Both are married and its a long distance Union...She hurt him and he wont take her calls anymore and in desperation to reach her man,she has turned to the internet because he will see this....
Both are Blog Visitors....
Her plea for forgiveness says...
''Akanni mii, they say messing up is part of growing up, please forgive me for messing up, I need no one to tell me I spit fire , this I know... I'm soo sorry bobomii... this is the 6th day you're shutting me out, I don't know how you perform the miracle of living without me, i don't have that power and I don't want to...
Please call me, five days without my best friend and gossip partner has been hell... I can't think straight, I've been soo bored, I stay glued to my phone hoping the next caller is you..
Please call me, reply my messages, even if it's just to check on your daughter and lemme know you're fine.. Daisy misses you, saying I miss you is an understatement ... Okomii, My very own mayor, Please come back home, My love for you is out of this world ...please forgive me for messing up ...''
Yours Ariyike
*Sir,she says you are a BV and you will know this is for you.,Please forgive her.Dialogue during the storm is very important.shutting her out is not the solution.
Please forgive her and call her.
God bless.
Forgive her sir please.
ReplyDeleteOga please forgive her abi you don get another sisi deceiving you there?
DeleteStop forming a little god and go back to your wife.
What rubbish!
DeleteWhat will warrant such treatment from a man(boy) that might even be cheating on the wife.
Madam abeg let him be........he don't give a f**k about u.
Please forgive her oga. There is no better marriage anywhere. They all go through the storm and it takes patience,love and forgiveness to make it work. Remember your beautiful daughter need a daddy and no one will make a better daddy but you. I plead with you on her behalf.
DeletePlease forgive her oga. There is no better marriage anywhere. They all go through the storm and it takes patience,love and forgiveness to make it work. Remember your beautiful daughter need a daddy and no one will make a better daddy but you. I plead with you on her behalf.
Delete6days and everyone is rambling? Mine was 4months and though we are are back together, nothing has been the same. Make una leave story.
DeleteFirst reasonable comment from Portable. 1000 likes!
Delete6 days...lol..mine has abandoned me and his two cute babies for 4 months now. He is the one who cheated, beat me up and keeps late night. It is women like the poster that make men ack like demi-gods. I pray God continues to bless me to look after my children, who needs the cheating anyway.
DeleteIt is well. Maybe she loves partying too much because it is not hard to know. Or one of the guys there have been calling her yero yero
ReplyDeleteBobomi iya wale please forgive her oooo. check on your daughter. she will not think of jollof rice again ooo
@love me whatever, i give up, know i know your an idiot! I had doubt before, but now am sure.....you just don't know how to talk.no sense what so ever
DeleteNa wa to you oo?????? What did she say dt suggested such. Abeg don't add fuel to an already lit fire.
DeleteMadam poster wetin u do
DeletePlease forgive madam sir.
ReplyDeletePlease forgive madam sir.
ReplyDeleteNawa. Oooo. Men feeling like God since 1800DC. Imagine not talking to your wife and daughter for 6days, Oga u re heartless! U have someone else that gives u joy like being with your wife and kids? I'm sure she has begged u so much and u re acting like VanDamme. If she finds solace elsewhere now you will send in chronicle.. u will never know the worth of what u have till its gone and if u don't want to marry her again with your daughter, tell her instead of punishing her in this manner. My husband tried this and we are still trying to find the love back! You go get sense for this Lagos baba Daisy! Rubbih! Yes! I'm a married woman with cute kids!
ReplyDeleteNO!! You're not a married woman with cute kids. Have you bothered to ask what she did before jumping into conclusion?
DeleteDon't mind him. Can't imagine how he stayed days without checking on his wife n daughter. Men feeling like small god.
DeleteMadam married woman pls what we r lookin for now is solution so don't come and add fuel to an already burning fire.Thanx
DeleteMen re bastards! Even if u re angry with her, u can't call to check up on ur own daughter. May God punish you there, heartless and useless man. Don't forgive her if u don't want to, but don't u dare transfer ur anger to that poor child, she has done nothing to you.
DeleteDont be judgemental. Do you know the magnitude of what she did?
DeleteAsin I can't stand people that keep malice. Very immature!! Lash out if you want, make known ur hurt and disappointment if you feel like. But keeping malice is a huge turn off abeg... And you guys are married oo not like you're dating...
DeleteOga please grow up. Communicate with ur wife!!
Don't mind the stupid man.how can you not talk to your wife for six good days,and it's a long distance marriage that she hardly sees you,so if you were living together na so you go dey keep malice with your wife under the same roof.shame on you,another Shame on you for doing this,why treat the mother of your child this way,no matter what she did wrong,can you not be a man,be mature about it all and have a conversation with her and resolve issues rather than ignoring her calls and not calling her back.do you know what that can do to ones sanity? And your child is with her to look after,do you not want her mind to be settled so she can take proper care if your child.you can imagine how much she is hurting for her to resolve to sending you this open message via Stella.this thing you are doing is like leaving a crack on the wall of your marriage ooo,what if a lizard enters.this man you better wise up and call Ariyike your wife up and your daughter.dont let the devil use you.
