Who had a confrontation and how did it turn out?
Some people just like this meme,think it is wrong to do a confrontation but you would never know what the right thing to do is until you wear the shoe.
Who has worn the confrontation shoe and how did it play out?
Some people back out after the confrontation,some swear not to let your man/woman go and some relationships break up afterwards ...
What is your take on this?
Who is planning one?
Had one with my ex and it cost my my laptop then because he broke it in a fit of rage
ReplyDeleteMy friend was in the habit of confronting and asserting herself till she met a lady that beat her blue black.
DeleteThe so called fiance took a walk and left them to fight and at some point, she said she had to stylishly end the fight.
Hmm, all the fights were in vain, they didn't get married.
I will not confront any side chic. After all she isn't the one who's cheating on me. I'll simply teach my man a lesson an take a walk. Who has time to receive insult cos of man, Odiegwu.
DeleteOK, I met this guy who was asking me out. I told him we can just be friends, visited him like 3 days after meeting him, we had Sex and no swear it was the bomb. We started dating, I discovered he saved one number as daddy's love on his phone. I asked him if he had a gf, he said no. After much snooping, I discovered he had. I confronted him and he admitted to dating d girl for 3 or 4 years now, meanwhile we just met like 2weeks, I gave him an option of choosing between the both of us and he said he loved me more. Well we re 4 months into the relationship, engaged, introduction done and wedding date fixed. I didn't snatch anybody's boyfriend, did I?
DeleteYou mean "you"
DeleteConfronting a lady over a man sounds barbaric and shows how low of a life one is. Not advisable at all. You've got no business with the lady in question but ur man.
DeleteGod forbid! Me physical combat, I can't even fight over husband self let alone mere boyfriend.
DeleteThe day my Mum And i will have time to write about that lady spending my dad's money on instagram,she will go and hide forever.Tick tock,time Is coming.
DeleteAnon16:31, lol you already know what the outlook of your marriage is looking like, right? . If you have to ask that question then you know you are guilty of something. No you did not snatch but trust and believe that whatever he did to his lady of 3 or 4 yrs, he will do to you. You know what they say: the way you got him is the way you (may) lose him. I'm just saying. You're still in the honeymoon phase. Wait til things start to get real. His true colors will shine through. Don't be a fool.
DeleteAnon 22:11.....keep wasting time until she finished d money or until ur dad makes her wife number 2 inugo!
DeleteWomen especially the married ones confront the women cause they have no true power. What can u do really. You can't hurt the father of your kids. And he can stand his grounds and tell you he owes u no explanation. What will you do then. Women are basically slaves in this life. Wives and sidechicks alike.
DeleteMake i read comments
ReplyDeleteLol... Most times, confronting the side chick works out well and the side chick backs off.
ReplyDeletePersonally, I feel it's wrong to confront the side chick cos she isn't cheating on you, it's your man cheating on you!
Never confronted anyone and never been confronted
DeleteI'm too much of a woman to share
Only average chics share men Lol!
A lady called using ex number in another country to call me, she told me to leave her husband alone that they r married with with 4 children, 2boys n 2 girls,that when she comes to nigeria she will deal with me, ex called back to explain that it's a lie,no marriage or kids between them, when to ex sister meet his brother both said that ex his never married, the length that most girls can go.
DeleteConfrontations solves the case sometimes,bt as for me if i confront you n u dnt back off,I will arrange correct near death beating for you.
ReplyDeleteAfter which am sure when u see my hubby u will run for ur dear life...And as for hubby by d time his wondering dick stops functioning as per using certified African magic from my supplier in ijebu ode, then peace go rain.
No time to have hbp for any man oo
Reign
DeleteCorrect somebody!!!...
DeleteYou knows whatsup nne!...
How many side chicks can you beat? A cheat is a cheat. If you beat the side chick and she backs off, he will pick another one. Chicks full everywhere.
DeleteI can't and would never confront a woman because of a man it's not worth it. If my man is cheating I will confront him. I don't have business with the woman.
ReplyDeleteGbam!
DeleteDated Ade all through University days and even after(7 years),we broke up because he was very very abusive.He tried begging back ,cried,swore not to hurt me again etc,we both went our separate ways.Fast forward to three years after break up.I was around Ade's state and he begged to take me out,I agreed.One thing led to anoda and we gbenshed(just for fun)I was single then and he lied that he had issues with His GF.He called me suddenly that he wasn't feeling well that I refused to come visit him even after I knew he was ill.I decided to go that evening,I called him to tell him i was coming but he refused picking,only to get to his house and find out that the Generator was on.I called his lines,texted ,no answer.I even became scared that maybe something had happened to him so I had to go through the kitchen and lo and behold I found Ade cooking.I entered the house and saw the GF watching a movie ,she was seriously commanding Ade to do this do that,bring my phone for me,meet me in the room etc.Time for introduction reached and she was like "Who is this?I didn't know any of your relative was in PH"Ade replied "oh yea" GF asked "She's your cousin?" I sat down there watching d whole drama. I was stunned,I didn't come there to drag any Prick with her so why d drama?She left,Ade said he was coming that he wanted to escort her,na so I carry my handbag leave the house too.I don't even have feelings for him,why bother fight the Lady cos of him?Ade and I never texted nor called each other since that incidence.I don't have time to fight over a liar.I am engaged to my Boo now.*Side eyes to all the Jamesy family...*
DeleteHmmm! This life is too short to be confronting side boo biko. Just as long as she respects me enuf to be discreet, enjoy una sef.
ReplyDeleteI cannot come and kill myself ontop man matter... Wetin concern me and the babe. I always walk out first. No time to waste time. Onto the next. Maybe because i am yet to find someone worth fighting for... Dem still dey?
ReplyDeleteGod bless you!!!
DeleteAt all oo ...dem don finish for market. I cannot kill myself over any man ..If it's outside ynash u want come and pack your load and be going with ur infected something
DeleteI cannot come and kill myself ontop man matter... Wetin concern me and the babe. I always walk out first. No time to waste time. Onto the next. Maybe because i am yet to find someone worth fighting for... Dem still dey?
ReplyDeleteGbam
DeleteMtcheeeeew.
ReplyDeleteLOL
ReplyDeleteI confronted my ex many times before I ended the relationship, but guess what? Even when the allegations are damn too open to deny, my ex will deny them and even back them up with so many lies and you will be lost maybe he's actually saying the truth, he will make you feel bad for accusing him wrongly.
