STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
GOLD DIGGER ALERT?.
Dear Stella,
I'm at a crossroad in my life and I'm not one to discuss my personal life with my brothers or friends. Your red pen and my other BVNs' comments are what I'm trusting on right now. It's a bit long but please bear with me. This is urgent, as I want to decide whether to continue this relationship or not.
I'm currently in a relationship with a guy I have known for about 8 years, but we only started properly dating about a year and a half ago. We initially met via Facebook: he sent a friend request and I accepted. He started sending me messages and we got chatting. At that time I was a student in South Africa. A couple of months into our 'facebook friendship' he invited me to visit him in Lagos and I accepted.
I bought my own return tickets, and when I got to lagos, he took me to a hotel in Ikeja. We spent the weekend there (which surprised me on the first day), but he never took me to his place; just his office. (No, he's not married and was not married then - I'm 100 percent sure now). I was a mermaid throughout that weekend, even though he tried; he actually attempted that "let me just put the tip only", and of course I hissed and pushed him away.
What I remember was that the first night, I had to call my mom that I was in Nigeria "for a friend's sister's wedding" (that was the scope I gave her), since I did not travel out of school without informing her. The guy asked to speak to her and he greeted her and said to her that he wants to marry me.
The next day, the reception called to ask if we were checking out or wanted to extend our stay. I just handed the phone to him because I wasn't the one that chose or booked the hotel. He said we would be extending and that he would come down and give them more money. When he hung up, he asked me if I had any money on me, and I asked why. When I arrived, I changed some money that equaled to about N50k. This was my vex money in case of incasity. I told him I had only 30k and he said I should lend him, since it was weekend and banks are not open. That he would pay it into my nigerian account by Monday. I was wondering why he booked a hotel he didn't have money to pay for, and if so, why he was staying in it with me. Bear in mind that this guy is 10 years older than I am.
I gave him the 30k and told him I think it would be better for me to change my return ticket to leave on Sunday (the following day) instead of looking for money to pay for another day. After all, I wasn't the one that invited myself to Nigeria. The next day I left back to SA, but didn't remind him about the money.
In fact, he would chat with me for weeks, about how he wants to marry me and can't wait, without bringing the issue of my 30k up, until one day hunger made me demand that he pay my money. In total, he refunded me after almost a month. After that, I unfriended him on facebook and deleted him from my BBM.
For about 6 years, he would remember me once in a while and call or email me, asking how I was doing and that he still loved me. Called me his runaway wife, etc. In 2014, his communication became more frequent. He had just turned 40 and basically said he wanted to settle down and that I was the one. I wasn't even interested in what he was saying as I was still judging him from his misbehaviour in 2008. However one day I was travelling to the US with Emirates and I didn't look at the flight times on my ticket. Only for me to get to Dubai and realise my layover was almost 18hours!
Meaning I would be roaming Dubai airport for that long. I wanted to cry. Then I remembered this guy was also in Dubai at the time so I called him. He advised I go get an entry visa at arrivals and that he would come pick me up from the airport. He was really a godsend. He got me a room at a hotel near the airport AND PAID (Thank God), took me to dinner, etc. I was really grateful to him and that relief made me to take another look at him. When I returned from my trip some weeks later, we decided to give the relationship a go, with the goal of marriage.
Things were going well, he even met my parents and I met his. But Stella, today I sat and realised something that is a summary of all the fights we have been having for about 18months: this man seems to like chasing girls that have (or appear to have) money.
Around November last year we broke up because he cheated on me with a girl. To the extent that I caught them both in his house: she was naked except for his tshirt. When we somewhat reconciled after he came begging, I saw some messages on his phone to one of his friends, telling this friend that the girl's uncle is a commisioner in one of the Niger Delta area states, and that he will tell the girl that he wants them to get married, so she can get her uncle to help them push their project in that state. Honestly, I haven't even properly gotten over that. But that incident made me start putting pieces together: this guy is always adding girls on Facebook and Instagram, and then starting conversations with them. Or trying to make friends with certain types of girls. Taking them for expensive lunches or buying them expensive birthday gifts.
