NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
BETRAYED...
BETRAYED...
Good Day Stella,
I love your blog like kilode, more grace and God bless you!
I love your blog like kilode, more grace and God bless you!
I never wanted to say this but it's been bothering me because I don't know if am doing the right thing. I decided to write you because of what I read on your blog about the lady who told her friend about her business plans but stole her ideas... Pardon my long story ooo abeg!
Now here's mine: I have this good friend of mine I trust so much because she was so nice, understands me so well and I love her so much that I can do
anything for her and her family. We support each other in different ways, been there for each other and her kids holiday in my house.
anything for her and her family. We support each other in different ways, been there for each other and her kids holiday in my house.
We are both married.
After I got married, I began TTC but to no avail, she became worried and was running around for me trying to help so I could have my own child until she suggested I visit a gynaecology who confirmed I had fibroid so I told her and we started thinking of what to do next. After sometime, I began to notice body movements from her other friends but I just ignored it until her sister in-law told me that my friend told her I had fibroid hence my inability to conceive.
Stella, I was so confused and felt betrayed that my friend could reveal such secret to another person so I avoided her somehow and stopped visiting her although she noticed my changed behavior and tried asking if she did anything wrong but I didn't tell her.
Our friendship is no longer the way it used to be because I feel she was pretending to be a good friend. If she was good, she wouldn't have revealed my health issues with anyone. I feel she's mocking me and happy with my situation.
Should I ask her or just forget and let go and don't tell her anything about myself anymore ( I've stopped telling her) or just avoid her?
Thank you..... Anyway, I later had a surgery which she's unaware of till date and please put me in your prayers. I am still TTC, I will testify soon.
Love you guys!
Love you guys!
Please Stella, I need your red pen and comments from other BVs.
Since it hurts so much then ask her but then STOP telling her anything that has to do with you or your life.I pray that God grants you your heart's desires soon.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
CAUGHT IN THE ACT BY THE KIDS
Please i need serious advice and i need this to be posted as soon as possible because i really do not know how to handle this.
So we leave in our personal house ,a three bed room apartment.Dh and i in one,kids (girl 8 and boy 2) have one and one for visitors but dh doesnt like the idea of kids sleeping in their room so they sleep with us. Before we do begin any show,we must make sure they are fast asleep but it seems our daughter is smarter or she monitors us .....
Apart from any other occurences, let me focus on what happened recently. On Monday which was public hols,i woke up quite early to do some laundry.
Immediately i put the clothes into the machine in the bathroom,i saw someone grab me from behind turned,and saw it was hubby,he wanted us to gbensh but i warned him kids might be awake and even the sound of the machine might have woken them but he was so hard that he couldnt take no for an answer so we decided to go into the guest room and we had the show.
As oga was about to "land" see heavy banging on the door then he shouted whos there?but no answer so he came and i came out first to go check on my clothes being washed.I saw my daughters face ,she was so angry and looked at me with hatred and disgust mixed together.Hubby came out and she had same look.i wanted to speak with her but hubby said i shouldnt put so much effort into it because she might take it too important that she doesnt know what shes doing so i chilled and she actually forgot after a while (so i thought)
my people the worst have happened o. kids were sleeping and dh and i were watching a movie in the sitting room.we went into the room at about 1am.He was on heat again and wanted to gbensh i made small shakara and gave in thinking my madam was sleeping.
The sex was so hot,we did many acrobatic and we couldnt hold ourself.when i had the big "O",i nearly brought down the roof when hubby came,he was really vibrating.
so when we were done,he went into the bath room and i laid to rest before he comes out and my hand mistakenly touched my madam see the way she flung my hand and shifted far chaii, to say i was/am embarrassed is an understatement. Dh came and i signalled him(the room was dark) he just signalled me that i should relax.So i went to the bathroom and latter came to sleep.
Hubby left for an appointment early this morning and i am left with weather to call her and explain things to her or just "relax" no i didnt go to work today and kids do not have school today either.
She has been acting up since morning and throwing ever errand i send her on my face.
my people pardon my gbagauns in this write up and help a sister. should i tell her that was how i had her brother?and now that she needs a sister shes being disturbing me over thats how i am going to have her?
Stella please i need you to post this asap o
Thanks
This story so messed up that i am reading it with my mouth open...WTF,you make love with your kids liying on the bed near you...OMG OMG OMG
I am so lost for words.
Kronicles ti de
ReplyDelete@ poster two;your daughter Has been hearing a lot of things outside the home regarding "That act"..and she is actually acting up because of what "she thinks" Mummy and Daddy are doing when she caught you both in the act..
DeleteYou need to clear the doubts of whatever she has been hearing out there,and you can do it by getting her favorite toy or biscuit for her;then when she is on it;you now ask her what has been going on with her moody self lately..
Just don't worry about her telling a lie to you;but the fact remains that you would know exactly what is actually up there in her head before you start driving to conclusions..
When I was six myself;i could remember all what we were taught at Sunday school concerning "touch touch with our fellow kids" and making heaven (lol)..so you can imagine how I would feel if I had caught my parents on the act; even tho it was suppose to be a normal act between them(my parents)..
Just talk to your daughter and if she says anything regarding the act;give her some sexual education according to her age,then tell her the act is strictly between "Mummy and Daddy" cos that's how God made it,and that after that proposed act,the baby girl she needs would be born(then smile to her and cuddle her at this point)...also tell her not to allow anyone try it on her until she is up to mummy's age..
Please mind the words you use with her alldsame;and next time kindly look for somewhere else to make love with your hubby at an appropriate odd hour(that is if the kids have to be in your room)..
Please @poster;that girl is just not a kid anymore and she needs to be getting appropriate sexual education from you..cos I can guess she doesn't know how to flow with her mum hence her action towards this act..
#Goodluck
@MARTINS ABOY
Can some1 use her Facebook ID to comment on this blog?
DeleteP1, if asking your friend why she carry your matter upandan like gala seller will free you please do so but severe your relationship with her kpatakpata.
DeleteP2, you may not know the harm you are doing to that your girl until she grows up to be a runs girl. Why on earth will you and your hubby sleep with your kids when you aren't living in one room? You guys know that you lack control when in gbenshing mood yet you still do it carelessly? Mek una kontinuu!
Poster 2,if only u were near me,I wld land u a slap! Re u for real? How dare u subject ur child to such nonsense? U and ur husband re a bunch of messed up beings. U hv no morals whatsoever even as parents so what do u intend teaching such a young child morally? Silly beings!
DeletePoster 2,if only u were near me,I wld land u a slap! Re u for real? How dare u subject ur child to such nonsense? U and ur husband re a bunch of messed up beings. U hv no morals whatsoever even as parents so what do u intend teaching such a young child morally? Silly beings!
DeleteWoW....sex in front of your kids?
DeleteWhat kind of animal are you two ?
Poster two. You have to talk to her do not let this slide, she must hv tlked abt it with friends at sch, she might be justb a child bt who knws wat the society has installed in her. She is ur first child n also a daughter bt she should be ur best friend. Wen she returns from sch, call her to help with cooking n while that is going on, talk to her, ask her wat she saw, n tell her wat it means. She might to completely understand bt atleast she wont be repulsed by u guys anymore. And please they should stop sleeping in the room with u guys please!!!!
DeleteI want to even add,do u n ur hubby kiss in their presence? Or do u pretend till they r out of sight? Try showing them on a few occasion that u n daddy mkout sometimes, im sure if she was used to seeing that she wont hate u so much.
Infact i dont knw wat to say, this is insane. Just play it cool n under no circumstance should u completely pretend it didnt happen or that she doesnt knw. Bcos she does n with time she will forget.
Poster one, dont loose contact with her completely bt be careful wat u tld her. I will not advise u to bring up the issue of wat she did, bcos if u do, she will apologise n then ask howfar with it n u will be tempted to tell her or lie abt it, bt to avoid such a scenario, be cool with her bt be very observant.
My thoughts exactly why will you subject your kids to such they have own room they are grown and can sleep by themselves since you and hubby are always on heat. Not cool madam please take it easy
DeleteI bet the wasn't the first time she has seen u guys doing it, u need to caution yrslef woman, if Oyibo people can keep two months old baby in their own room and monitor them with baby-monitor ,why then did u alone an adult to sleep in the same room,8yrs nor be small pickin again naa, why is Nigeria parenting that weak?