ReplyDeleteMy ex will lie and he himself will begin to belief in his lies
*Larry was here*
Larry ooooooh
DeleteLwkmd....thank God u ended it
Lol, my ex was like that too, he lies to even himself. If you catch him redhanded he will deny and try to make you look stupid and feel bad with yourself.
DeleteLol, my ex was like that too, he lies to even himself. If you catch him redhanded he will deny and try to make you look stupid and feel bad with yourself.
DeleteThought you were a guy? Are you freaking gay?
DeleteLol...men and lies just like bread n butter , dey go hand in hand
DeleteMe i cant fight, i dnt even hv strength to fight. Nobody has confronted me n i hvnt done so to any one either.
ReplyDeleteWell one is steadily screwing my hubby cos am heavy with pregnancy..she stays alone and hubby fuck her on her bed not even a hotel.dis is my second baby we re expecting and it's a high risk one so hubby doesn't let me do anything..we have a washing machine at home but he takes it to her to wash den bring dem back after 2 days cos hubby won't let me do a thing cos he is scared of losing his child..she keeps sending hubby messages asking y he loves me and not her
ReplyDeleteShe keeps saying she knows he is married but her heart is with him..that whenever he is home he treats her like shit dat she saw his sms of him always transferring money to me but claim der is no money to her..explaining how he fu**ks her on her bed cos she is a mistress..
I feel like confronting her to ask her Wat her end game is! What is her plan? Does hubby tell her dat he will send us away?hubby keeps saying she is just a friend not knowing I've read der chats..ive stopped worrying my head till my baby is here cos even when I told hubby I will confront her he said I should go ahead..i just tire..hubby is a nice guy but this particular woman is graduating making me lose it for him
As in some Nigerian women never seem to baffle me. See as u seem to b ok with it. Na really i must marry. The woman owes u nothung my dear. If u want to confront anyone, its ur hubby u should have an issue with and not her ehn. He took a vow with u. Not her. Get ur priorities right hun.
DeleteConfront ur horseband.....but wait till u put to bed.
DeleteLeave the side side alone
Hay God. This is terrible. I can't even imagine how you feel. Heavily pregnant and going through this. Please try and stay sane remove it from your mind and focus on giving birth to your bundle of joy. Listen to God's word and gospel songs. Put all your faith in God. Just believe that God is in control. Lara George has some really amazing uplifting gospel songs. It is well
DeleteReceive sense!
DeleteWow , ur non-chalancy is amazing. Ur hubby isn't a nice guy , and you should put ur feet down and not take shit from him , he has no fear & respect for you his wife . Rather unfortunate
DeleteMe wey my body dey hot me for this kind issue, I for Don confront am o, belle or not.
DeleteMadam endure the cheating or walk away. Simple. High risk pregnancy! So cos of high risk pregnancy my hubby will start sleeping around. Issokay. He will tell me whether it's not his baby I'm carrying. Jehova u know kwa that I will never condone cheating. NEVER.
DeleteLook @ how u blamed the side chick.....and justified ur husbands cheating tufiakwa. .......High risk pregnancy u can't use washing machine hmmmm so u can't also employ some one that can come in twice a week to help u @ home b4 u put to bath? With little as 8 r 10k u will get someone. I pity 4 u & ur hubby smh
DeleteMadam quit the pity party, if your hubby is screwing a side chick without protection you stand the risk of being infected and infecting your unborn child. He is not doing it because of your high risk pregnancy but becos he does not love you enough to be faithful, get some brain cell and a pair of running shoes and run.
DeleteOmg you are such a dummy. So the day your "hubby" comes back home to fuck you, after knowing fully well that he's having an affair outside (and seeming very ok with it) with an STD she has probably given him, you'll be lying on the bed legs wide open like open arms ready to embrace him and his infected dick, abi? Please receive sense! How can some women be so stupid? All in the name being able to say "my hubby" and forming "Mrs. Somebody". Smh. I pity you and the girl cuz he's playing both of ya'll, not just her but you as well. Be smart pls.
DeleteAs for me, am team tame your dog bc u won't be able to confront all. That's my take on this.
ReplyDeleteNmasinachi abeg come gist is about d wife wey was pour u end your sisters acid.Na dat same one wey u remove her number for her hubby phone come dey threaten am with wi
DeleteAny sane correct woman don't have to confront any motherfucker!...
ReplyDeleteJust do your underground job and you are good to go!...
I guess the underground job will be to tame the man?
DeleteQueen am sure u did one 2 ur horseband cos he keep behavin lik a Mumu.
DeleteElixir Ray,
DeleteTame my man?...for what?...
Na the girl abeg...
Lol Tame which side chic Linda Eze? Toothless ekuuke!! Its only SDK Bvs u can fool with dis your online alter ego, we dat know u in real life know dat u are nothing but a TIMID ILLITERATE HOUSEWIFE!! LOL. I pity u dear. Your husband is seriously dealing with you and u come here to find solace by yarning dust!!
DeleteIf i hear another pim from you, mvoo gi ike na dis blog!! I ll disgrace you here if u don't stop insulting people.... uchicha mmili... onye ala odeekpe!!
Kwakwakwakwa...
DeleteYou have finally gotten my attention cos that word mvoo gi Ike made me laugh so hard!...
Lwkmd!...
Anonymous,if you don't do it ifere gi!...As for the insults,na now the thing go triple sef...
I am daring you now!...do your worst!...
Disgrace me you bastard that can't even fight with a name...
Make sure the nyash you are opening is not forged!...idiot !!!!...
Nmasinachi abeg come gist is about d wife wey was pour u end your sisters acid.Na dat same one wey u remove her number for her hubby phone come dey threaten am with wi
Delete@ Anonymous 18:12
DeleteI haven't stopped laughing. My God! Biko voo the ike, Biko! Uchicha mmili... I'm sure you are from Anambra. I just love you!
...say na the girl chase your horseband?
DeleteKikikikiki.chai anonymous18:21 take am easy.
DeleteMadam queen of the blog, u really make me laff. People that will and can even do underground work no go even talk. No be only ijebu-ode, na okija. Odi ezigbo egwu!
