This post is for those who are carrying the Virus around .........
How did you contact it?
Are you taking the required shots and keeping it safe or spreading it?Are you angry?How do you feel?
Are you married?
Whats your advice for those who have it and think their lives have ended?
It is not the end of the world. Do not despair or be ashamed. Take your medication religiously and you'd live longer than those not carrying the virus. Cheers
ReplyDeleteAre you a carrier? The post of not for everyone to comment mbok
DeleteMany are carriers without knowing o,but they will be here awwing, I pity unna, the earlier you know the better,it will enable u to live a long life,that is if u don't die if other causes,like accident, armed robbery, boko haram,etc.hiv is just a status you can live with if detected earlier, and forger all this ppl saying are is dangerous, I know ppl who have been on it for decads,just adhere to us drugs and u will be fine
DeleteI just want to ask a quick question, if someone has recently contracted the virus and doesn't know they are positive yet, are there signs that the person will be having? Will the individual be getting sick? I need an answer pls
DeleteGo and get tested! That's the only sure fire way of knowing.
DeleteJust before i got into my relationship, and sensing where it is leading to, i decided to take all the necessary tests, HIV being one of them. Yup, although i have been a mermaid for awhile, and i have taken the test before, you just want to confirm all is well/ working properly. The first time I did it a few years ago, bought oralquick rapid hiv kit, and used it, hmmmmmm the waiting kills you. Lol.
DeleteThe fear of not knowing kills you faster than the virus. I've been careless before with someone I dated for 5 years during/after undergrad, and okafor law took place even after we'd broken up, so you never know.
Get tested please. Yes it is not the end of the world, but wouldn't you rather know?
*Ndi uchu,screen grab o, that's my ID*
I'm sure I got it through sexual intercourse and I am sure of who I contracted it from. I didn't confront him though.simply moved on with my life. I was young and in school and sleeping with men for extra cash to pose as a big girl in school was the IT thing.I wouldn't say I was a runs girl because these were people I actually dated (3 men during the course of my uni). Only difference is that I actually didn't date them for love, it was for the money.my parents don't know till today,my siblings do and they've been supportive all the way. I was in denial during the first few months..kept praying I would do a retest and it would be negative.I accepted it with time.I have never been ill sInce then..though it was a terrible illness that led me to discover mu status.I take my drug daily(morning and night) and I've been taking life one day at a time. I'm not angry at myself anymore, I'm just scared I might not find a man who loves me for real. My boyfriend at the time I found out my status broke up with my shortly afterwards(I told him as soon as I found out. He is -ve) . I'm 24, currently job hunting,trying to get my spiritual life on track and discover my life's purpose generally.thinking of setting up a business this year as well.I am sure I would have kids when God blesses me with enough income for all the complex and expensive medical processes.I've decided that even if marriage doesn't come my way,I'll be a mum! The only advice I have to everyone reading this is to get tested.I've seen people beyond recovery simply because they didn't know. Knowing your status is a big deal!with your medication and good lifestyle you can leave as long as people without the disease.Those already diagnosed, please don't stop taking your meds. People have died because some man of god prayed for them and asked them to stop taking their med. Hiv medication works this way:it slows down the replication of the virus in your body thereby preventing(delaying) you from developing full blown aids which is the final life cycle of the hiv virus. The meds hv a strong disadvantage.. you can't stop once you start. If you do, it's like reversing all the progress you made while you were on the meds. In fact, the councillors in the hospitals ask you repeatedly if you're sure you're willing to commit to taking the meds.if you're answer is no or maybe they advice you not to start at all. Hiv positive mothers who are pregnant,please do not breastfeed that bundle of joy God will give to you. Don't make that mistake. You're child would get infected from your milk..it's not folklore. I've met a couple of hiv positive mums who breastfeed their hiv negative babies because in their words(God won't allow the child to suffer).please don't be naive I beg you. Taking your meds would shield the child from the virus whilst in your womb but once the child is birthed,it's your responsibility to keep that child safe! There's life after testing positive.. I shudder when I hear about those who took their lives. I understand everyone's tolerance level isn't the same but I think testing +ve should be a motivation to want to live right and well for that matter! God help us all..Remember to get tested if you haven't! Sorry for any typos
DeleteI admire your courage but where you get it wrong, an HIV +ve woman can successfully breastfeed her baby without the baby contacting it, make your research.
DeleteMadam,
DeleteShe is correct. HIV +ve woman can infect her baby with the virus through breastfeeding. At least I would know this since I am a Doctor.
Thank you.
Iwawela, you are wrong.
DeleteHIV can be contacted to kids via breast milk.
Try not to be depressed, take ur drugs regularly and eat healthy. All is well
ReplyDeleteI'm positive, happy,married with kids. And I have the assurance that I'll live long, cos christ got ma back,u nko?
DeleteHappy for you babe! Keep living positively! I pray for the day this discrimination will stop and people won't need to hide thier status anymore. .
DeleteLol. Stella wan put fear for people mind wey dey collect anyhow. Good move though. HIV is real, tread carefully.
ReplyDeleteI am happily married with a child my husband and chid are negative,I take my drugs religiously and keep myself happy,I am very healthy viral load undetectable,cd4 890,I believe it's my destiny so I don't dwell on the anger,seeing me you could never tell infact if someone told you you will say the person is lieing,please and please people practice safe sex,please AIDS is real
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Hello anon,I'm also married with three kids,children and hubby negative, cd4count is 1190,i take my drugs and I always pray to God, cos he sees all, and can heal me.above all am very happy with my life,infact happier than most negative ppl
DeleteI just want to know, how do you are your husband have sex since you are positive and he is negative? Do u use protection and how were you able to concieve your child without infecting your husband
DeleteHappy for you ladies! Keep living positively!
