Na wah...
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
QUESTIONS ABOUT THE PAST.
Hello lovely Stella, I have a friend who is now married and her husband keeps asking her questions about her past and she had a rough past which she decided to let go and focus on her future and now her hubby keeps doubting her even though she opened up a little he wants every single detail and when she relents he starts telling her words that hurts her,.
there was this guy she met and she had feelings for him but told him to do it the right way and one thing led to another and they had sex after which she decided never to contact him again, she also told her hubby about this guy but didn't mention they had sex as she acts like it never happened.
she mentioned they kissed n all but not sex, now her hubby keeps singing about this guy and wants to know every details and she really don't wanna mention the sex part to him, what should she do? Please your red pen it needed (am only aware because she confided in me as her spiritual mentor)
HUH?
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
FLIRTY HUSBAND
OK Stella of life, have been going through your blog for a while now and as so many who say, kudos to you. Stella am soooo angry right now as am typing this message. Pls forgiving all the errors cos am Here goes my story( Chronicle). Its a bit lengthy so please bear with me.
I met hubby some years back after I parted ways with the love of my life. He had to get married to someone else because he felt I was too young and not ready but we clicked right from the first day we met till date (story for another day). The break up affected us drastically because my ex called the next day after his wedding but we could never be together again.
I tried my best to move on and I met hubby( den bf). I didn't love him but I really liked him so I decided to give it time, we got married and all, after a while I noticed he was always getting angry and picking on every little thing I do, harassing me verbally even with my well to do parents, i started getting depressed but my mum always gave me good advice coupled with prayers it got to a point that I almost took my life ( can't try that now tho), then DH changed to a "good man" because he was scared to death!
Two years back I noticed he was always so flirty with chics but the one wey dey vex me pass na the lies wey him dey blow for the girls them and he's a broke ass. (We grew together from the scratch but most of the financial help comes from me) and he will be acting like a straight man before me, when you confront him he will deny everything and even turn it on me( Very irritating).
Just now,I saw another chat, he has been chic-ing this girl since but the girl no gree. Stella, no be say na mouth but I pure!
After 3 kids now you no go believe say I don born sef. If he wants to have a girlfriend he should have her outright than chat up plenty girls and just be flirting nonsense with them. My ex and I have been chatting but though the feelings are there we try hard to draw a certain line but am about to throw caution into the wind and cheat back on him cos have been faithful but I don't think he values that.
My ex loves me so much but he says he would never have sex with another man's wife, we've been talking and seeing for 9 years now but we r like inseparable besties(no sex) and that is OK because I just need a true friend.
Now here is d issue; I just told hubby now that he's flirting after I saw the chat on his phone and he's raining hail stones, shouting and intimidating me. That I will tell him who he's cheating with, that he will leave the house (he says it every time he's angry). I pray he leaves so i can have my peace. He wants to call a family meeting tomorrow for me.
I don't want to say anything because if I start I will wash him and dry him there but it is also a disgrace to my personality. Am a quiet person that just wants happiness and peace but he has pushed me to the wall. Am so confused right now. Please what should I do. Stella your red ink so needed plus bv's advice and yabbings too.
So you and your husband cannot settle whatever ish you have without calling family meeting?..Childish must say.I dont know what advice to give you right now honey.
Ale gi di gan o, dis one is strong
ReplyDeletePoster 1,never ever ever tell any man your sordid past . it's between you and God. See the signs already, he's looking for what to hurt you with, in future, be wise.
DeletePoster 2. Handle it with wisdom. This man will use reverse psychology and make you beg. Don't fall for that. Stand your ground
@poster one;a past is a side she doesnt need to recall back,cos nothing good can come out there..
DeleteThe question now is;Will he change her past for her if she spills out everything that happened way-back???
I think he only needs those info so as to use it against her whenever they have an issue or quarrel in the nearest future...
She should never spill any other thing to him!! If he needs to know,let him go back to the past and find out for himself..
Marriage doesn't mean you wouldn't have your own secrets anymore!!!
@MARTINS ABOY
1nigeriangirl from instablog to SDKB and back, more grease to your thumbs. In your rush to comment the day, you spelt chagrin as chargin. Take it easy madam, them no dey give award for who comment pass. Lol
DeletePoster 1; your friend shouldn't tell her husband anything again about her past. Old things have passed away shikena. The man is looking for something to hold and be hurting her when yawa Gass. She should say nothing again
DeleteMy two cents
@ poster two;two wrongs can never make something "Right"..
DeleteDon't stoop so low to cheat simply because your husband does so!
But If you still insist on cheating after this;let it be your personal decision,and not cos your husband does same..
But believe me dear;CLASS has its own fragrance...you don't need to roll in the mud with that horseband of yours!
Keep your head high and know what you "Need",and always remind yourself of your vows,and the reason you got married as well..
