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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
THREATENED BY MARRIED LOVER
Hi Stella,
I need advice and your red pen for this story.
I am 24years old ,am a graduate and I got a job.
I met this guy after I left a serious relationship in during my it days in school , we were just friends then we started dating(he is married) he has kids.
I love him sincerely because he was always there when I needed a friend, he is practically my best friend, but trouble started when he said he wants me to be his second wife, Stella I no go lie for you from my,for 3 years in sch and till now, he financially takes care of me.
I dont want that kind of life but I have not gotten the courage to let go of him, then I started gaining weight and I lost my self esteem and confidence, I dont even have a boyfriend.
The day I wanted to end the relationship between us, he said he will make me mad, Stella I dont know what to do, I am tired of that life, please I need your advice.
*My dear,i am tongue tied..maybe some commenters can offer you good advice
Hmmmm
ReplyDeleteThat's an empty threat and enough reason to dump his ass, but the again he saves your ass financially and you love him ba? Poor you!
DeleteWell,if you can't be a 2nd wife,leave him and move on with your life.
You're dating a married man and you're also fat... You don't want to be a second wife but you want to be a side chicken you must marry that man oh.. M.U.S.T.
DeleteYou knew he was married but you helped in spending his money. You knew he had kids but you still went ahead to date him. Now, you don't want to be his second wife......... Watch and pray!!
DeleteSenseless girl... U knew he was married already but you still went ahead to date him..
DeleteOh, she is just 24, the confused age of ladies
Poster if you are afraid of loosing him or being z 2nd wife, I think you should be proud telling him you'll be his side chick.
DeleteYou single ladies should stop dating married men for goodness sake. Run when they come to you because in this life,you will reap what you sow...guess you were enjoying his money and now you don't want to be a second wife. Rubbish! Never start what you can't finish!
DeleteServes you right, you must have been dating him before him before you are twenty and now you want to run. when they tell you being an aristo is dangerous you will be swinging your waist calling others jealous
DeleteMy compassionate part will advice you to cut his bluff and run sincerely to Jesus with a broken heart because he's the only one that can save you
Good for u
DeleteThey ll never listen
DeleteWhat were u thinking keeping another woman's husband hostage,my dear thez nothin u sow in dis life, dat u won't reap,if u don't reap it while single,u will reap it when u enter ur own hell fire uu call marriage,if I be the wife na only prayer sef I go use make u mad,gerraout of here biko
DeleteIyeme e , o iyeme , in this life you reap what you sow o...iyeme e o iyeme 🎵...sing along bvs
DeleteU never hala... That madness is coming oh. U idiots that won't leave our husbands alone... Yes I blame the man and maybe he toasted you but you knew he was married and agreed abi? Idiot, if women will support each other and say no to randy wandering dicks then most men will keep it in their pants....I even pray you are a calabar Girl cos na una donate pussy pass. Promiscuous bitches hiding under we know how to look after men pass. LEAVE MARRIED MEN ALONE... Sorry poster we will come visit you in yaba left
DeleteHmmm? Poster you need Jesus.
ReplyDeleteYou no get problem.
Delete1. Become undesirable to him in bed as well as a wood. Make sure he stops enjoying it. If na blow job, make sure ur teeth de scratch am, if na sex no move, no morn, just leave body.
2. Act like u hate his children and say devilish things about them and stylishly paint a picture of how horrible u will be to them and his wife when u become official.
3. Let him catch you doing incantations or juju like things, tie red wrapper for chest, de throw eggs for wall. Or just wake up for night de bite am, de scream, de call witch, de call snake, say mother I cannot do this you have asked from me please, the blood on my hands are too much!!
My sister... If u mean am, the man no go get any business with your whole neighbourhood not to talk of your house.
As for your weight, that one na entirely your problem. If u like no look for gym or weight loss plan na u sabi.
😂😂😂😂😂😂oh my!
Delete@ anon 18:02, I guess you are writing from experience...lol
DeleteI hope it works for the poster...funny!
Kikikikiki these won't work she needs serious prayers some men are dangerous
DeleteYou're sick in the head and I am here to tell you.
ReplyDeleteYou're already mad so I don't know why he wants to increase your mad maybe to finally get you walking around in the market naked.
Silly girl.
You laid your bed, so lie on it.
You have a job at 24 but no you want more. He should even kill you if he wants to. You fell in love with a married man but you won't marry him and be his second wife.
Efulefu.
Hahahaha! Dopple ooo easy na
Delete*madness
DeleteAh ah...
DeleteAin't that a little too much?
Don't go and kill yourself over nothing
Ode!
Lmao
DeleteHe should increase your madness jare
He should kill her if he wants to? Like seriously? U need help asap
DeleteHahaha dopelganger! She needs madness increment
DeleteWetin dey ves u now? Cool down abeg.
