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LEFT HANDED CHILD
Greetings Stella.
Please i really need help on this issue. My 8 yr old Son is Left Handed!
I noticed it at age 2. I tried stopping it from him but it continued. He does everything with his left hand very comfortably. He is extremely intelligent too.
Stella i am not bothered about it anymore. But the issue is my MIL. Whenever she comes for a visit, She always advice me to use razor blade and give him a deep CUT on his left fingers But i refused to do that. She always scold him with harsh voice, Saying its an "Abomination" and My Son always cries about it asking "Mummy why am i left handed".
As a Mother, I am very tired of this issue and answering questions. both from his school teacher saying its a means of disrespect.
Stella Please i need help on a decent way to stop it as i have never had the experience.
I dont know if i am alone and how other Moms in the same Boat as me stopped theirs.
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NURSING BABY AND WORKING MOTHER
Good day Stella,
Kindly help me post this as i am totally bothered, thank you.
So i am resuming work next week after my maternity leave and my baby girl has totally refused formula.
She has been on exclusive breastfeeding and as i am to start work i have been trying to introduce formula.
She keeps crying and would rather stay hungry than drink it. I have tried four different kinds of formula, i have changed her feeding bottle but no way.
I am not producing enough breast milk to express and store for her not to talk of the erratic power supply.
Please has this happened to anyone?
What did you do? How? I am so scared she would lose weight or cry till i come home please help.
What did you do? How? I am so scared she would lose weight or cry till i come home please help.
Waiting for comments.
ReplyDeleteImagine your mother in law telling you to give your son a deep cut just because he is left handed, most left handed people I know are extremely brilliant... Being left handed is disrespectful? I never hear that one b4
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DeleteThe boy that disrespected me yesterday was right-handed.
DeletePoster 1: There's nothing wrong in been left handed...my mom is left handed & so is my elder bro. The only problem which many people see as disrespect is when u try to collect something from them with ur left hand. If ur son collects things with his left hand, smack his hand & tell him to collect it with the other hand. With time he'll get use to it.
DeletePoster 2: Try leave ur baby with a caretaker & see if the baby will take the formula. Some say kids smell breastmilk from their mom that is why they don't take any other thing when you're the one feeding them. Don't know how true that is though.
Poster 1: don't mind ur MIL. Being left handed is not dat bad. If u wanted to, u would have changed it when he was much younger but now, it's late. Such kids are highly intelligent btw. Talk to him about using right to collect things and with time and conscious effort, he will learn
DeletePoster 2: ur baby will take formula if given by someone else. May Wall is right. They perceive breast milk and reject formula. If na u nko?
My brother had same issue. They tried to stop it. It eventually made him ambidextrous. He uses his right for somethings but left for most. I would just allow my child be
DeleteHow can left handed be a form of direspect. Nigerians and their believe just tire me. They are one of the gifted and most brilliant humans I know. I have never seen a left handed person that is not unique, never.
ReplyDeleteI tire o! Change his school o madam! His teachers are archaic.
DeleteLeave the poster.my son is left handed and he is different from other children his age. Very intelligent. My late brother was also left handed and dude is smart, strong, caring and a problem solver. I am glad my son is left handed. Poster thank God for your son and pray for him always. Besides how do u allow such negativity around a lil child? Nobody talks I'll about my child and get away with it I dey parra wells.
DeletePoster because of the society of ours and our culture that believe so much in respect train him to give and collect things with right hand every other thing he should continue with his gifted hand. Your husband should talk to his mum that the world no longer see anything wrong being lefty.
DeleteMe that I even wish I was left handed. Obama is left handed, and I think Bill Gates too. Not a biggy abeg
DeleteMiss Ess..You're right,being left handed is unique and brilliant, they're always smart and highly intelligent.
Deleteposter one you have nothing to worry about, allow the child to have some fresh air.
ReplyDeleteposter two try pap, some children are just like that. Try pap and see if she will agree to take it.
ReplyDeleteI was about typing this before I saw your comment. Yes, poster 2 please try pap especially the brown one -baba ogi. That was what did the magic for my daughter when she was about 6months still on exclusive. She refused to take formula. I had an interview to attend in PH, left her with my mum in Lagos. On the 1st night she cried her eyes out and refused formula till she slept. Mum rushed to the market early next morning to buy ogi, got the white and brown ones. My baby spat out the white pap, mum said once she tasted the brown pap, that was it and since baby was hungry she drank quite a lot and slept. She's a healthy little babe at 4 today. So poster 2 try pap, it might just work for your baby as well.