DeleteI don't v time to fight ova a dick
ReplyDeleteOne isale eko girl dat was my exboyfriend's ex, was threaten me dat I should leave her ex alone, dat she can't get ova him cus he fucks and sucks her wella, which is true dat dude can suck pussy for africa, wld be licking as if his life depends on it. I wasn't even ready to marry d dude, he is Muslim and am christain, and mnt ready to figt ddirty with an isale eko chick, heard dey fight with razor blade and cut can slice ur breast or nipple off.
I just free d dude, warnedhim not to call me again, abeg pussy suckers plenty jare, d dude refuse to go, even after 7years, still stalk me, says my pussy taste good and my skin is like butter.
I Can't Stoop low to fight for a man ooo! Ko jor
After 7yrs? Jeeze babe!
DeleteHow old are u? @anon 14:05
DeleteKrix via iPhone 6s Gold
Danm bitch, after 7 yrs y'all still sucking dick and eating pussy, how old are you now?
DeleteLet the delusional minds begin
ReplyDelete#Listen without defending; speak without offending*
ReplyDeleteI have never confronted a woman over something like this. Even when a girl calls my bf and I accuse me of cheating, he will give me phone and tell me to talk to the person and see for myself and even if I'm convinced within me that he's lying, I never call her. Am I mad? Am I a lowlife? Am I shameless? I have no relationship with d lady whatsoever, she owes me nothing. My boyfriend on d other hand...... Women that confront babes and sidechicks are nothing but shameless pigs.
ReplyDeleteAnd u can't make ur point without calling ur fellow women names?? U re d shameless pig..anupam
Delete@tush baby, I see u are one of the pigs that go after the sidechicks ur randy husband or boyfriend is fucking. Tueh!
DeleteTush baby are you from kogi state?
DeleteAnon 00:46,what has Kogi got to do with this?
DeleteLet me read comments
ReplyDeleteThere are lotsa women here that are well versed in the art of confronting and dealing with side chicks..
ReplyDeleteYou've got the floor ladies..
I don't have strength to confront or fight for any man, they should fight for me.
ReplyDeleteHi Stella, I can't believe in my wildest imagination people can come into your life and mess it up.i met this guy on SnM last year things were going smoothly visited him thrice since we don't stay in the Same state. We were planning marriage for this year.all of a sudden he started demanding I give pregnant first. started diff drama and excuses.i decided I he takes me for medical checkup when we both went for our summer in the USA to be sure am good if that was is fear.which we did and the dr said there's nothing wrong with me and I shouldn't come back to him until we have lived together for aleast six month he just prescribed folic acid and that was it...hmmmn my mind was clear. The drama continued fa.inshort the thing now is that he said he doesn't want to see me or talk to me anymore started making excuses that I am too forward blabla.all called everyone to ask him what exactly but he said he was done.stella I am pained to the marrow just to think God finally heard my prayers and now for the first time I feel like a failure... As anyone ever gone thru disappointments I need my ways to get outta of this mess asap.thanks
ReplyDeleteYou get time follow useless guy go doctor,a man that loves you will never ask you to get pregnant before marriage, I am telling you now that your husband will come on the 22nd of August 2016 and he will love you so much you will shed tears of overwhelming joy,get good war films,home videos to watch ok.
DeleteYoruba people cannot spell to save their lives. Why use 'as' in place of 'has'? What did the letter 'h' to do you? That's probably the reason he dumped your illitrate ass.
DeleteAnon 17:30 please prophecy into my life also , I wish to be married this year.
DeleteThank you...pray for me
DeleteAnon 14:25
DeleteYou could have gotten pregnant for him and he still might have left you which is even worse than this, then your cry will turn to two so just keep giving GOD the Glory for delivering you from a bigger embarrassment...
Channel your energy into productive things, work, go out, hang out with friends and have fun.
Guys like that always come back begging for your attention when they see you have moved on and doing well.
Your own Saturday of Joy will come ok?
Marriage is turn by turn Nigeria enterprises
Please prophesy to my life too..I wish to be married this year o
DeleteThat's what you get for acting desperate. Stop acting desperate and you'll see God's plans fall in place for you. Stop acting desperate Nigerian women, abeg!
Delete*grabs sofa*
ReplyDeleteDamn, its torn...... Grabs stool instead.
Saw the text clearly on his fone where a girl was so happy when he informed her he'll be in town when she comes around for her sisters POP. Confronted him, he said I was just being stupid and that he dsnt blame me but blames my "half education" (Was a diploma holder at that time). Chai see insult! He dint knw I was half educated when he decided to put a ring on it? So painful! Unfortunately for him I found out that he actually dated the girl when she came to serve in that state (we live in different parts of the country due to his work) though he "claimed" they never had sex ( as if it justifies anything, mtscheww). 5yrs later, I feel so heartbroken each time I remember that statement and that my OWN HUSBAND could insult me over my diploma, so painful! To even think I was right when I confronted him, mtcheww. Well, I went back to school and came out with a 2:1... guess the joke's on him now!
DeleteAnon, I'm glad you made yourself proud. Yes, the joke's on him!
DeleteEndure.......is ur cross, carry it happily
DeleteI have never been confronted by any woman, I guess I'm a very obedient side chic *smiles* #ourmannotyourman
ReplyDeleteKarma is a Bitch get ready to feel the pain when your future hubby abandons you for a side chick bit*h.
DeleteYea. That's what stinky hoes say to pacify themselves. While they're licking their wounds in a corner. If you're that good, then why do u always end up on the side? Not good enough for "wife-ing" ?
DeleteI used to be a side chic to a guy who spent quite a lot on me and strangely enough, adored his chic and could kiss the ground she walks upon.
He was so into me (or so I thought) whenever she was out of town (she worked in the UK) but the moment she's back? Everything fizzles out in seconds. No calls, nothing.
I asked him about it once and he said "do you want the truth?" I said yes. And he said
" you are a great girl, young,fresh , smart,lovely body and all but I love my girl and you're nothing like her.
I love and respect her so much and the only reason I'm with you is cos I don't wanna be running around town with different girls when she's away and a man needs some company.
Truth is.... Sex with you is good and I can afford to keep you, so why not?
Just so we are clear, that's what it is. Just sex !"
There I was, already falling in love and imagining ways the babe would get out of the picture for me to be with him.
His sincerity broke me to pieces but I later on appreciated that he could be that sincere with me. I had been with him for 3 years and I thought I was his "IT" girl.
