STAND ALONE NARRATIVE..
CHRONICLES OF A HAPPY 'GWEGZ'
Dear Stella,
Thanks a lot for your blog, I stumbled on your blog last year though I never commented ,the blog has helped a lot during my trying times,it made me laugh hard and I forget my story. I wish to share my story to tell people especially ladies never to let issues drown them but rather they should trust in God completely, He is a hearer of prayer.
Thanks a lot for your blog, I stumbled on your blog last year though I never commented ,the blog has helped a lot during my trying times,it made me laugh hard and I forget my story. I wish to share my story to tell people especially ladies never to let issues drown them but rather they should trust in God completely, He is a hearer of prayer.
I will be 33 yrs next month, single and no relationship in sight. I had a five years relationship with a guy who shared the same faith with me, he was not gainfully employed during those period, I was so supportive that I will starve that not meet his demands. He cheated repeatedly but because of the African mentality and pressure I still longed on to him hoping he would change, he had wonderful family so I held onto them as solace.
I have admirers who Constantly beg to date me but I couldn't because of my faith. It wasn't an easy decision, Mind you deep down I knew my boyfriend attitude were not right, he dated only girls who are working and come from a comfortable home, he had a poor background. Last year after my mum had a heart to heart talk with me, i then mustered the courage to ask him when are we getting married, he said he was not ready yet, how much was I earning that I am talking about marriage. None of us had a car, he was sharing apartment with his friend and I was talking marriage.
I was shattered, I earned 80k monthly and I was begging a man that I would pay for an apartment, it was shameful , I went round his family members to talk to him on my behalf he was on a big No. After the saga ended, I then heard a lot about different ladies he collected money from even twice he had introduction with two different ladies and he jilted them. Then I realized how stupid I was all because I did not want to be called aunty Gwez ,I wanted to marry someone I knew was not right, I read chronicles here and I was like this could have been me.
Early this Year my ex met a girl from a rich home and had his 3rd introduction. God blessed me with a wonderful job that I now earn above 200k monthly. Am currently enjoying my aunty gwez status and constantly thanking Jehovah that I did not make a life time mistake. Am now wiser a man that will never cheat on God and his moral principles will never cheat on a lady, it's better late than going through years of agony
*I dont understand why Ladies are frustrated when they dont see husbands,for Chrissakes,make your self content and happy..if it happens,it happens,if not,dont let wanting to get married be so important..na wah!
Dont get me wrong oh,Marriage is sweet but you need to make sure you do it right or you will come back with Chronicles but if it doesnt come,why make your life miserable?why listen to what unhappy people say?
LOL and congratulations on your new found happiness.
ReplyDeleteYou don't need a man to validate you its still important to have a partner you can confide in. Don't lose hope yet and your own will come.
Keep your head up and stop using that nasty local word on yourself.
You're a child of God and he has said you will be fruitful and multiply.
Let people rushing in and out of marriages continue to do so.
When it's your time it will be your turn.
Tell dem.!
DeleteYou are not a gwegs darling you have to be above 40 to qualify for that status. The right person will come at the right time.
DeletePoster sounds like a Jehovah's witness,they like saying Jehovah and principles.. Dear, your time will come..Never feel old and keep thanking God for the things he has done for you.
DeleteStella d reason ure not understanding is cos ure married n not in naija. If u mum do not fustrate u, ur dad will, ur uncles will passing comments like wen we dey meet our inlaw na? Even ur married sisters n bro will start asking questions like ure cursed. Ull start hearing tins like "4 dis family we dey marry early o" etc etc. Then ur married friend nkor? Abeg d list is endless.
DeletePoster pls relax, stay calm n enjoy cos as far as happiness is concerned being married is not a direct opposite of being single.
U will keep excelling.. Amen
DeleteTessbaby, really? My mum never pressured my aunt that stayed with us o. She got married at 35, at 36 she had twin (a boy and a girl), she's now 40 and done with child bearing...
DeleteGod bless ur mum Jasmine. My mum too didnt do dat 2 us but ive an aunt who used 2 buy airtime specifically 2 ask when shes tieing wrapper. So annoying.
