Hmmm...
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
ASKING LE BOO ''HOW FAR''
Hello Stells of life, i am sure you do not know the gravity of how you have affected the lives of people you might never know. I am glad to state that i am one of them.
To the reason i decided to come out of an observant,silent reader and campaigner of this blog*side eyes*.
I have been dating le boo for 6 years now(though on and off), but we always come back together for some reasons,we've never broken up though. just some silent months of ego feeding.
He is kind,compassionate,helpful,mature,understands my needs but emotionally unavailable.
For the period of 6years,i have never seen le boo emotionally dependent on me and i believe no matter how much of a man you are,you should still have some soft moments you share with your woman(abi you be rock).
However,the main issue is that,he is just comfy being single,or should I say not permanently attached. I have been hinting him,that i'm ready to be a wifey and i want to start my family already*he is financially stable,goes on vacation twice a year* so i know say money no be the problem.
I have been getting the urge to ask him directly,let me know before i mistakenly turn aunty gwegwegwe*just 26 now*. i know some people might say i am not his main chick,that is not the case here.
So my question is,can i get to ask him or get my parents to ask him,when he will be ready to take the relationship to the next level? He is in his mid thirties,age is not the issue.
kindly make use of your sweet red pen,your sweetie needs it gaaaaaan. LOVE YOU LOTS mama boys.
*If after 6 years whether off and on,you do not know your place in your man's life then honey you have been dating yourself oh.
Get your parents to ask him what?
It's either he doesnt want to marry now or you are the side chick...
Study your relationship again well and you should know what to do.
If you guys are active in the sack,then you might just be a bed warmer.
My analysis is from your chronicle but i might be wrong oh.
I must be first to comment.
ReplyDeleteFirst to comment yet you didn't make any input.smh. Use your brain please.
DeleteYou have the right to ask him where you fit in as regards his future plans. You can start by asking what his long and short term goals are and if he doesn't mention you, bluntly ask where you factor in.
DeleteJust ask him already.
DeleteIf he's ready to marry he would have asked already, but he doesn't seem bothered, so babe, look into your relationship again or better still talk to him, End of story
DeleteHe does not love you simple and short. He dsnt want to marry you simple and short. Move on. Simple and short!!
ReplyDeleteStop fucking, simple n short
DeleteGbam!!!
DeleteSee your mouth like dating on and off. Lol. He is not vulnerable towards you, he isn't hinting anything and you are there being on and off.
DeleteEvery wondered what he does in the abroad twice a year? Ever wondered what he does when you guys are off?
If you like force him to marry you like Toke forced Maje to marry her. A man that isn't yours, isn't yours.
Involve your parents? Just negodu
ReplyDeleteWhen a man doesn't mention marriage or future to u, two things are involved.
Delete1: he's already convinced in his heart that u r not his wife.
2: He is nt ready.
For u poster I think no.1 is the case. Plus u want to involve ur parents to ask him, really? U must be a child(reasons why he doesn't see u in his future).
It's nt how long my sister, it's how well.
Hmmm
ReplyDeleteYour boyfriend still they look coner o. That means he doesn't see you as wife material and is just waiting for someone awesome. More like he is using you to while away time. He may marry you if he doesn't get what he is looking for but for your own good better buy another basket and put other eggs
DeleteOn and Off means no marriage. You will date him on and off until during the 'Off' moments he will meet a girl that will blow him away...completely, and marry her.
DeleteThen he will tell you that you both can remain friends. From his attitude, when he breaks off, no one will really blame him as he gave you no reason to stay in the first place.
My dear asked him yourself, don't get your parents involve in a thing like that. Just snoop in this kind of a case that should be his home work to see if you are the main chick or the side chick. But six years is too much not to know your stand with him just do your home work dear and get ur answer.
ReplyDelete"ask" you mean.
Delete"ask" you mean.
DeleteInvolve your parents (if they know him and he knows them) l. Let them give him an ultimatum. A friend's fiancé's dad did so and he buckled up and 6 Months after,they were married. Good luck ( you'll need it)
DeleteHis wife to be is in the abroad and when she finally comes back you both will go on your 'ego feeding' journey again, then during that time his wedding pics will surface online. 6yrs a bed warmer
ReplyDeleteRelationship wahala 🚶🚶🚶
ReplyDeleteSweerie don't let a man think ur parents are desperate for u to marry and he treats u like shit pls.Do not involve ur folks cos u r his gf.The right thing to do is find out (not in a desperate manner tho) the direction of your rship.
ReplyDeleteI am asking you to find out so it doesn't seem like u r alone here, if u find out early enough then you can move on if the reply doesn't suit u.BUT, if he tells u his mind and u choose to stick around hoping he will change his mind then...
My husband was crazy about a lady as a young Corp member. The babe asked him how far marriage, and his response was not anytime soon.
DeleteTo cut the story short, lady dumped him for a guy proposing marriage in two months time while he moved on. Met hubby two years after, dated for two years and married for two years. Babe is still very much single.
My point is while you may never know when a guy is ready, he can just wake overnight and propose. Don't break up and move on
Move on with him by the side, in case he changes his mind.
