STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
DIRTY HUSBAND
Stella Hi, please i am a big fan of you blog. please i need you help me put this up as bv chronicles, i need help!
I am so worried about my husband’s dirty attitude, we have been married for almost 4 years now and still believing God for the fruit of the womb But the thing now is that my husband’s dirty and i dont care attitude puts me off.
I am so worried about my husband’s dirty attitude, we have been married for almost 4 years now and still believing God for the fruit of the womb But the thing now is that my husband’s dirty and i dont care attitude puts me off.
I no longer find him attractive. He doesnt clean his shoes or iron his clothes unless i do it for him. he just doesnt see the need. he wears dirty boxers and litters the house with them. no matter how hard i try to put the house in other, he scatters as i am arranging.
He has these blue shirt and shorts he wears at home, he wears it everyday, even when its dirty and i wash them as soon as they dry up he wears them again. it makes me shy. I try as much as possible to be very neat and sexy for him, but he doesnt see the need to do same for me. he leaves his armpit and public hairs unshaved and smelly until i starve him with sex and insists he must go and shave.
Sometimes he even picks up a quarrel. His car is story for another day. he doesnt clean or even take it to carwash, he claims to not have time whereas he wakes up every morning ,very early lying on the bed and pressing his phone while i go around doing house chores. he wont bother to at least clean his car let alone his shoes.the thing is really beginning to put me off.
I dont ever want to cheat on my husband but he is not helping, i have talked, quarelled and even refused entering his car as he doesnt even allow me drive it. when he is taking me to work i will just be ashamed. trust me i am not bad looking and hubby too is not bad looking imagine a fine couple inside a vehicle covered in dust everyday. i m confused.
We didnt date for long and the few times i visited him while we were dating he wasnt like that. i am sure he was just pretending because anytime he came around he car was always neat. All my single years i have only dated neat guys, to think that i settled for a dirty one is really frustrating.
Sometimes when he is coming to pick me up at work and any of my colleagues wants to join us i will beg him not to bother coming i would rather jump bus. Mind you i am always buying him things like singlets, boxers, and pyjamas but he would never wear a pj, he would rather wear a boxer he has worn all day to bed. he doesnt use handkerchief in this 21st century bvs can you beleive?
I buy handkerchief and even put them in places he can easily see them in the morning but when he sweats he will still use his hand to clean the sweat. Who does that? and to think that he is cheating on me is so funny cos i wonder how the girls manage. he will not use deodorants unless he walks in on me using one in the morning thats when he will remember.
Please i am confused and almost frustrated. I DONT FIND MY HUSBAND ATTRACTIVE ANYMORE, HE ALMOST IRRITATES ME.
*Spittle was gathered in my mouth reading this and i was five seconds away from throwing up..JEEEEEZ!!!...I have a mild case of OCD and i cannot live with anyone with these traits...GOSH.
I am so irritated and dont know what to say...please forward him this link..
Let me go and wash my hands,so irritated!
Seriously ?
ReplyDeleteMadam, this is no chronicle. Why are you his wife if you can't help him to become better? Help him to shave. Force the boxers off his waist before he goes to bed. Burn the blue night wear. Employ that jobless boy on your street to wash the car 3 tunes a week for 1k. Put hanky in all his trouser pocket or better still, pin it to his shirt like nursery 1 boy.
Delete*pukes*! You got married to an ezi bida! Ebili ocha 1! I can't!
DeleteI laughed so so hard reading this. Meeen u are trying. There.didn't u see his pigry ways before you married him. I can never allow such to touch me.manage enn, it's for better for worse, lol
DeleteMy bf does dis to,just DAT he washes his car (though he dsnt kno how to wash it clean n sparkling),
DeleteHe changes his boxer but not b4 its smelling!
He also litters d wars rope with his things !
He dsnt even kno how to wash plate (plate ho stay till I plead or his younger bros come wash or I wash)
Advice
Just get a maid period!
Yuck 🙊🙊
DeleteI don't use handkerchief though.
And you are still dating him?
DeleteYou are dating a pig...... I hope u can cope.
I don't want to read ur chronicle.
Its either you get a Maid to assist u pr you quit complaining or use a washing machine why do u want to suffer him because u r more tidy well women are meant to compliment men so if that's his lapses kindly fill in foe him biko
DeleteReminds me of the dude I met recently on s&m. Very dirty pig. The worst thing is that he schooled abroad so one would expect him to be trim, tidy and neat always but na lie. He's such a pig and when he tells me about his exes, I just look at him and wonder how they coped.
DeleteI don't care how irritating this is, I was tired of all these small girls writing about their little boyfriends.
DeleteIs your husband working with LAWMA😯 or he works in Ojota dumping site, that welcome to Lagos awful smell
DeleteStella correct your headline. Blog not Bog.
ReplyDeleteYour chronicle is funny, Lord Jesus I thank You for my hubby, I dint notice how important some things were until I read this chronicle 😃... Madam it's your cross just continue teaching him, he has lived more years being dirty than being clean so he can't change in a day. Be patient with him o.
DeleteWe always look out for fault in others,
DeleteWhy not praise her for the correct ones!
Heyy she got it right
DeleteTeach him to do things differently but in love and respect. Do it sometimes and force him as well.
DeleteGosh! One of the things I dread in a relationship...dirtiness. My top priority in choosing a life partner is cleanliness, I'm a guy but yet to date a lady who is as clean as I am. Not that I'm looking for a lady who will compete with me in cleanliness but a lady should be averagely clean for me to have sex with her for the second time, talk less of having future with her.
DeleteGod please provide a clean bae as wife!
You haven't met me.