DeleteSuliat Adamson Oriyomi of UBA LUTH branch: Madness awaits u. If u don't stop fucking pple's husband, madness will come upon u Insha Allah. U obviously took after ur mother. We don hear Una gist, na so ur mama dry fuck ur sister husband( Kafayat) shameless family of prostitute. Suliat d tailor😝
DeleteBeing in love with a married man/ woman isn't wrong, however acting on those feelings is 51 shades of wrong. Now we are past the blame game and need a way forward... Work on your weight and self esteem... Move away from the city he's in, say you got a job in a far away city and don't tell him you'll be leaving him o. Form busy, and call or text him at night... Sound tired and sleepy... You both will slowly but surely drift apart. Hope this helps
DeleteYou need to beg the wife
ReplyDeletePoster must be a yoruba girl.
DeleteI agree
DeleteThat his statement is enough sign to show he doesn't love you
Deletelool you dont want to be a second wife but you were collecting his money well abi lol
ReplyDeleteSorry dear. I feel this gist is incomplete.
ReplyDeleteDid you know he was married when you started dating him? If yes then sleep on the bed you made.
ReplyDeleteIf not then why didnt you end it since.
Well am sure hes fallen in love with you and cant let you go. If you marry him then you have to hope also his wife doesnt make you mad. You can call his bluff and go to your pastor and confess and all that.
Which pastor? Did pastor follow her to chop money? She must suffer this one alone!
DeleteIf u don't marry him the man will make u go mad, then if u marry him the wife will make u go mad, wahala dey oooo Jesus pls fix it.
DeleteLol! So you came here to reveal yourself I have used your glory to make riches every money your spent from me was from your glory if you decide to end this relationship you will go mad try it and see. Fool!!
DeleteWhat won't I read here...Hahahahahaahaha at
DeleteAnon 17:34.....
You are not serious!...
When you were eating his money and enjoying with him,you didn't ask of our advise...
ReplyDeleteYou see that weight you are gaining,that's your punishment for dating someone's husband for years!...
See,no single young guy will date you talkeless of getting married to a whale!...
You are cursed already!...
Marry him and see what his wife is going through!...
Fool!...
This queen sef , how many mouth u get, u encourage married men to eat outside, no be young girls dem de go eat outside? Now u de cuss ds babe, abeg whr u stand?
DeleteLol@whr u stand?
DeleteThey are yorubas, the poster, d married man, their actions are typical of yoruba people.
Delete"Marry him and see what his wife is going through" hmm... Talking from experience? I knew your marriage isn't all that hence, the bitterness.
DeleteWhat do you mean you started gaining weight and lost self confidence???
ReplyDeleteIf your weight is preventing you from getting a bf
Then cut the carbs and enter the gym...
Some chronicles sha...
Madam poster, you need to run to Jesus, confess your sins and forsake your old ways completely. You will also need to restitute cos there's a legal ground for the enemy in your life. Break up with this man and totally hold on to God. Speak to a genuine Christian filled with wisdom and I trust God to direct you.
DeleteU knew he was married and you carried on? Wow!! Go to God please that's wia your solution lies!!!!!
ReplyDeleteMy dear, you have to be courageous & take a bold step. The ball is in your court. You have enjoyed all he had to offer & be ready to face the consequences that comes with it. Go on your knees, seek Gods mercy & move on with your life. Remember that we are all beautifully & wonderfully made. God help you.
ReplyDeleteanyways i have a way for you to chase him away. tell him you will be his second wife as long as he follows you to a place to swear that he will only be having sex with just you and his wife. that if he sleeps with another woman apart from you 2 he will die. my dear he will run. try it and testify
ReplyDeleteLMAO!!!
DeleteThere is always a solution to every problem.
Jesus Fix it!
ReplyDeleteJesus didn't cause this one. Greed did.
DeletePoster if the man is rich u should marry him. Some second wife are doing better and living better than some women that are their horsebands only wife. Note :make sure he is rich
ReplyDeleteBest advice poster, better to be a second wife to a millionaire than to be an only wife to a church rat, who first wife don epp.
DeleteJames sha...smh
DeleteDnt ever b a second wife oo.. Dnt do it pls... Well except he is a billionaire, if not I repeat abort the mission... Don't do it.
DeleteHian!
ReplyDeleteWell,his wife should intensify prayers so that he'll really make you mad and when you also marry,may your husband take care of a sidechick from her cradle . make you know as e dey be for body.
ReplyDeleteIhe onye choga ka o ga enweta! What one seeks, he findeth!!
ReplyDeleteSince you're fat
Don't have a boyfriend
Have lost your self esteem
And the mofo wants to make u mad
Then what do you do.. be his second wife!!
Abi wetin u wan make i talk again? Should i ask you to pray? First of all start asking God for forgiveness for dating a married man knowingly before you ask Him for his divine help.
I wish you luck in whichever decision you choose to make
You're wikid Becky LOL
DeleteChai. Poster you need Jesus and you need him right now! WT.
