Wife not cook or wife not cleaner?
LOL
Is there somewhere a rule book was written that its the job of a woman to clean and cook?
This is backward mentality if you ask me...A couple should do things together...If she cannot clean,then you clean,if she cannot cook,then you cook!
Am i wrong to think this way?Please somebody correct me if i am!
I'd rather be a neat wife that can't cook than a cook that can clean.
ReplyDeleteBut unfortunately, I am a cook and a cleaning Bride to be.
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Mail in your bio yet no one has priced your market since
DeleteJust as no man want miss piggy but kermite that's how no man want you but that bricklayer bf of yours.
Why would a woman not know how to cook or clean. Yeah a man can assist a woman in doing so if he feels like to do it but it shouldn't be an obligation or he owe her to it. Never. I would prefer a very intelligent hard working man who's on top of his game and hitting his financial target making all the money. Why would I let such person cook and clean for me? In short any day he does cooking and cleaning, I will make sure that night is one to remember. Lol
DeleteWhy would a woman not know how to cook or clean. Yeah a man can assist a woman in doing so if he feels like to do it but it shouldn't be an obligation or he owe her to it. Never. I would prefer a very intelligent hard working man who's on top of his game and hitting his financial target making all the money. Why would I let such person cook and clean for me? In short any day he does cooking and cleaning, I will make sure that night is one to remember. Lol
DeletePoster of today's chronicle,am in the same shoes with you,i have close to 2millions In my account but I will never tell my fiancee as am engaged to be married in February next year. Men are funny creatures,once he knows you have money in your account he will expect you to starts taking care of yourself with your money while he goes outside to waste his own on girlfriends.. Keep your money till he proves he's worthy of it..
DeletePoster of today's chronicle,am in the same shoes with you,i have close to 2millions In my account but I will never tell my fiancee as am engaged to be married in February next year. Men are funny creatures,once he knows you have money in your account he will expect you to starts taking care of yourself with your money while he goes outside to waste his own on girlfriends.. Keep your money till he proves he's worthy of it..
DeleteMy husband cleans all d time cos he is too tidy!!! I am not dirty either,I just enjoy him doing it for me at times.I cook and do d rest.we both work,so we split the house chores and he loves to help out.and he is very very very good in bed lol. Don't I just love u honey!!!
DeleteThe two is important .......I can't pick one n free d other
DeleteThey both work hand in hand
I prefer "wife don't do anything".
DeleteA wife should know how to cook and clean.
DeleteShut up there. Why do u call it backward? What's wrong with cooking and cleaning for her husband? Enough of this feminist bull crap.
DeleteI like to cook and I can't stay in a dirty place, therefore,I can't help being a cleaner and a cook. It's inate.
DeleteI cook for my kids,i clean for them as well.if him no like am him mama hauz dey der.no shaking no be today.#idontstrezmaselffornobaga
Delete@ChiExotic mind your business. My mail not yours
DeleteBoth
DeleteOhh chic Exotic.
DeleteThat the spirt of hoe in her.
Ashawo nor get cure.
It's only a lazy girl that sees that as a work!...I can't allow my husband to clean or cook abeg...
ReplyDeleteI cook and clean and there is no biggie about it!...
Nne, you speak Igbo, then interpret it and translate it in English, that's why it seems your English is poor.
DeleteIt's only a lazy girl that sees that as a work instead of it's only a lazy girl that sees that as work.
I don't know if anyone else understands the difference.
Oyibo bu Agbara.
It's coz you be house wife na that is all you could do.
DeleteCook and enslave yourself for sole change from your man.
Kwakwakwakwa...
DeleteAnon,keep correcting...na you go tire!...
Wife can't cook,
ReplyDeleteWife can't clean,
Wife is lazy!
If wife can only f*ck,
What do hoes do?
Hehehe. Fuck and get paid
DeleteIts only natural for everyone yo know how to clean. Cleaning is not learnt and only a dirty man or woman wouldn't know how to clean
DeletePG 18
DeleteThis is not a topic at all. Pride of every woman is to be able to take care of her home by simply cooking,cleaning and putting things in order. While the pride of every man is to be able to provide for his family. Any one that can't play this role has failed in what ever he or she stands for.