DeleteAre u financially comfortable @ elastic then send me email
DeletePoster didn't you notice he was a pig before you married him??it's not possible that he could have hidden that from you.maybe you chose to over look it.or you thoughT he would change or u will keep cleaning up after him and now you are tired. I can't stand dirtiness or dirty people.it's too late for your husband to change now oh
ReplyDeleteI'm not sure what the issue is here... the fact that he's dirty or the fact that he's cheating and you're aware. It seems his personal hygiene is more important to you than the risk of contracting STD.
DeletePick a struggle. If the dirt is as bad as you say, don't stop nagging him about it. Hopefully he will start to change when he can see that you are ashamed of him. I was married to a pig like that, extremely dirty and promiscuous too. Marriage packed up after a year. Couldn't deal with a combination of both traits in one person.
Okay madam. I shave my husband both up and down. He resists and I outrightly tell him he's smelling. I bought a washing machine and lots of boxers for him. I take the car to car wash. I'mean still battling with him bathing on weekends cos he just wouldn't even after returning from the gym on Saturday. I do everything you're complaining about yet he doesn't appreciate me. I give it to myself, I AM A GOOD WOMAN.
DeleteDid you just call someone's husband a pig? Okay
DeleteTrinity, she pointed out d husband wasn't like that. Men of these days ehn!! May my kid sisters find favour in God's sight. Men can pretend for Africa
DeleteJesus!!! Are we married to the same man? Apart from cheating he is everything you describe. My own gets angry if you buy new stuff for him...
DeleteShe said he was pretending
DeleteInstead of complaining, why have a talk with you. After 4 years of marriage, I believe you can discuss anything with him.
DeleteIf he can cheat even with all these disgusting stuff I've read about him, then I suppose he isn't as bad as you painted the whole scenario. If not why complain after 4 years.
Madam, talk true, which man don begin tickle you? Lmao
Anon 15:55, you are funny. I pity you.
DeleteAnon 15:55, I give it to you too, you are indeed a good woman.✔
DeleteHian, u married a pig, see why is not good to marry in a hurry, if u had dated him up to a year, u would have discovered this, what do u want us to tell u now, just continue to manage him afters all, marriage is for better for worse.
ReplyDeleteLol inukwa "public hairs" :)
DeleteCañ I get space? Thanks.
DeletePoster, this might be funny but your husband is most likely suffering from extreme dirtiness due to demonic oppression. Sounds funny? Yes I know. But demons are very dirty and when they possess a person they become dirty too.
Demonic oppression doesn't mean some one goes around with madness or acting funny, it can be in subtle things like hygiene or phobia for things everyone else sees as normal. From what I read, you have tried. But the stubbornness and love for 'dirt' is not normal. This is the marital issue I can say you should pray about. And if he's humble enough let him seek deliverance.
Many of our helps and/or relatives used to act like this. Unnatural love for dirt and messy things. But once they become born again and go for deliverance, it stops. That's how we knew that it was a form of oppression. I can tell you he's under a demonic influence and when he becomes free he would see some old pictures and ask you if he used to be that person surrounded by dirt. Cleanliness is next to godliness remember? Sorry you hear?
Poster listen to Chikito. Those girls he has been sleeping with could be a gateway to his being possessed.
DeleteMadam, the first thing you mentioned is your problem; no child for 6 years. Once you have a child now, you will forget all these nagging. Try to tackle your problems spiritually and medically. for the latter you see doctors but for the former you go to God's word; have you shed innocent blood before; begin the confession from there and have your peace. Your husband and boxers are not your problems at all.
ReplyDeleteI am not tryin to support your husband oo but how do you talk to him about this probably you have. I have come to realize that men and their ego no be small thing ooo.
DeleteU r not well in the head. Do u read at all. Idiot. Stupid. Bastard. Wish I can give you a resetting slap. If u don't have a reasonable advice to give, why not Waka pass. BV tosin.
DeleteWith the hubby's dirty track record, he will be prone to infection, madam have u guys gone for test Of recent
DeleteAnon 15:04 you are sick and stupid for your comment. I didn't want to reply but your comment is irritating me. Stupid ape. You lack common sense. So not having a child that is the problem. Ewu. How exactly do you know she is the problem, what if it's her husband that is the unfertile one. If she was the dirty one will you be saying this rubbish. She's living with a filthy boy as a husband and you're saying that is not the problem. To those saying she should keep taking care of him and shaving him, is he a child? What type of home did he come from?? He'a a dirty and smelly person. She can't change him only God and effort from the man can change him. As far as I'm concerned you have tried, I can't stand dirty and smelly people. All those telling you to try harder don't know what they are saying, they lack empathy and common sense. Just continue what you're doing. The issue of him cheating on you, you better shine your eyes before he gives you STDs. I can only imagine the type of girls he sleeps with. Only filthy girls will allow such to climb on top them. You need to ask God for counsel and act fast.
DeleteBv Tosin, you don abort before? Why the thing come pain you like this?
DeleteMen who sleep around sometimes find it hard to impregnate their wives. This is because they waste their substance outside, and have little energy left for the wife.
DeleteEwwwwwwww what's smelling here o😷
ReplyDeleteCharity begins at home they say and cleanliness is next to godliness.
I don't even know what to tell you but I think you need to do something drastic to get him to change.
Your mention of cheating caught my attention and I don't like that at all. He is dirty and it's a very bad one yes but you next line shouldn't be cheating because really to what end? You even wash hid cloths and buy new ones. His own dirty is in his blood then.
Since starving him of sex has worked in the past then maybe you need to do it for a very long time or threaten to leave him until he fixes up.
It will be hard to reach an adult something he didn't learn as a child but you have to do it somehow as long as this adult is willing to change else you'd just die of stress coupled with the dirt.
You can't raise kids in an environment where only one person knows how to clean and take care of themselves. What will he do when the kids come? Drop them in the dustbin.
For his car collect money from him and get someone to clean it up every morning. If you're rich enough get him lots of briefs and always monitor how he changes them. Shave for him since he is too lazy to do so himself. He is not just dirty but lazy and that's what is killing him.
