Some Mothers see the Omugwo time as one to relax..lol
Stella
I want to share my own Omugwu story too.(Please make una manage my gramma as I no go school oo)
I want to share my own Omugwu story too.(Please make una manage my gramma as I no go school oo)
I took in a year after my traditional marriage. (Fast forward to my 38th weeks) I took my leave a day before that day and the next morning I went to my working place to pick some of my things, I was having on and off contractions though I didn't know what it was then(thought it was normal) I was about cooking in the evening that day when I felt the urge to pee and when I finished and cleaned up I saw some mucous(I had being seeing it before then but that one was too heavy)
To cut it short I had my baby around 2am the next morning.
I was discharged the next day and my mum came after 5 days from the villa. She came loaded with everything needed for omugwo( she really try 4 dat side)
Hmmmmmm, it was better she didn't come at all oo because she didn't help me at all.(her first omugwo but not first grandchild because one of my younger sisters had a baby at home)
Na only Ludo,Ayo(ncho) and movies be her work. Even at midnight she would wake up and start playing ludo.
My baby can cry for Africa and each I took my baby to my mum to help me and carry so that I could sleep small she go just say abeg drop am there, me and am who senior,na the day wey she see me I see am,Hmmmmmm.
All she does was eat eat eat and eat. She is diabetic and I was cooking two pots and it was too stressful for me.(she didnt help me with cooking at all) and she isn't old,she was just 49yrs then(4yrs ago).
I stopped her from bathing my baby because she no sabi,under 2 secs she don finish, my husband asked me to be doing it myself so that my baby won't end up with body odour.I was able to learn a little from my brother-in-law's wife that was coming to bath her before my mum came.
All the drinks we bought for visitors na my mama finish am and she no say she get diabetes oo. If i buy wheat bread for her she go finish am before evening and she no say we dey manage ourselves. To wash baby clothes na talk of war( she go like to dey wash am every 2days) and me no like am like that,so I took over the washing, the cooking and the bathing of my baby. I couldn't even stand for long because of the tear they gave me.
She complained that she didn't come with her drugs and she needed to go back, I bought her some drugs but she told me that that one wasn't working at all.(she just wanted to run away)...LOL
She was just busy giving me lists of what to buy for her and the ones she would share in the village.
She left after 3wks and she knew that I had an episiotomy,I wasnt even strong enough then,I begged her to stay a little but she refused oo,I even begged her to leave my younger brother who came with her then to stay with me until I was strong enough but she still refused.She just managed to teach me how to back baby because I had no help then. She is too money conscious(she just dey tell me how mama Ngozi and co go omugwo and the kind things wey dem carry com back and the kind money when their daughters and husbands give dem but I no ans am bcos I no say she dey whine me,I no go kill myself for her)
When she was leaving some of the things I bought for her after I took her the market to buy things,I decided to buy one extra wrapper,shoe and bag but the thank you I got from her was that there weren't beautiful( I provoked and shouted on her oo) I asked her if she asked me to buy those ones again but I just did it for her,she later apologized.
When I had my 2nd baby she didn't come oo,I told her not to bother that I would take care of myself.
Wetin I wan do nah na still my mama,she later apologized for what she did then and I no get choice than to forgive her.
lol
Lol. Ur mum is like my aunty o. Can see somebody's own but won't see her own.
ReplyDeleteYou see...but if na una husband mama do this kain thing...una go keep am fr mind. Will you tolerate her like your mama?
DeleteDid you read the part where she shouted on her mum for not being appreciative. That's the difference here, just where the problem lies.
DeleteWith your mum, they are bound to be frictions but the ability of you being able to express yourself cannot be overemphasised. Something you will dare not do with your MIL, else you'd be misquoted and misinterpreted and such talks labelled as insult with all your hubby's people fuming that you've done the unthinkable.
What's my point?...it's mostly all the bottled up/pent up anger(arising mostly from not being able to say how you feel even when you've been hurt) that leads to the MIL/DIL crisis.
#mythoughts
I totally agree with you. You can let go of your emotions with your mum but you can't do that to your MIL.
DeleteIf you don't let go of the pent up anger, how do you forgive? May God help us
Jesus, this is my mom's elder sis, looooool
Deletebut my mum can bath baby but she doesn't carry baby, my own younger sister also had a baby at home so twas not her first grandchild.
Need to send in mine, my mother in law's visit is the best thing to happen to any one that has a child. Chai, God bless her mehn.....
Hahahahahahahahahaha...
ReplyDeleteThat's very bad of her mehn...I'm happy it's your own mom that did this cos if it were to be your mothers in law...person no go hear word from you..
Typical of a eebo mother
DeleteSide to linda
Hahaha.. your mother no try at all.Who was playing the ludo with her at night? She came to rest from all the stress in the village.
ReplyDeleteGod Bless Everyone..
Poster, Mama gi nkea dikwa behuge!