ASHAWO WAS 1's A VIRGIN
Wife this, wife that! society is so focused on training a woman to become a good wife, and ignoring to train the men to become good husbands to their wives. too many double standards!
ReplyDeleteBeautiful reply... I second it...
DeleteIf you can't cope...Cameroun is not far! A man should pay rent, house bills, school fees, provide food & after that he should also clean & cook for you because you're a paraplegic? Go & get home training coz you obviously don't have that
DeleteWell said!
DeleteChop knuckle babe!
Delete5 million likes.
DeleteAnon, the woman of today contributed enough to the household financially to deserve help with houe chores....
DeleteInfact in some households, the woman provides most , if not all the finances and is still expected to cokok, clean and do lol sorts ( to show humility)
Cut the woman some slack...women deserve help. Sleep has put a lot of women in the psych wards
Qyrenth I'm guessing your own man (that's if you have any) hasn't contributed enough to deserve freedom from your bondage. The problem with this generation is people trying to switch gender roles...oga provide for your family, madam nurture your family but no...madam wants to earn & not provide, yet turn oga into house boy so he'll be a good husband. Do yours & I do mine & all this BS would be sorted out. I don't know or care how much my wife makes, I know my responsibilities. When I'm doing the cooking and/or house chores, I'm chipping in extra from my church mind to ease her stress but if she abuses that privilege, I'll return to my couch & wait for food
DeleteCleanliness is next to Godliness. It shouldn't be a gender thing. Everyone should be able to keep their environment clean and as for cooking, there are restaurants and cooks to hire If you can afford it.
ReplyDeleteIf you can afford it.. Mumu talk.. If u born carry ur children go restaurant everyday .
DeleteIt is not by force for a woman to do any of these... but in a situation where a wOman cannot hire a cook/cleaner and stays alone. I would rather visit a woman that can't cook than visit a woman that won't clean... ewwww... I hate dirty and smelly place... I won't mind soaking garri in a clean marble floor than eating Chinese platter on a dirty slippery, jam packed, oil stained. Charcoal looking, fly perching, toilet smelling home... both as couple, biko you married her. Get a maid or help her out
ReplyDeleteLady you are not wrong. It is lazy men that will tell their wives to do the cleaning and cooking. My own you will choose. I am not a slave.
ReplyDeleteWen to bring money it will be his sole responsibility....
DeleteSince you're hardworking, you'll also choose the bills to pay, I'm not a suffer head
DeleteYou go tey well well for your papa house... If you're still single though.
DeleteLet the comments roll in.
ReplyDeleteChai, both are worse
ReplyDeleteLike seriously some ladies can't cook nor clean? Smh
It's not too late to learn ladies
Learn how to do these things
No just for your man,but for yourself.
A woman should always cook and clean biko. A woman's place even after education is kitchen.
ReplyDeleteUmm excuse you??
DeleteAnon you are very daft
Retarded mentality
DeleteJames, how far?
Delete#Don’t broadcast every high and low of your life. Just live. Don’t try to convince the world you have a life*
ReplyDeleteThe woman must be both o. For me o. I love good food and do not like a dirty environment. If the guy no sabi gbensh na e go turn another thing. It's not a rule that the man must not help out in those areas. But I tell you there are some lazy guys whose work is just to eat and gbensh then leave the support for the woman to handle
ReplyDeleteStella I understand that u don't like cooking but am sure u won't stay in a dirty envro. but serzly what is the duty of a mother who dsnt tch her daughter how to cook.even for her own sake. look at all d story of omugo. I will advise that mother should pls try to teach them both.Not all men like to eat outside.
ReplyDeleteWrong Stella,
ReplyDeleteSome girls will be visiting men, supplying different styles of sex and washing, cooking and cleaning all to get him to marry them. Once they are married, they begin this "wife not cook" story. Love is mutual; yes, spouses can exchange roles and help each other out. But be careful girls how you overdo these things. If it is only sex that you give him, or you don't cook, he will eat out and get attracted by other females.