DeleteAll my sisters had terrible marriages that even today when I see them my heart breaks. I told God I will never end up any of them. I have the urge to get in a relationship and get married but I attract the wrong ones and keep praying for God's intervention and deliverance. I'm older than you poster. I earn 3 times your salary and help out a lot as all their responsibilities always fall on me. I'm still praying for the right man.
DeleteStella, put up this lady's contact, she's too shy to tell you and that's all what she need
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Seconded. She knew that she will get loads of mail from this chronicle. Hopefully you get your heart desire. Eligible bachelors of Jehovah witness faith....oya over to una. Food has landed
DeleteMy dear thank God for you! God's time is the best
DeleteBut you're not a full fledged gwegz yet!! I believe you still have enough time lol
So that you can defraud her abi
DeleteExactly, she had to state her salary to attract more fish. Anyhoo nice story.
DeleteHappy You. All ladies should derive joy in themselves first, before seeking from a man.
ReplyDeleteI love my life.
U are lucky u did mot marry dat digger, marriage is not for everyone, If u can't find a good man, ve a baby since u are earning a good salary, better to be a single mum, than to end up with a bad man.
ReplyDeleteEasier said. Nor b una go still turn around n mk life hell 4 d so called baby mamas?
DeleteYou dey mind this gutter mouthed two faced baboon. It's frustrated gwegs like her that wont let happy ladies like us be. Ashawo kobo kobo!
DeleteYou dey mind them....see them doing eyes service when una can sabi abuse gwegs with no husbands.
DeleteYou wasted your youthful days running after unavailable men, enjoy ur gwegz status n hopefully u don't become a second wife or a concubine to my 64yr old uncle.
ReplyDeleteU are just an idiot! Anon
DeleteAm sure your response made you happy, mtcheeeeeeeew.
DeletePained old rejected women, gerrof my post.
DeleteMay devil kiss your nyash there....mumu.
DeleteWhat a bitter person..seek for help
DeleteOponu
DeleteHahahahahaha...
ReplyDeletePoster,you are not a gwegz yet BUT the clock is ticking though,..
Gwegz are women from 40 up...
I'm happy you didn't marry the fuck boy!...
It's better you look for a man to get you pregnant than giving a man your money to marry you!...
It's good you are now wise!...
Yes o.
DeleteGive a man my money to marry me? Then I must control you be that o. Wetin?
Queen queen. Your comments are rib cracking ah swear!
DeleteSorry to digress
ReplyDeleteA certain bvn (I think Lucile coconut oil, am not so sure) mentioned she drank kunun aya in one post I read it but the name didn't ring a bell so I scrolled past but to my surprise one anon said that drink will make her toto sweet and her hubby will keep disturbing her. Na that one come interest me so I go ask one mallam he gave me the recipe and I tried it (everything cost me 250)..
That anon was being modest, the drink doesn't just make you horny it makes your pussy sweet literally, and the taste is......omg........
Infact I am hooked! If I catch myself drink mineral again make I know wetin cause am!
Oya drop the recipe
DeleteHmm who did you taste your pussy? Lol. Is it FIN drink? That's what i know it as. I haven't tried it tho. So it makes you horny and makes your vjayjay taste good too? You have to give your partner too right? What's the point if you are horny and he's not?
DeleteShare the Recipe.
DeleteDates, ofio and coconut.
Blend
Share d recipe @ Na Me Talk Am!!!.
DeleteThanks
Pls give me the recipe nd how to get it.i want to be horny
DeleteOff to go get kunun.
DeleteHehehe, side eyes at Lucille
DeleteDates(dabino), ofio (aya) and coconut . Blend and seive well. Serve chilled .you might need to soak the aya for some hours if it's the dried ones you get .
DeleteHehehe Bae just told me eating the offio (aya) alone makes uncle strong😂
Delete😂😂😂 @ I want to be horny
DeleteKunun aya, I know that drink, drank it ones in nasarawa sef, can't rembr bn horny....
DeleteLol. FIN drink noni
DeleteWhat is ofio in English?
DeleteMrsBee
Anon 20:42, it's English name is tiger nuts
DeleteYou guys have anyone that can increase dick size?