Now say this to yourself; "I AM UNIQUE"
#hugsToYou
@MARTINS ABOY
When is chronicles pot going to be empty?
DeletePoster 1, I don't know why ladies can't shut their mouth once in relationship. A man will always use anything you tell him about a fellow man against you. Secondly the husband is a pervert. He gets a high when hears sordid details about exploits but as a husband dt "it is now" he wants to use dt as cover to intimidate and get more details. many are mad but few are roaming.
Deleteposter 2, tell your husband to call townhall meeting, family meeting too small.
Poster 2 re u married to my husband . Omg. Bt me I can't commit suicide for no man MBA!!!
DeleteWhy do men ask about women's past and why do women spill even when not asked sometimes
DeleteSilly psychologically imbalanced men everywhere
Why don't men spill their own past, present and future without even been prompted since they live off "PAST STORIES" so much; so lead properly by example. D for dogs feeling pure ko, impure ni even from such unhealthy thirst
Poster 1, tell your friend or it might be you, who knows? Never tell your husband some things, let it remain in the past. Even if the current horseband was once an ex and she had sex with him, she should deny it. Men ehn, hmmmm.
DeletePoster 2, I just hate men like that, I don't know what to say
Tell your friend and her husband to grow the fuck up. Nonsense. Well maybe the answers turn him on!
ReplyDeleteAs spiritual mentor she needs counsel and you can't connect the spirit na SDK you come
DeleteOK o she never see spiritual mentor na mentoletum u be
Enter your reply...poster 2 : ur story is same as mine plus my own hubby is very lazy nd depend on me nd d mother for living but he must toast everylady he set his eye on even my besties and to make matter worst he always call family meeting each time we ve issues. I ve to move out for peace to reign nd nurse my pregnancy in gud health
DeleteIs this the marriage that you people won't let someone hear word everyday? Just look at all the nonsense I'm reading. That's why there are so many struggling families in Nigeria. You won't use time and energy to chase money. You worry about past and cheats
DeleteMscheew
DeleteEverybody must write chronicles. Marriage is not for children abeg
ReplyDeleteAs in... So childish. Childish people marrying childish people. As if I'm reading stories from high school love confessions
DeletePoster, she should confess all....
ReplyDelete*cleaneyes*James is this u??u finally came out of Anon
DeleteBabe I missed you @james
DeleteExactly, some pple just act like babies in their relationship. Even me that m not yet 18,i can get married and there won't be any complain. Nigerians and their baby brains.
DeletePoster 2 u don't need to complain, at least u have 3kids, take care of ur kids and don't cheat on him. What r u after when u cheat, sex!? Nahhhh! Leave him, he will come to his senses very soon
Lol@ anon15:49.
DeleteYou are below 18 years and you claimed you can handle marriage when you can't even handle comments. James called poster 2 and 1 children.
Marriage is a completely different Union from friendship you can jump out anytime. Marriage is filled with ups and downs so don't expect bed of roses sweetheart.
Lol@ anon15:49.
DeleteYou are below 18 years and you claimed you can handle marriage when you can't even handle comments. James called poster 2 and 1 children.
Marriage is a completely different Union from friendship you can jump out anytime. Marriage is filled with ups and downs so don't expect bed of roses sweetheart.
James is that really you... I only comment when necessary
DeleteAwwwwwe @James. we miss you. pls don't go again.
DeletePoster one you're talking Bout yourself and not your friend. The husband shouldn't focus on her past. The guy she slept with you didn't explain. Did she sleep with him while married or before marriage?? There must be a reason the man distrusts his wife
ReplyDeleteEven if she's talking about herself do u know her in person? Y d doubt ?
DeleteHonestly foundation of this marriage is faulty
DeleteAs usual kronicles ti de
ReplyDeleteEleyi De koja mii
DeletePoster 2,are u sure u are a wonderful wife coz men cheat mostly when they are unhappy in their home.
ReplyDeleteWelcome back James,don't disappear again...
DeleteMen without self control. If you are unhappy as the head of the home...fix the leak. Lazy men
Deletei beg to differ...men cheat for rge fun of it...not necessarily because hes unhappy...but when a woman cheats...she really doesn't love the man anymore
DeletePoster two your husband is probably frustrated cos as you said he's a broke ass and has to depend on you most times. The women might be his on way of feeling like a man. And why didn't you notice he had complex issues before you married him?? If you guys want to seperate, do so but do not sleep with your ex. And my dear if that ex of yours loved you so much as you said, he won't have married someone else and left you
ReplyDeletePoster 1,
ReplyDeleteWhat's all these my friend!..my friend?...
I'm sure the story is all about you...
You better don't tell your man everything in your past life!..
You can forge and tell him what he want to hear...
