STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
WICKED BOSS
Good day Stella ....
Please i want to share my dilemma with you and my fellow beevees to know your opinion on this matter.
I'm typing this in tears because it's really demoralizing. Ever since I got pregnant my boss has been antagonizing me and insulting me whenever he feels like it. He wasn't exactly good to me when I joined the company but wasn't bad either,my colleagues and i know him to be that way.
I got pregnant sometime last year and when i started showing he threatened to fire me but for the intervention of my direct boss who begged him to allow me continue with my work because I'm really good at what I do and I practically work like a 'jacky' because I do the job of 5people without complaints (the Chairman doesn't employ many people but would rather combine job roles into one for each staff)and also I needed the salary which wasn't much but i was able to pay my bills and i really thank God for it.
When I was 7months he forcefully placed me on 3 months maternity leave with half of my salary.I thanked God for the half salary because I didn't expect it. After the 3 months elapsed I resumed work when my baby was 1month and few weeks,I got her formula because I couldn't afford to get breast pump to express milk at the time and i hired a nanny to help take care of her from 8 pm to 5:30 pm and we agreed that I will pay her N15,000 which is the norm in my locality.
At the end of the month i resumed I expected to get my full salary but was paid half of it, I complained to my direct boss and he said I shouldn't ask the chairman about it yet since the company was tight on cash and i was the only person that was paid so I won't come across as being insensitive although he sensed something was wrong. I managed myself with the money, paid my baby's nanny her 15k and was left with 17,500 which finished within 2weeks.
I had to go borrowing to sustain till the end of the month when I will get my salary for the next month but lo and behold I still got thesame half salary while others got full salary. I spoke with my direct boss in tears because It was painful, why will he be treating me like this when I joined the company with Msc and i had high (yeah some of you will say who Msc. Epp) but it wasn't easy for me. I called the Chairman (he doesnt have an office in our branch), he said the reason im being paid half if my salary is due to recession and said if i wasnt ok with i should submit my resignation letter.
Why did he allow me to work for 2months without a prior notice that he'll be paying me half of my salary henceforth?
Telling me its due to recession is not true because we are presently handling a huge project which cost some billions. Secondly im the only person whose salary was slashed. Many thoughts flooded my mind on how I would survive in this recent hardship with just half of my salary. How do I take care of my baby?If nanny takes 15k and I'm left with 17500 within 2weeks of buying diaper, baby milk,feeding,buying water and other miscellanous things etc
I wish to know the opinions of my fellow beevees whether to continue with the job pending when I get something better or leave the job that sends me to zero account balance after 2weeks.
I know there are no jobs out there but this is sheer wickedness on my boss' part, now everything is being blamed on recession whether it is true or not.
Thanks and God bless.
Bv Baby blu
Thanks and God bless.
Bv Baby blu
*What a wicked Boss.....JEALOUS FOOL.I AM SURE HE LIKES YOU....is there no Union to protect you..labor union.
If you are not protected,please stay home instead of working with this animal in human skin...Tufiakwa!
Wickedness
ReplyDeleteMadam, start playing MMM, it'd pay u more, even if you borrow money to start, i swear.... You'd be smiling & praying "long live mmm", as for me, I've closed my shop for now, since dollar want to fuck me up, i cnt shout, you won't bliv how mch I've made in the past 3months, i can even comfortably rent 2 huge shops!! My husband initially discouraged me, but i used the 1st profit to buy him correct watch & 2new tyres, he shut up by force, now he's the champion sef.
DeleteMadam di gi kwanu? (Your husband or baby daddy)
DeleteAm sure you did not impregnate yourself, and you know bvs c will ask.
If you have working hubby/baby daddy that provides, please manage it, and start looking for another job. Don't quit this until you get something, at least it solves your nanny's problem, meaning is better than nothing.
This is really bad. Send out your cv Jarey(but still hold on to this job till u are sure), most companies like msc candidates that have experience which u have. Don't worry God will send u a better offer.
DeleteIs your boss a religious extremist because he must have picked on you as a pregnant sinner without husband.
DeleteIf that is the case he won't change and will soon fire you.
As crazy as it may sound, they do the same thing abroad, I mean the 'hatred part and humiliation'
DeleteAnon 17:25, you might be right.Maybe he is punishing her but it should not be his business nau. Anyway, madam manage the salary till you get a better job.
DeleteAnon 17.25, she is preggy for her boss
DeleteWhere is ur husband??
ReplyDeleteImmaculate conception... Lol.
DeleteMaybe she got pregnant for someone's husband and the original wife go meet baba for her hence the abandonment and all that is happening to her.
DeleteLeave the job, because @ the end of the month calculating your transport fare and other expenses to job, you will run @ lost and still have to borrow , with you @ home, u don't need nanny, the little your husband provide manage with your baby. Leave you boss to CARMA ,soon they will half is own salary too.
DeleteYour story sounds very one sided. I'm sorry but perhaps there was an employment clause about pregnancy. The fact that it was outside of marriage doesn't help your case. It's best you get another job
DeleteAnon 17.42 and atheist, she is pregnant for her boss
DeleteSorry, you are right. She isnt preggy for her boss. Guess he hates single mums
DeleteYou did not say anything about the father of the child, anyway I feel you start looking for another job but hold on to this one, there are no jobs out there.
ReplyDeleteWhen you people say 'there are no jobs out there' is it a prayer, or a curse or a fact? Or are you staying based on your experience? Because for some of the BVs I've personally interviewed, hehehhe there will most likely 'be no jobs' for them.