The ones that give him small face, he ends up toasting. And the common denominator is that: they have rich parents, have well-paying jobs or they own their own businesses. It made me also think: when he added me on Facebook while I was in university, I had started a fashion design business on the side in SA, and my business had a facebook page. Could this be why he added me?
When his friends introduce him to any girl that he knows is from a rich background, the way he lights up and starts showing her attention, it's almost embarassing.
I don't know if to call him a gold digger or what: he has a great business, and does well for himself. I also have my business that does well, so what is he looking for? I don't understand this behaviour. Maybe I'm not rich enough for him? Will we ever get married? Should I even want to get married to such a guy?
Please I need your perspective guys. Thanks and God bless.
*gold digger alert!
Na real wah.!
ReplyDeleteYou still dey ask questions abi?
DeleteWomen, why is it always very difficult for you people to read the handwriting on the wall?
You know what u need to do but u need confirmation. Will u have rest of mind married to him? Will u always be suspicious of his actions? Do you believe that he truly loves you and will stand by you even if u lose everything you possess financially? Is he honest?
DeleteYour sincere answers to these questions is your answer.
Me i cannot say leave him. I dont know how to give that kind of advice before u use me to settke.
So after dis ur well defined n ept analysis u r still asking us for advice abi? No go ahead n marry him. Before a year u will b sending in another chronicle. Nonsense n ingredients. Just negodi
DeleteA typical Yoruba guy
DeleteThis one pass gold digger...Na gold miner
DeleteExact description of niran that lives in Toronto
DeleteCharacteristic of professional gold digger, they re everywhere, no age limit
Dem no dey marry for love, no woman can quench their thirst, they want to use woman as ladder to climb up
Dear poster I can relate to this story , I met a guy smtimes last year too,just because we met in a big place and I was introduced as a "big madam" CEO of my business , he decided to tag along. Na that night he know say hin done meet sm1 like him dead mama...lol. I'm super smart I know that myself *winks* it ddnt take me 3months to realize his true person.i blocked the fool off in no time.in my opinion I think 2years is way too long for you to have realized all this already. Leave the Gold Digger!
DeleteNne he is holding on to u until he sees golden pastures,and he's not holding on cuz of love but that na your mumu sure pass
DeleteHmmm... my dear, dump his sorry ass. I once ha a bf like that, he would associate with all sort of chics just cos their parents are rich or influential. Always creeping into people's life just because he wants to benefit something. I once caught him cheating too and the idiot told me that the gals parents are rich and he intends to marry her. I wished him well and left. That was in 2010 6yrs ago. As we speak the moron is still unmarried and won't stop trashing my fb inbox with messages of how his life ended after I left him, how he wants to marry me and so on... my dear poster, what am saying in all is leave him and move on, such people always end up miserable and indecisive. That nigga ain't gon change.
DeleteTold her!
DeleteIs his name oyewole oyetomi. That guy with him biro prick
DeleteIs his name oyewole oyetomi. That guy with him biro prick
DeleteYour question though. Na wa o. DUMP HIM
DeleteWhen people insult some matured big girls for being single, this is one of the reasons. Gold diggers are real. It is not that they don't meet guys that offer them marriage, but most of those guys are gold diggers and social climbers. I think it is better you walk away from the relationship poster.
DeleteHmmmmm! Can u imagine?
ReplyDeletePlease forget about him.. I remember when I was around 20/21 my boyfriend then was always ashamed to introduce me to his friends because then I was so skinny with just two jeans. One day I wanted to sit infront of his car, he asked me to go back that his friend should come forward. To cut along story short I left and started doing phone call business before I met my husband who later traveled and brought me here. I was surprised when my ex contacted me on facebook, I pitied him.. Then he was using cream shine shine bobo now he looks old.. Im not mocking him but I give glory to God for his mercy.. Now I walk on the street guys run after me almost every day but I cant leave the man that God use to bring me out of poverty except this constant beating that makes me to contemplate cheating.
