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JILTED BY BAE BUT STILL HOLDING ON...

Hi Stella, I feel awkward as I write this story of mine as I have noticed in the few narratives I have read on this blog that most writers are women. As you already can insinuate I am a guy, 27, civil servant and a fashion entrepreneur.

*GF and I met initially in 2001, we were both in JSS1.

 10 year later, 2011, we started chatting on fb, after a few months we decided to meet and see each other again, that same day (in early 2012) I asked her out and after a few weeks of “toasting” she finally said yes! Few months later, we both left for our NYSC in neighbouring states so distance wasn’t an issue.

Our relationship since 2012 has been full of ups and downs as we fight and make up at intervals but it got worse in 2014 when I left Lagos for Abuja cos of work. The distance caused a lot, our communication wasn’t like before but each time I travel back home, its always like a miracle how we catch up and make out. I love GF like crazy and had made up my mind that she is going to be my wife someday.

2016 and GF started talking seriously about marriage, says she is getting old (26) but I keep telling her to chill and that I have no other plan but to marry her, I was sure she had that confidence too as our both parents met already also, she is talking terms with almost every member of my family (extended inclusive).

GFs bestie had her intro early July 2016, there and then GFs pressure on marriage increased and I sensed some level of impatience so I asked her to give me a few days, and that we will talk about that issue later as I have an important examination to write in the fourth week of July, same week I turned 27.

GF asked about how my exams went and I told her my score as it was a CBT and she called me “efiko”, this happened same week GF forgot my birthday, first time in 4 years; that day, she called at about 6pm to say HBD and I couldn’t hold the tears as I picked the call, that was the moment I realized something was seriously wrong, she apologized and gave excuses but I had no choice, I can’t be angry at my love!

The following week, my sister forwarded a picture she screen- munched from IG, lo and behold, it was a picture uploaded by a make-up artist and the captioned revealed that GF had her intro on Sunday, the same week she forgot my birthday. I was devastated, couldn’t eat nor sleep. I would drink till I vomit, I would form strong during the day and cry like hell at night. I didn’t understand why she would do such to me at a time that we are very fine, she visited during Easter, I visited in June and we got intimate both times.


 I actually told her at a point that we will get married in 2018 as I wanted some things to be in place before we make such an important move so that we can have the kind of future we deserve (a decision I could have considered changing if I knew about her rush), but then what could be her reason not to have told me about her intro? Isn’t that one event that I shouldn’t have missed?

Two days later, I confronted her about the intro pix I saw and she admitted to what she did, we spoke on phone for over two hours, she kept calling, apologizing and crying on phone.

Her reasons: “prophecies” have been coming that we were not meant for each other, prophecies to herself and her mum, prophecies no kukuma come to me as I no believe in such (that’s me tho)

“the pressure” from her mum for her to get married has been overwhelming, she claimed and me kuku never ready.

After a long talk on phone and lots of tears from both ends, she claim she still loves me and wants me to suggest on what we can do to get back to each other  saying she is ready to do anything to have me back. She also claims that she doesn’t love the other guy (who I do not know) and that they met only a few months ago and infact she agreed to the intro only a few days before cos the guy is in a hurry to get married.

My parents and sibling have heard about her intro already, GFs mum doesn’t want me anymore, some of my friends and colleague already know about my heartbreak (cos I noticed the more people I tell, the better I feel) and there is also a “new” guy who (thinks he) is getting married to GF soon.

GF and I have been talking well since her intro, and I suggested she go and see my home church pastor for a start. Truth is, I feel better cos I see and feel hope.

I know I have been jilted, but am I still being stupid?

Remember, my love for GF is endless, I do not want to lose her.

*You are not just stupid,you are foolish as well.
My advice?Forget that girl,she is poison!!!..MOVE ON WITHOUT HER,SHE CANNOT EAT HER CAKE AND HAVE IT.