DeletePoster, leave the job. But before you do, have a one on one talk with you boss. Try understand what his issue with you or your situation really is. If he can't say, then you have to leave. Cos this would be the beginning of drama.
I'm not saying it's going to be easy, I'm not saying you will get another job almost immediately, and I'm not saying there's no recession. All I'm saying is:
1. Your place of work is becoming psychologically damaging to you. It will affect you in other ways, and then your baby.
2. Your salary can't sustain you and as it is, you will be incurring costs trying to keep the job. Funds that can be used for other things. Transport, lunch at work etc. what is the point if your salary can't even sustain you for the rest of the month.
3. If you quit, you can fire the maid and save money.
4. If you know your onions and are hardworking, you will get something. And hopefully not something as dehumanizing as this. It's better to start with small salary on a new job that watch your former salary drop without review. You're handling a huge project so you can see that that's no excuse. your company operates under a high level of power culture. So no one can convince the boss. He takes the decision and he won't change.
In life there are time when we must take tough decisions. This is one of them. I won't share my testimonies of unhappy employment situation turning around 360 deg., before angry people will say I'm bragging. But honey, when it's time to leave you know it's time to leave. 😊
Good luck!!
DeleteBy the way,are you a baby mama? That may be what's upsetting your boss. That youfot pregnant out of wedlock. Jez thinking out loud. You know some SME owners infuse their personality in the way they run their business. If he's one of them, then check again
DeleteCorrections:
DeleteFirst comment: *are you saying based on experience
Last comment: *you got
Where's ur baby daddy?
ReplyDeleteHe ought to be supportive, unless you felt you could do it on your own.
Anyways, hang in there, atleast u have a job no matter d pay cos if u resign, it will be hard unless.....
You obviously work with a one man private firm and this is how many of them act.
ReplyDeleteKeep working and managing while you be on the lookout for another one but I won't be surprised if he fires you before you get another one.
If you know the work will also prevent you from going for interviews better leave it now on your own because getting sacked will make all this effort go to waste and will be useless to your CV.
If you have family or friends that can sustain you pending when you get another job then leave so you can intensify and face job hunting squarely.
All the best
Its simple. resign and stay at home. Fire your nanny as you can't afford her services. Invest the little you have. Someone already advised MMM. Ain't nothing wrong with that either so you can save enough capital for business.
DeleteI wont ask after baby daddy. It's obvious he's not "there".
An Msc holder earning 65k? I weep.
even if peeps wanna assist you with a job, wey your location?
Your boss is wicked.I would advise you to stop crying and clean your eyes.manage the job till you get another.then pray against the mark of hatred in your life.pray by 2am.wake up call your boss name while saying the prayer.and also start looking for another job asap.things will change don't worry
ReplyDeleteYou have an MSc with this disjointed write up laden with poorly constructed lines? Our education demands urgent redemption. No wonder they'd always ask you "who English epp" to make up for their f-ups.
DeleteDid u read anywhere in her post where she said she studies English at the university????but really why are u people on this blog always quick to insult people you dont know nor see!!!English is our second language in Nigeria abeg,even British oyinbo that owns English language too make mistakes,some oyinbo's self their gbagaun no be here.leave story ok,stop being a dictionary here on sdk blog.am sure u'll have little children in ur family either junior siblings or nieces/nephew,go and become their lesson teacher and teach them English.ok bye
DeleteDid u read anywhere in her post where she said she studied English at the university????but really why are u people on this blog always quick to insult people you dont know nor see!!!English is our second language in Nigeria abeg,even British oyinbo that owns English language too make mistakes,some oyinbo's self their gbagaun no be here.leave story ok,stop being a dictionary here on sdk blog.am sure u'll have little children in ur family either junior siblings or nieces/nephew,go and become their lesson teacher and teach them English.ok bye
DeleteAnonymous the great English encyclopedia, what is "f-ups"? Is that proper English?
DeleteAs long as people like you take pleasure in bullying people in the name of correction, I will also bully you. If you can't criticize constructively, read and move on. It's not a big deal
Try to empathize with her. When you write emotionally you won't think about spellings.
DeleteThis is wickedness..
ReplyDeleteI think you should continue managing,but biko start searching endlessly for jobs anywhere
What about your hubby or baby daddy?
Baby blu.
ReplyDeleteWhere is your husband?...
Why are you carrying the burden of raising up a child alone?...
Or are you a baby mama?...
Where is the man that got you pregnant?...
Why is he not contributing?...or are you playing miss independent?...
No body forced you to get pregnant and have a baby so carry your cross!...
It's not by force to work for someone!...
Biko reisgn so someone else that is capable can take over!...
You all come here bashing your boss but some of you workers are ingrates,greedy and wicked!...
Madam righteous, what are you saying tori Olohun!
DeleteDaft illiterate woman. I feel so sorry for you and the blog visitors who are constantly egging you on and growing your stupidity in the process.
DeleteThat was harsh
DeleteYour insensitivity is 2nd to none.
DeleteProfessor X, even a mad man has cheer leaders. There are people within her IQ limit that will always cheer her. She's an abberation. An insult to womanhood. A disgrace to the Igbo nation. A menu for pigs. She belongs in the basest of the base of humanity. If I were her relative(God forbid), I would have suggested we used her for sacrifice and her carcass tossed to the dogs. The time she could have used in developing her rotten grammar is spent in wanna-be psychopathic pretences. Her deep complex motivation leaves her swimming in the illusion of being a Queen. Well, we could grant her that fantasy, but she must rename herself "..queen and the boss of buffoons"
DeleteBlunt,well said!!!