DeleteOk stella bt this is no chronicle material nw, she i s happy n content n in due time God will complete her story.
ReplyDeleteWhere did this "gwegs" thing come from sef? No pressure pls. Be happy and enjoy your singlehood and d right man will come. Men are not attracted to desperation or worry. Being unmarried is not a curse
DeleteGwegs thingy originated here on Stella's blog. I think it was Dr. Agwuturumbe (am I right?) that formulated it. Wey that Bv dey sef?
DeleteChikito I heard the word aunty gwegwegwe from my warri friend in 2010 for the first time
DeleteFrom sunny bobo's song:
DeleteAunty gwegwegwe lee ikakwara aka, ndi kara aka na akpo ndi Kara aka.
lol.
But it got remixed here.
I wonder why you ladies put tags on your names. Gwez is not your name and you are taking what does not belong to you. Since you want to be called gwegwegwe abeg enjoy it and let it take up to 60 years.
ReplyDeleteThank God for your new job. Keep your head high and dont go for less. Go for the best. Tell God to give you a man after God's heart and dont set any conditions. It is well with you.
I just weak. Calling themselves gwegz is now the new word in town.
DeleteMtchewwww!!!
I love dis chronicle,I will be 33 in 3months time and am warming up to break up with my boyfriend,he is not ready for marriage and I am tired. I will rather stay alone than be in a relationship that is heading nowhere. Am hoping to get a better paying job so I can enjoy my gwegwelinahood
ReplyDeleteLolz @anon 15:07
DeleteStop calling yourself that. You aren't old and even if you are why call yourself something so negative?
DeleteU a still WARMing up...well done madam warmer. Soon u will b cooling down.
DeleteMumu! The moment the guy man hang you one mouth now na you go dey beg am to stay.
DeleteAs a food warmer that you is now..
DeleteKeep warming o
When a man tells a lady that he needs a car before marrying her; that's one of the lines to throw her under the bus. It simply means in other words that he loves a car more than the lady! A lady of good character is a treasure and a man should be in a hurry to possess her.
ReplyDeleteMarry at 38 and have stay for 50 years when God calls on of your or marry at 20 and be a divorcee by 38? May wise ladies. Take your time and choose wisely
ReplyDeleteU say??
DeleteU say??
DeleteYou don't make sense at all....go and learn English, most importantly learn how to put your words together..... You just got me dizzy reading your comment.
DeleteSee them, I won't marry a lady above 30, I of them dat age are used n dumped by married men.
DeleteYou're so right
DeleteThumbs up for u gurl. Enjoy ur status.
ReplyDeleteHappy to know uve found solice & inner peace, lots of ladies are in that boat, with no hope of self rescue, ure even lucky u didn't get pregnant for him.
ReplyDeleteBut that notion on ur last paragraph is so wrong, but if it helps ur pillow get softer at night, u can keep holding on to it, but the truth is being a true believer or faithful to God dsnt guarantee sexual control, take it to Fidelity Bank, i said it. Its all Morals and self discipline.
Goodluck dear, love wld mostly find you when ure not looking, in the strangest of place.... & ignore the package, focus on the content.
Wow,atheist ur words touched me..nice write up
DeleteA lady with self worth should on no account ask a man to marry her. Your mom was wrong. If you respect yourself by keeping your legs tightly shut and work on acquiring good character, a man will long to have you as a wife. Money can make one happy but it does not bring joy; joy is from within. It does not depend on how much one has or earns. It depends on how content a person is about herself.
ReplyDeleteA man that is not for real will still leave her whether she closes her legs or has the best character.
DeleteMy dear in due time God 'll send a good man your way. But while @ it enjoy this stage of your life.
ReplyDeleteI'll rather be a gwegz than be in a situationship. Thankfully, I have a glorious job and I am rocking my 30-something years on planet earth.
ReplyDeleteI love me too much for any BS
Who would marry you? Better keep fucking another woman's husband till u expire.
DeleteWho is this anon saying all negative things about people? Be careful of what you say .
DeleteCarry go babe. It is well with you don't mind 17:25. Not every matured single lady is or has been a hoe.
