“But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere.”James 3:17 (ESV
Have you noticed that human beings have a tendency to mimic the emotions of people across from us? According to RICK WARREN, the reason we do this is because of mirror neurons in our brain. They allow us to sympathize and also to mirror what other people feel.
For instance, if somebody gets angry with you, you get angry back. If somebody is really depressed and you hang around that person long enough, you get depressed.
In the same way, when people raise their voice against you, you usually raise your voice back. Then they raise their voice higher. Then you raise your voice higher. Then pretty soon it’s escalated, and your emotions are out of control.
The Bible says, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger” (Proverbs 15:1 NIV).
Let me give you a little tip that will save you a lot of heartache and conflict in your life: When other people raise their voice, lower yours — in your marriage, in your parenting, in your friendships, and at work. That’s called strength under control.
Gentleness defuses conflict and deescalates anger.
Here’s a good verse you’re going to need someday — maybe even this week.
Ecclesiastes 10:4 says, “If your boss is angry at you, don’t quit! A quiet spirit can overcome even great mistakes” (NLT, second edition).
"If the temper of the ruler rises up against you, do not leave your place [or show a resisting spirit]; for gentleness and calmness prevent or put a stop to great offenses."
Ecclesiastes 10:4 AMPC
When your boss rips into you or your spouse or colleague or even friend raises his voice in anger, you need to realize it may not have anything to do with you. Instead of getting defensive, practice gentleness. Let your gentle answer disarm the other person and diffuse the situation.
What is our normal reaction to raised voices, such as when our kids are misbehaving or there is a disagreement with our spouse or partner?
Why do you think responding in gentleness rather than anger is so disarming? Why does it get people’s attention?
Look for ways to practice gentleness this week.
How do people react when you respond to them with gentleness? Lets try it this week, observe its effect and share in the course of the week.
Have a stress free and successful week in Jesus Name and Nay all your prayers and heart desires be granted.
BV Marble (from Rick Warren)
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I have learnt not to react the way some of my colleagues act towards me and that seems to make me be at peace with everyone in my office and even to my female friends and family i keep cool to reasonable extent but when it comes to Lee boo it is the other way round no matter how i try not to reply him i end up always.
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1 Corinthians 12:4-7.
ReplyDelete4-Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.
5-It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God's love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong].
6-It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail.
7-Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening].
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ReplyDeleteYou don't find a perfect marriage/ relationship , you create it. You seek the help of the Lord to help you find the one to create it.
ReplyDeleteThe purpose of the Gospel is to change us. When we have overcome the Natural Man, that's when we can forgive.
Our inactions produces fear
Faith is the principle of action and power ; Fear is inaction. Doubt is anything negative, scenical, and unbelieving .
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ReplyDeleteThis write up are good,am a kind that want to talk back,so I dnt look like a fool in front of everyone,but I have really digest on this write up and will surely retrace my step.thank you dear writer.
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ReplyDeleteAwesome post. Sometimes, we can't control ourselves, but it works. I know firsthand, how gentleness in a somewhat volatile situation calmed the situation situation. I was even shocked and proud at how I reacted. Thank you for posting this.
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