Buy the ring and propose then since you can't wait.
ReplyDeleteThe fact that you used a derogatory word for yourself just makes me sad for you.
You can talk to him about it when he is in a very good mood but when a man is ready he doesn't need to be told.
All the best
Some men need their marital battery to be jumpstarted.
DeleteWhy should ur parents ask him, are u guys begging him to marry u, my friend go and date 2 or 3 guys at a time and forget this ur unserious boy friend.
ReplyDelete6 years begs the question "What are we building? Sky scraper or...??
ReplyDelete6 years and he hasn't made a move. If he makes a move now, it will probably take him another 6 years to seal the deal.
It is said that all relationships does/must not lead to marriage. Maybe, just maybe this is one of such.
Lol@ wat are we building??
DeleteNa career she de build
It seems you are dating urself. Asked him u stand with him plz give us the feed back when you do.
ReplyDeletePoster,
ReplyDeleteWhy are you dating only this nigga?...
Why are you putting all your eggs in one basket?...
See, the earlier you give other men a chance the better for you!...
How can a sane girl date only one man?...it's not funny abeg...
Remember,time waits for no one...be there waiting for him till you end up as a frustrated old cargo...
Don't even ask him anything so you won't sound desperate but give other men a chance!...
Queen you forget to tell her to use juju and tie the man to herself.
DeleteLol, I just want to remind you of that one, is like you did not remember that one
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DeleteI don't know why people insult you when you make total sense. Poster if you like listen to Linda, if you like, don't.
DeleteLinda is my blog crush anytime any day... Yes! I'm a lady
Linda is my blog crush too.
DeleteAnd yes, I was a pro buhari. #nohomo
Poster, in other words two of u hv been fornicating for six years.
ReplyDeleteI know u hv done many d&c for him.
Welcome bro @james aka peace maker.
DeleteYou need to chill Bro. Your comments are hilarious
DeleteAnons you better go and use pigeon to flog le boo head. See his good quality.
ReplyDeleteGo and do what your mates they do now. Go to a good babalawo and carry his picture so that le boo will give you answer today.
You want me to tell you take it to God in prayer, sit down there.
This sounds like Queen's advice
DeleteLol
Enter your comment..Dear poster, please run away as far as possible.
ReplyDeleteChronicles don land lol. Please my own chronicle be say I recently started having strange movements in my stomach, it would hook me as if them tie my stomach inside, I won't be able to walk or stand and if i say it will be worse. Please what could be wrong with me? Whatever it is moving in my stomach also makes loud noise & i start to belch and fart so loud. Please anyone help me please, when this thing starts I can't go anywhere. I even take worm expelled but nothing, I've prayed and used anointing oil. The loud noises from my tummy is so embarrassing
ReplyDeleteYou have gas. Or IBS irritable bowel syndrome. Watch your diet. See if it is worse after eating certain meals. Avoid those meals for a few days and see what happens. Most importantly go visit your doctor. It's hard to get a diagnosis over the Internet.
DeleteEat fruits and veggies plus drink enough water.
DeleteYou have ulcer dear.
DeleteGo nd do a pelvic scan
DeleteYou slept with someone without protection, what ever he put inside you is what is tormenting you. Pray.
DeletePlease go to the hospital for proper check up
DeletePlease go to the hospital.
Deletefibroids or IBS
Deletefibroids or IBS
DeleteCheck n notice wat u eat !.
DeleteWatch war room and drink enough coconut oil because your village people have remembered you . Thank your stars that they gave you loud fart, had it been they blessed you with that slow fart, house fly would have been your Paddy for life.
DeleteGo for check up my dear,it might be appendix
DeletePlease see a Doctor. The possibilities of what you are suffering are limitless
DeleteYou have started sleeping with yahoo boys abi. Be careful o
DeleteYou should see a doctor. Also consider going gluten free.
DeleteMaybe he wants you people to date for a decade. Poster just calm down, after 10yrs he'll propose. As a "main chick" that "u is now.
ReplyDeleteYou are giving him fuck as often as he wants naa, so what's d point rushing? Date someone else abeg n also keep ur boo in d loop too, if A no click, B will, if B no click, C will unless u have a problem.
ReplyDeleteYes oh BB
DeleteHe's milking free cow day & night, winter and harmattan, he hsnt seen the need to buy the whole cow to his farm.
Hehehehe.... I luv ur comments
DeleteChronicles don land lol. Please my own chronicle be say I recently started having strange movements in my stomach, it would hook me as if them tie my stomach inside, I won't be able to walk or stand and if i eat it will be worse. Please what could be wrong with me? Whatever it is thats moving in my stomach also makes loud noise & i start to belch and fart so loud. Please anyone help me please, when this thing starts I can't go anywhere. I even take worm expeller but nothing, I've prayed and used anointing oil. The loud noises from my tummy is so embarrassing
ReplyDeleteMadam.U think u are too young .Keep fucking everyday with any aim.My junior sister finished her masters and married at 22.Stay there and keep playing wifey duties until you find ur self single at 36.
ReplyDeleteKikiiiikiiiikiiiiiii. James will not kuku kill me.