DeleteWe practice safe sex but because I take care of my self and my viral load is undetectable I can hardly transfer it to my husband,a woman is more prone to the virus than a man meaning it's harder for a man to get,I only have unprotected sex when I want to get pregnant in my fertile days,my husband is very supporting and understanding he is my consolation..
DeleteI remember a guy that lived with us many years ago.
ReplyDeleteHe was a very pathetic casanova who eventually got the killer virus, did he stop? No! Instead he intensified his game and started visiting different barbing saloon spreading the virus, he eventually died.
Which one is barbing salon?...is that a code name for something or do u literally mean a barbing salon 🤔
DeleteBarbers shop so he can get a hair cut, maybe the clipper or blade cuts him and infects the machine, others after him will get it.
DeleteBarbers ship? Getting it from thier clipper is possible but highly unlikely! Most people visit thier Barbers with thier own clippers. Also, shared clippers are sterilised.
DeleteYes I meant barbers shop.
DeleteThis happened in the Era when sterilization of clippers wasn't rampant as it is now. This was around 2000/2001.
I want to invite those of you that are still believing God for a miracle to attend our healing and deliverance service every Tuesday by 9:30 am @ Dunamis international gospel center Area1 garki abuja. There is nothing too much for God to do.
DeleteStella please post. Thank you.
So you're inviting someone to church with that slutty bum shorts you're wearing in your dp. People like you lure men into church and sleep with them and chase them far from God. Cover yourself up before you speak about God.
DeleteI will read comments on this. I got nothing to say
ReplyDeleteis this 4 real?
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ReplyDeleteI know of a camerounian man in the UK, named Kaolo and who is HIV. The guy and his wife look healthy because they are religiously taking their medicines as prescribed.
The only problem is that Kaolo is very bitter about having been infected with the virus and has decided not to die alone.
The money he gets from doing 419 and other illicit activities is used to lure women with expensive gifts and trips. Indeed, when you spoil women with money, a few will be blinded and accept to sleep with men without using protection. That's how the man is spreading the virus all over London. When i get his full name, not his nickname, i will report him to the Police.
i don't understand why anyone will take such a risk because of money. I always insist on protection no matter what! I don't care if u are offering me a million dollars because at the end of the day, no amount of money can cure HIV
DeleteNeither do I understand why anyone would decide to be fucking & sucking dick after dick for money instead of doing something positive with their lives
DeleteThanks Stella for this opportunity ... Have never told any1 Abt this.
ReplyDeleteMy lovely mother died of HIV! How she contracted it that I donno but the most shocking part of Ulithi is that my elder Sis has been diagnosed of HIV.
My Sis called me sometimes in 2012 that she is HIV positive 😳 I cried and cried and asked God why???? I asked her how it happened and we both remembered when my mum was sick and the nurse that came to treated her gave my elder sis the needle used in injecting my mum to go throw away! That was how my sis became +++. But the good news is that ... She has a set of twin! A boy and a girl both negative.
May God help us!
Give this to ur sis😘
DeleteAwwwwww...too bad. GOD will see her through.
DeleteWell my
DeleteWell my dad was a community penis before his death who ended up infecting my mom, may her sweet soul rest in peace 😢😢 and now I just found out my my younger one, who is the baby of the house was unfortunate to escape it. Well, it's my cross and I'll gladly carry it. His cd4 is high and I make he feeds well with nutritious meals, take him to the hospital regularly. What amazes me the most is that no one apart from my mom knew his status and he was never on any rvd. I drilled him severally to know is my mom used to give him any special drug and he said no. The doctors were amazed that his cd4 was that high without being on rvd. How is ds even possible. Well I know God will heal him. He cannot suffer for the sins of the father. I have faith in God's healing power.
DeleteI'm a health worker and our facility is a comprehensive HIV site, its true his cd4 might be high, but the real indicator now is da viral load. But to help him the more u should give him some drugs like livergad or livoline for his liver to help his Alt and creatinine count. Immunace is extremely good for his immune system. Green vegetable is good but he should stay away from alcohol, kola of any specie, herbal medicine and excess sugar. Good food, rest and regular exercise is essentially good for PLWHIV.
Delete@headmaster,how.can I get up contact pls?
DeletePLWHIV...people living with HIV
DeleteHian!
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ReplyDeleteLearn gini? U seem to take everything to be a joke. No heat go dey. Go get a life biko. Asiri gbakaa ute, o hie na ala.
DeleteThere is time for everything IBK. you are still one of my favourites here tho...
DeleteIbukunHOElu, you find this post funny or what? What is all the long couch and fucking hand fan all about?
DeleteYou trying to sound funny but ended up sounding like an idiot!
Go get tested... not by making jest of them
A family friend of mine died of AIDS. She was a big time runs girl, dubai today,Malaysia tomorrow. She sells gold jewelleries and ladies wears . She knew early enough to start taking her meds but her and mum said it was spiritual attack and they started going from one church and babalawo to another. Until she finally died in 2011. First symptoms she said was typhoid and she started having massive boils in her privates.
Delete@Chiamaka so person no fit learn?