Delete@ Poster,I thank for you..
ReplyDeleteGod is never late..
God's blessings adds no sorrow.
Wait unto God,He will surely perfect that which corcerns u..
Your own husband is coming, someone that will cherish and love you for whom you are...
Congrats in advance.
Wealth is useless to save on the day of wrath says the good book. It is not your earnings that makes you happy, it is how well you are able to interact with God.
ReplyDeleteBut being without money can make you really sad. Forget that thing.
DeleteChai! You go dey alright.
ReplyDeleteCan't y'all flexible on this faith thing sef? Must the person be a witness? Funny enough, I know a witness dating a Muslim. Oh well, your choice.
I hope the right man finds you, and soon. And yes, a man who loves God more than he loves you, would never cheat on you.
Enjoy yourself nne, as you wait on Him.
#WhiteDiamondOut
She might be dating him but she won't marry him....even others Christians sef , how much more Muslim..
DeleteTo whom it may concern,
ReplyDelete.... Dont ever ever never never ever form "Miss Independent" for any man and also make sure you define the relationship from the start. #BC.
If u like shout 4rm now till tomorrow, they will not hear o.
DeleteI av, i'll say. If I don't, I say.
Na who miss independent epp?
Will they hear?
Deletethank God you dodged a bullet.
ReplyDeleteEnjoy your gwegz status joire
Do not let any man rob you of your joy.
ReplyDeleteJohn 16:22 And ye now therefore have sorrow: but I will see you again, and your heart shall rejoice, and your joy no man taketh from you.
Am so happy u made the right decision....I can see you re a sister,wait on jah and he will give you your best half... Jah is our refuge and rock...
ReplyDeleteXxxxx
Sometimes parents can cause the frustration especially when your younger ones are getting married. God will help all my single ladies to find their missing ribs
ReplyDeleteI only saw the 200k monthly. Abeg which office be that make I apply
ReplyDeleteKikikiki. Abi o
DeleteMarraige isn't a sprint. Its not about who gets married the earliest. Better take your time and study the person well before walking down the aisle. The friends you are competing with wont be there when he starts cheating on you and beating you. Or you could find out you aren't compatible. My class mate married at 20. 5 years later and she's now a divorcee with 3 kids. She didn't even finish Uni cos she dropped out. You'll be surprised at how many women are suffering and smiling in their husband's house. Some still come online to bash single girls. Maybe it makes them sleep better at night. Poster now you are wiser. Take care time and make sure you have fun along the way. Life is too short to be worrying about things you can't control.
ReplyDeleteThe truth is its ONLY unhappy women that bash single girls. Happily married women don't. Check am....
Delete*unhappy married women (I meant)
DeleteMe that rushed to marry because i was 25, divorced two years after because i saw the hell on earth that will make me prefer the real hell anytime any day Nko? Lol...Now i'm happily single at 30 and the over shakara and over selection wey dey worry me no be here. And i still wonder what chased me into hell in my 20s. Abeg i proudly flaunt my ringless finger with lots of pride and peace of mind. Who bad man epp?
Deletea.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
ReplyDelete.
Gud for you.... So hw fr can i have ur control bcos am interested.....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
Poster you made the right decision by leaving the guy. God has blessed you, enjoy your money, help those in need and he'll give you your soul mate, the one who is meant for you in his own time. I have told myself I'd rather not be married than marry wrong all just to be a MRS. Who MRS epp when you'll be crying everyday in a man's house? I pray to God to give me a husband who would absolutely worship the ground I walk on and I'd do the same for him. Together we'd build a legacy and I ain't settling for less!!!
ReplyDeleteSecond wife material
DeleteJust shut it anon.why are you so bitter?
DeleteMy dear Poster God's time is the BEST. Thank God you were able to think and leave that situationship. You shall laugh last...Never give up on God
ReplyDeleteThank God for you poster. Broken relationship is better than broken home. You are wise enough to get your thinking cap on time than end up been misery your entire life. @ 33, you are not fulltime gwegwes, time still yakpa on your side. Just be patient with God.