DeleteExactly.. what kind of heartless man is this? For 6 days you haven't called to ask after your own kid because your wife annoyed you? Oga pls grow up. Thank you Jesus for my man.
DeleteVery annoying... She kill person bi that you cannot forgive? Worse case is she cheated and I bet with my grand father's wealth that at some point you have cheated on her and still cheating... #rubbish #iranu
DeletePersonally, I think 6days is too much considering the fact that they don't even live together. You guys are bound to disagree and upset each other but malice is never the solution.
DeleteIt is OK to be upset but don't harbour bitterness in your heart for long.
If your wife does not rush to social media so you will be comfortable not speaking to her and your daughter? Except she cheated but a man should not be as petty as a woman.
You can pick her calls and still be upset with her but shutting out your wife and daughter completely for 6days speaks volumes.
Anyway, forgive her oh.
The man is foolish n I blame the wife for his foolishness
DeleteImagine the nonsense....madam,pls get busy n forget that boy u married
Come back home ke? So he left the house for 5days? Hmm.
DeletePls u pple should stop calling somebody's husband names abeg! Do u even know wat d woman did and he is probably shutting her out cos dis might not be d first time she is doing it or he is probably trying to teach her a lesson or it might not even be that serious!
DeleteSome of you ladies here are just senseless like your comments. Why do you feel you have to insult and abuse the man?
DeleteSome of you can't even be in a relationship but you are too quick to abuse others. Any post about a men here, MOST of you will start typing trash.
Some of you forming big heart are even the ones that are easily used by men.
If you do not have anything reasonable to say stay off such post. Make your stupid comment without abusing the man.
I have come to realised women on this blog never do wrong only men. Why is that?
Did you know what she did?
If it takes the man a month to speak to her so be it. She didn't know she has a daughter before going off on the guy?
It's just annoying reading comments by some of you about men daily here but S&M post you are quick to look for men. Your abuse are totally uncalled for.
@Portable, i am wondering how you address your husband at home reading your comments and calling someone's husband foolish. Am very disappointed in you.
Well, madam you have brought your case to this blog for uncouth ladies to abuse your husband. Well done to you.
Mr man, you are stupid for not checking on your child cos you are angry at the mother. Grow up and quit being ridiculous.
Delete6 days pkere! Mine goes 3 weeks without calling. Meanwhile we're not quarreling o. He's gone 3 months without calling or texting his kids. Kids would send texts and he won't reply. His side pussy gave him efo but the almighty God has scattered the relationship for me. It wasn't funny but I thank God for victory.
DeleteUseless man
ReplyDeleteVery useless and arrogant man.... Madame you dont have to stoop so low by Begging a man... Bims
DeleteNo she is not "stooping low" she is begging her husband, her man, her mini god, the head of her family, her boss. Call it whateva u like, God put the man incharge of the home. He deserves to be begged!
DeleteOn the other hand sir she has acknowledged her mistakes pls forgive her. Do not give the devil a chance in your home, 6days is too long to keep silent. Be wise, to err is human. . .
Y wont she beg him? Is he not her husband! U pple should stop judging from one side biko
DeleteWhy are some of you too quick to nail the husband on a cross? Have you guys bothered to ask what she did to provoke his reaction? Sometimes it's best to straddle the fence if you don't have all the facts.
DeleteIsn't it better for him to take time to cool off than to hit her? I remember reading a post about a lady who slapped her hubby to the chagrin of the public because she saw some lady's nude pictures on his phone. The update was that he threw her out and wanted out of the marriage. Most comments supported his actions, so why are some of you jumping into conclusions? Just because a large percentage of men act up doesn't mean all men behave like "gods".
The only information I got from this is, they live apart(long distance), the lady has a hot temper and throws verbal grenades(spit fire) which has resulted in the current quagmire, though she's now remorseful.
@Poster, sweetheart, you have to be very careful with your tongue. Just because a man tolerates your excesses doesn't mean he doesn't have a breaking point. Some ladies have lost their hubbies due to their characters, some have very tolerant men who just wake up one day and that is it. I know your hubby has his faults too but guess who's on social media begging for a truce? Exactly! Try not to lose control to the point where you now have to crawl back when you could have maintained your dignity by not overreacting in the first place.
If there's some other woman meeting his needs, that's not why he wouldn't return home. A lot of men have mistresses but they always come back home especially when they don't live with their families. Their home coming should be exciting and not hostile. Be careful with the advice you read on the Internet, you're the one with a husband and a daughter. A lot of us don't know you enough to care, besides most people have their own issues and will churn out advice laced with the resentment they feel from their own pain. Please be a wise wife.
Mini god.. Really??? Lol. The way people think tho. Anyone that pulls this stunt regardless of if you're a mam or woman is very immature. How can you keep malice with your spouse and you have a daughter too. If you are no longer interested just tell her. Its sickening how men feel like they are gods that need to admonished and offered sacrifices to appease them . even if she has done this 20 times, you decide if you want her and the child or not. Instead of exercising stupidity.