Delete*everyday without
DeletePoster you mean he doesn't talk about the future with you?
ReplyDeleteSomething is definitely wrong somewhere... No matter ow quiet a man is, he finds time to discuss abt u two ending up together even if he isnt ready
I'm afraid you might be the side chick here.
There's someone he's emotionally attached to.
Gbam!
DeleteGbamest
DeleteWhat do you want to tell your parents? Abeg use style and ask him. Six years is too much being in a relationship that is not defined.
ReplyDeleteSo in this age and time ppl still date for 6years? Mbok! Where are you guys going?
ReplyDeletePls BVS I need a special offer o. Country hard and babes must foot some bills:
Are you a guy or girl in need of sexual favours in exchange for money? Cool cash o! Drop your contact
*looking for a 3rd wheel
*want to experiment lez sex
*want to fulfil ur sexual fantasies
Remember, you must be very RICH o
Drop ur contact
Ashawo is always your friend. So no need looking for one here
DeleteWhen a man has serially fornicated with a woman, he begins to see her as "a piece of unsure womb". Women and incomplete stories! Will you also tell us how many times you've killed for him i.e. aborted for him? Or are you infertile? You probably have cheapened yourself in this way that he does not want to make any commitment to a womb he is not sure of. Yes, when a man has fornicated serially with a woman, he begins to see her as a "piece of unsure womb"
ReplyDeleteAbeg shut up no be both of den Dey enjoy d fuck...Angel Gabriel
DeleteHmmmm. Babes just move on.
ReplyDeleteMove on, but still keep your relationship.
Start dating other guys! @26 you'll not know when you'll turn gwezz.
You are a baby gwezz now
Babes,which one be baby gwez again. Fear don dey catch me o😂😂
DeleteLol @baby gwezz
DeleteWhen we met he had someone
ReplyDeleteI took a walk
After some year
we re-connected like magic
No one was involved just him & me
We started dating
He keeps memory of the past like some 100x pix
I spoke up about it & he deleted them
But his left with just one
pops up when he play song on his phone
He is an attention junkie
Always want me to be around
His problem is he hardly tells me he loves me
When he does it like he is assuring me
What could be the problem is he scared to Love again
What do i do ? does he love me?
How's his actions?
DeleteSome ppl are better at displaying love than verbal love.
He doesn't love you or doesn't love you as much as he loves his ex.he is still leaving in the past,it's either you leave him or still date him and date some one else and mind you while dating him and the other person,don't give him attention like you used to,inshort don't give him attention at all shekina!
DeleteMmmm.... The picture pops out on his playlist Dp... Then there is a moment he is yet to let go... Ladies should up their game and stop being faithful. It is choking. Yesterday I took my wife out for dinner,Because i wanted to have a light chat with her. . she always saying she won't cheat on me... May that day never come. So told her that why won't she cheat on me? It won't make and difference because I enjoy the attention I get from other ladies. .. And it is fun. I want her to stop being to faithful and make mistakes so that I can feel that she is human ..
DeleteMe I don't know oh...Men matter tire me
DeleteWhat you do is you look elsewhere and stop deceiving yourself
DeleteYes he loves you....!not every man says i love u as you naija babes always wanna hear.
DeleteGoogle is your friend
DeleteWhat do you do? You could try taking writing classes. It was a chore reading through this
DeleteI suppose the issue is this;
ReplyDeleteThis man has gotten so immersed and engulfed by your sexual favors that he doesn't see any need to "rush and marry you".
He feels; "what else do I need to see that I have not seen"?
Who caused it? You did. A woman is the one who decides whether sex should take place or not.
And do not tell us you've not been having sex with him these "sex" years.
Someone who goes off communication for months for ego feeding is you said and i quote kind,compassionate,helpful,mature"?
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of stupid relationship is that? Sorry i didnt read further, stopped there cos both of you sound unserious and like teenagers. Marriage between both of you will crash within 3months.
It won't crash IJN..... Shit, i don't believe in God.
DeleteHehehe I know right? @ ur first paragraph. E tire me
DeleteAnd No Stella, you are not wrong..Dear Poster: Please I was emphasizing this on this blog, always define what you want when you have agreed to date someone and Please ask him its not out of place since you said its been 6years now..Please ask him questions and then deduce your next action from his answers..Cos you are on your own if you don't...do that quickly and move on as fast as you can...
ReplyDeleteHe has simply sensed you to be easy. Nothing more. Give him 10 more years he will not propose. What kind of girl are you. Ask yourself some questions. Have u utterly thrown yourself to him without reservations if yes then his only business with you is to keep enjoying the cookies while it Last.
ReplyDeleteGuys Like a bit difficult girls when it comes to marriage
** Sorry I always** I meant
ReplyDeleteWe women should carry ourselves with dignity. If after six years; even one year a man does not see you as "a trophy that should be won for keeps", then examine yourselves and see where you are "rotten". No man will like to keep a "rotten meat" in his house which will be dripping everyday! If you don't correct yourselves, you will keep having "six years" roll by and soon you become an "old maid".
ReplyDeleteStella you are more than correct don't worry yourself.