You need to force him like you would a child.
*you even wash his cloths
Delete*your next line.
*teach an adult
I think you need to do more of the house cleaning since you are already married to him. Once Hz in the bathroom,give him ShAving powder or the shaving stick, watch him shave , correct him with love. If he gets back home,collect the work clothes and shoove in the lundry basket,after 2nites of using his sleeping suit,shoove and don't wash immediately,get him what to wear so he dsnt get used to one. You guys are psychologically down based ln your fertility ish,so pls stop adding more prob ti the one at hand.for now babsit him with love while you wait on God.
DeleteThis man is a baby adult, remaining for her to wear him pampers, hizz. I'm so irritated I wish I could flog her hubby
DeletePoster please go with this advice.
DeleteCorrect with love eh. You never meet husband. Mine that I will ask to take a bath it will almost turn to a fight. He bathes only when he is going out. Weekends he doesn't because he stays at home
DeleteWomen would always look for trouble when there's none..woukd you rather leave your marriage because your husband is dirty???.. What is wrong in employing a help in the house to do chores and wash his clothes???..this is no chronicle beg... Park out if he's dirt is irritating you or rather just cheat with the neat guy you already have in mind. A dirty rich guy is better than a broke neat guy. Gtfoh neat freak.
ReplyDeleteOnly dirty people think this woman has no problem.
DeleteI will go for a broke neat guy. This one is like a complete opposite of OCD. Employing a help to babysit a dirty husband? Listen to yourself rob
DeleteAre you the husband?
DeleteA help will not change his boxers for him or wear clean underwears for him. Forget it o. A dirty rich guy will start to het irritating. Money cant cover a smelly man
Delete@ROB
DeleteSo if your girlfriend was dirty, refused to bathe regularly even during her periods (still demanding for sex o like a lioness) brushes a few times a week. Leaves dirty, sweat soaked clothes lying around. Grooms public and armpit hair like weave on, your solution would be what exactly? Get a maid to pick up after her then go and fuck a neat person abi? It's like your stank body odour has eroded what's left of your nonexistent common sense.
A pig can never understand what clean people go through. I'm sure it's an achievement if you bathe once a week. Idiot.
Rob the PI*G!!! Borrow Brian to comment next time. How many men would need reasons like this before dey cheat on their wife? What gives u d sense of justification that your wife owes u all the good package while u give her dirt in turn? If that man head still dey house make him do d needful before he loses his wife to a clean man. Marriage is hardwork from both parties. He needs to rekindle the fire btwn him and his wife. Sef Rob reeducate yourself.
DeleteMarjorie
Ewww can't stand dirty ppl. I have serious OCD and that's the first thing I look out for. I really don't know what to advice cos you can drag the horse to the river but you can't force it to drink.
DeleteAnon 17 53..you sound stupid trying to make meaning out of the bs you wrote... It's a woman's duty to keep the house clean and help the husband.. It's better he's dirty than cheating right??.. You made no sense either way.. Pathetic excuse of a woman. And Marjorie the dirty whore stick your comment up in your dirty black Ass or rather kill yourself since your frustrated with my comments. Skank
DeleteAnon 17 53..you sound stupid trying to make meaning out of the bs you wrote... It's a woman's duty to keep the house clean and help the husband.. It's better he's dirty than cheating right??.. You made no sense either way.. Pathetic excuse of a woman. And Marjorie the dirty whore stick your comment up in your dirty black Ass or rather kill yourself since your frustrated with my comments. Skank
DeleteRob the truth is bitter, Marjorie and Co only told you the truth. Poster's husband is like a pig and he cheats on top. A double whammy of an evil package. Oya come behind my behind and insult me. Na you sabi.
DeleteIf the woman decides to shave for him and he refuses her help, what will she do. I understand you plight, you can only force a horse to the river, you can't force it to drink water,don't cheat on him but just find a way of putting is dirty cloth to wash, by washing machine because you not a washing machine, with his money o. Ole alapa ma si se.
DeleteRob why do you sound gay? It's not an insult just a question. 😂😂 it's free blog right? So I ask again.... why do you sound gay? Esp when you said 'skank' 😂😂 that's too ratchet I swear
DeletePls pray for , call a family meeting...may God help u.
ReplyDeletehahahaha stella where you want to watch your hands, you touch the man or what. where are you running to?
ReplyDeleteChai what did the mother do that made this man acting as a PIG.
your horseband is a P....I....G. You never tell us if he wash his mouth also.
Madam i hope he is not from the other state. Should i say continue to pray for him or is there a spirit of unclean spirit in him. Chai this one has passed be careful.
Give him an ultimatum. Clean yourself or I will divorce you.
Thank God no baby has come before he use infections kill the baby. Dont worry, you will get pregnant.
You are quite unintelligent. Who employed you? So many uneducated youths in this country.
DeleteLove me jeje it an unclean spirit. Jesus mentioned it in the bible 'unclean spirit'. He even sent them to pigs. I say na demonic oppression. Okay. When I talk now no one will hear Ohh. ... This na deliverance straight.
DeleteAhhh this one is hard oo!
ReplyDeleteMy dear i pity you
Dirty men freak me out as well
Have you sat him down to tell him how disgusting his hygiene is? If you have, what was his response?
I can't advice you to leave your home cos your man is dirty o, Just keep talking to him and pray for him too. Make the spirit of filthiness leave am alone lol
lemme borrow space here.
Deletemy hubby has a colleague who doesnt brush his teeth or take his bath before going to work. he hd to always turn him down anytime he invites him for a drink.
to think the man has a wife that he kisses every morning and children.
even the wife sef has started looking unkempt.
that saying if your hubby is a wizard the wife would be a witch is so true, so my dear pls tackle this matter seriously.
get a washing machine, monitor and make sure he changes his underwear daily. get someone to wash the car at least once or twice a week.
and pray that God crowns your effort.
