RE - A Memo To Ladies...

A memo to LADIES WAS POSTED YESTERDAY and i asked anyone who wanted to reply to mail me...
Well the poster has got mail indeed!..LOL
Even BV The Atheist replied..but i will post other replies in the comment section so as not to make the actual post too long.

REPLY 1

Please help me post this reply to the man that wrote a memo to ladies about cheating.

Dear Mister, while reading your piece and taking note of your points, one thing shone through and that is selfishness, intense and unbridled selfishness. Your mindset and outlook on life is so self-absorbed that it is sad, people like you are what is wrong with the world.

There is a percentage of men that don't cheat and do you know why? its because they have self control and actually respect the vows they made before God. why cant you be one of these? are you trying to say you are a lesser animal who responds only to his primal needs and gives no thought whatsoever to consequences?

Please, do pray tell, what do you define as responsible? Are you aware your responsibilities to your wife doesn't end in finances, being faithful to her and being committed to her happiness is one of the paramount marks of a responsible man. 

It irks me greatly when i see people that reason like you, maybe because i have seen firsthand the devastation cheating has caused to some homes. When i was younger, i had a very close friend whose dad cheated on her mum and contacted HIV, he eventually infected his wife with the HIV too. In a few years, it was full blown AIDS,  first the man died and then his wife died a while after, leaving 3 little kids behind. The kids practically became destitutes, nobody wanted to associate with them, friends and family ran off,they had to stop school and take up menial jobs just to survive.

 This isn't home video, i know these people. That's a whole family ruined all because of one man's selfishness. So, can we call that man responsible? No, i didn't think so.

You talked about one of the reasons a man cheats being pregnancy stress. Please, who got her pregnant? Me? If God could open your eyes to see the pain and discomfort women go through just to birth a child,maybe you will stop sounding so self-centered. The least you could do for her at this time is be her strength and support but as usual, you are only concerned about YOU,YOU AND YOU!

I hate to break it to you but you have no inkling as to what love is. The term is as far from you as the east is far from the west. LOVE IS NOT SELFISH. if you have a bible, read what Paul said in Corinthians about love. If you loved your wife, you wouldn't indulge in things that you know would devastate her if she finds out, you would protect your marriage fervently. But i do not totally blame you, I attribute some of the blame to a society that has made it okay for people to live without the fear of God and now openly celebrates wrongdoings. 

You gave an example about pastors that cheat,you are just trying to console yourself because for a true Christian,Jesus is the standard,not a pastor. This is not to dissuade you from cheating, cheat by all means but know that, one day, you will stand before your maker and give an account of your life, please ensure you print those your cheating points on an A4 paper then and present to Him to defend why you slept with strange women and rubbished the marital vows you made before Him.

P.S- You are not smarter than the men who have gotten STDs and HIV, every dog has its day.Nuff said!

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REPLY 2

Dear Poster,

I read your post and I smiled. There is something you said which is very true 'men are polygamous in nature'. Another of your comment  that got me was ''please stop getting bothered if your hubby has a sidechic". This begs the question, poster will you honestly be 'unbothered' if your wife had a Sideboo and still gave you 100% attention?. 

Allow me to borrow the words of a BV(Bv Blackberry) from the comment section ''Oga you will be shocked to know what your innocent wife does behind your back, una think say una get sense?"

You talked about reduced libido when a man sleeps with one lady for so long? 

Do you honestly believe woman enjoy riding only one D*** for so long? Or you think we also don't like variety like you Men do? To be honest with you,  women have their sexual fantasy which some Husbands like you cannot satisfy them with but yet some women endure this. Women also like to be pleasured with different styles and not just one regular,consistent and boring 'pounding' with no freestyle and efforts from you. Google and find out the statistics, a woman's sexual libido is higher than that of Men.