DeleteMehn!!! too many daft people breathing!
What is there to learn? The full meaning of HIV or what? Nne go get a life. There is more to life than trying to comment on sdkb. Believe me u can learn whatever you want to learn without dropping that comment up there. And finally don't call anyone daft. Seems u enjoy drama a lot, but trust me, u ain't getting one from me. Now run along.
DeleteIbukunoluwa, that was a very insensitive comment though. This type of post calls for sober reflections. So be guided.
DeleteI've noticed this Ibuku girl is very stupid. Don't know. There's just something daft about her and her stupid jobless comments.
DeleteYes i discovered i have the virus in 2011 How i did i dont know till now. Im married to a hiv+ man too and we have a hiv free daughter and planning to have more. Hiv isnt a death sentence and its manageable as long as you take care of yourself as supposed. People are dying everyday from more terrible diseases. And no im nit spreading, that would be inviting the wrath of God. Im healthy and alive and sometimes i even forget i have the virus. Im not angry anymore and i live a happy life with my family.
ReplyDeleteI love your positive spirit!
DeleteHIV IS REAL AND HERE IN SOUTH AFRICA, 99 PERCENT OF PEOPLE THAT STAY HERE ARE HIV POSITIVE, IT VERY COMMON HERE.
ReplyDeleteHian...99% of south Africans are Hiv positive...abeg ooo..na spoil country for person..exaggerated statement..
DeleteMaybe not 99% but at least 60% of S.A citizens carry the virus. Sad but true that's why am always rolling my eye when men from other countries lust over S.A women because even though they are beautiful AIDS is real in that country.
DeleteMaybe not 99% but at least 60% of S.A citizens carry the virus. Sad but true that's why am always rolling my eye when men from other countries lust over S.A women because even though they are beautiful AIDS is real in that country.
DeleteThe HIV levels in South Africa is one of the highest in the world (yep! Go to United Nations sites and check the statistics).
DeleteThe peoples refusal to use condoms, the ease of getting sex (an average SA girl will fuck you for a R100 or free drinks and will go home with you within 15 mins of toasting), the advent of blessers (aristos), the fact that being married doesn't mean that you will not follow another man home, the high rape and animalistic primal sexual nature of men and women ensure that HIV will always be prevalent here.
The government has tried to provide retro viral drugs but the masses have started using it to make drug cocktails to get high.
South Africans are something else
HIV is still better than cancer
ReplyDeleteSdk is not asking for comparison
DeleteI know a couple that are hiv positive, i pray they are taking their drugs though cos the lady sometimes does not look healthy and i think the guy is even gay, people should be careful cos this disease is real and spreading fast.May God heal them.
ReplyDeletePlenty are spreading it o
ReplyDeleteHmm... this should be interesting.Please y'all should educate us.Though it's no longer a death sentence.
ReplyDeleteReading comments
ReplyDelete100 percent of gay men are hiv positive, that is why they die like chicken, its the punishment God gave them and some of them have wives and girlfriends that are not aware that they are gay, they keep spreading the disease to their partners.
ReplyDeleteHow do U know?
DeleteRe u gay too
Stop blabbing about shit you don't know
Biko don't say what you don't know o! That figure you gave there is very very wrong!also HIV and Aids isn't a punishment from God..if it were how would you justify that of a dutiful housewife who got the virus from a randy husband? I volunteered for ENR in 2014 and I remember a survey they carried other then in conjuction with NACA. Results then showed that 49% of HIV burden came from married and co habiting couples! Yes, the married and co habiting ones contributed almost half of the HIV burden then, while female sex workers(FSWs), injecting drug users(IdUs) and men sleeping with men (msm) made up the other part.
DeleteAnyone can get the virus! This attitude of discrimination and condemnation is aiding the spread of the nasty virus. Let's stop the discrimination! Spread the message, not the virus!
U might be right to an extent, but da percentage is exaggerated. It is common with gays, that is why most of the funds coming from the united states and UK are owed by some gay organization to help PLWHIV.
DeleteIt is even the casual people, casual heterosexual people who are at a higher risk of HIV. Sex workers know d danger of their work nd use condom, so also gay guys. Be safe.
DeletePLWHIV...people living with HIV....
DeleteThanks Stella for dis post. God bless you!
ReplyDeleteNobody should come here and dirty this post with your aww! And ehyaaa! HIV and AIDS is not the end of the world.
ReplyDeletelet the story begin.
But my own awwwwwwwww is not a pity one
DeleteThanks for spoiling the post. Awww pot calling kettle black
DeleteLols
DeleteLols. You're so in point
DeleteThis should be interesting and educative too
ReplyDeleteThis post is a good one. We all need to be reminded about the reality of this virus. A former colleague of mine tested positive to hiv 1 and 2 during routine office medicals. It didn't stop her from spreading it through her prostitution. She wasn't taking medication and she was even doing threesomes with her friends and white lover. They all didn't know her status. I was tempted to expose her. A white man even took her to south Africa sef. I wonder if she is still alive
ReplyDeleteThank you for this post Stella, let us all read carefully and learn something new, peace and love.
ReplyDeleteShade O is living with the virus and managing it well
ReplyDeleteWho is shade o?
DeleteAmebo kill you die
Na to protect yaself sure pass.
ReplyDeleteU won't know d value of health until u get hiv.