DeletePoster 2,your children are not too young to sleep in their own room. Don't make her start experimenting with other kids
DeletePoster one, pls who needs enemies with friends like u! A lady tries to help u n u turn her good deeeds yo evil. Pls madam she is not the cause of ur problems
DeleteMartins,you are filled with wisdom,Bravo
DeletePoster pls mk me understand. Ure sleeping in d same room with 8yr old? On d same bed or wat? So u make luv with ur kids lying vlose 2 u? Ure a disgrace 2 parenthood i swear. Ure psychologically destroying ur daughter n i pity u. Pls note dat just cos d li2 boy aint giving u attitude doesnt mean hes not also catching up. Soon incest will take over. Ur kids will soon b doing wat mummy n daddy does. Rubbish n annoying chronicle.
DeletePoster 1: confront ur friend n gv her space i personally cant deal with people who sont know how 2 briddle their tongue. She might not b mocking u believe me. She might even at out pity n seeking solution ve mentioned it so tell her how u feel abt it n keep ur secret 2 ursef.
As small as my two kids,we can't do anything in their presence.u just have to talk to her,ask her questions. Make her to feel free so that u can get enough info. What happened to see education? She's a big gal, no doubt d things she might have seen or heard in school or anywhere
DeleteI don't understand why you and hubby are making love on same bed where your kids are.
DeleteShe might have heard having sex is bad, let her know only married people can have sex.
Please stop having sex in their presence.
Poster 2!.. you and your hubby need your heads examin. WHAT ARE YOU BOTH THINKING?...Firstly move the children to their rooms. Then start sex education with your girl, and try and see if you can see a child psychologist(to work into her mind). This is because she much have cut you both several times and her mind and head will be having mixed feelings towards you her parents,that surpose to be protecting her against this kind of situation. Act fast before it gets out of hand.
DeleteWhat is the world coming to? Poster 2, you are really stupid. The fact that your husband doesn't even care makes me wonder if he gets off by having sex in front of those kids.
DeleteSome people are just not meant to be parents. Why can't an 8 years old and a 2 years old sleep on their own? Keep scaring those children. Clueless fools.
N1, pls keep to urself for now. N2, see gobe!
ReplyDeleteWho else doesn't read the first paragraph in each chronicle where they are hailing stella. I jst scan thru and find the beginning of the story. Lol.
DeletePoster 1, has ur friend betrayed u before?. If yes, avoid her, if No, then tell her about what she did. It might not be that she discussed you with pple, maybe she was jst looking for a solution to ur problem. Talk to her about it and learn to be discrete abt most things.
Poster 2, how dare u have sex in the same room where ur kids sleep? Madam I blame u for this, If husband doesn't see anything wrong in it, cudnt u have had a rethink? Whether ur daughter is 3 or 8, It so wrong. Tomorrow now when she starts talking abt sex, u begin to blame her frnds or other pple for teaching her what sex is. I am soo pissed with u. I dnt have advice for u. I jst wonder what is going on thru that girls mind.
U better stop the act, can't u take a stand infront of ur horseband? Now he's left u alone to bear her anger.
Both of u shud talk to her, dnt do the talking alone. U both shud talk to her together.
I concur.
DeleteI start from the second paragraph.
Poster 2, let's say ur daughter came to u and said she saw her aunt(maybe u younger sister) with a man(maybe her boyfrnd) doing sumtin(ur daughter trying to describe sex to u),in the room while she was there in the same room and they didn't even bother about her presence cos ofcourse she's jst a baby. Now picture this story, how wud u feel or react on hearing this?
DeleteAm sure u will scold ur sister and shout and get angry with her for having sex in the same room that ur kids were sleeping.
OK madam, now do same thing to urslf.
@baby oku, me🙌.
DeletePoster 2 your husband and yourself are a mess.
ReplyDeleteWhy are you subjecting a child to such a thing as watching you make love.
Why should a child see that when you should even be protecting her from it on TV.
You are bother disgusting and I'm glad to tell you.
Stop that act, don't you dare explain to an 8 year old the method you used in conceiving her and her kid brother. Of what use is that info.
Your husband needs to grow up and stop acting like a wild animal towards you and the kids.
Take your kids back to their room and respect yourselves from now on.
You don't live in one bedroom, stop abusing that poor child's eyes and imagination.
That's a terrible thing to do.
Poster 1 she probably wanted to assist or get solution from the other person by sharing. Instead of holding a grudge without her knowing tell her and keep your problems to yourself afterwards.
May God bless you with your heart desire soon.
No be small wide animal, a very randy dog
Delete*both disgusting.
DeleteI second ur thoughts on poster 1, I feel ur friend was trying to help find solution to ur fibroid issue so she decided to make enquiries from people. Just unfortunate she had to reveal that it was you with fibroid, take heart and forgive her but be careful with what you tell her.
DeletePoster 1: confront your friend and tell her how you feel. That her sister inlaw na basketmouth.
DeletePoster 2: you and your husband are crazy and need to be arrested! Why subject chil children to such? They have their own room,why not move them there when you wanna have s3x? I dont get it. Im just pissed off! You need to apologise to her. Haba!
Advice of life...
DeleteNa so one small girl for my area take spoil. She went about telling guys in our area "to do her what daddy used to do to her mummy" Hmmmmm. She was about 10 or 11 at the time and they lived in one room.. Trust guys na, they showed her!
DeleteMadam pls relocate them to their room and be very observant.
Move them there when they want to have sex? Why are the children sleeping with them in the first place when its not as if they don't have extra rooms in the house? This is so wrong on every level. Those kids are old enough to sleep on their own and too old to be sleeping with you in your room on the same bed. Move them to their room asap and also consider having the bees and birds talk with your daughter soon since you've already subjected her to this so early. A word is enough for the wise.
DeletePoster 2, I hope your daughter doesn't have "oedipus" syndrome (hope I got the spelling correct) . Please make sure your horseband isn't sleeping with your daughter. Children will feel disgusted with their parents going about such acts to their notice but not be angry about it. And your "dh" shouldn't be comfortable having sex with his kids in the room, when they can be in theirs, almost on a daily. Dear poster, please be very careful how you handle this, I wish you all the best.
DeleteWell said, poster 2 I'm disappointed in you,as a mother how can you have sex and get carried away while your kids,are in the same room very bad. If it were to be here by now they would have taken your children in to care because I'm sure she will mention it to her friends and teacher in school. Please tidy up the kids room. let them sleep in their own room and stop messing up their head.
DeleteI think u have to talk to her,dnt brush it aside. Am sure u dnt want dat girl to grow up with a messed up ming
ReplyDeleteAnd stop gbenshing in d same room as ur kids.let them av their room and check on them at intervals.
Its certain that poster 2 is preparing a future bitch...around that age is what defines human beings... With the way the world is paced up , she wud start very soon ... U are succeeding in destroying her mental psych
DeletePoster 1, I suggest you approach your friend and give her your piece of mind. She may not mean harm or may be she was soliciting for an idea or opinion from her sil and she might be close with that her sister in law so I don't see it as telling people about your health challenge. Relax you hear, God of Hannah will do it for you.
DeletePoster 2, why should a girl of 8 be sleeping in the same room with you and your husband in this jet age? I don't want you to see it as child abuse but my dear, in a short while, she will start seeing her monthly period which shows she is of age. Let them have their room while you go on check. From 2 years of age, they supposed to have their rooms while the couple enjoy their privacy. No need of telling her that is what you did to get her and the brother, just maintain a good mum/dad while with her.
@Poster 1, tell her what happened and keep her at arms length as you've done already.
ReplyDelete@Poster 2, no need for any silly explanations, just jejely move them to their room. It's absurd to even allow kids grown as that sleep in same room with you, you won't be free with your hubby now
*Larry was here*
Poster 1your friend did absolutely nothing wrong, there is a saying that goes thus 'don't be mad at anyone for telling your secret to someone else because even you could not keep it to yourself'
DeleteYou are a disgrace to modena day parents. How can you? As in how? If you were abroad social services would have come for you right now. Cos that's emotional and sexual abuse. You and your husband have no self Control? Wasn't even surprised at guest room but right there in your kids face in your bedroom. Madam!!! Must you even make all that noise in a small 3 bed? Gosh!!
DeletePoster 1- I was really against the friend who cheated the other. But in this case, I think you're being to sensitive. My dear, it's only in Nigeria that TTC issues are hush hush. Abroad, you will be telling people and they will be buying you little blankets in advance to show that they are 'expecting' with you. But you know what? Talk. Call her and in out why she told xx about your issues. Tell her you don't like it. And then watch her again. She sound alike a good friend who might have been looking for a solution for you. Please have a dicussion with her about it before you conclude. Okay? Take it easy.
