When Kids Interrupt Parents....

Recently I have read a lot of articles and heard too many stories about children being killed, maltreated or dehumanised  by those who are supposed to protect them (I believe a child can be killed literally even without sending them to the grave but reducing their dignity as humans can bring death to their spirits while they yet live). 

Among these stories, the most touching to me is where a mother watches while her bf tortured and killed her child(ren) and others where she killed her kids herself either to please herself, bf, religion, for honour, coven or revenge towards their dad. Whatever her reasons might be it is my believe that the last person children expect to hurt them is their parent(s) especially their mum.

below is my personal experience that set my heart on fire pondering possible reasons why this sort of things are happening to children;

MY EXPERIENCE YESTERDAY MORNING

I have been married for a little over 6yrs and with all the marriage wahala I have had and even tried separation and within those trying times I reached out to a few friends and even the ones that were divorced if maybe there was anything I could learn from them to find the will to fight and make this marriage work (I am a guy by the way) but in my consolation from both genders I Learnt that seeking advice from some people who had failed relationships or marriages is a suicide/brick wall mission you might never get anything positive (as some of these people seeing you in same position as them makes them feel they are not alone on the trail while others desire your marriage to fail so they could sneak in), that is not to mean there are not those who could open up and own up and give you good advice.

I have 2 daughters and due to my job I am hardly at home with my family but each time I come home on leave my daughters hardly turn to their mum (daddy has to make up for lost time, if that would ever be enough for my girls, but I still gotta do my fatherly duties besides just providing financially for em lol), So I resume both day and night duties (non cosmetic parents will understand). My daddy duties at home makes it look as if WHAT GOD HAS JOINED TOGETHER 2 DAUGHTERS HAVE COME IN BETWEEN.

I am on a mission to make my marriage work whatever it takes.

We ( Mrs and I) woke up early yesterday morning (6/09/2016)

at about 0500 when my coyo started acting up and I gave Mrs the first round just about 0600 when we finished my second daughter (3yrs) came in from their room na so we sharply dive wrapper cover body so we told her to go and wee and she left to the toilet we sharply got decent.

So when she was done with wee she laid on me and acted as if she was sleeping so I laid her between me and Mrs and 15mins later coyo started acting up again so I told madam lets use the couch in the living room its been a long time  since we had it on the couch, so we left the 3yrs old in bed, locked the door leading to the living room and got started in the couch immediately the 3yrs old came knocking on the door DADDY, DADDY, I told her BABY GO TO YOUR ROOM AND STAY WITH YOUR SISTER, she went to her room woke her sister and 2 of em came banging the door to the living room screaming and shouting on top of their voicesMUMMY AND DADDY OPEN THE DOOR  and crying (the cry even scared us), so much that we were forced to break the romance and heed their cry and pacified them before neighbours will become excited.

So they went to their room (I could feel Mrs was pissed from her facial expression, but I had to calm her down so we could continue) , when we wanted to continue my 5yrs old came backDADDY I WANT TO DRINK WATER, I opened the door she used the fridge ( and you know when its coyo business both man and woman thinks from coyo especially the man) so I became gate man and instructor (at the same time)and I told my 5yrs old TAKE THE WATER TO YOUR ROOM FOR YOU AND YOUR SISTER (I had thought that would prevent 2 of em coming again for water) she left, as we undressed she came knocking again DADDYY I CANT OPEN THE WATER (this is bottled water which she opens every time ooo) we paused and I went to open it for her. Me, OK BABY GO BACK TO YOUR ROOM. 


A minute later she came back again DADDY I DONT WANT TO DRINK AGAIN.  me, BABY KEEP THE WATER IN YOUR ROOM. Now  Mrs was blowing my brains out and my 5yrs comes back again DADDY WE HAVE NOT BRUSHED OUR TEETH, Mrs responds DON'T WORRY WE WOULD SOON BRUSH. my girl comes  again MUMMY AND DADDY ITS TIME FOR MORNING DEVOTION Mrs responds, BABY DON'T WORRY WE WILL SOON DO MORNING DEVOTION she comes again  MUMMY AND DADDY HAVE YOU PEOPLE ALREADY DONE MORNING DEVOTION?