So sweetie, I'm not judging you. I can totally relate but in the end, men will always be men and as a side chic, that just what u are. A puss. I felt like a really stinky hoe and decided I could do better.
#GOFIGURE#
#yesiknowitsanepistle#
Nmasinachi abeg come gist is about d wife wey was pour u end your sisters acid.Na dat same one wey u remove her number for her hubby phone come dey threaten am with wi
DeleteWow at mamacita.. Was once in your shoes o.. But I didn't wait three whole years.. Mine was 7 months... It was painful.. But I had to give myself brain.. And I let go.. Deleted him from my life. I couldn't settle for the Second position.. You know the "so if she wasn't there"
DeleteI was so heart broken..
I still miss him though...
Mamacita, you sound like a very intelligent young lady and I enjoyed reading your epistle.
DeleteI am glad you moved on from that situationship.
I know that feeling coz i was once almost nearly about to be side chic-ed but as a Queen, i knew it wasn't possible.
If i am not number one, then it has to be a higher position and nothing less.
Well, we came to an agreement that everybody should bear their father's name and life is so sweet without complications.
He eventually realized he lost a gem and has been on my case for years...
Me that was doing eenie minnie miney mo for who to agree to marry from correct suitors before settling with the bone of my bones (GOD bless you for me my DH)
No time for time wasters
Never done that. Never will.
ReplyDeleteNever done that. Never will. Or should I never say never?
ReplyDeleteI moved recently to ph after my wedding,
ReplyDeleteSo theres this beautiful 50ish woman that is very active in my new parish, is hard not to notice her cos she has more than half of her face and hand covered with burn scars... I always wondered what happened to her cos she seems really nice n from her dressing and her neat skin you can tell that shes rich.
So last weekend i met an amebo woman who gave me a break down while we cleaned the church, the story...
The scars are not from fire like i thought but acid burns, heard this happened about 10years ago in this ph(i guess some people must have heard) anyways, the gist is that she was married to a rich oil company worker who was a serious womanizer, the woman was enjoying money and chasing small girls upandan
Then came this serious side chic that refused to be chased, madam gathered her friends and they blocked the girl in rumuibekwe road, jumped down from their SUV and gave her group beating while telling everybody that cared to know that shes a husband snatcher. She was finally saved n rushed to a nearby hospital.
Nobody saw her again in her neighbourhood maybe cos of the shame n embarassment.
Few months later, the woman that beat her up was attacked in front of her childrens school as she was dropping them off to school, she poured her acid on the face and disappeared till date.
Her husband took her abroad for treatment and finally left her with her scarred face. I learnt he still provides for her as mother of his kids but they are divorced. Dont know if oga has remarried o, but madam is alone with scars and sidechic might be in togo or anywhere in the world.
I dont know how true this story is as the source is not entirely trustworthy to me but people that grew up in ph should help us confirm this gist.
Whatever the case, we should be very careful.
Watch your back, cos he that tells you about others will definitely tell others about you. Run while you still can
DeleteNawa oooh
DeleteLies!...
DeleteI don't believe this story!...
Na Swag LaFresh hand work be that "acid" she dey Benin, Adesuwa street, off Sapele road
DeleteWho I wan confront ?
ReplyDeleteAm alway on my lane 100%
I dnt bliv in confronting any babes bcoz le boo might even gbadun her more dan I. So y waste ur time
ReplyDeleteConfrontation???where's the energy and time Lol not in ds my one life. There are other better ways to go about ths things...
ReplyDeleteThe third party doesn't need to be confronted at all.
ReplyDeleteStella i don't confront i cheat back.In fact i don't keep only one man.My heart has been broken so no more loyalty infact as we chat i tell all of them d same thing.so i feel even.so no time for confrontation
ReplyDeleteExactly. You cheat on me, I cheat back. My husband should better be careful once I'm married, cos if he cheats on me, there's a good chance that I'd cheat back without remorse and he will never catch me. I don tey for d cheating game
DeleteCorrect girl!...
DeleteHubby cheated on me. Not only cheated but broke my heart into a million pieces. After self-pity I looked at myself , loved myself some more and then got myself a younger man who adores me. Equation balanced!
DeleteThree bitches!!
DeleteThe fool traveled a far distance to see how I look and maybe harass me,bt she was intimidated by my personality,all she kept yelling was"pls excuse us,i want to fuck my bf" I never said a word,my silence drove her crazy so she started scattering d guys place..her attitude pissed d guy off which led to their brkup and our official dating..(i can never confront a gal cuz I heard my guy is al over her,if u got a problem in ur rship,fix it nd don't involve a 3rd party)..lovely weekend y'all
ReplyDeleteYou knew he had a gf, because you you felt you had class and personality you destroyed the relationship abi? You will reap it in 100 folds. Devil.
DeleteHahahahaha
DeleteBack in the university, I went to visit my boyfriend as of that time, now ex, and a girl was in his house. Boy i was so livid with anger but kept my cool. I asked who she is and where he waswas and she said he went out to get something. Well I decided to wait for him. I told her I was his friend. I went to the sitting room and was watching a movie, then went to the kitchen and took from the food she cooked. She kept looking at me and wondering the effrontery I had but I didn't mind.
ReplyDeleteWhen the boyfriend came back, he was shocked because he had no idea I was coming. I just kept quiet and kept watching my movie. He came I to the sitting room begging and saying it's not what it looks like and I'm like ah hun, tell me what it looks like and what it isn't.. By this time the girl noticed I wasn't just his friend and started flaring up and wanting to cause issues..
Before I knew what was happening, she had giving him some deafening slaps and I kept watching my movie. He kept saying sorry, but you have to leave and she was like why should I be the one to leave, why not her, she has to leave, blah blah blah. I just left them in the sitting room and went to the room, told the boyfriend I want a quiet place so he should sort this thru while I stay in the room. He later got her to leave and after 1hr of making sure she had gone and not saying a word to the boyfriend, i stood up and left and that was the end of the relationship.
I gave never had to fight with a girl or a man over his cheating ways, I know what I can condone and what I can't and cheating isn't one of them..
