be that? ,
ReplyDeleteIf this is the wife to the husband then I was right. Grudge. I see reason why he never sat her down to talk. How can he after all this beating beating he wan con gbensh ontop. And if that man is your husband what are you still doing in that marriage? He will supply for his child. Get yourself busy. I can't be a house wife, job or no job, find something to do and somewhere going.
ReplyDeleteAnd oga pls we need a re-re-reply
ReplyDeleteThe beatings started from honeymoon, DAT is day I of your marriage and you are still saying is not a bad guy, NNE biko, what's that, inshort have vexed
ReplyDeletena wa ooo Poster I don't think the chronicle yesterday was from your hubby... the differences in personality are to much. Meeen this woman u de try ooo. My own is emotional abuse and I can't even bear to touch him, not to talk of sex. he pummels you like a madman yet you still call him good. It is women like you that are the problem we're facing in Nigeria. Instead of applauding Toke and supporting her for standing up for herself and giving domestic violence a voice, people like you will be mocking her and calling her stupid and foolish. Im even more sorry for you. GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN BEFORE YOU HAVE MORE KIDS AND MAKE IT MORE DIFFICULT FOR YOURSELF!!!!! A WHILE CAN NEVA CHANGE ITS SPOTS!!! HE WILL NEVER STOP HITTING YOU!!! GET YOUR NEW JOB AND GET OUT!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteI rest my case.
Unah don start she says the writers rant seems like it her husband,let don't judge ooo
ReplyDeleteNot your husband ma'am.
ReplyDeleteBut wait o, he beats you and still not a bad guy...wow. Lucky you.
I don't even think yesterdays poster have given birth
ReplyDeleteMadam are u sure u replied to the right person? Oga said it wasn't like that before which means you people have been collecting and here u said u were a virgin. Or am I missing something
ReplyDeleteThis woman said her husband is not a bad person hian.
ReplyDeleteI don't think it's the same couple. I sent in my labour room drama on how I was standing and had my baby. The baby shattered my vagina into pieces from then I had reduced libido, as my second baby just popped out too I had severe irregular tears. Sex is no longer pleasurable for me. I called my husband and explained to him. I know I have a man that has needs so opening up to my husband helped us a lot. I don't deny my husband and he doesn't make unreasonable demands. We found a system that works for us. I honestly don't like to hear that couples are denying each other of sex, I am a strong believer on compromise so yesterday's posters wife please sex is very important you might not find pleasure in it anymore but you can't just close up shop, please reach a compromise to save your home. Today's poster I was just SMH "my husband beats me but He's a good man" negodu, keep it up body go tell you soon.
ReplyDeleteHello Poster
ReplyDeleteI could not comment in yesterday's chronicle but I do not believe its the same man that you are talking about. The man of yesterday's chronicle did not in any way sound violent and I do not think he was pretending. I remember he said the wife walks naked in the house yet refuses to make love to him when he needed it, so it cannot be the same person.
Then, coming to your chronicle, poster, I think your self esteem has vanished. It's quite a pity but I will neither advice you to leave nor stick to him but you really need to find something doing to be productive and hand over your life to God Almighty.
You hubby is a bully and I wonder whether your father's family know the extent of what you are going through and how it has affected you and will do more in the further, if nothing is done.
Its easier said then done, but if you have endured all these, then God in His infinite mercy will continue to see you through. You need to fight the war but in a spiritual way - with your knees. pray until something POSITIVE happens in your marriage. It's not every woman that has the will to walk away despite what they pass through and I WILL NEVER JUDGE ANYONE.
Hello Poster
ReplyDeleteI could not comment in yesterday's chronicle but I do not believe its the same man that you are talking about. The man of yesterday's chronicle did not in any way sound violent and I do not think he was pretending. I remember he said the wife walks naked in the house yet refuses to make love to him when he needed it, so it cannot be the same person.
Then, coming to your chronicle, poster, I think your self esteem has vanished. It's quite a pity but I will neither advice you to leave nor stick to him but you really need to find something doing to be productive and hand over your life to God Almighty.
You hubby is a bully and I wonder whether your father's family know the extent of what you are going through and how it has affected you and will do more in the further, if nothing is done.
Its easier said then done, but if you have endured all these, then God in His infinite mercy will continue to see you through. You need to fight the war but in a spiritual way - with your knees. pray until something POSITIVE happens in your marriage. It's not every woman that has the will to walk away despite what they pass through and I WILL NEVER JUDGE ANYONE.
Hian the poster met with her husban physically while their courtship lasted and she still didn't know his violence tendencies and you, by just reading his chronicle is very sure he's not a violent person? Pls who is your jazz man? I don't think yesterday poster is her husband though
DeleteI don't think yesterday's poster is your husband.
ReplyDeleteMadam poster, i dont think that man is your husband, a man that beat is wife, will force her for sex whether she likes it or not, infact at the sight of the man the woman go submit to let peace reign, when i started your story i no even wait finish, i just know the two lines dont meet, so settle your problem and if you have chronicle bring it let us reason together as family of SDK.
ReplyDeleteI don't think you are replying the right person.
ReplyDeleteThis story get as e be oo
ReplyDeletePlease, madam check very well if the yesterday chronicles match with your cos I don't think it matches
My advice is that try to sit down with your hubby and have a heart to heart talk with him,please pray before the talk so that holy spirit will direct you on how to go about the situation,i know that you really love your husband.
I pray that God will change your hubby to a better person.God bless your home.
Ladies it is very abnormal for a man to hit a woman. Stop covering for what is wrong and can even send you to an early grave. It is totally wrong and unacceptable. My heartaches knowing some women are suffering in silence, please seek help.
ReplyDeleteJust imagine! And his chronicle made her looked bad ..glad I didn't say anything to him in that post...because when a woman is happy in her home, she can behave like 'caro' for her husband.
ReplyDeleteThe brain is the most sexiest organ in the body. He degrades a woman and expects her to open her legs for him? WHOSAI!
yesterday's poster is not your husband.
ReplyDeleteAnd you can't call a man a good man, if he hits you. better go back to your parents house.
The husband is a very demented fellow. The same dirty hands he uses to hit you is the same hands he wants to use to romance you and expect your body to respond. He is not serious at all. Idiot
ReplyDeleteWomen are complaining of men beating them while me I enjoy being beaten . I lost three pregnancies for my ex as a result of beating!! The idiot went and gave his life to Christ and stopped beating me ,like why I send u message ?! I left him and I'm looking for another one that will beat , choke and fuck the hell out of me.
ReplyDeleteYou are not normal please look for help.
DeleteOga you need to Change first before madam can give you something, you both should have heart to heat talk please. Do not destroy your home, but build it and make it sweet.
ReplyDeleteMake una see wetin a man go marry as a wife ooo?>
ReplyDeletei don call my papa to tell him say i no go marry that lady again,
na imported wife i need now,cross border