ReplyDeleteExactly stella. Na so my mama dey sing marriage for my ear daily. I am sorry i'd rather choose wealth nd fame than a man. Marriage is bondage. I am too selfish 2 care if a grown ass man has eaten or not. I love my space and I love money shikena.
ReplyDeleteLmaoooo this is so me. I am not ready for that kinda stress now. Like how were these men coping before they got married?
DeleteChop kiss for this comment.
DeleteGive me wealth. I don't need the fame. I wanna enjoy my life quietly without paparazzi and all.
DeleteLol @grown ass man
DeleteSpread your wings and fly. Make yourself happy.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is sweet with the right person, I pray that every single will find their own right partners. We should stop calling people gwegs please, I am sure none of us will wish to be or want our loved ones to be in their situation. Marriage will come at God's time to every one that desire it. And those that do it by hook or crook, stop that and wait for your own joyfully.
ReplyDeleteAmen..
DeleteGod bless you.
Wen u see marriage as a way out, u wil fall in to de wrong hand
ReplyDeleteM so happy God elevated you, I see him doing more for you soon.
ReplyDeletePoster, you should look beyond dating Jehovah Witnesses. You've already learnt a lesson from a mistake made. I have a beautiful friend that has rejected suitors all because 'they were not same faith as hers'. You don't want to make another mistake.
ReplyDeleteNow tell me, your ex that was a Jehovah Witness, was he God-fearing? Faithful? Compassionate? Hardworking?
Don't make another mistake oooo.
Thank God you dogged that bullet but please,stop calling yourself an aunty gwegz.
ReplyDeleteThat actually throw me up. 33 is now old? Issokay.
DeleteI was also wondering why she was calling herself that and at 33 sef. Smh
DeletePoster, I salute you, you know what you want
ReplyDeleteAll I know is that your own husband will surely locate you
ReplyDeleteYou knew he was cheating, you still stayed! Anyway, ur own dey come.
ReplyDelete#JOeFIRSt
@ Poster you did the right thing. Make sure you use this period to explore and understand yourself before you finally settle down. Have as much fun as you can, you deserve it.
ReplyDeleteAs for your EX he will be a doormat to his in-laws since they are his current bread winners.
Well...Thank God it's ended well for u. All is well. You will get the perfect man.
ReplyDeletethank God u received sense,are u Jehovah's witness this one u keep mentioning the same faith,better give more guys a chance that are outside ur faith.
ReplyDeleteMarriage/dating is "sweet' when it is with the right person. Don't settle for less! Enjoy yourself o jare!
ReplyDeleteMarriage is not by force my sister,but try and have a child that you will see and smile everyday.
ReplyDeleteMen are not worth it abeg.
In Africa here, it's not easy Stella,when you are above 27 & not married, it kinda becomes an issue, I know what I'm talking about, your married friends & folks now see their marriage as an accomplishment you haven't had & take out every time to counsel & advise you all in d name of showing concern. It is well Stella, If only one was in the Western state, believe u me, no worries as much as been here.
ReplyDeleteBut still, marriage shouldn't be rushed into as it's a delicate car one must ride with wisdom and some empowerment with knowledge about it. It's sweet when done right coupled with hard work at making it work.Yeah,sweet.
Poster, I pray your man locates you soon as it is "he that findeth a wife" & not he that findeth a husband, asides that, hope you are 95% okay In all aspect join together? Let d 5% be what your future hubby can cope with. Gracias.
Stella, chop knuckle 👊
E hugs dear,dont worry the right man will come. Hmm I have decided not to put my eggs in one basket after all I have seen and read here, I have not cheated before but will start answering calls from now but no hanging of leg abeg. Thank God he hardly read blog.
ReplyDeleteThanks for showing me how to read comments in the second page. I was going through old posts that I missed and saw it. It was a Sept 1 post.Lol
DeleteI love your guts,it is better to wait than to fall into the hand of an opportunist..
ReplyDeleteA better person will come.
I will be 3.. in a couple of weeks time...Am very petite so it will be hard for you to tell too.If i was going to get married,i would have done that at 18 or over the past years.Ive not seen that one that will make me forget any other guy i dated.