ReplyDeleteYour best bet is to quietly relocate and seek spiritual help from a good man of God or counselor. You need fasting and prayers. Make your way right with God and watch your confidence come back with wisdom and peace. Jesus is the answer. You will be in a healthy place and attract healthy people and a healthy relationship. If you can seek a transfer at your place of work do so or start looking for a new job far away and moving your stuff. Start praying and fasting now. Avoid him like a plague. Who knows what the wife will do when she finds out. This whole thing could blow out of proportion and destroy you in the process. Think and act fast.
ReplyDeleteThat one is empty threat,don't mind him if u want to leave him,leave him.
ReplyDeleteIt is pretty simple to me. If he has been taking care of you since school days, I would like to believe that since you knew you would not end up with him, you have been saving a little. Get back on your feet, I am sure you are beautiful, inside and out so be sure to clean up, break up with him (nothing can happen to you, except there is more between you both that meets the eye). I am sure things would fall in to place in due time, just be sure you are in the right place, with the right people, at the right time.
ReplyDeleteKarma is knocking on your door. Why on earth will you be dating a married man to the extent of him wanting you as a second wife? You think he will just let you go after he must have spent a fortune on you? Ready to be a second wife oh expect you want to run mad like he said. You are greedy, if not you won't be doing relationship with a married man because of money.
ReplyDeleteNa u sabi
ReplyDeleteNemesis has caught up wv u. All ds useless gals that wl be befriending married men! Wats d basis of d friendship?,before u ddnt knw it wl lead to dating abi!,mtcheeewww... I pray he actually mks yhu mad.
Poster y are u tired of d life naa? Are u afraid of being mad? Abeg goan marry as second wife oo u don't want to know how his wife felt? U r even lucky it's not d wife that planned making u mad she will not tell u one day u will just start tearing paent n bra on the road. Pele oo
ReplyDeleteYou had the courage to spend his money but none to let go of him right?
ReplyDeleteYou are in for a long ride, just prepare yourself for whatever you see along the line. #Longthroat
If u can date him knowing that he's married , why can't u marry him? My dear , e no good to dey date marry man ooo . If u marry tomorrow babes no go let u be ooo. Na so life be
ReplyDeleteHonestly
DeleteFoolish girl, you chopped his money now you don't want to marry him or go mad. You are sleeping with him so, you are tied to him and his waist.
ReplyDeleteThis is one of the disadvantages of following married men
ReplyDelete@ poster don't be scared... I was dating a juju married man before when I was in school, then he used to give me close to #100,000 every month. One day I was going thru his drawer because hes wife stays in another city and saw the jazz he did with my name tied on a candle with black and white thread. I was scared and show it to him, he apologized that he's friends pushed him to it that I might dupe him... I accepted hes apology because I was enjoying the money but was so scared to sleep in his house
ReplyDeleteLuckily I did not finish school before I met a Londoner that brought me here. Though I nor too sabi book but God bless me with the best figure 8 shape that draws quality men to me. 😁😁😁
DeleteCome back for part 2.
DeleteOh my word!
DeleteGirls are really trying!
Meaning you are still in the relationship or what? Hope you have gone for deliverance to prevent stories that touch. You don't know what he has done to you or what virtues he has stolen from you in the spirit realm.
DeleteComplete d story nah!. Y give us half chop. #Side eyes
DeleteTomorow when u can't give birth, u will be running up n down not knowing u put urself in a bind.
Delete@anon15.16 this ur story is incomplete.
Delete@anonymous 17:04 By Gods grace Im a mum to lovely kids. For God says" I will be merciful to the person I want to be merciful to" That story long time ago when gsm just came to Nigeria.😊
DeleteLady, your tone dosent show any kind of remorse. You think you've eaten your cake and are still having it since you're now married with kids and you stay outside the country.
DeleteYou hurt his wife! And God being just will repay! How and when he chooses to is up to him. Seriously ask him to forgive you for hurting another soul,God is merciful true but he's also just! Selah
Unyime don't mind them ,let them keep deceivin themselves ,many people think being married and having kids mean they have escaped karma,my dear some karma will fall on your kids heads while you watch and weep.
Delete@ uyime please keep quiet.. He was separated from his wife then so Who are you to judge the life I live? I know Im not perfect but before you start judging make sure your hands are clean..😕😕😕😕😕
DeleteAin't you mad already? What kind of madness are u scared of again? .his wife's prayer is already sending you into depression . Mtchewwww
ReplyDeleteHe will make you mad how ? How do u guys get to date stupid men like this eh?Pls tell him that's not the life u want , u need better , u deserve better ! Call his bluff . Get someone you can trust and tell as back up , should u go mad, let the person spill to his wife . Stewpid man!
ReplyDeleteUrban girl
You loved/love him enough for his money and attention but you do not love him enough to be his second wife, right?
ReplyDeleteHmmm. Poster, i think u need Jesus
Talk yo him calmly. There was one proposing to me too.we are cool buddies now.
ReplyDeletePlanning to see movie together soonest
Aunty gwez... How market?
DeleteWith a married man? Something is wrong somewhere.