DeleteRonald a, can a woman leave the house to go cool off for 5days when she is upset? Or wives don't get upset? He has every right to be angry but he went about it the wrong way, 5days? This is marriage not mere relationship except she cheated
DeleteWhat did u do to Akanni mi?
ReplyDeleteWhat ever thing she did, she must have done it over and over and he has warned him. He's just teaching her a lesson so when they make up,she won't dare do that again. My hubby did this to me last year because i hurt him so bad, he told his friend that he wants to punish me for 2weeks...well at the end of one week we made up and became even closer. And yes its a long distance relationship.Oga pls forgive her, she's sorry.
DeleteLol @your usage of Akanni mi.
DeleteAkanni mi = My Akanni
Oga please forgive your wife misses you!!!!!
ReplyDelete@ Madam, hope you have learned your lesson, i wish you both the best
Please forgive your woman, she says your daughter misses you! For the sake of your daughter, call her.
ReplyDeleteShe's apologising, also letting the world know that she erred. Please we are now begging on her behalf. Forgive and call her.
ReplyDeleteTo err is human, to forgive is divine
Shutting her out Is not the solution
You both can work around this
Sir, please forgive her
I'm sure she has realized her mistake
Nawa ooo
DeleteHow do you guys do it ?
Shut out yoir wife for 1 , 2 , 3 Getting to 5 days.
When couples are advised to thrash out issues at bed time.
I would always say it : I would never quarrel with my husband.
We can always agree to disagree peacefully .
I can forgive Him and He can forgive me too.
Biko : I have seen this at work in marriages
Eg Kenneth Hagin
Pastor jemimah Mbaya
Etc
...don't just argue with me , argue in your dustbin!
Oga
DeleteJust forgive
Inugo?
Nawa o.
ReplyDeleteWhat did she do? I no fit beg when I no know the offense.
ReplyDeleteTell us what you did...
ReplyDeleteThe man is crazy, so he can't even call to know how his daughter fares. You went five whole days without he calling your wife and you're cool with that, that's not fare. Stop this madness and call your woman ASAP.
ReplyDeleteChai!!
ReplyDeletePlease sir forgive her.
Please, forgive her, Sir. God will grant you everlasting Peace and the Joy from above will be yours.
ReplyDeleteOga, pls forgive ur wife. When anger and bitterness rages between a couple, while they are still thinking if to or how to pay back, they will be unable to pray thus leaving the door open for d devil to bring in all sort of things. Pls forgive her. Ema binu sir
ReplyDeleteThis was my ex hubby that year. He made it a point of duty to always keep malice for days . At first it was affecting me so much i was always depressed. After 6 months of marriage and living with his unforgiving spirit,i walked out on his ass before i develop high bp. Exactly 10 months later, my current hubby came and paid my bride price. Its been 9 years of bliss so far and i thank God i made thr best decision of my life that year. Poster i knw u saw all these unforgivinh spirit and yet agreed to handle it. Men feeling like gods since 1994. Mtcheee
ReplyDeleteThe poster did not ask for or unsolicited advise.
DeleteBut she's saying the truth, unsolicited or not. I guess you as as wicked as that useless man.
DeleteOga, pls forgive your wife. She has realised her mistakes.
ReplyDeleteAnd don't forget she loves u deeply to go this far.
Pls forgive her sir.You know we women our mouth can be as sharp as razor blade mainwhyle we no get even shikili liver .I am sorry on her behalf pls.
ReplyDeleteHaaa
ReplyDeleteFor 6days 😱
Oga you get mind oo
Hope no be say u don find solace in the hands of your concubine
It's well!!
Why do pple not prepare for the worst possible scenario, way ahead of when "calamity strikes" and start acting "dazed" forever when they refuse to honestly acknowledge human inadequacies. Abi, u better pass GodAlmighty ni for human matter, who do you even learn from? Practically "slapped" the love of my heart in public with "hot" words, and got over what he did to me at once BUT 20yrs later e be like he still never recover and tomorrow now that kind go want still marry somebody fully unprepared in such a sensitive area... Then comes CHRONICLES!
ReplyDeletePlease forgive her..
ReplyDeleteOga, do what makes u happy. Life is too short to spend it with a bad woman.
ReplyDeleteNa wa o.oga u get mind.so d vex do u reach ur daughter?it allowed to b a bad husband BT a terrible father???.dont talk to her yet o.leave am till next year.oniranu
ReplyDeleteCan't stand men that keep malice. As if he doesn't also offend God. If this man was God then everybody would have been shut out for life. Mtschew
ReplyDeleteMy sister husband does this a lot, sometimes weeks n it's so annoying. Oga pls that's not d way to go about it. Call your family n if u don't that's your business. Rubbish
ReplyDeleteI had to sign in with my blog ID.
ReplyDeleteThe woman that sent this is a BIG FOOL!! That is why men will keep misbehaving and carry themselves about like mini god. If he refuses to speak to you, you too should mind your business. If you have a job or something engaging to do, you will not bother weather he called or not. I'm sure the mumu is on top of another woman.
