Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives..

Why is the hand writing on the wall so difficult for some to read?I just dont get it...Read the hand writing and decide what it is....deal or dont deal biko nu!

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS....

Good day Stella,

I've read so many chronicles that I decided to send mine, I need your candid advice.

I was in a relationship with this guy (guy X), I met him when I was in year one in the university and we were really in love until he started controlling me and making me do things against my will. He controls me to the extent I started feeling like a slave, it continued until I met a childhood friend of mine (guy W) who has always loved me from childhood. 

We became close friends and I opened up to him, he told me to quit the relationship and move on but it was difficult to do that because anytime I tried to quit he (guy X) will start begging....after he left school, he served and got a job.

He stopped calling me for months and we went on a break during that period, I became more close to "guy W" to the extent we started dating. Meanwhile, I've never slept with any one o (was still intact) so when "guy X" found out I was in another relationship, he came back accusing me of cheating on him because we didn't officially break up. I felt guilty and told "guy W" that it was over despite the fact that he was amazing, supportive, caring and he loved me to stupor!

I went back to "guy X" and continued where we stopped, after a while he proposed and I said yes, but the relationship was becoming unbearable for me, he doesn't do anything for me, he complains so much about me and he never forgot my other relationship with "guy W" despite the fact he also had other girls when we were apart. It got to a point he was accusing me of giving my virginity to "guy W" and said the only way I can prove it is by giving him the cookie after so much wahala I decided to give in for peace to reign; I told myself after all "you have accepted to marry him". 

After we collected, (he didn't do much because it was really painful that I insisted I couldn't continue), he was happy I hadn't slept with anyone and promised never to mention "guy W" again.

Months later, "guy W" started calling me and I told him i'll be getting married soon and he wished me well but "guy X" went through my phone and saw that I've been talking to "guy W",  he didn't even ask me anything he bounced on me and gave me the beating of my life and accused me of cheating again though he later apologized and we moved on, three months later he told me it was over and married someone else the next month.

Two months of my heart break,  "guy W" came back and was very supportive, he calls and encourages me and within a month he proposed to me (knowing I've lost my virginity to guy x). He loves me so much that I refused marrying a suitor from UK last year. I became a happy woman again until lately he started behaving funny, any little thing annoys him, he suspects me like mad. 

The latest one is that three weeks, he gave me the beating of my life that left me badly injured all because I was on a call for over an hour (he said I was talking to my lover). He even collected the ring he gave me and told me it's over. After two days of the incident, he came begging, crying and apologizing that it will never happen again and since then he's been nice and calm.

My girl friend advised me to leave him and marry one of the suitors that is asking for my hand in marriage.

I don't understand him anymore nor know what to do but I'm still madly in love with him despite all.

Should I leave or stay since he promised not to lay a finger on me again?

STOP RIGHT THERE...why is everyone beating you and suspecting you?you need to check yourself and the kind of signal you give off....I am not saying beating you is right but some women have a way of provoking the beatings.

you seem to be a flirt,right?

Try to look inside and change what needs to be changed.

Make sure you do not marry any man that lays a finger on you whether you are cheating or not...its not a good sign.

All the best!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
 TRUST ISSUES

Good Day Stella,

Please help me post this. I really need to know if I'm just unduly suspicious or my boyfriend is really cheating on me.

My boyfriend has a side business and he employed someone who markets for him.The lady's name is Joy, I was going through his phone one day when I saw a chat between him and his friend. 

I think it rained that day and his friend told him "not to waste the cold" and he replied that Joy wasn't with him, that if not, he wouldn't have wasted the cold.

That chat made me probe further and I saw a message he sent to this same Joy that "how would you feel if you were the one that saw a woman sitting on my laps?" The lady didn't reply though.

I showed him the chats and challenged him, he swore with heaven and earth that day. He‎ said he couldn't have been dating his employee. Besides, the lady is his friend's ex. He told me not to read meaning to the message.

Few weeks later, we were together and I was going through some pictures on his phone. A message popped up and it read "baby, should I bring spaghetti for your lunch?", from this same lady!

I was calm, showed him the message. He just smiled, called her in my presence and told her not to bother that he was busy. Lol!

I tried as much as possible not to discuss it that day but he brought it up. He gave some stupid explanations saying she calls him her baby so she got used to it. As usual, It's just an innocent message. I got really furious and told him I wanted to quit. In order to prove his point, he drove straight to her place. 

He said he wanted me to even meet the poor girl I had been accusing falsely. I refused to get down from the car because that seemed stupid to me.
He begged and begged, swore with his life and career that he has never cheated on me and wouldn't.

This guy is a lawyer and I know he's really good. Am I over reacting or he's probably lying to me? Could he be cheating on me with this girl? We've been dating for over 2 years now and I know even his ancestors. I've got nothing to loose if I end things with him. I just need other people's views.Thanks

*SMH*

Give yourself sense in Jesus name!...Your boo might not be dating her but he got something with her and thats probably why she got the job.

The facts you presented to us is clear even if someone who is not smart reads it.

Abeg you already know whats up and did you say he IS A LAWYER?I REST MY CASE PLEASE...LMAO!