Poster 2,
It's obvious your husband dosent love you again!....
Start flirting your own!...
Allow him to flirt mehn and stop having sex with him...
Stop disturbing your life because of him...get a hot sexy dude that will be servicing you!...
Life bu ofu mbia!..enjoy it while it last..
Wat if he finds out from somewhere??
DeleteAre u ready for such?
Y hid ur past if it was something u did before u met him. Abi u cheated while u guys were dating ni????
Seriously, I think u should be open bcoz d guy fit don hear things outside.
Chronicles 2 just talk say na your ex prick still dey hungry u. Hian. Calling your ex the love of your life😁😁😁😁 u are sad because of the chat u see right? How do u think ur ex boyfriend wife will feel wen she see ur chat with her husband. ? U and your husband fit each other.
ReplyDeleteU just make me fall in love with u
DeleteI'm officially in love with u! Jezz! Some women are just plain stupid. As a single gir, the word "ex" does not exist in my dictionary not to talk of a married woman. Inukwa best friend! As in eh...i'm so pissed right now. This is why some men get away with alotta things they do. Why do u give a man u once dated the luxury of friendship while still married just to feel ok with yourself. You are a big fool mrs "i still pure". Why not go ahead and do it instead of disturbing the peace of this blog. Ana ezuzughari
DeletePoster one tell your friend to remain mute.
ReplyDeleteSpiritual mentor ke.. A beg we know u r the one that needs advise, not ur imaginary friend. Don't tell your husband anything, ur past is no ones business. If ur mouth is scratching u to talk, go and confess ur sins to ur personal lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Let ur past remain in ur past.
ReplyDeleteLolll, no mind am, no be only spiritual mentor na psychotic mentor.
DeleteYou are somebody's so called 'spiritual mentor' it is on a blog you are looking for advice ? Lmao Abeg sit your nyansh down let someone see road mbok.
Poster1: Dear spiritual mentor, you didnt mention is the sex happened after she got married or before... i sense she cheated on her husband, if so, she deserves any humuliating question that comes with it, if its right before she got married, she shld stick to her ground & dont say shit till hes convinced she just had one body count...
ReplyDeleteAlways remember that loose lips sink ships.
poster2: Youre also not far from what ur husband is doing, hope u know....
does he know uve been in contact with the love of ur life for 9 fucking yrs?? i guess he'd hv lots to bitch about that as ure doing, & a family meeting wldnt be required, whats the point keeping a chicken as a pet, when uve got sauce & rice around? well, if the meeting holds, it'd be in ur favour if uve got evidence to back ur words, or it'd just be ur word against his words... then u both go back to ur emotional cheating and physical cheating.
b4 i forget.... why are all the ladies who send chronicles so curvy & beautiful? i need to see pictures to agree with u
Poster 1, reminds me of the 'Shame woman' in GOT shouting...confess...confess....confess...lmao
Delete@ poster, your hubby is tired of you. He just wants something to hold as an evidence. He will surly use it against you n make you miserable as hell
You confess at your own risk...
Poster 1, you made me laugh Gan spiritual mentor. Just tell us it's you na. And why is your hubby so inquisitive? Because he knows about what your trying to hide.just tell him everything abeg
ReplyDeletePoster 2, that your husband needs to grow up and stop acting like a kid. And maybe stop getting too close to your ex, why didn't he marry you? He's not even going to leave his wife for you,so why get too attached to him? Concentrate on your marriage biko!
U be real mumu I swear. Use ur head to think not ur mouth
DeletePoster 1: confess what? Hmmmm. Ok o. But why is the husband so interested in her past? He wants to be using it against her. He's a bad man abeg.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: let him call family meeting o. Disgrace him well. He's just an unfortunate being.
Two posters with childish husbands....
ReplyDeletePoster 1- please as far as he doesn't have evidence, let her deny till her last breath. Tell her not to take everything he says to heart. In fact that's the only guy he should know about. She should deny every ex. In fact If there's evidence, let her say it's photoshop. Her husband is such a baby.
I like you gan! Exactly wat I can do. Even if the evidence carry blood sample.
DeletePoster one: kindly put up a bold front n shut upppppppppppppppp ur buccal cavity. D more u talk, d less ur hubby trusts u n d more he uses ur past to spite u.
ReplyDeleteAlternatively if ur hubby asks u abt ur past again; break down in tears n ask why he doesn't believe all u have told him so far is d whole truth. Somethings are beta left unsaid... Learn to shut up!
What does d yeye husband want to do with f stories from her past? Does he have a 9-5 job or is d cheating a recent one in d marriage ? I hate such men, do u also ask about his past?