Poster 2 shud know better than litering the house with d do cos of the kids.u can't allow such intelligent child sleep with u till now.Stop it to avoid disgrace n disrespect from her.
ReplyDeleteI don't get. You have sex in the same room where your kids are and you both will be vibrating and screaming down the roof??
DeleteYou have 3 rooms and yet you both end up having sex where ur kids are.
Ok madam..continue. keep messing up ur kid's imagination from an early age.
Poster 2 you both should be ashamed of yourselves! I cant even have sex infront of my 2yr old talkless of 8yrs!! Sleeping or not it is very wrong. She is old enough to have her own room pls. This should not repeat itself again. Stop traumatising that child with your careless appetite for sex. I am really appalled!! Henceforth you should let those kids sleep in their own damn room!!
DeleteThe only thing I can say is that poster two are her husband are morally bankrupt.
DeletePoster 1,your friend might not really be mocking you. She might be helping you look for solutions. Just that she wouldn't have mentioned your name. Talk to her about it.
Poster 2,you have three bedroom and yet yourself and hubby are living like people staying in face me I slap you house,how can you even imagine to make luv in the same room with your kids,how do you feel,do u enjoy it at all of you do it with tension,that is a big NO,she is too young to understand and dnt try bring any negative thought into her mind if you start explaining,better still prepare a room for her so she can have her own room,for me I like my privacy.
ReplyDeletePoster one,maybe your friend never met it that way,it might be she discuss it with someone with a geniune heart,so dnt take it hard on her,God will grant you your heart desires soon.
Poster 2
ReplyDeleteMadam, lay on your bed. You made it that way. How could you people be fucking in the presence of your kids? You spoilt them early by not allowing them sleep in their own room.
And that your small daughter, who does she think she is to act all stubborn and disrespectful? And you are indulging her?
What do I know sef, lemme pass
Woww!my id is finally back on the track,una well done o.I beg where mama nukun?Aunty stella how is YOU?
ReplyDelete*Eku ise takuntakun*
You and your husband are crazy and it seems your husband has some kind of fetish about getting caught while making love to you. Irresponsible adults is all I can say. Bye
ReplyDeleteYeah, you might be right...
DeleteHe sure shld have that twisted fetish, its called Martymachlia, such idiots are really turned on in the presence of someone watching them fuck, i see why he moved them to their own room, to fulfil his twisted perversion.
The wife would assume he jst loves them sleepin in sam room.
Sick minds.
You are so knowledgeable Atheist. Never really paid attention to your gender, are you male?
DeleteAnd the wife is indulging him. She is even proud of it from the tone of her post. Who knows they might even be reading our comments and getting off on it.
Delete1) Continue ignoring her
ReplyDeleteNext time she asks you what happened to your friendship, tell her you heard all she's been going around telling people about you and your condition!
Stop telling anyone your problems but God! You will carry your own baby soon In Jesus Name..Amen!!
Poster 1,you are just a secretive person that is why you are bothered,a lot of women say worse things about them shelves without feeling odd.
DeletePoster one: there would have say you should asked your friend becaus after telling her this was what you heard of of who will you say told you about? So think about it before comfornting her.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: before reading all o my comment, please take your kids to another room, that's so unpleasant to hear. How about if they've been peeping on you and dh an starts practising it thinking after a d d mum does it too . Will you do when you find out s please take them to another room
P2 screamers you & your horseband are useless how can u be doing the do with your kids in the same room,tufiakwa!!!! Ashawo kobokobo....
DeletePoster 1 you are hurt and you are still asking God to bless you with a kid. If you dont forgive her, it will be hard. Forgive her and let God Almighty forgive you and bless you with a kid. Just know you will carry your children. It is painful but find a place in your heart. It is well with you
ReplyDeletePoster 2..... both you and your husband give your children their room na. see how your daughter is misbehaving. Do you want us to beat her for you. She is old enough to stay in a room with her brother. Konji is bad men. Your girl is messed up with what she is seeing. It is well
Poster 2, u and your husband behave like dogs! How can u make love with ur kids sleeping in d same room? Children don't forget things easily so just pray she doesn't experiment love making with her classmates. I feel like slapping the both of u
ReplyDeleteThank you o jare, foolish couple
DeleteOr even her brother wen dey sleep alone.
DeleteYour daughter is old enough. I was already I'm secondary school at her age.
ReplyDeleteStop making love in presence of your kids.and do not be surprise she is no longer a Virgin.
Ideato was that you on your profile,you look good with your gap teeth
DeleteIdeato was that you on your profile,you look good with your gap teeth
DeleteBeyonce hands for u. U were 8 in jss 1 abiiiii isooookkk
DeleteYes I was 8 in js1
DeletePoster1: At least youve realized her true colours, get a longer fork while eating with such ppl, for the fact youve been bonding for yrs, she must have a useful side also, just remember ur top secrets shld be in a jar, out of her reach, you can go ahead & tell her what she did.
ReplyDeletePoster2: no need xplaning to her the details about sex, im thinking shes too young for such info, you & DH should pretend to be doing Yoga & wrestling playfully for them to see, you shld both wear nightwears at noon, & laugh & scream while he playfully twists ur arms to the back, make it sound like ure moaning, while he says to the kids hearing "Daddy will break mummys hand, aaarrrggggg".... then repeat same at night, i believe that'd get them confused. it might work
You say an eight years old is too young for sex education? What kids do nowadays even adults have not thought of it.
DeleteAn 8 year old knows more about sex than you think. We start telling our 5 year olds nowadays so noone messes them up.
Delete2) Madam what you and your hubby are doing is very very wrong!
ReplyDeleteYou are corrupting those kids..please stop!
If you want to have sex, do it when they're not home or in another room. And try to stuff a pillow in your mouth when next you wanna orgasm!
That daughter of yours if she's a parrot, might be telling her friends at school who disgusting you two creeps are lol
But come to think of it.. Who she take know wetin una dey do set? Who told her the meaning of what you guys were doing?
Seems you afford them too many liberties; like sleeping with you guys. WTF is that? Let them go to their rooms joor. Hian!
Imagine giving you the attitude cos you had sex with your own husband? Oshisco
Na slap I go give her sef
As an adult, the thought of my parents having sex leaves a sour taste in my mouth. I hope I am not alone in this.
ReplyDeleteYou and your husband are disgusting, mildly put. If your kids start trying out what they have seen, you'll start running helter skelter.
Madam, you have fibroid not HIV. From the way you described her attitude towards your plight, She might not have gossiped about you rather she might have mentioned it innocently while worried about you.
Abi ki lo n she eleyi? Tell her and move the fuck on.
Totes agree. A large percentage of women's have fibroid. It is not something to be ashamed of. Try to lose your shame. You will be much happier.
DeleteJust tell your friend that you are hurt that she told people about your medical issues.
@Sunshine,Love ur comment,Rotflmao
DeleteNo you are not.
Delete@Poster 1...I wonder why TTC women are always sensitive and paranoid..Whats wrong in telling someone u have fibroid? It's not as if she told an outsider,she actually confided in her sister in law who should be like a sister to u..I blame d sister in law and not her..What's even a big deal about fibroid? My younger sis had fibroid and she is pregnant now with it..I told my friends about it,even my mom was telling her church member d other day about it...I hate pretentious and private people..If u don't want people to know stuff about u,pls keep it to urself..
ReplyDeleteU could keep it to urself daz why u told ur friend,now dat she couldn't keep it to herself u started beefing her..
U TTC women should take it easy with people..Nobody is d causer of ur problem..U take offence when people.wish u well,you think they ar mocking u..Why should anybody mock u?
I read one post on fb where many TTC women where complaining of how they feel when people wish them well or ask why they haven't gotten pregnant....i smh at them..Have learnt my lesson..I saw an old friend who got married over 5yrs ago..i noticed she wasn't with any child so I sensed she is TTC,i kukuma aske of her husband and walked away..I did not bother asking of her kids and enquiring if she has kids before she will call me a hater..I can't deal with una wahala biko.