Delete@ Blunt is unapologetically blunt today.....Easy on Queen pls, she is our in house comedian.In this recession, we need unadulterated comic relief....pls easy on Queen i plead. Cheerio!!
DeleteDamn @blunt. Whoa #dies. Bow down bitches
DeleteDamn, Blunt was that for one person! I'm going to faint!!
DeleteBLUNT!!! WOW
DeleteQUEEN that's mean & harsh, do u knw if she is turning gwengwe & decide to @list be a mother b4 menopause, if can't get a man to marry her can't she be a mother again hian na wa for ur judgeina mentality.
DeletePoster is clear u are no longer needed pls stp coming to that work abruptly immediately the pay that there miserable 32k500 PLS DON'T GIVE THEM NOTICE OO so they will be stranded they way u are now @list for few days , inform ur nanny that she will stp for a while.join the mmm , manage with it till u get another work. The Lord is ur strength.
Blunt over harsh they worry I Der but queen deserve that bash she got from u .
Oh God! This breaks my heart...
ReplyDeleteHorrible boss.instead of stressing yourself
Delete*sad sigh*
ReplyDeleteDear I feel your pain
Please don't quit your job, keep managing the salary like that. You can start sending out your CV to other companies now while enduring the evil boss.
I guess he has a 'thing' for you and since he's not getting what he wants from you...he chose to frustrate you and that's really not fair! While sending out your CV, put your wicked boss in prayers, pray that God vindicates you and shames your enemies! It's well
Please kind BVs should help this lady out with a job, I'm begging on her behalf. For the sake of her baby please help her...thank you in advance!
I concur 👏👏👏
Delete@beckydivine 👍
DeleteIs this the time to pray for vindication and putting enemies to shame? That type of prayer is not necessary in this case. Pray to get a better job, period.
DeleteToo upset to comment. Since you really need the money can you talk and plead with him? If he hints he wants to date you resign, a better job will come
ReplyDeleteWicked man! Like Stella wrote he liked you. He wants something from you so he is pushing you to the wall! Either that or he's just a bully. My advice is keep working but be applying for other jobs actively. As soon as something clicks resign. Pray for Holy Ghost koboko to flog him at night...one day he will come to the office scared and give you all the money you're owed and then double your salary!
ReplyDeleteThat your boss is evil!!! I'm sure he likes you... But pls keep managing the job & start searching for an alternative, don't quit because christmas is around the corner... Half bread is better than none & recession too.
ReplyDelete... Jesus is my worth!
Chai. Stella see question you are asking, Labour union for some yeye companies.
ReplyDeleteMy dear it is better you resigned and go take care of your baby. Everybody is using buhari recession to cause pain on people.
chai, while my office, you will enjoy your 4 months and get other pecks.
What about your husband, what is he saying about this. Dont have hypertension and you can leave if you can. Not by force to work in a place you are not happy because you will not produce good results.
One man business is yeye ooo.
Sounds like DB. 4 months
DeleteThey're wicked employers and God knows the reason for their wickedness towards you. Poster, can't resist this question, WHERE IS YOUR BABY DADDY???
ReplyDeleteCry no more, please go and complain to public complaints commission at tbs if you are in lagos. They will treat your case immediately. It's high time we use what's available in the system to address issues. Ur boss is horrible, I think he hates women and kids,I don't see it as jealousy. Where is the father of ur child he should have been taking care of the nanny ish, so u can focus on other bills
ReplyDeletePls don't stay at home. Just keep telling urself daily that u are doing this because of ur baby. And also start applying elsewhere. The day u need to go for a test or interview fake one sickness a day before in the office. The struggle is real. I know what I am saying. Just endure till you get a better jobm
ReplyDeleteWicked boss. May God pay him back in his own coin.
ReplyDeleteStella, this is Nigeria not countries where Unions work.
ReplyDeleteMadam, stay and pray while you seek better placement.
Where is your husband in all these?
Madam, what of your husband? U didn't say anything about d man that impregnated u? I know u didn't just wake up and find urself pregnant.
ReplyDeleteWicked boss again? Unemployment is the root cause.
ReplyDeleteStella, no need for the insults; you don't need to tell us how bad he is and how "he likes her"; are you giving her "ideas?"
ReplyDeletePoster where is your husband, your parents, relatives? Is there no one that can help you with the baby. If you are not patient and careful, you will turn your anger on this nanny you employed; she has no part in your predicament.
Do you have the New Testament; it is a trying time. Read the Jesus parables and be calm
I wouldn't ask you to quite the job because I have no other option to offer you, I guess your boss likes you but he happens to be a man with inferiority complex, continue since your close to your immediate boss keep talking to him to help you resolve the issue with the main boss. Good luck dear
ReplyDeleteAm sorry you are going through this kind of pain, if men were God, my direct boss can do it, but thank God he does not have the power over ones salary, this men call boss, God dey see them.
ReplyDeleteI will advice you still keep the job while you are on the look out for another one. Also, try and renegotiate with your nanny if she can accept a lesser amount.
ReplyDeleteMaybe the man was eyeing you. Your pregnancy meant end of show for him. Recession my foot.
ReplyDeleteI suggest you quit the job so as to have time for both baby and to seek for another job. you are practically working for ur nanny. Look for a teaching job dat way ur child stays in creche and you can still have some money.