DeleteWhat saddens my heart is you have no atom of shame or remorse. Instead of looking for your own husband, you wanna be a second wife simply for financial gain and vanity??
ReplyDeleteFor your sake, I sincerely hope that man doesn't succeed in his bid to make you mad!
Next time be a woman of substance and close your legs when you see a married man.
God bless you
What can I say? If you are serious about letting this lifestyle go, then you need a "God-called" Minister of God. You need to give your life to Jesus and you need to trust Him to take care of you.
ReplyDeleteAnd it is not going to be easy.
But if you are serious, and are determined, and want a new and better life, then you need to do this.
God help you.
May the good Lord have mercy on you.
ReplyDeleteSay Amen.
#WhiteDiamondOut
Poster if you dun wanna be his 2nd wife, Tell him you prefer being a proud side chick.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, when you were conveniently enjoying the money .you didn't think about not wanting this kind of life.
ReplyDeleteYou are naive anyways. Won't blame you.
But it's time to dance to the rhythm of the music.
Let those who have experienced this situation give you advice.
Karma loading.......#tufikwa girls of nowadays!!!!
ReplyDeleteMake u run Mad? And you buy that shit? My dear,he is married with kids 4 heaven sake.Thank God u realised u were doing wrong..Y dont u change environment and your number so he cant contact u anymore...Work out of the shitty relationship as fast as u can, so maybe u can meet ur own man...As 4 ur adding weight,that is easy..start working out judiciously...make friends and i bet u...u will regain ur confidence again
ReplyDeleteHahahaha poster dare him but he might harm u, serves u right anyway, marry him n his wife makes life hell for u unless she's yoruba or muslim, turn him down n he makes u mad. Is he from yaraba? Muslim? Cos my ibo brothers ain't that stupid.
ReplyDeleteHahahaha
ReplyDeleteMake you mad for where? All na wash.
Don't let him scare you
He can't do shit.
It's bitches like u ritualist cut off thier breast and dump in the bush,ur p***** don lose alignment
DeleteShut the fuck up and get off my dick!
DeleteHmmm, You see that is where we make the mistake, because he is paying your bills. You mentioned u left a serious relationship!!! wat is wrong with you? Now ur eye don see wetin e dey find. he is simply using u to satisfy his sexual desires, that is if there are no other reasons. Like some one said u need Jesus because u cannot under estimate wat he will do to u. Know ur worth, get ur self confidence or rather build it, detach your self from this man, loose his number and all contact to him and my dear pray...pray u dnt get hurt.
ReplyDeleteLeave married men alone, long throat will not allow u hear.
ReplyDeleteBabes ur cross carry it.I hope he indeed makes u run mad
Agree to marry him, collect enough money to last u at least another year in school in d guise of "wedding planning", den get a correct juju man to mek him get amnesia and forget u. Or alternatively after u have collected enough money, hire some one to kidnap and threaten him with death if he ever threatens u in any way again. Kapish!!!
ReplyDeleteYou go fear advice.
DeletePoster, if you decide to be greedy, just know that ultimately greed will finally be your undoing.
DeleteRecommend a kidnapper
DeleteYou knew he was married, you dont intend been wife no 2,he kept spending on you for 3 years and you kept chopping his money,you lost your self confidence, now you are fat,now you want to do a ben johnson on him.you want to eat your cake and have it at the same time.i have not advice for you abeg.stupid chicks everywhere
ReplyDeleteLord Jesus send help our way. tired of having to spend 1 before another job comes in.show us the way
ReplyDeleteWhat exactly do u want to hear from us. Stop dating him if u dont want to be a second wife.
ReplyDeletemy sister,what were you thinking dating a married man,vanity upon vanity all is vanity.I will not condem you but give your life to Jesus.
ReplyDeletePoster may someone break your parents marriage and u will not find peace in yours as your husband will provide for other girls.when you were enjoying being the other woman u did not call us.You're lazy,eternally stupid.Your type should have been aborted at birth instead of occupying space like this.Please the man should not make you mad cuz u will not feel it he should make maggots climb down your vajay and your boobs swollen with puss while you look for his wife to confess
ReplyDeleteHmm seems you are married to a community penis that takes good care of his side chicks while you beg for 1k for food to eat. Pele. Just swallow ur bile with a jar of honey. Life ain't that frustrating cos ur comment reeks of frustration.
DeleteMad ke???
ReplyDeleteDunno what to tell you oo,..
He's a selfish man to say the least,damn all consequences nd Server all ties with him.
*Faithful bv*
Meet your pastor and confess to him so that he can pray and deliver you from the threat of this man.
ReplyDeleteNa Ojukokoro worry you. U were eating with d devil, na you don dry 🏃. If them advice you that time, you go say dem dey jealous you. Ngwanu you are 🏃
@Stella, please where is mama Nnuku?
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm,dis is serious.
ReplyDeleteMarry him na...when u were chopping money wat were u expecting...