*my sister has fibroid*
Delete*sister to her*
*u couldnt*
I don't think your friend is bad madame you are overly sensitive. Tell people your problem you don't know who knows a solution. I know someone like you so sensitive n so I freed her wit her TTC knowing I have lots of information that could help her. 5years down the line still no kid then I met her younger sis who talked to me abt it n I took her no called her she was like she's fine n has gone for check ups n all. I call my doc n set them up(she was already fighting her sister ooo) 6montha later she called crying n all she's pregnant. I told her your silence keep u TTC for too long.
DeleteSo what if people laff at you? I have been mocked to is it not better you get the help? Don't lose good help because you don't want people to know your story. Do u have a baby NO so they know and those who wud mock you do not need to know ur story. Stop being paranoid. We've all been here.
Lol! You are right
DeleteSo true
DeleteFor the first time I agree with you. I don't see any secrecy in having fibroid. She's just Being unnecessarily paranoid. Most TTC women get offended for nothing. If you start discussing your kids with them all the time they feel you are doing shakara for them because they don't have a child.
DeleteMoney maker's wife,the fact that people keep to themselves doesn't mean they are pretenious,it is who they are. And if i manage to share my problem with you, you better keep your mouth shut because it is my problem. Even if you are looking for help fo me must you mention my name,some people just like knowing what is happening in other people's life. Abeg face your life and leave me with my secretive life. Pretenious indeed
DeleteAnd by the way attacking TTC women,that is low. Maybe one day when you are in that position you will know how it feels
Deletetalk to her and it time u move them to the next room.
ReplyDeletePoster one your friend didn't betray you, was just a common mistake or haven't you gossiped about someone before. Just confront her and pour your heart, she wasn't stupid when she went that far to help you,just that some people ain't good at keeping secrets. Dnt throw your friendship away cos of one silly mistake, stop being vindictive and relax your mind dear.i pray this month won't pass you by.
DeletePoster two stop fucking like dogs around your children,have some respect. So annoying, better talk to her before its too late.
Poster 2...let your kids sleep in their rooms
ReplyDeleteThey're grown already
Only God knows what is always running through the mind of that little girl when you guys are making love
Why does she even care?
Children of nowadays don spoil finish.
Poster2 is just being paranoid unnecessarily
What if she told her friend with hope that she might have a solution?
You're just being sensitive for nothing.
Madam Poster 2 Your daughter is freaking 8years old and she sleeps with you and DH? For Christ's, sake the girl is almost at Puberty that's if she is not there already. She can sleep with her brother in their room. You better fix that child's psych before it's too late.I am sorry to say but you both need to be schooled on Proper Parenting.
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ReplyDeleteThe second story mennn! Let me read comments
Irresponsible parenting at it's finest
ReplyDeleteI'm telling u
DeletePoster one: Apparently, your friend doesn't have to know anything you call a secret anymore.
ReplyDeletePoster two: Clap for yourself. Better sit your daughter down and give her the appropriate information as regards sex education. You and dh, una try well well. The damage has been done, but best believe, carrying on like nothing happened is going to be a mistake. Goodluck with trying to explain why you and your husband were screaming and how what you were doing is for married couples and how you are trying to give her a sister.
Please, get your children to start sleeping in their rooms. They've been weaned and are grown, so I don't see why you want them sleeping on the same bed with you both.
#WhiteDiamondOut
Poster 2: you guys have messed up your little daughter's mind
ReplyDeleteShe's 8 for christ sakes and old enough to sleep in her own room
I don't even understand why a kid above 2 should still be sleeping in her parents room
Try talking to her tho
And please send them back to their rooms ASAP
Poster 1: To err is human, To forgive is divine..Why not tell your friend about how you feel..It's better rather than avoiding her..Please sieve out what you tell your friends.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Please why are you doing this?? Robbing off your children's innocence..you are humans now not animals..If your hubby is that horny,can't you take them to grandma's place or something to stay while you do your 'business'..Please you should know better ..what you and hubby is doing is wrong and you know it.. and stop the humour cos it is not funny..its your kid's psychology...
Poster2: in Gods name let ur kids sleep in their room.when she will decide to practice what she has been seeing I hope you won't blame anyone. 8yrs old is big ooo
ReplyDeleteI am so pissed at Poster 2. What sort of useless behavior are the both of you displaying? Do you realize that little one is scarred for life? Please sit her down, talk to her and put her out of her confusion. She is old enough for a sex education and let her sleep in her own room for God's sake! You are still here asking us if you should talk to her..Rubbish
ReplyDeleteSecond poster- You and your husband need your heads examined! What kind of rubbish is that?! Having sex in on the same bed with your young children is a very stupid thing to do and the fact that you have other rooms the kids could sleep in makes it worse! Tomorrow, that daughter of yours will start practicing what she's been witnessing with other kids or even her brother! Gosh! some folks shouldn't be allowed to have children!
ReplyDeleteI'm even scared she'll practice on her brother!
DeletePoster 1, call your friend and tell her what her sister in-law told you. Tell her you are upset with her, she was not supposed to tell anyone about your illness.
ReplyDeletePlease continue your friendship but be careful of what you discuss with her, most especially about your private issues.
Don't worry, God Almighty will answer your prayers. He will flourish your womb with babies, He will fertilise your husband's sperm and enrich your eggs.
You will get pregnant and deliver your babies at the due time.
Poster 2, shocked reading your post; in this age and time, you and your husband make love in the presence of your kids, they have their room, why not allow them sleep there. What you both are doing is very wrong.
You have not even given them (most especially the older one) sex education yet. I just hope she doesn't put it into practice.
What you and your husband is doing is called bad parenting. You want to destroy your kids lives.
Please call the little girl and explain things to her, let them stop sleeping in your matrimonial room too. In short, from tonight make sure they start sleeping in their room. Eight years old child already knows what is going on and should be lectured about sex, since she is a curious child.
Poster one, stop telling that friend who can't keep shut ur challenges, do ur thing, wen u preggers, hide it, I understand how u feel jare,relax, since u've done d surgery, ur babies will start springing forth as space to play don ready.
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ReplyDeleteI dont get your anger. She only did what a good friend will do. You said she was running around to get help, i i would assume running around would include telling and asking a few people. If this is your only issue, you can tell her and move on to being the friends you were. Tell her you didnt like it or rather she could have shielded your identity from them while looking for help.
P2.
Its wrong on all levels to have sex while in the same room with your kids, thats the bottom line.
Poster1: you conceiving is not in the hands of ur friends... Forget about her n keep praying to God to remember u.
ReplyDeleteShe is not your friend... God will embarrass her one day
Poster2: una well down ooh
Poster 1- It depends on how you want to handle it. Some people like to express how they feel, while others will keep quiet and give you cold shoulder instead. What kind of person are you? Will you feel any better if you let her know that you are aware of what she did? If it makes you feel better. Go ahead and tell her to avoid bearing grudges. Meanwhile, learn to keep things to yourself. You shouldn't share everything about yourself and your family with your friend. No 3rd party in marriage. Learn to keep some sensitive things to yourself to avoid someone using it against you when there is a quarrel .
ReplyDeletePoster 2- Mrs acrobatic *smiles* your madam has her room. She is 8 already. Why don't you make your husband see reasons why your children should sleep in their room. The earlier they get used to sleeping in their room, the better. How long will they continue sleeping with you? Making love with your husband with the children in the room isn't a wise thing to do. These kids are smart. They might pretend to be asleep, while they watch your every move. I'm trying to imagine the scenario you painted and the little girl lying there watching..*closes eyes...shakes head*
Oh God my comment to poster two just disappeared, kai, you and ur hubby is really sick in d head, when that child decides to start practising what she is seeing, pls don't complain, get ready to dance to the drum
ReplyDeleteU and ur hubby are sick! I don't mean to be rude but you guys are really stupid. How u can u even do that in this highly sexualized age? Ure even lucky u have a daughter who's disgusted by the whole act, what if she chose to remain silent and starts having sex at school, then u and ur husband would claim to be great parents. Is it the fact that u know ur kids might be watching that turns u and ur sick husband on? gives u orgasm? U guys are sick! sick! sick! Get the fuck out of here bitch.
ReplyDeletePosters 2...U and ur husband are very useless..U are not worthy to be called parents..Tomorrow when ur kids starts molesting people's children,u will start running around prayer houses looking for solution and blaming ur village people..How dare u mess up dat girl's mentality?
ReplyDeleteI can best my chest and boast dat from my childhood to adulthood dat I have never seen my parents kiss in our presence talk more of having sex..