Have been HIV+ since 2010,started medication since 2011,have never been sick since then only minor headach and fever,married now to a HIV+ guy,we are planning to start having kids,we are both very healthy especially my hubby,his viral load is undetected am still working towards that.you can live as long as you like only take ur drugs regulary and avoid alcohol and smoking of any kind.Also there are care groups in all the states that can connect you to other HIV+ individuals around Nigeria,for those that need spouses.they will connect you to others that wants to settle down.don't die alone cus there are others out there that wants to help you.I got introduced to my hubby,infact I got several others but I choosed my hubby cus he suits my taste in a man.all the people I was introduced to were learned,some with federal jobs some with Masters degree so u see you can still live a normal life if you are +++
ReplyDeleteI am hiv+ and looking to get a part met who has same status. Pls how can ppl like me get across to these group
DeletePlease drop the link for that group. I need it to forward it to someone. Thanks for this post stella. Been waiting for it since.
DeletePlease drop the link for that group. I need it to forward it to someone. Thanks for this post stella. Been waiting for it since.
DeleteBeing positive isn't a death sentence. In Nigeria we have NEPWHAN- Network of people Living with HIV and Aids. It's a legit group recognised by the government and it's in every state of the federation. Also go to your state SACA...e.g SACA means State Agency FOR THE Control of Aids. That of kaduna is called KADSACA, and each state of the federation has a SACA. You can also get information from NACA which is the national body coordinating for all the States SACA.
DeleteThere are a LOT of NGOS; foreign and local working in his field e.g Sfh, Action Aid, Fhi360, CIHP, etc, lots oof them! You can Google and get information you need.
I really miss working in this field and I want to get back in. I'll raid as many offices as I need to in Portharcout until I get a placement to work in this field again...
There are fraudsters out there with fake HIV partner this or that. Anyone that asks you for money might not be genuine. U can go to any heart to heart center or any General hospital close to ur resident, u will be introduced to a support group where u can still mingle. Though da high class folks don't get involved directly, but they get info and contacts from facility staff.
DeleteAnon. 18:14 some clinics or hospitals that offer hiv tests & arv usually encourage hiv+ people to live their name and number to be linked.
DeleteAlso if you belong to a group you might meet someone there.
From experience, I have also discovered that taking cold pressed virgin coconut oil alongside ARVs to increase the cd4 count thereby lowering the viral load.
It's not a cure obviously.
15mls thrice a day
DeletePls o, when do you start noticing the symptoms
ReplyDeleteDon't wait for symptoms, go get a blood test to get your mind at rest. If you're negative play safe, if positive then start on the ARDS given....don the let fear control you...
DeleteU don't need to wait for symptoms, just go for a routine check every 3 months. There is a stage called window period, that's why people are asked to get retested in two months after been exposed to HIV.
DeletePeople take their drugs religiously and are as healthy as can be. If they are too sensitive to a drug, they go back, talk to the doctor and it is changed. You feel angry with someone for having beaten you up and you go about beating up anyone you can easily beat? There are many people intentionally spreading the virus and I wonder why? Are they that wicked? I believe it is either to direct your bitterness towards whoever gave it to you or disappoint the person by taking your drugs so well that the person will wonder whether you have the virus. The rate of intentional spread is alarming. Devil do pass this before we all hate am? It makes one think that the number of infected persons will rise again until a point where the developed world will have to specially take our case up. Black man just does not want to develop!!!!!! And they say the virus mutates like mad. As people sleep around trying to donate, they may come across others with all kinds of strains and mutations, and guess what?; problems may arise because someone who seems to be healthy suddenly starts having problems as though the drugs are no longer working. Na so I understand am o.
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ReplyDeleteMy friend, shut up!! Shut it!!! What is all this nonsense talk. Mechie onu there!!
DeleteI am sure it's my comment that was removed. I won't stop saying it to help others all the same.
DeletePlease blog administrator I am a living testimony to what I wrote.
It is harmless. And I am not saying that people should stop their ARVs. I am still on mine.
Alot has been looked into hiv&aids / nutrition of late.
Selenium when combined with cold pressed coconut oil does help with boosting the immunity.
Taking prebiotic yoghurt helps the compromised digestive system of hiv + people.
Eat healthily.
I had a c4 count of 50. Which is AIDS. Was encouraged to seek alternative means to boost it via food.
Within a year I ve climbed up to a little over 400.
Aiming for 800 to be in the clear.
My c4 count have astonished the nurses.
I pray that this message gets out there after all, you can't go wrong with this.
Please publish my comment. Thanks
I slept with one guy, very nice guy he liked me so much I wanted to date, but his Ex is too diabolical I finally left d expatriate guy abeg,d lady is so manipulative n desperate, the lady had to impersonate, chatting with me on whatsApp dat d guy is +ve that I should leave him, thank God we use CD but I was scared dat d CD slipped but the guy didn't cum,
ReplyDeleteI was so scare o o, I had to start doing HIV test every 6mth so I com dey change my name mk d nurse no chase me away, I ever used CD wit my guy, am everly -ve but since dat mistake happened I don turn mermaid
I did General Medical in March n recently I was sick, d way d Lab scientist drew blood out of me I knew dey did HIV test, co dey can't tell me is only Malaria n thyfoid test dat made dem took such about of blood, i'll continue checking myself every 6mths cos dat's d only mistake I had done, am a very careful person and to d obsessed idiot bitch went to tell d guy that he should also go 4 test but never d lest I kept our chat should incase anything happen to me
They don't need a 2mil string to collect blood for a HIV test, maybe they ran other test like ur PCV, ALT and Creatinine test.