ReplyDeleteAnyways the only thing on this head is how to be more financial stable.A man will come in due time, and if he doesnt come there are a lot of kids out there that needs a mom.
"I dont know why you reason this way " ive been told countless times but we all cant be the same na.#MY OPINION #MY THOUGHT #MY LIFE
Beautiful brains you have got girl. What about being a blessing to ur world?rather than live a shattered person just bcz they wanted to earn the title 'married' . if he isn't worth it, trash him fast like burning coal in your hand. There are many fishes in the river na just time e go still be.
DeleteAm sure u r a Jehovah Witness Gwegs.... Keep waiting for men of ur faith
ReplyDelete..mschew, who religion epp?
What language is gwegs derived from? I only see it on this blog. At what age is a man or woman officially a gwegs? I feel late 30s. Poster you aren't a gwegs.
ReplyDeleteGwegs is a short form of gwegwegwe. Aunty gwegwegwe ika kwara aka??
Delete😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteYou know that song too.
I just typed it up there.
Sister you are jehovahs witness abi
ReplyDeleteIronically some people days ago where just talking about the large amount of old spinters in your faith because of this "my faith" thing.
The married long to be single n free again yle d single want to be married.such is life!
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm,Nigerian ladies how I wish some of them can accept the signs and know when to move on. Trying very hard to be happy but it is so hard these days,where do I start from, is it d fact that I have to hand over one of d family business to my last born just so our in laws will think he is gainfully employed, he is a hard worker,and just met some people he is going to employ,but his womanising makes me look like a saint,d last one he brought home last night even had d guts to tell me i didn't reply her greeting yesterday nite,only if she knew she was the 6th one in 4 days. Tueh,only if mummy hadn't listened to that prophet to push chinelo away from my junior bro,good wife he said,but terrible inlaws they would be,but at least chinelo took him off d weed and gave his life purpose,but all fummi talks about is marriage,now we have to make him look hardworking and responsible to his in laws. This Friday i sign over all the ownership of the cash cow of the family to him,d loans,d debts,d workers all answer to him,i move on to the other businesses but I wonder about the ladies, if he could increase them arithmetically if his allowance was only manageable,i wonder what he will do now that he has so much money,only if d ladies would just tell him to stick his shit in one hole,only if...........
ReplyDeleteWho dis your family chronicles help now?
DeleteMust you do everything your parents say? Can't you help them see the long term effects of what's going to happen? Na wa oh! Me I be stubborn pikin oh! I no go gree. Also, you both can co-manage the business nau. Don't do what you will regret in future. Cos sometimes too much silence is usually regretted in retrospect. Abeg, tighten belt
DeleteThey always stumbling on SDK :0)
ReplyDeleteLoud it abeg, person nor dey hear word again. Everytime marriage marriage, is that d only thing in life? Better to be single than be in a broken home,everybody has som1 that will love dem, so y not wait? . You can't kill ursef bcos you're not married
ReplyDeleteI always say dis marriage will come wen it will everybody will not marry @ d same time .some early,normal while some late even some very late @ 50es sef while some won't get married akalaka Di na iche na Uche some are destined to marry 3times some twice the most impt thing is dt u are happy with ur life.
ReplyDeleteIn order words money over man right? ..your 200k job would hug you in time so of sadness and hope you can take out some of the naira notes and name them as your kids while you bath them and take them to school. Get a real man..it sucks to be alone, you should have like 3 kids by now. don't be deceived your village people are still on your matter.
ReplyDeleteClose it! As she hasn't found a man nko? She should drop dead? At least she ain't broke
DeleteShut the fuck up! It sucks for YOU to be alone not everybody. Kids are everywhere and there are different means of getting kids. If and when she wants she would get however she wants. Who told you that if you "have" a man he would hold you in your time of "sadness". I long for the day Nigerian women would find their self worth outside marriage and motherhood. I long for the day Nigerian women would start to perform on the world stage without men being on their mind.Hiss! You men think women are into that shit anymore. Now you can freezee eggs, get egg donor, surrogate etc plus a ton of sperm banks. Having kids in future won't be an issue for those who want and not all of us want. Abeg gerrout! Men would always be available for sex whether you're 15 or 50. Highest you pay them and they go. I pity you men thinking women are still naive. May you not jam my type. Hiss!