DeleteI dont think is neccessary telling her hubby her past life......it doesn't make sense at all. Bible said "old things are pass away, behold all things have become new" i think this verse is also reffering to when one is married.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, I don't get you. Since has denied previous accusations, why didn't you confront him with proof. Are you not a BV? By now you should have learnt here that after you snoop, you confront your cheating partner with proof. Try to be smart na.
ReplyDeleteWhile most people say the past is gone, my personal opinion is that the 2 intending parties planning to commit the rest of their lives together as husband and wife must be willing to disclose their past. I don't want to discover something horrible after signing the dotted lines.
ReplyDeleteI kinda agree with u...
DeleteIf uve done abortion, i'd like to knw about it, & if ur womb is intact...
If I've been treated for mental illness b4, u sure wld want to knw about it...
Or if i ejaculated in a lady & she left town and lost contacts, don't be surprised if a baby comes knockin yrs later....
Put all ur cards on the table, black n white, if i'm accepting u, let me accept with all the bells & whistles.....
Then we both vow not to judge with our dark pasts.
You are very correct
DeleteSame thought
DeleteP1: Why is d man so interested in d past life of his wife?
ReplyDeleteDoes it mean d husby knows abt what had happened b/w her and d guy then?
How many of his past life(s) has he opened up 2 d wife? etc
Mbok he shld grow up & leave d poor woman alone.
If i were d wife, if u r not ok wt d little i told u then he shld go & hug transformer....i'll rather die wt some of my past life than 2 open it up 2 a man dt will use it again me in d future.
P2: If u hv ur evidence well arranged please allow him to summon d family meeting & make sure dt u let d cat(s) out of d bag 4 every1 2 see 2 avoid story dt touches shld d hand of d clock should turn around. #OkByeeeeee!!!
Poster 1 stop saying your friend you are the person, stop talking and caution your husband whenever he brings up the topic
ReplyDeletePoster 2 wait till he calls the family meeting, wash him there like never before presenting all the evidences you have against him, scream ontop e be like im dey take your quietness for granted
Wht kinda childish husbands are these? He's flirting, u r chatting up n doing BFF gamble with ur ex, so u guys are even, cos if he was doing BFF with his own ex, u go still complain.
ReplyDelete@ James, why must she confess all? The past is in the past. What is he going to do with her past history? Is he God? Even God does not want us to keep confessing our past sins when we pray. But God is God.
ReplyDeleteThe past is the past, may be she too should ask him about his.
1) Mind your damn business
ReplyDelete2)Encourage him to go already
But you set know that just by chatting with your ex secretly, you are also cheating!
If you wanna fuck him..go ahead!
If you can't take it any more, leave the broke ass for good.
I guess you need encouragment to cheat right? Now u have it
Marriage sometimes seem like such a hard work.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 Don't tell him anything that will backfire in the future, if U must tell him anything sef...
Poster 2 are you sure u aren't looking for faults with your husband since you are now bestie with your Ex that couldn't marry you because u were still a child... Just kontinu dey pray sha
Poster 2 just do what ever make u happy. You deserve happiness.
ReplyDeletePoster 2how market??well I personally don't think calling a family meeting kuz of the issue U have with ur husband is the Best naaa dat is not it because this same family people u call to resolve the issue for u will ruin the remaining pieces left in ur marriage
ReplyDeletePoster one stop lying. Spiritual mentor ko spiritual menthol nii. You are talking about ya self. My dear God go help you.
ReplyDeletePoster 2.Forget about your ex and focus on your marriage. He use and dump
ReplyDeleteu to marry another woman and u still no get shame to call him the love of your life. It seems you never loved your horseband. OK Divorce ur dh and ask the so called love of your life to marry as his second wife after KSA married 5 wives and they are living happily.
who wan suck my big prick??
ReplyDeleteYour sister should do a great job.
DeleteAsk her..... Ask her politely oh, she'd agree.
I like you.
DeleteLmaooooooo. I don't know why atheist's reply made me laugh so hard
DeleteAnonymous, why don't you contort yourself and suck your big dick yourself? Son of a b***h. @#/@#$#@$$$***##. if you watch cartoons, you know what all these signs means.
DeleteHello Atheist, I'm still thinking that I should send you a mail on
"spiritual husband ish since you don't believe they exist.
Poster 1 stop saying your friend you are the person, stop talking and caution your husband whenever he brings up the topic
ReplyDeletePoster 2 wait till he calls the family meeting, wash him there like never before presenting all the evidences you have against him, scream ontop e be like im dey take your quietness for granted
hmmm... poster one, are you sure you are not d victim and your just using your friend to cover up? make una dey talk truth o.
ReplyDeleteposter two, next time, screenshot d msgs in case of any family meeting so you'd have enough evidence to show.
Ghen Ghen..........chronicles ti de........
ReplyDeletepls how can I reply a comment under my post?
ReplyDeletePoster 1... As the spiritual mentor you is I can't advice you.
