Na wah.....Hissss!!!
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE..
MARRIAGE AND PREGNANCY ISH
Hello Stella, I will try my best to summarize my story.
I am a young lady who recently got married in August and also passed out from NYSC on 6th of this month, God has been faithful as he blessed us with the fruit of the womb immediately after marriage and I had to travel down to where I was serving for my Nysc, the journey was quite rough due to bad road and immediately I arrived I had to rest as prior to this time I was treating malaria, that same day was our POP dinner which I attended though it ended late but I could not be the only one left in my lodge so I waited till friends were ready to leave.
Fast forward to when I returned I got home sicker than I was as the driver was rough and I could not shout to tell him I am pregnant, hubby was at work as at when I arrived as he usually closes late due to the nature of his job with the state I was in that moment I could barely climb the staircase and when I entered our house I fell on the bed(due to cramps n malaria).
I then texted hubby to please eat at work as I could not cook perhaps he didn't see the message but he got home and was angry at me(despite how sick I was) I then told him I needed to go to the hospital and it was late so we agreed the next morning.
Next morning he got up drank tea and told me he would come back by 10 am to take me to the hospital (I was angry as he didn't understand how I was feeling) my dad called and hearing my voice he got worried and after some discussions he suggested to call my inlaw and tell him that if Dh is busy (since they also know d nature of his job) that if they can permit I come home so my mum can take care of me being first pregnancy I should need assistance and all.
Hubby got angry hearing from his dad what my dad had suggested to the point that my dad told me to tell my husband to call him and my hubby said he won't call my dad as my dad has lost his respect by suggesting I go home for my mum to take care of me, he even told his dad that if he calls my dad he will insult him, my parents are worried as am usually all alone from 7am till 8pm or later in my condition.
Did my dad do wrong?
Is hubby right?
Am so confused as I feel hubby is not understanding my situation, I barely eat, he just wants me to take the drugs he bought for malaria and typhoid, who takes drugs without eating? In pregnancy, am I being annoying or lazy? Our marriage will be 2months on 20th this month.I had to summarize using my little saved up energy (will welcome advice too for early n first pregnancy).
DO NOT TAKE ANY DRUGS BOUGHT BY YOUR HUBBY WITHOUT THE APPROVAL OF THE DOCTOR AND IF YOUR CASE GETS WORSE AND YOU REALLY NEED SOMEONE TO LOOK AFTER YOU,CALL YOUR PARENTS TO PICK YOU UP PLEASE!
First today mbok. Chronicles of ashawo again???
ReplyDeleteYour husband's ego is getting the better part of him,hence his decision and stubbornness..
DeleteHe wants to be seen as the demi-god of the house and also as the man who took care of his wife alone during her pregnancy..
Now what is your fate if you dont make your own decision?
Personally i will advice you tell him to take you to his mum's place so she can care for you at the moment;since he isnt always around( act like A good wife and make him see the submissiveness which he soo desires)...
Dont sound bossy or anything like that,cos that is what he doesnt want to hear or see.make him see reasons as to why you need to stay with his parents temporarily..
If after everything he still refuses,heaven knows you need help!! Now gently take the little things you need and head towards your parents place..
The worst that can happen is A quarrel,but what matters is you must have gotten the little help/care you need before any other isshhh,and you can easily stand your ground by stating that you told him to take you to his parents place of which he refused..
Your life comes first,and at times certain situations calls for A drastic action..
#goodluck
@MARTINS ABOY
Martin Aboy please be my boo and let's make a baby, a beautiful girl, we will call her...
DeleteWhat a horseband!!!!
DeleteCan't deal menh.....all dis boyish married men tho
Honestly I don't understand what your spouse means by saying he would insult your father if he calls him? As what? In fact, I lack words. *closes chronicle page*
DeleteNumber one, stop taking any medication the doctor did not give you. Number two, how good of an actress are you. Please find a soft place to land and faint for him. Shake like you have epilepsy so that he will see that this is a serious issue. That's all
DeleteWhere una de find all these kain boys marry...hian!!!!!
DeleteYou got yourself a horseband my dear. So inconsiderate. Have you been to the doctors since you got pregnant? Cos you shouldn't be taking such drugs as you mentioned.
DeleteDouble hiss
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Heartless men.... what's all this? I feel so sorry for you. What kind of man is this? Madam you have a huge problem in your hands oh! I can Imagine that he will treat a sick child the same way. You have a very big problem. How can a man be so uncaring and egoistic? Better stop taking those drugs and call uber sharply go ur papa house go Sidon make them massage you well. I can't die for any marriage esp when heaven knows I've done no wrong.
DeleteUnder 3 months he's already displaying like this? No one is wrong apart from your husband. You dad and your FIL are only trying to cater to your needs as a first time mum-to-be. Hubby should even drive you to NYSC camp for POP and back, given your condition. He should have taken the day off!!! This is so wrong on all levels. God take control 🙏🏽
As I dey so, if a man doesn't carry me like egg the relationship is over. If a man doesn't have the mentality of 'if she's not okay then I'm not okay' I can't. If my father at his age still does my mechanic runs for me and follows me to the hospital for diagnosis when I'm ill, what stops my husband from doing that? Well maybe that's why I'm still single. Cos guys of nowadays don't even know how to love a woman. This is a clear example of 21st century 'husbands' roaming the streets of Lagos and saying 'no good girls'. Terrible terrible terrible!!!
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DeleteAbeg post that husbands number let's talk some sense into him! The nerve of him. Thank God day you no be my sister. You won't sleep in that house tonight if you were. What rubbish!!
DeleteChikito u are a fool. That's why u are a runs geh with ur MSc and "in the abroad " old bitter gwegwegwe like you. Nothing good can come out of u. Keep trying. Poster pls ignore the rubbish episode she wrote up there. Take advise from mature and responsible peoole. Give ur hubby time to cool down.
DeleteD mbaise girl- 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 see how my happy life pains people? Na wa oh! It's like once you're not asking for giveaway or boyfriend on SDK some people get angry. Chill ok? Not everyone is like you with a scratch pussy and an empty Pocket. I don't know how exactly it feels to have a foolish mother and still have to do runs to feed her existing foolishness and yours, But what I know is that God will show up soon and you will find your helper okay? Hopefully your anus won't be demanded in return (if it's still in tact) and then you can have money to actually get yourself some honey. Until then, keep reading about my life cos you can't kick me out of this blog. 4years and counting, I'm hooked.
DeleteP.S: who are you really? 😏Grandma Camden town £60 jelly nurse boots or the ideato
Clan? Stop being a Lazarus and come forth!! Ciao!
Chikito,i just love you,hon. Brilliant reply. Mbaise babes,reason though their anus
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DeleteHahahahahaha! Chikito you just killed me with your response! Badt gan!!!