DeleteDid I just hear u say 'we will ever get married?' So u r considering him?
DeleteSister, are u the oldest single lady in ur family and neighborhood?
Is that the only man that has asked u out within this 8 years?
If yes, marry him, if no, get ur life back and move ahead.
40 years old and he's nt married yet. Player on the highest level. Gold digger on the highest level.
Eiya he beats you? Thats one thing with all this guys that feels they are your saviour. Kpele Nne, there is no excuse for any man that beats his man but can you stop whatever he complains about or whatever that upset him? I think he really loves you.
DeleteCharacteristic of these men
DeleteDem wan kno how much u earn d first time u meet
Dem wan kno abt the properties u have
Dem wan kno if any of ur family are connected
Dem wan kno d kind of passport u have
They generally after what they will gain
They add u on Facebook based on what u flaunt
Some of them are now old in the business claiming born again child of God, don't be deceived its in their blood
They re worthless, don't even keep them as boyfriend
Did you say constant beating? #sad sigh! May God take you out of that situation dear sister.
DeleteKai, anon 17:14, I was happy for you up until I got to your last lines... hmmmmm
DeleteBabe,did I read that well? Constant beating? U mean the man(ur present guy) beats you? Don't keep quiet about this,must he kill you before you walk out of that relationship?
DeleteLmaoooo! So you think the man God gave you will be beating you? Don't worry the same way he brought you out of poverty he will put you into your grave. Please use brain abeg. Desperados
DeleteAnon 17:41....Did I just read constant beating? Abeg ooooo
DeleteEven men have their own hustle. If it's a woman now they will be talking nonsense
ReplyDeleteAbeg leave that relationship or you will cry at the end. That man is a nigga.
ReplyDeleteHard to advise move on bu my dear, move on. The guy is after riches and connection. Connect him with Zara Buhari and you will see how he will appreciate you forever.
DeleteHe is a gold digger and a thief!
ReplyDeleteNonsense! Irritating story. Chai!
Babe, get another guy! You shouldn't be lacking toasters.
ReplyDeleteHandwriting on the wall.
ReplyDeleteMadam God won't come down and save you unless you help yourself.
He is an NFA (no future ambition at 40).
He loves money more than his ego as a man and you're still here considering marriage with such a man.
Didn't you say you are 28? Aren't there other men talking to you?
You want to throw yourself into something that will end in regret.
Anyway, you will still do what you want to do so I won't waste my time.
Just because a man has spoken to every member of your family and village doesn't mean he will marry you. This man is a no show, walk away while you still can and intact.
Where did she say she was 28?
Delete*she is 30, my bad. No wonder the desperation. He is 40 and 10 years older.
DeletePoster, is the guy from yoruba? If he is, put on your running shues.
ReplyDelete90% of the men out there are like that. They date base on finances...either you are a business owner or a banker or earn a 7 figure salary or from a rich family, their antennas will be up. The funny thing is they will be quick to leave you if they find out their perception of you turns out to be wrong.
DeleteGbagaun......#oyinbo
DeleteI was about saying same. But I decided to look for a comment to sit under. Poster, yaraba or na?
DeleteYour father! Everything must be attributed to a tribe.
DeleteYall know this is exactly what 100 percent ladies do all day every day? Randomly warm their ways into the lives of any perceived rich or made guy and say it's God's blessings. Please let's pray for the guy's hustle. What's meet for the goose is also good for the gander. Shikena
DeleteThat guy has show you traits.
ReplyDeleteMy dear DUMP his silly ass.
Do not come back telling us you know he has good sides and his positive sides has overpowered your fears. This guy is 42 and should be married with kids by now.
He definitely isn't a husband material.
Gbam!!! Ide have spoken
DeleteGbam!!! Ide have spoken
DeleteWhat kind of girls do we have these days?...
ReplyDeleteA guy invited you to Nigeria and you paid for your transport fare!...are you crazy or something?...
I know you gbenshed him but you don't wanna admit that so we won't cuss you out!...you are just a desperate fool!...
What are you still doing with that man?...the signs are everywhere!...
