Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives..

He called off the wedding three weeks to the day and now he is what?Hissss!

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

MAKING THE FIRST MOVE

Good day Stella, great job you are doing. God bless you!

Here is my issue, I need advice from you Stella and Bvs.

I met this guy at a function in Enugu, after the event, I went home with my friends (guys). I honestly don't have anything to do with any of them, this guy saw me with them but I left them to stand aside because they were busy greeting people, so he walked up to me and we started talking. 

The more he talked, the more I fell for him, he was my kind of man in fact any girl would love him; he is very smart and handsome, studied at MIT, he is doing well for himself and he is Igbo *love struck *, he told me his full name and it stuck but I told him just my first name.

So I guess out of respect, I didn't give or initiate contact exchange because he felt I was with one of the guys I came with, the event was for 3 days and that was the first day, he told me to please come the next day for the event, I said I wasn't sure but I'll try but I was so busy I couldn't make it to the event the next day and the final day too(I guess that was when we would have exchanged contacts).

Anyway, I haven't forgotten about him since then. I googled him and he is doing amazing things in the US and in Nigeria too, I saw his social media handles and I am tempted to reach out to him. It's been 3months since that event and I can't seem to get him out of my mind because we had a healthy conversation and similar goals in life. Sometimes, I wonder if he thinks about me or looks for ways to reach out to me but I remember telling him just my first name, unlike him, he told me his full name that was why I could google him and saw his social media handles.

So here is my problem: Do I wait to see if we'll meet again in life or reach out to him on his social media handles? 

What should I do? I need to get across to him but I don't want to leave it to fate or should I?
What exactly should I do, I don't want to look like I went hunting for ways to get across to him or look desperate.

Please help me!  Thanks.

*Send him an inbox saying ''hey remember me?we met at  .........''

Tell him you looked for him,nothing wrong in that or you pretend you ran into his name...Good luck.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

DUMPED THREE WEEKS TO THE WEDDING...

Good day Stella,  I'm an ardent reader of your blog, Infact when I became suicidal and depressed it was your blog that uplifted me...

 Lemme go straight to the point, I'll be 21 in a few months time and currently serving my fatherland.. I was supposed to get married the first quarter of this year my then fiance n I got into an heated argument on phone in which we called each other names he started the name calling first, the next day I received a text msg from him that he was calling off the wedding, this was three weeks to my wedding, cards were already printed, we were already announced in church that we were to get married. 

At first I thought it was a joke, one week I didn't hear from either him or his family members, then I went to his base to beg him but he refused made it clear he was no longer interested in marrying me wanted nothing to do with me or my family.... Well Stella it wasn't easy, I couldn't believe a man I trusted could do that we started dating when I was 18, Fast forward to two months after our wedding was to take place he started begging that he over reacted and he has learnt his lesson in the hard way and he couldn't live his life without me. 

I'm confused I have forgiven him and I still love him but my family doesn't want to hear anything about him which I don't blame them because he disrespected them and caused us so much pain and disgrace. 

My question is should I go ahead and marry him without my parents approval sometimes I feel he is using my head because he is over ten years my senior... Did i forget to add that I'm currently serving in his base, I'm scared because none of his family members bothered reaching out to me when he called off the wedding without any cogent reasons. 

Please Stella your red pen is very much needed and appreciated.

*WOW!!...I dont advise you even marrying this man without your family approval,seems he has a temper which was what made him call off the wedding......I think you should tell him to go and make up with your family first and then you can take it up from there.

You sound a little naive,please do not marry him secretly.

Let us know how it goes ..