Ur kids don't need to know how their brother was conceived and born..U don't need to teach dem that..Are u sure u are OK? Let ur kids sleep in their room..Ur daughter is 8yrs old for crying out loud..She is not a baby..Dont let her start fantasizing about sleeping with her daddy cos she has seen her mommy do dat with daddy..Stop it madam..Stop it now..
Nke unu mere ezugo..Horny dogs..Una no dey control una selves? Hot pants!
I dey vex seriously for u..Dont tell her anything and stop now..Wirh time she will get over it as long as she is no longer seeing u fuck her dad and be screaming anyhow like a dog on heat...
Ogini bu ifea bikonu?
Exactly, she'll start fantasizing about her daddy. Nonsense
DeleteMmw, i think she has to talk to the little girl, the girl is showing signs of withdrawal frim her mum which is not a good thing bcos she will not be able to share anything with her mum. For an eight year old who attends sch n has friends, they might hv started giving her break down of wat is going on hence her reaction to her mum.
DeletePoster please tlk to her bt remove it part of its a way of giving u a lil sister, just tell her it is strictly btw mum n dad n that she should not allow anybody do it to her n mk her promise to tell u wen things like happen. Children grow fast this days. Please ano na n'mmiri ka ncha baa gi na anya.
Poster 1 I don't think your friend set out to be evil. Did you tell her not to tell anybody? Maybe your conversation came up one day and they wanted to start insinuating some things and she just said your case and maybe to pray for you. Fibroid is not your fault and most women understand it. Anyway if you want to stop telling her stuff, dont tell her but don't tag her evil when you don't know the story. Somebody that was running around for you. Have you asked yourself what her gain would be to mock You? Are you both competing for the same man? Or even for children. Poster 1 don't lose a good friend because of over thinking. Tell her not to tell anybody about your issues again but don't tag her evil.
ReplyDeleteI need a like button for this anon 15:29 she is just over sensitive because she is trying to conceive and her friend is not. Nawa for some.pple. if she was actually your friend u would have called her and asked her y she did that. Nawa oo fibroid no be herpes or hiv oo.
DeletePoster maka Why maka Why????
ReplyDeleteMaking love why your kids lie next to you is absord.
Na wah ooooo..
Just let her be
Don't explain anything to her..
Poster 1 since it's still in your mind voice out tell her wat u feel she did wrong or even know if she actually told her sis in law
ReplyDeletePoster 2 I carry hand up for you and hubby oh first why will your children of 8 n 2 still sleep with guys on same bed that by d side making out with the kids there ha won't u moan abi scream hubby's name wen u reach the climax anyway just talk with your daughter before another thing happens
You really need to find a way to explain it to her. I had a similar experience with my 5 year old son. Huby told him we were having a special prayer session so that he could have a baby brother or sister. Eventhough he didn't buy it completely,
ReplyDeletehe understood that it was the way adults play.
poster 1: i dont agree with your decision to beef a friend over something you could have talked about. what if she was just trying to seek for help for you and she may have had good intentions but went about it the wrong way . my friend was having ttc issues, i told my mum and she helped and she is pregnant now. what if she wanted her friends to put you in prayers. stop being a child and talk to her about it. you are not the only one with problems aunty. move on
ReplyDeleteposter 2 sorry i didnt read your post cant comment on that
Poster one, please ask her and clear your mind, let her give you her reasons for violating your privacy, then you can make your decision.
ReplyDeleteso my dad asked me to suspend my studies cos there's no money to pay for my fees cos of this recession thing but I don't want to suspend my studies cos I just have two more years to go....please a good Samaritan should help me with #15000 to add to the #10000( I had to sell my phone) I have...mbok help a sister out...I knw things are hard right now....I will provide whatsoever proof u want even if you insist on paying the fee itself. no problem cos UNIUYO school fees payment is online....
ReplyDeletePoster 2, are you sure you and your husband are alright? This is very very disturbing...
ReplyDeletePoster 2 you and your hubby are just silly. How can you be gbenshing on the same bed an 8yr old is sleeping? In the first place what is your hubby's reason for not wanting them(kids) to sleep in their own room? Is it not better than this nonsense you both are putting the poor girl through? You better discuss it with her before she asks outsiders that will teach her nonsense. You people are irritating abeg. Fucking upandan like rabbits on heat when your kids are in the room. Tuehhhh.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 you have a fibroid BIG DEAL!!!!! U wana dump yo friend just bcoz of tht?
ReplyDeletePoster 2,you and your husband are sick people. Tueh!
ReplyDeletePoster 2 there's nothing to explain, let the kids sleep in their room, before you start blaming witches from your village soon.
ReplyDeleteWhy would your hubby allow them to sleep with you guys?
poster 2: your daughter is 8, at what point do you want to move her to her own room, when she has boyfriend abi ?
ReplyDeleteYou better talk to her or someone else would talk to her,( dont let her look for her own answers) she clearly knows what youre doing at 8 they are sharp enough dont be deceived. im happy that you and your husband are happily in luv or FCk but you have no fucking chill and sha find out if its jealousy because if it is ...you have bigger problems on your hands
Your head is there. This is when a matured and intelligent person talks. Not all the others insulting. She's probably jealous. People dint read when they went to the visitors room and the girl came knocking. She should talk to her daughter
DeleteSee you, yes we read that part but the point is will they always run to the visitors room every time her wild horse of a horseband wants to do? The answer is NO, there are already doin it infront of the kids. They are sick, just like u
DeletePoster 2 ..I am sorry to say that you and your husband are either really stupid or you're both perverts. ..can u just imagine..your husband doesn't like children sleeping in their room so he prefers they are in the room listening and watching you guys have sex..people are looking for children they wont see,the ones that have will just purposely destroy them for no good reason..messing up their childhood for nothing. .make una continue..im so angry I wish I can just slap you people..useless couple..tufiakwa
ReplyDeletePoster one: Just let her know how u feel. Her display of info might be to spite u or out of concern or ignorance. Pls let her know to free ur mind.
ReplyDeleteDer r dis 2 friends A & B, A has been very nice 2 B even housed her wen d goin was rough for B. A later had financial challenges and lost Jobszn but B wouldn't return d kindness, care and love. A forgave moved on. 5 years down d line, A got married.(A is always d one calling B, but B always forming busy). B came 4 d wedding, left during d reception claiming she need to go do stuffs). After wedding, B called 6 months later to find out if a is pregnant. A said yes. By d 10th Month, B called to know if A has not put to bed? A said not yet. She den said A shld post her pregnancy pics, wic A refused. Menawhile, A has had 2 miscarriages. By the 16th month, B called to find out if A has delivered; A told her she had a miscarriage. It's more than 3 months from dlast time B called, but everyone dat are their mutual friends, she keeps telling dem A had a miscarriage, a lost her baby, etc. Some of dem called A to say 'sorry, dat B told dem wat happened'
You can imagine how wicked pple are. It was hurting A, but right now, she overcame it. Didn't bother confronting B, just waiting for her bundle of joy to arrive, den she would call her to inform her.
Keep hope alive. Ur miracle is close.
Poster 1, why don't you talk to her about it?
ReplyDeleteYou obviously can't let it go...so just talk to her about it and free yourself from all the hurt and anger.
Don't feel bad about it, it happens. I pray God answers your prayers soon so you'll have cause to rejoice. Amen!
Poster 2 u n ur hubby r so irresponsible n shameless.u ve three rooms so wat happend to d oda two?sex is sweeter in d matrimonial bed n room abi.
ReplyDeleteUr dota wil soon start experimentin too.find a way to make her understand certain tins.
SHM.
Poster 1 ask her n hear wat she has to say.give her benefit of d doubt.
@ Poster 1 abeg calm down..did you tell her it was a secret besides is fibroid HIV that one can't talk about again..you are just too paranoid abeg. That's how people will stay and loose good friends..mtcheew
ReplyDeletePoster 2. Don't worry, teenage pregnancy loading. It happened once and you and your hubby have refused to reset your brains. You both are always horny and you decide to allow your kids to be sleeping in your room? Who does that? Just sex scenes that kids watch entice them talk more live action, *twice*. Don't worry, A hard knock in this place called life will help reset your brains to make wise decisions. "End time parents".
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ReplyDeleteyour daughter is old enough for a candid sex education talk, not the ones where you make up names oh. Real names (penis, vagina etc) before one idiot will take advantage of her ignorance (God forbid).
Call her and ask her why she's been sulking. Be persistent till she opens up and be firm but not harsh. Her annoyance stems from confusion.