That your husband is horrible.
ReplyDeleteGo watch war room abeg.
#irritating.
And stella had to make it even disgustingly disgusting.My dear, u can't change an already dirty man from ur chronicle u r already tired of him plus even worse he is chatting.Did u say u don't want to cheat? Had u already considered it somewhere in ur subconscious? Would u rather wallow in bitterness and anger for this same reason? Whatever we advice u to do will not change that which u already want to do.In all, if u stop cleaning after him, u maintain ur own distance, will it make u happier? Darling u say u r pretty hot then cleaning after a grown man who doesn't appreciate it will only make u lose ur own self taking care of him.
ReplyDeleteFor every dirty undies of his heap them outside anyday he runs outta boxers let him start wearing them over and over.
Hahahahahahahahahaha...
ReplyDeleteKwakwakwakwa...
This story reminds me of one of my brothers when we were small...
But thank God he changed after getting married!...
Poster,why are you his wife if not to help him?...
If you can't do all the washing by yourself,send them to the dry cleaners...
Get a house boy that would be washing his cars or your gate man!...
Me I can't imagine my lovely husband to be washing cars or his cloths!...
God forbid!...
I sort all his work cloths on weekends and arrange them for him every morning including his inner wears!...
I make sure he is dope before leaving the house...even when I'm not around,he will call to ask me what he will wear..
Nne,this is your job as a wife biko...
Nawaaa some jobs sha, really for jobless house wives. My hubby is neat and sorts out his clothes by himslef, I only help him sometimes and No, he is not poor.
DeleteIt's lik u took ur medicine today.nice advise 4rm u
DeleteAwww... No wonder your husband is tolerating your excesses. Iwu ezigbo nwayi somehow sha!
DeleteAnon thank you. Job as a wife u say queen. I'm sad for this generation
DeleteExactly. I can't imagine my hubby leaving the house looking haggard in out. Mbabu!why am I now there?I sort his natives and shirts for hin to taje to the laundry while his tops,polos,jeans and undies are done in the house. Thanks to the machine.
DeleteSteph,you are an Igbo babe so you know what's up!...
DeleteIf you don't take care of your man and home,who will?...
That's why men from other parts of the country are dying to marry our women!...
Kikikiki...
spot on queen. madam take care of your hubby, it is your job. if he is dirty itz your fault.
DeleteMy husband and I have impeccable taste. And we don't dress each other.
DeleteNnem anyi ma ife ana aru.
DeleteHahahaha @ let me go and wash my hands Stella
ReplyDelete@ OP i think you need to join him and litter the place till he gets the message.
I cant stand dirty people yuck!
#always cruising
Thank GOd for my hubby who is very neat pass me sef.
ReplyDeleteI blaim the kinds of frends his got. If a guy dossn't listen to he's wive, certernly, he must listen to he's frends. #Frends don't let frends weer bahd outfeets.
ReplyDeleteMy kind of frends wheel so bahd mouth you till you stat tinking of they are your frends.
Madam, pliss tolk to he's frends about it if you no eny of them. If no, drag him to a counsailor.... Or geht a Dogtor to traithen his sorri ass with some silly tins that mite harpen to him if e dossn't change.
Don't forgate, it's onli a moda that carrys a shild that bytes.
#a'dews.
Villager, u no go school??? This ur English na die. Abeg eh, it is not by force. If u can't speak English, speak pidgin. Jeez! U can't even spell FRIEND.
DeleteLol candy thought I was d only one that noticed...chai very bad English.
DeleteDamn I had a migraine trying to read your comment! Na Sunday school you go?
DeleteVillager, i hope you wrote like this on purpose?
DeleteSeriously? So you guys don't know @villager is being playful. It takes a learned person to write deliberately the way she does. If you read what she writes, you'll know she speaks well.
DeleteCleanliness comes from within! And being neat is more of allergy to dirtiness or perhaps personal decision..
ReplyDeleteMadam poster,You cant force him to exhibit the act of cleanliness except he decides and want to..
Neatness/cleanliness is A very rare trait,and not everyone exhibits that..perhaps,most men have sworn to be pigs and in such A case,there is little or nothing you can do!!
Its more like A case of trying to stop A chain-smoker from smoking..
Madam poster;pele!! He can only change when he decides..
@MARTINS ABOY
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ReplyDeleteThis one no get cure oooh.
I can imagine the infection he will be giving you.
And who knows how he handles the toilet.
Tufiakwa
I have imagined the toilet own, and trust me it would be bad, I'm sure he is the type that would never flush and wiwi on the toilet sit, grossss
DeleteWas also thinking about how he handles their toilet.
DeleteHahahahahaha stella o ochi ato gbuolam
ReplyDeleteMadam i really story bt ibanye go really. Just like a few men out there who dont see anytin wrong in wearing one boxer for weeks n weeks unend. You just have to keep trying. I hate dirtiness too, i take my bath everynight before bed no matter how tired i am. I cant stand dirty clothes. I cant imagine how you must feel living with an overgrown badly broughtup baby.
Mothers please and please, while training ur daughters to be the perfect wives please teach ur sons to be exemplary husbands aswell!!
How can a grown man not shave his body, wash his boxes or atleast change them!
Poster u only have to keep complaining and trying. I dont even knw wat to say!!
*im really sorry
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ReplyDeleteIt's sad.my husband is a doctor but this story is like my husband. Mbok the guy dirty. The boxers go day smell.and he can cheat for Africa. I wonder how the girls survive it. Chei the man dirty
DeletePoster you just mirrored my husband in your write up. Mine doesn't even flush the toilet after using it, he will simply close it and go his way. Initially I used to be very angry but I got over it. Do the much you can in cleaning and arranging the house dear. However, you can pay him back in his own coin by leaving everywhere dirty. Don't sweep, don't wash plates for some days and see his reaction. My opinion though.