ReplyDeletePoster 2...all of you mentioned in this chronicle need a knock on ur heads to correct it. Wetin you and your ex dey find ona go soon see am eh.. Continue. Your eye dey outside too much focus on your marriage then watch warroom.
Some men have mouth like tap,if that man is like that she should stick to her lies.
ReplyDeleteNo 2 please don't tell me your ex fucked u while dating but left you cause he felt u are too young and not ready to get married.if I will cheat I won't cheat with that kind of ex.@ the family meeting speak out there dont hide any thing and after that husband stop stressing him about it live for you and your kids act like you don't care when he notice u don't check his phones anymore or disturb him about his acts he will have a rethink,he may even start suspecting you are up to something too.
IF THEY MAKE YOU CRY DONT MAKE THEM SEE YOUR TEARS.
After many years of marriage you guys call family meetings to settle your disputes?like seriously?..been married for 3 years now and it has never happened,i can't even imagine it,how e go be sef?you will say yours he will say his and family will start judging u both?after which they all go home and both of u sleep on same bed?is your husband a teenager?wow,stories like this made me so scared before I got married.
ReplyDeleteLolz dis is serious well for d first chronicle my dear u made a mistake of lettin him knw about ur hidden past I knw dia shldn't b secrets in marriage bt my dear there are thinx we go tru in life dat we dnt need 2 let our spouse knw cos of it's effect 2 our relationship so dear dnt ever mention d sex part 2 him and talk 2 him make him trust u again.
ReplyDeleteFor d second well yours is a very difficut situation bt believe me every woman most go tru somtin in other 2 learn.pls dear a word advice no one is a saint be it a man or woman u have ur kids 2 live for if ur hubby is tryin 2 abuse u emotional or verbally pls ignore if u can cos xchanging words with him is nt d best be d bigger person in ur relationship hold on 2 ur kids and hubby dnt forget 2 always put him in prayer.(Watch war room)
Poster 2-allow him call family meeting and say all you want.
ReplyDeleteAfter all,he is the shameless one who can't man up and settle any differences except the whole villages hears of it.
Poster 1-she shouldn't say anything,humans can't be trusted with secrets,not to talk of a husband like hers,who can't allow the past remain where it should be.
Poster 1 , whenever a man starts asking of ur past, he has definitely heard something abt you somewhere and he is using dt method to get information. I hope one of ur close friends dt knows about ur past hasn't gone to tell d secret.
DeleteI'm talking from experience cos a guy who didn't disturb u of ur past before he got married to you ,then why is he doing it now? Something is wrong somewhere. I think u need to snoop ur hubby and get to d root of the matter.
Poster 1: your story is not complete. How did telling her husband her past start? But whatever it is the man should let go the past because it will do no good than harm to the marriage. As for the wife, on no account must she mention the sex part. Kissing story is like this, then how will the sex story be.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Your ex said you are too young for marriage but too old for sexship abi? Continue..
U said you never loved your husband before but you married him abi? Continue..
Are trying to tell me that you did not notice his cheating behavior during courtship, but for your mind you will change him when married because husband is not in market abi? Continue...
You said your husband is broke ass and you pay percent of the bills? Continue..
My dear poster 2,sit down and ask yourself who do you want... I will advise you, the earlier you let go your ex the better you concentrate and build your marriage
Poster 1: your story is not complete. How did telling her husband her past start? But whatever it is the man should let go the past because it will do no good than harm to the marriage. As for the wife, on no account must she mention the sex part. Kissing story is like this, then how will the sex story be.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Your ex said you are too young for marriage but too old for sexship abi? Continue..
U said you never loved your husband before but you married him abi? Continue..
Are trying to tell me that you did not notice his cheating behavior during courtship, but for your mind you will change him when married because husband is not in market abi? Continue...
You said your husband is broke ass and you pay percent of the bills? Continue..
My dear poster 2,sit down and ask yourself who do you want... I will advise you, the earlier you let go your ex the better you concentrate and build your marriage
Poster 1....i believe there is something you must have done or signs he has seen to make him doubt your past..be sincere with him by telling him the truth because at this stage keeping it secret wil further destroy ur marriage.
DeletePoster 2..cheating on your husband because he cheated on you and is denying it does not make you any better than he is..the one way to catch an unrepentant thief is to give him a long rope believe me he will hang himself with it oneday...long rope in this case means pretending like he's faithful..foget abt your Ex,he is in ur Past
Poster 2-allow him call family meeting and say all you want.
ReplyDeleteAfter all,he is the shameless one who can't man up and settle any differences except the whole villages hears of it.
Poster 1-she shouldn't say anything,humans can't be trusted with secrets,not to talk of a husband like hers,who can't allow the past remain where it should be.
Poster 2-allow him call family meeting and say all you want.
