Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives...

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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

HUSBAND WITH TRUST ISSUES

Good day stella,I have been a blog visitor for years now!I love your blog! Please share my story as am a badly in need of advice.

I got married five years ago after dating my hubby for six months,he was in a hurry to marry and wanted the marriage done immediately. But I insisted that we should wait a little. we got married six months later and it was
ok.

A month later I was already pregnant unknown to me my hubby has trust issues so one night around 11 pm my best friend ex boyfriend called me and I answered and said please call me tomorrow and cut the call my hubby got up and said he heard me telling the man that we will meet in a hotel!

 I was shocked and called him back and gave hubby the phone but he refused and said he isn't sure that he is the father of my baby I was dumbfounded and left and cried all through the night,so the next morning I left the house while he was bathing and went to his parent then I called my elder sister and brother,my brother took it upon himself and insisted that I should go back to my family house I went and stayed for two week and my hubby didn't even call,he came and we settled after two weeks and I returned home,

my dear blog visitor that was the end of joy in my home,I was neglected,I went through Pregnancy alone,he would come back from work and go straight to his friend who is a divorced they would be gisting and laughing while I will be home alone,every little issue he would say he wasted his money marrying me,that he regretted marrying me I would ask him what the problem is and he is say he is not ready to talk,I told people to help me talk to him but he said i was spoiling his name,I was still a student and anytime I got to school he would bring in another woman to the house,I called my pastor who is also my cousin that was when he told him that he was tired of the marriage and has fallen out of love with me! Hmmmm something in me died that day,I had my baby and he still didn't change.

my elder brother called him and they met and my hubby said since he married me he has been falling sick,he hasn't been saving,he hasn't been sleeping well,that he doesn't want me anymore,that he has been having bad dreams because my parent are late and he doesn't want me to die in his house because according to him untimely death runs in my family! my brother called me and told me and I cried mean while I was a student and he was also masters student on a 120k salary how did he expect to save? 

I had to leave because I was confused,he wouldn't send money but will buy pampers and baby food,3 months later he called me and I went back against my family because people blamed me that I shouldn't have left,the day we dedicated our son was war,we continued staying together but he never stop telling that he wasted his money marrying me that I was bad luck to him and that I should leave his house,one sunday afternoon he asked me to dress up my son that he wanted to take him out,he left with my eight months old son and returned without him I was surprised and called his mom if my son was with her,she said no,then i seized him that he should bring back my son he slapped and pushed me.

His mom and his brothers came and wanted to fight him I just lay down on the ground crying,we started begging him to bring back my son he said no that I should leave his house,so I followed his mom home and he brought my son the next day evening,after two weeks he pack my things and I went back to my family house,he refused sending money because he asked me to take my son to his mom and I refused,after a while he started sending 10k every a three months,a year later he married and has daughter,two months ago he called that he wanted to see me, my people he said he wants me back.

That am his true wife,that he has gone down since he remarried,I have gone for counselling and they asked me to go back because the wife is no longer with him,his people too have been begging me! What do I do? Should I go back? I can't forget the pains,he said it was manipulation that he is ready to go for deliverance! He and his people have been going about seeing my people and begging! 

Am really confused!

*WOW,please for fear of giving you bad advice,let me read comments cos this story got me really upset and pissed off..ah ah...WTF!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
MAKING THE FIRST MOVE TO DATE A GUY


Dear Bvs,
Merry Christmas in advance.
I am a lady who likes a guy like mad, i do not know if he is aware though. i dont even know how to make him like me.

I have tried all possible things i can do to get close and be noticed. 

Chai the guy get swag, tall, dark, get beta job(me get beta job too) we both drive jeeps. he is not so handsome but he is good looking. we attended same church at one point some years back. we later lost contact but saw again and started chatting just as friends, but i want more than just friendship and i do not want to throw myself at him . 

What do you guys advise and how best can i make him know that i like him and would love us to date.