ReplyDeleteExactly
DeleteI hate anything that disturbs me from thinking straight. Instead I just let it go. Make I no dey sin for my heart
DeleteIf she doesn't have any savings that will be a disaster.
DeleteI suggest you quit the job so as to have time for both baby and to seek for another job. you are practically working for ur nanny. Look for a teaching job dat way ur child stays in creche and you can still have some money.
ReplyDeleteThis is d main reason a woman should never allow an irresponsible man to gbensh her without protection. U r now d only one taking care of d baby.
ReplyDeleteI dey 'tels' you
DeleteWhat rubbish!!!!
ReplyDeletePls load this Shoki and call him, telling him ure done working like an elephant & eating like a church rat.
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DeleteIf anyone is able to help this bv,please help her cos telling her to resign is of no use except you have a job for her. Meanwhile where is the father of your baby? If he is still alife, please don't form boss lady suffering from what both of you enjoyed unless you were raped, I hate seeing a woman suffering to raise a child alone when the father of the baby is still alife.
ReplyDeleteOne question dey my mind.. But i won't ask.. Cos i knw beevees gonna ask.. So i go sit down read comments
ReplyDeletePlease confront him. Why paying you half salary while you have resumed or they are removing your Nursing mother grace time (resumption and closing time). Confront him jare, he wouldn't kill you. Please don't resign yet, do you know how to pray? Use his name and do night vigil, he will beg you to collect your arrears self.
ReplyDeletehmmm... dis is though. truth is d economy is hard. manage d one u have and look out for other things. o doesn't have to b white collar. nd if u can keep ur baby with someone u dont have to pay or pay much it would help.
ReplyDeletetake heart dear.
Your boss is evil! Why did they nog informed you before hand that you'll be receiving half salary, is not fair!
ReplyDeleteBy the way, where is the father of your baby? What role is he playing? Cos, you never mentioned him in your chronicles, why are you taking the responsibility of your child alone?
I'll advice you look for another job, since you're very good at what you do, why not start sending applications now; you will definitely get a better place that will appreciate your services.
The Lord is your strength.
"Not"
Delete32,500 half salary
ReplyDelete32,500+32,500 = 65,000 naira
For an MSc holder. Abi no be MSc them they call Masters?
God will punish your boss on behalf of every MSc holder 😟😟😟😟
On behalf of every MSC holder earning peanuts u mean?
Delete@crouching tigress. Exactly! Thank you
DeleteAs in!!!! Msc in Nigeria that is frustrating you will now graduate start earning 65,000k every month while doing the work of 5 people (as she claimes) then one idiot will now slash my salary cos of jealousy or I didn't conform to his religious beliefs? I don't want to even think of it.
DeleteOMG!!!
ReplyDeleteThis is so sad.....
If u can cope till u get something better, then hold on to it but if not u can resign but is not gonna be easy.
Y not ask ur mom to stay with you if she is still alive cos from ur chronicle seems u are a single mom.
All the best.
What is "is not gonna be easy"? Where is the IT? It is not gonna be easy. Learn to punctuate please.
DeletePortable olodo, it's not is, and you are a graduate ba? SMDH
DeleteHeya,sorry!The Lord is your strength.
ReplyDeletePoster, please be managing the money and apply for another job. Once you secure another job leave them. Don't leave it until you get another one, please oooo. Things are hard.
ReplyDeleteBut what of you husband? Is he not assisting you?
Sorry to divert, found out my husband had a girlfriend and I lied on her now he hates her so much, can even harm her. I feel guilty. should I?
ReplyDeleteHuh?
DeleteFeel guilty for wetin? Hian
If he harms her, yes. Convince him to forgive and forget. That way he moves on and you don't have to confess.
Deleteplease open an account with mmm
ReplyDeleteMadam you didn't mention your husband in all these oh! What about him?
ReplyDeleteMust she involve the husband? Just advice her and move on
DeleteDear poster, I won't advise you to stay at home because you have a baby to take care of. What I will is that you continue managing with the job, but talk to God in prayer and report that boss of yours. Trust me, prayer works. You will be surprised at the outcome. All the best
ReplyDeleteThe problem is if you stay home u won't even get that half salary and nobody will pay u for staying at home.
ReplyDeleteI like your comment.
DeletePlease don't stay home oooo,how will you feed?just keep searching for job while on that one,if you stay home how will you survive for two weeks that you even complaining about?
ReplyDeleteDont kwit.....Faya ur nanny. Luk for a beta alternathief for ur shild. Ur murder can help or anoda trus-wordy relathief can.
ReplyDeleteHole onto ur job ontil u ve safed somtin plenty enof to start up somtin. or perharps, gutten a new job.
Were is the farther?
What is murder? What is farther? What rubbish?? Later you will say there's no job. Gutten? Somtin?
Delete@Chikito I can't believe you fell for it. It's a troll looking for attention. Ignore it henceforth.
DeleteHe is getting the attention. Villager keep enjoying yourself nothing do u.
DeleteVillager is a fresh bv but e dun popular pass garri cus of the hilarious manner at which he writes coupled with his ID... Please don't hate, just avoid his comments if you can't deal.
DeleteVillager abeg take it easy oh, see me laughing like a cray somebody
Delete😂😂😂😂😂😂labour union ke Stella? In. In Nigeria? Yu think say na obodo oyibo wey u dey? But that your boss is really mean and I agree with Stella,he has an eye on you but u never noticed or didn't wanna talk bout it. Since there are no jobs out there,just manage n take his name to God,he's a merciful father and he will definitely fight for you.