Now to the "wife of noble character: Proverbs thirty one:
17 She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
Stella leave that thing abeg. She should know how to do both else someone will help her out.
ReplyDeleteIt's alright for the man to assist when he can but the woman should know how to do this basic things.
Men get in here *in nedu's voice*
I tire for Stella oh, you ppl are taking dis feminism thing too far
Deleteyou are an adult stella. how can i correct you?
ReplyDeleteNot wrong at all Stella although some backward and egocentric African men, and self-defeatist women will think otherwise. They might even see u as a feminist
ReplyDeleteAre you not a feminist? SnM go come una go lineup una contacts begin pray for "Mr. Right". You go pray tire. Lazy bones everywhere be claiming westernized!
DeleteAny how u babes will say it, me can't stand dirt or messy environs...
ReplyDeleteAre we still on this?
ReplyDeleteMy take:its okay as a woman to be able to cook n do house chores bt whereas she cant do them, i think the couple should have an arrangement that works for them both
taa.... what are you saying? how can she not know how to do the basics? it is not allowed. even though I know that couples should do the work together, it is not an excuse not to know how to do anything
ReplyDeleteThe divorce rate in this part of the world might increase if we do not change our mentality. We are Africans and we should be who God has called us to be. A wife should be able to cook and clean, and if the resources to hire is there, she/they can hire. Where the man deems fit to help, he can do so. #mythought
ReplyDeleteGod bless you!
DeleteI concur
DeleteYes, you're wrong...
ReplyDeleteLadies be screaming I hate dirty environment, but go to their house u can't drink water, their toilet will be stinking bad the kitchen nko,,,story for another day
DeleteCreamie, did you just describe yourself? Hian
DeleteWell as for me, I love to do both, I love cooking and as well cleaning. I just can't stand a dirty environment.
ReplyDeleteIf you ask me, nothing beats a Neat cook.
ReplyDelete@Stella, I am hustling tight because the economy isn't smiling...so ain't gat time to make cooking or cleaning my core chore. If the so-called wife is well-trained and from a good home, she MUST be able to do these 2 important and basic house chores without breaking sweat talkmore or seeing it as a task. Charity, they say, begins @ home.
ReplyDeleteIf she can cook and clean in her parent's house, why should doing same in my own house (his husband) be a global debate.
Stella come back home abeg! This one no sell
A woman that cannot cook is the same with the one that cannot wash. Both are equally lazy, and lacks proper home training.
ReplyDeleteGbam!
DeleteU are perfectly right
DeleteIf she can cook and can't clean.. She's a dirty girl dts it.. How will u b cooking in a dirty kitchen.. Rubbish.... If she can clean and can't cook, She can learn ow to cook nah... A girl with good home training should know how to do both.... It's abt backwards mentality, but just a good habit... IMO
ReplyDeleteStella u are so on Point! However this is Africa and our culture and society mandates the wife to cook and clean. Nevertheless, our men are slowly but gradually accepting of role playing in domestic affairs albeit privately. We are getting there!
ReplyDeletethe both go hand in glooves
ReplyDeleteIn Nigeria, u will cook, clean and kee urself. It's still not enough.
ReplyDeleteBut still do your part
DeleteWith this your advice,
ReplyDeleteThen, you will have plenty of Women seeking for men on SnM*
What is backward in expecting a woman to cook? I just don't get it at all. In your home Stella, who does the major cooking? You or hubby?
ReplyDeleteHowever civilised we may think we are, it can never take away the fact that women are home makers and that includes making food for her family. Yes, we set the dynamics of a home. That's not to say men shouldn't cook, but who does the duty fall on the more: The woman.
Call me backward or archaic, I don't care. #myopinion
Thank u!
DeleteI wish I can move your comment a million times
Delete*love...sorry.
DeleteOyibo mentality dey worry you!!!!
ReplyDeleteWhen women won't train their sons to be homely and helpful in africa then you have these kind of questions. Abeeegi If she NP sabi Cook or clean then she outsources the job jare. Mothers do the needful as the paradox has shifted...women are breadwinners now so men oya bend down low in Olamides voice
A woman that cannot cook and cannot wash should go back to her papa house.