ReplyDeleteDEAR POSTER, I WANT TO ASK YOU VERY IMPORTANT QUESTION. THE DAY YOU MET THIS MAN HE TOLD YOU HE WAS MARRIED AND WITH KIDS AND YOU STILL STAYED PUT. LOVING ANOTHER WOMAN'S HUSBAND CAN YOU IMAGINE. JUST PUT YOURSELF IN THAT WOMAN'S SHOE.
ReplyDeleteTHE FUNNIEST THING WAS THAT WHEN YOU WERE DOWNLOADING HIS MONEY AND EVERYTHING YOU DID NOT SEEK FOR ADVICE, NOW YOU WANT ADVICE. OK HERE IT COMES!
GIVE YOUR LIFE TO JESUS CHRIST, MY OWN CENT
So all this while u have been enjoying his money and preek u didnt need advice now katakata don burst u dey find advice. You must marry o or else u will run mad!
ReplyDeleteBut girl, you chose madness from the beginning! When you seduced another woman's husband what were you expecting; to displace the wife, isn't it? Now your chicken has hatched a viper. See girl, the only way to freedom is repentance and fasting. By so doing, you will be free from the bondage you landed yourself into and also "loose weight"; yes!
ReplyDeleteLol @ your chicken has hatched a viper
DeleteHehehehehehe! Chronicles of a side chick.
ReplyDeleteMadam, just tell him u r tired and if he doesn't let u be, u'll kill him, his wife and kids and nothing will happen.
Be strong jor.
But...
But whah nah...complete it
DeleteHahahaha you wanted to be chopping codedly until he told you he wanted to marry you... and you miraculously became tired of that life...please shift!
ReplyDeleteGirl, if you don't fast seriously; like 3 days or 6-6 for a month or more, be ready to dance awilo naked on the streets. A man who could cheat on his wife for months and years non stop is capable of making you mad; not a veiled threat at all!
ReplyDeleteyea, your market don't land girl. "he's been taking care of me. . .", see how you are talking about another woman's husband? Better start fasting today!
ReplyDeletePoster.you.need.serious.deliverance.because.you.dinned.with.devil.please.find.better.propheti.prayer.church.for.your.deliverance....thank.me.later.............im.classic.qwe.qwe
ReplyDeleteMay God help you
ReplyDeleteYou don go chop bad market choi! You see why I no get liver do married men? Hmmmm will read comment.
ReplyDelete*Spreads mat on the floor and hangs leg on the window*
Wedding night post, you go hang leg ,even for chronicles you still dey hang leg .
DeleteThat leg no dey pain you ? 😳
Never start what you can't finish. It is probably an empty threat. Jesus fix it
ReplyDeleteI don't understand this grammer.
ReplyDeleteKarma dey wait you, you knew he was married with kids yet agreed to date him. No advice for You, You do the crime, you also do the time.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, 1st of all i want to believe it is autocorrect that made you send in this kind of blunder in the name of a chronicle, because you claim you are a graduate. 2ndly, keep consoling yourself that he wants you as second wife, YIMU. Do not pray to God to forgive you and drag yourself out of that mess. what kind of man is he sef talking of striking you mad? A diabolic man? is that whom you have been having an affair with, depriving a wife of her happiness for years? Ask God for forgiveness and protection and get out of that mess. You are talking of boyfriend when you are holding one's husband hostage. SMH FOR YOU.
ReplyDeletePoster he can't do anything. Back it up with prayer and ask God for forgiveness.
ReplyDeleteEnd time chronicles....
ReplyDeletePoster, I can't judge u but what were u thinking of when u were collecting his money?I'm not sure u have ever given us shoki ahh when the going was good, now u need our advice, abeg shift joor we follow u chop the money?
ReplyDeleteYou like shoki
DeleteU want shoki ahn...issokay
DeleteHahahaha. Funny you.
DeleteSeems na the shoki pain you pass.. Lol
DeleteLol, thief...... U wan chop married man shoki aha Han...... lol
Deletei no envy you o, imagine the nonsense man.you sef no try, so you want use and dump the man abi? goodluck.
ReplyDelete
ReplyDeletePost his phone number here for us to call him, if he receive like 2 millions calls a day asking him to forgive you, He will let you go unless you are not ready to go.
nice
Delete
ReplyDeleteTHINK THIS POSTER NEEDS TO LEARN FROM THIS STORY:
A lady (B -pregnant for?) who once had a quarrel with another lady (C) over "a man" told the latter; "you will see" . . . next, as C went to bed, this same lady came in the "dream" and poured "? a basket of ants; soldier ants" on her, she screamed and woke up . . . and the trauma began . . . she was itching allover, gradually she stripped and still itching . . . on and on; she stripped all (including under pants) and went ahead to run out on the streets . . . madness had started . . . all because of "the struggle over a man"; the man was "home and dry". The aggressor (B) quickly moved in and had her baby.