DeleteNo need checking yourself further over that incident, you don't have it dear. Thank God
DeleteFound out I was hiv+ in 2005. But I believe I got infected around 2003 because I had some crazy cystic acne and rashes at my back which refused to go no matter what I did from that 2003 until 2005 when up found out. I started my regimen. I confronted the man who infected me he denied but I know it is him. Have left him to God and have moved on with my life. As soon as I stated my meds the acne cleared. I got married about a year later. Have 4 sons all birthed via C- section. All exclusively breastfed for 3 months without even water ( cos you must not in anyway mix feed when breastfeeding with hiv) as soon as I take them off the breast they never go back to it and I only breastfeed for 3 months. My viral load has been undetectable for 10years+ my kids are not infected. My spouse is not infected and he doesn't know I am a Carrier. I have never had safe sex with him. I don't drink, or smoke. I am as fit as a fiddle and rarely fall ill except for occasional bouts of malaria.
ReplyDeleteI do not even remember I am a carrier my drugs feel more like vitamins to me.
Eat very health and avoid anything that could be toxic to me. I don't think this disease can kill me. Something else maybe but I have long conquered hiv. Thanks Stella for this platform. Btw I got infected at the 20 I believe.but found out around the age of 22.
Thank God for you madam! But how comes you spouse isn't aware u are a carrier??? Pls tell us
DeleteWow madam, wow... How did u do it.. as in ur hubby not knowing and I always thought +mums don't breast feed. How u do am? I am amazed... wow.
DeleteYou never told your partner! WTF?
DeleteHi ma, please can we link up? I'm married with kids,all negative, hubby too is - ve
DeleteJeezzzz your husband doesn't know???
DeleteHow do u mean U've never had safe sex with him, then how did u conceive and how did u take care if yourself during pregnancy
DeleteHow do u mean U've never had safe sex with him, then how did u conceive and how did u take care if yourself during pregnancy
DeleteYou should tell your spouse. It's unfair to him
DeleteWhat a deadly secret to keep from your husband. The day he finds out, that will be the end of your marriage. And how come you have unprotected sex with him but he is not infected?
DeleteAlso how do you hide your drugs from your husband since he doesn't know. I wonder what other things you are hiding from the poor man and to see that you contracted the virus at just age 20 says a lot about your past lifestyle
DeletePs; I'm not judging you. Just being honest
Wow! Good to know you're doing fine, so also your kids. But my fear for you is the day your spouse finds out you've been keeping this vital piece of information from him this long. All the best!
DeleteThis is what we call zero discordant couple where one spouse is positive and another is negative. It happens. Most times there is a point sm1 who is always taking his drug wil reach, d person won't b able t infect anoda. HIV women who are on drugs are allowed to breast feed even till 6months or more.
DeleteHence u are religious with your drugs, eat healthy and exercise regulargy, the chances of transmission is always zero, her husband on his own part might have been taking good care of himself. We have so many couple in our facility that either da man or woman is negative but that are happier coz they know the situation at hand and even help da one with da virus with keeping of time to medication. The main issue with da drug is adherence, keeping to the exact time da person is suppose to take the dose.
DeleteSero discordant.
DeletePlease put up a link on how we can connect
DeleteI contacted the virus on January 16th 2009 and found out on March 17th when I went for my tests. Presently my viral load I undetected. I am on drugs and look fees n clean...hell, I feel clean. Never been bedridden till date and am now a participant on a research project with the USArmy. Still single but....active.
ReplyDeleteAlways insist on Abstinence. If you cannot, get condoms(either male or female brands).
Lastly, before you judge me, go and get tested.
For one person that'll judge you, there are two more ready to give you e-hugs! Stay positive!
DeleteThank you Unyime. I appreciate.
DeleteI wish you all carrier strength and courage. Those spreading the disease, please stop the evil acts before the wrath of God will befall you.
ReplyDeleteThose having unprotected sex, please deviate from it. Married men and women having illicit affairs, stop it. Think about your children! would you like them to grow up without their parents? How sure are you that your sisters, brothers, cousins, uncles and aunties will be able to take good care of them after your departure?
Please lets be cautious of the things we do. Ladies, get packets of needles while going to your favourite salons. Needles are very cheap, but HIV/AIDS drugs are very expensive. Don't allow your hair stylist use his or her needle without treating it.
Needle treating machine is very cheap as well.
Stop spreading the disease.
Is not a dead sentence.
Go and get tested to know your statues.
God be with you all.
I know my father is an unrepentant philanderer. I just hope he uses protection with his whores. I recall my mother saying that he wasn't using protection at some point. In fact my mother stopped having sex with him and hasn't done so in more than 2 years. The man is still a dog till this moment. I hope he doesn't catch it soon
DeleteThe drugs are free. Its the tests that are a bit expensive because of thewithdrawal of some foreign donors
DeleteAnon 14:43, then how do u have sex with your hubby and he doesn't know you are hiv+
ReplyDeleteAnno 14:43,so u take ur meds daily and ur husband has not asked you what they are for or has not codedly googled them?he must be an illiterate man,continue with ur deceit you hear...longhiss
ReplyDeleteDon't mind the lying witch. Said it's been undetected for 10 years. Like did the arv start working immediately after she discovered it.