Delete2 months is too early for this rough play
ReplyDeleteThe question is what kind of man did u marry? Ur dad should not have called his dad!
DeleteJenny the advisor, you want her to lose her life? Let her parents call his parents abeg. If anything happens who will be at the losing end? The husband is just inconsiderate
DeleteGo home.
DeleteWith or without the baby,you'd be blamed.
Your husband is immature,marriage or not,no one can even say they will insult my parent.
He is heartless.
Just go home please,you will need all the help you can get ate this early stage.
Do not take any drug o!!! First pregnancy?
ReplyDeleteU want ur baby to have one eye or one ear? Hian!!!
Lmao..one ear or one eye
DeleteWhat happens when you marry a man who doesn't know how to treat a woman right.
ReplyDeleteTake your doctors advise first before anything else for your baby's safety.
Do not take drugs and try to talk to your husband when he is in a good mood.
Leave your parents out of your marital affairs.
You should have spoken to your hubby first before telling your dad. I'm sure you could have masked your sadness too but you chose to bear it all out without first speaking to your man.
Take care of yourself right now for the sake of your baby.
Many men don't understand how women feel when pregnant.
Talk to your man.
She didn't call the dad. The father called and noticed she was ill.
DeleteAre you sure? Were you there?
DeleteMarriage no b child's play
ReplyDeleteMen can be selfish.
The Lord is ur strength poster, cling to him.
Better call your parents to come and carry you home, if you do not mean anything to your hubby you mean a lot to your parents. When I was pregnant I used to pretend to be sicker than I was cus I like being pampered, pretend to be sicker, fall on the floor and start shouting when your hubby comes home so he will take you home. Sickness during pregnancy shouldn't be handled lightly so do not take any drug without your doctors prescription.
DeleteYour Husband is very insensitive. Don't take any meds he got for you. Better tell your mom to come stay for a little while or something since he dsnt want you going back home cos your health and the baby's health Is what matters. I'm sure you want a healthy baby and not a child that didn't form properly due to your selfish husband not allowing your people take care of you
ReplyDeleteI had a miscarriage last month,am yet to recover, Huby dint want me going over to my mom reason was because he won't be comfortable sleeping there, but do you know that after the miscarriage we both slept at my mom's place for good 1week, he would always leave in the morning to go and prepare for work because he loves his comfort...well, you need to be safe and you know what to do. Goodluck.
DeleteChoi this life. It's well better take good care of yourself and monitor your pregnancy,alot could go wrong.Above all I wish you a safe pregnancy and delivery.
ReplyDeleteYours sdkly dazzlinglizzy
My dear your father hasn't done anything wrong, ur husband is just temperamental person, you can imagine saying he will insult ur father if he should call him, how arrogant he is. Just stay with him jare not to make him feel bad but go see a doctor so they can give you the right medication.
ReplyDeleteBiko how old is your husband?
ReplyDeleteDude reminds me of my sister's husband sooo proud and arrogant.
Go to the hospital, if he doesn't take you Nne call a cab. Your health is very important.
H should get you started help too or go home and get all th help you need.
Two months and there is already disagreement.
I'm sure the age difference btw you two is much and you sound like you are scared of him.
Jst take it easy, you hear.
Take a cab? how do you know if she has money. Mtschew. This is why i always say dnt run from school into a man's house. Have something of your own doing, earn something. It brings respect. Sorry o poster
DeleteJust 2months & ure already sending in chronicle, thats so sad... where do you ppl meet all these inconsiderate men from, pls tell me so i can avoid that area, abeg de waka go ur papa house jo.
ReplyDeleteWhat's so sad about that... abeg if u know anything to talk waka north
DeleteThird party interference: not everyone likes it.
ReplyDeleteMisunderstanding: you guys should understand yourselves, compromise, compromise, and compromise.
Exactly! You are one of the few that gets the real issue.
DeleteStella has said it all. All I will say is marriage is for mature people.
ReplyDeleteNa wa o. Just 2 months, una don dey get wahala.
ReplyDeleteAll these atupoyoyo boys, i feel all right boys that are not coming to term to be a man, na wa for una ooo.
Since he says by 10.00 a.m. he will come and pick you, how come you are strong to write a chronicle. Na wa for you ooo. You should have waited if he will come by 10.00 a.m. to take you to the hospital. No bring wahala in this your new marraige.
Take it easy my friend.
She should have waited, if he didn't come that's when she can tell her dad.
DeleteD first few months after marriage are sometimes d most challenging times. As time goes on you understand each other more.
DeleteMy darling you didn't see all this uncaring attitude b4 u married him? Wtf, my Marriage is not up to 2yrs still waiting on God for the fruit of the womb and yet if I tell my hubby I have headache every other thing is pending he comes home straight to take care of me. So in 2months ur husband is already tired. Pls my dear go to ur parent if no one is coming to pick you call uber, you need people around you now than ever.
ReplyDeleteThat's the way it should be. You must be his priority. Chai! 🙆🏽 This chronicle don pain me today honestly!!
DeleteAs in, in my first trimester, my husband makes me breakfast before going to work cos I was so weak but if I no chop body go dey shake.
DeleteChronicles of a married woman
ReplyDeleteIt's well
I pray you have a stress free pregnancy journey
Plz try and drink lots of water,it will help in keeping malaria at bay
Take lots of fruits and vegetables...very important
Take your VITABIOTICS PREGNACARE
You'll be fine 😊
First pregnancy no be beans oh!!
As for your hubby,he has anger issues
If it gets too much,just run to your parents biko!!
You don't need stress now for Gods sake
When you marry a baby boy. This is what you will get.
ReplyDeleteI would have said some things but i wont wont cos you are with a child. I'm so sorry about how you feel.. Do not take any drugs not given to you by your gynaecologist. You should see your gynae asap. Malaria in pregnancy is dangerous.
Should you need any assistance and husband isn't giving, do not hesitate to inform your parents. Your mother is alive and she would sure take care of you. Wtf!
Poster please don't consume any form of medication without consulting your doctor first. As for your husband, communicate with him and explicitly explain the situation on ground. You can also tell your doctor to speak with him and explain the severity of your case. The major concern here should be the wellbeing of you and your unborn child.
ReplyDeleteLol, stella haf Vex. E be like dt ur hubby Na small pikin, dear poster when he comes bk, start crying and acting as if u r dying o, don't tell him it's late, tell him if u don't get to hospital that night that u may die, don't form strong woman too early o, men don't deserve it, am sure he won't want you to die in his house but if he ignores you, Pls call a cab and go home to ur parents.
ReplyDeleteThis is so me. I showed my husband pepper in pregnancy. In the Labour room nko? I so enjoyed it. I do not hesitate to wake him when baby is crying. We did it together na.