ReplyDelete6yrs of dating & ure still wondering how to ask? This our iGeneration eh, patient dogs no longer see bone to eat sef, there are plenty of ways to drop the bread crumbs if ure too timid to throw a direct question....
ReplyDeleteYou can start by telling him suitors are going behind ur back to talk2ur dad about a beautiful flower in his garden.
You can start holding back sex, with reasons that its meant4ur husband.
You can start making more use of the futuristic "we" & see how he reacts to that.....
Very practical advice atheist. 👍👍👍
DeleteI like you
DeleteHhahahahahahahhahahaha.
DeleteAs a legal adviser that you IS nau
Hhahahahahahahhahahaha.
DeleteAs a legal adviser that you IS nau
Be blunt actually. No need for modesty or subtlety. If after six years you cannot ask a man you call 'le boo' a direct question, then you have been wasting your time
DeleteBe blunt actually. No need for modesty or subtlety. If after six years you cannot ask a man you call 'le boo' a direct question, then you have been wasting your time
DeleteYour man is probably gay and is just is just using you to cover up. You better start snooping now. How can you date someone for 6 yes and you've never shared a soft moment with him?
ReplyDeleteLeave dis poster, make she allow paent dey wear am.
DeleteI got just one question for you. . . Why da heck should a young girl like you be dating ONLY one man? And you said for 6yrs so that means you have been tied to this emitioonally unavailable man since you were 20yrs old? Nne you dey fall my hand big time!
ReplyDeleteHe said the Bobo is rich and travels 2 times each year for holiday. Who no like international boo
DeleteLol
Na wah oo
ReplyDelete6years already! And you're still waiting for what?
Call him this night and ask him where the relationship is heading to. Let him tell you his mind so you'll know what to do
See why it's not good to put all your eggs in one basket? If he breaks up with you now, what will you do? Start all over to search again abi? Issorait
A whole 6years? On a man that's not your husband or even fiance sef...ImI'm angry mehn
Asking is good, but it doesn't always help, because not all men are sincere. Some will tell you they want to marry you, but have no intention of doing so. Such men will continue wasting your time and chopping your cookies for free and other benefits till one day you will wake up and find that he is married to another. Pls help yourself, only you can guage how sincere your man is.
DeleteThe relationship is heading to Igando if care is not taken
DeleteThat guy is just wasting ur time.. U know what to do
ReplyDeleteIf i were a guy, i wouldn't wife you either.
ReplyDeleteYou sound terribly shallow....hear yourself qualifying his husband material abilities based on his financial capabilities and vacations. Trying to project your expectation and hopes on a guy who is not ready to be a husband for a girl like you. You even had to reason invoking parental intervention coz your longthroat couldn't take it anymore.
I bet the sight of him on vacations without you beside him with the beach breeze blowing your sundress while, you pose beside a palm tree, sipping on some pina colada, while posing for that instagram perfect picture be breaking your heart.
You not being a permanent feature on the front seat of his car or playing wifey in his nice apartment gives you nightmares huh.
His financial resources that would aid you oppress your frenemies, show off to your church members and former classmates...nah! That guy sees through you, and will only marry out of pity if he is stupid or if his dream kinda babe is taken.
Stop hyperventilating over that guy and respect yourself. You actually want to go and ask him, coerce a proposal out of him abi....wow! Your deaperation stinks gosh. I bet you have picked a Mrs something blog id you will use as soon as you get them chicken fingers and try to belong in whatever umu mmmuo married women confraternity on SDKB.
Do not demystify your parents by asking them to talk to a guy, scrap that...,beg a guy to marry their daughter. Are y'all so hungry? So when you marry, and he remains emotionally unavailable, you start watching war room and visiting temples and finally long for your passionate but below par exes.
If you carry on with this nauseating mindset and plan you have in mind... don't cry when he acts so indifferent to you in marriage coz he has seen you and your ancestors finish. Rubbish!
You have been visiting this blog yet you are this dense...mtsheew.
Wow.. Nice. This is deep
DeleteEmpress, no need kicking a man when he's down.
DeleteEvry1 on this planet cnt hv same level of IQ, that's a fact... That's why i only insult James, kikiki..
If she had all the answers & right moves, she wldnt be sendin a chronicle, she needs our helpn...
Love ur comments tho, without the "Dence" "Shallow" part.
You've just said my mind emperess
DeleteBest comment ever!
DeleteEmpress Cho, I di egwu. I still can't believe I have a clone somewhere. My thoughts and yours mirror perfectly. I look out for your advice and you never disappoint. ......keep it up.
DeleteSeriously Empress Cho you are the one sounding pained, are you going through the same thing she's going but not complaining. Now you're mad she's voicing out something you haven't had the courage to do. She never said she wants to marry him for his material wealth, she was only trying to say the guy has no financial restraints that is stopping him from getting married. It's just a chronicle mbok , nothing else. She said a lot of things so did you single out the vacation part. Vacation this, vacation that, vacation location that might be his village.
Delete*through
DeleteEmpress Cho my blog love, keeping it real with intelligence. I thank you on behalf of those you advise. It can't be easy typing so much, but I always learn a thing or two from you. Poster don't let longer throat kill you, you hear?