Married men that act like kids had better give themselves sense. Why will a married man enjoy drama all the time? Well people have energy for drama that is why they get involved in one fight or the other. Any man that behaves like this your husband towards me, OYO is his name because I will act like he doesn't exist in my world.
What rubbish!!!
Mr.Boy, better attend to your family and stop acting like a primary school boy.
💋
DeletePained and bitter fellow,hmmmm......
DeleteShe's a pained bitter fellow because she's saying that bitter truth that you don't want to hear abi? I know your type... malicious, cheats, wicked and heartless.
DeleteHuh?? But why are u guys insulting the man na? See, We are all wired to react to situations differently. While it may sound unfair that he blocked both his wife and child out for 6days, I still think that he deserves a breather if that is how he'll heal properly. After all, we do not understand the extent of hurt that she caused him. This is his own way of reprimanding her, allow him.
DeleteAlthough I think he should be calm by now.. 6days don do you oh oga. Please go back home you sef.
Hian!
ReplyDeleteWhat is Mr man feeling like eh
Oya o the whole world is begging
Mrs woman too had to come online. Social media eh
The two both you(in funke's voice) should swerve abeg
Orisisi
Shior!
ReplyDeleteAbeg make him waka far joor !
Maybe one small girl dey shack am
How can u stay off ur wife 5 days if ur truly alone ?
Madam o je ja ara e ni sense
He is using this fight as excuse to stay off ni
Please sir,forgive her there is nothing like happy family . She has realized she offended you, pls tamper justice with mercy .God bless you as you do so.
ReplyDeletePele o ku tie.
ReplyDeleteIf you're going to bring your case to the public court, at least say what you did. Did you insult him? Did you embarrass him with your actions in public? Were you caught in an inappropriate situation? Wetin make the man vex? Talk true b4 bros does right of reply and opens your buttocks.
ReplyDeleteGbam!
DeletePrecisely! We don't know what happened. We are just assuming "whatever she did can't be that bad" or "maybe he is even cheating on her". What if she said something horrible just to spite him? I'm not being random here, I actually know of a lady who told her hubby that the kids aren't his. Of course they are but she said that out of anger. You wouldn't believe the lengths, what some assumed as "a harmless joke", went before God restored their home.
DeleteWe don't know the family dynamics. The poster should have stated her offence as well. Just look at how her husband and the father of her daughter is being rubbished on social media! Meanwhile, some of the "crusaders" are enduring worse from their men and still smiling. You may not like an unforgiving man but some men don't like women with sharp tongues as well. They decided to get married in spite of their faults, the union is theirs to deal with, not ours.
Poster, your hubby has been called "unless", "heartless" and some other unsavoury names that I can't even bring myself to repeat. He's gonna read this, no? Let's hope this doesn't worsen the situation. Wisdom is profitable to direct.
Thanks @Ronalda for your sensible comment as usual. Just imagine the abuse coming out from the women on a man they don't know anything about. Very annoying comments same thing i just said above. I am wondering how they keep their homes reading by their comments.
DeleteEnough with men's bashing here.
*kneels down and clasps hands together* Please God, Its your boy ****, I am here asking that you touch all the blog visitors' heart so they don't convert SDK to an apology board after bv's show of ingenuity to get hubby back. Thanks because I know you will answer my prayer IJN, I have prayed.
ReplyDeleteOga Ade, call your wife o. As for those of you cussing out the husband without knowing what transpired, y'all need "Jises" and may be, just maybe y'all will get your own husbands as I know most of y'all aren't married.
I honestly do not understand why the man is being insulted here. Like seriously.
DeleteThats how dey behave, I dont jst understand them...Oga forgive her naow! Kilode?? abeg madam if he is in Nigeria, try and travel and f**k his brain out then cook one better food for him
ReplyDeleteMadam for how long have u being married? If this is d first time u are doing diz abeg stop it,u have begged him codely at home and others mean yet his ego is still swelling like yeast is to flower,if u dnt u are going to be doing diz for d rest of life with him,switch ur attention elsewhere am not talking about cheating on him cuz gradually he will kill it self-esteem (emotional abusers dnt stop cuz dey enjoy d feelings it gives them)am talking from experience *temi yeemi*Stella omo mi I need a hug
ReplyDeleteEyah... Pls forgive her.
ReplyDeleteLook at this useless man,shebi your wife has given u the opportunity you've been looking for to ignore her,rubbish! Take it from me that you're with another woman somewhere enjoying yourself while your poor wife is at home missing u. I just hate heartless men like u,be there with your side chick,don't worry another man would soon treat her like the queen she is Na dat time your eye go clear. Oloriburuku
ReplyDeleteI hate men that can keep malice like women. I can't even keep malice let alone a man. Better forgive your wife. It's a big turn off for me. If you love someone, once they are truly sorry why can't you forgive?
ReplyDeleteknowing and accepting she has affended you should be a starting point for you to know she is truly sorry...