DeleteShiooor😥😥😥😥
My guess is that she disguises it in another container
DeleteWow!this shit is real.madam how come u dint tell Ur hubby u are a carrier? That makes u a dangerous person I must say
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ReplyDeleteAnonymous 14:43: Are you telling us the truth?
Who fathered your kids?
If you are HIV, you are banned from breastfeeding your baby, so what are you talking about?
You are married to a innocent man and hiding your status. How wicked are you?
You should not, under no circumstances, keep secret like this one from your husband.
You are very dishonest, even under anonymity.
My dear, a HIV+ client isn't banned from breastfeeding. Its advised the breastfeed them(provided they are on their meds)
DeleteIt's easy for you to judge. Until you find yourself in similar situations or even worse. I don't pray that for you. My husband fathered my kids. I said I have never had safe sex with him meaning (protective sex)
DeleteYou are allowed to breastfeed your kids but there are precautions you must follow. Who he are but not limited to:
1. You musnt mix feed, meaning not even water would be given to the child apart from the breast milk. And the day you stop breastfeeding and introduce something else, you must not go back.
2. Avoid nipple cracks.
Now when you birth a child as a HIV+ mother your child takes preventative ARVs for the first 6 weeks of their life. It's similar to the one give to victims of rape to prevent the virus getting in to their system just Incase of exposure.
The medications are not as complex as you are all made to believe depending on your regimen. My regimen consist of 3 drugs made into one tablet which is taken one in the morning and one at night.
Most of us take vitamins do your vitamins get investigated?most HIV+ people don't keep their mess in its original bottle they transfer it to another bottle. Say for instance you transfer it to a zinc supplement bottle Abi?
There are a lot of preventative measures you can take to ensure your partner doesn't get infected. If I have been with him for about 11ywars and have never used condom and he is not infected and I have breastfed my kids for 3months exclusively each and they are happy healthy and negative I think what j am doing right should be asked not printing at what I have done wrong.
If I had told him would I have had this beautiful kids I have no? Would I have found the comfort and solace of family and peace ? No!
I may have been somewhere dying as a result of the stigma of my disease and probably committed suicide or died of depression.
I agree it is not proper to have not informed him, but until you have walked in shoes like this you don't know what it is. No member of my family knows this either. Not a single soul and one of my parents is a medical doctor and even him I can't tell what I am suffering. That is the extend of the stigmatization and blame attached to this.
My infection was an unfortunate incident like I said I got infected at 20. While someone easily said 'only God knows what I was doing at 20 that got me infected' well, I was raped.My parents are strict they blamed my rape on my carelessness.
We can all learn from this. Some of you have prayed for my husband to find out, well if he does, he is not under any obligation to be with me. I would apologise and move on free at least from the fear of him finding out Abi?
What you people don't know is that even most of the doctors in Nigeria help you hide your status from your partners cos they are also aware of the damage it causes you and the comfort and healing that home brings to you.
I have never cheated on him, would never do and I worship the ground he walks on.
If he chooses to leave me I can proudly say aside from my misfortune he can never find another woman like me. (He says it himself and those around him to)
May we all find ourselves free from secrets. It is tough, it is hard but not everyone wishes to act a certain way.
Go and read HEAD MASTER's reply anonymous 16:15.
DeleteGo for blood tests please people, if you are unsure of your status.
Anonymous12 August 2016 at 18:15 My heart goes out to you sweetie. I love you, i love ypur courage. You are happy and no one can take your happiness away not even silly comments on this blog. Live your life honey, keep being happy, keep moving forward and may God always help you. Amen...e-hugs...
DeleteYour last paragraph got me! I can't begin to imagine how much effort you're putting into making this work! I can't even begin to comprehend the agony of going through this journey alone without the help of loved ones! But I can say a prayer for you....I pray God orders your steps...I pray he perfects all that concerns you, I pray he gives you his peace! Sending you a BIG barney-like e-hug!
DeleteWow! Ignore the earthly "gods" we have here, who do worse, but pass judgement on others.
DeleteKeep doing all you are doing, that has kept you happy, and your family protected of the virus. I pray God keeps your home and blesses you with a very long and fruitful life. Tell no one, because no one can keep your secret like you can. Stay happy. God bless you.
My sister is hiv positive, diagnosed about 10yrs ago, infected by her husband then fiance it was a hard time she is on her medications,VL undetectable and CD4 not bad but she has been unable to to have a child and very few Fertility centres would take on HIV positive for now i know only one and even at that has to be at a particular time of the year, and they wont freeze eggs so if if it fails you have to try again and start a new cycle. The discrimination is still there. Love her dearly and nothing changed when she was diagnosed i just got more protective of her. Love you sis and i know things would definitely get better for you
ReplyDeleteYour love is the best gift your sister can have right now! Kudos to you! I crave for the day HIV will be treated as common malaria, can't wait for this unnecessary discrimination to stop!
DeleteGo to A good Ivf centre like bridge clinic. Your sis can have a negative baby
DeleteLost 4 people in my family cos of HIV...now I work wt HIV patients. I know they died cos they didn't know their status or refused to take drugs. With ur drugs, u can be as healthy as anybody and live as long as u want. Know ur status, take ur drugs.
ReplyDeleteBtw stella, shots makes it sound like injection. The drugs are in tablet form. Depending on d one u are given, some are just one tablet daily, some one tablet twice daily. There are people wt high blood pressure who take 3 or more tablets everyday. Which is better? Granted, none is good but HIV is not d end of d world. Take ur drugs, live right nd live long.