I'm sure you are an Aunty gwegz cos na dem they behave like you...
Yes oh! Paying for tickets is a red flag
DeleteShe GBENSHED him
DeleteChop knuckle queen
DeleteLol...Savages. 😂 😂 😂
DeleteJesus is Lord. Lemme pass
ReplyDeleteU have answered ur question,he his a gold digger dat just want girls for their money,he will spend on girls at d beginning of d relationship then later he Wil start demanding ND u wouldn't want to say no becos u believe he his a nice guy.just walk away.
ReplyDeleteNa wa ooo,this is sad
DeleteHian! You already know what he is and you're still asking questions.
ReplyDeletePlease move on from that guy already! All these wasted years and still nothing to show for it...na wah oo
I really,seriously hope you did not put all your egss in one basket! I mean... i hope you have other suitors around you besides him? It is very important ooh. Odikwa oke mkpa
Poster. Marry him. You are the one he truly loves. Others are just for business purposes.
ReplyDeleteHow many hours will it take u to send the IHG results to Stella, even inec don't take that long to announce election results
DeleteHahahahaha anon,free James abeg.
DeleteHe's still collating.
Anon16:14 be patient. I want to do a perfect job.
DeleteLmao @both of you.
DeleteI asked a millionaire how e did it, he said"forget about the girls and focus on one woman. She'll help you achieve everything"
ReplyDeletePoster. Is he the only man in your life? If yes, you ve'nt found your husband to be yet. Search on n make sure you dun flaunt your wealth in the process.
As if you have a gold mine.
ReplyDeleteThis is one of the very few cases where the signs are glaring. This dude will dump you as soon as he thinks you are a liability or as soon as he finds a better side pocket money.
ReplyDeleteThese are the type of men that demand you declare your bank account to them and they believe they did you a favour by getting married to you. Babe please o, shine your eye
Be alert as well, This type of guy can introduce several ladies to his guys as fiancee, just to make them feel comfy enough to part with money. Be wise
That chronicle poster that declared hers to her husband, I know shame won't allow her come and say her husband has start asking her to touch it.
DeleteSister you have done your homework. What are you still waiting for? Osiso! Pick up your Nikes and run for dear life! You deserve a better guy or don't you think so?
ReplyDeletePlease do not attempt to marry this man.He will give u heart ache.He doesn't love you.what he loves is money.
ReplyDeleteHe is indeed a gold digger,the day He find out ,you have lost everything just assumption ,he is going to leave you,he is just a greedy person,he has a job and still looking for rich gals who can still help him out,he is just greedy and will never change,it is in his blood.
ReplyDelete#Bad marriages can be avoided before they begin.
ReplyDeleteAlot of guys on facebook are gold diggers and sex perverts,this is what most of them do.i have hsve few experiences and I block them once I dee they r out for money, no more giving any attention to a guy on facebook.Most even lie about their marital status and hide it so well.they don't post their wives pictures or kids pictures so people assume they are single.
ReplyDeleteYes, you are right...i know one dapo F on facebook always adding rich man pickins dem. If you school in a private university in Nigeria, the mumu will add you straight. I was already taliking to him before i noticed the trend., d idiot will search your friend list and also add all your friends.
DeleteRUN
ReplyDeleteRUN
RUN
Im typing in caps to show my seriousness
But at the end of the day you will still do whats on your mind and come back like the other poster to tell us you dont think he is really like that and that you decided to go ahead with him and bla bla bla anf we shld thanks for advice but you are sticking with him.
Kai if she does like that other poster, oyo is her case.
DeletePoster thnk God u r loving with ur head n not ur heart alone. Please run away from him. If he was serious about marrying u its almost 2yrs now, i think that this is long enough to mk his move, bruva is jst keeping u on the line while he looks for bigger catch!
ReplyDeleteThe guy is calculating, waiting to marry the richest one he can find.
DeleteExactly dear, was it not today we read about the lady that dated n married her hubby after 6months. This guy is 40 plus n has been dating u for almost 2yrs n ur still sending chronicles
DeleteWhen a relationship is not giving you peace of mind and you've seen these signs why not just leave
ReplyDeleteMy advice is that you run!!!.