ReplyDeletedaddy Daisy (DD) i beg you with all you hold sacred in life to forgive her...think back to the good times and the love you have shared...
i know and understand how she must be feeling cos my hubby can keep malice for federal wen we have iisues and i must tell you its never easy being blanked out by the one you love.... its better to be insulted and shouted at than silence.
for the sake of God, your daughter and the love u once shared....pleaseeeeee get in touch with her, hear her out and find it in your heart to forgive.
God bless you as you do so...
Okay, since u brought your case here,i think it's proper for u to give us details, what did u do to me akaani,I think Mr akaani is also looking for a way to spend some time with his siddy, maybe u don't give him enuf space to explore, hence he is seizing this opportunity. Mr akaani, no side chick is worth your wife o,so carry ur blokos and go back home
ReplyDeleteOga, pls forgive your wife and release her. Tomorrow might be your turn to ask for forgiveness. Be magnanimous and have a large heart.
ReplyDeleteAkanmi is busy ontop another woman!
ReplyDeleteHahahahaha, as in ehnnnn
DeleteJust imagine public apology for one childish malicious human?
I will be the last person to do this.
If he doesn't Forgive after dss Sweet write up den Mr Akanni u need jesus..Am single but pride won't allow me ds ds 2my future husband sef...Chai! Mr Akanni u re blessed wit ur wife o...I love d part of 'my best frd n gossip partner' Omg! Exactly ow I want 2b wit my own Boaz..May God contnu 2bless u both mehnn..future hubby pls show face kia kia I av so much love 2 spoil u wit..
ReplyDeleteWith all your pride no one will show up
DeleteNothing is unforgivable unless you decide not to forgive. Stop feeling like a mini god, how many times have you sinned yet God keeps forgiving you. She's pleading with you so let it go. Life is too short to keep malice and grudges with our loved ones.
ReplyDeleteMr forgive her remember she is your wife. Well, I just wonder how people cope with malice ohhh. I can't deal biko,I can't even keep malice for 1hour.
ReplyDeleteEnd time Akanni
ReplyDeleteGerrahere mehn. Lolll
DeleteThe time you should have used to build your relationship as a couple in a long distant relationship,you were busy using that time to do gossip partner,for your mind love na to do amebor together.i pray you shouldn't be the topic of other people's gossip soon IJN.oga please forgive her.
ReplyDeleteStella, am going through this now. Just because my husband commands me around like a toy. Don't work, don't this. Stella,this is same man that womanises like no tomorrow, goes out when he likes and comes in late. Gives no family time. Only provides feeding money and whenever i voice my dislike, i wouldn't get anything from him. And the Worst is that his people keep telling me to go and beg, if when am been hurt. Stella just because i left the house to go to the market on monday, he said i shouldn't on instruction i should go inside. I decided for once to break that rule am not a slave, i left. The next thing,the whole family have started calling me that my husband said i disobeyed him.I tried to explain myself, but as usual i end up been told to go and apologise. He came back from work told me to pack out of his house, that women don't disobey him. That he knows his culture. I called his people to talk sense to dr son.His people called he said i must obey him. Stella the next thing he moved some of his things and he has not returned for two days now. Stella i feel for my kids. Please i need to hear from my bvs.
ReplyDeleteWhen my partner threw my things out... In his presence I called my toaster for help.. He didn't let me finish on phone before he seized my phone from me, now my things are back inside but the deed has been done...I'm now secretly dating a rich man, dont wanna die of depression... My two kids need me☺☺☺
DeleteAct like you don't care, don't call, don't text, don't even pick his family calls and if you are well loaded, just rent an apartment and start taking care of your kids, that your horseband is not worth it, no him type wet young girls dey use do footmat.
DeleteOr,
As a proper Nigerian woman, pray, call and beg him, till he forgives u, then u pretend and as usual suffering and smiling.
Madam you are in bondage and you know it. This is why it's good to define terms before signing the dotted lines...work, church to attend, how many kids, finance etc so that if he feels like reneging on agreed terms I will also stick to my guns. How can you not have a handwork in this 21st century and you feel ok with it? Are you a piece of furniture?
DeleteMadam you better find your purpose in life.
I would love to Suggest something, but I am Single. So make I park well.
DeleteHello madam
DeleteFrom the way things are going , you're going to be begging for the next 40 years.
I would like you to let him know He is the head in the marriage and not the head of your life.
Jesus is the head of your life.
He is the owner of your soul.
Stop begging him.
Let him be
I don't know how strong you are , but sit down and weigh these two options : to continue living in slavery , begging and being the most beautiful and comfortable foot mat.
OR : to live your life to please God and to please YOU. This would mean you would damn the consequences.
I pray God gives you wisdom.
Incase you're thinking of divorcing Him , you have a valid backing biblically; he cheats on you.
I didn't say anything .
Just make up your mind .
PS : men like your husband are spineless and are actually sissies.
Babe,you husband has gone to be with another lady.He is a nag and wants to be your 'god'.