ReplyDeleteNdo oh..
Get down on your knees and cry unto God, He will provide a better job for you. This is sheer wickedness.Probably he was lusting after you and got angry when you took in.
ReplyDeleteWhat of the father of your child?
ReplyDeleteWhere's your husband or your baby daddy madam? YOUR boss is wicked but I won't advise u to quit ur job oooo half bread is better Dan non. hold dis job and be searching for another. The Lord is your strength!
ReplyDeleteBabe, i noticed you didn't mention a man in ur narrative. Where is he? Meanwhile in life sometimes you have to close one door for several others to open. Leave the job.
ReplyDeleteLeave waiting? Will u be sending her the 17k plus every Month. ? madam like I said before stick to ur job! DON'T change attitude at your work place . keep working like u always do. One day ur boss will have a change of mind or u will get a better job ooooo keep praying.
DeleteSo her life would now depend on a boss who changes his mind 'one day'? Slavery 101
DeleteOsi 17k? You mean 32,500k?
DeleteMadam, stay glued and look for another job fast.
@chickito in her case she gat no choice "I think" .......
DeleteNne u have to manage there and start planning your exit. Don't just stop, dust ur cv and start looking for other places. Please in the interim manage for now. Meanwhile u said nothing about your spouse or baby daddy, is he not helping you out with the bills? Sdk did u say labour union kee, can't u see this is a one man's coy.
ReplyDeleteIf she can get someone to help baby sit for a while at least she will be saving that #15.A relative should assist .
DeletePoster, Sorry for what your Boss is putting you through! Dont worry it is a phase it will surely pass. If you can afford to quit the job; please do with immediate effect!! If you dont have much to fall back on please keep enduring while you look for another job(I pray God provides you with a good one). Also pray to God let God arrest the heart of that you wicked Boss! You testimony is near. Kisees to your little one
ReplyDeleteDidn't see any thing abt a husband, so I'll assume ur a single mum,well,giving ur present situation, I'll advise you to stay put for a while n secretly be applying for another job,its obvious DT ur nt needed in ur present office again
ReplyDeleteYou're the one paying the nanny,buying water and baby food
ReplyDeleteWhat of your husband? You left that part out
You should not be the only working your butt off to fend for your baby if you're married
Why would any man subject his wife to that kind of insults and struggle? I don't just get it.
No you obviously don't. She has purposely not mentioned a man in her narrative. Respect that and proffer more realistic solutions
DeleteMadam this your story sounds incomplete.. I believe something has transpired between you and your boss before now..and u have refused to say what that tin is
ReplyDeleteOh God! It's so unfair. Just like in our school here, from 20k salary to 10k n we av to work in tears from 7.00am to 5.30 pm. It's only God that will save us from wicked bosses. I am fed up with life after all my Bsc and OND and I am earning 10k per month. Such is life! Bu God vindicate us one day.
ReplyDeleteAre you kidding me ? 10 what ?!
DeleteI can't believe this.
10k monthly salary ?
It's better to start doing 'runs' naaa, than that peanut. (I didn't ask you to do it oo). #thinkingaloud
DeleteThat's terrible. Hope you are actively seeking other jobs? Modern day slavery. I bet they are increasing school fees every term.👎
DeleteEven bus conductors make more than #10.Please leave that job and start selling pure water.
DeleteTerribble. Please leave that job its not worth it. Am not working yet but i cannot imagine myself in such slavery. Its better sef you do MMM without stress and earn something better honestly.from there you can save, plan and employ yourself.
DeleteMadam I feel so bad for you but I think you should continue till you get something better but if you can manage while staying at home pls do and take care of your child. It's better you take care of the child yourself that way you will be able to manage what you have while looking for a job
ReplyDeleteTry invest in what so many people and EFFC have been talking about
God will send helper your way dear
Pele. Continue working till you get something better. You have a child now so you can't even afford to be jobless.
ReplyDeleteMehn i am always in awe of working mothers. You guys really rock. Lol me that hates stress I wonder how I will cope when my time comes.😕
Guys pls I have been having serious breakouts and black heads for weeks now. What cream, soap, cleanser or drug can i use. I am really desperate. 😢😢😢
Na wa o. Some people are wicked sha. Madam I think u should continue for nw and search for something else at d same time. Staying at home will only make things worse. God punish dat man.
ReplyDeleteNNE I understand this your situation, I have a friend that work beside my Company same thing is happening to her as am writing this, since she got pregnant hmmm the hatred from her boss is out of this world, I don't jus understand and d said boss has kids ohhh so I don't really get it, though have advise her to resign bcus that is not a place to work, baby brings happiness not sorrow
ReplyDelete@Poster,there was no where you mentioned your husband,are you not married? is your husband not contributing to your welfare? are you a single mother? just wondering why you never mentioned your husband in your write-up. You just have to keep at it while making efforts to get another job,nowadays people don't respect certificates. Stay strong ma'am.
ReplyDeleteMy dear sis, I feel your pain. Keep going and keep praising God in advance for a new and better place. Something similar happened to me. My second baby was born preterm with undeveloped lungs and was always falling ill. I applied for an unpaid leave at my office in August so i could take her for proper treatment. The leave was approved. 16th of August, I lost her and informed my office. They were sympathetic and told me to take the whole of September off as bereavement period. I sent a mail that I wanted to resume after the Sallah break but the insisted that I should stay home all through September. You can imagine my shock when when I got a mail on the 30th of September terminating my employment!
