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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
MARRIED TO A GAY

Dear Mrs. Korkus,

 

After thinking this matter through I have summoned the courage to send this in. I met my husband in February 2012 through a dating site then I was 25 year and just out of a relationship with a cheater who impregnated someone. 

Immediately after meeting him he started talking marriage, looking at his age I come to the conclusion that he must be serious then we started dating. Few months into dating he came to see my parent then after he fixed the wedding in July, my instinct refused to with the wedding so I told him to move it to October but he said no that it must happen in July or no more wedding.

All this while we were dating we never kissed or have S3x  and I said to myself maybe because of he work coz he's in the medical field and always business.
Fast forward to the wedding, after the whole ceremonies and the wedding over no kiss even the priest I noticed did not say you may kiss the Bride and my cousin asked him why he said nothing.

I read lot of WNB here it pains me I don't have any because we slept in different Room that night and the night following it I was untouched. things started going on in my mind and for two weeks he formed busy and did not touch. So I decided to take matter to my hand by going to meet him and I discovered that he doesn't have erection and I asked what is the problem he said it's coz of stress, I kept quiet.

So one Sunday when he was not at home I opened his laptop coz I was feeling lonely and I logged on to his Facebook account, I started reading messages and I got a shocker my husband is a Gay. Stella I wept that how can this happened to me I called him and immediately he got back and carry the laptop and said now that I have discovered I will kill myself. That same night some guys come and i was scared for my life coz they might kill me I was confused and don't know what to do. Several times he has beat me.

Further digging revealed to me that he has being into it for decades from boarding school days then university in UNIZIk where guys do it to themselves. All the "beautiful" guys that are part of the grooms men are gay too. I told my parent, told his sisters and brother.

Even till this very moment we have never kiss, for more than 3 years now no S3x  and he has never suck or press  breast. I have a beautiful daughter anytime I look at her I erase any suicidal thoughts. She is a miracle child cos husband can't ejaculate there was a time he has had to use syringe into pour it inside after masturbation. I read where he was telling a guy that for him to have erection he will imagine having S3x with one of his lovers. 

I see handsome guys around him all the time and he's on dating sites for Gays. He travels every time to Abuja, Port Harcourt etc. I have even seen hotel receipts for lodgement.

Since I married him he doesn't provide for me nor for the child and he come back very late past12am. I enrolled for part-time school to better equip myself for the future. he doesn't pay my fees I had to be begging people. I told him to help me with school fees so I don't drop-out coz the work I do can't pay my fees he said no.

Stella am tired of life. I feel life is unfair to me. I have being struggle from childhood hawking in the market and running after vehicles in traffic to earn some money, even when people told me o can earn more prostituting I said NO. I am the first of seven children going to my parent is to burdened them coz my father is a pensioner.
Writing this brings tears to my eyes because I try not to think about it of  how unfair life has being to me and unlucky I am.

I plan to divorce him after completing my education and move far away where he can't get me. 

I know he'll try to fight for custody of the child. The lawyer friend that was ready to fight my case passed on recently and the other one knows him and refused to take on the case.

These Gay people know people in high places even when I reported to police the last time he beat they did nothing instead  they said I should go home or to give them money to mobilise.

We don't sleep in same room but anytime his away I sneak into his room, I see lubricant gel, condom and naked male photos in his laptop when he didn't carry it some time he'll go with the charger.

So what kind of Marriage are you in and what should we do?why dont you quit and move on?you seem to be just housemates.Discuss this with your family and end that marriage so that you can free him to live his life the way he wants....

Hmmm this kinda brings that celibacy issue to a point where it should be questioned...imagine not knowing becos you want to be celbate until after Marriage and then you find you married a man who married you to hide his sexual preference!...SHEET MEEEN!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

WHEN SELF DESTRUCTIVE MODE IS ACTIVATED

Hello Stella,

Thanks for all the good jobs going on here. Please bear with me because my story is lengthy.

Dear BVS, you can cuss me but please leave an advise for your younger sister.

Few years back, I met this young, cute and down to earth guy when I was just 17 and he was 20, he didn't woo me nor ask me out. We just fell in love; he loves, cares and practically worships me and kiss the ground I walk on. He makes me enjoy so much that I dare not say I need something; he'll sell his things, lie to his parents till he gets the money for me.

 If my boyfriend has #10, I'll collect #9 or sometimes the ten naira itself. He'll cry if I joked about our relationship being over, he walked through the jungle with me, cooks and brings it to my house; if I said I was ill, he'll come and pack my clothes to wash and return them. 

His parents love me to the core, they pamper me but all of a sudden, things changed.

I TURNED INTO A MONSTER!

I disrespect, curse, hit him at any slightest provocation but being the gentleman he is, he'll still beg me, just imagine any worst thing in your head, yes! I did them to him but he is still coping with me. I disgrace him so much, I don't want to remember all the things I have done, it makes me feel like a mistake in his life which I truly am.

Fast forward to this year, I'm 22 and he is 25. My boyfriend has changed, he is sick and tired of my attitude. I keep getting worse day by day, my anger is having its way in my life. He barely calls, he doesn't care anymore if I leave or not, he is just fed up! 

I'm not seeking advice on how to change for good but only seeking for advice on how to stop loving him, I don't deserve him but I love him so much and breath him.

 Please what can I do? 

Since I'm a b*t*h... , he deserves the best and nothing but the best. How can I let him go and face my wretched life? Please  advise me because I don't want to do anything bad to myself. I'm typing this in tears.

Please HELP!!!

*Confused*

Ah ah since he doesnt care anymore why dont you wait a while and see what happens.

I also suggest that you go for help,something is going on with you and you need to find out why you are depressed.You may never get your man back but you need to find out what is happening to you so that you can put a stop to it.people like you end up frustrated and angry at other people,jealous and bitchy for no reason at all.

Find help fast becos you are in a self destructive mode right now and nobody but you can help yourself,if you are sane enough to send in this Chronicle then i say GO GET HELP FAST BEFORE YOU LOSE IT!