DeleteMy friend's husband stayed out for three weeks,the wife dint even send him and he foolishly came back when he was tired of spending on his side chick.
Stop begging him jare if this is what you did.If you have a job,try to concentrate on it and your baby,he doesn't worth the depression and begging!
Rubbish.
I am happy he was the one that left and not you. Please do not call him again. Act like you dont care. Put makeup on your face and try and be happy. If you sight his car coming in, use style and start playing with your kids or form being on the phone and keep laughing "happily",not caring about the world and its problem. I tell you, you will be shocked. He is not a god, madam.
DeleteWhy carry a grudge on for that long? I don't get it, do people even know what 'love' means, or is a word bandied around just to satisfy your partner? There are ages you get to and need to know that 'love' and 'relationships' are hard work that will never be perfect till death.
ReplyDeleteIf you are angry, speak then albeit cautiously. If you are feeling malicious towards your partner, then let your mind dwell on the good memories of that person. I do this to the people I have encounters with, how much more with my boo?
While you both would need to work on whatever caused this, you sir, would need to work on this trait of yours. It's unbecoming as a man and as an adult.
tella, am going through this now. Just because my husband commands me around like a toy. Don't work, don't this. Stella,this is same man that womanises like no tomorrow, goes out when he likes and comes in late. Gives no family time. Only provides feeding money and whenever i voice my dislike, i wouldn't get anything from him. And the Worst is that his people keep telling me to go and beg, if when am been hurt. Stella just because i left the house to go to the market on monday, he said i shouldn't on instruction i should go inside. I decided for once to break that rule am not a slave, i left. The next thing,the whole family have started calling me that my husband said i disobeyed him.I tried to explain myself, but as usual i end up been told to go and apologise. He came back from work told me to pack out of his house, that women don't disobey him. That he knows his culture. I called his people to talk sense to dr son.His people called he said i must obey him. Stella the next thing he moved some of his things and he has not returned for two days now. Stella i feel for my kids. Please i need to hear from my bvs.
ReplyDeleteHehehehhe is he from aguleri side? Na them dey behave like this. I knw my culture is their mantra, she disobeys me is their constant complaint, a woman shldnt hv opinions is their mentality, i can quickly get another woman if u leave is their constant chant, i am a man and can do what i like is their brainwash. Malice keeping is their principle. Verbal abuse is their main character. You cry so hard and get depressed.
DeleteAnd his ppl will never see what is wrong wit him and always tell u to obey and beg.
Thank you jesus for saving me from the hands of that cave man!
N.
Anon10:55 go and watch war room
DeleteOn war room, that movie has refused I watch it. I don buy cd,supposed original one, the thing crack for beginning. I returned it and took another, the player could not read it, returned and took another again oh, the player did not even recognise it. I officially gave up. Meanwhile other films de work for the same player. All thwm Alaba matters.
DeleteTo er is human but to forgive is divine. Please forgive her Sir and sort things out. Life can be difficult and betrayal bleeds the soul but love can overcome . please Sir. Gos bless you.. Madam,maybe he needs some time to think things through. Be patient. I wish you well.
ReplyDeleteMadam, wetin you do?
ReplyDeleteI despise men who keep malice, my church boo is pro in keeping malice and I will surprise him
ReplyDeleteOga forgive her please her heart is contrite and she will behave herself henceforth.
ReplyDeleteNow what caught my attention is where she said 'I spit fire' it is people like this oga and yours sincerely that can never hit their wives, we have the magic to make them wish they were beaten instead. This is just one of them. When you honestly talk about domestic violence men have the uppur hand in the physical aspect because more often than not they are more powerful but when you talk of emotional violence using the mouth, women are thousands of miles ahead. Not all men can actually take the mouth of women without reacting. We are few in deed. My worry really is that women always say that men shouldn't hit a woman no matter what they did but they never tell the women to bridle their tongue to avoid beating. Empirically, it is established that women are beaten more for what they said than what they did
We women are too emotional for our own good. Madam wife pls don't give yourself heart problem over a man. They're not worth it abeg. If not for sex, body no be firewood and for children, men are not worth the hassle.
ReplyDeleteGot separated from my ex, after he got someone pregnant and packed my things out, he refused to send money for my 2 kids school fees and feeding.
SMH.....men..... treating women bad since........
I need a job badly, I'm qualified with Masters sef.
Chai, bvns! Make una beg the man una deh abuse an join lol. Bros go say she purposely brought him online to be ridiculed. Akanni ogbo, ekun baba Daisy, please whatever the case is and was, she has come back to her senses, forgive, forget and let love and peace reign. Thank you sir.
ReplyDeleteIf you're not married please, shush your mouth! These men are just useless n irresponsible! Leaving home over what? Is that the best solution? Don't we offend God and yes i'll addd fuel, u people don't like to hear the truth. That column of Bro Nicolas from fb iss just the plain truth. If u can't tolerate her again, let her go. There's only one God and there will never be any like him. Baba Daisy, plenty good men dey outside, dem go treat your wife better! Yes! I'm the married woman with cute kids. Kill yourselves over my 2cents!