DeletePoster, take this advice!!!!! Now that you've seen how it's going to be , smarten up, this is the only way you'll survive this and get some peace and rest. If you go de form strong woman, eh, that man will show you pepper
DeleteInfact be so down, the doc will talk to hi. About taking care of you sef
Chronic chronicle! My dear pls make sure to explain how u feel to ur hubby in such a way dat he won't feel you r taking out evry issue to ur parent.Your health n dat of ur baby is very important pls.Some men sef
ReplyDeleteGo to the hospital and let the doctor prescribe drugs for you. I do not understand your husband's annoyance.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm,your hubby did not understand the condition your in now,the drugs without doctors prescription might harm your baby.find a way to relay to your hubby your conditions and you need all the energy plus assistance you can get now.
ReplyDeleteJust two months into ur marriage, u don dey get all these drama. And u must be a very lazy woman
ReplyDeleteI sincerely ask God who is the all powerful God to please help me give you small sense
DeleteDeep sigh
Idiot you have no sense!your brain is filled with air,ewuu!
DeleteNne, congrats on your marriage and pregnancy. Please, can you ask a neighbour to buy you some cracker biscuits and lucozade boost, eat this to get little energy then call a cab/ taxi to take you to your hospital. You can ask to be admitted and let you husband meet you there. You need doctors attention, you will be fine. About your Hubby's behavior, you two would settle that later. Concentrate on your health n that of your baby. Pls don't self meditate.
ReplyDelete👏👏👏👏👆👆👆👆
DeleteLet them admit you oh, next time he will know not to joke with a pregnant woman
Spoilt brat... What about those of us without parents around us... My daddy, my mummy, you better wake up before that man push you out😯
ReplyDeleteYou are fool, that is you have remained where you are. Pregnancy in women differs
DeleteWhich dirty push her out. Would she die b4 he realises she needs to b well taken care of. Wen dey marry u, dey suddenly bcome lord nd master. Just sha go to the hospital
DeleteReceive sense!!!
DeleteSee desperation cos of man...ahn ahn
DeleteOyo die and see if he won't marry another one in no time #whosuperwomanepp?
Anon 15:15 i read your comment in the afternoon and replied only for me to tap on publish ma phone went off and refused to on.you are an idiot,did anybody tell your parents not to be around for you?jealousy want to kill u iranu abacha oshii and for your info pregnancies differs.isii azuu
DeleteUr hubby needs to fix his temper
ReplyDeletewhen kids decide to get married..
ReplyDeleteHa! Barely two months and you're writing chronicles already? Gof have mercy
ReplyDeleteDearie.. you did no wrong by calling your dad and telling him you're sick. But i think your dad should've just called your hubby directly to ask him if you could come home, so your mom can take good care of you as he is usually busy.
I mean who knows what hubby's father told him your dad said? People tend to exaggerate sometimes and i think your hubby is acting out on the information he got from his father.
I think you should sit your husband and have a talk with him first, ask him what his problem is with your family. Hopefully he might open up and tell you so you guys can work it out from there.
In the mean time, beg him to allow your mom come over to your house and look after you now that you're sick and it's your first issue...that is if your mom can come. But if she can't come, maybe one of your sisters can come. You need company! Loneliness has a way of making one feel homesick, frustrated and even angry sef coupled with pregnancy hormones.
Please please please stop self medicating! You are pregnant, so therefore you must consult a doctor before you take any form of medication. You guys should go for test and scan, to be sure your baby is still fine. And of course he/she is fine...Just stop self-medicating!
I wish you a happy marriage henceforth, minus chronicles and wahala. E-hugs
Bless your heart. I just love you for this comment.
DeleteBless your heart. I just love you for this comment.
DeleteBe replying yourself. You hear?
DeleteAnon 16:54 ain't you a fool? Of course you'll know seeing as you're in the business of replying yourself. Run away fool *shuu*
DeleteWaooohhh
ReplyDeletePoster you're not annoying at all,
Pregnancy differs in people.for one you could be as strong as Mike Tyson others you could be as lazy as another thing. It should be known that it is not a deliberate thing.
My uncle's wife got pregnant same time with you and they got married August. If I didn't know her before would have assumed she's lazy and dirty. But the pregnancy won't just let her do anything.
Please do not take anyhow drugs before you injure yourself. Even paracetamol you can't take anyhow.
Try and talk to your husband how you feel. If he doesn't want to understand feign faint when he is around. When he sees you in that state he'll have no choice than to rush you to the hospital.
If he refuses to allow you go to the hospital or he doesn't take you himself biko involve your parents let them come and carry you for proper check up.
All the best, I pray you get checked up quickly to avoid complications or stories that touches the armpit
Ha! Barely two months and you're writing chronicles already? Gof have mercy
ReplyDeleteDearie.. you did no wrong by calling your dad and telling him you're sick. But i think your dad should've just called your hubby directly to ask him if you could come home, so your mom can take good care of you as he is usually busy.
I mean who knows what hubby's father told him your dad said? People tend to exaggerate sometimes and i think your hubby is acting out on the information he got from his father.
I think you should sit your husband and have a talk with him first, ask him what his problem is with your family. Hopefully he might open up and tell you so you guys can work it out from there.
In the mean time, beg him to allow your mom come over to your house and look after you now that you're sick and it's your first issue...that is if your mom can come. But if she can't come, maybe one of your sisters can come. You need company! Loneliness has a way of making one feel homesick, frustrated and even angry sef coupled with pregnancy hormones.
Please please please stop self medicating! You are pregnant, so therefore you must consult a doctor before you take any form of medication. You guys should go for test and scan, to be sure your baby is still fine. And of course he/she is fine...Just stop self-medicating!
I wish you a happy marriage henceforth, minus chronicles and wahala. E-hugs
Exactly maybe ur not husban's dad conveyed d message wrongly nd u didn't ur dad talk to ur hubby directly cos I don't understand y he spoke to ur fada inlaw, ur husband is very unreasonable, did t u c his wicked side when dating him? Na to carry ur cross cos I can see that he would be a hard nut to crack! Wat is d relationship btw ur dad nd hubby? Cos it sounds like he don't like or respect ur family,my only advice is for u to calmly talk to him nd begging him for telling ur dad about how u feel, talk to him when he is a bit calm cos u can't wage war against this kind of person
DeleteTreating ailments is different for pregnant women especially early in the pregnancy as that is when vital organs are developing. STOP taking the meds he bought for you and please talk to your doc and he will convince your husband to let you get help. A word is enough...