ReplyDeleteBut I know what you would end up doing.
Madam run fast as ur leg can take you, I have a friend like this very guy around me, they look at the outward appearance and start being around you like they are for real. Look somewhere else, am nt sure you've got the kind of money he is looking for in a lady. God I need to be self made, God pls send my helpers to me.
ReplyDeleteSo for 8 years you couldnt find another serious relationship? Either you are fat or you are ugly cos i dont understand what you were doing from age 22 to now 30 and cos u just clocked 30 u r very desperate to even still be considering this 40 yrs old dead beat guy
ReplyDeleteAs in, maybe she's jinxed or dating married men.
DeleteProbably a gold digger, and he may not be, since he's a business man, he will surely needs connections sis, as you know that like poles repel and unlike poles attract, May be that is y he choses women, pray very well. Ask God if he's your man. Shalom!!!!
ReplyDeleteposter walk biko, this guy will suck you dry.
ReplyDelete& funny enuf dis fellas still end up getting plenty girls to milk dry despite d hand writing clearly written on d wall
DeleteBiko add me up 4 a fling in Abj am huge down dir & knos hw 2 satisfy my woman 7b60e9cf biko commercial workers stay away from my post am nt interested in money 4 hand bck 4 ground ladies
Nne are u still asking me? Ok, oo get married shogbo even if u r 35 this should never be a question.EVER
ReplyDeleteSalt E so 35 is the official old age for an unmarried lady. I wonder what a lady is still when she is 37 this year after boasting that she can buy any man she want.
DeleteHmmmm.... gold digger alert! poster do you mean this guy has been d only one asking you out since 2008 that you have to put up with his bullshit? You try o. Anyway lemme read comment
ReplyDeleteSend a chronicle (testimony ) when u decide to leave this guy.
DeleteLady please give other people chance this guy bu red flag.
Poster please run away. Don't even bother with shoes or slippers, just runnnn with your bare feet.
ReplyDeleteposter.u hv know this guy for eight years. I don't think age is still on your side .do quick and marry
ReplyDeleteDear poster,
ReplyDeleteYou are here asking us questions that you already know the answer.
1. Yes, he's a gold digger b/c he booked a hotel for you guys (when you visited from your school in SA) instead of his house b/c he feels it'd boost his ego.
2. Yes, he is and he treated you well in Dubai so as to clear your initial doubt and win your trust.
3. Yes, he is b/c he looks out for, adds and promises marriage to every 'rich' girl he comes across, including you.
4. Though he is also 'rich' you may not know his undertone for choosing 'rich' girls.
5. I can go on and on......are you still thinking? Use your tongue to count your teeth, and run along, young lady.
aunty poster, Please FORGET the guy. You are still asking if he is a gold digger?
ReplyDeletebella d chemist
the signs is allover, you have to pretend as if your business is not doing well for now and start requesting for money from him to see his reaction. Tell him when are you guys settling down? you need some cash to add into your business and see what he will do. Each time you both are together or get talking, always complain how you need cash and see if he is a BIG or SMALL Gold Digger.
ReplyDeletePoster, if u really like this guy geniuenly, follow this advise. Some guys needs extra push. Forget about d people telling u to leave him, they will still be the ones that will call u gwenz(whatever thats called) You can change him with d right attitude. Be demanding, oh yes! Guys dnt feel comfortable with independent girls even tho they will not accept this. My boss once told me that the greatet mistake of his life was marrying a rich lady. He secretly admires his friends with demanding wives. My sister earns a salary but she still collects hair money from the hubby tho she buys things in d hous at her own pace. Above all, pray and fast. Coming back to this guy after some years might not just be a coincidence
DeleteThere was one Musa like that on Facebook. Black guy from the North. He was toasting me and my sister. His friends list is 99% female. Demographic; light skin, doctors, entrepreneurs, NNPC etc. It was not my business until he started toasting my sister. What do girls gain from marrying this kinda men? The funny thing is that many of them have stable jobs. I have seen medical doctors exhibit this behaviour. I told this Dr that I just started a postgraduate course in the middle East, he just started doing mumu things and asking me stupid questions. Meanwhile, he did not know my folks could afford it because they're both retired and I have been unemployed. During that time, he was avoiding me like plague. Why are modern Nigerian men like this????