Let her understand that sexual intercourse within the confines of marriage is God ordained and a beautiful thing.
She will come around.
Lastly. Please relocate the children to their room. They're both too old to be sleeping with their parents.
If they were in your room and una wan do, why didn't you guys go to the guest room as you did before?
Not only did you guys do it with them on the same bed, you brought the ceiling down as you said. What were you expecting?
@poster one its called secret for a reason meaning its for you alone, telling a second person means you want others to hear about it. Don't avoid her just learn how to filter your talks with friends, its possible she didn't know that she was not suppose to tell others.
ReplyDeleteWOW!!! yours is really messed up @ poster two. Couples don't allow their two years old in the same room at night not to talk of an eight years old child. I have seen siblings having sex with each other cos of messed up stuffs like what you just narrated.
You need to sit that child down and explain things to her in a very approachable manner. Tread this matter with caution if not you will maim that child, I'm not talking physically now but mentally and emotionally. Please take them back to their rooms ASAP, its not there for fancy.
When those kids start touching themselves and others in school you will know. Why can't they sleep in their rooms. You little girls is getting offended cos you have having sex with your husband. That means she has an idea what that means. Trust me you are creating trouble for the future.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Don't knw wat to say. Dat was so so wrong. Even if dey were sleeping??? U guys messed up big time. Dis is not d case of not having enough rooms, but carelessness.
ReplyDeleteI pray she dosent start trying it out w her kid bro or allow someone do it to her cos she saw her parents doing it.
Sit her down, try finding out from her why she is angry and her countenance ( even though u know, still try to hear her out), after her side of d story, den u can proceed to tell her its how to bring baby sister into d world.
And teach sex education & d dangers thereof for kids.
U don buy market, so finish wetin u start.
Poster 2, you and your hubby are shameless, irresponsible as well as wicked. How can you do such a thing in the presence of your Child? On the same Bed? Y can't your children sleep in their own room? My children sleep in their room as soon as they stop waking up to eat at night. What will bite them in their own room? And even if your hubby lacks common sense and self control, y can't you as a mother put your kids first? Be teaching your children how to watch blue film, u Hear? One day she will want to try what mummy and daddy are doing outside. And that your husband that can't control his dick, watch your daughter around him, one day when you are not around, and his libido gets the better of him........ Learn to stand up to your hubby and let the children go to their room.protecting Your children innocence is more important than servicing your hubby unbridled libido. I can't imagine putting my 8 year old son through what your daughter is going through. You guys disgust me abeg.
ReplyDeletePoster one, tell her you know what she said, and stop telling her your secrets. She should know what she did wrong.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, since it bothers you a lot and you loved her, you need to talk to her. Let her no the damage she has done to the friendship you both had.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, you live in a three bedroom and you can't keep the children in their own room? You let them sleep with you? And you have sex on the same bed while they are sleeping?
Madam, don't you know most kids learn from their environment, whatever they become or whatever behavior they begin to exhibit in the future is what they have learned during childhood? You have in some way damaged your kids sexually..... what you need do now is,
1. Separate your kids, put them in different rooms. At least the 8 year old girl is old enough to sleep on her own.
2. Sit the girl down and talk to her or take her to see a shrink. She needs to forget or in some way understand what she has seen. Good luck
@ Apples,Undiluted sense is what you have made! Let them sleep in different rooms
DeleteHow on earth 'll you make love in a room where your 8yr daughter is, Haba why are you messing this girl up psychologically? please send them back to their room immediately before you do more harm to her. What the hell???
ReplyDeletePoster 2......., it's very wrong of you and your husband to make love in the presence of your kids.
ReplyDeleteAn 8 year old girl these days is no longer a kid
It's pathetic and very wrong in all ramifications
Perhaps you could get her a therapist or a counsellor that'll talk to her or cleanse her
Her brain must be really fucked up by now
Ohhhhh poor child
Poster2:kai,why now?its a big problem you have on your hands oo,dont let I out straight about what she saw....pet her and make her tell you why she is irritated.please you have to talk to her o,its dangerous not to,8yrs old of thie days knows what she saw abeg!
ReplyDeletePoster 2....you are a foolish woman. How can you have constant sex with your daughter around. Better put that stupid horny husband of yours in check. Such stupid and foolish couple.
ReplyDeleteAm so pissed I have to comment twice..thunder fire you and your stupid horny husband. Foolish woman.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 maybe your wild horseband is planning to molest yo daughter hence he enjoys doing it in the same bed with the kids.He's exercising her brains now
ReplyDeletePoster 1, call your friend and talk to her. Believe me, she might not have any bad intentions and might even have your best interest at heart. You know women, we talk alot. From your write up, she doesn't sound like a bad person but until you do you won't have peace. Thank God for your successful surgery, the Lord will bless your womb with your own kids soon
ReplyDeleteI am actually thinking that 2nd poster's husband might have been doing things to their daughter. Why would she react that way both times to the mother after catching them in the act? Jealousy???? Most children will feel embarrassment or ask curious questions but this 'madam' dey do like woman wey catch her husband with side chic.
ReplyDeleteHmmm deep. Honestly the narrative is extremely annoying. You make sense when you mention jealousy cos i remember when i was about same age as poster 2's daughter and slept in my parents room cos it was raining and i got scared and woke up in the middle of the night to find my parents having sex. I was confused as fuck and was wondering what was goin on amd wondering why dad was hurting mom lol. After a while i just slept off and by mornin i had forgotten it. So for poster's daughter to be vexing and even goin to the visitor's room to bang on the door with hate and disgust on her face. Hmmmm deeep! The poster and her hubby are disgusting. Imagine if i as a child had been subjected to seeing and hearing things on a regular....well your guess is as good as mine
DeleteFunny as it sounds, u have a point
DeleteAbi! You have a point too! For the man to feel comfortable gbenshing in their presence. Madam shame on you and your hubby. I pray your child is the talkative type that will exposee you before your family/friends, school teachers/classmates. You know all them talkative kids that will spill everything they've seen/heard. Maybe then the both of you can behave
DeletePoster 2 my only advice to you is to teach ur daughter sex education if not u re in soup.
ReplyDeleteposter 1 don't be angry with her u supose know that ur best friend also have a best friend.poster 2 no advice for u
ReplyDeleteFor those of you saying she is too young for a talk/sex education, so wrong!. She is old enough. I was 9 years old when i had my first talk, infact 8+. I was in Jss1, when P&G came to my school to distribute Always pads. Am still kinda mad at my mom. She never sat me down to tell me anything. She just keeps screaming "Don't let a man touch you! if you get pregnant, you will keep it". And at that age, i knew things.
ReplyDeletePlease don't assume she won't understand. Kids these days are exposed to a lot of things. She might be giving you that attitude to make you say something. Educate your children o! Don't let them start assuming! Let them know what and when it is acceptable to engage in such. I have said my own
I think you should call your daughter and have a talk with her, all U need is to divert her attention from what she has seen and what you will do is simple, take your time and read the bible with her, educate her with the bible, when she returns from school, pick up her assignment and sort it together... Make sure U divert her attention from this moment and never allow her see U and ur DH in such act anymore.. Abeg find one coded room to do uNa gbensh and make sure no traces . Just divert her attention kiakia
ReplyDeletePoster2. Don't worry oooo, continue your nonsense. my advice is to call that your daughter and educate her on sex. please take them back to their room!!!
ReplyDeletePoster one: she's not a good friend,on no account shd she reveal such unless permitted by you,forgive her but don't let her in on. Ur business anymore
ReplyDeletePoster2:i'm ashamed for you people,i have 3kids under d age of 6,d last one is just 7months,we also live in a 3br apartment,on no account have my kids ever had d inkling dt we have sex,we all sleep together,but when hubby and I wanna make love,we. Go to d spare room,lock the door and be as quiet as possible! You have ruined ur daughter psychologically,which is very bad,i really feel for the lil girl.i don't want to say much,cos if I let you in on how much damage you'v done to ur daughter,you might commit suicide
Poster 1,my own view is for you to out rightly confront your friend, we all talk, sometimes without malice, ask her and move on from it. Keep things you do not want made public to yourself. Waiting on the Lord also needs you keep your mind free of all negative thoughts.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, you've been bashed enough, so all you need is make amends. Without going into so much details, explain what you were up to was married couple play, she's smart so do not attempt to sugarcoat it too much. Apologize that you were not to have played in her presence, gain her trust back.Allow your kids sleep in their room and please lock your doors.