Meanwhile C's family took her to every known witch doctor, spiritualist's temple, "god or men" for cure but nothing came out of it. Then one day, a group of C's schoolmates who were Christians, began to fast and pray for her for 12 days. According to "C",
"A man I did not know came to me and said PEACE . . .LADY C . . .I LOVE YOU . . .I'd never seen such a radiant smile in my life before, his words permeated my very being, I saw the ants crawling away from my skin one after the other, I found out that I was in a garbage heap where I'd run to after I escaped from the treatment facility where I was taken to. Thankfully, I was still wearing the robe, I did not know the man except that he had a pierced hand . . ."
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. (John fourteen vs. twenty seven)
My Dear you are already "MAD". I don't think he can top that again with another madness.
ReplyDeleteCall his bluff and end the relationship.....It has run its course.
I just hope you are ready for war, I don't know what's wrong with all these small small girls poverty stinky people sleeping with other peoples husband all in the name of he is financially there for me. That is the reason why you don't have time to look for your own small boy that will take care of you. May God punish all the side chick wey no dey allow people enjoy their husband.
ReplyDeleteIf you were so unlucky to meet someone like me as the mans wife, I go show you pepper. Do you know what your existence might have caused for the poor woman, most of them doesn't take care of their family at home but will be financing side chick. Borrow some senses o my dear fi oko Oloko sile ki o lo wa tire meaning leave another persons husband alone and look for your own
Spot on
DeleteA lesson for all the greedy girls out there:
ReplyDeleteA lady NYSC member serving in the north tasted and sampled until she got hooked on an alhaji all because of the huge amount of money the young alhaji was doling out (imagine giving a corps member 500k monthly). She was planning to marry him after the service year. The lady had noted that this man always wore a glove in one hand (the left hand). On inquiry, the alhaji told her that his doctor in London told him to wear it so that he does not get a chronic wound infected. In the last month of their service, she visited the man's house for the first time (they've been meeting in a particular hotel all the time). Permit me to quote her verbatim from hence; ". . .He asked if I wanted to see his wound and I said yes. He slowly pulled the glove . . . and I let out a scream . . . I wondered how on earth such aggregation of maggots were in a man's hand and never crawled out. he asked if I loved him and I said yes . . . He told me that I should lick his wound to prove my love . . . and when I declined, he sprayed a bottle of perfume on me and that's all I could remember . . ."
Well lady fi. . .(her name) was met while having maggots coming out of her vagina for 6 long hurtful years. She was so afraid of death that she couldn't believe she will no longer die even after prayers and fasting and she was healed (maggots stopped coming out). She understood from her then Alhaji boyfriend that her death after 7 years was to shore up his wealth for another girl to enjoy since another girl paid with her life for the one she enjoyed during her service year . . .
Ladies, it pays to CLOSE YOUR LEGS!
Jisos, isi ngini? Wailing for my fellow women. Kai
DeleteHa!!!!!
DeleteMake you mad? Did you promised him marriage? Nawah oo
ReplyDeleteWho are all this holier that thous??? Abegi. Dear poster don't mind all this pretenders, most of them have done/are doing worse. He's married abi, just tell him you aren't ready for marriage yet at least till after service. Fizzle out the relationship between your final year and NYSC period, you don't have to ever open your mouth to break up with him the relationahip will break itself. Why are you limiting yourself? You still have alot going for you, NYSC is a great place to mix and mingle. Don't you have friends? start going out! you'll meet a correct guy definitely. Nothing is going to happen, dont mind his threats.
ReplyDeleteWho are all this holier that thous??? Abegi. Dear poster don't mind all this pretenders, most of them have done/are doing worse. He's married abi, just tell him you aren't ready for marriage yet at least till after service. Fizzle out the relationship between your final year and NYSC period, you don't have to ever open your mouth to break up with him the relationahip will break itself. Why are you limiting yourself? You still have alot going for you, NYSC is a great place to mix and mingle. Don't you have friends? start going out! you'll meet a correct guy definitely. Nothing is going to happen, dont mind his threats.
ReplyDeletePoster, you made a mistake dating him in the first place, but no one is perfect. Your best bet, be ready to bear your shame and tell people what is going on, I made that mistake too, when it was time to leave, he threatened me,even had pics and videos of me, i felt like the ground should swallow me. I met a guy who understood me and i had to tell him my pain, he got his friends and they went to have a talk with the guy, he never knew i could open up to anybody, they made him understand if i call him, he should not pick and he should never call me again and that he had better delete all on his phone, no be small matter. The day i saw his missed call, a message came in like 5 mins later like sorry oo, its a mistake. Believe me, get someone you can trust, he would not believe you would tell people, face your challenges and pray. I never believed i could get a guy , went on some crazy escapades, but God overlooked my flaws and sent me a good man. Right now all we are praying for is a better job for him, im happier because i believe in myself more now and realise good things happen when one least expects. Go to God in prayers and open up. When someone points a gun at u, remove their bullet. Silence would kill u, believe me#mytwocents
ReplyDeleteU just said it all
DeleteYou knew he was married and you started a relationship with him, what is now the big deal being the second wife?
ReplyDeleteUseless girl, you will continue to gain more weight and loss more self esteem! The likes of you are among women who continue to condemn men, call them different names and support side chicks fighting the legally married women.
