Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives..

This is such an interesting read..Please note that if you are tired of reading anything that has to do with cheating or snooping,do not bother opening this post cos if you type your bile,i will not enable it...despite our differences,every story is a lesson for the next person to lear from...'NUFF SAID!

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

CHRONICLE OF A SNOOPER

Dearest Stella.

I'm an addict to your blog. God brought you to this world for me alone. Simple.
To contribute to all these cheating stories, let me share mine please. I am currently the chairman, snooping organization. I can snoop die. And it has saved me in so many ways. 

Back then in school, I dated this calabar guy. He was so sweet and nice. We had our share of fights like every relationship but we were an item. We were in different departments but we always found our ways into each other's classes. At a point, his lecturers called me by his name and would even be his spy. Long story short. I snooped one Saturday morning and saw messages of him telling a girl in his hometown that he wants to marry her and be the father of her babies.  This was someone that just came to pick me from my aunt's place that morning. We were in his house. He had just told me he loved me. We wanted to have sex but he had to take a bath first. So I picked his phone and that was what i saw. I was so broken. I later asked him and he apologised. Said his mum will never allow him marry a girl from another tribe. I'm Yoruba. 

I reported him to his friends and they were shocked that he led me on for so long. I asked God to vindicate me which He did. He did his intro to her and begged all his friends not to tell me but they did. I wished him well. Fast forward to a month before their wedding. The lady dumped him. I asked God to forgive me because I was happy. Very happy. 

Another time snooping saved me was this year. I met this guy in 2014 and he was so on my case like he had never seen a woman. In Dec 2015, I decided to give him a chance after almost 2 years. The going was good until I decided to test his supposed love. I lied to him that I was pregnant. He showed signs of being happy and I felt it was real. The following morning, I woke up to about sixty pings from him. Telling me how he loves me but didn't think it was the right time for a baby. He wanted us to do it the proper way. He wants my dad to give him wedding list and so on. So I should please abort the baby.

 I smiled in my heart because that wasn't going to happen. 

There was nothing to abort. But I faked anger and tears and refused talking to him for two days. I collected the abortion money and 'ate it'.  The day I told him I was going to the doctor, I went to a friends house and slept the whole day. He called me severally but I didn't pick. He was so angry i had to beg him. I told him I was tired from the D&C and the drugs didn't wear off on time. Three days later, I went to his house. I snooped and found out he brought another girl to his house the very Sunday I claimed to do the D&C.

 The anger that I didn't pick my calls that day or come around was just 'bobo '.  He was trying to monitor my movements and be sure I wasn't going to come. I was livid. He just kept begging. I now asked him that if I'd died while trying to abort his baby, what would he have done?  Cry for an hour and move on to the next babe abi?  He kept begging. 

Two months later Stella, I was in his house. At about 10:45pm, he had slept but I was awake. His phone now rang. The name was funny and my snooping antenna came out. I waited for the person to call again and while the phone was ringing, I typed the number on my phone. Stella, it was a friend of mine calling him. I didn't know what to make of it so I kept quiet. I woke him up that a certain person was calling. He said I should ignore it. The following morning while preparing for work, I picked the phone and saw that she had called him again at 4:45am. I kept quiet. 

On our way to work, I used side eyes to check and saw that they had exchanged long messages. Later in the evening, I asked him to give me his phone that I wanted to check some settings. It took him 10mins to release the phone. He kept grumbling, asking why I needed his phone. I said we both use Samsung and his is a newer model so I'm trying to compare them. After 10mins, he gave me the phone. He had deleted all their messages and call history. But I was smarter. Every Samsung user has their favorite call log. It displays all the numbers you call most. My dear, her number was number 1. Me, forming love, was number 3. I no talk. 

As my proof never complete. Some of you will ask how He got the number. I gave him. Yes. The lady in question is very much older. And at one point, I needed him to know someone in my life before my family. So I gave him the number. 

Two days later, le boo was to go to UK for 2weeks. A night before his departure, he came to say hi to me at home and I asked him.'Baby, have you called my godmother? ' Guy said no. I asked if he was sure. He said nope. I asked why. He said he had been so busy. So I let it slide. I was gathering my facts. 

Two weeks later, he came back. I was with him. I asked again if he had spoken to her. He said nope. I said ok. I couldn't snoop as such because his phone is this finger prints thingy. But every thing he did then started to disgust me. I was picking fights with him at the slightest opportunity. I had hatred bottled inside of me. 

The day I confronted him Stella, he was shocked. I gave him all the facts I had. From the first day I found out. He was on his knees begging. Right there on his knees, I told him to tell me what was between them. He couldn't say anything reasonable. He just kept begging. I moved all my stuff out of his place. No pin was left. He begged me for two weeks but he kept lying. He told me so many stories. I had to call the woman and she was shocked because she didn't know he was from me. She confirmed him and told me of all they had done. How he even spoilt my image with her. That he doesn't trust me because I'm always with guys. And he can't marry me. 

To say I was broken is an understatement. Things I'd told him in confidence, this woman was telling me. He even lied to me that he met her on Badoo. Imagine. 

My dear, if I continue to type what I found out, our fellow BVNs won't finish reading it and they will abuse me for the epistle.
But snooping saved me sha o. At least I knew who I was dealing with. We're still together. But I don't trust him. I can't marry him and I'm just using him. When I remember all he did, I just thank God for my snooping. Na so I for just de love up and guy man go de yimu for me.

Please share my story.
Love you scatter.

Well,i see your point but i hate Snooping,thats my final say.I can never snoop on anyone and i do not want to be snooped on.Its that simple.

This has nothing to do with married couples being one or not...everyoe has stuff on their fone that they want to keep private...could be chat with friends or family or whatever...could be anything.

Snooping takes away the right to another person's privacy and yours.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

Good day Stella and happy independence to bvs readers.please I need advice. 

Am an undergraduate in my Hnd 1 now and I met someone recently and he's older than me and I really love that because I needed someone matured and now he is so eager to get settled soon and am pleading he should be patient with me ......Atleast through my Hnd 2 then we do marriage .

he's just nagging like he wishes am done with school but that's not my fault. And Stella the truth is I really love him because he is just too perfect for what i want in a dream man. Please how can I convince him to stay till I round up?

 I don't want him with any lady .please your red pen is needed.

*why the sudden hurry?If he loves you,he should wait for you,if he cannot wait that would mean  when the chips are down he will not have to Patience to stay....Does he love you for who you are or is he looking for a wife because he needs to update his marital status due to age?Is he under pressure to marry?

Ask yourself this questions and the answers will spring forth.