ReplyDeleteMy dear beg your husband to allow you stay with your parents,because you can't be alone in that house with your condition and he shouldn't try insulting your dad rather he should be grateful.takecare dear
ReplyDeleteI dont think you are overreacting. Maybe you shld a one on one discussion with your husband to explain how you are feeling nd my now you shld his password....
ReplyDeleteYour husband is inconsiderate. You need care and love as this is your first pregnancy. People have different pregnancy symptoms. I advise yu go home n be taken care of.
ReplyDeleteYou and your husband have got very short fused tempers and that is the issue here.. Anger versus anger. Again you ought to have suggested to him that you intended to get across to you mom to assist you since you were in your first pregnancy. No man likes to have his wife still being controlled by her parents. That is the way it works and that is how God made marriage to work; the two are a unit.
ReplyDeleteYour husband is already showing signs of how bad a husband he can be. Just do the needful when you need your parants care. Call your mum to pick you up to avoid stories that touch.
ReplyDeletePoster please listen to Stella this time... No strength to type... All is well
ReplyDelete... Jesus is my worth!
Which kain husband be this,the man is so uncaring.just 2months in marriage and he's already getting irritated.the thing is when you truly love someone,you love them in every conditions no matter what.your husband is even very full of himself,he's disrespectful to his own father ordering him not to pick his wife's father's call,so am not surprised he's disrespectful to his father inlaw as well.....poster pls don't take any drugs while you're pregnant except for folic acid,drink lots of water,try to eat a little at least and take lots of rest.if you feel like you can't cope,call your parents to come get you.
ReplyDeleteAre you sure you guys got married on the foundation of love or fatherly Connection?
ReplyDeleteThis guy doesn't seem to care so much about you. Just ensure you make your mom your best friend
Just 2 months and you and husband are trading in anger issues? This is absurd and you have to reset with your husband. If you continue to allow "external interference" and anger issues in this way, you'd with your own hands scatter your marriage even before it started.
ReplyDelete*bitchslaps your hubby into the dustbin* ..what manner of fuckery is this? Am sure he's a poor man and he's very short.. That's how they used to behave. Just two months into your marriage and your "horseband" is already treating you like this? You sef, u are too dense..you are sick, pregnant, all alone and self medicating!! Infact I have no further words for you
ReplyDeleteIf the symptoms get worse go to the hospital, as for your parents suggestions it was nice, bt no man wl allow you do that. .............please don't allow pregnancy symptoms to break your marriage
ReplyDeleteWho tell u that one? Im presently pregnant and typing this message from my father's house. Hubby asked them to come pick me when he saw that I would be alone in d house, lonely and sick. Tsk!
DeleteMaybe your husband is weak
DeleteJust 2 months and he is already acting up? Please I'm with Stella on this one, let your parents come pick you up, life has no duplicate.
ReplyDeleteAllergic to bullshite
Hmm..na wa ! I must marry by fire by force syndrome usually lands us in dis! I pray God helps u! Cos dats all I can say!
ReplyDeleteVery wicked man indeed ! I'm so angry on ur behalf!
Poster, was it your doctor that prescribed those medicine your husband is asking you to take? Please don't take any self prescribed drugs, it may endanger the foetus in your womb.
ReplyDeleteI was very sick when i was pregnant, and my gynaegologist never prescribed any drugs for me, all the months i spent at the hospital, i was only on drip.
Your husband is not considerate at all, don't force yourself to cook if you know you are too weak, you need somebody with you.
Talk to your husband and make him understand how you are feeling, so both of you can agreed on you going to your parents home for a while.
I pray God grant you strength and courage to carry your baby to full term. May He stretch His healing hand upon you and make you strong.
Your dad only heard your voice and became worried, bt ur husband that was with you is behaving anyhw... what is wrong with some men sef. Don't overstress your self to please any man o.
ReplyDeleteOur chef left last 2wks, since then I have been the one cooking nd Dh has been complaining that I am looking stress despite the fact that I am not, and he is seriously looking for chef, he has been seeing fair chef nd he doesn't want any fair male domestic staff bcos he said bcos he doesn't want any1 to snatch his wife from him,cos I like dark guys alot...if he has ban me from doing main cooking when I am not preg,
Tell your pple to talk to her seriously, you are already making excuses for him sef... he will soon tell u to pound yam for him when u r 9mnths preg.
#notwifebtCook
What are you saying madam? He has been seeing male fair chefs.He doesn't want anyone to snatch you from him cos you like dark guys. I'm not understanding!
Delete"Your husband doesn't want fair domestic staff meanwhile you like dark guys a lot. Sofri dey lie. There is no competition here.
DeleteLike your hubby knows you can stoop low to f**k a chef be it fair or dark? Next lie should at least be proofread please
DeleteNext Chikito and Mrs Romas in the making. *eyes roll*
DeleteApparently hubby doesn't trust you, check yourself
Anon 17:58- lie say you no dey enjoy my gist? Guess what?? I love Mrs romas too!! 😍
DeleteLiar pant
DeleteEnd time husband
ReplyDeleteEnd time this end time that..o chim
DeleteEndtime husband.lmao
Nawa
But where una dey meet this kind horsebands nah??? Btw did you say 2months or 2 years?
ReplyDeleteFollow Stella advice joor
Your dad only heard your voice and became worried, bt ur husband that was with you is behaving anyhw... what is wrong with some men sef. Don't overstress your self to please any man o.
ReplyDeleteOur chef left last 2wks, since then I have been the one cooking nd Dh has been complaining that I am looking stress despite the fact that I am not, and he is seriously looking for chef, he has been seeing fair chef nd he doesn't want any fair male domestic staff bcos he said bcos he doesn't want any1 to snatch his wife from him,cos I like dark guys alot...if he has ban me from doing main cooking when I am not preg,
Tell your pple to talk to her seriously, you are already making excuses for him sef... he will soon tell u to pound yam for him when u r 9mnths preg.
#NotwifebtCook
#flawless BossQueen
It is not a question of wrong and right even though you both made a lot of mistakes. What is important is that you get well. Agree with your husband and seek medical help and leave your parents off it. When you get well, try and understand your husband and work on your anger issues. Wonder if you and this person had courtship at all. Or was it just a "sexship"
ReplyDeleteI can't deal jhor
ReplyDeletehmmm this is too early dear to start having marital issues.. I think you need to communicate with your hubby well..Bringing inlaws into this matter get as he be..Tell your hubby that u want ur mum to come over and take care of you and I think I may be wrong your dad shouldn't have gone in that direction..wetin I know ..Abeg you need to be wise oh my dear..All the best..and don't take any drug until you see your doctor cos you are pregnant..
ReplyDeleteWhich kain wicked hubby is this?? When I was pregnant (high risk) my mum was always sending packed food to me, pepper soup etc because I could hardly stand let alone cook.
