A 41-year-old man, James Omale, yesterday, told an Igando Customary Court, Lagos, that his wife must go to his village and swear an oath to proof her fidelity.
Omale, a self-employed, told the court while responding to a divorce suit of a two-year-old marriage filed by his wife, Yetunde, said: “My wife knows that she is guilty of adultery, that is why she is afraid to go to my village to swear.
“She left her matrimonial home for a month to an unknown destination. In my tradition, when a woman leaves her matrimonial home and wants to come back, she must first go to our village to swear that no man has slept with her.
“My wife left my house without my consent and when she returned, she refused to go to my village instead, she rushed to court to ask for divorce.”
He described his wife as “an ingrate,” saying “I sponsored Yetunde from her 100 level to final year. After her graduation, I lost my banking job and she told me she was not interested in the marriage again.”
Wife’s fears
The petitioner, Yetunde, 29, had filed the suit seeking for the dissolution of the marriage over alleged use of force by her husband to make her swear an oath.
She told the court that her husband asked her to go to his village to make sacrifice.
According to Yetunde, “my husband tells me to travel to his village in Benue State to make sacrifice and swear to an oath to prove that no other man had slept with me.He tells me that he always sees a man making love to me in his dream. His elder brother is an herbalist and his wife is currently mad, while his second brother’s wife has been sick for years without solution.
“They cast spell on the wife of his other elder brother who is now a prostitute. I will never be a victim of their evil plan.”
The mother of one added: “My husband always leaves the house without my knowledge and he will never care to call me. Because of his bad behaviour, I went to stay in my parent’s house.”
The petitioner urged the court to dissolve the marriage because she was no longer in love with the husband.
President of the court, Mr. Adegboyega Omilola, adjourned the case to September 6 for judgment.
Vanguard.
*This is serious!...I thought this Oath swearing has been phased out?Both are adamant and it is better they part.Is the man also ready to swear to the same Oath he wants to subject her to?
Why do some men think cheating is their exclusive right alone?I am not in support of cheating but this man up there sounds like a pain in the ass already..lol
So people still dey swear?
ReplyDeleteHi Stella and BVs, Lemme educate you guys a little about my culture. I'm from Benue state and particularly from where this dude is from. If a woman marries a man from ogbadibo local government, you become subject to the tradition and any man from that region knows well enough to tell any woman his getting married to the importance of her being faithful. If a woman cheats on her husband and he finds out but does nothing about it, he dies or his children die. when he finds out, he takes her to swear before the diety called "Alekwu" and some sacrifices are done before he can sleep with her again and everything comes back to normal. The guy no wan die hence the insistence on his wife's oath taking. My advice to people who marry from different cultures,ask well before you do so. Sorry for the epistle, I hope someone learnt something.
DeleteAnd to add more to it, in this Morden age, the elders are wiser and don't let the women even do the swearing. The reason is this, a lot of offensive issues come up in marriages these days dt can count against the woman and for that reason even if a woman is suspected and she agrees to swear to clear her name, elders will not let her go through with it but accepting or not accepting to swear is enough to prove some points. The idoma culture is not as bad a as other cultures regarding adultery as being pointed out here by people who know little about it.
DeleteAnd I think it's important to actually find out about other people's tradition before going into life long relationships with them. Give to Caeser what is caeser's. If you are straight forward in a relationship, issue of adultery shouldn't come in and if body no let you hold, walk away so some innocent ppl don't suffer the consequences due to ignorance. Even idoma women with Coco yam between their legs are not left out.
Hmmm interesting culture. Abeg let them go their separate ways, no be by force. Meanwhile she tried that she even stayed with him after knowing what happened to the other wives in their family. What an unfortunate thing to befall one family. Hian
DeleteHahahaha, d man is pained.
ReplyDeleteIt would be foolish of the Woman to go swear the oath. It's ungodly and barbaric.
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Women are the problem of this world.
ReplyDeleteJust like your mother.
DeleteWhat do you mean by that?
DeleteWelcome. Where you go na?
DeleteAnon 11:23, haba!!! That's too harsh nau
DeleteJasmine, there is nothing harsh about it.I am not the annon by the way but if women are the problem that will include his mom and sisters.