I have told hubby the day he cheats, I won't even shout, scream or make noise, I'll up and leave with the kids and he will be miserable. He knows I can do it. So its either he isn't cheating or he can hide it well and doesn't out any emotions to it as dude is home all the time except for work hours.. But I think my husband is more scared that I'll cheat on him tho
Your husband is scared that you will cheat on him ? That your husband must be a puppy. Imagine
DeleteLol I love this girl! This is exactly me. Won't confront anybody, my silence will make u receive brain by force. And if u refuse, i'll end the relationship nd move on! There is more where u came from. Oshisco
DeleteBadass...lol
DeleteSomething like this happened to my brother's friend in Enugu
DeleteFool fool fool....your husband doesn't go out except to work,he's always home. Wise up biko. My cousin has been dating a married man like that for 7years now.his wife will never believe her husband is cheating cos he never goes out....but the man is just too clever,he has his ways,serious relationship faa,the side-chick even has a 3yrs old boy with him and he sees them everyday.mumu wife. Dey there dey trust man say he never goes out,you be fool.
DeleteHmmm your narrative reminds me of my own incident that happened many years ago before I got hooked.
DeleteI was in college and I was dating this police officer dude in Minnesota. Hmmm. We had a schedule. Which was that I was always with him when he was off duty. I would go to his house to cook his African stew for him cos he loved it. He was Igbo.. very disciplined and brash. (I mentioned his tribe for a reason) Infact, he thought me the little igbo I know today. He like playing Osadebe or whatever that famous musician. Lol. Anyway we had our little thing going smoothly.
When he wasn't working, we would hang out at the bar and retire to his home to watch movies etc. So I was used to our "me time" thingy. I had a general rule throughout my dating years, I would never go to a man's house unannounced or uninvited. Never. So guys I dated knew this about me, and perhaps took advantage of my principle. Didn't care, long as I don't know what u are up to, na u sabi.
So this day, I don't know whether to say it was God or the devil at work. My dude told me he was working that Friday night, but somehow, I didn't believe him. It was very much unlike me bcos I never used to doubt anything he told me. So I decided to play detective. Don't forget, I was dealing with a cop here. So I had to be tactful
That's how I carried my kelukelu car from my house, which was some 10mins drive from his. I hit the road and drove round the block of his house, making sure I didn't drive in front where he could easily sight me if he was home.
Lo and behold, from a distance I saw his living room light was on. An indication that brother man was home. Hmmm, first I was angry becos I knew he was up to no good, otherwise, why did he lie he was going to work? I strategically pulled my car over adjacent to his house where I could get a clear view. In my mind I was like, today na today.
After about 30mins or so, I saw him pull over at his garage. Apparently he wasn't home, he quickly stepped out but came back ACCOMPANIED by one lady like that. Ewooo.. I started to palpitate. Thinking of what to do next, because I knew once they entered the house, there was no way I could get in to catch him red handed, and he'd deny I ever saw him. So I rushed my car and drove like a mad woman, pulled over behind his car before he could get a chance to shut the garage door.
I stormed out of the car and I was like, Waooo wassup with you? He was startled if course, and I heard him mumble something like "wtf"?. He was speechless, the long looking lady was dumbfounded too and didn't seem to understand the mini drama that was about to unfold....
Continued..
DeleteSo When he eventually got himself together, he was like, "hey what u doing out, it's 1-am". I was like, "I'm here for u of course"...and he goes..."well, I gat company". I answered... "oh I can see that Jim, so who is she"? He answered.. "my friend".
Meanwhile I had seen the lady's face before in one of the gatherings I attended with him. They have this igbo community thing they used to do in Minnesota then, so that was where I saw her face before. And I assume one of his people must-have introduced them.
OK, show time.. the trouble started when he made for the door and I also wanted to follow them inside. Ahahah.. na so the man take stop begin look. He asked if I was inviting myself in, I said yes of course, dude, you're gonna have to lay both of us tonight o, cos I ain't going nowhere. Then his fierce face enveloped him, a side of him I had never seen before. Omo, see man see gun for him side pocket. That was when I remembered I was dealing with a police man.
In my mind I was like, na school dem send me come this place come do o, how e go be if they hear say police take anger shoot me becos of man matter? I started to retreat small small, forming, I'm the bigger girl and won't make u choose btw us.
But I didn't leave without a question, the answer he gave me kept resounding in my head all through my 'spinster hood'.. and that made me swear I'd never put myself in a position where I'll leave a man to choose btw me and another female. The answer he gave me when I insisted on entering with them was, "girl, I invited her but not you.. tonight, don't make me do this to you. Meaning, respect yourself. That was how I stylishly formed anger and crawled off like a snake. Needless to say, I was beyond hurt. I felt little, I was upset at myself for obeying the voice that pushed me out that night to be ridiculed by this idiot.
I cried, couldn't sleep for days. Bought liquor that I don't normally drink and I gulped it all, still the pain wouldn't go away. Of course he called me the morning after. Are u mad? After you've satisfied yourself? And guess what the mumu said? He said he made her leave just after I left because he didn't feel good again. Ahahah.. if I hear. But I played him back.. story for another day. Anyway na my own gist be that.
How can I proof read this epistle? Biko skip any errors jare.
OK bye
Awwwww..... Sisi... Pele dear. Glad it's all in the past now.
Delete@ Sisi...awwwwww, nice piece. Wanted seeing another to be cont'd...lol
DeleteThanks for sharing your past, the bottom line is Always Trust your Instinct.
Sisi Eko, sorry I am laughing but this gist is just hilarious.Lol @ crawled off like a snake.
DeleteTrue talk... Why confront the side chick when the horseband is the one to blame 😃
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ReplyDeleteInspiring. Shame on him
DeleteHmmmmmm. I was on my own jeje then one babe sent me a message after series of calls to leave her boo alone. I just said ok cos I didn't have the energy for nonsense. Didn't bother to know who she was referring to as "her" boyfriend. The next thing the madam sent me a long story of her life text message. Threating to make my life miserable.....I ignored then she started calling again and I ignored she sent series of text message telling me how she and the guy made love...she's taking him back from me.I ignored my dear Stella the babe started calling my mother and sisters oh. My boo kuku know how crazy I am I found out everything about this madam and took police to arrest her for the threats she was made to write a statement and pay police.....as if that wasn't enough she came to my office and started ranting oh shouting oh.. I pretended she was my friend and told them she has partial madness n.a. so my office motor carry her go psychiatric. Hahaha she still worry sometimes she but e don reduce now.
ReplyDeleteThen leave her man for her alone naa? Are you that desperate? That's how you people go about destroying other people's relationships.
DeleteLoooool Babe!! Are u the side chick?