ReplyDeleteGO and see a doctor, don't self medicate. Your hubby will see the severity of your condition after you get doctors involved. Start taking your prenatal vitamin, you will feel better by the 5th month.
My God, I am shocked, your husband needs a head reset, when I was in my first trimester and hubby was travelling he bundled me to his friend's place cos he didn't trust to leave me alone at home, they live nearby so I could go to work from there, weekend I went to my friend's house. His parents house was not too far from my friends' but they knew and didn't have a problem with it, this na Yoruba home o.
ReplyDeletePlease tell his mother to speak to him, maybe he does not understand the enormity of pregnancy, he might think its just normal morning sickness. and please DO NOT TAKE ANY DRUG NOT PRESCRIBED BY YOUR DOCTOR MOST ESPECIALLY FOR MALARIA. People have lost their pregnancy that way. If you try all things and he doesn't budge then go to his family house to stay a while, if they are not in town then damn all consequences and go to your parents house,pls, biko, ejo, mbok, your health is of paramount importance not one man's ego.
please call your parents to come get you,marriage is for the living alone, you need assistance ,care and attention ,you need your mom or your husband by your side 24/7 so since his job is tasking i will advice you go home right now ,Biko .HI STELLA,AM A NEW MEMBER ,THIS IS MY FIRST DAY/COMMENT. KEEP THE GOOD WORK UP. GODBLESS
ReplyDeleteWelcome madam we are family here
DeleteBiko...don't take any drug without ur doc's prescription .do u even attend antenatal classes. Ur hubby something else.
DeleteWhy is ur hubby refusing to take u to the hospital? and why is he giving u drugs instead of taking u to the hospital? Pls oo as Stella said stop taking the drugs until u see a doctor. Why aren't ur parents not doing anything about this? If hubby is refusing for to go to your parents why can't ur mom come over and take to the hospital herself? It seems to ur hubby is controlling you and u are also scared of upsetting him, Why can't you to d hospital yourself, what's stopping u from doing so? Pls stop doing my hubby this my hubby that n do something, u are in a delicate condition and u need help. Wishing you all the best madam.
ReplyDeleteMy dear please do not just take any kind of drugs o. All you have are pregnancy related. What is wrong with your husband now? Abeg if he can't be there for you let him mum come or your mum
ReplyDeleteWhich kain husband be this abeg? Is he the only person in buharia's economy?kilo the pepper body? Please your health and baby's health is paramount here, husband comes second...shikena
ReplyDeleteDon't take any drugs not prescribed by a doctor after visiting the hospital.
ReplyDeleteYour daddy did no wrong! He even respected your husband and in-law by telling you to ask for permission to come their house to be taken care of.
You hubby is NOT right! Na small pickin talk dey worry am! He should be happy that your parents wants to help him out being the first pregnancy.
Listen, go to the hospital by yourself, NOW, whether you have money or not. Act drama join your sickness so that you will be admitted. Then call your husband forming faint, infact, beg one of the nurses to speak to him on your behalf.
He will have no choice for you to go to your parents house. My dear, apply wisdom o, no be gra-gra, because it will escalate matter. Best of luck.
God is your strength. That you hubby as you call am no be am. If have a cab guy's number why not call him to take you to hospital?
ReplyDeleteIf you die your hubby will marry another wife. Take care of your health and don't ever think you are doing your husband a favour by being pregnant. The baby is equally his.
I want to applaud Queen and Boss of this Blog for having the courage to say what's on her mind without minding the backlash. Love me jeje, I don't know why I like you ( maybe because of your bishop), Ideato/Ilaje, abeg stop spewing vitriol here, you seem like a sweet soul.
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If u take malaria drugs on ur own without doctors prescription as a pregnant lady, it could affect your foetus. Go to a doctor. They have drugs that pregnant people can take. Send your hubby a text that u need to visit d hospital that u r really down so he will understand. Then tell ur mum to come n pick u from d hospital. Then follow her home.
ReplyDeleteUhm this your marriage. Be very careful and prayerful o.
ReplyDeleteWhich insensitive husband is this?
ReplyDeleteI wish I could advice you to run from such husband but I can't. This type will soon turn to wife puncher... smh. My dear, ask any of your relatives or inlaws to come stay with you please...so that your horseband won't see any reason to vent his aggression on you.
Biko poster I don't see what is wrong with what your dad suggested,I am pregnant right now almost due......my mum came to carry me coz we stay n de same state,wen I was 7 months gone. I was sick and due to my hubby's job(works offshore )no one to really assist me incase of an emergency. So she called my husband and after proper communication between them she came to d house and picked me. My husband is even grateful because he knws am with my family since dis is our first child my mum will take good care of me plus she's experienced dis is not her only grand child. I still run my business frm my family house,abeg tell your husband to change his mindset marriage is a two way thing..u re his wife so he shuld act accordingly
ReplyDeleteIf I start to talk oooo
ReplyDeleteMake I no open my mouth
Becos if I do
Hmmmmmmmm
This ur horseband ooooo nawahoooooo
Hmmmmmmmmm make I no talk shaaaa
Your husband is overreacting.
ReplyDeleteYour dad should have spoken to your hubby first.
Your hubby is being insensitive too. He probably would say what if you are far away from your parents or what if you have no parents. You have to call his folks and act really sick on phone so they can be worried for you, only they can help your situation.
Some of these men are annoying, expecting food, sex, care from a sick wife that needs some help or pamper to renew her strength which will in turn let him enjoy the best of the woman.
Don't do macho woman or you will end up being asked to do more.
Don't be a spoilt brat either but right now as a newly wed and first time pregnant you deserve all the love
Ps Don't do any self medication.
MrsBee
I agree with some of the things you said. I also disagree with a lot of them. Her husband, yes! But its just a consequence of her actions. She should not have encouraged her dad to talk to his. No matter how young they both are, they are old enough to get married and old enough to make their own decisions. If there's anything I hate, its third party interference in I and my husband's matter. And we live with our in-laws o! The guy just felt belittled I guess, he is a man in his own right! You also said she should call her in-laws, no! I disagree! Talk to your husband yourself! Start your marriage as you mean to go on! Do you intend to call people whenever you want to talk to your husband? Dear poster, the first few months of a marriage are the toughest. I dated my husband for 7 years but it was a different ball game after we got married. Both of us had to do a lot of adjusting. So dear poster, despite the current issues with your husband, do not see him as a wicked person. Try to understand him, as I'm sure he's trying to understand you too. Cheers.