Delete*through
DeleteJeeeeez Empress CHO, do you know the narrator personally or is the recession getting to you?
DeleteEmpress CHO; seriously??? I give up mehn. Ever heard of the word "easy".come on gal/boy, I already know poster is fucking up but u need to back up real good with your choice of words on her. You ain’t perfect either. You can also be faulting in one way or the other. Take it easy, your words cut...
DeleteHehe. Why do I find this hilarious? You raised good points though. Poster, call him tonight and ask straight up. It's been six long years. You deserve to know.
Delete💯in support.
DeleteShe likes holiday resorts
You really hit the nail on the head...my first time of commenting here
DeleteI wish ladies will take the relationship with Jesus serious. He revealed the man I would marry when I turned eighteen; details down to his height and occupation and things no one knows about him; yes and even his weak points. He showed me even the kids we would have. He showed up two years after. We dated for three years; the most blissful years of my life. We are married for years now; years of peace and calmness. We've gotten four of those kids now, remaining two. Thank you Jesus. I never dated any other guy, never knew what heartbreak is and never will know.
ReplyDelete6 kids??
DeleteOk o... You must really love that labour room.
All the best.
Kwakwakwakwakwa...if Jesus showed u d man how come u dated for 3yrs..
DeleteSix kids in this era?. You must have lots of positive and supportive people around you.
DeleteYou are so blessed. Please share how we can also have revelations.
DeleteDid you people gbench during the 3 years courtship?
DeleteJust being curious
What you have is a gift. Be thankful to God about it and stop attributing other factors to it. Pastors get divorced too, does that mean God did not show them the right one? Or they do not take their relationship with Jesus serious?
DeleteWhat you have is a gift. Be thankful to God about it and stop attributing other factors to it. Pastors get divorced too, does that mean God did not show them the right one? Or they do not take their relationship with Jesus serious?
DeleteHe's no ready yet
ReplyDeleteDon't force him
He's going to think your frustration and desperation has reached the extreme
Don't even get your parents to talk to him.
Maybe he doesn't see you as a wife material sef
Chill girl.
abeg no be dis one dey worri me oh!!! see me screaming DT I wnt to be safe employed... now I succeeded in opening a provision store... even doh de business is nt doing bad like I pay myself salary of 40k each month and save 20k each month 4 shop rent but mennn I feel I need a more cooperate and office job... imagine a graduate like me running around to buy bread to stock de shop every morning or should I talk about de way all dis small small boys customers talk to u in a rudely manner.. I feel bad each time I open Facebook I see de pix of my mate in their respective office and cooperate wears...I feel like am lacking behind God pls bless me and grant me my hrt desire...BTW sale gal is nt an option cos provision can best be managed by de owner...pls I need someone to talk to me
ReplyDeleteImagine.. Babe, being self employed is d best.. Probably u ain't dressing well, dt y those small small r talking to u anyhow. U sef dress corporate to work shop nah, nothing too much but decent n classy... And get a desk and organize ur office... In ur store.. Msheww. Who corporate job epp.. U don't know u r blessed sha
DeleteForget facebook coperate wears, be happy with your position. Some of them are degraded by their bosses everyday and you have peace of mind. Be content dear and use your graduate status to run ur business with a difference. You will shine above everybody.
DeleteMumu...people like u disgust me..Pple would die to have what u want if ur store turns to a big supermarket tomorrow u will be bragging here...be there comparing urself with ur mates..do u know how Dey spend on feeding,transportation,clothing and health...u don't have sense
DeleteTurn your business into your empire. Be creative while you are hoping for a corporate job. Your provision shop can be distinct from others around. Use that degree you got and think outside the box
DeleteThe grass is not greener on that other side. Be careful what you wish for...
DeleteYou sound ungrateful. No vex ooo, my observation. The grass always looks greener elsewhere. Continue to dey follow Facebook, mtcheeew
DeleteYou probably earn more than those mates of yours you see on Facebook. ...Nothing beats being self employed..Trust me...u will make it big very soon...Believe in yourself, and trust in God.
DeleteOh please!
DeleteLots of people looking for that opportunity you have.
Abeg change your mindset.
When you see the fake life most of them are living and the ones without job, you will be jumping up thanking God for your life.
Delete#customer is always right.
Business needs understanding and tolerating mind.
Be thankful. If dissatisfied, then get a Sales girl you obviously do not want
DeleteYou're so blessed yet you're complaining,this life sha.
DeleteStella has said it all. To me, he simply does NOT want to marry you. It's better you cut your losses and move on, so that a serious person can catch you. His type will not waste time once they find the one they want to marry.
ReplyDeleteNever be with a man u have to question ur stand! From the day I met my husband he told me he was in for the long term, gave me his spare keys, made sure we spent weekends together, I met everyone important in his life within 3 months, and Within 6 months we got married, men always know what they want, so please quit making excuses for him and move on or keep him as one of ur baskets!
ReplyDeleteThis is the ish poster.
Deletejazz him
ReplyDeleteAka knack pigeon for him head. Lmao! Anyone you have to force to love you does not really love you and probably never will.