ReplyDeleteTill now they are yet to pay me my one month salary in lieu of notice. My pensions for the period i was with them hasn't been paid, same for PAYE and leave allowance. Just be strong, hold on to God and HE will open new doors for you. It is well with you.
PAYE? Is this company in the U.K.?
DeleteHaha this is pure wickedness nah!The Lord will surprise you sis,just keep holding on.
DeleteNo fear of God again. Smh
DeleteSome companies are just heartless. Hang in there,you shall not only have a better job but be blessed again with another baby. *hugs*
DeleteStaying home without a side income(extra biz) and without ur half salary Is not advisable especially as u have a baby to take care. My 2 cent I dis, continue to manage d half while u hunt for another job, and also think of wat other biz u can do plus ur office work. May help locate u.
ReplyDeleteShe practically works for her nanny.she should quit and take care of her baby mbok.
DeleteMy dear, urs is even better. Where I work, am not paid a dime yet he idiot decides to frustrate himself and not me. I had to leave this morning.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, urs is even better. Where I work, am not paid a dime yet he idiot decides to frustrate himself and not me. I had to leave this morning.
ReplyDeleteChronicles of a CMP staff.
DeleteMy dear, urs is even better. Where I work, am not paid a dime yet he idiot decides to frustrate himself and not me. I had to leave this morning.
ReplyDeleteDEAR POSTER I FELT SAD AFTER READING YOUR CHRONICLE, YOU SEEM TO BE A SINGLE MOM, COS I SAW NOTHING ABOUT HUSBAND, OR IS HE THE TYPE WHO DOES NOT CARTER FOR FAMILY? NNE YOU CANNOT QUIT NOW SINCE YOU HAVE NO JOB AT ALL. I AM SEEING THINGS TOO IN MY WORK PLACE BUT IF I QUIT HOW CAN I COPE TALK MORE OF YOU WITH A BABY? PRAY HARD DEAR AND KEEP APPLYING. IF YOU ARE A SINGLE MUM DO NOT GIVE UP. I REALLY COMMEND YOUR COURAGE BUT E NO EASY, I FOUND MYSELF IN SUCH SHOES AND COULD NOT HELP BUT ASK MYSELF WHETHER IT IS MY MEAGRE SALARY I WOULD USE TO CARTER FOR A BABY SINCE THE KIND MAN THAT PUT ME TO IT WAS ALREADY TALKING TERMINATION AND COULD NOT EVEN PROVIDE COMMON SCAN MONEY. AS GOD WOULD HAVE IT I WAS SCANNED AND IT WAS A MISCARRIAGE. HOLD ON DEAR AND DONT GIVE UP, THAT CHILD WOULD BE A SOURCE OF ETERNAL JOY TO YOU. DO NOT QUIT BUT KEEP APPLYING. BY GOD'S GRACE A BETTER JOB WOULD COME. MUCH LOVE.
ReplyDeleteDo you know you can be sued for writing in CAPS?
DeleteYou see its this mentality of holding on because of what's (not) out there that causes some things.
DeleteDear Bv Babyblu, May God answer your prayers...but ehn How come you left the father of the child, his family, your family and friends out of your epistle? When it comes to having a baby, there is usually someone willing to help except you fell from heaven yourself.
ReplyDeleteWell, as for your "Oga Boss", do not resign yet, i think he is only trying to pay you according to his budget for the staff, by paying you half your salary for 6months and at the end of the day, he didnt bear your maternity expenses #justmythinking
And please, think of other ways of making money asides your salary. Why bring a baby to this world to suffer???
Your case is good. My own boss has outrightly asked me to resign and cos of job scarcity I pleaded for leave of which he agreed to a leave without pay. Plus for this month which is compulsorily my last even though I'm just 5 months gone and was.willing to work till I'm 8 months pregnant, I'm not getting paid. But just so to prove I'm willing to retain my job and have hope of fending for myself and baby after delivery I accepted. Yes I'm married but I believed I had to support my man as heaping everything on him in these times was unfair. Now I'm left with no choice but cry day and night!... I believe God is not asleep though.
ReplyDeleteYour case is good. My own boss has outrightly asked me to resign and cos of job scarcity I pleaded for leave of which he agreed to a leave without pay. Plus for this month which is compulsorily my last even though I'm just 5 months gone and was.willing to work till I'm 8 months pregnant, I'm not getting paid. But just so to prove I'm willing to retain my job and have hope of fending for myself and baby after delivery I accepted. Yes I'm married but I believed I had to support my man as heaping everything on him in these times was unfair. Now I'm left with no choice but cry day and night!... I believe God is not asleep though.
ReplyDeleteIt's well
DeleteWhere is your 'horseband 'kwanu?
