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AS YOU MAKE YOUR BED.

HELLO Stella, thank you so much for what you do with your blog and how it's really been helpful to a lot of us. Well I'll go straight to my story.

I really suck at writing stories but I'll try. Lol.

So there's this guy I've know for year's now, like he's been asking me out for almost 2yrs but i really wasn't serious with him,even dated someone while he was still on my case and he knew i was dating the person cos hes seen us together. 

Fast forward to one year later i broke up with my then boyfriend and this guy was still on my case o. So i shaa decided to just agree for him last last,he had this very innocent,calm and peaceful look. Young and he was a hustler. My family loved and welcomed him. We dated for few months(although we've known for years,but not dating) we had lots of good,memorable time together. I swear the guy gave me so much peace and Joy like I've never experienced before. He was so into me,always asking me to be the mother of his kids. Awww. Lol.

So i left the country for studies,he cried ehen and always cried when he calls on the phone.

Well,time passed and we spoke once in a while mainly cos of the calling rate from nija to abroad,but we chatted on facebook once in a while,he's not an online person tho. Always working.

To cut the long story short i met this other guy here and we started loving each other shaa(I'm a lover girl,and i hate myself for that) he was dating some other girl but left her for me. Well we dated and i got pregnant for him,never knew i was until i was almost 2months gone,we tried to abort but the doctor's refused. So i was stuck and had to keep the child. Froze school cos of shame and all until i had my child. My family was so mad at me. Meanwhile my guy in naija heard and almost ran mad(seriously) his friend's were calling,messaging and asking me what happened, said he's been crying and down. Kaii i felt bad oo Stella. Cos i really love this guy too.

My family said i can't have a baby out of wedlock so the baby daddy family had to go see my parents and i think they paid bride price or so,but my mum said all traditional marriage rights has not been done,cos she keeps asking when we're coming to finalise everything.

Well my problem now is,we've lived together for almost 6 yrs now,but nothing to show for it its been from one struggle to another, we feed from hand to mouth,constantly begging and borrowing. I use my school fees sent from my family to pay rents,bills,food. He's a hustler and love's us but it's just not getting any better. They say it's spiritual attack from he's uncles,i really don't know. Done alot of prayer's, fasting. 

At a point i was even attacked. I started a business recently and that's whats we have all been leaving on,our child has never been to school for once,and he's 6years old now. He's brother came to stay with us and he does absolutely nothing apart from eat,sleep and use free wifi to chat and call girls. I practically feed everyone and pay the bills. I've complained and i'm tired. 

Stella I'm feed up,like i cry always asking God why me,why did be let me get into this,so many whys.even my family stopped sending me money cos they feel I'm in a man's(husbands) house,non of them knows what I'm going through (im so secretive)

Few weeks back my sister tells me my niaja bf is asking for my number(that's after 6yrs o) the guy never still wan leave me. He messaged me and said "this is your husband that you refused to marry" lol,chaii i just knew it was him. I felt so bad again,we've shaa been talking real good. He said he's never been serious with any other lady since that time i left,but he finally decided to get married, and paid the bride price for his soon to be wife. 

We've been talking well and i think the chemistry is still there,he doesn't like to talk about her to me,said we have to see before he gets married. Dude is still into me oo. I really feel loved chatting with him,cos I've been a lonely boring lady for the past 6yrs.Please i need advice on what to do,although im really now focusing on my business and my child(still fending for everyone tho) but honestly i am tired and frustrated. 

Never enjoyed love making with my baby's dad cos i felt he made me waste my youth,turned me into a mum at 21 and now we can hardly take care of this innocent kid,so what's the point of having sex? I'm just 26 and i feel i am still too young for all this.

Sorry for the long story, but this is the only platform that i can comfortably share my story,i have no friends. Thanks Stella, pleases post this o,I'll be reading comments.



*Your story looks twisted..you live abroad and your child is six and never been to school?If you live abroad,the government should be able to take care of that and even pay you every month if you apply that you are jobless.

I dont know what to tell you except that you should leave that your ex alone to move on with his life and not to tie him down cos you sound like you will give him the Cookie once you see him.you made your bed already so please lie on it.

Your story sounds somehow,where exactly abroad are you?