ReplyDeleteIt is really pathetic my sister. I have encountered such and wasted my time in past. Poster borrow sense and run.
DeleteStupid question from a dumb girl.
ReplyDeletePoster, stay very far away from that man
ReplyDeleteHe's up to no good
That's how he'll keep adding girls on all the social media platform all in the name of getting what he wants
It's pitiable at 42, he doesn't know what he wants
Poster, I like the fact that you're a fast thinker and very attentive! Your only mistake was going back to him after what happened in 2008, and also you caught him red handed with another girl and you still went ahead with the relationship.
ReplyDeleteRed flag alert! That guy is a gold digger and also a womaniser. If you end up marrying him, you will have to start planning on writting another chronicle in the nearest future. Because he will definitely cheat on you with multiple rich girls.
Think about it this way; what if someday you suddenly lose your business or lose a lot of money (God forbid), this man will start treating you like shit.
Please, you already know his kind of person; is better you let him go now than going into a marriage that will not last with him.
He isn't only a Gold digger,but a theif that want to reap where he did nt sow.My Dear,Runnnn
ReplyDeletebruv this guy is 40 and from your write up you are 30 my sister exit this joint, if a desperate serious OBO proposes marriage to him, he will jabo you and go with her..i suggest you leave him and God will provide your own boo, right now being with him is burning your cable.. my one penny.. May God direct you.
ReplyDeletePls receive sense.
ReplyDeletePoster wait oh...I don't gerrit..u mean you bought a return ticket all the way from SA to Nigeria to just come and spend the weekend with a MAN....with ur own money Ontop!!! Haaa poster receive sense
ReplyDeleteThat's an anty gwegs for you.
DeleteDont mind her..
DeleteNo not aunty qwegs cos frm calculation she did that 8 yrs ago when she was like 22 yrs. Na excess money dey do am or nymphomania things with constantly itchy vagina that always needs rod. Im 100 percent sure she is yoruba. As im schoolin in london now they no born me well to tell momsi im comin to naija just for a weekend for a friend's sisters wedding. Lmaoooo if my mum shld catch my thin legs in lagos na to cut am pieces. Na yoruba mum's dey condone all these yeye movements especially yoruba single mums.
Delete@ Anonymous 16:29, I hope that one day we would grow past this unneccessary tribalistic comments 'yoruba girl' 'yoruba single mum'.. It actually has no bearing on the story she has shared. Who she is or where she comes from makes no difference. All these comments just makes one feel as if Nigeria is a lost project.
DeleteAll these Lagos boys roaming around looking for whom to devour.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, you have to be one step ahead not to fall for their useless gimmicks.
on your marks set go!!!
ReplyDeleteBabe, apply for SnM no time....the guy is searching for a big fish, if he lucky by age 60 he will meet the governors daughter.
ReplyDeleteNneoma, I have jus one word for u Gbawaoso Nndu(RUN)
ReplyDeleteon your marks set go!!!
ReplyDeleteposter u try oh..me i can't give a guy my money oh..ha I rather help my fellow girl dan I've out money to a guy..even my bf does not collect money from me bcos he tells me am not working and even if I shpul not ever claim miss independent for any man..even if I want to buy him a birthday gift is from his money...d day a guy asked me if I had money in my purse DAT he was going to use d ATM after n ended up not giving me d money..I made sure wen we went out na mineral we drink..he ended up not giving me d moey we spent out but I colleted times 100 from his hand..I like be claiming miss independent
ReplyDeleteSignals everywhere!
ReplyDeleteMschew wich advice u still dey find with all ds vices he's blessed with. U beta Usain bolt out of his life else u will write worse Chronicles...
ReplyDeleteIf I hear!!!!