ReplyDeleteDEAR POSTER I FELT SAD AFTER READING YOUR CHRONICLE, YOU SEEM TO BE A SINGLE MOM, COS I SAW NOTHING ABOUT HUSBAND, OR IS HE THE TYPE WHO DOES NOT CARTER FOR FAMILY? NNE YOU CANNOT QUIT NOW SINCE YOU HAVE NO JOB AT ALL. I AM SEEING THINGS TOO IN MY WORK PLACE BUT IF I QUIT HOW CAN I COPE TALK MORE OF YOU WITH A BABY? PRAY HARD DEAR AND KEEP APPLYING. IF YOU ARE A SINGLE MUM DO NOT GIVE UP. I REALLY COMMEND YOUR COURAGE BUT E NO EASY, I FOUND MYSELF IN SUCH SHOES AND COULD NOT HELP BUT ASK MYSELF WHETHER IT IS MY MEAGRE SALARY I WOULD USE TO CARTER FOR A BABY SINCE THE KIND MAN THAT PUT ME TO IT WAS ALREADY TALKING TERMINATION AND COULD NOT EVEN PROVIDE COMMON SCAN MONEY. AS GOD WOULD HAVE IT I WAS SCANNED AND IT WAS A MISCARRIAGE. HOLD ON DEAR AND DONT GIVE UP, THAT CHILD WOULD BE A SOURCE OF ETERNAL JOY TO YOU. DO NOT QUIT BUT KEEP APPLYING. BY GOD'S GRACE A BETTER JOB WOULD COME. MUCH LOVE.
ReplyDeleteLol @ Jealous Fool.
ReplyDeleteLol @ Jealous Fool.
ReplyDeleteMadam call d father of ur baby. He should be the one taking care of all these Nanny ,Pampers and baby food money.
ReplyDeleteWhen them tell una not to follow useless men,una no go hear ,una go dey do useless shameless love. Now e don happen
Chronicle of a Baby Mama...
ReplyDeleteLater in future the man will come and be claiming "it's my son/daugthter" when the child must have been made through hardship, sacrifice and perseverance of the mother; now he's nowhere to be found not even in the chronicle.
#Selah
Half bread is better than none, while u are at ur current job, start looking for other alternative.
ReplyDeletePoster what sort of man did u have a baby for? Is he not a comfortable guy? How come ur suffering this much when u guys can at least share bills?ur boss is wicked sha
DeleteMy dear, I will advice u 2 take dis advice of mine. Resign honourably. Then, take the next month to pray, fast & job hunt fully. I promise u, u will get another. Even if u didn't get within a month, u will live better and happier. The fear of d unknowN is why you are still there. Don't settle for less than u. For every child God gives u, He (God) provides resources for their upkeep. All u need do is trust God and ask. You and ur baby won't die of hunger before God makes a way. Just trust God and resign.
ReplyDeleteNawa ooo! Poster,your boss is just being unnecessarily wicked and veryyy insensitive! I honestly won't advice you to leave the work at hand at the moment cos it's damn tough out there as in unemployment is REAL. Just be on the look out while still holding unto that one. I believe God will provide a better one in no time ok. He sees and hears! Pele
ReplyDeleteQueen and boss why are you so insensitive?
ReplyDeleteYou just open dt gutter mouth of urs n spew nonsence.
Why cnt you be reasonable for once?
Honestly i pity you cos one day you will experience great loss and no one will sympathise with you.
U tink people will admire your foolishness.
God will punish you.
Ashawo that parades herself as a married woman.
Queen is right. Even if the baby's daddy is an oloriburuku, his family cannot abandon their grand child. Why are you pained? Are you the poster?
DeleteSometimes some people need hard truth biko.
DeleteDon't leave d job yet until u get another one.Then talk to ur Nanny to reduce her price to 10k.If she does not agree,look for another person to do the Job.Then Take the name of those ur Chairman,Bosses to MFM for Prayers and see hw God will help u to fight them.They will call u and beg u and pay u ur arrears,then increase ur salary.
ReplyDeleteBaby blu its well wit u.
ReplyDeletePls n pls dnt resign.half is beta dan none for d sake of ur baby.
Wateva ur boss's prob is,let God fight for u.
U wil be just fine.
Madam why do I feel there's more to dis story? Seems your married boss is the father of your child. Why did he pick on you alone? What did you do wrong? Dont you have family members?Where is your husband/baby daddy? Hope you didn't give birth for some woman's husband. Why did you have unprotected sex when u can't bare the burden. If I where you I'd stay put while looking for a better job. Millions out there will take the offer without delay...if innocent God will bring help your way.
ReplyDeleteWell, I'm speechless can't say anything cos the other party might have his reasons...but pls take this advice from a job seeker,be patient till u get another job. It will surely pass OK.
ReplyDeleteGod will lead you through
ReplyDeleteReading comments from some BVs show there is little indepth thinking before writing. Dear BV, your Boss does not have any eyes for you, as being insinuated by some BVs. Your Boss may have high regards and expectations of you and may be very disappointed with you - that you got pregnant out of wedlock! People are morally wired differently - if he didn't maltreat you pre-pregnancy, why did he suddenly change? My opinion (I may be wrong), is based on my personality and character traits - as I tend to behave same way towards subordinates, whether male or female. I get very disappointed with youths with great potentials, when they "misbehave" (you rightly stated that you are hardworking and I am very sure he knows and appreciates your work attitude and output. But the pregnancy had reversed his opinion of you). However, I always try to have a heart-to-heart session with them to get more information on why they misbehaved, before jumping to conclusions. Thereafter I may counsel and advise them on the way forward. I will advise she schedules an appointment to meet with the Boss and explain the challenges she is currently going through.