ReplyDeleteIt's easy for you to judge. Until you find yourself in similar situations or even worse. I don't pray that for you. My husband fathered my kids. I said I have never had safe sex with him meaning (protective sex)
ReplyDeleteYou are allowed to breastfeed your kids but there are precautions you must follow. Who he are but not limited to:
1. You musnt mix feed, meaning not even water would be given to the child apart from the breast milk. And the day you stop breastfeeding and introduce something else, you must not go back.
2. Avoid nipple cracks.
Now when you birth a child as a HIV+ mother your child takes preventative ARVs for the first 6 weeks of their life. It's similar to the one give to victims of rape to prevent the virus getting in to their system just Incase of exposure.
The medications are not as complex as you are all made to believe depending on your regimen. My regimen consist of 3 drugs made into one tablet which is taken one in the morning and one at night.
Most of us take vitamins do your vitamins get investigated?most HIV+ people don't keep their mess in its original bottle they transfer it to another bottle. Say for instance you transfer it to a zinc supplement bottle Abi?
There are a lot of preventative measures you can take to ensure your partner doesn't get infected. If I have been with him for about 11ywars and have never used condom and he is not infected and I have breastfed my kids for 3months exclusively each and they are happy healthy and negative I think what j am doing right should be asked not printing at what I have done wrong.
If I had told him would I have had this beautiful kids I have no? Would I have found the comfort and solace of family and peace ? No!
I may have been somewhere dying as a result of the stigma of my disease and probably committed suicide or died of depression.
I agree it is not proper to have not informed him, but until you have walked in shoes like this you don't know what it is. No member of my family knows this either. Not a single soul and one of my parents is a medical doctor and even him I can't tell what I am suffering. That is the extend of the stigmatization and blame attached to this.
My infection was an unfortunate incident like I said I got infected at 20. While someone easily said 'only God knows what I was doing at 20 that got me infected' well, I was raped. Gang raped by armed robbers who came to my hostel. My parents are strict they blamed my rape on my carelessness.
We can all learn from this. Some of you have prayed for my husband to find out, well if he does, he is not under any obligation to be with me. I would apologise and move on free at least from the fear of him finding out Abi?
What you people don't know is that even most of the doctors in Nigeria help you hide your status from your partners cos they are also aware of the damage it causes you and the comfort and healing that home brings to you.
I have never cheated on him, would never do and I worship the ground he walks on.
If he chooses to leave me I can proudly say aside from my misfortune he can never find another woman like me. (He says it himself and those around him to)
May we all find ourselves free from secrets. It is tough, it is hard but not everyone wishes to act a certain way.
But madam, how are you sure your husband is still negative, does he get tested regularly for you to be sure of his status. If he doesn't know your status, then on what grounds is he getting regular checks. Just curious ni o..
DeleteYou should know by now that there are a lot of ignorant people on this blog so don't take the negative comments to heart.
DeleteWhat matters most is that you have imparted some positive information to someone out there struggling with the "what does my future hold now that i am positive" thought and the secret is between you GOD and your husband so let no man judge you
You sound intelligent and mature and i pray you continue to prosper in all your endeavors
E-hugs
I can feel your fear and pain from here! I pray for the day the discrimination will stop...don't forget that for every one person avoiding you, there are two more people like me willing and ready to share hug with you! Stay positive!
DeleteWaoo madame your rejoinder compelled me to submit under this post,as I find it a very sensitive discourse, so I'd save all I'm curious to know about certain details you've informed here.
DeleteI however hope that someone else who might be reading this, does not try to do the same thing as u, cos they may not be as smart and as carefully lucky as you've been. That it worked for u doesn't mean that it should serve as a template for those who wish to conceal their status from an intending spouse.
It's a very intricate measure that should be guided solely by individual discretion and conscience. I can only wish you well. Godspeed
Sisi Eko thank you.well said.
DeletePlz how did u get a negative husband? You pple didn't go for tests before wedding? Or d Dr covered up for u? Plz reply
DeleteAnonymous 14.43: You said "I have never had safe sex with him"..."I have 4 sons" "I didn't tell him" "My Spouse is negative"...
ReplyDeleteI want to know how you conceived if you never had safe sex with him, and he was/is not aware of your status..... It all seems contradictory. An answer could be worthwhile for other people who do not understand how.
Safe sex means sex with condom. I have never had safe sex with him.
Deletedo u evn kno d meaning of safe sex? it means aving sex wit condoms. so read her statement again, mayb u'll undastand dis tym arnd
DeleteMy dear English is your problem, she has never had safe sex means she has never used a condom with him. So she has been having raw sex which means, she could conceive and her not telling her husband is her business. Is it your marriage? Uche face your work.
DeleteIgnorance is a disease. The Bible says "ye shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free".John 8:32. And the truth was finally taken out. The Devil �� is indeed the ruler of this world. His voice is loud, always suppressing the truth but if you seek, you will find. God is still in control and in the midst of deceit and lies, truth will prevail and God's children will be fine.
ReplyDeleteAv been positive for 6yrs now.got it through a guy that wanted to marry me then.but d guy was falling ill frequently until somone advice us to go for d test n we discovered.he later died after 6mnts anyway,frm d shock n he couldnt take it.have never infected anyone since then.just started d ARV drugs august last year.av been on multivitamins since cos my CD4 Is very high.well am not always happy cos so many sutors dat av been coming my way i keep rejecting them cos dey r Negative n am not happy about it atall.am 26yrs n pple think am proud for refuseing all d men.it is well sha.i bliv God wil c me tru.
