Kudos Stella for the amazing work you are doing on this great blog.
My chronicle is lengthy but I will make it short as much as possible. Life hasn’t been a bed of roses even though I thank God everyday for what I have (my amazing family). My name is Douye, I’m an Ijaw girl born and raised in Warri (area!!!) lol.
I just got out of an impending doom in form of a relationship, this guy Mena was like a ray of sun shine when I first met him and I was completely mesmerized by the way he treated me as he was a complete gentle man.
He was lovely, neat and anything nice you can think of. He was too perfect!
I just got out of an impending doom in form of a relationship, this guy Mena was like a ray of sun shine when I first met him and I was completely mesmerized by the way he treated me as he was a complete gentle man.
He was lovely, neat and anything nice you can think of. He was too perfect!
The FBI me was activated! So I started asking him questions about his past relationships, he told me about the last one he had with a girl from way back in school, he said they had to breakup because of their genotype (both AS), that the lady was pregnant and he didn't even get to see his baby bla bla blah and that the lady relocated to Italy with his unborn child and there was no way to contact her!
I was just looking at him with mouth wide open, this is the oga that I am well aware that he stays home with his wife and kid whom he lied about that is SS.
I was just looking at him with mouth wide open, this is the oga that I am well aware that he stays home with his wife and kid whom he lied about that is SS.
Stella I wasn’t there for the money oh cos I work and I’m not and will never be a liability to any one. So after a while, I confronted him and told him I know the truth then politely asked him why he lied to me, oga got defensive oh…saying I’m accusing him for nothing!
I walked away and he started texting me, bombarding my whatsapp with apology messages… that was when I called his wife and son’s names for him…sent him their family photos and told him never to speak to me again.
A guy added me from a group chat and started taking marriage and now I'm totally scared!
I walked away and he started texting me, bombarding my whatsapp with apology messages… that was when I called his wife and son’s names for him…sent him their family photos and told him never to speak to me again.
A guy added me from a group chat and started taking marriage and now I'm totally scared!
This chronicle might sound funny but I’m deeply hurt because I decided to try dating after being single for three years and this is what I get, a massive joke.
Now I have trust issues for someone to lie so comfortably at that age(he is 10 years older than I am). How do I get past this? I want to get married someday but right now I don't trust anyone! Pix for your eyes only.
My Dear your beauty is nothing if you cannot give yourself some sense.
The signs are always there in the beginning but most people go in with their eyes closed hoping for the best.
One bad Apple cannot/should not define the whole lot.
You just walked out of one and someone else is talking Marriage with you from a chat group? Madam please borrow yourself some sense otherwise you will keep walking in and out of relationships
Now I have trust issues for someone to lie so comfortably at that age(he is 10 years older than I am). How do I get past this? I want to get married someday but right now I don't trust anyone! Pix for your eyes only.
My Dear your beauty is nothing if you cannot give yourself some sense.
The signs are always there in the beginning but most people go in with their eyes closed hoping for the best.
One bad Apple cannot/should not define the whole lot.
You just walked out of one and someone else is talking Marriage with you from a chat group? Madam please borrow yourself some sense otherwise you will keep walking in and out of relationships
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
LOVE'S ISH
*The signs are already there that it will not work out but you are trying to force it.Why should your telling her how you feel result in a fight?Abi am i not reading well?
What do i think? I think you are on a long thing,please divert your Energy somewhere else.
NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
LOVE'S ISH
Good day Stella ,
I have a problem that I need advice for...
I'm totally in love with a girl and the thing is I don't even know how she feels because she is very reserved, she rather keeps it to herself so I'm just lost on that end. Sometimes though I think she loves me then other times I feel she doesn't even give a shit.
Anytime I try to talk to her about how I feel or how she feels it turns into a fight,I've never experienced this before so it's confusing. Another thing is that we are from two ethnic backgrounds and her people are making a big deal of where I'm from quite frankly I believe love can conquer all that because in my opinion tribalism is our major issue in this country.
Anyway I need advice on how to handle this issue I love her to the ends of this earth but if she continues to remain closed up I think I'm going to have to let her go for my heart to have peace....please what do you think????
*The signs are already there that it will not work out but you are trying to force it.Why should your telling her how you feel result in a fight?Abi am i not reading well?
What do i think? I think you are on a long thing,please divert your Energy somewhere else.