So madam No 2: you decided to use your hand and spoil your daughter...issokay....
ReplyDeleteGoing for a meeting, will read comments later
Poster2. You and your husband have just won the award of the most irresponsible parents in the world. Clap for yourselves. *Longest hiss* SHAMELESS COUPLE.
ReplyDeletePOSTER 2 IS VERY SICK AND STUPID. I AM SO ANGRY!
ReplyDeleteThis 2 AGBAYAS have no business raising children at all. *hiss* The 8 years old is already messed up big time. Poor poor baby!
ReplyDelete...and that your daughter will always catch you guys more no matter the strategy. You should better start locking the door anytime you and yr hubby are in the parlour. Train up a child in the way he/she should go
ReplyDelete1. I see nothing wrong in what your friend did. Some women with Fibroid get preggy, just don't add to your stress over this. Be positive
Poster1:Stop letting your friends into your personal life.
ReplyDeletePoster2:Growing up,myself,my lil brother,dad and mom lived in a one room apartment.We sleep on the mattress usually placed on the floor,while they sleep on the bed.I was older than my brother and yes! i have heard them attempting to make love but my mom will always caution my dad that:'the kids are here',What you see the next day is that they give the two of us(ie my brother and i)some paperwork assignment to do in the sitting room,and the two of them lock themselves up!*doing da thing!*For hours they wee be there,and when they come out,my dad will be like*we were killing a rat*.Well,that *we were killing a rat *later birthed our last born,we later moved to a three bedroom flat where we the kids had our own room.
What am i saying,you guys are not getting it right!infact you should not have allowed your kids sleep with you on the same bed let alone the same room.An eight year old if not in puberty stage might be attaining that stage.You have to be careful....move them to the other room this instant! and if your husband does not agree,when next the two both of you are on HEAT?! abeg lock the room and head for the sitting room to do the needful.
Wait,she is throwing your errands at your face?omo yen need reset button.You better bring her back to her senses.No matter what,it is none of her business that you two are gbenshing,infact do not let her make you feel guilty.You are the mom,please be in charge!
Poster1:Stop letting your friends into your personal life.
ReplyDeletePoster2:Growing up,myself,my lil brother,dad and mom lived in a one room apartment.We sleep on the sofa usually placed on the floor,while the sleep on the bed.I was older than my brother and yes! i have heard them attempting to make love but my mom will always caution my dad that:'the kids are here',What you see the next day is that they give the two of us(ie my brother and i)some paperwork assignment to do in the sitting room,and the two of them lock themselves up!*doing da thing!*For hours they wee be there,and when they come out,my dad will be like*we were killing a rat*.Well,that *we were killing a rat *later birthed our last born,we later moved to a three bedroom flat where we the kids had our own room.
What am i saying,you guys are not getting it right!infact you should not have allowed your kids sleep with you on the same bed let alone the same room.An eight year old if not in puberty stage might be attaining that stage.You have to be careful....move them to the other room this instant! and if your husband does not agree,when next the two both of you are on HEAT?! abeg lock the room and head for the sitting room to do the needful.
Wait,she is throwing your errands at your face?omo yen need reset button.You better bring her back to her senses.No matter what,it is none of her business that you two are gbenshing,infact do not let her make you feel guilty.You are the mom,please be in charge!
Poster2,somebody is molesting your daughter.Take it or leave it.
ReplyDeleteQueen and boss,i miss your comment on the second poster.😂😂😂
ReplyDeletePoster 1: sometimes, perceived betrayal may not necessarily be meant to harm. If you have been friends for so long, speak to her about it. It is kind of unfair that u feel she has betrayed u and you're acting up. It could be that she told someone else so as to try to get you help. Perhaps they were seeking solutions for you as well as a concerned friend. Has she done this to you before? If she is usually known to be trust worthy and this is just a one off, I'll say forgive her and let it slide. Then let her know it hurt u
ReplyDeletePoster1:dont disclose sensitive issues wit ur friend anymore
ReplyDeletePoster2:pls for goodness sake let ur kids sleep in there room,stop selling ideas to them.they might try out all d nonsense u nd husband re doing with each other or with an outsider.its very WRONG doing it in there presence though u may feel they re sleeping bt peeping
@Poster 1, I think you are overraeacting. Your friend may have said that due to the fact she is worried as well. This is the diffence btw men and women. A man would see this totally differently.. Please talk to her.
ReplyDelete@Poster 2, I am advising you based on experience. You see what? Sit that child down and talk to her but please dont be explicit. Whilst doing that, pls pls and pls do not show any anger. that would give her the imperession it is worse than she saw. And hence forth, let them sleep in their rooms
Poster one your story is not an issue,she may have told them just to see it they have a solution, I doubt if she did it out of mockery.
ReplyDeleteYou are just catching feelings with your inability to have a child.
It is your type that would pass througb people alrdy laughing and would think we're laughing at u.
Call her and ask her the person who told u is the idiot,them use am send am message?
Poster 2, I can advise someone like u.
Poster 1: you already made your mistake, no need to ask or tell anything that your friend is not worth been called a best friend.
ReplyDeleteLET HER GO and face your God.
Does she have her own kids? If yes then that's not nice but if that's a no then Hold Fast to God to make you conceive before her.
When your bundle of Joy comes then you can make amends.
Poster 2, inform your husband asap...
Park her baggage and kaya to their room asap...
Talk to your daughter, try to understand whats in her mind, you need to no the exact picture she has in her head before you take step on what to tell her.
Cos am very sure with the attitude she is giving you, she will start broadcasting it to friends and family.
8 year old girl in Nigeria still sleeping in her parents bedroom is lame, even 1 old baby girl self is already an FBI.
She is your daughter, set the boundary straight and put her in order before this escalate to something else.
This story is really messed up and annoying gan, please why would you allow an 8 year old sleep in the same bedroom with you and to think you and your husband have sex with them lying next to you is really appalling. GOSH
ReplyDeletePOSTER 2, I AM MORE WORRIED FOR YOUR DAUGHTER THAN WHAT YOU WROTE UP THERE! I THINK YOUR HUBBY HAS A FETISH. I HOPE HE WONT START MOLESTING YOUR DAUGHTER SOON? THAT IS IF HE HASNT ALREADY STARTED WITH THIS HER JEALOUS BEHAVIOUR DIRECTED AT YOU? WHICH FATHER WANTS AN ALMOST TEENAGE DAUGHTER IN THE ROOM WHILE HAVING SEX? AT 8 I WAS WRITING MY ENTRANCE EXAM TO SECONDARY SCHOOL! YOUR HUBBY IS ONE OF THOSE SICK ONES OOOOU BETTER OPEN UR DUMB EYES. ODE MOTHER
ReplyDeleteYou couldn't have said it better
DeleteHe's molesting her already hence d jealousy towards her mom alone n d dad isn't bothered, he might have promised her something to make d little girl jealous anytime he's with the mom. Madam, ur house is on fire.
DeleteP 1: What is the big deal in fibroid? Make peace with your friend ojare! How can you be keeping a grudge against her and want God to bless you? Free yourself from bondage. Fibroid isn't a death sentence.Even unmarried ladies have fibroid. Kini big deal?
ReplyDeletePoster 2...You and your husband are disguising.
ReplyDeleteYou do not deserve to care for those kids and they should be removed from you immediately.
No wonder kids these days are becoming useless... just look at their useless parents.
I wish I knew your address, I WILL ARREST YOU IMMEDIATELY... you better not born another child until you are mentally well enough to care for them. GOATS.
Perfect comment. This act disgust me
DeletePoster 1: Please don't ask your so called friend anything, just continue pretending to be friends with her but don't tell her kpakam again. Her guilty conscience will make her stop visiting.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: why do your kids not kid oh, sleep in d same room as you and hubby and why does your husband always need sex at weird times? Can't he chill till the kids have gone to school or Sunday school or at their grand parents or even outside playing?
Then pls watch that daughter of yours, seems she is getting info or practice from elsewhere. A twisted mind might even suggest she is jealous of you cos daddy has been giving it to her as well. Finally..pls pls and pls move them to their room ASAP but not before having a chat with her, you can take her to the mall or Sth, a mother and daughter bonding time. And YES she don reach the age for sex education! A girl in my area got pregnant at 9
I can bet 'daddy is touching her' giving d jealous attitude and d nonchalant attitude of daddy toward d whole issue.