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DeleteAmen! Very Educative, stella thanks for putting this up.
ReplyDelete20th December, 2010, met a pretty young woman on a BA London to Lagos flight, eyed her at the lounge but she was totally engrossed in her mag. As fate would have it, we ended up sitting beside each other on the flight, got acquainted, exchanged numbers and all; We were both going home to celebrate Christmas with our folks so we didn't get to see in Lagos but still kept in touch. Fast forward to January 2011, both back to base, we met up a couple of times for drinks and along the line, feelings and emotions got involved. We steadily progressed to house visits and sleep overs but all the while, she never allowed me smash, tried all the gimmicks in the book but nothing happened, she was always super conscious of her privates area. After many days and nights of fruitless efforts, I started acting up but the truth that I couldn't deny was that I was falling hopelessly in love with each passing day. The cycle continued till a day in April which happened to be my birthday.
ReplyDeleteContinue na
DeletePls continue....this might be an eye opener.
DeleteSo what happened on that day in April? I'm curious.
DeleteWas diagnosed 2006 wen pregnant but my ex hus gets sick often and get well inbetween. He tested positive too he started taking his drugs 2006 then am not on drugs for 10yrs of being positive till dis yr Jan wen I kept having diarrhea and since I start my antiretroviral I don't knw wot is diarrhea.though I forget taking my drugs occasional but my Cd4 is going higher now to compare b4 .
ReplyDeleteIt really does pain me when innocent children are born infected. Am not infected but affected cos I have someone living with it. A very innocent person.God hv mercy on all living with it. Please take away the pain and help them to leave normal lives without the stigma and prejudices.protect their secrets. Amen.
ReplyDeleteAmen!
DeleteAmen! That is one of our priorities in our facility, we follow any pregnant woman up with calls and test messages even if she doesn't want to deliver in our place. We make sure the baby gets the necessary attention at birth.
Deletel am 1 of d lucky ones. l lost my 1st husband to aids 15yrs ago. Being negative then and now is still a mystery and a miracle frm God. d doctors cldnt believe it. l did series nd series of tests. fortunately not one of my 2 daughters is infected. He was a good man and provider but he was promiscous. l have been blessed. my daughters re graduates now and l remarried a good faithful man recently.
ReplyDeletehello Stella.....i got addicted to your blog some weeks back and i must say am impressed.While my head spin at WNB and COBV i must say this post has made my Month.
ReplyDeleteTo cut long story short,my kid sis who is a virgin found out on her birthday this year that she is HIV +.(for some doubting thomases,Virgins do exist and how i know ots true is story for another day).
A couple of days back i heard she was so depressed and talking about death.I have sent her the link to this post so that she can reqd testimonies of people living with HIV and living WELl.
My sister is a fashionista and her frequent trips to the Salon brought this upon her.To avoid spreading it shr had resorted to wearing wigs only.
Its good to abstain from sex or use protection but dont neglect sharing sharp objects etc.
She is on ARV now and i escorted her to get her drugs the other day anf My God i saw ovet a hundred people both younh and very old waiting to collect their drugs.
HIV/AIDS is real people and just its hard for them its also hard for the family members to live with the truth.My dad doesnt know till date.
Life is not fair at all,while i have lost body count(not proud of it though) someone that vowed to keep herself is faced with this.
Gods ways are not our ways,he is a merciful God.I pray he visits all those looking upto him for a divine healing.Amen
Stella thanks for this. Want a +ve spouse, but not sure how to go about this. Any group to join? Pls help
ReplyDeleteWhere do u reside?
DeleteASL
DeleteJust recently found out that Canada can reject a person living with HIV and Aids permanent stay on grounds of :excessive demands on health and social services. But those for short stay like the 6 months visa don't have a problem.
ReplyDeletePlease can a person travelling for the 1st time outside Nigeria be deny Visa, if he/she is HIV +ve?
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ReplyDeleteAnonymous 14:43: Are you telling us the truth?
Who fathered your kids?
If you are HIV, you are banned from breastfeeding your baby, so what are you talking about?
You are married to a innocent man and hiding your status. How wicked are you?
You should not, under no circumstances, keep secret like this one from your husband.
You are very dishonest, even under anonymity.
ReplyDeleteSome countries such as China used to do test on people before visa's approval. I don't know whether it is still a perquisite to obtaining a visa as my aunt, a diplomat and HIV was allowed to enter China on a diplomatic mission.
Do check well well, because some do discriminate. They do no want to allow you enter and spread the virus.
I just finished reading all the comments on this post and I must commend you Stella. I feel very sober now, like reading a sad story. I also learnt a lot. Now I will get a pack of needles when next I'm visiting the hairdresser. Also, no sharing of toothbrushes among the kids and any outsider, I will get a pack of toothbrush and keep. Any visitor that comes, I will give one to the person. This will prevent him/her sneaking in to take mine or the kids' to use. I pray my hubby stays faithful.
ReplyDeleteEnter your comment...pls kindly state the procedure for a person who got infected and want to conceive
ReplyDeleteIt's a sad world,this post just got me confused because I am married 2 a +ve man. I found out days b4 our wedding,i chose 2 go on with marrying him. The issues we are having now is based on his promiscuous nature. We are blessed with 2kids. Reading these comments makes me pity him and his state of mind but am tired of his ways
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