DeletePoster one.Ps leave the your left handed kid alone.its not a crime to be left handed Ps,my two nephew are left handed and both are doing fine.put your mind at rest
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ReplyDeleteMadam pls I beg u leave d boy alone everybody can't be right handed its not his making,my son is 1year plus and also uses his left hand dats its nature I can't stop him frm dat its no abomination anything God loves Varieties.pls stop MIL to stop saying dat to ur son.
ReplyDeletePoster 1,your mother in law and his teachers at SCH are all witches I swear ,are they his God that made him that way? Madam please do all you could to stop them bullying that child biko,what nonsense
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Madam pls I beg u leave d boy alone everybody can't be right handed its not his making,my son is 1year plus and also uses his left hand dats its nature I can't stop him frm dat its no abomination anything God loves Varieties.pls stop MIL to stop saying dat to ur son.
ReplyDeleteMadam please leave your left handed child alone. Whoever tells you that it is a sign of disrespect should do their research very well. Left handed children are super intelligent as you can testify of it in him. They are called the sixth sense people. I am proudly left handed. Please warn the school to desist from such archaic comment & hope they aren't bullying hm, it may lead to stigma or lack of confident in his life; this one that he is already asking why he is left handed. God created him that way and it is a gift so who are you to question God. United states President Barack Obama is left handed and so many of the great leaders we have today. Please don't bother yourself about it anymore but encourage him.
ReplyDeletePoster 1..your left handed child is totally normal..it just means his right hemisphere of the brain is the dominant one..and there is nothing you can do to change it..even if he learns to use his right..its effectiveness would not be compared to his left hand..warn the teacher to leave him alone..that's his biology and there is nothing anyone can do to change it..counsel his grandmother on this too..I wish I were even left handed because studies have proven that they are so intelligent..hope this helps?
ReplyDeleteSo true, lefties are unique and special people, please don't allow MIL or teachers to talk down on him. In fact I know that all these modern schools doesn't have problem if the pupil is left handed cos a teacher once told me that it has been observed that the child tends to scared of writing if he noticed that teachers do force him to write with right. Just encourage him to be using his right hand when giving or collecting things especially from elders, cos from where I come from it's a sign of disrespect to give or collect with left hand. All the best mom.
Delete2 Poster- babies are very funny beings. You may be amazed that if you add cereal or pap to that formula baby will finish it off. I know so cos my baby doesn't drink formula alone, I must add cereal to it and like you I initially thought that it had to do with a particular brand. I started trying to wean her off breast by 6months, but wosa??? She's still dragging my boobs @ almost 9months. Since you are starting work, the caregiver should give her formula but mixed with pap, or millet or you can check out for good cereal. Don't worry much, she will be alright. Just be ready for her to suckle the 'ones ' she didn't why you were @ work.
Poster 1 please free your child and tell your MIL in a subtle way to mind her business. That's your child not hers. She should allow you raise yours as she raised hers. Nothing wrong with being left handed. Heard they are highly intelligent.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 I wish you had started formula earlier. EBF children find it hard to take formula. Talking from experience. How old is your baby? Have you tried very light pap?
Oya mothers over to u. Bt i like left handed pple.
ReplyDeletePlease poster 1: I got sooo offended on behalf of your son and the "Lefties Association of Nigeria "
ReplyDeletePlease tell your MIL that lefties are not cursed and it's no abomination. I am a very Proud leftie. Being a leftie has always made me Significant. Any gathering I find myself in, people are always curious. And it has made me interact with VIPS.
Please don't inflict any bodily pain on him. And you need to build up his self confidence and tell him he is a Genius.
Tell your MIL to gently correct / speak to him if need be.✌
Poster 1 pls let ur child be & pls tell ur husband abt it so dt he can caution his mother. I'm left handed & I don't see anything bad in it neither do I see it as a sign of disrespect. If she says u should give him a deep cut & it degenerates to something else u ll solve the problem alone so use your tongue to count your teeth
ReplyDeleteI love that Uche's pic.