DeleteI agree with some of the things you said. I also disagree with a lot of them. Her husband, yes! But its just a consequence of her actions. She should not have encouraged her dad to talk to his. No matter how young they both are, they are old enough to get married and old enough to make their own decisions. If there's anything I hate, its third party interference in I and my husband's matter. And we live with our in-laws o! The guy just felt belittled I guess, he is a man in his own right! You also said she should call her in-laws, no! I disagree! Talk to your husband yourself! Start your marriage as you mean to go on! Do you intend to call people whenever you want to talk to your husband? Dear poster, the first few months of a marriage are the toughest. I dated my husband for 7 years but it was a different ball game after we got married. Both of us had to do a lot of adjusting. So dear poster, despite the current issues with your husband, do not see him as a wicked person. Try to understand him, as I'm sure he's trying to understand you too. Cheers.
DeleteAnon 16:39 I agree with you as well. I personally believe in couple settling their ish in their home but I will give this an exemption because the ish is already out.
DeleteWife is sick and feeling unloved, her father disrespected.
Her husband will want to prove a point to her about never reporting him but hey, not right now that the wife needs help. The man in his state of mind will most likely not listen to her for now and that's why she needs her in-law. I choose being kind over being right!!
MrsBee
Plss go to your inlaws family house and stay if its close or you can plead with your mum to come stay with you for sometimes. Your hubby never understand pregnancy sickness. Plssss dont take any drug not prescribed by a doctor, this your stage is a sensitive one.
ReplyDeleteWish u luck dear.
Be patient with him. Had same challenge with hubby when I just took in. He even reported me to my mum that I'm lazy (meanwhile the previous month he had sang my praises to my parents that I'm a very hard working wife, lol) he didn't understand how to felt at the time. We quarrelled a lot. It took advise and counselling from both our parents for him to calm down.
ReplyDeleteRight now he's the most supportive husband. Cooks, cleans, baths me, in fact it's like we're carrying the pregnancy together.
Don't feel bad. Just involve you mum and mum in law. Don't stay silent. Get help.
This is a delicate stage of your pregnancy so you don't lose it.
Everything will be fine, okay.
Cheers.....
Some men can be very annoying & start acting up just to fuel their ego,your husband obviously doesn't understand anything,don't let he's ignorance land you in emergency room,pls call your mum to come take u home & return when u feel better.....ehen madam Stella I'm glad I can now comment on your blog after being a long time blog visitor..lol
ReplyDeleteWICKED EGOLISTIC HUSBANDS EVERYWHERE!!!
ReplyDeleteNa wa o...its too early for ish in your home. You really need to be pampered at this stage. I pray your husband receives sense now before it will be too late.
ReplyDeleteBefore they marry you, they treat you like gold! after na another story o, why are men this wicked? you wont take her to the hospital, you are perscibing medications for an early term pregnant woman as the doctor that you IS now! work work work over another persons daughters life! if it were your side chick na u will spend your weekend mopping sewat off her forehead, giving her lucozade boost to sip, taking her to the doctor and helping her walking up the steps, help her sit sef, cook for her, bathe her!!! but wife? mba nu, the spirit of see finish will not allow u appreciate what you have you spend your days lusting after what you dont have. Madam, if u dis with this pregnancy(God forbid) it wont take him one month ooooo, so safe your life you hear? Call a friend(dont u have a friend) let her escort ypou to the hospital, please take a taxi NOW and go treat yourself ooooo, meanwhile abeg go let ur mother pamper you small. your hubby is wicked ! and na fresh marriage sef. mtscheeew
ReplyDeleteposter don't you have any relative that could come over to your place to assist you for now pending when things will get better, you can as well call his mother and explain things to her if need be it you can pick some of your things and go over to her place. After all na her pikin put the thing way dey worry you for inside your body.
ReplyDeletedo not take medication until you see a doctor, if anything happens to that pregnancy that man will deal with you, becareful with what you do, eat or drink for now. some men just don't want their in-laws to interfere in their marriage, use wisdom and pet your husband to get what you want from him, no go do iron lady style biko.
1. Malaria is very dangerous in pregnancy.
ReplyDelete2. Did you conduct any testy to confirm you actually have malaria?
3. If you truly do have malaria, not all anti malaria can be used to treat malaria in pregnancy
4. Are you registered for ANC?
5. DO NOT TAKE ANY DRUG NOT PRESCRIBED BY YOUR DOCTOR.
6. You need all the support you can get now. The earlier you make your husband get that the better. Go home if you have to. No kee yourself faa!
7. Do not allow your husband disrespect your parents please.
. Madam, it's just too early to be reporting your husband to your dad or family . Are you a baby? You were feeling these symptoms, you couldn't get yourself to a hospital or at least a pharmacy with a prescribing pharmacist but went to lie down and wait for a man who has been at work all day and come home late to come and nurse you on an empty stomach. Are you for real? You want to start sending chronicles after 2months of marriage then I pity you. Your dad had nothing better to say than for him to call your father in law and ask that you return home for them to nurse you abi what did I just read? All you married women here encouraging this kind of behavior may God forgive you all. My friend pick your self up and go get lokmal anti malaria tablets (by emzor pharmaceutical) which is pregnancy friendly and paracetamol and stop your silly cry baby drama! Aunty Stella pls do not encourage her. If you wanna run to the hospital each time you have a headache in this recession period unless you have had it would not be funny at all o.
ReplyDeletePlease just keep quite, have you been in every pregnant woman's body to know how they feel. All pregnancies are not the same. I couldn't come downstairs for two months, had to put my business on a hold, my hair grew out of my weavon cus u couldn't comb it, couldn't eat nor sleep, it's by the grace of God I went through it all. So do not tell her what to do, because you were a super woman during yours does not mean it's the same for everyone. Kourtney has an easy pregnancy but same cannot be said for kim and they are sinling
DeleteInkita dawaapugii anya gi na ebo,nkpii
Delete. Madam, it's just too early to be reporting your husband to your dad or family . Are you a baby? You were feeling these symptoms, you couldn't get yourself to a hospital or at least a pharmacy with a prescribing pharmacist but went to lie down and wait for a man who has been at work all day and come home late to come and nurse you on an empty stomach. Are you for real? You want to start sending chronicles after 2months of marriage then I pity you. Your dad had nothing better to say than for him to call your father in law and ask that you return home for them to nurse you abi what did I just read? All you married women here encouraging this kind of behavior may God forgive you all. My friend pick your self up and go get lokmal anti malaria tablets (by emzor pharmaceutical) which is pregnancy friendly and paracetamol and stop your silly cry baby drama! Aunty Stella pls do not encourage her. If you wanna run to the hospital each time you have a headache in this recession period unless you have hmo it would not be funny at all o.