DeleteSix whole years of nothingness. Please my dear it's either he wants you as a wife or he doesn't. Why do you keep on going back to dry land?
ReplyDeleteSo you can't ask someone you have been dating for six years where your relationship is heading to,or you don't even know,they say when a man loves you and want to spend his future with you,he won't stop singing about it. You are dating yourself. Side chick
ReplyDeleteSeconded. Poster you are dating yourself.
DeleteEnter your comment...hmmm wonder how a babe will be dating jst one guy. telling ur parents to ask him shows u are desperate.
ReplyDeleteHe may be thinking of getting married to you who knows or using you to achieve 3pts
ReplyDelete#GODWIN
Where you dey hide?
Delete
ReplyDeleteU want ur parents to ask him d way forward?r u dt desperate?i neva hear ds one before o.
U r nt smart at al cos by nw u shud kno where ur relationship is headed.
Listen! This guy isn't ready but if you feel it's time,call his family and talk to them about it.he should be able to open up to his people. Your family too can help talk to him. I feel the guy isn't so into you, what's stopping him from showing his feelings after 6 years
ReplyDeleteCall his family? Her family too can talk blah blah? When did it get to the level of involving parents?
DeletePlease poster, don't try this advice up here👆
DeleteMy dear move on fast! You may not necessarily be the side chick, but he is definitely not ready to'wife' you. It almost happened to me too o, three years no talk of the next step, till the idiot found someone new. He has been with you for six years and no mention of marriage? My dear don't disgrace your family by making them ask him anything. Simply 'Ghost' him abeg. You have tried by the way.
ReplyDeleteIf after 1.5 years you have to guess where you stand in a man's life, just know you DON'T stand in his life, ask guys to give you their honest opinions.
ReplyDeleteUnless a guy is chasing schl or job or just trying to settle in his job or achieve small something first, and EVEN THEN, you'll know that's the hindrance. BUT he wud hv told you in one form or the other what you really mean to him. Its just we ladies don't listen or like to hear what we wanna hear.
In this case, he is emotional unattached and doesn't feel like he wants to settle down MAYBE because he hasn't found the one, hence the single attitude. This kindda guy when he meets 'the one' he'll marry her in 9 months.
He's PROBABLY looking for sth in his woman & hasn't found it yet, if he's pressured to marry, he may go ahead but may not be content.
@anonymous 15:47, honey, if not for the length of your brilliant comment, I would have thought I wrote it down myself. You've just mirrored my sentiments.
DeleteU are not yet matured for marriage if not u won't think of getting your parents to ask him a silly question.. so no advice for u
ReplyDeleteIf u ask me.. Na who I go ask.
ReplyDeleteMid 30s, financially stable and emotionally unavailable.. maybe you aint who he wants as a wife. Or maybe you should have more patience with him. If u involve ur folks it will look like u r forcing him or like hes too important. Stop all this gwegz talk and search your self. The times you broke up, what caused it. You never mentioned to us that he says he loves you sef.. you might be dating yourself.
Even if he is not ready to marry now at least he should have made a wishful statement of " I would like to get married in year XYZ or age XYZ"
ReplyDeleteI just feel he is not ready yet and don't think its wise to ask him so that you don't look/sound desperate.
So you can either break up with him and tell him you want to settle down soon and will want to give someone else chance or keep waiting for him to come around which might be sooner or later.
Why are some people scared of being single for sometime sef? Better to be single than be in a confused relationship.
6yrs! that's enuff time to be a doctor. You have not told us the truth. The reason why your man is dragging feet towards marriage is because of your attitude. if after 6yrs you don't know your position in your man's life then I am sorry. Why should you involve your parents? Are you and your family desperate for marriage? Ask him where the situation ship is leading to. And check yourself!
ReplyDeletePoster, don't involve your parents, you're old enough to know what/who you want in your life, call your guy and talk to him, ask him if he's ready to make an honest woman out of you (since you're both already intimate).
ReplyDeleteWhy are you scared to ask the man you wish to spend the remaining of your life with one of the most important questions? you have to know where you stand. If he's not ready, you can move your barn somewhere else.
You're old enough to get married and have your own family, i just wish you the best.
Talk to him, you were suppose to talk with him before bringing it here though.
6 years and he hasn’t hinted anything towards the marriage direction?
ReplyDeleteNne my prophecy for you is too dust your slippers and start looking elsewhere so you don’t get your heart broken.
He might meet one girl from nowhere and boom, his married in less than 3 months. Do you want that to be your portion?
#actively in sack? ahh! Aunty Stella!!!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteIt's obvious ur Lee boo does not want to marry you or he feels u are not yet ready...
ReplyDeleteHere's what u have to do:
Tell him that another man is seeking for ur hand in marriage and that the man is very serious. Infact , say that he has seen ur parents and he's serious.
Ur Lee boo will act fast if he really loves u and wants to settle than with u, he will act very fast...but if he doesn't want u...he will tell u to go ahead.
From your Chronicle,he is not ready for marriage.
ReplyDeleteY did you put all your eggs in one basket?