DeleteBooboo kitty I am not... infact I don't even have a boo. But I can relate to what she's saying. That is how desperate gwegs will do anything to destroy other people's relationships and it's not good.
DeleteThis is my situation right now... Am so confused I don't knw what to do... I snooped and found out he is cheating with like 4 different women... I quietly copied their numbers and sent the naked pictures I found to my phone.. Now I can't divorce cos I have a 4 months old baby.. Even though am hurt and broken .. I have decided to stay till my baby is at least a year old. It's just 3 years of marriage .and I can't even tell anyone the type of heartache am going through . I think I should add his girlfriends on whatapp and create a group introducing them to each other.. I don't even have the strength to curse anyone out. So I will just arrange for them to know they are related.. Cos one man is screwing the four of them.. 2 out of the girls knows he is married. I don't even knw why I sent the nude pics to my phone ! Am confused and pained.. I need a friend! I need a shoulder to cry on. Help !as for the fuck boy of a husband! I have been giving him the cold treatment.. I don't know how to handle this situation ...I need advice.
ReplyDeleteCheat back with a rich married dude, trust me, you'll feel better, you won't even care if ur husband cheats anymore, it could be karma visiting you so shut up n leave or stay.
DeleteDon't leave your home because of the women. He is just shagging them. The only thing you shld b worried about is catching STD
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DeleteSince you have their nude pictures,send it to them via whatsapp and threaten them to back off or else you will put it on the internet...
Secondly,you need to chain your husband's spirit!...don't ask me how it's been done!...
Better don't kill yourself.
DeleteWhat of me that I have my husband's sex tape with 2 different girls? One was made like 20 days before our wedding.
His face is showing wella sef as he bangs them left, right and centre....
I have it saved. It's not just men that can be cold and calculating. It will come in handy someday....
Create a whatsapp group and introduce them, simple
DeleteWow, anony 18.14,you are a strong woman.
DeleteSome women deserve kidnapping or acid poured on them. No need of confrontation.
DeleteCreate the group chat and tell them about it.
DeleteNote however that it can go two ways;
1. The girls would feel remorseful and back down or
2. The girls would report you to your hubby and he would turn it against you and accuse you of invading his privacy.
The second option is most likely to happen.
I know this is not what you want to hear, but the only person you should be talking to is your hubby right now.
See I'm dating a married guy. Yes.
Actually dating 2 married guys.
I have no love for either of them.
One of them claims to love me and wants me as his second wife but that can't happen in this world or the next.
I am only with them because of the sex. They serve as a reboud for me.
The second guy has another girl he sleeps with. We talk about it and I honestly don't care enough to be jealous. We are more like two friends who shags.
I hope you get the point I'm trying to make?
Sometimes cheating doesn't mean your hubby doesn't love you.
Yes I know that sounds very stupid.
But it's the fact!
Take it from a girl who dates married men.It most times mean he doesn'tfear you enough or respect you enough.
Now if his wife decides to confront me, I would leave him alone.
But guess what would happen? He would get another girl in a few weeks. And this time he would be more careful so he doesn't get caught.
My point is, confrontation might not go the way you expect.
Most times when a guy has more than one side chick, he only wants sex.
The woman who should be scared is the one whose husband is focused on one girl. Like the first guy I talked about.
So talk to your husband.
He is a philandering piece of shit like 90% of the men out there.
But talk to him and let him see your pain. And trust me you would be grateful for it.
Another option is to kick him out and divorce him.
If and when I do get married and my husband cheats, I would divorce him and get all his money.
Don't hit me with that karma shit.
If karma wasn't a bitch, good girls wouldn't end up with such cheating bastards as husbands.
Wow anon 05:22 I enjoyed ur story. Wat u said is so true. Most times its the second option that happens. That's the perfect example of a woman using her 2 hands to destroy her own home.
DeleteAnonymous 05:22.... I love you!!! And the sincerity of the truth u spoke. God bless u
Delete@whirlwind
DeleteWhat else will I do na? I don't have any option but to be strong. I was busy keeping myself decent and working my butt off and he was busy making amateur sex tapes and doing big boy upandan thanks to his well paying but flexible job.
And I found out he does weed too.
I wish I could just do away with him. And never have to deal with any man ever again.
Confront who kwanu?i'm bigger than shit.Any relationship that will make me think of confronting another woman is not worth it.it means he doesn't have any atom of respect for me.i'm either in or out.
ReplyDeleteIf I'm married,I can't even confront a side chick,i'l deal with my squarely.sometimes confrontation comes out well,other times it's a disaster.
mine was a subtle confrontation,back in 2012 i had this 5000k credit on my phone thanks to etisalat, my ex bf of 5yrs used most of it in calling his side chick ,but told me she was his cousin. na so the babe start to call mine line o say she wan talk to bf o, i did my investigations like FBI and found out he was actually dating her. the calls became too constant o nd i stylishly asked her if she was dating bf, na so the babe hiss off fone for my ear, i was embarrassed but i loved this guy too much to believe he was cheating. i dumped his sorry ass jare.... love hasnt found me since then. God i still dey look you o.
ReplyDeleteI'm thinking of confronting that babe chisom in law school to leave my boyfriend alone or I might just kill her instead. Lots help me
ReplyDeletePour her acid na I know the girl she's fair and tall.ashawo..destroy that face let me know how she will mess up again.
DeleteKill her for what?...
DeleteIs the man married to you?...dude is still single remember and he might end up not getting married to any of you..get a side bobo too...
I confronted my former boss when his work harrassment became too much. I lectured him on how to manage his staff. But I made sure I was ready to resign though I hadn't gotten another job but the harrassment was too much I was sliding into depression. I made him know his method was bullish.
ReplyDeleteI took it up to his supervisor and he was marveled. He had to apologize.
I resigned and I got another job recently but it sales and I know I will get another administration based job with time.
Kisses my darling. Any office harassment bullshit to them. He only owns your office desk and pay under him. He does not own your time and destiny
DeleteNo need to confront the stupid woman,yes only a really stupid woman will be in a relationship as a side chick.im a capricorn my ways of handling such issues leave my enemy shocked,broken and very powerless.Lol
ReplyDeleteNo man is worth fighting for. Watever he can do, I can tripple it. #strollsaway
ReplyDeleteI have never confronted any one, I pray I would not have any cause to do so.