You say you love your wife and still cheat on her, how is that even possible? I dont 'Gerrit'.  The truth is, the primary cause of Infidelity is GREED. A man or woman who cheats on their spouse is greedy and nothing you do for them is enough for them. People need to learn how to be content. Sex is not Food. Poster I can assure you that, you cannot have one side chic because eventually you will get bored of her and find another fantasy. Some wives cheat too but but are way smarter than men in hiding it.

 To women and Men that snoop, you are just giving yourself unneccessary High BP. I understand a woman's body changes after child birth but we women sometimes are not even helping ourselves. Childbirth is no excuse not to look sexy. Omo forget that thing, workout, eat healthy and dress decent and sexy for your husband and  people to admire and complement you. 'I am Married' is not a reason NOT To bring your sex game.

To the cheating Spouse (man or woman), I know you like egusi,ewedu, nsala,onugbu etc soups and you are tired of having ogbono soup in the bedroom everynight. That 'thing' you are collecting outside, teach your spouse how you want it and how it should be 'served'. If you like to hang one leg up, to be spanked or cry sef, TEACH HIM/HER. Its a gradual process but they will learn.

To the Poster, infidelity is not a Man thing, its a Man/Woman thing. It works both ways.the love and wealth you claim you give to your wife cannot equate with the hurt she feels if she finds out your 'sexcapades'.

 It takes a Man who is self disciplined to do the right thing.

Thank you stella for your time.

Dee

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REPLY 3

‘’You cannot win the battle because your grandmothers didn’t”

My grandmother didn’t win the battle because she didn’t try, she didn’t know what exactly she was fighting for, she didn’t know her worth and even if she did, men like you probably talked her into low self esteem  with phrases like “men are polygamous in nature”

Men are not polygamous in nature, men CHOOSE to be polygamous in nature because they realize that can eat their cake and have it.

“Responsible men are not men who do not cheat on their wives but men who their family is first”….

How can you use the word “responsible” and “cheat” in the same sentence?

According to you, it means that ” a responsible man is a man who takes care of his family and cheats on his wife” does that sound  right to you? How can you claim to love and respect a woman and then cheat on her? Where exactly is the love and respect?

Let me tell you this, the moment you start having side chicks, you have given that lady the license to disrespect your wife, that’s why you see a lot of side chicks these days going after married woman and people wonder why they have the guts to do such, that’s because the man gave her the right to do so. Some even disrespect the woman more by getting pregnant, once that happens what exactly is the difference between the side chick and the wife? You’re both sleeping with the same man, both have his kids, he now has a responsibility to both women, how is that not disrespectful, where exactly is the love and respect in this? 

You say you cheat and hide it from your wife but tell me this, the day she finds out that her so called responsible and respectful husband is cheating on her, is there going to be a smile on her face?

 Is she going to welcome you with open arms? Are the words that would run through her mind be ”responsible, loving, caring, respectful husband” or is all that she’s going to feel betrayal ,unhappiness, hurt, hate, disrespect. Do you think she would remember that you are a “responsible” man at that time?

Maybe if men start putting themselves in women’s shoes , maybe just maybe you would stop with the men are polygamous in the nature. What even pains me most is that they have brainwashed a lot of women  into believing  it that ladies don’t even want to settle for the right man anymore, they just want any man and these same ladies that believe this phrase will still go and fight side chicks.

This would stop when women realize that they also have a purpose on earth and that having a man and getting married is not all what you were created to do. Ladies ask yourselves this…. What is your purpose in life? Does fulfilment begin and end with getting married and having kids? Do you deserve happiness or do you want to live the rest of your life been disrespected, trampled on, beaten, unhappy?

Our grandmothers and mothers stayed in their homes for so called security and what the society would say and where she would start from and most importantly for their children (that would eventually grow up and leave her) and then she’s back at square one but instead of that child to grow up and say I saw the pain in my mother’s eyes and I never want to see it in my wife’s eyes, he would rather say she lost the battle because men are polygamous in nature not that his father was selfish''.....