ReplyDeleteIt is only a lazy, poor man that has no say in his home that will tolerate such.
Maybe they have exchanged the roles and the woman is now the head of the house
Lies!!! James na rich men children dey lazy pass infact a rich man would employ a maid, a cook,a laundry man thinking his helping his kids.
DeleteWas looking for your comment oga James ...u dint disappoint
DeleteOyibo mentality dey worry you!!!!
ReplyDeleteWhen women won't train their sons to be homely and helpful in africa then you have these kind of questions. Abeeegi If she NP sabi Cook or clean then she outsources the job jare. Mothers do the needful as the paradox has shifted...women are breadwinners now so men oya bend down low in Olamides voice
Says mandi
ReplyDeleteIt's not necessary that a woman must cook or clean, But in a married home, the woman should know how to cook or clean if there is no house hlep. Though understanding couples may sometimes help each other but we all know that here in Nigeria, must men can't cook, so they tend to help out in the cleaning section. If i were married,i wouldn't want my husband to cook for me and the kids though, maybe once in a blue moon.
ReplyDeleteYes Stella you are wrong to think this way. Although there's nothing bad with a husband cooking or cleaning but it must be as a compliment to the wife. That said, if I must pick one, a wife should know how to cook, cleaning can be delegated to a maid or someone else. I don't think I'd like anyone cooking for my husband except for when i'm indisposed.
ReplyDelete*God bless my Angel in human form*
A woman should be able to do all.
ReplyDeleteTrue! That inner strength just pops up. Bath the kids,cook, clean, fold d clothes, iron, read, watch your favorite show, pray, plan, wife duties to hubby, and your career or business(24hrs). In no particular order, yes you can do it all. Super women👍
DeleteA woman is meant to cook n clean while the man provides,meanwhile the man can help out alittle like the woman interms of finance.
ReplyDeleteI hate cleaning but I can cook for the whole Africa...cooking is my hobby, infact my food stuff suffered when I was in nursing school in those days Bcos I will always cook and invite the whole hostel to come and eat. I derived pleasure seeing people eating my food and hailing me**shines** teeth. Good old days. I miss my nursing school days.
ReplyDeleteLong live UDUTH school of nusing..
Who ask u????
DeleteHmmmmmmm madam u hate cleaning and you call yourself a nurse. SMH
DeleteI hate cleaning but I can cook for the whole Africa...cooking is my hobby, infact my food stuff suffered when I was in nursing school in those days Bcos I will always cook and invite the whole hostel to come and eat. I derived pleasure seeing people eating my food and hailing me**shines** teeth. Good old days. I miss my nursing school days.
ReplyDeleteLong live UDUTH school of nusing..
Stella be like as u travel u forget how things are done, na una go say its the man's duty to take care of the financial expenses na una go still say make the man cook n clean... Everybody know your place, am not saying its wrong for a man to assist. You dont expect me to go and make the money come back and cook and clean while you laze around the house. We are AFRICANS for crying out laud.
ReplyDeleteIt's the woman's duty to cook and clean while the man provide house rent, school fees and home upkeep.
DeleteYes you are wrong stella on this one. And stop putting crazy ideas on our head. Women are meant to be home managers. A woman is suppose to pilot the affairs of the home and that includes cooking and cleaning. How can a woman not even know how to cook sef? I just dont get that part. Did your mom not cook for her husband? I remember those days when my mom won't even let my elder sister cook for her husband (our dad).times have change,now women just want to sit and lazy their ass around fixing long nails and eye lashes just so dey won't cook or wash or do any other house chores. They now see themselves as equal with their husbands thereby sharing the housechores. If your hubby decides to help with the house chores that's him trying to be a good husband and its not mandatory. Don't abuse that previledge.
ReplyDeleteStella is lucky to have married a whiteman whose ideas are totally different from ours. We are Africans and African women are homely.
I for one won't let nobody cook for my husband not unless am seriously ill,call me a maid or what ever I don't care. I don't even see it as a chore sef Its a part of me to take care of my home. So excusee me coz I ain't buying this.
I just tire. This issue is over flogged and impressionable girls would end up messing their homes up with these kinda ideas.