DeletePassing by..
DeleteDid you even read what she said of did you just rush to bash her? The summary is "money over a bad man". The 200k won't hit her at night but neither will a bad man. "Get a real man" How Mr I-know-it-all. Who doesnt want a real man? Stop being an asshole.
Delete@Robyna ..well that was my opinion so take your stinky menstruation off my comments biatch.
Delete@annoymous 1806. I bet you are most likely an aunty Gweg's too.
DeleteOh please!who are you to say all these?get a life pls.
DeleteHmmmmm,Nigerian ladies how I wish some of them can accept the signs and know when to move on. Trying very hard to be happy but it is so hard these days,where do I start from, is it d fact that I have to hand over one of d family business to my last born just so our in laws will think he is gainfully employed, he is a hard worker,and just met some people he is going to employ,but his womanising makes me look like a saint,d last one he brought home last night even had d guts to tell me i didn't reply her greeting yesterday nite,only if she knew she was the 6th one in 4 days. Tueh,only if mummy hadn't listened to that prophet to push chinelo away from my junior bro,good wife he said,but terrible inlaws they would be,but at least chinelo took him off d weed and gave his life purpose,but all fummi talks about is marriage,now we have to make him look hardworking and responsible to his in laws. This Friday i sign over all the ownership of the cash cow of the family to him,d loans,d debts,d workers all answer to him,i move on to the other businesses but I wonder about the ladies, if he could increase them arithmetically if his allowance was only manageable,i wonder what he will do now that he has so much money,only if d ladies would just tell him to stick his shit in one hole,only if...........
ReplyDeleteNne Abeg u r not gwegs ooo, thankGod u left the stupid fuck boy alone, God Almight is not sleeping your heart Desire will locate u soonest in jesus mighty name...
ReplyDeleteNot all marriages are as bad as people paint it to be. Marriage is fun and beautiful if you marry the right person.
ReplyDeleteYou made the right decision to leave that demented fool. you would have been divorced within a year. A man after God's own heart will locate you cos you have a good personality.
Thank God you earn well now. Pls SAVE SAVE SAVE.
Stella, you've said it all
ReplyDeleteThe worst place after Hell, is wrong marriage!
A lot of married people we're comparing ourselves to are even suffering and smilling!!
Marriage is a good thing, with the person who is ready to make it work,nobody is perfect!!
Amen.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad the Poster didn't compromise in this situation. There's more to life than to stay glued for life to a person who's less a man in the name of marriage cuz that ain't no marriage rather a disaster in the making.
E-hugs my dearest sister. I feel your pain cos am in same shoes with you and will soon be 31. Trusting and hope in Jah but wont trade my happiness for anything in this world. Jehovah is the creator of marriage and will provide at the appropriate time.
ReplyDeleteAm 34,and it's no fault of mine, jst found myself at dis point.truth is,u av to be strong urself to overcome dat intimidation,frustration,depression, love life,love urself, Just as everybody can't be a dangote,like wise everybody can't be a Mrs. Jst live a fulfilled life and do and hang around those who make u happy. I cannot come and kill myself before death in dis buhari recession time.
DeleteIt baffles me how most Nigerian girls are so desperate dat u r begging a man to come n marry u with ur lean cash. It's also annoying how most girls take relationship to be an occupation. I swear down if u get busy n u r in d right crowd a man will chase after u n even borrow money to wed u cos he wouldn't want to lose u. Ladies even if u r 50years pls know urself worth. Dress well, eat good food, wear nice clothes and shoes, smell good and also be proud d daughter of whom you are and then a man will love and respect u. Stop waiting for a man to come and validate ur existence. D level of desperation is alarming dats why most guys take ladies for granted. Ladies know ur worth, pose for men, no send them too much and dey will come confessing. Lastly, stop d gutter word gwegs on urself, be fabulous, live, make urself happy, forget men, focus n make money n drive a nice car and d men will come flocking... pls live ur life joor. Na wah.