Better write single on your forehead and start looking for another Boo.
For me, you are still single with a man friend in the picture.
And why will you ask u parents to ask him when he will take the relationship to another level?
He is not in the relationship with your parents,so don't try it.
From your chronicle, Le Boo aint into you. He will prolly marry you coz you're d best option he has, not coz he loves u. Get ur parents to ask him "when is he bringing his ppl coz u both aint getting younger?" N watch his response afterwards. And hey, don't say bcoz u r ready to be married, u'll settle for anytn, including a man who doesn't love you.
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Sorry to Digress. Do people use their life savings to start a business?
Business just like life is a risk, what if it fails?
Dumb anonymous
You are the dumb one here..... Shameless idiot
DeleteJobless fool trolling people upandan like a fly
What if it succeeds?
DeleteMy dear, that guy doesn't see you as the one o. The moment he meets the kind of woman he wants, you'll be surprised at how fast he'll marry her..... Use your tongue to count your teeth
ReplyDeleteStella I raise my two hand for u
ReplyDeleteU are d best adviser
Poster take it or leave it
Ok auntie poster, ist of all you are riding on a broken bicycle. 6years? Le boo? My dear, you are a side chick. Tell him or your parents tell him ke? You will look like a desperado. If you guys are gbenshing then that's all, you wI'll just be seen as his gbenshee. My advice, find your square root coz sixta, you are oyo. (On your own ).
ReplyDeleteHe is a time waster. You can also remain there and in years to come you will collect pension and gratitude or better still award for long service.
Fullstop
I will advice u to ask him thur ur discussion u will knw if is ready to marry u or not
ReplyDeleteIt's hard for a man to marry any girl that talks marriage before him. For me... What you should do is sit him down ⬇ and tell him that someone is asking your hand ✋ in marriage, see his reaction. And if he says you should go ahead and marry the person.... Nne find your way! Ibu sidechick!!.
DeleteWhy is that ladies don't want to face the truth most times.
ReplyDeleteGal friend you are not his type or main chic. Go front. Don't wait for one man to waste your time and later dump you. Move on please
poster you don't need your parents to ask him if he is ready to marry you, you have been opening your something very wide and carelessly, why will he wife you gave him yourself for free, you did NYSC without collecting allowee, is time to move on with your life, six years is a very long time with fucking, the is tired of choping only egusi soup all the time, he cannot marry you.
ReplyDeletePerhaps,he's not ready.
ReplyDeleteBabe every relationship must not end in marriage.
ReplyDeleteIs he ur only boy friend?
U re a side chick
After six years u don't know ur stand in a relationship babe u re in a long thing
The guy is enjoying ur cookies and he don't want to marry you. He is not going front he is not going back
Abeg get better guy
That guy Don fuck you for too long
Hope I dey collect money during the fuck??
Imagine that u guys fuck 7times in a month
Make we do the calculation
7*12=84
84*6=504
504*500=252,000
Analysis :
7 times fucking in a month multiple by 12months in a year gives u 84times multiple by the 6years of the dating it gives u 504times.. Imagine u collect 500each fuck at list u suppose to get 252,000 by now. Sister u can start business with it.. Even olosh no dey collect 500.so u lost becos u re expecting marriage for almost six years....
Receive sense in Jesus name
My darling, the average man doesn't need a year to know if he wants to spend "forever" with you. Some guys already know within a 3 month period, though they may continue dating you and later pop the question a year or so later. Maybe I'm old fashioned but, I feel if you have to ask or somewhat cajole your man of over a couple of years to propose marriage to you, then something isn't quite right somewhere.
ReplyDeleteFrom what I just read, it appears to be a safe presumption that he doesn't want to get married to you. You may be the "main squeeze" but that doesn't mean he wants to get married to you. He may even be faithful to you for now but he knows you are not the one for him. He probably doesn't know how to end the relationship with you.
Please, baby, don't belittle your parents by bringing them into the your relationship because, quite honestly, it doesn't reflect good on you that you can't end a relationship that doesn't seem to be heading in the direction you want. Stop "hinting", that's at least 7 different shades of desperate. If a financially stable guy in his mid 30s is still single, it's either he doesn't want to settle down yet or he hasn't seen the one worth settling down with.
I don't know, sweetie, but even asking a man you've been with for 6 years, regardless of the off and on periods, what his intentions for you are, seems awkward to me. I feel by now you should know where you stand. Maybe you should start pulling away gradually and see if he notices. If he does and asks you why you are pulling away, then tell him you choose to because you're getting more attached to him by the day but it appears he isn't ready to settle down yet and you will hate to put pressure on him. That's a diplomatic way of finding out his intentions without outrightly asking him.
Whatever his answer is, judge him by how he behaves and what he does, don't be carried away with his words, especially if they appear to be what you want to hear. Darling, also be guided by the fact that not all relationships end with marriage, regardless of how many years you put into them. You may decide to give him 2 more years, making it a total of 8 years and to your utmost chagrin, he may propose to a lady he just met 6 months ago. It behooves you to decide when you've had enough of "investing" in a relationship that isn't going in the direction you want it to go.
#e-bearhugs.