The likes of you are the ones who called married women all sorts of names, advising them to leave their husband when there is a little misunderstanding; whereas, you will be the first to jump in bed with the man when the woman eventually leaves her husband.
I can't believed what i just read. A married man sponsored your education, was taking good care of you. And you never thought of how the man's wife will feel if she finds out.
You will never have peace and forget about how you will search for a perfect man! the worse man among black men shall be your portion. Home wreckers everywhere.
And God will surely judge that adulterous man too.
Easy o Nne, temper justice with mercy. Who are we to condemn, may God forgive her as she turn a new leaf.
DeleteSome ladiesbe be worshiping married men all because of money., and they controlled 70% of their lives. Those dating married men will support and tell her not to worry.
ReplyDeleteA lady left her sugar daddy/married lover and got married to a single guy but a strange sickness called her.
Hustle and make your own money some ladies won't hear but prefer to lie on beds made by someone else.
FEAR has taken over you... chop and clean mouth... hhahahahaahah
Nawa oo
ReplyDeleteBabe don't leave that man.make sure he trains you until you finish school.collect money from him to buy slimming med/join a gym.I am sure you are eating too much cos you are unhappy.when finish school and get a job,gather some elders to go and beg him.Shikena.
ReplyDeleteNa wa. Did you actually read the post? She's a graduate and has a job now so she doesn't need him financially anymore. Read well abeg
DeletePoster when you know u ain't going to marry him, while giving him hope for years, anyway God will fix it for you
ReplyDeleteA lot of you people that comment on this blog are either frustrated, evil hearted, self righteous or have no form of morals at all. Someone is seeking for advice to help her sorry state you guys are busy condemning her the more to make it worse. Tufiakwa. She has done wrong why don't we correct her rather than gloating at her predicament? My dear you don't even need any fasting, just accept Jesus into your life and keep reading the scripture to know about him that's all you need, he is lowly, loving, meek, gentle, does not condemn and most of all he is beautiful. Read about him with your heart and he will lead you ok? I as a female will say to you that I love you as Christ has always loved you, I will not condem you as Christ will never condemn you, no matter what you have done you are still loved so just come into his place of love. Love is all you need because his name is LOVE. As for all of you negative commentators the Lord said he that has no mercy in the time of another's needs shall have no mercy when he's own turn comes. As you can't forgive people's excesses so shall yours not be forgiven. Remember the Lord's Prayer. Remember how many times you should forgive in a day - seven times seventy times, that means people will run out of offending you in one day with all this amount of forgiveness in you. Make una change you hear e no good , the amount of bile that spews with the hateful comments is abhorring to our Lord Jesus. He was never like this to people who did wrong rather he showed them love and it convicted their heart to change. Peace out.
ReplyDeleteMay God bless you abundantly you are one if the few sensible people here your husband or boyfriend is a lucky person I don't know you but am a fan
DeleteIcebag, same love you've extended to this erring lady should be extended to those wishing her harm...some folks here are commenting from a pained heart; either as being victims of a philandering man or have loved ones go through the trauma of a cheating spouse.
DeleteThis lady in my opinion is not really sorry for causing the wife grief, her fear and concern is being a second wife or running mad. This is a selfish way of thinking. True repentance will mean letting go of the man completely...may God have mercy on your soul..
Change your line, block him on every social media forum, relocate even if it is for a short term and ask God for your own husband. Sister,kindly let another woman enjoy her marriage in peace. You have done enough damage already.
ReplyDeleteNne!!! he cant make u mad because he did not create you... stop all communications with him, and start loosing weight to gain ur confidence back.....
ReplyDeletehey Poster,
ReplyDeleteThis is quite unfortunate you put yourself into such situation - you have no excuse whatsoever.
It's obvious you know (from the beginning) that he is married yet you went into a relationship with him and now he wants to seal it (in marriage), you are dragging feet. You are definitely afraid because he said he'll make you mad if you refuse, right?
Well, this is a reflection of the choice you made - deal with it. BTW where were your parents when he saw you through school? You now feel you worth more than a 2nd wife, right? Naaahhhh, you do not or you were thinking you've met a 'maga'? I don't think anyone will kick against your marriage to him.
Enjoy your new home young woman!!
Its well o. Poster turn to God. He alone can fix this.
ReplyDeletePS. I need married friends in Benin city. I'm a married woman with two kids. I feel so alone sometimes cos I'm still new here.
Dear Stella I dunno if this is approval worthy o.
My yoruba married colleague is disturbing me to connect him to one of my single friends #lady. That he needed a friend to always chat with.
ReplyDeleteEven if I'm drunk....
Poster, call his bluff and end it. Nothing will happen.
ReplyDeletePoster, call his bluff and end it. Nothing will happen.