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Delete. Madam, it's just too early to be reporting your husband to your dad or family . Are you a baby? You were feeling these symptoms, you couldn't get yourself to a hospital or at least a pharmacy with a prescribing pharmacist but went to lie down and wait for a man who has been at work all day and come home late to come and nurse you on an empty stomach. Are you for real? You want to start sending chronicles after 2months of marriage then I pity you. Your dad had nothing better to say than for him to call your father in law and ask that you return home for them to nurse you abi what did I just read? All you married women here encouraging this kind of behavior may God forgive you all. My friend pick your self up and go get lokmal anti malaria tablets (by emzor pharmaceutical) which is pregnancy friendly and paracetamol and stop your silly cry baby drama! Aunty Stella pls do not encourage her. If you wanna run to the hospital each time you have a headache in this recession period unless you have hmo it would not be funny at all o.
ReplyDeleteSo she should self medicate because of recession
DeleteYou are very mad and silly.
DeleteIdiot
DeleteOh dear. Someone help this dummy!
DeleteFolic acid and Iron tablets will do.
ReplyDeletePregnancy is not a disease so you will be fine. See a gynecologist and ensure you are treated for malaria. Incase of next time, try and speak with your husband. you two should be best of friends. Never involve your folks unless it gets out of hand. Truth be told, its way too early to start having marital issues. Nip it in the bud.
Do your parents reside in the same town with you? why not stay with them when your hubby is at work and return in the evenings (as a housewife that you is na - in sister Nkechi's voice)
Register for antenatal at 16 weeks (unless you notice any spotting, RUN to the hospital). Avoid sex too till you enter your second trimester, maybe its also contributing to your sick state, cos you sound stressed.
I sincerely hope your stress doesn't lead to spotting. So Rest alot, eat healthy, take your drugs and keep your head up *e-hugs*
My sister, you need wisdom to settle this matter, your daddy should not have called your father in law, the issue is BTW you and hubby, you should have discussed it yourself with hubby and if he says No,you suggest his parent's place. Your marriage is too young for all this. God will see you through.
ReplyDeleteIs it not obvious she is afraid of her hubby. The guy seem like a nasty piece of work.
DeleteMadame, if you are SO SCARED of your husband, why not ask your Parents to send you some Money so that you can register for ante-nantal...
ReplyDeleteThis is your Life and that of the Baby's, if you DIE he will move on...
Be Wise...
Your husband is arrogant and broke. This Buharian error is affecting him badly. For him to say he'll insult your father.....That's a red flag. Stop self medication. Get a cab and go to the hospital; that is if he gives you cab money. Lol. Be strong. You can go home for a month or ask one of your family members to come around and keep you company. May you never write chronicles again.ha.
ReplyDeleteThis is what stella calls " you saw the signs and decided to stay". Your husband is the insensitive one here, and please do not take any drugs without your doctor's consent. For him to even say he would Insult your dad...hmmmm that could only mean one thing, which is he was never in good terms with your dad before you both got married....BTW, why didn't your dad call your husband first before callung your father inlaw? PELE OOOO
ReplyDeleteDear poster, please dont use any drug until you see a doctor.
ReplyDeleteDO not take that drugs. Go and see a doctor first o because of the baby. Unless you want to have to have miscarriage.
ReplyDeleteMalaria drugs are given/taken when a Pregnant woman is 4months gone i.e. early 2nd trimester...na wetin I learn from my pregnancies o. Go to the hospital perhaps the Doctor knows best.
DO NOT TAKE THAT DRUGS O.
I guess small boy still dey worry ya husband, he hasn't adjusted as a family man. I pray God touches or he listens to those that are in it already.
Your hubby is doing child's place, he does not understand what marriage is all about, couple with pregnant woman, you need to see a doctor and please do not take any drugs he bought for you, na doctor him be, ha God na wa oh, some men think say to bring woman from him mama house come na just to sleep with them, come iyawo i know you saw all the signs of his attitude towards you and you ignore it, two months your husband does not have regards for your father again, you better stand up to your right before you lose your sense, get well soon and take care of that baby in you, he deserve all the love and care
ReplyDelete#When we begin to love ourselves, we stop chasing people who don't love us*
ReplyDeleteJust 2 months and this??? Please leave the world, your parents, friends + SDK out of your marriage, otherwise you'd keep sending in chronicles even worse than this. Bet?
ReplyDeleteYoung lady, your tone is suggestive of someone scared of her hubby. And your hubby seem like a controlling mean fool. My sister, u better up your game. This one that a man is disrespecting your father in just two months, hian, I fear for you in this marriage o. He is your husband, not your God. He does not have any reason to treat you like a slave. Go to your father's house If u have to. Make sure you look for a good job after you put to bed, and prepare your mind o,this guy looks like who will give you a lot of rubbish. Be strong and stand up to him now that he is just starting, don't tolerate at of this rubbish. Marriage is good but is not the end of the world. And warn him not to ever insult your father again or else u will also insult his own. Someone insult your father and you are still here asking question. If my hubby dares it, all his generation born and unborn will be insulted. What rubbish. Abeg go and rest in your father's house jooo, and leave that egoistic, disrespectful boy u call a husband.
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DeleteSweetheart, the fundamental problem with most marriages is, a lot of people think they know what marriage entails but, sadly, they have little or no idea. Marriage is commitment, it is hard work and it pushes you way beyond your limits. Like I always say, marriage is not for the fainthearted.
ReplyDeleteWe all have our ideas and opinions about marriage. What I tell young ladies who come to pick my brain about marriage is, if you can and if your hubby is so inclined, give yourself at least a year to bond as man and wife before having kids because once babies start coming...your lives would never be the same again. Dating a guy for 10 years isn't the same as being married to him for 1 month. Marriage has this uncanny way of bringing out the "real you", you'll beginning to discover certain things about your spouse you had zero idea about. Hence the bonding period is very necessary.
Perhaps, you're a daddy's girl and you are used to daddy fixing things for you. Unfortunately, my darling, hubby is now your go-to guy. Your dad calling his dad to suggest how best to take care of you, was a wrong move. It's too early for parents to meddle, regardless of how good the intention is. No man wants to be told how to take care of his wife and run his home, it doesn't matter if he sucks at it.
You are just 2 months gone and not "showing" yet. Your hubby has no idea how you feel so he may mistake your discomfort for laziness. You're not a baby anymore, you're now a wife. It's time to put on your big girl pants and take care of yourself. So what if you are all alone from sunrise till sunset? Can't you call a cab to take you to the hospital if there's an emergency? Don't take any medication that isn't prescribed by your OB/GYN. Darling, I know you're ill but I also know you have an inner strength you haven't tapped into. This is the time to be strong. Create happiness for yourself, don't rely on any one for that. Choose your next move carefully, it may dictate the tone of how your marriage will be in the foreseeable future.
#e-bearhugs.
I forgot to add this, don't start comparing your hubby with other women's. If you do that, your marriage will end before it begins. I want to believe you had other options but you chose to marry him for whatever reason(s).