Biko lemme kindly suggest u double date!! Truthfully since I had a severe hrtbrk,i Neva dated only one man!! Say u be who??? Mtcheeew... 6yrs nd he's waiting for wat??
ReplyDeleteMy dear, Six year is such a long time for lee boo to define your relationship, such guys are time wasters and very unserious. Please look somewhere else and donot be taken for a fool.
ReplyDeleteBe wise.
Jamb question.
ReplyDeleteThe lady with the stomach issue, all those are signs of ulcer. buy cimetidine tablets 400g and buy gelusil tablets and liquil mistmag. pele
ReplyDelete6years in a relationship, babe u need to talk to him so that u know d next step to take.
ReplyDeletepls sis get another bf b4 & leave him if u can ,this man is not serious,u can still ask him to know ur fate,Some men don't just want to commit,I'm also dating someone like DAT for almost 2yrs+, he's a matured single father of one,he's never serious,but keeps shouting don't cheat on me,u r my woman,yet he doesn't want to get committed, very annoying,but I can't dull
ReplyDeletena,I already have a plan b bf
My dear, this is a very simple matter. When you guys are in your good mood, just ask him where the relationship is going to that you are ready to take it to another level. Just be straight forward, you dont need to butter it up.
ReplyDeleteSometimes, men need that PUSH, before they walk down the aisle. You have been together for 6 years and can talk about anything and everything.
ReplyDeleteHave a chit chat with him. Tell him how you feel and ask him where the relationship is headed. at 26 you should start planning your wedding.
But my dear, on/off relationship? not to discourage you but i have friends who also dated off and on for so many years but marriage didn't work out (it's not your portion).
Pls ensure you write back so we know how far the discussion went. I wish you all the best sweetie!
Honey! Sit down let aunty talk to you.
ReplyDeleteEgo feeding? Your "man" was not ego feeding, he was surfing the market or focusing on his main priority. You are an option. No man that wants you will ego feed for months (what does that even mean?)
Your "boo" is either married, seriously engaged, looking for the one or gay. Get yourself together and leave that relationship.
Nne u mean u have been dating one guy for 6years, haba why una never marry nah, without been told he's not ready to Settle down, u better ask him question's becos ur d one hanging ur leg on the window o... 6years can't deal abeg...
ReplyDeleteYou might not be a side chick, but he either doesn't love you enough to marry you or he's just not ready emotionally for marriage, if after being together for 6 years, you feel uncomfortable saying anything to him, then I'll say the relationship is flawed, you guys should be able to talk about any and everything without awkwardness, ask him point blank, Oga how far? What are his plans for marriage, don't ask coyly, come straight, so he will be sure what you're talking about,ask when you Two are getting married, that will give you an idea of what is on his mind, and watch out for body language, so he doesn't lie to you, read between the lines when he's talking, so you can know if you have to find another le boo or be patient.
ReplyDeleteIf I didn't know beta...I would 've thought I sent ds chronicle..ds is the issue I have with ma ex/boyfriend..he's 35 am 27 but to pop question na war.wheneva he comes back he keeps saying "I want a future with u" after some weeks he would start acting like a faulty traffic light..tufiakwa!!!long head,wherever you are.if u think u can be using "future" to chop kpekus...d thunder that would fire you would come from redemption camp,mfm camp,deeperllife camp and even nasfat praying ground converge at beger bustop and scatter your business....useme nkpo
ReplyDeleteHe is married and his fa$ily stay abroad. B wise!
ReplyDeletePoster, you know him more than anyone on this blog. You are sure you are not the side chick and I believe there is a reason why you are that confident. Let me tell you a story,
ReplyDeleteBobo met sisi and asked her out, they started dating and after 3 years, Bobo was still not ready to settle down. Sisi started getting pressure from 'concerned' family members some of who advised she looked elsewhere as Bobo was financially stable to marry if he wanted to. Sisi did think of giving someone else a chance but no one else gave her peace of mind like Bobo. She prayed and fasted and asked God to break them up if it wasn't his will for them to marry. Every single time she said this prayer (yes! she said it a million times during the course of their relationship), Bobo will do something so loving and caring that will make her happier than before. He had no clue sisi was saying these prayers.
So a day came when sisi realized that the pressure was not moving Bobo and she couldn't stand the thought of being with someone else so she decided she was going to continue with the relationship since it made her happy. She promised herself to live without regret if Bobo ever walked out but to remember the good times they shared.
After 6 years, Bobo took her on vacation to the most beautiful location many only dream of and asked her to spend the rest of her life with him. He spent millions on a diamond ring and said it was to show her he was touched she stood by him all those years against the pressure and advise to look elsewhere. They got married a year later and she chose the location for their destination wedding.
It's been years and sisi can't take God enough. How does God speak to you? You need to ask Him for guidance and listen to Him speak. All the best
Bobo later confessed that he never wanted to get married until sisi came along and made him want to share his life with someone. So na God save sis, I pray He saves you too.
ReplyDeleteIt's not about how fast but how well. You find out that most of your mates that married very early ended up with guys that showed them chicken change which seemed a lot to them then as it was more than what their parents give them.
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