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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

CONFUSED BABY MAMA

I must confess you are doing a great job. I am among the millions that read this blog without commenting. Please keep my identity hidden.

Also pardon my English because I didn't  attend Cambridge. And I'm not much of a writer.  Before I proceed,  I know some will judge,  some will say the story ain't real,  while the sensible and mature ones would  give good advice.  I also need your red ink please. And I'll try and summarize.

I'm 28, mother of a 3 year old girl, single and not searching. My baby daddy,  lemme call him *prince, has been a great lover and father. He has protected me and I can confidently say he's got my back. 

 We grew up doors away, in a large compound. though he is ten years older.  So,  both families know each other. Both parents separated. He is the first child. 
We started "touching body" when I was 13.  Like I mentioned before,  we were doors apart.  When I was 14, he left the house. Still the both families were good. The month I became 15 which was also a festive period, I went to meet *prince's dad for Christmas gifts,  he said I should come back.  When I went, the man raped me.

 I didn't know what to do.  I couldn't tell anyone. This is a man I call daddy. I stopped greeting him. And during that period,  my parents were having their issues which my mum decided to leave.  

While the years went,  I dated others and broke up,  then, *prince came back a little loaded and we continued.  When  I saw he was so into me and was planning marriage, I called him and explained why we can't be and what his dad did.  He told me he knows his dad molest girls and protects his,  that younger sister has reported their dad's behavior several times to him,  that their mum couldn't cope with his womanizing nature and left.  

He said when we get to "the bridge" we'll cross it. That's the bridge we are still trying to cross 7 years after revealing the truth to him.  We faced so much challenges,  the father frustrated us and even went around telling who cares to listen that I was his girlfriend and on and on.  The story got to my office,  *prince's office. But he kept encouraging me it will end well. 

 So, I got pregnant,hoping it will cool off stuff but for where? On my baby's  second birthday, the families had a meeting and gave their verdict.  I have gone for deliverance with my girl. Some people that swore during the meeting that over their dead body would they see us marry,  didn't see my daughter's third birthday. I didn't do jazz. The only thing I know how to do well is pray. I can't explain all.  

I have this friend I confide in. A true believer,  single and free. We used to hang out before I got  pregnant.  Even when I had my baby,  he was there.  Let me call him *charming.  *prince and charming have similar nature,  they are both domestically useful,  calm and the list goes on.  Of recent,  we became unnecessary close and started developing emotions for each other. I know *charming is ready to settle down.  And *prince  on the other hand is still trying to make way for me to enter his family as wife.  

Please what should I  do?  

Should I hold on things to  get better with *prince or tag with *charming?

*Prince  rented a two bedroom apartment for me,  far from his family. So I can have peace of mind. And of recent,  has brought the marriage talk again.  

He wants to damn the consequences.

*charming said he doesn't want a sexual relationship with me until married. 
All three of us have good jobs. 
Thanks.

OMG your daughter is so beautiful!!!...if her Father is sticking by you and has been a good man,then stick with him.I dont know how things will turn out but you are hanging with that second guy out of frustration..watch it before you make another mistake...*still thinking about your peculiar situation*

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

LONG DISTANCE HUSBAND

Please advice me cos am going crazy

I got married 3yrs  ago, after my wedding, hubby came up with the travel ish, though i was pregnant then but i lost the pregnancy. My husband traveled out of the country in September 2013 6months after our wedding.
Since then, I've not set my eyes on him.  He's not planing on relocating or inviting me over , though we talk on phone. He doesn't send money to me but keep giving me empty promises. 

Money is not REALLY the problem cos i have a job that pays #15,000 per month, and i don't train anyone. My problem is my marriage. 
I've been in my sister's house since hubby traveled cos i can't maintain the rent for the apartment we stayed in before his travel, even if i can, i don't want to be lonely. 

 I've told him countless time how frustrated i am but he keep on promising. Even his elder sister asked me to tell him to come back that her husband have a good job for him, in case he's not finding things easy there and he doesn't want to let anyone know. 

 i told her to tell him by her self, she said she have done that, but he wouldn't listen. Okay when i asked hubby his reason for refusing his sister's offer,  he said i shouldn't listen to his people cos they want to spoil our marriage. Am really fed up but what can i do. Even my people are worried!   BTW, am 27.
Please advice a sister.

*Ah ah,na wah....Is your husband married abroad?looks like oooooh!!!

Please ask him...not confrontation but ask him to be out with the truth of why he cant relocate back to Nigeria and then you can decide on what to do.