ReplyDeleteLols
DeleteGood to know... In james voice. ** urc **
ReplyDeleteI don't know maybe it's just me I can't stand seeing my mum do any work. I had my first child at about 2am and was discharged that same day. When we got home there was no light so no water at all my mum went to the next compound to fetch water I was very angry I took the bucket from her and fetched water myself. I left to my house after one week she came the next week. I didn't even allow her cook. She came for the baby so I told her to face the baby I will cook and clean the house. Na gist we go gist from morning till night. The only time we had problems was when she will press hot water on my whole body and make me sit on it also. When I had my second baby she didn't come cos she died that same year.
ReplyDeleteWoow. U got a nice Mum. Sorry for the Loss
DeleteWhat a mother, God bless her soul. That sitting on hot water thing Ehn go make woman swear for their husband by mistake 😂 and it's the best way to fast relief from after delivery pains
DeleteEwo, Is she Patience Ozokwor? No blame her poster after all, na the day she see your baby your baby see her too. Some mother's though.
ReplyDeleteIt's well in the well.poster u re a good woman, if na me hmmmmmmm the way she manage come, na the way she go manage go back.
ReplyDeleteToo funny, especially the part where she wakes up at night to play ludo. Are you sure your Mamas name no be Patience Ozokwu.
ReplyDeleteLol funny mama. I like her jare. No time to kill yourself for children. You know say village hard and coming to Lagos was like going abroad. Me vex we know their type
ReplyDeleteGood luck everyone ......!
ReplyDeleteI wonder why some ladies here are deaf or na blindment i go say dey worry dem ?bv´s make una helep me out oo!.
dem no dey read profile before dem add you?
after dem add pesin finish' come dey ask stupid questions.
if anyone dare do that to me again .
the thurnder wey go faya de pesin ...hmmmm e go sould like all bv´s FaaaarT.
Funny omugwo,of course you have to forgive her.
ReplyDeleteNo vex my sister, but she no try sha at all at all. Some daughters do have them though.
ReplyDeleteIf it was your mother in law naw,stories for full ground,
ReplyDeleteWow, some mothers can be funny. Imagine comparing what others made during their own omugwo. But my dear, it is well. Console yourself with some good memories you both shared.
ReplyDeleteSee as you bash your mama. I am wary of women like you. You believe you know marriage and childbirth after one baby. One minute of marriage and you think you're a counselor. No be she baff you? It's her first time too so free her. You too stingy aunty. Imagine counting bread wey you buy for your mama. Jesus. I have to tell you new wives something. Your mom's are different. Some have the maternal instinct. Others don't. (read about women with post natal depression). Don't ever sit with your husband to bash your mom. She raised you into whatever your husband currently likes. If you don't like how she does stuff, call her aside and tell her. Sometimes a woman may see her daughter with a baby and wish for that stage again or feel a tinge of "jealousy" that her time has passed. She may feel love starved or even sex starved. You need to comfort her. Make her feel better.
ReplyDeletePoster you tried but it wasn't nice of you to tell her not to come for your second baby. You would have left her to decide for herself. She is still your mother and it is always good for her to see and carry her grand child. Life is short.
DeleteStory of my life!
ReplyDeleteIn my own case my mum helped in washing and bathing the baby but there was this lack of excitement from her.
She was like that when I had my first baby now the second one.
I just wonder if she wishes me well at all.
Na God hands I dey so I'm not really worried.
checking something...ignore me biko
ReplyDelete😂😂Pele. Shit happens
ReplyDelete*smokes weed*
Imagine if it was a mother in-law
ReplyDeletewho did that.
Awwww nice!
ReplyDeleteI wish my Nana was alive!
Because I know my momma won't lift a pin when I birth my child lol...
Lmao!!!
ReplyDeleteGrowing up,when we tease my Mom about not petting us enough. She would say; " I saw you when you saw me" hehehhehe.
Hilarious omugwo story,I can't even fault Mama joor😂 Mama wan rest.
Ndo poster😂😂😂😂😂
Your mom is a very funny woman "drop am there,me and am who senior?the day she see me na I see am"😀😀😀😀😀😀😀.but nawa for her oo.
ReplyDeleteThank God is not MIL that did this one.
ReplyDeleteSeen
ReplyDeleteDifferent mothers with their different ways.
ReplyDeleteLol, Mothers ehn, every1 of them with their own drama, poster Nah ur mom she be everything she does, she's 100% right.
ReplyDeleteShe is ur mum u have to forgive her f CU's, is sometimes like dat , she came to relax, Lols
ReplyDeleteI have seen a friend mother's like yours, it is well
ReplyDeleteIf your mothers whether good or bad charge for all the sacrifices, pains and sleepless night they had because of you daughters you would be kissing their feet. Imagine counting food for your mamas belle. Hian
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ReplyDeleteThis story is my exact experience with my step mom. She stayed only 2wks before I found a good excuse to send her back home. I actually thought that this is coming from my step sister(her biological daughter bt its not. she treated her own daughter the same way she treated me
ReplyDeletejust testing my blog id.
ReplyDeleteWow. I can't wait to marry and send in mine
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