ReplyDeleteLONG DISTANCE UNION!!!!!!!!
Deletehe is either married to another person or has many children around the world, u r just a back up plan for this fool, he has other women in his life, mine came with the stupid news of having a white wife in germany, stella u know this fool ooh,then has a baby mama in another european country, i dint want to date him, cos i love brown skinned men, when i had my first kid,he acted funny, by not calling for weeks,was just 4months gone with the second son when he traveled,he dint bother to call,i had a c-section, the freak dint call ooh...had naming, same old story..... he is at it again, stella,i swear i ve never cheated on this freak b4 even after breaking loads of promises to me,sleeping with whores when he is in naija, one thing am seriously determined to do now is have some1 on the side i can cheat on him with,since am always having men that can buy his generation on my case due to the nature of my job, been in the relationship for over 6yrs now,when u cheat on them nothing will bother u,u will know they r getting exactly what they deserve.
ReplyDeleteI had an ex who does dis to me on a regular basis,one tym was up to a month!! I cald, begged, sent SMS tire no way, I just started deleting him in all my social handles...rubbish
ReplyDeleteWomen rubbishing their ego since the days of Eve. If you can't live without him pls otapiapia is cheap, end it all biko.
ReplyDeleteWomen without self esteem everywhere. Don't be surprise the yeye horseband is with a sidechic.
Mtchew
Same with me, but am not married to him and I wish too, I haven't met him b4 but I love him deep down. FEB, if u get to read this, forgive me please. It's been four days and am loosing my sanity already, I cry my eyes out every night just because of you. Forgive me please am truly sorry
ReplyDeleteRubbish! I can't do this,what is he feeling like? Not taking her calls for 6days???? He is heartless. Is he God? Even God doesn't ignore us for a whole day He forgives us. Mr horseband,u no try Abeg.
ReplyDeleteRubbish! I can't do this,what is he feeling like? Not taking her calls for 6days???? He is heartless. Is he God? Even God doesn't ignore us for a whole day He forgives us. Mr horseband,u no try Abeg.
ReplyDeleteMadam take am easy you are making the man feel like obama, dont you work? did you cheat on him? why the fear. My husband was like this, keeping malice for days anytime he gets angry. One old woman told me any time he starts his malice, i should cook the best food for him.I am always the one begging and saying sorry. The last one i was ready, i bought snails, prawns , i was just dishing efo riro, prawn sauce, fresh fish sauce for like six days without talking to him, then when i sleep i will just sleep with only tshirt nothing under (lol) no body tell am to stop the malice, he was like so you wont apologise, i said for what. Na so we settle, look for his weakness he will fall. My husband's own is food because he is afraid of eating out.
ReplyDelete@ anon 13:00
DeleteLol
A woman admits to be one that spits fire and instead of being cautioned to bridle her tongue the man is being attacked for reacting to whatever she might have told him?!!!
ReplyDeleteOnly on Sdk blog! only on sdk blog! Frustrated females everywhere.
MISS Jacobs.
Miss Jacob u are frustrated as well n.a.. since u are a lady visiting this blog. Aunty in marriage a lot of things happen,quarrels must happen. How can u keep malice with your wife for 6 days. Abeg d man no try. Madam u aren't a serious person. So u think bringing it here is d best? As he no answer u for start to prepare urself for journey especially if he is in d country. U don't need to call anybody,just prepare to go and visit him.
DeleteThat's the problem! A lot of hurt ladies are projecting their resentment for the men who hurt them on her hubby. Imagine the cascade of insults just because he shut her out for 6 days due to an offence she didn't disclose. It's not like he just shut her out unprovoked. Yet we wonder why divorce is on an unusual high. If you can't allow your hubby "style" for you after you offend him, then you should taste your words before you spit them out.
DeleteHow forgiving are some of us? All of a sudden, we are all light hearted and jolly good fellows?. I wonder where the blog visitors who hold grudges for months/years with faceless people are? Of course, it's always easier to pontificate when we aren't directly involved. Apparently, she has been getting away with her spit fire attitude that's why she is surprised at his reaction this time around. Maybe she has done worse but she didn't get this reaction. Ever heard about the proverbial last straw that broke the camel's back? All it takes is one more "screw up" to tip a person over the edge.
Poster, allow your hubby cool off. He will re-establish communication when his anger subsides, eventually it will. Please be mindful of your actions, you know the type of man you are married to. Your innocent angel is now affected by your indiscretions. Isn't that motivation enough to amend your ways? Anyway, I believe you'll "wise up" from this because, clearly, you didn't see this coming.
Ronalda abeg 6 days is too long. Even if u are upset 6 days is too long. There was a day my hubby annoyed and I said I will take my baby away nd he said is it only yours and I said yes implying he wasn't d dad n.a. dt statement end d quarrel as we started laughing. Even if I say d child isn't his,my baby is his copy. I hv had a lot of misundastandings but we never allow it more Dan 3 days. Even if he wants to style it shld not reach 6 days. Abeg don't encourage any couple to keep malice dis long in d name of anger. As for you madam,how can you come and beg on dis blog. N.a. wa oooo. Don't u know his siblings dt can help u talk to him or even his friend dt can beg him for you. You think dis Is a romantic gesture abeg. You just gave room for unnecessary insults to your hubby.