ReplyDeleteI was at Eric Moore Road Surulere last week when I sighted a mad woman coming towards my way performing her talents. Omo I picked race o to avoid story that touches... A policeman standing by noticed what happened bursted out with laughter and asked me why I pick race because of a mad woman that attracted madness upon herself. That the woman was gbenshing one married man, the man opened shop for her at Adeniran Ogunsanya. The affairs graduated from gbenshing to becoming a second wife. The first wife was so bitter and swear that the new wife would never enjoy the so called marriage. She went as far as making her run mad. The lady actually had 2boys for the man o but she remain a mad woman uptill this moment. Her family intervened and got a solution to her illness, which would only be effective outside Lagos but whenever she steps into Lagos, madness will visit her fiam.
ReplyDeletePoster I pray this wouldn't be your portion because women don't laugh with all this young girls that breaks their homes. I suggest you trace your sugar daddys house and have a one on one talk with the wife. Kneel down and beg her, confess and apologise to her and let her know her husbands intention of marrying you as the second wife. If sshe absorbs you, my dear, you are free but never in your life try such act or even encourage anyone to do such. Pray your own guy locate you. AM tired of typing biko.
Ada what did you just say? Some women are evil. This is simply telling her to leave Lagos.Walai
DeleteThank you for your understanding and advise, d best so far.
DeleteDid u ask for Stella or fellow bv's advice before u started dating him? NO. So u know being a second wife can never be in your best interest but you didn't consider his house wife before you made yourself his side chic. Anyways, since you finally asked for advice this is what I think you should do.... If you have educated relatives, 10 or more,send an email to them, copy the man in the mail, explain how he has been nice to you and how he said you will run mad if you refuse his proposal, don't forget to include his contact detail in the mail so your people can know where and how to catch him when you finally run mad. After sending the mail, break up with him and inform him you are waiting for the madness. Call his bluff!!
ReplyDelete*God bless my human angel*
This is a silly advice.
DeleteYou should make him hate you so that he will leave you by himself. Keep your self dirty and unkempt, don't wash down there so it smells really bad, don't make your hair or wear clean clothes when you see him. And above all else, be very lazy and uninteresting in bed! He will run by himself!
ReplyDeleteYou should make him hate you so that he will leave you by himself. Keep your self dirty and unkempt, don't wash down there so it smells really bad, don't make your hair or wear clean clothes when you see him. And above all else, be very lazy and uninteresting in bed! He will run by himself!
ReplyDeleteNIGERIANS ARE SUCH HYPOCRITES. MOST OF THESE WOMEN CRITICIZING YOU ARE EVEN DOING THE SAME THINGS OR EVEN WORSE. COMING HERE ACTING ALL HOLY AND STUFF. WELL, I WOULD ADVICE YOU TO WAIT FOR AN OPPORTUNITY TO END IT. PRAY HE GETS FED UP WITH YOU AND ENDS IT SO THAT YOU WILL NOT BE MAD. COZ THAT THREAT AINT FUNNY. AN OPPORTUNITY WILL COME AND YOU WILL SLIDE EASILY AWAY. DONT BE ANXIOUS AT ALL
ReplyDeleteAll of u b forming as if you r innocent n better Dan her,wen yu all do worse things than her.... Mtchew...Even Jesus never condemned the adulterous woman in d bible...
ReplyDeleteMa advice... Sit him down n make him see reasons why you can't marry him... And dat it doesn't stop you from still being buddies...before doing dat..fast n pray n ask God for forgiveness n to help you soften his heart
But Jesus told the woman not to sin anymore.
DeletePoster, go and watch war room
ReplyDeleteposter I swar ure far better than all these judginas on did blog wet dey tie their husband for bottle... married women prostitutes more than all these single girls..don't listen to dem...just find somebody u can open up to....in short own up to ur mom,auty any family member dey will fight for u...dey can't push u away
ReplyDeleteMake him made before he makes you mad, block your line, stop accepting gifts and cash.
ReplyDeleteDont joke with that threat my dear, he really mean what he said
ReplyDeleteYou don enter. Na you go use your head carry am. you are dating a married man, mchtwwww
ReplyDeletePoster don't marry that man after some years he will get tired of you and get another side chick,na Harvard him sponsor you go abeg make I hear word
ReplyDeleteSome people are harassing the poster calling her husband snatcher pls is the man in question a baby or a dummy dt doesn't have feelings pls married women try and spiceup ur marriage,make ur husband ur paddy, ur husbands might have fuck mates cos men are polygamus in nature but not relationship of training another woman in school,proposing marriage,madams pls make ur homes habitable and reduce ur naging to minimum level to avoid dramas like this,
ReplyDeleteFor the poster if the man is rich, and u love him marry him is not abomination to be a 2nd wife provided u won't live in same house with ur mate, and if u are ready for the war of polygamy, if u don't love him gradually give him attitude that will make him drop u him self, is ur life no1 has the right to judge u bethseba was King David' 3rd wife yet her son King Solomon became the heir to his father's throne.
THE WAY GOD JUDGE IS NOT THE WAY MAN JUDGE. Besides u guys are unofficial married since ur man just want to make it official.