ReplyDeleteTrue, a husband is supposed to love and adore his wife but if he doesn't, you have to love and adore yourself. True, there are husbands who would treat their wives more delicately the minute she becomes pregnant. Unfortunately, it appears yours isn't one of them but he is still your hubby. Being married means you have to accept him, warts and all. I'm sure he has his winning sides. Perhaps, there certain areas where he will excel better than the most caring husband in the world. No man is perfect.
If you start assessing your hubby based on what you read here, you will end up being very miserable and you'll transfer the aggression to him. Even if he is a beast, he is your hubby so that makes him your beast. Don't allow people compound an already delicate issue. Please, my love, be a wise wife. Pray to God to give you wisdom. A wise wife can make a volcanic eruption seen like a pot of pasta boiling over while a "not so wise" wife can make a firecracker be like a dynamite.
My sweetheart, as much as I agree with most of the points you raised.. I will disagree with some.
DeleteThis lady is not worried about who will take her to the hospital, she kept stressing that her hubby is a busy man... i'm sure she won't even mind going to the hospital herself.
The problem here is the lack of empathy, care and patience being exhibited by the husband.
Yes I understand that she should never compare her hubby with other husbands, but she needs to know that she didn't commit a crime by being pregnant and sick.
Her hubby cannot be totally absolved from this whole thing.
@ poster... I'm not going to dwell so much on the issues you raised, just like Ronalda stated, ''tis time to wear your big girl pants.
I will drop few tips that will help hun. I had it real bad initially.
Firstly, Speak to yourself. Say I can do this!!!
I can conclude my service year and still rock this pregnancy.
Try and drag yourself out of bed in the morning so you can have your bath,put some lipgloss on and look presentable, it will cheer you up.
Drink lots of water, I hated drinking water. But it helps, somehow. Lol
Don't let yourself get hungry, nibble on food,crackers,fruits... once you get hungry, you feel nauseous and sick.
Your man needs to know that you need help... he can assist you with quick fixes before rushing out... you don't need to cook if you do not feel like it and you are the only one that can tell him.
Lastly, go to the hospital and run the tests again.
Get prescribed drugs. I must warn you that it is not ideal to take self prescribed drugs while pregnant..
Infact for planned pregnancies, it is important to treat malaria first.
Take care dear.
How are we even sure he gives her money
DeleteFirst trimester can be so hellish for some people. Kpele.
ReplyDeleteBut you should have told your hubby first that you wanted to go to your parents place before your dad called your fil. All this little miscommunication creates rift and tension in the home.
Untreated malaria isn't good for your baby and it is advice able you see your doc before taking any drugs.
Let me view things from your husband's perspective.
ReplyDeleteYou said your husband closes late from work, that means his job is tasking.
I am going to get some backlash but i will just say it.
When someone goes to work especially the breadwinner, there is physical and mental exhaustion that goes with it. He does not just sit down on the seat and do nothing, he uses his brain to work. Also, it is obvious his work is tasking, so he may not even get a day off. It is not every company that allow their staff to be taking time off work always. What if he takes time off work and get sacked from work? After all the stress at work, he expect at least food on the table, he didn't see it, he has every right to be angry initially though he would realize his anger is not justified on discovering that you are sick.
No two husbands are the same, now you know the character of your husband, he is not the type that pampers women, he is also not the type that likes his fellow men telling him how to run his marriage. He is the head of the home, your father, his father and you should respect that. I am sure you were just being your parent's child by reporting him plus all those hormones all over your body but you should realize you are a married woman. Things have changed. Maybe, before your husband pampered you but now he is working hard because he has two additional mouth to feed. He may be going through stress thinking about it too. Do not expect him to be acting like before, when he was not married or responsible for anyone.
You are not working so the best way you can contribute is to try as much as possible to help out. If you can, when you have little strength, dress up and take yourself to the hospital, you can call him from there to pick you. Let him see you are making an effort, you went to NYSC pop dinner by yourself, you can do this. When you get to the hospital , you can ask for bed rest.
Do not expect him to understand what you are going through, he is a man, he may not. I know it is not easy for you, pregnancy plus malaria but honey, you have to love yourself and your baby enough to realize that your health comes first to you. Find a way and take yourself to the hospital, you will see other pregnant women there without their husband, you would even see some of these Bvs (who would tell you their husband carries them 24/7 during pregnancy) without their husband, even selling beads,strollers, baby pants with their 9 months old pregnancy. You will be encouraged. You are strong, you can do this.
Pregnancy is not easy on women at all, it is also confusing to men. They will not understand how a woman who is active 24/7 will decide to lie down on the bed everyday, they will think you are lazy whereas it is the hormones. Some of the nicest of men start having affairs whenever their wife is pregnant, i don't know the rationale but i guess it is because they don't understand.
Much later, when your husband is calm, talk to him, invite him to your next OBGYN visit, tell your OBGYN to stylishly explain pregnancy to him. I am sure he would change.
All the best love.
Dear Nigerian men, there is something called planned pregnancy in marriage too because some of you act like 'ah never hespered it' when she is pregnant. Most of you men need to go for pregnancy counselling prior to your wives getting pregnant. Most of you men also need to attend antenatal visits with her.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
DID YOUR HUSBAND "CONSENT" TO THIS PREGNANCY. You've barely been married and you're already pregnant in this economy.. Your husband isn't a wicked man. These are all signs of FRUSTRATION. I've been there so I know. Seems you ambushed him with this pregnancy and he isn't ready. Also seems you are immature and not ready for marriage. You need to grow a pair, and fast. You also need to start earning money, no matter how little. Sort this out and take care of this situation before it breaks your home, have a heart to heart talk with your husband and don't involve third parties in your marital issues going forward, except is life threatening like domestic violence, etc. Goodluck.
ReplyDeleteYes, your parents are third parties.
You have extreme morning sickness. Go see a doctor. Beg you Husband to let you go to your mom. I feel you. Pregnancy can be very rough for some ppl. Last thing you need is someone pumping you with malaria drugs. Once again go see your doctor so you don't take the wrong meds.
ReplyDeletePoster jx b ready to start praying oh...ur hubby is an immature temperamental he-goat jx reminds me of one of my friends hubby chinenye...last last she left the monkey bcoz d marriage became hell within 1year.u need attention oh coz if u die he will replace u.
ReplyDelete1) Husband is immature
ReplyDelete2) Father is over caring.
IMO, poster, ur dad should have called yur hubby to tell him he wants u around for treatment.
And you, u hate yourself so much Abie u can't call cab to go to hospital. Be there forming sick while jeopardising the health of the unborn.
If anything happen to that "baby" as a result of carelessness, negligence from you and ur crazy husband, u will both answer to murder.
#iampissed