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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
SINGLE MUM VERSUS SERIAL CHEAT 

Good day Stella,

Thanks for this platform. Please, I want you and your blog visitors to aid me in making this decision.

I'm a 24 year old graduate. I started dating this guy from October 2015. He appeared so nice, encouraging, supporting in all ramifications. He acts as if he is self disciplined, holy and too good to be true but I noticed he has lots of female friends that calls him. He told me they only call him for advice and counselling. The calls reduced with time because I'm always with him as we stay in same town.

He is a team no s3x but we had s3x earlier in the relationship like few times until he said the s3x was affecting his relationship with God. I had to agree, at least it gave me the chance of practicing celibacy. Meanwhile, I abandoned a relationship of 5years I had with my Ex because of this guy for no reason.
We have been together since then but there is a particular girl that comes visiting; the girl gives me attitude whenever she comes. 

She doesn't greet me and I don't greet her either. I complained, he said she is only a friend that I should just ignore. Whenever she comes, they go into the room to talk but I told him to stop it. Only for the girl to come yesterday, the same room discussion happened. I called him to get the girl out to the sitting room to discuss but the girl started laughing, immediately started ranting that they have been dating for over a year and seven months since January last year, that she's been enduring all my excesses.

I was shocked! This was a guy I could vouch for that he was faithful, she said the guy told her also that I was a friend.. 

Hmmn!

 I locked everywhere that no one could leave, I pounced on the guy out of anger. This is someone that forms spirikoko (prayer warrior). Well, I later told the guy to choose between both of us in the girl's presence so we all could move forward. After saying it's was a hot seat for him, he said no one should be angry with him because he didn't know how to handle it that he chose ME, the girl got angry and left.

I've not been my self since then, i still can't deal with the scenario because I never believed that guy will keep such secret for 10 months that we've been dating. He said he never knew why he kept on with her but she knew about me because he told her to move on since but she refused. 

The funny thing is; when I met this guy, he told me he was a virgin that I was the first girl he slept with, he never had s3x with any of his Ex though I never believed him. Only for the girl to say they've been having s3x. Although he had it last with her last year November.

Now, he is begging and telling me he had s3x 5times with the girl, that he had s3x few times only with his Ex too. It's just so shocking! I wonder why so much lies.. It's not like I'm a saint. He said he lied because he wanted to start our relationship on a clean note... 

Seriously, I wish to opt out but he's been begging since, said the girl is aware we're dating but threatened to cause trouble and destroy the relationship and he's so scared to tell me. Choosing me in the girl's presence isn't a guarantee for me taking him back although he has his good sides and moreover, I have a 5year old son he takes as his own too.

Please, Stella and fellow BVs, can i give him another chance?
 Thank you.       

From Confused BV Sophia

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
THE SHOCKER AFTER THE WEDDING

Good day Stella 

Am a regular  visitor of your blog but rarely comment .(Please  hide my email id) because I don't want my husband's family to know am the one that post this..(please I will try to make this story short)

Stella please help me post this where I can get good advice from the BV.

My story goes like this ,I got married this year January but I meet my husband middle of 2015.we did our traditional and white wedding same day.Mind you while dating my husband says no sex because both of us are born again. We went for test but when we reached the lab he refused to do hiv test,said he does not believe in it ,from there I cancelled the marriage.

Later he came back begging me and my family then he agreed to do it ,when the result came out he was negative.But I never knew that this sign is from God for me to back out completely.

We proceed for the marriage ,throughout that day we wedded honestly I was not happy but couldnt say why.After the celebration we went home, they had two buildings so we occupied one .We take our bath and climb the the the bed then hubby said I should sleep that he was very weak.I said ok because I don celibate for more than 6yrs.

Next day he want us to escape it again so I make the move lo and behold his penis cannot erect,to avoid some quarrel that night I shift to the wall and cried my heart to God that night.In the morning he keep on begging me that we will find solution that what he suffers is an attack.

l followed him to one church in Abuja they conducted deliverance for him yet nothing happened.After some weeks I told him we must see a doctor while continuing praying,but he says no way that it  is was an attack I became angry and told him that am leaving after much struggle we see  the doctor then second episode start,when the doctor asked if we are comfortable together he said no that one of us to leave,I just respect the doctor that day,later the doctor called me and said I should be patient that it will be corrected,when we are about to go I heard the doctor telling hubby to continue taking his diabetic drugs religiously in a very low voice ,on hearing this I was very cold .

When I reach home that day I ransacked every corner lo I fined the drugs where he hide it.I google their name it was (glibenclamide and metformin).I was furious that day ,I want to call my family he started begging me and promised to do anything to find the solution,honestly that day I lost every love I had for him.since then i noticed he doesn't want me to go near any of his friend but I keep on asking him to tell me if there is any other secret I should  know but he said no.

One day I saw him rubbing some ointments on his feet I ask what happened to him ,he said he was feeling numbness on it I suggest we see the doctor but he said no that he will be fine.

One Sunday we are in the church,he get up to go and urinates,not up to 2 minutes he ran back and started shouting help help one usher ran to him stella it was convulsion right inside the church.

The convulsion happened repeatedly for more than three times before we reached the hospital.The convulsions even repeated for more than four times  inside the hospital.

The doctors asked me for any history of brain injury I said that i don't know and then his uncle walked in and asked my husband why he didnt me about his Epilepsy .

Jesus I broke in pieces .

I picked my phone and called my elder brother in tears,he consoled me and said I should wait for his reply .Later they organized family meeting and asked me to come back home especially my sister who is a medical doctor.I heard my mother fainted that day ,she called me and said how could I hide such things from her but I told her that they advised me not to bring my family matter outside,she said this one is beyond family.

We did the sperm cells count it was 20% and the doctor also noticed some heart problems with him.

His family including himself are begging me not to go that they will provide solution to him.Please madam Stella ,BV,medical doctors in the house am ready for any insult but hit the hammer on the nails, is there any solution to this mess I found myself?. 

HIAN....This one pass me oooooooh..ha!!!!!!