DeleteWomen are actually the problem on earth...they will not rest until the destroy it
DeleteIs he gonna swear too?
ReplyDeleteKudos to yetunde..After one can still start a fresh. 😴😴😴
ReplyDeleteHian! The man's family is full of baggage.
ReplyDeleteShe should go and swear on the ground that the man also will swear.
ReplyDeleteWhat is good for the goose...
Swear faya!
DeleteShe should not even near the neighbouring town of the man's town let alone his village.
Not in support of divorce but not in this case. Her life is at risk.
Lmao at she shld nt even near d neighbouring town of the man's village. Yes!i concour.
Deletena real wa
ReplyDeleteThe wife is afraid bcos she hv been sleeping around with different men. A clear conscience fears no accusation.
ReplyDeleteWhen madness and sickness don full the man house, who knows what they want to inflict her with.
DeleteNah lie, she just afraid; didn't she know there were madness and strange ailment before marriage? She has tested outside and want to remain there.
DeleteThe court shuld just dissolve the marriage.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmm I do not understand why a part in the country love fucking anyhow and cheating on their spouses recklessly and having divorce everyday as if it is going out of fashion.
ReplyDeleteYou are very stupid James
DeleteJames aka queen of dis blog kontinu
DeleteI have said it before dt @James is queen's alter ego as in split personality but queen or James is right here biko.
DeleteBecause there's fhvck in the air and divorce in the water in that part of the country. Hope you understand now.
DeleteAbeg they should go their separate ways.
ReplyDeleteSwear to what? If I hear
Whether or not I'm innocent no one can force me to swear
They often manipulate the process
Don't do it woman.
True talk! She should not do it oooooooo.
DeleteAbeg the man shld Leave the marriage if he's tired instead of putting the woman through this, except he is also ready to swear. Arrant nonsense in this 2016.
ReplyDeleteHahahahahahahah why do I haff a feeling this woman is cheating? Women don tire to dey dull, can he swear he hasn't cheated before? Useless men everywhere. Those Benue people that can like to fhuck for Africa. Yeye dey smell.
ReplyDeleteDem don "fhuck" u before ne? @SteffySoFynSoFly
DeleteMumu man.. let him swear he is innocent of the same offense, make we see mshewww
ReplyDeleteWise woman she is, she shouldn't try that rubbish oo. Before they turn her into a kolomental somborri
Na real wah!
ReplyDeleteThe man is sick. Let him first swear an oath and besides, they should part ways since the love is no longer there to avoid story that touches.
ReplyDeletePlease let the two go their separate ways.
ReplyDeleteWhen men cheat no wahala but when women cheat we no go hear word.
ReplyDeleteAbeg, she's better without him. He's broke and wants to pour his frustration on her. Madam, a better man will find you jare.
ReplyDeleteNa them sabi
ReplyDeleteMother Nature
men and jealousy but na them cheat pass. give her the divorce and stop crying wolf.
ReplyDeleteShameless duo
ReplyDeleteToh!
ReplyDeletena wa o!
ReplyDeleteThe Yetunde sef. She has met someone richer hence the rush for divorce.
ReplyDeleteThis Igando people, they never cease to amaze me at all. All bad things na from igando. Divorces from poor people na from there.
ReplyDeleteFoolish man are you better than you wife?
Let me go and read again. God let good things come out of this Igando ooo
Stella leave all these men that cheats and are claiming it is good for a man to cheat. Just know that hell fire is your callings. Your wife will not stand and take the blame on your behalf. Be saying I am a man i can cheat. God hates adultery. Just know that.
ReplyDeleteThe man should agree for the divorce. Useless man. Seeing his wife in a dream making love. Instead of him to see himself making money and dreaming of entering the Forbe Book of Riches. Useless otukpo man
Your last paragraph got me lolling.
DeleteHahahahaha😂 @ Instead of him to see himself making money and dreaming of entering the Forbe Book of Rich. @loveme Jeje lol
DeleteSwear wetin?! If i hear! Madam has he sworn or ready to swear? Don't swear to any nonsense cos what is good for the goose is good for the gander. Men hiding under useless cultures to break and subject women to unspeakable evil.