ReplyDeleteLooooool. So you are saying that he slashed her salary in half cos he was disappointed in her? He is disappointed in her so he decided to punish her and the baby? Do you know that his decision might eventually lead her to being homeless? How does slashing her salary change anything? She's still doing the work she was doing before she got pregnant so what's the problem? "If he didnt maltreat you pre-pregnancy why did he suddenly change?" Errrr she didnt make the baby herself, meaning there is a man in her life so no hope for him. Your believe that he slashed her salary as a result of disappointment doesn't make any more sense than the Jealous Boss hypothesis. From your write up I can tell you are a man who has "youths (young women)" under his wings. Pls what they do during their personal time isn't any of your business. Everyone hates a nosy boss. They just can't tell you.
DeleteAnon I thought so too. Honestly I did
DeletePlease continue working there for the sake of your child. Quitting without a backup plan is not the answer because you have a child to take care of. Take it to God in prayer. Beg your immediate boss to intercede on your behalf. It will be well sis
ReplyDeleteRegister MMM with 50k, you will get 75k, use the 50k subsequently to get 65k and substitute the salary for the mean time. That's what I do for my sisters. Get people under you as well, so you can get referral bonuses. It will end in praise. Those asking about her husband or baby father, if she left it out, then it's for a reason.
ReplyDeleteShe must have been fucking her boss and now the boss has lost respect for her. They write chronicle without telling the whole truth. Her boss has moved on to some1 else.
ReplyDeleteDon't resign yet dear. I think the company are trying to recover for paying you for the three months you were on maternity leave. May be they later revisited that they shouldn't have paid you. I will advise you to wait till you get your 4th month salary before you resign. If at the 4th month they pay you same, then know there is a real problem. You can then take the advice from most BV. But for now, apply to other places and wait till they pay the 4th month salary. HOPE YOU TAKE THIS ADVICE.
ReplyDeleteFor your baby, you don't have a sister or your mother is not available to look after your baby, so you can mangage the half salary?
I know you chose to ignore the father of the baby for a reason, but you can tell him too what you face or better still send him this link. He might be of help till everything is ok. But moreover you earn only 65k. Chaii Nigeria is fucked. People are suffering.
Be on the look out for other jobs while you still manage there.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteAnon 15:58 i feel your pain. Sorry about the passing of your little baby. Dont worry God will comfort you and put back the smile on you Amen.
ReplyDeleteTry and look for something to do.
Nigerians are the most wicked , heartless ppl I've ever met in my life . Awful lots. Tuehhhhh.
ReplyDeleteHow many people from other countries have you met in your life? Tuehhhh your own!
Delete@anon 20:17 lmaooooooo
DeleteDon't mind all these people that are saying resign o, they will not help you in any way to get another job or give you money, they are just sitting in the comfort of their homes/cars/offices saying resign, please start applying in other places without resigning, get another job first, then you can find a creche that is cheaper instead of personal nanny, you might even find less than 10k place, so you can save more money, also intensify your prayers that God should provide a better job so you can live peacefully and comfortably, please get another job first before resigning, I beg you in the name of God, these same people that are shouting resign are the people that will insult you that half a loaf is better than none when you send another chronicle that you can't even buy formula for your baby because you reisgned your job.
ReplyDeleteIts really sad to hear this story. Please dont quit yet. Sometimes a little more perservance is all you need. Try to reduce your costs- possible nanny share with another couple, car share with colleagues, wean your baby early, etc. I know it may not be easy but I know God is a very fair judge. Please lay all your worries, fears to him. He will fight for you(prayers of restoration). He has done it for me time and time again. ehugs for me xx
ReplyDelete@anonymous 18:59, honestly we are very wicked.
ReplyDeleteWickedness in families,
Wickedness in church,
At work oh, in organizations..
Wickedness among friends, best friends, pastors, employees, in laws etc
All envy, bitterness, frustration, competition. Even in marriages and relationships, so much wickedness.
No love and kindness at all.
May God save our souls.
Na you come good abi? Wicked Anons cussing people out day and night.
DeleteSome of you ask extremely stewpid questions.
ReplyDelete"Where is the father of the child, where are her relatives, where are her ancestors", obviously if they were any help, she wouldn't have picked up her slippers and run to strangers for advice??? Duh!!!
Do you have a job for her?
Can you link her to someone who does?
You ask her to pick up her Bible and pray? What if she is a tree worshiper?
What will happen when she opens her Bible? Jesus will sprout from Leveticus with a hamper and envelope filled with gold abi?
Idiots.
3rd world thinking, 3rd world people.
Poster, don't know what your skills are, but if I have any good leads will let you know.
Some of you ask extremely stewpid questions.
ReplyDelete"Where is the father of the child, where are her relatives, where are her ancestors", obviously if they were any help, she wouldn't have picked up her slippers and run to strangers for advice??? Duh!!!
Do you have a job for her?
Can you link her to someone who does?
You ask her to pick up her Bible and pray? What if she is a tree worshiper?
What will happen when she opens her Bible? Jesus will sprout from Leveticus with a hamper and envelope filled with gold abi?
Idiots.
3rd world thinking, 3rd world people.
Poster, don't know what your skills are, but if I have any good leads will let you know.
pls this goes out to the lady that calls herself the queen and boss of someone else's blog..all i have to tell you is that the earlier you watch what you say to people,the better for you. you don't come in public and talk senselessly.please if you know you cant contribute positively to people's lives please stay clear from them.from the story heard so far,i don't think she did anything wrong,for her to post her story,all she needs from you is to suggest and advice and not to talk her down.from all ramification,whoever the boss is doesn't have a heart and its very glaring.and am very sure if you were in the position of the so-called boss you do worse than that because you sound so cruel...if you have a problem with my comment and can stand me contact me directly lets dig it out...RUBBISH!!!!
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