DeleteYour most sensible comment.
DeleteLol, who tellingly saybstella husband the cook and clean? U dey live with them? Oyinbo man na wari? I don't even think they eat same kind of food forget what she is asking o! She just dey find una mouth
DeleteStella that's the way its meant to be but we are still in Nigeria where the woman's basic duty is to be domestic regardless of whether she's working or not. Most times she even brings more "bread" home than the man and is still expected to COOK, WASH, CLEAN and the HORSEBAND wont assist. Personally I think it all lies on the kind of man and how advanced he is in these times. For some men, na abomination to enter kitchen ooo. God bless me with a good HUSBAND...
ReplyDeletemizz majesty is now a valid ID on sdk...watch out for me
*evil laughter* *runs away*
You go tey for singles corner... Where una "home training" self?
DeleteNone is better although I'll rather pick a woman that can clean, I hate messy places they can handle the cooking aspect by eating out but if the house or kitchen is a mess naaaaa
ReplyDeleteSTELLA Stoppit oh....wat do u mean by dat....so a lady shouldn't be able to cook and clean ba?....in james' voice she will go back to her fada's hus....but on a serious note sha...ladies should stop priding in their inability to perform basic Gender Roles all in d name of Modernity....even if u are a carrier woman...u are still but a WOMAN...and there is wat we call Gender Roles and Responsibility....Juss as its d Role of a Man to Protect and Provide for His household....d WOMAN Nurture and Care for d Children....nurture and care includes but not Restricted to cooking and cleaning...or wee a woman pride herself in using Fastfood to bring up her Child?...Biko its too cold for me to be angry dis Afternoon....Benin witches didn't allow d eclipse to happen here....its been raining like kilode here in benin.....can't wait to go back home and have a nice hot bath and watch a movie while am under my duvet very naked....!!!!
ReplyDeleteLol. Whatever rocks their boat oooo.
ReplyDeleteBoth please
ReplyDeletebut it isn't meant for the woman alone
If she ''won't clean'' then she's not Hygienic, which ultimately implies her Food will be unsafe to eat no matter how good she is @ preparing whatever delicacy she's good @... You go fear smelling thingz for under and yonder ;)
ReplyDeletea.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
ReplyDelete.
Not interested in this issue at all....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
Non of the above.......
ReplyDeleteYes it is written somewhere. I came across it in the bible where back then the prerequisite for being a good wife included all those and even knowing how to sew and all (pardon me if i'm wrong)..Yes the man can help,infact a good man would always help but the woman is the home maker. Stella stop this thing.
ReplyDeleteI cook and I clean. None above the other.
I prefer a woman that can't cook abeg. She can always learn. A woman that can clean is a big no no.
ReplyDeleteThe whole house will be smelling
In my own opinion, both goes hand-in-hand.
ReplyDeleteIf you can't cook then you are super lazy and that means you won't be able to clean either.
Madam Stella, na bec you dey oyibo man land na why you dey talk like this. You can only speak from this angle when you are married to a 100% Nija man.
Mother Nature
My hubby cleans and cook, no big deal, depending on who is free at that time.
ReplyDeleteBimbola was here.
Lwkmd!
ReplyDeleteStellz, this one, you fail am o.
Yeah, I'm a feminist, but since the beginning of time, the wife has been the homemaker. It's not going to change.
That doesn't mean that the man should mess everywhere up, and leave the woman to clean up after him, no.
As for cooking and doing chores, those depends on the two people involved.
But saying that I won't keep my house in other, because if I don't do it, my man will, doesn't make sense.
Then again, if only we'd train our children, both male and female, to take up responsibilities in the home, and quit with the double standards, all these talks won't be necessary.
Bottomline ; I can't be around and my home would be messed up or disorganised.
#WhiteDiamondOut
you are very wrong. notin backward here.
ReplyDeletestella in abroad they don't really border about that whether you can cook or clean they believe you guys are both help mate.
