An Ado-Ekiti Customary Court on Thursday dissolved a 12-year-old marriage between a man, Julius Ajala and his wife, Kemi, citing wife’s abandonment and irresponsibility.
Ajala, 54, who resides at Odo Orobo area of Ado Ekiti, had approached the court to dissolve the marriage for irreconcilable differences him and the estranged wife.
“My wife is a night crawler, she will leave the house at 4.00 p.m. and come back 11.00 p.m.almost everyday.
“She is stubborn and disobedient,’ said the father of two.
He accused the woman of leaving the house since September 2015 with their two children and urged the court to dissolve the union.
He, however, urged court to award the custody of the two children of ages seven and 10 to him.
The President of the Court, Mrs Olayinka Akomolede, remarked that the respondent appeared only twice throughout the proceedings and later stopped coming to the court.
She said it was evident during the petitioner’s testimony that he had a stable job and was capable of taking care of the children.
Akomolede, who noted that the marriage had broken down irretrievably,dissolved the marriage
She ruled that the custody of the two children should be awarded to the petitioner (the ex-husband).
She, however, directed that the woman should be granted access to children on notification. (NAN)
4-11pm?I thought night crawling was till day breaks?..The way all these Judges are just dissolving marriages eh,na wah
Is oraiii.. Lord have mercy.
ReplyDeleteI need a role model marriage.
Where did love go to.
Jeez!!! Taking a child from the mother is a No No.
DeleteCouldn't the father pay for child support and have visitations???
Orishirishi.....the woman is irresponsible, the did the right thing by taking her child away before she breeds another prostitute
DeleteTaking away a child from a mother on grounds other than mental incapability to protect, nurse and love the child is wrong. A lot of single mothers scarcely gets by and would rather have the last piece of clothing over them sold for food, survival, than have their children taken away.
ReplyDeleteA well paying job does not translate to a fit parent and a late home coming parent does not necessarily translate to a bad parent.
No court will grant the custody of a child to an irresponsible parent. A married woman that leaves her home by 4 p.m and comes back by 11 p.m. on a daily basis without her husband's consent is wayward. Gbam!!!
DeleteMy thoughts exactly. ..
DeleteI agree with you. She just might be trying to get legitimate income.
DeleteBut why she failed to show up in court, especially to fight for her children beats me.
The judge had every right to give the man custody, since the woman doesn't deem the kids important enough to attend court hearings.
DeletePlus a night crawler is a bad example of a mother, except of course, it's for work.
Stellastico you have moved to Ado Ekiti hehehehe
ReplyDeleteLols@ Chidinma, at least not igando today
DeleteTrue talk Igando people will rest.
DeleteWhy is the woman night crawling na?
Yes na. Whats the point of keeping 2 unwilling people together?
ReplyDeleteI wonder
DeleteI'm not suprised...
ReplyDeleteThese people don't like staying with one woman!...
It's in their blood mehn...
Always giving a stupid excuse not to stay in a marriage...
You are goat queen and evil of Stella's blog.stupud tribalistic fool.its shows the kind of mentality you have,it's obvious you weren't brought up well.owu Iya gbön ni ómó ran.
DeleteLinda, if your kids need help with their homework,what do you do? The energy you expend in hating a tribe should be judiciously used to improve yourself.
DeleteA fool has no delight in understanding, but in expressing his(her) own heart. Prov 18:2
DeleteA fool's lips enter into contention, and his(her) mouth calls for blows.
DeleteA fool's mouth is his(her) destruction,
And his(her) lips are the snare of his(her) soul.
Prov 18:6-7
Anon 09:24,
DeleteIt's not linda-s fault o. Remember this blog has a moderator but it appears the moderator is a psycho just like Linda. She looks forward to her comments hence why she will not do anything about the evil you talked about.
Its well oo no more till death do us part again ooo
ReplyDeleteFrom Igando to Ado!
ReplyDeleteKikikikikikikiki
I think The woman is guilty..no remorse. The way marriages are crashing this days.. one has to be prayerful when getting into one.
ReplyDeleteThe man is accusing her wrongly now. That is not night crawling abeg. I feel like I'm getting old. Can't stay up beyond 12.00am. I remember the days we would party till 4am and still show up for a 7am lecture wide eyed.
ReplyDelete.... But the woman refuse to appear in court to defend herself.
DeleteThe man is accusing her wrongly now. That is not night crawling abeg. I feel like I'm getting old. Can't stay up beyond 12.00am. I remember the days we would party till 4am and still show up for a 7am lecture wide eyed.
ReplyDeleteHow's d man accusing her wrongly? Why didn't she show up to defend herself. Except, she's indisposed, her lack of appearance indicates she's guilty.
DeleteSDK, why 'ld a responsible wife leave her hme btw d hours of 4p:m - 11:00p.m efridy wen she's suppose 2 b at hme 2 receive d children. Put dem tru dia hmewrk nd prepare food 4 d fmily. Mrs Korkus check am nw, her attitude no jelly at all.
ReplyDeleteThese people loves parties too much, that is why majority of them are having crashed marraiges.