ReplyDeleteHow is that possible, an old man not flushing off his poo? Some wives shaaaa
DeleteYour husband don't flush toilet ?!
DeleteYour own husband get problem. Take him to the church for deliverance.
Na wao... Nothing person no go hear for here oo.. How can an over grown man not flush d toilet after using it? Women una don suffer no be small.sake.of say una marry...God.forbid.
DeleteMy dear ,I don't even.know what advice to give cos I never came in contact with such men even before I got married... Thank God for my hubby cos I can't just imagine it..
Says fab
Na wao... Nothing person no go hear for here oo.. How can an over grown man not flush d toilet after using it? Women una don suffer no be small.sake.of say una marry...God.forbid.
DeleteMy dear ,I don't even.know what advice to give cos I never came in contact with such men even before I got married... Thank God for my hubby cos I can't just imagine it..
Says fab
Na wao... Nothing person no go hear for here oo.. How can an over grown man not flush d toilet after using it? Women una don suffer no be small.sake.of say una marry...God.forbid.
DeleteMy dear ,I don't even.know what advice to give cos I never came in contact with such men even before I got married... Thank God for my hubby cos I can't just imagine it..
Says fab
Jesus
DeleteYou see ehn...it's soo bad with my own husband that now he's graduated from pissing in d room to pissing on the bed! Yes, that's right! Now I'm seriously considering leaving too...can't deal. But I've warned him that d next time it happens we're done. He doesn't even wear boxers, so I manage that situation by throwing each pants he wears to work into d WM. Shave armpit kee! Na beans! I have to beg him to use sponge every morning to scrub...he said it's an hassle for him, hel rather use his hand plus soap...oya kukuma use exfoliating gloves, but to wear it on his hands is still an hassle! My tolerance don dey thin now...but he's a good man. Of course sex aint fun anymore, but his good heart superceeds all dat! All I can say is if can try and manage the situation, then do, but if u can't...your happiness comes first!
DeleteYes annoy is possible cause have seen, my uncle that j stay with then don't flush toilet and it always bring quarrel BTW him and his wify
DeleteJisos!.. sayyy whaaaatttt? He ddnt flush his poo?that's wickedness up,so everyday you will jam poo from a full grown man?mbanu!Ican't deal.
DeleteCheiiiii, what sort of men are these. Madam u are trying.
DeleteOMG!!!!!
DeleteAnd what if u have visitors, so the possibility of them seeing poo in ur toilet is 100%
Can't deal menh
Oluwa!!!,won't flush toilet?the best is to poo before him and leave him to contribute his own on top,Tufia,I hate dirty men.
DeleteIt's so annoying my ex then used to pee in the bathroom he won't rinse with water as well he won't use the water closet when he does he won't flush and would just splash his pee all over the toilet seat and won't flush.Am also so ashamed and angry the whole house begins to stink and a man's pee can smell.....I can't imagine not shingles down there and not changing boxers the whole pubic hair would turn yellow or grey... Madam just ignore and do the little you can don't waste your energy.Teach and talk to him politely and let him reason with you since you guys are married.He should be in your shoes if you were the dirty wife that doesn't change panties and sticks to one cloth like a masquerade or looking haggard and unkept in the midst of his friends.I hope he listens
DeleteWhat? Na wa o, Alhamdulillah for my husband o. Poster try to talk to him calmly about it, tell him exactly how u feel, let him know it's so bad that you are not attracted to him anymore. And also pray for him Kpelle
Delete@ano16:11, am sorry bh i laugh all tru reading your post.
DeleteHIAN!!!some women are trying and the unmarried ones would be soaking their pillow with tears
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DeleteKuku kee me ooooh🙌🙌🙌
Never hear this type before o.
ReplyDeleteFeeling so irritated.
Wonder how you sleep with him with his dirty body n smelly mouth.
hmmmmm.... sit him down and talk sense into him. is he a child? habaa. how would he now correct a child wen he eventually has one
ReplyDeleteHi guys
ReplyDeleteIv finally been able to setup my account here
Now I can proudly say am part of the Famous SDK fam...
Yall should welcome me warmly and pls be kind
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You're welcome
Delete... Jesus is my worth!
Welcome!pls be nice.
DeleteEwwwwwww how I hate dirty people!!! Poster,sory to say but your hubby has a description of a pig from your writeup. In this modern age?!Whaaaaaat!!!!!! Well,dont really know what to advice in this case since you have tried to correct him severally to no avail,cant tell you either to start cheating on him cos that won't equally help. Can't deal sha if it were to be moi.let me follow Sdk read other comments. Pele!
ReplyDeleteLol @ let me go and wash my hands. Stella you bad o.
ReplyDeleteSorry madam I really don't know what to tell you. Dirty boxers and so on is a turn off. I love clean men.
I know men don't pay attention to things we ladies pay attention to. Like for instance, after brushing I make sure I rinse off every trace of paste and foam from the basin but when dh shaves or brush, you will see some paste and hair on the mirror, basin and sometimes on the hand and face towel. I don complain tire. I even tease him with it but he has refused to take those things serious. What can I do; I have to keep cleaning them.
Personal hygiene is his specialty and that alone scares me because he over do it sometimes.
Madam, just keep teaching him. Remember that men are overgrown babies that their mothers are tired of grooming so they just hand them down to women.
Nwa Amaka
DeleteWelcome
You have a good man as a husband but all you do is comparing him to a pig!kwantinu.
ReplyDeleteYou have two options:
Stay and tolerate his dirty habits(which will tripple when he gets old) or divorce him and look for a clean guy who might not love you like your husband does!