ReplyDeleteAfter all,he is the shameless one who can't man up and settle any differences except the whole villages hears of it.
Poster 1-she shouldn't say anything,humans can't be trusted with secrets,not to talk of a husband like hers,who can't allow the past remain where it should be.
Stella pls am tired of been anonymous how can I register so my name wld appear instead
ReplyDeletePoster 2 you should be ashamed of yourself your husband is flirting so you too wants to cheat. I want to try not to judge you, but if you are not enjoying your marriage ask your husband for separation. If you don't have respect for yourself and family show your kids some. How would you feel tomorrow if someone tag your child as 'that boy when e mama commit adultery'? For a woman no matter what adultery is not an option. If you are a Christian read proverbs 14:1. For you friend to tell you he can't sleep with another person's wife should have given you some sense.
ReplyDeletePoster 2.
ReplyDeleteDo everything but not revenge sex. You haven't even told us that you caught him having sex. Just know that he as a man will "get away with it" (and that disgusts me), you will not and that will not in anyway help your angst.
I will give you the same piece of advice I gave my friend (let's call her Ada). She was hurt because her husband fucked her bridesmaid and even made "porn" out of it. I asked her, "are you going to divorce him", she said "no". (mind you, the man was remorseful, which she also admitted.) Then I said, "work it out, pray it out, wait it out . . . be calm and let him try to decode you etc." She instead grabbed an ex's penis and sucked and fucked. This was an ex that was hurting from being dumped for the "rich guy". Now, when she eventually made up with her hubby, she dumped the ex again; bad move. The guy sent "everything" to both her phone and the husband's phone and even the phone of her pastor whom they both had had counsel from and earthquakes began. Her marriage was over in less than 24 hours. She couldn't attend church again, she slipped into major depression, lost her job and so on. Mind you that she had her hubby's porn on her phone too. But no one was interested in that one.
So, go on lady, keep meeting in all the places and as for fuck; on your max, set, booooooooooooooom! Na boko haram bomb be dat!
Poster1, you did not tell us if your friend slept with her fling after marriage.
ReplyDeleteYour friend's husband should let her past be, except if that your so called friend is having extra marital affairs and her husband does not trust her movement, then he has a right to question her.
Poster 2, you never love your husband, you're still in love with your married ex. You are complaining that your husband is flirting with girls in the chat room, but you are always chatting with your married ex. Do you know how that make his wife feel? You want to cheat on your husband with your married ex, you want to destroy another woman's home, you are as guilty as your husband.
You better cut all ties from your ex, call your husband to order and live in peace in your matrimonial home. Having a banging body after many kids, is sometimes not enough.
Hmmm marriage no easy oh, am getting scared.I think for poster 1 all I can say is once past does not determine d success of a marriage so I don't know y men are so bothered abt it.....God has said to forget our past and for Poster 2 please don't ever cheat if not for anything but for your conscience to be at peace
ReplyDeletePoster 1 ur friends husband is nosey and she should shut her mouth cos everything she tells him hw will use against her some men are like that wanting to know all and asking questions about your past what does he need that info for. Please tell your friend she has told him enough her past is hers nd he is her present nd future that's where they should talk more about.she should look 4 ways to avoid the topics or tell him positive lies since he has itchy ears
ReplyDeletePoster 1. I learnt a long time ago not to tell your spouse everything.As someone already pointed out,nothing good will come out of it. He will only use it against you.Tell him to free you and marry someone without a past . Poster 2 .Please,please excise your ex from your life.As tempting as it is,leave that relationship in the past where it belongs.That way,you can stand on a high moral ground when you are confronting your husband. I do not have a remedy for a cheating spouse but lawyers say that if you are going to equity,you must come with clean hands.Chikena.
ReplyDeletePoster 1. I learnt a long time ago not to tell your spouse everything.As someone already pointed out,nothing good will come out of it. He will only use it against you.Tell him to free you and marry someone without a past . Poster 2 .Please,please excise your ex from your life.As tempting as it is,leave that relationship in the past where it belongs.That way,you can stand on a high moral ground when you are confronting your husband. I do not have a remedy for a cheating spouse but lawyers say that if you are going to equity,you must come with clean hands.Chikena.
ReplyDeleteDear poster 2 Please you are the problem 2 wrongs can never make right. You are inlove with your ex and you have also wronged God by keeping that relationship with your ex. He is the in between man and the reason why you don't love your husband and you are hardened against him. Until you stop all communications with that your ex your marriage will continue to be on fire cos nothing about your husband will be pleasing to you. Talking from experience I retraced my step with the help of God and told myself if it was God's wish I wld have being married to my ex but if he gave me hubby it's cos he's God's choice 4 me and he should restore my love for him and God did it. We are not perfect but we happy cos I've put my all into my hubby if I need a Dangote he is my Dangote.