ReplyDeleteThem no dey take eyes and ears hear owambe.
Their Anons are coming after you. Hehehehe
DeleteStella coming home at that time as a mother is so wrong. Queen and boss what is it with u and yoruba people?
ReplyDeleteNot just for a mother. My ex comes back home 12am every night.He is self employed and will just stay at a bar to entertain friends and his women. What example will he give his children? I had no option but to leave his cheating ass .
DeleteEvery Saturday, people are excited to be getting married, all loved up and dancing happily...yet every single day there's 1 case of divorce or another, what happened to the love they shared, what happened to the promise they made to each other, you see couples fighting and hating themselves, did they suddenly forget they were once in love???
ReplyDeleteIt will end in praise!
A waka-about mother can not take care of her children. The judge did good by awarding the custody of the children to their father, my only problem is; if the man will not later abandon the children when/if he finds another woman.
ReplyDeleteMost women maltreats their step-kids. I just hope he dedicates his time and care to them.
Since the woman like to waka-about, she should continue.
Millions of marriages are surviving, so, don't look at the few ones that is being announced daily by blogs and social medias. Yours will definitely survive if you make Christ the head and foundation of your home.
True word, well spoken.
DeleteFrom a matured one.
who would blame her when she is an END TIME MRS AJALA.
ReplyDeleteLol
I don't understand y a judge will give custody to the husband, even if she does not have a job the court should make the man pay allowance to the children as long as she is mentally fit and not on drugs.
ReplyDeletePerson comot for house 4pm and came back 11pm,what is the night crawling in that?some men will come up with any excuse to bad mouth their wife once they found a new woman that is shacking them.msweeewwwwww,the judge should sha make this man pay for child maintenance.
ReplyDeleteMaintenance ke? Abeg read well and apply your common sense
DeleteThe woman is not smart, instead of giving the man sleeping tablet and her runs between 11pm till 4am.. Theres nothing compared to feeling a new skin every night if possible...
ReplyDeleteChai!!! Ndi uwa!!!
DeleteKontinue until you jam one with HIV. Whatever happens outside your home after 9pm is evil.
Delete4pm till 11pm?
ReplyDeleteWhere does she go to?
Na wa oo all this failed marriages self e don too much na! My marriage go last by God's grace amen
ReplyDeleteFrom Igando to Ado-Ekiti.
ReplyDeleteOK naah
D nigerian legal system has its rules n procedures.in nigeria d courts cannot give u wat u did nt ask for.
ReplyDeleteIt wud appear dt those who r askin dt d custody of d children be given to d woman r cryin more dan d bereaved.
Do they even kno weda ds woman wit her nite crawlin ways wud prefare nt to be wit d children?or do they want ds woman to be carryin ds children around in her night crawlin escapades.
People shud learn to face d realities n check their emotions.d law has little or no place for emotions.
If d woman was interested in d children she wud ve gone to court to ask for custody of d children n even den d judge wud ve stil had to balance d interest of al d parties concerned before he can grant custody to either of d parties.
I can imagine the kinda drama going on in those places..
ReplyDeleteIgando, Ado-Ekiti, Orile, etc
Linda what is your problem exactly?
ReplyDeleteIt's obvious you lack home training. Do you think with your brain at all?
And this is what you teach your kids???
At least if you are not educated, pretend to be.
If Yoruba's don't stay in marriages? is it ur marriage ???
Are u not ashamed of ur self?the queen u are attacking all d time no send u.she dnt even notice ur existence.tueh
DeleteI am here to stay.thank goodness I have gotten my id back.
ReplyDeleteLoveme jeje.
ReplyDeleteIt is that hate that will kill you. That is why u will never come across helpers and keep begging from ppl on stella's blog.
Stells, it's a customary court and the grounds for dissolution of marriage are minimal unlike at the high court. Dissolving a traditional marriage is very easy, especially where both parties are willing to be divorced. It's not the fault of the courts. They are only entertaining divorce petitions filed by various petitioners. It's not like the courts hijack couples and dissolve their marriages randomly.
ReplyDeleteYou have no idea what it feels like to be legally bound to someone you want nothing to do with anymore, especially where there has already been separation for over 6months.
The "night crawling" is merely one of the reasons and not the only or major reason for the petition. Remember the court held that the respondent, the wife, now ex-wife, appeared in court twice then stopped coming. That in itself is a statement that she really doesn't care much about her marriage. So why should the court be more Catholic than the Pope?
Ordinarily, a traditional marriage can be dissolved by returning the bride price to family of the husband. But there are cases where it gets more technical, like where children are involved and custody is one of the issues. In such cases, it's imperative to file a petition for dissolution of marriage at a customary court. If the marriage was contracted under the Act, i.e Registry or Church licenced to wed couples, the petition must be filed at the High Court and the divorce proceedings are usually brutal. High Courts are reluctant to dissolve marriages so the requirements are higher and the petitioner must prove that the marriage has broken down irretrievably or else the court wouldn't grant the petition.
Insightful.
DeleteRonalda, are you married? I want a woman like you please.
DeleteVery irresponsible wife and mother. Good ruling Your Honour!
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