Chronicles ti deeee
ReplyDeleteThis is what happens when children falls in love
DeletePoster one what re u pn about? O cant mk sense of what u typed.
Delete2, shes not into u.
Poster 1 take yor mata to God. Poster 2 which kind love to the ends of the earth be that? Being reserved doesn't mean tightening up your feelings. Even reserved people can confess love for Africa. If you ask me, i'll say you are wasting your love. Kindly transfer it to people who need it.
DeleteAm ara here.
*lipsealed*
DeletePoster 2 from your write up I feel it's my boyfriend writing stella cuz this is our exact story minus the fighting part (but I know it isn't him cuz he doesn't use his phone for anything other than calling). Jokes apart now, I am the reserve type and I didn't know my boyfriend felt I was keeping things from him and not telling him Jack till he talked to me about it. My advice is to talk to her about it. Make her understand what u feel and let her state what she feels. I think that would help. Did I mention I am Yoruba and he is from rivers. So the tribe doesn't matter if u truely love each other
DeletePoster 1 I agree with stella
DeletePoster two just let her be and pray. If she is yours, she wld come back plus I agree with stella
Love nwantiti
DeleteLoll Stella see as you rush poster 2! I agree with you though.
Deleteshake more than your head.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, I dont understand ur story..
DeletePoster 2, she's not interested in a love affair with u. Something might be eating her up or she jst doesn't feel u d way u feel her. Dnt force it. Love isn't meant to be forced. Pass the love to Sumone else.
Her story is that the first guy she was involved with was married but hid it until she found out. She now is afraid to trust the new guy and afraid of relationships in general.
DeleteBro...take a walk! She nah feeling u.
ReplyDeleteposter one men lie, get over it. thats why you should always have a side guy and not put all your hopes in one man
ReplyDeleteposter 2 the babe is nto feeling you. move in abeg
Poster two, maybe you have a small penis, she don't wanna end up with someone that don't know how to fuck.
ReplyDeleteAbi I lie? U no get am for small peepee?
Hahahahhahahahahahahhahahahaha...ah ah nne ua mean mehn.Roflmfao
DeleteHaa, what a shame. The person wey do you don die sinceee. Ugly bitch. You look like a terrible band from the 80s.
DeleteHahaha.. blackberry turned comedian. Lol!!! Don't worry our case would be different. My SDK crush.
DeleteOn a more serious note, both of these posters have to walk away. They have certainly not found the right partners
Poster two you have a small peepee.
ReplyDeleteMy first comment disappeared or did it not?
No it didnt.
DeleteBlackberry please receive sense. On the other news, blackberry is out of stock, so r u n your comments
Deleteposter one you have to be yourself, am sure the best is yet to come. I am not a party to group and online relationship, just be careful.
ReplyDeletePoster one, just chill somewhere and enjoy the relationship. You are looking for Mr. Perfect?
ReplyDeleteP1 if you wana test the strength of your heart before falling in love, try using your tuition fees to play bet9ja. What do I mean? Love is a risk, heartbreaks is part of it. You just pray God orders your decision then you'll be smiling at the end.
ReplyDeleteI have no advice to you all...
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry not sorry
Poster 2, does your name start with the letter "S"?
ReplyDeleteYeye dey smell, S indeed.
DeleteP2. You know what your mind is telling you.. If you already made up your mind never to let her go, then dun change it... Just keep showing her love and care.... But if you loosing patience, forget about her n move on with your life.
ReplyDeleteThe best advice seen today.
DeletePoster kpele dear, bt i will advise you to tk ur time n heal bfore jumping into another relationship. When somtin feels like it is too good to be true, then it is too good to be true!
ReplyDeletePoster two. Do u want to spend ur life pursuing someone who is always blowing both hot and cold? Biko borrow ursef brain o
poster two how old are you? i think your age is affecting you to know that the girl is not in love but she hate you. Can't you see another cookie jar that is better, abi her cookie jar is the best so far in your area?
ReplyDeletemove away to the next babe and forget about this one, she does not have any feelings for you.
It is you age is affecting.
DeleteHahahahahahahhahahahahahahha.plzz u guyz should not kill me with lafter ooo,hahahahhahaahhahah
Delete#yawns :# I'm In love with sdk
DeleteP1: my dear most men ar randy, it doesn't matter thr age, like my hubby who is almost 14yrs older than me jst had a luv child wen I thot he wil b different & more responsible lyk d younger guys.Pls ladies, if u see d signs dnt ignore.