ReplyDeleteYou don't need any advice from anybody,the signs are there,he throws the word marriage to every girl he adds to catch the desperate one's,every single girl believing God for a husband would easily fall for he's games,it's so obvious he's not going to marry you,don't be desperate just walk away and don't look back.
ReplyDeletehmnnnnnnnnnn...............
ReplyDeleteMy dear if you like withdraw all the money in your account and give him,if no be you,e no go be you..
Except he changes,just know that if you get married to him tomorrow and you stop bringing something to the table,OYO is your case.He will move on to the next big WOMAN
To stay or not to stay is your choice!!!
Bebe, are you still asking?
ReplyDeleteThe handwriting is Boldly written on the wall, please run for your life.
If u still can't figure this out urself, I'll refer u to Doktor Joro. He has all the answers you seek.
ReplyDeleteThank you.
RUN baby RUN
ReplyDeleteAnd from your write up i see you already develop feelings for him.
ReplyDeleteOmo, receive sense fast and take a walk
You should know what's good for you without anybody telling you.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, from your narrative you are a very intelligent woman, the handwriting on the wall is very clear.
ReplyDeleteThis is the typical style of Apex Justin. Will always ask for money, if you do not give him, you are not supportive and cannot be a wife material.
ReplyDeleteTakes cab every where meanwhile the lady is made to pay (oh pls my ATM did not working). RUN RUN RUN
Isnt it obvious dt ds guy is a gold digger?break up wit him ASAP dnt even tink of marryin him o cos if u do,ur enemy wil die of fruatration.
ReplyDeleteI can see the handwriting on the wall saying "RUN" You should quit the relationship
ReplyDeleteposter just move on with your life..count the 8years as wasted..
ReplyDeleteRun run run. The signs are very obvious, marriage isn't to be endured but enjoyed please.
ReplyDeleteI know a guy that works in a multi national oil company in Nigeria, he is an offshore staff but still a gold digger, he dates only rich girls or girls with rich parents, I think it's a self esteem problem. Leave him alone, he is a gold digger and will leave you the minute he thinks you are not financially stable.
ReplyDeleteI think so too, it should be a self esteem problem
DeleteMiss woman why are you still asking questions when you already know the answer , sometimes you need to trust your own decisions rather than looking for validations from other BVs or do you want us to advise you to continue with a low life of a man..am even disappointed that you stoop so low to agree on a relationship cos he 'bailed' you out. that should never be a reason for starting a relationship..My dear pls read the book Of proverbs if you are a Christian and receive wisdom, Pray for the holy spirit to give you a discerning spirit. you really need and pls stop put wisdom along with age. there are very clear different stuff and give yourself some respect inugo..I don't like girls behaving like this. you are smarter than this now haba
ReplyDeleteNonye..some pple are dingy. Guess she's one of them. They don't ever make up their mind on anything. 1million opinions sought still keeps them feeling confused.
DeleteIt's simple, we humans just like to complicate things,two things here..
ReplyDeleteIf(gold digger)
{
Console.log("RUN RUN RUN")
}
Else
{
Console.log("MARRY WHEN HE PROPOSES ") ;
}
Poster,are you still asking us a question with all these things you've said?
ReplyDeletePlease and please,MOVE ON!!! He is a gold digger. I hope you have not fallen inlove wit him hence this your question. A maan at 40 and yet still no plans on settling down is certainly up to something.
All I see is a desperate girl trying to settle for less.
ReplyDelete#churchill# says girl pls do not leave him. Which kin off n on love bi dis? Better borrow leg
ReplyDeleteIf you don't have running shoes, go and borrow and run without looking back because he is just wasting your time before you turn to final aunty gwes
ReplyDeletebia, but u get mind o, u left SA to Nigeria all in d name of meeting a man, say na him prick sweet pass abi na him fuck pass ni! be chafulu o, u no fear God?
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ReplyDeleteGold digger alert.
ReplyDeleteGold digger alert.
Be guided.
Just Negodu! The man is a "hire-purchase "husband material.🏃
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