ReplyDeletePoster 1. Am a little confused here coz in most cases children portray these attributes at a very tender age and not at 2yrs. Mine started at just 6 months. You notice they try to handle their food or take things from the left hand. I really fought my little girl back then to correct it and finally succeeded. Your child is already grown up and I don't see the possibility of him changing this late. There is really nothing wrong with him being a lefty. I hear most great men are. Just accept him they way he is and ignore your mil don't let her make your child feel he is inferior.
2. You didn't say how many months your baby is. I've you tried feeding her the formula with a spoon. Just leave her when better hunger wire her she go collect anything she sees even if na ishewu.
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ReplyDeleteWhat kind of Akara school is that, ignorant illiterate teachers trying to play with your sons's self esteem and you are crying.
Now, here is a list of 'left-handers' (all great people):
Barrack Obama
Bill clinton
George Bush
Angelina Jolie
Julia Roberts
Oprah Winfrey
Bruce Willis...
The list goes on and on, I can't even remember 1/10th of them.
Educate yourself and stop worrying over nothing.
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Poster one, instead make the teacher see potential in the kid, nah disrespect she dey talk about. ..mtchwwwwww..shut the teacher up nd about ur moda-inlaw, have you spoken to your hubby about it and what is he saying about his mum calling his child an abomination?
ReplyDeletePoster one there's nothing wrong with being left handed. Pls don't let that child feel something is wrong with him just cos of your mother in law. Your mother inlaw is old fashioned and she ahould stop scolding that boy like that pls. It's wrong.
ReplyDeletePoster two express enough milk and put it in the fridge for your child
Africans tire me o! What's bad about being left handed? Jeez! No wonder the sites are far ahead in intellect.
ReplyDeleteOh poster two I rushed through your story. You don't have enough milk to express then try pap and custard. Buy baby cereals. Babies exclusively breastfed always do that. Thank God my son was different. He was practically begging for other food lol
ReplyDeletePoster 1 seems something is wrong with you. Better leave that child and dont mind your mother inlaw. When she tell you anything, tell her mama i have heard FULLSTOP.
ReplyDeletePoster 2... try giving her pap, millet and other things that make children grow.
Poster 1, my 1st son is left handed and very intelligent, the husband is left handed too. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being left handed. I think it's quite cool too. Don't stress yourself over nothing hun...
ReplyDelete@ poster one, just feed your baby the formula with spoon. my two boys were like that. that's how we survived it. Nurses are even happier with you when you use spoon instead of bottle
ReplyDeleteLeft handed people are usually intelligent and wise, read it somewhere that they don't use the same side of brain like right handed people. Free the boy please, have a talk your MIL and let her know how her actions can affect the boy's self esteem in the future. Nigerians looking for trouble where there is none.
ReplyDeleteBn left handed is an abomination? I don't even know what to say about your mum inlaw,imagine asking you to cut the child with blade? Wickedness in high places.
ReplyDeleteBtw,what kindda school does your son attends? Dumb teachers.
I wonder the kind of things they say to him in your absence. Silly bullies
Pls madam it is not a sin for a child . The left handed. I love it and nothing like abomination here. And pleases don't allow anyone water the esteem of your child down
ReplyDeletePoster one,leave the boy alone,he is normal,I went to Bible school in may this year almost all the lectures were left handed,my sister in law has only one daughter and she's left handed her Mother in law complained bitterly,she told her that it was God's gift to her daughter,in fact she was so proud of the daughters lefty,I Started wishing I had a child with same issue,at a point I started practising to write with my left hand.
ReplyDeletePoster one: The time, energy and data you used in sending us this story could have been used in carrying out research on why some human uses left hand. There is nothing wrong with your son. Infact, be thankful he uses left hand. Southpaw people aee unique in their own way.
ReplyDelete@ Brownsugar.....what a subtle way to caution MIL. Lol
ReplyDeletema, with the left handed son, I envy you o. children with such ends uP very intelligent, still yet to find a dull one.
ReplyDeletePoster two,you had little time to spend with your baby before resuming work,there was no point doing exclusive breastfeeding,even after 9months my second daughter refused any other food apart from breast milk,I was really sad,she won't allow any one touch her even her dad,the doctor gave us Farblan Tonic(don't know if that's how it's spelt)that did the magic cos after two months I weaned her,see a doctor and try spoon feeding your baby.