Maybe his sperm is also dirty,that's why he can't get you pregnant all these while.lol
Dirty sperm? Really insensitive i must say
DeleteHe loves her yet he charts and doesn't even try to please her? Who did this to you hun? Your idea of one is so warped.
DeleteGoat. Can't you Read?
DeleteYou can ask him to shave you while you do same for him,turn it into a fun thing so he will look forward to it.If u have a security guard,tip him to wash the cars like thrice a week,select his clothes & undies,place them on the bed with deodorant & perfume,as for the cloth he's always wearing at home,buy more of them so he can have options.I hope this helps?
ReplyDeleteYou're right!
DeleteSeconded
DeleteI like u
Deletewomen b chopping shit since 1800,I av bin married 4 13yrs,dunno if I shld call horse band pig abi laterin.. he will not brush 4 a wk,boxer nko, he will wear 1boxer 4 three dyz.. he is alwaz neat if he wants to go and commit adultery..
ReplyDeleteAre you for real? Not brush for a week
DeleteHmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
Nwokea bu ezi bida
Lmaooooo chai
Delete...and u sleep with a pig!
DeleteStopeeet! Not brush for week? How will food taste in his mouth. Na deliverance sure pass. He is possessed with spirit of dirt.
DeleteLMAO @go and commit adultery
DeleteNeat when he wants to fuck other women, do you nag?
DeleteGod forbid... Bath him with one bucket of detergent biko. How can someone not brush for a whole week? His mouth will be smelling like pit latrine!! Azigbakwa! "
DeleteJahahahhababa DAT is y he is a HORSEBAND
DeleteMadam stop lying abeg...
DeleteHow can your husband not brush for one week?..
Easy!...
Another bomb here,won't brush for a week,madam do you sleep on the same bed with him?
DeleteSay what?!... Some people are mad in here
DeleteQueen leave story oh, I know someone who doesn't brush at all, maybe once in a month an he likes kissing all his gf back den,hez married nw,anytime I see him am always looking out for his teeth, I will just whisper oboy u no brush, he go say I brush he wl use his tongue to scan his teeth, next thing he go use him top dey clean.lol.
Delete18:03, I had to laugh.
DeleteChai *covers nose*
ReplyDeleteBrb
Well it might be difficult for him to change since he is already use to it
ReplyDeleteOh no
ReplyDeletebvs praise God with me after 5yrs of staying at home,i've finally gotten admission-first list-MERRIT
ReplyDelete🙌🙋🙋🙋🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌 praaaaiiiisssee the Lord! Hallelujah! All the best, put your head down and get the best grades.
DeleteI hate dirt! I dislike dirty people, if I noticed you're not a clean person, I'll avoid you with ease.
ReplyDeleteMaybe your husband is having mid life crisis, why not get a washing/drying machine to make the laundry easy for you. Disposed off his worn out boxers and singlet.
Also, talk to him with love.
I pray God bless you both with children as many as you want.
Please, don't go out cheating on your husband, the issue between you both can be easily resolve through communication, patients, hard work and prayers.
Ndi be anyi, o dikwanu serious ooooo. kai.
ReplyDeleteHow did you cope for 4 years? He is behaving like this cos you have been babying him. Isn't that how babies act? Messing up the whole house, wear soiled clothes till we step in etc. I wonder how you'll cope when you start having actual babies cos not only will he not help, he will create more work for you. It's very difficult to get someone to change their habit. I don't think you will like my solution but your case calls for drastic measures, except you don't mind doing this for the rest of your life. I have no doubt that he is a dirty man but I also believe that he acts the way he does cos he knows you'll to clean up after him so it's time to shock him.How about you stop arranging the house? Stop picking up after him, let him meet his clothes wherever he leaves them. Be like him, don't shave anywhere. Find one night dress and start wearing only that night dress after work. When you wake up don't clean the house, sit on the bed and be pressing your phone like him. I am very sure he will take notice. Your husband is a spoilt child. Lol I was actually cringing as I was writing that. If all these fail, its time to involve both your parents. My only fear is that they (esp his parents) might ask you to continue enduring like you have been for years. They might want to know why the sudden change of heart. Thats the reason we shld never enduring something we are uncomfortable with. I am sure his mom was always cleaning up after him and so he feels it's a woman's job. Then he married you and you were also cleaning up after him albeit reluctantly. We need to teach our boys basic chores so that they don't inconvenient someone's daughter in future. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteGod bless your heart Robbie.
DeleteThis reminds me of the wnb poster that said the husband didn't brush to their wedding.
ReplyDeleteHeyyy !.. Omo I dey hear something. 😷😷😷😱😱😱
DeleteWith long distance relationships, it might not be possible to see the traces. It is always advisable date for a good number of months.
ReplyDeleteIt is well...keep teaching him like a child.
ReplyDeleteBe careful too since you said he cheats, because I can't imagine the kind of infection he will bring home, and he also needs to do a test.
Manage him like that shaa.
I almost thought you were talking about my ex, the only difference is he is not married. Dude has been begging for years, he is the most loving guy I have ever dated but the dirt habit I can't just deal with.
ReplyDeleteThis is a call out to all u mothers on this blog,teach your sons good manners. Don't come here calling the poster's hubby a pig,that man's upbringing get K-leg! Mothers,teach your sons to be the kind of men you'd want your daughters to marry .
ReplyDeleteI bind every spirit of dirtiness!
ReplyDeleteI bind every spirit of dirtiness!!!
ReplyDeletePlease help me, I am frustrated. I can't do this anymore
ReplyDeleteO gini ?
DeleteFake Ideato
DeleteThere are times when the phrase "if-you-cant-beat-them-join-them" comes in handy. After days or perhaps weeks of deliberately leaving everything undone and scattered, he just might realise ur value and complain about the state of things.. that's ur opportunity to state the rules or threaten to live like garbage all the days of ur married life if he doesn't readjust... it takes extreme WILL for a neat person to pull this off but it works 65% of the time.
