Chronicles Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

CHRONICLES OF A CHEATING HUSBAND.

Hello Stella,

Thanks for this platform. God bless you. I seriously need your advice and that of blog visitors on what to do. because, I am so confused and disheartened.

we have been married for three years + now and I just discovered recently that my husband has been cheating on me when our marriage was barely up to a year.

I was pregnant, seriously ill and far away from him when he committed the first abominable act.

He was cheating with a member of the choir in his church. when I was away I discovered he was always going to church and became a worker. Something told me there was more to it but I didn't pay so much attention to it. when I came to birth my child my suspicion was more fuelled with evidences around the house which I asked him, begged him to confess to me, he swore the girl is just a friend and nothing else... yet he travelled got gifts for the girl and invited the girl over to the house for my child's naming ceremony... he even told me the girl said she will love to be my friend... I didn't like because I couldn't shake off the feeling of her being my husband's partner.


The second one, He travels a lot. He travelled to a African country met a girl there and kept the girl in his hotel room for more than week ( all this while calling me to tell me how much he misses me and can't wait to make love to me- while I was preparing for our daughter's first birthday)


The third time, his best friend's sister came to the country where we reside, he lied to me he was going to work but went to get an hotel room just to have sex with her ( I was at home with our daughter believing that he had gone to work)


I got to know about this by cat fishing him. I've had this nagging feeling for a couple of months that things are not working well for us because my husband did something bad and he is hiding it. so, I decided to catfish him using a fake simcard with the picture of a pretty girl as DP.


I initiated a chat with him with my fake Sim and DP then he let the cat out of the bag and even told my fake self that he will want to make love to me ET AL... detailing all his escapades.


I am so heartbroken what makes it worse is that he went down on all this girls (he gave them head).

He has been begging, his family and friends are begging, he called two of the girls to apologise to me. He swore it won't happen again bla bla la I cannot even tell my family. I want to report them to the pastor of their church.


Honestly I don't know what to do... thinking about the head thing disgusts me... thinking about the fact that after swallowing their body fluid he came back home to kiss me and our child is so disgusting.

Thanks Stella for your red pen.

*Sad sigh*....your note so disgusted me...WTF.
However,try to forgive,forgetting is hard but forgive him but keep both eye open and ask that he does a test to certify that he is medically okay.
Infact insist on driving him for the test and plan with them there to say he in infected with HIV...they can tell him after a week that it was a mistake but that Mistake will turn him around for the better..LOL

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

SWAPPING RELIGION FOR MARRIAGE
Good day Mrs Stellz. I'll go straight to my point. I'm schooling outside Nigeria and dating a Nigerian currently doing his PhD in the United States. It's a Very new but serious relationship as he recently told his family about me. 

Which is the issue behind my sending in this chronicles. His family are staunch Catholics and they want me to get baptised,receive first holy communion and convert to being a catholic so as not to divide the family's religion and believes. Myself on the other hand I'm born and bred in one of this famous Nigerian Pentecostal churches. I'm even in a service unit. 

I don't mind going to dominion city or other Pentecostal churches but converting to catholic is almost impossible for me. Nonetheless I need advice from more mature minded people especially Stella (I'm in my very early twenties).

PS:the guy is a catch; very intelligent, on federal government scholarship, did a professional course, masters in UK and PhD in USA. No doubt he will be extremely successful coz his determination level is high. 

He is also generous. Please what do I do as I'm very committed in my church too and I'm definitely not desperate at all so I ll take any advice I feel appropriate.

 Thanks and God bless


*My dear,dont we all serve one God irrespective of religion?As long as it is GOD IN HEAVEN they serve,give it a thought,you do know what you want dont you?Go for what you want....IF IT IS WHAT YOU WANT

When i got to Europe,my in laws insisted we must remarry in a catholic Church and we did...All na God nau.

You can always visit your church from time to time.