Omugwo Chronicles -21

Hmmm a husband who does Omugwo is rare!

Greetings Stella, 

        This is my experience, I relocated to a different part of the world 

( Austria) last year In order to reunite with my husband.  I already had a 3 yr old Son and 6 Months preggo! Stella i dof hat for you, as it`s so lonely here, nobody to relate with, just on your own. 

A month to my due date, All preparations for my new bundle of joy were made. Thank God Hubby was very supportive. Before he leave for work in the morning, he makes sure the house is in order. he will prepare breakfast, clean, feed my little son, gives me 100% attention as i feel very emotional and lonely. 

1 week before my due date i suddenly became depressed! always crying and thinking of how i will bath my new baby. Because my Mom and MIL Pampered me silly when i had my first child in Nigeria 3 yrs ago. infact they made me feel sooo lazy that i never learned or witnessed how a new born is being bathed or massaged. 

Hmm back to my gist, Hubby will come back everyday complaining that i look soo emaciated and my eyes were too red because of constant cries,he always encouraged me not to worry about how to handle the new born, that he will give me the best support i needed!

 To the glory of God our bundle of joy arrived!! 

Hubby took 2 weeks off from work plus his 3 days Paternity leave. The 2 days i spent in the hospital was Paradise! 

please nobody should blame me as i`m (JJC) in the country. my hospital bed has a remote control oo that you don`t need to stress yourself about anything! 

your job is just to feed the baby and rest! wow!! 

I remembered my Oyinbo friend telling me that once you are discharged from the Hospital, you are now on your own!! 

I was finally discharged! 

only for me to start crying there in the hospital begging them not to discharge me!! 

Hubby was just laughing at me, telling me not to panic. Chaaii we got home, Hubby took sole responsibility of every thing do-able, i never even believed my eyes! i thought i was in paradise when i was at the hospital not knowing Heaven was waiting for me at home, He will always tell me "Babe your job is just to rest ok"

 Even at a time i felt pity for my Man, As my baby doesn`t sleep at night at alll! only in the day she sleeps. Hian! where Wahala burst was  the baby`s Placenta! 

Both of us were very scared of it (shivers) come see Hubbys hands shaking whenever he gets to the Stomach area, he will always say Babe come and apply hot water here for me, as i`m not good at it, I will also reply him, ''Honey me too i`m not good at it'' (lol) 

So hubby requested for a visiting Matron that comes every morning to monitor the baby for few days until the placenta fell and healed well.

 2 weeks later Hubby resumed for work! Ohhh (crying) i instantly felt like going back to Nigeria! i resumed my crying whenever hubby leaves for work, as it was soo lonely and a bit difficult for me to do it all alone. I encouraged myself, i remembered vividly that i kept on saying to myself, if other moms can do it alone, then why can`t you handle your baby. Hubby always comes home from work feeling so weak and stressed up, and all he needed was to have some rest against the next day.(Except on Weekends) 

So i picked up myself,  started by training my 3 weeks old daughter, to suck breast at least every 2 hours, changed her system of sleeping only in the day to night, trained her on using pacifier to avoid too much of cries.  I also trained my 3 yr old son to feed himself properly, put plates in the dish washer, put his dirty clothes in the Laundry Bag, put the chair together after eating, pick any pieces of food he mistakenly dropped on the floor while eating. My Son got used to it and was very helpful, i started doing the house chores even see it as an  excercise sef and i suddenly turned to a supper woman! 

Hubby will come back, appreciating me, asking how i did the magic, i will always smile and gist him how the day went. My mum will always call me, asking how manage i no longer call her every hour to ask how to handle the baby, I always tell her, Mom don`t worry i`m fine! Since 8 Months now, it has been all rosy, No more crying, thinking, loneliness. I must say it`s really not easy over here doing it all alone, but i think with time, i will get used to it. 

Please a little advice to the new Moms and expectant Moms, No matter how bad you feel your MIL, Moms or SIL might be, please and please appreciate them, for that little help you will get from them during Omugwo as it`s not easy doing it all alone, and always try to participate in the bathing of new born babies or massaging process, no matter how pampered, busy or weak you may seem to be, because reverse might be the case, as from my own experience.

 Cheers!!

*It is because you are new ''in the abroad''..I dont feel that loneliness you feel anymore....try to go out with your child.go for walks.sight seeings and pamper yourself with shopping and all.

The Nigerian mentality is that women do not go out during Omugwo period but abroad you will only be frustrated if you stay at home all day.

I took charge from day one cos my baby was sooo beautiful and i couldnt stop looking at him,his curly hair and all that and in shock that i had become a mother,so there was no time for crying.

Try going out.....do lunch at a different restaurant every time if you can..unless na village for Austria una dey,if you are in Linz or wein,GO OUT AND ENJOY YOURSELF BABE!