Singles Mingles Men Only Update.

Why must it always be like this?

Miss J says....

Out of boredom. I added this nigga from single and mingle. What i liked about him was that we both come from the igbo speaking part of Delta and he also bears my first love's name. I have a soft spot for people with that name. Apparently, he is doing his masters at Noun or whatever it's called.

Tbh I am not desperately searching, while it will be nice to have someone to gist about your day, i also enjoy the peace of mind that comes with being single. I was relunctant at first because i didn't want to seem desperate. You know how idiotic guys can be when they feel a girl likes them. 

Anyway, i just felt there is no harm in trying. That's how I added him. I wasn't impressed with his written English. I hate when people abbreviate unnecessarily and he kept on spelling "graduate" as "gruduate". That was how he typed it on the SNM page but I felt it was a typo at the time. Anyway we spoke for 5 mins and stopped. 

3 days later i chatted him up again. (Maybe he felt that since i added him i had to be the one always chatting him up) I am not a proud person so it was no biggie. Besides, I was considering deleting him so I felt I shld give it one last go. He started asking questions like,"how many are you in your family" I told him "6". Next thing he was was "your mother tried oh". "Your dad is a bad guy, he didn't let her rest".Like are we in primary school?

 We hadn't even spoken for 10 mins when he starting asking me to send pics. Mind you my pic was on my dp. Nothing turns me off more than "send me pictures of youself" like am I auditioning for a role in your life? I feel it makes the relationship vain. I like organic relationships that flow. God know i am not ugly, he could see that on my dp. I let him know that i never send my pictures and secondly, that while my picture was up his wasn't, so I didn't know what he looked like yet, I wasn't complaining. (I cannot date a short guy. I am not tall and I have a preference for light skinned guys) He now said "if you want my pictures ask me I will send to you". Lol like wtf? 

Told him I didn't want his pictures, (i wanted to actually like the person not the looks) thats how the brother started raking oh! That I was a man and that I wanted to deceive him, that he wants matured minds not a child like me. Before I could reply, he deleted me. Lol. The funny thing is that, the reason I was gonna delete him that morning before deciding to chat him up, was because that morning, my crush of like 6 months accepted my friend request and inboxed me.The guy is also from my side, a lawyer, light skinned, done with his masters and guess what? He bears that same name. Lol. We had started chatting and we were getting along very well. 

I wasn't even angry when he deleted me, i took it as God telling me that I can only have one "O" at a time in my life. . 

Sorry for the long post. I just saw the IHN where the girl is complaining about  picture sending and I remembered my own. You guys (both ladies and gentlemen) will lose your life partner because you are being vain and materialistic. Not everyone must marry a fine husband/wife why not go for someone good? Someone that will make a good husband/wife or father/mother? Some that you get along with? The looks will fade away but the heart won't. Find someone that has the same goals as you and is ready to grow with you. Someone that will make you better. 

Anyway Mr O, your loss baby .
My fellow bvn pls pray for me oh! I really like this guy and so far so good. He has ticked ALL the boxes I need in a partner. As in ALL!!! But I know that my plans for my life maybe different from God's plans for me. So pray for me that I will follow God's plans and not let lust or whatever blind me, that if he isn't the one, he will remove himself from my life like that other SNM brother did. I wish you whatever you wish me.

*My Dear,i dont see anything that he did wrong before he deleted you..your expectations were too high.Wish you luck with your crush...*tongue click*