ReplyDeleteNne sorry ohhhhh but gush I can't deal biko, but what can you do now just keep trying ur best he might I repeat he might change, maybe if he pull is boxer just soak it in the bucket until he is left with none to wear, shaiii Dimpka mmadu, na na na
ReplyDeleteLolz
ReplyDeleteMy girlfriend, I notice she doesn't brush her teeth. I don't even know I to tell her.
DeleteAbeg, what do you suggest ? Abi make I leave her ?
No, stay.
DeleteThere is love in sharing bacteria. Yimu.
Lol
ReplyDeletemy dear friend and sister, you need to talk to your husband, tell hin the things he does that u don't find attractive. In all its ur cross to bear, trust that issue is a tiny one compared to what some people face in their matrimonial homes. Patience is the key.
ReplyDeleteLady Grace weldone ooo. Continue flushing the toilet for that your yeye husband and when they see someone that is dirty, they will be the first to say kill him, kill him.
ReplyDeleteUna dey try with nonsense husband.
Hian!na wa o! Wch kind of dirtyness be dis? See married women giving all sorts of tales about dia husband's dirty hygiene! See one saying d husband wld shit and not flush d toilet!anoda one saying d husband does nt brush his mouth for a week! Haba! Na for where una de meet dis kind of men biko? Na wa o! Dis is really vry vry sad!May God Never Allow Us To Come Across Such Men In Jesus Mighty Name Amen! Smh!
ReplyDeleteHaàahaa.. I follow you shout Amen!.. 🙆🙆🙆
DeleteAmennnnnnnnnnnnn
ReplyDeleteHmmm
ReplyDeleteDirtiness I can't stand at all.
Lord ,help me get married to a neat man
Wow, this is serious. Try and talk this over with him and see if he will change.
ReplyDeleteLook at how u just brought ur husband here to be insulted...what kind of woman are u? Kwanu every body is telling u how u r married to a pig...it's only a pig dat marries a pig,dnt come and claim dat he wasn't like dat,someone dats dirty if u r observant u will notice...U want to leave ur marriage? Or u r looking for an excuse to cheat
ReplyDeleteYou've been cleaning up after him for 4 years...biko continue to do so and know d kind of issues to bring outside ur home...some of d people on dis blog calling ur husband a pig are worse than him... A word is enough for d wise
She is foolish
DeleteShut up you're mouth. You're silly. Ever heard of the phrase opposites attract?? So ma/sir its not eveytime you attract the same type of person like you. The dirty husband that is cheating nkor?? Isnt the marriage worth leaving? If you have no advice jump and pass instead of chastising the poster.
DeleteBy their fruits you shall know them. I'm sure you're a dirty person too.
DeleteYou've never heard of breaking point abi?
This poster is obviously tired and loosing it
Where una dae jam all this kin men kwani!truth is madam u cant change him if he isn't ready to change.these una husbands na real "akpa durty"and one other side babe will still gbensh him choii disease everywhere.
ReplyDeletePls get a separate room mbok I can't sleep wit a man in the same room forever neat or dirty
ReplyDeleteMadam if I were you, I will burn the blue shirt and worn out boxers.
ReplyDeleteStella mechikene onu gi* ana asiyeli...
ReplyDeletedear poster,
Ur issue can be fixed * employ a maid n find a boy to wash his car every now and then . what about those with sick hubby's that poo n pee and their clothes smells of pee. Sometimes my husband removes his trousers n leaves it right there on the floor for me to pick up ... when I see it i call him " Hny can u come , I need your help" when he comes I ask him to pick up his clothes n hang them. Just try ur best ... I don't know wat to say about the cheating part.
My girlfriend doesn't wear pant and I noticed she hardly brush her mouth.
ReplyDeleteHmmnn... I'm just looking at her like
Kwakwakwakwakwa 😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteDear Poster, my advise to you is LEAVE THAT MARRIAGE NOW!
ReplyDeleteThis advise might come out as twisted but then, this is another chance to get your happy ending in future.
The childlessness is a sign, this particular marriage is not a fruitful one.
My apologies if that came out insensitive.
Come on, how long can you wash and clean up after a man, you will get overworked to death here.
This is not a peeve you can just work around, this is insanity.
You married a pig, a stinky,hairy,lazy pig.
Then this is just the physical aspect of his dirtiness manifested, what about the spiritual implications.
This marriage was a bit founded on deceit, you admit he hid this attitude. Then your resentment levels are climbing, the love will wear out totally soon. How can blessings even come in when he repulses you so. You are begining to dodge from him and all. How can you respect and submit to a man who you are ashamed of?
Moreso he cheats, he be killing you with odour and Stds soon....abeg, what are you still doing there biko. Adultery is grounds enough for divorce if you need an excuse.
Do not waste your years, and look back in regret at missing a decent and quality life getting so busy cleaning after a pig, nursing heartbreaks, catching Stds, aging overnight, refusing friends from visits coz of the hygiene horror in your home, hiding this man, becoming a social recluse, forever feeling sorry for yourself, then falling prey to hotter guys, eventually cheating back, losing your faith and zeal to serve God, then you die and jump into hell, for what!
For getting yoked with a man with the mindset of a retarded infant. Think of yourself first. Take this opportunity in front of you and bounce. Get a maid to assist you and he will sleep with her and impregnate her, trust me on this one. This dirtiness transcends the physical. Soon, you will realise this man will become contented and unmotivated then become so laid back. It will affect his work performance and in no distant time, you will add breadwinner to the "mega superwoman" status you are soon to attain.
Then you will see full blown hell.
Can you stand the horror of your kids picking up this behaviour if and when they come. Do you have the strength to be the nagging,unhappy, unfulfilled, cheated on, overworked, haggard and worn out looking woman with a smelling home to boot and a stunted growth in life plus the breadwinner and OMG....list will get endless soon, all negatives.