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ReplyDeleteCouples should know all about each other's traditional beliefs before marriage please. No matter how educated and exposed some people are,they still hold traditional beliefs dear to their heart.
ReplyDeleteIt's no news that some part of idomaland still have high attachment to traditional beliefs. The most prominent is the belief in Alekwu.
This reminds me of one idoma guy I almost dated... on one cold starless night,we made out in his car. Nothing major, and when he was about to leave,his car won't start. Dude turned to me and said "oh my God,this is a sign from Alekwu cos of what we did". What!!!? Ah! I removed my flat slippers and ran!!
Shameless people! When your marriage is not built on a solid foundation, this is always the end result.
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ReplyDeleteLadies always do background and cultural checks of guys and places you want to marry into. An average Idoma man believes so much in their ALIKWU. Love in Lagos will one day reach village. Find out before you commit. Don't rush into inter tribal or cross cultural marriages with ignorance
Woman please run don't take any oath
ReplyDeleteI don't blame the man he is protecting his life.
ReplyDeleteIn Idoma culture if a wife sleeps around and the husband knows and covers for his wife, he dies. Seen it happen to several people and the poor guy is just scared for his life.
Ps. The lady cheated hence her fear, all the talk na story!
Ok
ReplyDeleteWomen, should try and look deeper than playing the victim, why the counter defense from the women commenting here if the man can swear also that he is not cheating, is that the bone of contention here? the question from the man is the woman should prove her innocence, and if you read thru the story, apart from the sensational headline from Stella, the lines are clearly dotted that the woman is having affairs, if the man here is a brothers/uncles or nephews to most of the woman commentators here, am sure Hell will let loose, is high time women should try and understand that as men, we have blood in our veins, CHEATING hurt us as well
ReplyDeleteShut up you nicompoop.
DeleteI will never condone cheating but if he suspects she is having affairs, then he should end the marriage.
Cheating hurts you bloody weakling as well but how many times have your wives taken you silly men anywhere to swear to deities even when they know you cheat with your tiny dicks.
The height of this bulshit is follow me to my village and swear before one pathetic deity that bla bla bla in 2016??
Bullocks!!
James wetin happen to ur hilarious comments.... U don gentle o,wetin do u?
ReplyDeleteDon't marry a man you cannot condole their traditions. Crazy man he should also swear he never committed adultery mtcheew women are always the victim
ReplyDeleteMen are so wicked. Imagine I was dating a man who wld always make me swear I'm not dating anyone else. But wld do it as if he's joking. I thot it was just love. He even wanted us to go to his village to swear an oath which I refused.
ReplyDeleteHe would check my phone, get upset if any man calls me and also tell me he doesn't want any male friend coming to visit me. We would argue about this thing because he would say he had a dream that I was sleeping around. And I have plenty male friends, so we wld always argue about it. I started fighting back and started locking my phone, he wld get angry. But I was determined that no man that isn't my husband should have so much power over me.
Quite alright he took care of me and provided for me. Until I found out this guy was actually married with a child based in Canada.
How wicked men are.
Traditions!!!
ReplyDeleteHian!!!
The woman knew abt his tradition, d spell cast on the other wives and still went ahead with d marriage. y is she scared now? well, they should get divorced already, its obvious they are both tired
ReplyDeleteHian!!!
ReplyDeleteTraditions!!!
Swear fire...stupid man
ReplyDeleteIf she must swear the stupid man must swear too
Woman pls don't swear, don't even go near him, let the man go get married in his village to a lady that understand his tradition.
ReplyDeleteTony your prostitute of a mother is a problem to humanity......so u idiots think cos she doesn't want to swear she is guilty....u are all foolish...as for me I will never swear.....the idol as are know for that barbaric tradition.....please anyone here knows about the EBU people from Delta state? Can't go and marry a man who does the same Abeg....only those who know should advice Abeg, can't shout
ReplyDeleteMany things wet we think say don pass away still say happen for benue state I,I remembered when I served there in 2008,nothing wet my eye no see and hear no hear,as she leave house for one month so the man family no go Greek ,most married women are not trusted from that state too many frivolities and cheating,so the woman know why she no wan do again as she don know their people now after the marriage,know what you are entering before you marry abeg!
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