ReplyDeleteI have never confronted any one, I pray I would not have any cause to do so.
ReplyDeleteNo cock will ever make Steffy stoop so low as to confront another bitch. What for na? I love Lee boo like madt and if he can't keep his sweet sexxy ass cock together that's his business. I can't come and go and die ontop person cock biko. Amma just press the next button and move on. Life is too short to be fighting over a piece of cock when there are a lot of cocks all over the world.
ReplyDeleteOk when my husband and i were dating, we had a fight and we were on a break, we had not even gotten back together. na so one chic called me one day, she didn't have the balls to really say what she wanted so she hung up after some time. after some time she called me again and was like "Hi, this is ---- right " and i confirmed, then she said " this is ------ and I'm the one fucking ----" i said oh ok, and then she said you're in my way i need you leave the way for me, again i said ok. i called hubby(my then ex) and told him to go and warn his girlfriends to leave me alone. apparently he figured out who it must be and he did. it didn't end there o. unfortunately for her hubby and i got back together and like two weeks after we got back we were in the living room and na so one madam walked in, i looked up and said hello she said hello and went to sit. my hubby asked her what are you doing here and she said you've not been picking my calls and i decided to come, hubby said if i didn't pick your calls it means i don't want to see you and it seems you don't like to respect yourself. in all this, i just sudden day watch tv, it took everything i had in me not to burst out laughing when she and hubby started talking, i was just amused. when she started talking i immediately recognized her voice as the same person that had been calling me. i just kept quiet and watched drama unfold. she waited a few minutes and then left. she never called nor came again.
ReplyDeleteBiko what audacity....you hubby does not respect you o!! Side chick even know your address??
Delete18:18, they were still dating then oooo
DeleteNtoooor @ anon 18:18!u will remain anonimous side chick
DeleteHmmmm! From your story, your husband has one or more side chics till now.
DeleteYou seem to know how to handle it well though... More power to your omorogun
Before I got married, there is this guy that I met in a club. We clubbed together for sometimes thereafter. Out of the blues, a girl called me and 'leave my guy alone' I was shocked as I be omojeje. I don't even like girl n boy drama. Na so I dey think, who be the guy?! She then mentioned the first letter of his name. I just dey laf. In all honesty, I did not intend dating the guy but we just cool when we go clubbing n all that.na so the girl begin dey call me, abuse me, begin dey swear for her generation (not me) and all that! I asked the guy to warn her to leave me alone oh but the foolish girl no gree. Early morning, swear, curse etc.my friends said I shld ignore her. Even when I asked the guy to stop calling me n all that, the guy no gree n most times stalk me up to the club.
ReplyDeleteLong story short, the girl did her checks n reported me to my boss!!!!!!!! WTFFF!!!. I was damn mad! I didn't even tell the guy again I just called him to block me for a joint. We drove in his car to a point and I asked him to stop n that I wan fuck him. His body just dey shake like jellyfish! I sha fucked him and called the girl that I don finally fuck yur boyfriend ohh. She wan go mad!! The bitch go dey cry on phone. #youpushedmebitch.
The guy wan come collect there after, I told him never and that if not for your foolish gf, I wldnt have done it. #idontneedyourdick the guy shock. Long story short, na the girl taya last last. If you reading this bitch, dont kill yourself over the guy, na street boy.
Anyways, confrontation cld birth different pikins. You can never tell which kain. As for me, I will drag my dh by the dick and not the side bitches cos, na side bitch you go forever be, you wnt graduate to his main chick! I don't have time for local trouble abeg!
Sorry for d epistle!
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DeleteOk clap for yourself....olobo ten kobo..osho free hoe. You
DeleteJust gave out your dignity for free. The wife didn't lose anything. You are the loser here.
Oh I love you 😂😂. To you calling her osho free.... you need help.
DeleteRoselyn Udoh Roseology,diaris god ooo!U wey no fit marry after dat your Lebanese adventure n abortion,we dey keep your chair for aunt gwegs association
DeleteLove u to pieces
DeleteAnonymous 7.47, did you read that I wrote 'before I got married'? Well, I am not the Rosslyn Udoh you know and I m not Udoh and I no even know any lebanese so I will pardon you for you think am someone else!
DeleteAnonymous 21.18, is it your Obo?
Love yu too Asoge n anonymous 5.30.
well I am not good with confrontation o....I rather just take necessary decisions and move on..
ReplyDeleteI keep telling Leboo that I cant fight a babe over him..gat too much to handle in this life already so cant add that
My hubby cheated n I found out. The lady told him to send 500k or else she'll tell me n he did. I pretended I didn't know.
ReplyDeleteOne day,we went for an event organised by a guy in my state. There I met my governor. I jejely walked up to an Aide of his n told him that I wanted to commend the Gov for his giant strides. He took me to Gov n I flattered him n told him I LOVED his administration style n everything. I stylishly got his card n that was that. I forgot abt my hubby's cheating n made heaps of dough from Mr Gov.
Kwakwakwakwa...
DeleteSharp woman!...
Governor sleeping with a married woman?
DeleteI hope he hasn't used your Aisiki
Nigerian politicians cannot be trusted
I can't confront a side chick, if the person I'm dating is not yet my husband.
ReplyDeleteBut I think if I'm married, I'll confront both the lady and my husband ...
Sabo, how are you? 😆
DeleteBaby girl , I'm great. Thanks
DeleteTrust you are good
That anon who found her husband cheating with 4women and needs a friend to talk to can text me. +821021545917
ReplyDeleteHian!!!
DeleteOk na home mender on call osheeee
DeleteOk na home mender on call osheeee
DeleteHome mender on call osheeee
DeleteOk na home mender on call osheeee
DeleteThis one happened a long time ago. I was at home with my ex when a lady walked in. He introduced us. He told me she was his cousin, he told herthat I was his cousin's friend. The babe called me the next day to confirm some things. We found out that the fuckboy lied to the both of us. We planned for him. Long story short, he received a very good beating from our boys and me and the babe are good friends even as im talking now
ReplyDeleteI can never confront o
ReplyDeleteUnless he is cheating with my sister or best friend someone who owes me. If not i find out you are cheating i jejely excuse you. My Ex cheated and infact i no sabi anything was going round until someone informed me anonymously guess it was d girls boyfriend.