ReplyDeleteDear poster 2 Please you are the problem 2 wrongs can never make right. You are inlove with your ex and you have also wronged God by keeping that relationship with your ex. He is the in between man and the reason why you don't love your husband and you are hardened against him. Until you stop all communications with that your ex your marriage will continue to be on fire cos nothing about your husband will be pleasing to you. Talking from experience I retraced my step with the help of God and told myself if it was God's wish I wld have being married to my ex but if he gave me hubby it's cos he's God's choice 4 me and he should restore my love for him and God did it. We are not perfect but we happy cos I've put my all into my hubby if I need a Dangote he is my Dangote.
ReplyDeleteP1. You're a wicked wife.
ReplyDeleteP2. You and ur ex are foolish if u so calm he is the love of ur life why then didn't you guys get married, the excuse you gave is too silly, that you were too young, now u married someone u just like. Did u ever think before getting married, now u ain't happy
Poster 2...You are also cheating on your husband. What are you complaining about? You have taken another woman's husband as your "besty" and you are saying both of you are still in love. If you are so honourable, respect his marriage and cut him off. Are you truly better than your man who flirts with other women? You are committing adultery as well honey. Come to equity with clean hands.
ReplyDeleteI feel for you and I am sorry you married a man who has no respect for himself but you must also respect yourself. If your ex loved you as you think, he would have waited. Marriage is not a sprint.
Poster 1...Your question is confusing. Tell your friend to stop talking. She knows her husband is emotionally abusive and she keeps talking about her past. She should also stand up to his bullying. No woman or man should be bullied by their spouse. If you can't speak up for yourself then get someone he respects to do it for you. It is a marriage and not a father daughter relationship. Open eye for an insecure man like that and he will back off. She needs to stop being a coward.
ReplyDeletePos 2 u are very stupid u mean a man dat left u 2 marry anoda u still call him d luv of ur life? I pity ur whole generation,and pls stop snooping on ur husbands fone cos u are as guilty as him, no difference between u 2.
ReplyDeletePoster two yi ti go ju, oko mi o le ba mi try nonsense yen lailai. O wun mi lati advice e but mi o mo boya o le ka Yoruba tori mi o raye lati se wahala Lori asan.
ReplyDeletePoster 2...your ex does not respect you or your marriage. A married man who loves you will see you as the person he should cheat with? He loved you yet could not marry you. Is he the first person to marry a young girl. If you were so young then he had no business being with you. You also need to stop being silly. Your ex is bad news. Your husband is equally bad news. But lets remove the speck from your eye first. You can not talk down about your cheating husband when your chats if seen by anybody else will be an issue. You need to get right P2. Stop cheating, 9 year back and forth is your ex using you for attention and you holding on to an illusion.
ReplyDeleteThese men are not stupid. They will not leave a good woman ever. If they know her worth and if he does not or did not then he is not sensible and you are better off. You helped your man and so what? Are you the first? Helping him is helping yourself. Dont be deceived by all these girls, they support their men too. Will he always be down and broke? Didnt he use money to blind you when you married him not out of love but according to you "you liked him enough". Nne, fix up! You are not a child.
P1......don't tell anybody your past not even your husband bcos one day he will use it against you and eventually throw you out of the house. And please don't do that again.
ReplyDeleteP2.........settle that with your husband, leave your ex it's not healthy for your family. Tenkiu
Poster 2, we all say this. "We wont sleep with another man's wife". But if you are not careful, that guy would soon fu*k you. You better give him chance... talk to your husband, from your epistle its obvious you insult him daily or talk down on him because you are from a rich background. You guys should iron things out.. let him know you love him and realize he's hurting you. talk to him without anger towards him else he would get defensive.
ReplyDeletePoster 1...Never in dis life tell ur husband u had sex with another man even if u Pple were datin..he will use it against u..don't u know how to lie or ure feeling guilty....better start forging enough stories to tell him
ReplyDeletePoster 2...even if u will cheat must u cheat with an ex...stop chatting with him self which kind bff be dat...Recieve sense 👋
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ReplyDeletePoster 1 your husband is very childish, why is he asking for her past after marriage? Your friend has better take her past relationship to the grave and tell him nothing serious happened then. Poster2 just open up that you are still in love with your ex since he cannot have sex with a marriade woman that's y u are looking for excuse to broke up with your husband.