At this point we figured this babe was curious about why mummy and daddy dont want them to come to the living room so we stopped, unlocked the door and went in for morning devotion (even though the coyo business never do me sha, but them no dey win award, in this case my children's emotion came first ooo). After morning devotion Me and my girls helped Mrs clean out the toilets while Mrs prepared breakfast, but while we worked they didn't ask me anything until I had finished work and popped out, then my 5yr old engaged Mrs.  



MUMMY WHAT WAS YOU AND DADDY DOING IN THE PARLOUR THAT EARLY MORNING? Mrs responds WE WERE HAVING A MEETING. My girl goes again DID UNCLES AND AUNTIES ATTEND THE MEETING? Mrs No. My girl OK MUMMY TOMORROW MORNING I WILL LIKE TO COME FOR THE MEETING TOO. Mrs burst into laughter and my daughter was startled why her mum was laughing tho she asked but Mrs didnt know what to answer her again. 


The moment I came in at 1500hrs my Mrs told me all that transpired between she and my 5yrs old and we laughed it off, but this wasnt a joke to this little girl so she waited till 1830hrs after dinner she now came and told me DADDY, MUMMY TOLD ME THAT MORNING YOU PEOPLE WERE DOING MEETING, TOMORROW MORNING  I WILL LIKE TO COME FOR THAT MEETING PLEASE DON'T LOCK THE DOOR BECAUSE I WILL WAKE UP AT 0400HRS BEFORE THE MEETING STARTS,  remember I mentioned the meeting started at 0500hrs yesterday right?

 choi come see laugh and she was so serious cos she kept mentioning the meeting until she went to bed, even when I told her the meeting is not for children that it is for adults she kept going on about it, then I realised it was just her curiosity borne out of innocence. True to her promise before meeting started this morning she and her sister walked in and asked me DADDY HAVE YOU PEOPLE STARTED THE MEETING YET? mbok we had to behave ourselves ooo and said NO WE ARE NOT HAVING MEETING TODAY. 

This might seem a joke but after morning devotion I pondered what would happen if I had divorced my wife and brought in another woman or if it was she who brought another bf and this kids are trying to interfere. Trust me in this case its not about the property its about getting undivided passionate attention and for this innocent children to take that moment of passion/attention away can makesome people hatch unbelievable wicked plans and seek prompts to activate it.

I love my kids and cant have enough of them though them breaking a coyo session when you are not done could make one feel some how but they (my daughters) are the only awards I won from previous coyo sessions I had with Mrs na, so why this one go vex me?

To some people this episode might not make sense but to me it provoked thought so I decided to share it and I would also love to read in the comment section experiences from other parents and how they felt when conjugal sessions were disrupted by curiosity of kids or their innocence.

Real Mothers here would agree with me that when you remember the agonies of pregnancy and child birth you can kill if someone dare hurt your kid, unfortunately its disheartening to see that even mums perpetuate or even watch someone do this evil to their kids. Though this act is not peculiar to mums dads also do same (before someone thinks I am attacking women without reading objectively on the subjective).

Other cases are acts carried out by step parents/guardians and there is an increasing trend in Nigeria (even though some dont lead to death but we have increasing cases where the child is rendered disabled due to cruelty mostly coming from step-mums). Their reasons might vary, most times I felt the step-mums did this to annihilate any threats to their position in their new husbands, fiance or bfs heart but in any case this is bad.

However taking the life of an innocent child away (by death, separating them from their parent, scheming wicked means of making them leave for the village to live with their grand parents or being cruel to them) for any reason so that you would enjoy undivided attention from their parent is not acceptable and unneccesary (including those doing it for property stop it you can only reap on what you sowed). And for parents giving their kids away to house maids or praying they grow quickly and give you some space it might look fun to you now but the future boredom and loneliness that will strike you when the time comes is studying NIGERIAN RECESSION (not just the word).

*COYO- is what my girls call private parts for both girls and guys

* COSMETIC PARENTS - Are those parents who are just parents by virtue of having kids but na house help dey do all the work including waking at night to attend to needs of their kids, but would always wanna show em off on social media and wanna play good caring parents in public but at home they have no clue how those kids fair except working to provide whilst the emotional needs of their kids is graced by their maids (writers opinion)

I am BV CUTXY and I would be glad to read your encounters and experiences to save the lives of other innocent kids and if you dont have one (experience or meaningful contribution) its an opportunity to read and learn from this blog thanks.