ReplyDeleteEvery time I read things like this, I always imagine it's coming from a lonely, woman who soaks her pillow every night. They're always quick to say "you don't need a man". Lol
DeleteThe truth is when you're confident and independent, you will have a greater pool of men to choose from. It's when you stay on the same level for 5 years that all the guys You have surrounded yourself with get married and leave you alone. Then you start to feel single men are finished. As you keep changing jobs, location, circles, you will meet more and more single guys who will see you as fresh 'meat' and keep doing the toasting rounds and you will have a larger pool to pick from. The problem is that many sit down and and wait for the guy. In ONE spot. How would you not feel old? Hian! Okay
DeleteChikito e hugs....you are absolutely right. Move around and you meet new people that sees you as fresh meat.... Poster, you are no gwegz relax the right man will Come until then, enjoy life, be happy, love and spoil yourself, never beg a man to marry you.
DeleteEveryone NEEDS a partner. With all the comfort and riches at his disposal to control as he pleases, Adam was still so lonely and probably depressed God had to give him a woman.
ReplyDeleteYou want to come home and share the details of your day with someone, have someone else genuinely care about you, do fun stuff and all else people do. Even Linda Ikeji admits to wanting a man, money cannot substitute the place of a partner. I know that, I've got it and wish I had a partner.
There's nothing fun about being single. But if you really are happy ( which I doubt), good for you.
You better be single than have the wrong partner that is the point. We all need a partner but of what use is a 'useless'one who doesn't appreciate you?
DeleteRead and understand what she wrote before talking.she did not say she doesn't need a partner.
DeleteDear Poster and anon 16:35, worry not, you will be able to sing song number 36 soon. Wish we can bbm or whattsap but how? Sis.
ReplyDeleteThank God you moved on...some guys are like that. Your husband is on the way.
ReplyDeleteThank God you moved on..Trust in God
ReplyDeleteAll the more reason why I don't date old women, you girls will pass your younger years dating married men, when reality dawns on you, u start running from pillar to post looking for a young man to throw your worn out pussies on, when I get married, if I cheat, i'll tell my smally to get married dat I'm just having fun. Fish brained women.
ReplyDeleteVery good anon 17:32. Just make sure u marry that girl u are seeing already so that u do not contribute to increasing the already existing digit of 'older women'. Omomo like you with cassava mentality!
DeleteWow!so people still reason like this?
DeleteI love what you did and am proud of ladies like this...my dear Poster 1: you will find love that reciprocate the kind of woman you are..keep pursuing your dreams and before you know it , you will meet a wonderful man that will cherish and love you forever..May all your dreams come true
ReplyDeletePlease anyone here who can teach me makeup tips for myself.i don't really know how to make up for myself please help a sister.i stay in east London Hackney precisely,please drop ur detail under my comment God bless
ReplyDeleteGo to YouTube, you will find tutorials for all skin tones, pick a girl close to your skin tone whose makeup you like and watch her videos. It's that simple
DeleteThere is nothing like loving yourself first before you start thinking of what this will think or say, at 33 there's still much time for you to meet the rightfully man God has made.
ReplyDeleteGod will give her her man that will love her very much
ReplyDeleteGod will give her her own man
ReplyDeletePoster glad you left that guy and I believe you are wiser and smarter and much ready now. Can you change your location? I have found relocating helps settling down. It's like starting all over with new neighbors and new community. Also you can't be single and keep yourself indoors when not at work, GO OUT and while at it enjoy your youth. You earn 200k monthly, start saving for destination holiday. If you work hard you deserve to give your life a treat too, all these attract good men and exposes you for a relationship instead of relying on Internet hookup because you don't go out
ReplyDeleteArrange for a weekend in other parts of Nigeria e.g Lagos or Abuja. Ogbudu ranch, Inagbe grand resort etc. Check online for cheap deals on all locations. Go to seminars, Go swimming on weekends, you will meet people no matter what and when you do meet someone please don't appear desperate. All the best
MrsBee
She can also book 4-day holiday tours to SA, Kenya, Zanzibar etc. Travel agents do them during easter, sallah etc. But make una cool down with 200k hype though... If I y'all now una go say I dey brag 😂 But really..... *shrug*
Deleteits well are my friend
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