ReplyDeletePls stop worrying about those trivial issues just tell your mother in law in a polite way that he's already to being a leftie,ignore those yeye teachers jor,pls mothers my 2nd daughter was exclusively and now she is 6month old and I want to introduce her to different kinds of food for babies,pls I need suggestions.
ReplyDeletePoster 1. please there is absolutely nothing wrong with your child. the teacher saying its disrespectful is sick, when in my children's school, it is even the Teachers that advise that you leave the child. if you force it, it may affect his performance and make him slower, that is the way he is wired, there is no abomination anywhere, maybe you should get your husband to school his mom about it so she stops making the boy feel bad. please dont stop him i abeg you again, encourage him and ensure he does not loose his self esteem. if possible change his school to one where the teachers have common sense and use it well.
ReplyDeleteMum trio, you're so correct, most modern school doesn't even have problem with leftist, haaba @ poster bikoo those teachers are really living in the stone age.
DeleteDear poster1,please address those teachers well,where is it in the bible that left hand is a sign of disrespect?God created every part our body equally.As for your MIL,no words.please don't cut your son's hand or stop him from using left.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, Don't disturb you boy again, and if the teachers are not ok with it, Change his school at least new section is yet to resume. As for your mother in law discuss with your husband, there is nothing wrong in being left handed. Don't kill your sons self esteem. Be wise.
ReplyDelete@op 1 lefty has to do with discussions of the synaptic lobe @ anterior lobe of the celleberum that's d part of the brain the left synapse to the right controlling the right part and the right cross over to the left to control left side that's for a normal righty but on a lefty there is wot we call counter cross in a lay man's word where the right cros to d left and counter cross back to right so with d left making left parts of the brain controlling d left part of the body resulting to left-handedness is not an abnormality that's the way his gene is it occur in 1:1000 people so ur child is a gifted child u have nothing to worry abt u simply need adjustment to help him develop well
ReplyDelete@ op 2 buy a breast pump it will help u Express enough breast milk or if ur husband is buoyant enough to take care of d family u can resign for some time cos infant formula does not have all the required nutrient for ur child to thrive.
Poster 1 please leave that child alone. There's nothing abominable in being left handed. Also firmly rebuke anyone that may want to make you or that child feel bad. Poster 2,try to introduce pap. Some children are like that. You can contact me on zero eight zero two zero three nine six zero seven seven for fortified soybeans powder to add to the pap. You'll be glad with the result.
ReplyDeletePlease tell your son he is left handed because he is super special, do not even try to force him to change. My 3 yr old is more comfortable with his left and ive caught my helper forcefully correcting him before just told her to please allow him no come kill my pikin star. Anyway pls encourage him google famous left handed people etc and show him. Poster 2 sorry not sure what would help but have you had someone else try feeding the formula cos sometimes they smell the breast milk and just wont settle for formula. Wish you the best
ReplyDeletePoster 1 plz withdraw your son from that ancient school before they bully your son to stupor,also warn you MIL seriously about shouting @ your son,if she cannot stomach it let her stay in her house,how can she bully an innocent boy in his own fathers house? Poster 2,try pap mix it with crafish,unripe plantain and soya beans,it contain enof nutrients for your baby well being
ReplyDeleteThat was how one Doc told me not to give my baby formula, I told her that I'm working what if my baby refuses any other food. Well, she gave me one advice that helped me... that I should introduce formula 2 weeks before I resume work.
ReplyDelete@Poster2- Next time try introducing formula 2 weeks before resumption.
My baby rejected the formula and I was mad because I have few days to resume, so one day, I was taken pap and decided to put in his mouth, o boy, my baby gladly took it.
I quickly bought guinea corn and millet, made pap for him but my milk didn't waste because I mix it together with the pap. In fact, I don't border myself again because once they're 2 months, I introduce pap and milk, by 3 months I will start putting soup in their mouths before one year, they are professionals in eating adult foods...healthy God-given kids. I bought Cerelac my kids refused it. I thank God. Try PAP.
@1 - Do not kill your child's self esteem or even allow others do including your MIL. Nothing is wrong with your child. My son eats with his left hand atimes but uses the right hand to write, I will shout and some women will tell me that I should be happy that he uses both.