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ReplyDeletehmmm Dear Poster 1 and 2: Pray very well..I keep saying it here lets pray for our MEN cos most of them are not bold at all and don't behave like men..Poster 1: Am a bit confused?? has she told him about her past life before their marriage, if yes why ask again but if no, I think its something worth sharing with someone you want spend ur life with but again determine if he is mature enough to handle such..I recommend you see a counselor cos it shows the husband has some insecurity issues too.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: You are a product of your decisions and your devices..You should have known whom u are settling with before you got married to him..But No no cheating on him with your ex will cause more pain to even your kids and d poor woman he married..If he could leave you to marry someone else, then that means you weren't good enuff to him cos he did wanted you , he would have waited for you..Stop deceiving yourself that he is d love of you life, he is now a PAST PARTICIPLE in your life..Focus on your children, develop yourself and stop communicating with your EX leave him alone and start having a heart to heart talk with ur husband..It is well with you.
Post1:- Dont ever confess past sex to your husband. Why is he asking you to tell him everything? He wants to play God or what? Has he told you everything about his own past too? Why is he hounding you? Just maintain your story. Some things are better left in the past. The minute you tell him, thats the end of your peace in that marriage. Deliberately and indeliberately, he will take it out on you. Just keep silent. I know a woman who was pestered by her husband to " confess" her past. After she submitted, he used it against her in future misunderstandings and quarells. Eventually, the marriage broke down. Man as he is cannot handle shortcomings of another man. Only God can. So keep your mouth shut. Confessions belong only to Gods ears because forgiveness is only His to give!
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ReplyDeleteForget about your ex. This friendship will bring you nothing but longings that will get your fingers burnt. And you will be hurting another woman if you throw caution to the wind. Dont be like the girls u detest (Ur hubby's flings).
If you are still interested in keeping your marriage, Know that it takes tolerance to make a marriage work. Your Ex's wife is also doing the same. Also show your hubby some love. Overlook his shortcomings and love him like you love your ex. Remember, Love covers a multitude of sins.
However, if you are unable to do this, find your way out now that you can. Abi what is the essence of enduring marriage only to separate 20 years later.
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ReplyDeleteHow are you sure your husband doesn't know your have been in a situationship with your married ex for 9 good years? ( I'm sure you are fucking that your ex). Men don't talk like women do. He probably knows you are cheating on him too. He's kept quiet all this while because he cheats two. Both of you are birds of the same feather. What are you still doing with your married ex who refused to marry you in the first place? How would his wife feel when she finds out, you both still see and chat each other up? Stop fucking your ex or else you want a scattered home.
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ReplyDeletePoster 1: I am not buying that your spiritual adviser crap, pls don't tell your hubby anything about your past again but I sense your story is incomplete.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: please drop that your Ex like hot coal, he is not the love of your life, if he was he would have married you irrespective of your age or whatever excuse he gave you for leaving you for the one he truly loves. Then if you can't deal with what's on DH's phone pls stop snooping, it's for d strong at heart not kids, discuss whatever the problem is with ya horseband and tell him you don't buy the idea of inviting third parties into ur wahala. Then pls stop entertaining the idea of leaving the marriage, your so called father's money will not take care of you and three kids forever. Stop reminding ur hubby of how broke he is cos am sure you bring it up whenever there is a quarrel
@ Stella pls Age should be stated when sending in chronicles. All I read here nowadays are stories from children! Jeez...so immature, Ladies find urself before running into marriage Abeg like its a criteria to enter heaven!
Poster 2 please if your ex did love you, he will look beyond whatever separated you both and wife you, he only likes you. Do not have sex with him or anyone else as long as you are still married, enjoy friendship, a little of flirting you can handle is fine too this is so you don't feel too hurt if your marriage eventually ends. As for the family meeting, say everything as it is. Stop covering him because you are encouraging his ways by such doing, break down during the meeting and keep telling them you have had enough. Hopefully your hubby will calm down and God willing change his ways *sending lots of hug your way*
ReplyDeletePoster 1 please tell your friend not to say a word more about her past, even if her hubby confronts her with allegations she must deny because that man is picturing stuffs already and there will be rage if he confirms his fears. She should ignore his hurtful words truth is many men without an idea of your past says lots of jagon and your reaction can either give you away or make him try the next hurtful words till he exhausts all
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Poster 2, what makes u think your husband is nt aware u chat and still talk with ur ex. Wait till the family meeting. He will so wash u down. You an idiot, u still chat with ur ex and u say he is ur bestie why someone married u. How do u want him nt to flirt with girls and in ur small mind u are nt cheating. You think cheating is only when u hv sex, once u start giving ur emotion to another na full time cheating. Infact ur husband is flirting while u are the one cheating.
ReplyDeleteSee an idiot. You want ur marriage to work bt u are in love with ur ex inside another man house. Let Karma never forget u and u dont know hw miserable u make the home of ur so called ex. Ashawo forming righteous
Poster 1, I believe the guy gets turned on by his wife's sordid past. That's why he keeps asking. She should stop telling him joor
ReplyDeletePoster 1, I believe the guy gets turned on by his wife's sordid past. That's why he keeps asking. She should stop telling him joor
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