ReplyDeletebut here in naija you must know how to do the both
if you are lucky and you find a man that helped in domestic household then thats a relief if not you have no choice than to learn how to do everything on your own
PG 18
DeleteSee your mouth like in the abroad, have you been there? It's same with Nigeria if you don't know,women in Nigeria even enjoy more than women overseas. Nigerian men are hot cake in that your abroad, say ur from Nigeria and the want to marry you cos African men have the mentality of providing,overseas you take care of your self and I take care of mine,you buy ur car I buy mine and we share responsibilities including house work. They are equal but a home tht the man pays the bills the wife does the cooking and cleaning so don't go looking Keep up with Kim k and the rest and think that's how it's done over seas.
ASHAWO WAS 1's A VIRGIN
A good upbringing girl must know how to do both, that does not mean that the man cannot assist if there is need.
ReplyDeleteI will choose cleaning over cooking,not because i cant cook but because i cant stand a dirty or disorganised enviroment.
ReplyDeleteReally how can one even think of cooking in a very dirty,littered,clusttered,(adjective fail me) Kitchen. .
I dont mind a lady who cant cook. But Cant clean also! NO!
ReplyDeleteIf your mom did the cooking and the cleaning of the house while you were little, what then will you say is wrong with you that you can't do same for your own husband in your own home...
ReplyDeleteSDK's Got A New Fan!
Funny enough, these things should not only be done as a wife! As a woman, you should love good food and a neat house. If you do these things as a single girl, doing it in your matrimonial home won't be a task, but a continuation. There's nothing like wifely duties(except loving your husband and kids). Everyone should know how to cook and clean. Personally, I'll do both in my home, but will appreciate it if my man helps me from time to time... It'll help him when I'm not home.
ReplyDeleteI will do both with a man that's appreciative
ReplyDeleteI will do both with a man that's appreciative
ReplyDeleteBoth are important. What is it about all the noise about a woman cooking and cleaning the house? When has it become a work?
ReplyDeleteMost Nigeria women are being deceived into believing that is only Nigerian/African women that cook and clean their homes. Please, majority of women everywhere do the same thing.
Americans and the British people do not set the standard of living for the world.
Is not an African or Nigeria men mentality for a woman to cook and clean. The word of God has set it straight and give us all guidelines. So, is left for you to follow the rules or follow the American/British way.
If you're a woman and you don't know how to cook or you don't like cooking, whO will be the one cooking for your child/children?
Please enough of all the shenanigans. People should stop trying to force others to do things their way.
Many women in the Western world cook and clean their homes.
Stella please stop! A real woman must know how to cook and clean. Please stop promoting rubbish.
ReplyDeleteLMAO. It's a matter of perspective. Would u be happy with a hardworking, cooking but spiteful and fetish woman? You can always get someone to do the cooking and cleaning depending on how big your money is. Companionship is everything.
ReplyDeleteNa only you get sense for this matter. You are truly blessed because you see beyond the ordinary.
DeleteStella, both work hand in hand..
ReplyDeleteAs your are cooking & cleaning will follow up..
And I asked: why on earth would a woman not know how to cook and clean? Is that really possible? Well, I am yet to meet such a person. To be sincere, even the guys I know (including my brothers) are good in both cooking and cleaning not to say girl-pals. I only see such acts on TV. I wish I can just meet that non-cooking and cleaning type-of-girl that won't always disturb me on how to try a new cooking & cleaning pattern...lol. I really wish. Some friends are bed-bugs but are cool tho...hahaha
ReplyDeleteMy sister cooks well but she's dirty. I don't understand how someone will cook in a dirty kitchen and still leave everywhere messy. I just hate it whenever she's in the kitchen.
ReplyDeleteBoth are so important for a woman biko, so so important
ReplyDeleteanon 22:23 like your big W mouth i guess you only read and didnt bother to digest it then you ran like a fool to attack me.
ReplyDeletedidnt you see where i wrote helpmate.
ooh !!! i forgot you are blind
asking me silly question if have traveled before ode if i wan go i go come your house come tell you....... trying to make a point and then end up looking stupid fool
I believe a husband should help his wife do things. I'll rather know how to clean than cook. Hubby can teach, if he knows how to. If not, there are cooking schools. I can swear to u that a dirty environ pisses a man off more than hunger.
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