DeleteOga,don't mind bvs o.They don't mean what they are saying,the issue here is that your wife is SORRY n BEGGING. Pls FORGIVE her n go back home,they are missing you. Two wrongs can not make a right
ReplyDeleteAnon 10:55. Sorry about that. Where do y'all find men like this? He just left home? Ha! This is why I always tell women to work and make money!
ReplyDeleteOga sir please forgive madam and learn to forgive. You can always talk things out. Keeping malice is not a good thing at all. Some men can be very annoying and can keep malice for every little thing. That is how one man I dated didn't talk to me for 4 days and wont even pick my calls all because I told him that it wasn't right of him not asking after my mum's welfare who was sick at that particular time. His reasons for the malice according to him "I challenged his authority and I don't have right to tell him what to do as he is the head of the family" I even made an attempt to talk about it that I don't like his statement and he responded that he isn't ready to talk about it and his decisions are final. I was speechless,carry my legs away from his house and that was the end of the relationship. Life is too short to live it unhappy biko.
ReplyDeleteOga give your wife peace of mind. Accept her written apology. Abi another thing dey there ?
ReplyDeleteI had one stupid ex like dat, I have never used any abusive words on him. Any simple argument I wld beg and beg, send text, send messages, calls. He won't pick. I will even hide no, he wld pick, hear my voice and drop. He can do this for 1week to 3 weeks.
ReplyDeleteWe were arguing during my birthday, my bday came he didn't even call me, just to wish happy birthday.
The final straw came when it was his birthday I had cooked food, made a cake, invited few friends, which we had planned prior to the day. Do you know on d day he didn't answer my calls. I sent a friend to go check on him, let me even know if there's another woman. That one got there he was with his guy friends, they were drinking, hanging out. No woman dou.
After that I knew if was over, I can't be with a man dat will feel comfy not talking to me for 3 weeks.
Some time later he came back, the feelings were gone, I told him I'm no longer interested in relationship. He was shocked becos he was used to d begging. During dat period I have reconnected with an old friend and started dating him.
Till now d guy still calls me saying I know how he is...............
Dear poster I wish you luck, but this continuos cutting off is very bag for a relationship. Every time this guy kept malice with me, d love reduced little by little. Till nothing was left.
Kai. I wish I could keep malice but I just can't. Mine no pass one day. But once I cross mind na final. My family say I have the mind of a man as they dont vex for long and make up.
ReplyDeleteNow Oga 6 days is much. Talk to your wife. Unless you are convinced otherwise by someone catching your fancy. A child is involved.
pls sir e dakun forgive her.
ReplyDeleteLet us be very wise in advising the poster because we don't know the levels of the badmouth she spit at her husband. Just because you take your husband as your best friend does not mean you should insult him at will.
ReplyDeleteBridle your tongue woman.
The way you speak to your boyfriend is not the way to address your husband especially African husband. Ordinary African boyfriend likes respect like kilode talk more of African husband.
Foolish blog visitors are aiding you to insult him the more. It is not good at all. He did a wise thing by leaving to cool off.
Daddy Daisy
The good man
The honorable man
Daddy Daisy, the man that believes that women ought to be cherished.
Please forgive your wife, she does not mean what she said. Please don't be hurt. People like her are very soft, you can see how she is begging all over the internet. No matter what she said, she does not mean it.
I know you are a very wise man and you know even the 'good girl' outside still has her own double wahala and can never measure up to your wife. Your wife is one of a kind for realizing her mistakes and asking for forgiveness via internet. I know you are a very good man and you would forgive her.
God bless you Sir as you do so.
Madam, I am sure you have learnt now, do not listen to any bad advice. Bridle your tongue. If you need to vent, come to IHN and scream, go home and make love and peace with your husband.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Thank you Ronalda
ReplyDeleteFor once, I completely agree with you.
This is about restoring peace to a home. The woman is clearly wrong and admitted it herself. Let us not turn this to a Man Vs Woman thing. The man is the head of the home, the woman should be submissive.
She has realized her wrongs and is asking for forgiveness. She did not ask anyone of you to insult her husband. Some of you should learn respect. Stop aggravating a bad situation.
Please Sir, forgive her, we plead.
Dear Poster, do not listen to most of these folks. Their situations are not identical with yours. Moreover, some of them are on Singles&Mingles and would do worse if their flings don't talk to them for an hour.
Whichever right way to restore love, peace and unity in your home, please go for it.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
This woman acknowledges that she wronged her man please excuse the insults. Oga is over vexing but the insults esp from those who knows nothing about what happened is wrong.
ReplyDeleteOga daddy daisy, please if you are upset with your wife will you also abandon your child? 6 days coupled with your marriage being a distant one is too much please. Reach your family please
Mrs Bee