Soon you will become that woman with the dead eyes who dodges when she see her fellow women looking all glammed and confident.
Get out now!!!
You are a special kind of stupid do you know?
DeleteAdvising her to leave her hubby because of his weakness,a man marries a woman to compliment him dear. If you can advise her to leave her hubby for this,I hope your hubby is perfect all round,I mean even financially because if he is not as rich as bill gate and you stayed with him,then you are hypocritical.
DeleteDear poster,I don't like commenting on this post but you are no good and that is why I have to. If you don't know that marriage is a union of two people who compliments each other,then you need help. Mrs perfect,I hope you know that your presence in that man's life is like that fig tree that Jesus cursed when He could not get any fruit from it,you better change today and be fruitful not in childbearing lest you misunderstand me but on making positive impact on that man's life.
I sounded so harsh because I could not understand why a fellow woman will ask her fellow woman to leave her hubby while she manages her own hubby's weakness.
Don't mind Rob. You are on point with all your points. This marriage will break poster with time, and very soon, for her to have sent this chronicle. So poster if you can't divorce, consider separation praying for him from a distance for your peace of mind. If he is willing to change, he will, until then?... People may not understand what it means to live with a pig in a pig sty. It can kill both physically and spiritually, not to mention mentally.
DeleteHello sweet darling Stella, Thanks so much for posting my Chronicle yesterday and for giving me your wonderful opinion. I truly appreciate you and this forum. Thanks to Atheist for xraying my guy. You know him well. Thanks to Ronalda and all our Loving blog visitors for the contribution, advice and rebuke. Sometimes we do things out of pure undiluted love but we go too far. I went too far. Thanks for making me realise this. Stella thank you for creating this blog and your amazing creativity in sustaining this platform. I love you. Elizabeth.
ReplyDeleteHahahahahaha the comments on this post is hilarious! Well madam, you have to keep talking to him about it and threaten to leave of he doesn't change. Sometimes we have to be tough to get things done. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteThat is how one guy was courting me. The first time that I was supposed to stay over at his house was the last time he ever saw me. I noticed that he left his boxers on the bed when he went to take a shower. I picked it up to move it to the chair so that I could get into bed and the stench that followed the boxer was unbearable. There was a black stain between legs to the bottom part. I just died inside. Did I sleep over that night? NO! Did I ever see him again? No!
ReplyDeleteI laugh in congo..........
ReplyDeleteThank you anon14.59 . You made good sense. I'm sick of this generation. Did our mothers leave our fathers becos of poor hygiene?! Or posters don't you have fathers and mothers that smell ??! Make una talk true . Did they leave each other as a result?! What this generation lacks is simple LOVE . It no longer exists .its all about superficial things that has no importance. Oya leave him pls . Ull see a cleaner fresher babe will take him up like lightning.
ReplyDeletePoster I laugh out loud,can't imagine living with a dirty man.mbanu.i understand ur frustration but let me ask is he educated?just sit him down nd tell him hw pissed off u re already by his dirty living.his type won't even be brushing his teeth well or even bathing after work.living like a mechanic
ReplyDeleteI know a very educated and travelled man that is like a pig. The stench from his vehicle is horrible, terrible
DeleteThat's how I would have married one pig . The first night I went to sleep ove her had like 3 dirty soaked pots he used in cooking noodles. Those pots had water in them for weeks I guess. The bath tub had gone from white to brown with dead roaches in corners of the house. His room was woo rough and dirty. He had clothes lying in corners of the living room and the dinning table was turned into a dirty heap of books. D guest room was a no go area . Soo the dirty. Na so I borrow my self brain. No be by force to date person wey dey stay for Lagos island. And you need to see how cute dis guy looked on this outside. I'm married now and he's still single. Qhobqan marry dirty work man? Nonsense.
ReplyDeleteSome men are just dirty, when he was looking for you he was neat but now that he has you his second name has turn to baba dirty.
ReplyDeleteHaba BVs why will you insult someone's husband this much just because she brought her matter to us here, its bad enough that she's already feeling irritated . Will this insults make her feel better or worse? Fine we may not know ourselves personally but pls lets be subtle in our opinions and advices. If we cant advice her positively we can just not comment at all. Madam keep talking to your husband about it especially his personal hygiene if that's how he has been its really not easy to change him also pray for him by Gods grace he will be better.
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ReplyDeleteThe Queen, you are one wise woman. Wisdom is not by speaking big English and writing an epistle.
ReplyDeleteEmpress Cho, I agree with some of your post but this time, you need to calm down with your bad advice and long unwarranted epistle. Do you think marriage is a child's play that someone would wake up and leave like that?
Dirtiness is an outward behavior that is completely solvable, it is not enough for her to leave her marriage. I know she added the cheating part so we can hate her husband the more but no need.
Madam, listen to the Queen on this one. Sometimes, you wonder why some men treat their wives like gold , while others act non nonchalant. The Queen said and i quote 'i cannot imagine my lovely husband to be washing cars or cloth'. Damn. Damn! Damn!
Madam, get off your high horse and take care of your home, how are you suppose to procreate when you are filled with bitterness? All those clean fine husband you see outside, do you think they fell from the sky. It is a woman like you that took time cleaned them up, gave them swag and brushed them up. Some of you single girls admiring clean married men, if their wives should tell you the extent they went to clean them up.
@Chikito...Demonic oppression keh? If you have a dirty house-girl, it is simply lack of care from the Madam. When the housegirl is overworked from morning till night with no time to even take a bath. Chances are that during the deliverance, the Madam was delivered too.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Poster you help him and talk sense Into his head collect money from him and buy different boxers for him may be if he sees them many he will be happy to be changing it clothes
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