ReplyDeleteWhat signs did you see that you ignored, enlighten us.
DeleteGbeborun@ love struck
Delete1 Forget the married man.
ReplyDelete2 if u are patient enough maybe she will open up,if u can't wait go elsewhere.personally I don't ve time for people who can't express them selves.
The signs, the signs... Stella has spoken to both posters.
ReplyDeleteThese two chronicles self.
ReplyDeleteChronicle abiaro blog taa, no need to waste my time and data.
ReplyDelete@1, u met a guy through an online group and he's already talking marriage, he's a scam, u need to be a bad girl to catch a good gut.
ReplyDelete@2, love is not by force Na,it's only broke guys dat run after girls who reject them, make money and see her running after u.
Lyk yday chronicle, wen d guy buy flashy car, she remember love, shior
DeleteMiss rich slut, could you please point out any sentence in poster2 narrative that says he's forcing her? @Angelray4sdk
DeleteWas your father rich before he married your mom?
DeleteI love this blog it makes me laugh. Poster one and two need journalist to help dem interpret.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, a hunter knocked on ur door and still u escaped from his jaws, kudos. Don't worry, ur God-sent man is on the way.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, Bro forget that gal and keep on with ur search. That gal dat no feelings for you. We have been there and done that long ago.
Poster 2, two cannot work together unless they agree, you love her doesn't mean she must love you back, it's obvious she doesn't love you for reasons best known to her and even if you force in on her into marriage, that marriage might be a disaster you would regret. Love comes from the heart. Take a honorable walk and save yourself the pain.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, with that trust issue, it would be difficult having and keeping a guy, so give people a little benefit of the doubt, doesn't mean you should'nt shine your eyes.
See these two chronicles na wa.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 and Poster 2 both of you should take Stella advice. No advice from me today. weather is cold.
Good to know
ReplyDeletePoster 1 and 2: I pray for wisdom and a discerning spirit to know when to let go...trust your instinct they never fail you dear..wish you blessings...
ReplyDeleteDry dry cchronicles.mschew
ReplyDeleteDry like your life.
DeletePoster 1, congratulations on your baptism. Men especially married ones love to lie. Don't let dt get to you. Move on with your eyes and brains open and legs closed. The married ones don't have patience as they just want to taste and fly.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, what is it with little children and sex these days. Go to school, focus and pass your exams, graduate and get a job and try again and if it does not work, come and give us chronicles. Between why fall in love with an antisocial human being?
Mumu,what is it with you and sex. Did he say anything about sex? Dirty minded slut
DeleteToday's chronicles eh.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 can't you see that she is not into u.why forcing urself on someone that will not value u.please move on.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 just be careful online dating is not for everybody..
I repeat be careful.
I just walked out of relationship like this. really like the babe, she can not hold convo, she so unaffectionate, I didnt feel loved back at all. I borrow myself sense and leave. Now shes angry and bitter. na wa o.
ReplyDelete@Poster 2, please leave her alone
@poster 1, please leave him alone and calm down. im sure you are very sexy even if you may not be facially beautiful. Ijaw women are always endowed. just keep calm, your man would find you
Poster 1: clap for yourself
ReplyDeletePoster 2: clap for yourself
Poster 2. Just write her a letter and say I love you and wantvto marry you. Do you love me?
ReplyDeleteposter 1 just feels like giving herself heartache.
ReplyDeleteposter 2 just feels like thinking unnecessarily.
The both of you should move on
Ada
Poster1 please becareful with on-dating, it doesn't always goes well. Poster2 stick to stella's advice.
ReplyDeleteAbeg today chronicle get as e be, for this chanji dole period, people the still send this kind chronicle? Abeg both of you, receive sense.
ReplyDelete»It ill only end in praise«
When people are problem-free, yet claim they have problem, mtchw
ReplyDeleteI sure as hell did relate with poster 2. I was in that boat since April 2016. I was so confusing dat she doesn't say she loves me, neither does she reply when I say such. The highest she has said is, 'I miss you'. She loves to have me around not until yesterday night when I decided we define our relationship that I got to know we were not even in any. I had to tell her to cease calling or chatting me.