DeletePS... Speak to your daughter because I feel you horseband has been molesting her. Which man in his right senses fucks his wife on the same bed his children sleep in?
ReplyDeleteGbam.
Deletepost2 do u really call urself a mother? knw wat I hardly comment but because of dis nonsense act u posted here I will say u re the most stupid woman I have ever seen. how can u and ur husband be abusing the little girl.
ReplyDeletePlease let those kids sleep in their room while u and ur stupid husband do whatever rubbish u want.
Post1 u can ask her to clear ur conscience and forgive hence learn to keep ur mouth short u can talk to God in prayer if u need someone to share ur problem with.
Poster 1 your friend could have mentioned to a 3rd party with good intentions and you might never know if you don't address it, if she did out of gossip then you know her place. Hook up with her and ask, her response should determine your decision
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Are you and your hubby for real? What you both are doing is so not fair on those kids, Even an 8 year old girl shouldn't share room with her brother. That girl needs to understand what's going on or you subject her to figuring it out in her own way. My advice is you and her father should be present, probably take them out to an eatery then discuss sex, who it's designed for, the reason for it, the result and repercussions. If I were you tho I wouldn't acknowledge that she saw us, the conversation will be sex education and the reason will be because she's due to know!! Reason I suggest a public place is to avoid silence or keeping to herself after such discussion, get them a cone of ice cream after and let them loosen up before going back home
The first time I discussed sex with my older son was in a mall. We sat by an angle, I had a coffee while he had a muffin and soda and it was not a rushing hour. His father discussed the topic with him on another occasion
MrsBee
Poster 2,I won't be shocked if your girl starts sleeping with her brother or having early sex.please move them into seperate rooms.
ReplyDeleteAlot of holier than thou comments here @poster 2 chronicles. Madam...it will be wise to move the kids to their room now..get them teddy bears to hug if they are kids that likes cuddling. Next ,is to start age appropriate sex education with your daughter,that conversation is long overdue for her safety and appologise for having her see u guys making love. Trust me,she knows what u are doing and that's why she's disgusted. Try explaining to her and make sure she gets back to her real self and comfortable with you that she can tell you everything. As for your husband,he knows that it's wrong and only u can ensure your daughters safety. All the best madam
ReplyDeleteIf you see nothing wrong with poster 2 narrative then you are as well sick in the head for saying alot of holier than thou comments. You are a piece of shit,if this were a developed country child protective service should have taken the poor little girl from those deranged couples. I'm so pissed.
DeleteAbeg poster 2when u nd ur husband re not animals y ve sex where u kids are. Haba u 2 check am now. 8 yrs old in bed wit una nd una still reach cloud 9. Pls STOP D NONSENSE TODAY. An 8 year old can sleep in her own room. Take her there dis very night and ve a heart to heart sex education talk wit her. There are plenty pre teen sex education material ob d internet. No b only SDK una suppose dey read 4 internet. BTW it s not a funny matter cos I detect laugh in ur write up. It s serious nd u shld be worried. U ve exposed u child 2 front row porn movie. Just imagine if somebody tell u dat a stranger showed her porn wat will u do 2 d person. Do d same 2 ur self nd ur husband!
ReplyDeletePoster 2
ReplyDeleteWhen someone mentioned this type of thing concerning a couple living in a one room, all of you abused the couple for living and fucking under the noses of their children. You people called them all manner of names. Now you all are giving 'advice'. What name do you call these rich people that have two spate rooms yet sleep with their children? Look, sleeping in the same room isn't the issue sef, this man seems to have no self control and the wife thinks that making g all manner of noise during sex is enjoyment. Kissing, cuddling, watching all manner of films in the presence of your kids and the company your kid keep are the cause of these things. If you can't be conscious of the fact that you have twenty first century kids at home and control your activities, then the onus is on you to bear the consequences.
One Edo girl almost ended up with me, but the way she shout yeeeh! yeeeh! When we have sex enbarasses me so much that when I use one hand to close her mouth I can no longer balance and support myself with only one hand and I get frustrated. I had to call it quits because I can't be doing that for all my life.
POSTER 2, I BELIEVE THERE IS SOMETHING IN YOUR DAUGHTER NOW'S FCOS FROM UR DESCRIPTION OF HER REACTION I THINKS SMTIN IS WRONG, TRY ND SIT HER DOWN AND FIND OUT.
ReplyDeleteP1 i dont tink ur friend meant to snitch on yhu, she was probably ooking for solition n it jst came out, talk to ha bout it, tell ha hw u feel.
ReplyDeleteThe worst is that even when you move the kids to their room, ur daughter's head has been messed up and she ll always be up imagining what her parents are up to in their room at night or anytime u guys are alone. Bottom line, madam, you have messed up ur daughter. U and ur useless nd senseless horseband. People like you shouldn't have children.
ReplyDeleteP2. Your story is all shades of wrong. You and your husband are very foolish parents. You are both definitely sick in the head.
ReplyDeletePoster 2. I'm sorry but you and your husband are just not serious. That shit don't leave a child's mind. I saw my parents doing the do when I was little and till now I still get flashes. It's disgusting to a child I swear.
ReplyDeletePlease separate your rooms.
All these people being mean to poster 2, how do you think people that live in one room do it?
ReplyDeletePoster 1, i dont think ur friend is gossiping you to her friends, there must be somtin that led to her telling her friend. Maybe it was out of pity & in d quest for a solution that she narrated ur predicament to her. The only mistake she made was mentioning ur name. Ask her so that you clear ur conscience.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, i dont think ur friend is gossiping you to her friends, there must be somtin that led to her telling her friend. Maybe it was out of pity & in d quest for a solution that she narrated ur predicament to her. The only mistake she made was mentioning ur name. Ask her so that you clear ur conscience.
ReplyDelete@Bb you are an idiot for that statement. Ok go and make love in the market or in the children's play ground. Fool.
ReplyDeleteOk, done for today...
ReplyDeleteSo Madam Poster 2- take it from me, your hubby is into some crazy stuff...he may already be molesting that child...cos that jealousy she's feeling towards you is not normal....
You have a lot of work to do on her...that girl is far gone and it's all due to you and your hubby's crazy behaviour but even more Tha that, you should be worried, very worried.
Your husband is trying to throw you off the scent of what you might find out by telling you not to take it seriously as she's only being a child...nope..she's not only being a child...she's being jealous and that should tell you something!!!
Her husband may even be f*cking that little girl.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: This is the most twisted story I have had to read.
ReplyDeleteI fear that your husband and yourself have very deep seated unsettling, physiological disturbance or else you won't have sex constantly in front or to the knowledge of an 8 year old.
You need to speak to yourself. You need to speak to your husband.
You need to speak to your daughter.
The speaking to your husband part must be done easily or by force, just as long as you get him to see the dangers of this very twisted act.
It won't hurt to monitor your daughter henceforth as well as watch her relationship with her dad(I really hope this one leads to nothing)
Please please please move your kids out of your room asap your traumatising and destroying their imagination.
Friend or not,there stuff you keep to yourself and then tell to God. Finish.
ReplyDeletePoster 2,why should u even allow an 8yr old sleep in the same room with you when you know how wise kids of this generation are? Well,if she continues with the attitude,then you sit her down and talk.
@poster 2: I would say prayerfully ask God for wisdom on how to go about this. Also teach them to stay in their room. If it means locking ur door while at it (when not at night) pls do. This act can cause a total damage to ur kids life.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, Well I think people have told you all that needs to be said. You and your husband need to put an end to this disgusting behavior ASAP. Your parental skills sucks to say the least. Stop robbing the little girl of her innocence. How a mother can subject her child to this is beyond me. Educate her about sex without going into too much details. Talk to your daughter and try to establish a good relationship between the two of you. As for your husband, if I were you I would keep an eye on him very well because he has some issues. Good luck.
ReplyDeletePoster 1
ReplyDeleteU have/had fibroid ....... So what's d fuss about? When did fibroid become a secret something?
U created an enemy for yourself When clearly there isn't one.
No advise for you since u already Tagged her as an enemy.
Poster 2
E be like say when the kongi hold d two of you, u both spontaneously and simultaneously loose ur sense of reasoning.
SMH for u & ur husband. Kids of nowadays that already know where babies come from..... Keep nacking and gbensing and climaxing and vibrating in front of the kids just as u described.
Sex retard.
No advise for u cos u've repeatedly abused yur children psychologically.
I AM THE ANALYSER ..... But nothing to analyse in this your foolish story.