I had evidence etc right in front of me, i first went to his facebook acct and saw incriminating msgs plus the pictures, tickets, receipts and chats sent to me. After then i called him and just asked who is so and so he begin stammer. Just told him its over we lived in diff countries he flew in two days later still dey lie didnt know all d evidence i had just asked to see his passport even the dates tallied . That was the darkest period of my life!! meanwhile da side chick was busy asking ppl about me etc i knew what she looked like where she worked i guess i was just obssessed with knowing who ds was. Anyway moved on fast forward a ,couple of yrs we end up in same company,she was one of the ppl my colleague was eager to introduce me to, i just smiled like i was meeting her for the first time in my life. I sha no fit talk everything. We talk when absolutely necessary but we aint friends i am married with a set of twins she still single, i hope she aint still busy side chicking but aint my biz.
Pls who knows how I can spy on my hubby's whatsapp without him knowing.He locks his phone steady
ReplyDeleteYou are looking for hypertension abi?
DeleteYour gut instincts are right, just let it go biko
There are some apps u can buy and download to his phone. ..it's not free though.....these apps transfer his messages to u once he is chatting....
DeleteYoung babes,pls learn from my story. I hate confrontation. Not because I'm not vocal,but because the fear of Yoruba girls is the beginning of wisdom!! They fight dirty. I visited my bf(now my husband) without an invite. He wasn't home,but I met a lady in his house. I walked in,and she began interrogation. Na so I begin lie. Told her bf was my area big brother. She became relaxed and friendly. Time to go,i stood up,and gave the girl,the real truth. Na so I pick race without looking back,left her in tears.
ReplyDeleteFinally, my bf and I got married. I married him cos I wanted to be,the last babe standing. (my regrets). I come from an elite family, so I didn't marry him for money. My husband is still a due hard womaniser, and me,a badass silent killer. Visited him at his base,found out he has a live-in-lover. I knocked,she opened,both were shocked to see me. I dropped my bag,went to a joint to have a drink. Came back,babe don disappear.My husband was just shaking like jellyfish. I didn't talk about it till date. My marriage is 17yrs to the glory of God. My husband tells people,i don't lovee him. That,i may likely kill him. Why? I have sworn to silence. I got a good job,beautiful and intelligent kids, wonderful siblings, and great friends. Pls tell me,why will I kill myself over expired prick biko? Na Yoruba prick sef. Dear young BVs,silence is a KILLER....you get all the attention when you act like mumu. Cos nobody knows your next move. Side chics are just for fucking,and if they decide to be wifed,no wahala. I have gained an extra maid..lmao
Your story is so inspiring!
DeleteLove ya
Love you bigger,Anon 13:27
DeleteYou should not have married a Yoruba prick. You should have stuck with and married an Igbo satan, because now your children are also Yoruba pricks.
ReplyDelete**Applaud** well said anon 07:24. You should have left the Yoruba prick for a dirty- fighting- Yoruba girl.
DeleteAnon07:24,read between the lines of you are intelligent. I never referred to any tribe as "Satan ". You are filled with hate and bitterness. Purge yourself, hon. Yeah!!if I wasn't silly, trying to be the last babe standing, I will go for an Igbo bro.Mu beautiful kids are wonderful Yoruba children,will never deny that. They are the envy of other children :grandchildren. As per a great effect of Godly igbo blood...lmao. Oh Bae,i'm a very PROUD igbo woman,and I flaunt my heritage.
DeleteBack to the story, silence is a killer!! Will never trade words nor be confrontational over prick? Mba nu.
They can't control themselves and stay away from Yoruba men. If they are as nasty as you say then stay away from them because you were not forced. Who no like better thing... you swarm around Yoruba men because they are better than your Igbo satans.
ReplyDeleteAnon 11:08. Read her story wella. Take to the lesson. Abeg leave Satan. Abi you be Satan mama? Abi Satan don fuck you before? People like you make dem insult we Yoruba babes. I'm a Yoruba babe,i took what is of interest, and left the one wey I no like. Lesson learnt madam Igbo. God bless your home, iyawo Yoruba
DeleteYoruba demon, igbo satan why you dey vex for igbo satan.
ReplyDeleteThat was how my ex married his side chick after i was faithful to him for 2 years. The girl knew about me and played the patient calm girl game with him, when ever i call, she will give him the phone and say ur gf is calling and leave the room for him for privacy sake(well so he told me). So me i was the nagging one that will complain and ask why is this girl always calling n he will lie that the girl is disturbing him bla blabla. I never confronted her but she got pregnant and he married her while i was busy fucking with condom. Anyway it hurt me so bad and i wondered how a girl will know that someone is in a relationship and still shook head. I left him and moved on and even forgave him cus i believe in destiny. The koko is that today, he doesn't want to let me rest, he's toasting me like hes never had me before, he wants us to travel, have fun, come and spend the weekend in my house and all that but i can't bring my self so low to do that. My friend told me it's pay back time for his wife, that all what she did to me i should do back by taking her man's time and all that but i just can't, I'm not even tempted to. I strongly believe in respecting people's relationship, he made his choice so let him stick to it, you can't eat ur cake and have it. As for his wife,like Mrs Obama said, ''when they go low, you go high''.
ReplyDeleteFast forward today i met a guy i really like but guess what? I asked if he has a gf, he said his gf is in America and doesnt want anything to do with Nigeria. I like him so much but i have to let go cus when i remember how that girl stole my man and how i felt, i just couldn't do same to someone else. My friend said i'm being too good that All is fair in love and war but i'm so emotional that i put people's feelings first before mine. I believe in that saying, '' Do unto others what you will like them to do to you''. I'm going to tell the guy to stop calling me today, it's hard to let go but I still can't see my self stealing someone's man. God please help me to find mine
Thats how i found my fiance has been f***ing one babe since last year. even brings her home. i went through his phone, saw all her naked pics on there including videos of her pleasuring herself... smh i was so ashamed. i actually took her number from his phone was tempted to call and speak to her, but i asked myself "pls whats my business with this one am sure she was on her own when my he-goat of a boyfriend started disturbing her" na that day i know say i be werey.
ReplyDeletei poured water on him and he woke up. he was so shocked. i showed him all the messages and pictures. he was so ashamed kept begging and crying. the anger in me, i would have stabbed him.
i have forgiven but i can never forget and i can never trust him no morw.
anyway long story shirt, i will never stoop low to confront any side chic . my business is with the man who cant control himself.