ReplyDeleteAdvice, poster 2,let her go.
Poster 1: I
ReplyDeleteIts irrelevant wether you stayed single for 3yrs before entering a relationship.It was your CHOICE!!!!! I hate it when people lie repeatedly in relationships,good thing you moved on.
You never know how good or bad this new guy will be if you dont give him a chance but close your legs while at it so that you dont cry Wolf if it goes wrong.I wish you all the Love in the universe.
Poster 2:
Not everyone throws about the "L" word if thats what you mean.some people are just rigid or want to be sure before they say it.For me ,"Dont tell me you love me,show me you love me".Yes i believe in the showing! The bigger issue here is the Tribal thingy."I cant marry a man whose family doesnt accept me." - MY OPINION
Hmm,it's another never ending episode of chronicles of blog visitors. (it's chronicules ni oo, in jennifer's voice)
ReplyDeleteEnter your comment...chronicles ti de ooo
ReplyDeleteLol @ poster 2,how long do you intend to force her to love you back?love is give and take if she aren't giving back my dear use your energy some where else
ReplyDeleteI wish to categorically say that EVERY single girl/lady has a secret string with 1 or 2 married men somewhere somehow, but all will come and be forming St. Mother Theresa in the open even on SDK, until chronicle as this comes to fore. #Issorai
ReplyDeleteDon't mind them, and when they get married n other girls return d favour, they get pained, I'm doing my own cos I know some other girl will pay me back wen d time comes, tit for tat.
DeleteWrong mentality/notion @ both of you. I have never had a stint Wv a marid man, speak for yourself.
DeleteObviously you are trying to justify why you do it. That you follow the crowd to do it doesn't mean everyone does it. That is foolish talk, as you don't know every single girl, not even on this blog. There are many morally upright singles who don't blow their trumpet.
Delete1. You need Jesus
ReplyDelete2. From your chronicle, you are still a small boy. You need to serve God in your youth first.
relationships and its ethics
ReplyDeletewait ooh I don't understand y u people is sending Stella ur pictures... like wat is she meant to do with it..u want her to tell u ure fine abi...pls she already has enough headache giving u advice on ur chronicle
ReplyDeleteposter2....leave d girl abeg..u broke boys love too much. Go and love money.
Got nothing to say to both posters. Byebye
ReplyDelete*God bless my Angel in human form*
There's no way I'm wasting my advice on these two chronicles, both poster are childish. Tell your chronicles to a 14years old boy or girl on your street and they will provide you with good answers. What I'm trying to say is that your chronicles are child play. Bring something tough next time.
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ReplyDeleteposter one you need Jesus!
ReplyDeleteposter two pls give the poor girl a break. she has her reasons tho. You can't force her to love you. seems like you're disturbing her too much. some guys don't even know when to stop! isn't it obvious she doesn't want you anymore? but she doesn't know how to tell you hence her behaviour. but wait o... are you broke? ugly? are you bad in bed? do you have a bad breath? pls check yourself. if you possess any of these qualities then give her a break! biko and stop lamenting uh
Poster1: you expect a fully grown man, ten years older than you to be single? SMH. If you were his mother, would you have watch your son grow that old and not have a kid even if not a wife? Imo tho.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm.. chronicles! Poster 1. U need to be more confident in ur dealings with men. Go into relationships with an open mind and dont spread ur legs open. Look for the signs u want to see and if any man does not measure up, ditch his ass
ReplyDeletePoster one take this advice.
DeletePoster 1..Don't be in a hurry to get into a relationship with anyone that is immediately talking marriage..slow it Dow and just be friends..get to know him without the pressure of marriage. Just don't be too eager to enter another relationship.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, watch War Room
ReplyDeleteAnd then rub coconut oil all over your body.
DeletePoster 2, be patient with her. Some girls love to love to play hard to get.
ReplyDeleteOkay poster 1 I must admit I did not understand anything you said, but I get the point, first of all he was a nice too good to be true guy then suddenly he get wife and kids and ya asking us question Abi kilode? Someone from group chat is checking you out and ya asking us question?? My dear please be smart biko, if you want to meet people go out with friends to nice places and meet new people, then keep them as friends till you make a pick,do all this whole you are fervently holding on to God with prayers
ReplyDeletewhich kyn dead chronicles be this? na why she load am for monday...
ReplyDelete