NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
OVER POWERED BY MASTURBATION.
I think I have to come out, since men are sending in theirs.
I have had this problem for sometime now, which is 'over'-masturbation.
I have tried to stop but 'body nobi firewood'. What actually started this problem is my relationship with my first girlfriend in my early 20's, now I am in my late 20's. Then, I dated my girlfriend for almost 4 years before I decided I want to move on (a lot of other things involved).
While we were dating, she never allowed collecting, insisting it's till after marriage which I agreed, but we do all sorts of things from bathing together, smooching,kissing, head and sucking stuffs. She also helps me to masturbate, by sucking and handling my thing. Thus, I got used to it, so I masturbate at random and always which is what I don't like and now I have started getting the side effects.
After, we stopped dating I met another pretty lady who I also loved, she also insisted on no collecting till after marriage, she claims she loves me and that I am what she wants and all that. But this time I managed and stylishly left on time. This my 'bad luck' of meeting girls who would insist on no sex continued and I am already determined to leave whenever I hear 'we cannot have sex till after marriage'.
This 'badluck' a part, now I am a little buoyant, I get to hook up with girls who I don't even propose that we date, we just hang out, 'flex' a little and the pants are down on their own. But the problem is that my 'thing' will be so hard while we romance, give head and all that but when its time to insert sim card, the card will just start sleeping like that and if the babe should just try to handle it a little it will be over hard and long like what I don't even know, but will go back to sleep immediately it senses that it is being moved to the direction of the sim card slot.
I am still a secondary virginia upon all these series of encounter with babes, and my spirit of masturbation won't still leave me. I was thinking having a girlfriend who is always around and ready to collect will help me solve this with time, but I only come across people who just want to date without sex or just flings for one night stand and all that which is not helping my situation.
I have to add also that I am not ready to marry because I have not seen the one. I really loved and still love my first girlfriend but she did something against my principle and I can't live happily with her knowing that.
I would like to seek help and advice on how to go about this.
For 'Pastors and PASTRESSES wey full this blog' who will start the repent sermon here, I plead with you not to, because I am '5 and 6' with God. We do things in our own way and He understands me.
Finally, I would like to point out that I am from a bit strict christian home that while I was a teenager I always prayed to God and interceded He helps me avoid having sex till I get married because of the fear of HIV/AIDS, lol.
I don't even know if this is the problem.
HIAN!!!!!!!!!!!
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
CONFUSED LOVER GIRL
Good day Stella,
Please I need your advice on this.
I'm a young lady in my early 20's who just rounded up her university education and awaiting law school by October.
I'm currently in a relationship with this DR in his late 20's and he is very nice and caring. The reason i'm sending in this is because even though everything looks perfect on the surface I just can't close my eyes to these issues anymore.
One is that he has this girl in the U.S who he is in a relationship with. He told me about her when we started dating and told me not to worry because he hasn't seen her in 5years.
Secondly, his family is want him to marry someone from his tribe(i'm from the west, he is from the east) and his family has gone as far as picking a girl for him. He is currently not getting along with his family because of this issue.
Thirdly, he is the type of guy that girls flocks around. He is extremely good looking. The issue here is that i'll be leaving by October and will be away for a year. I know he loves him but he is possessive, snoops on my phone while I can't even unlock his phone because he uses finger print lock. P.s is there a way to buy pass that.
I just need advice because even though we are both in love, what will be my fate if the other girl comes back, or his family doesn't agree to the union. I feel like just a replacement for the other girl till she returns. Should I just end it now and move on or I should just let it play out. No insult please.
you say what???????????
ReplyDeleteP1-how can you promise God something when you were little and now want to do your wish?the bible says should we continue in sin that the grace of God shall abound?God forbid. The answer is in your question. Pray for the spirit to leave you,if not no other remedy.
DeleteP2-you are a replacement and just try,pick up the pieces and move on,you need your inlaws,and when his other girl comes,you'd be dropped like a hot charcoal.
P1:This has been my reality for as long as I can remember. I was wondering if anyone else does have the same problem. My masturbation addiction has progressed since the age of 10, I am now 23.
DeleteWithout going into all the details of my life, by the time I hit my 20′s my addiction had completely taken over all aspects of my being, taking me away from enjoying almost everything else. This can also be said for my love life. It got to the stage where I’d quickly become bored sexually with new partners. Even for women that I was in love with, when it came to sex, I ended up choosing porn, fantasy and masturbation over them.
I’m single at the moment as you’d probably expect, stuck in a position where my addiction has resulted in me conditioning myself to only get some form of sexual gratification from fantasy and masturbation, despite how empty and unfulfilling it really is.
It’s a sad state of affairs and I know that along side my desire to break free from my addiction, I also want to find love. I have no troubles attracting women, but I have stopped hooking up with any because despite how much I may like them, I just no longer desire sex with a real person.
I will add that having a high sex drive makes no difference if it’s only directed towards fantasy and masturbation, as is my problem. Like many others out there, I’m living proof of how destructive this addiction really is. Thank you for reading and letting me share my story with you.’
This is someone's story.
Courtesy of virtueandintimacy.com
Poster1, God is just doing what you asked Him to do. Praise the Lord, your prayers have been answered.
DeletePoster 1:go for deliverance,dats d only way out of addiction..meet a man of God dat will help u nd direct u on the things to do..
DeletePoster 2:run as fast as u can..u are d indomie he's eating while waiting fr rice to be done...RUN!!!!
Hiannnnnnnn!
ReplyDeleteFor finger print lock spend a night at his place and while he is asleep start romancing him then drag the finger to his phone to unlock
DeleteNo need to use scope sef, just tell him to break the lock or stop going through your phone.
DeleteExactly!! If he locks his phone then don't give him your own. My dear you're not ready for marriage, so better go away for hat one year and clear your head
DeleteChildish Chronicles
ReplyDeleteI dey tell you o.Warahell mehn????
DeleteVery childish!
DeleteVery Childish...
Delete@ poster 1, since you are already 5&6 with God, remember what the Holy book says...if one part of your body will lead you to Sin, Cut it....
See all this people who say they don't want to collect till marriage but still do other stuff like sucking dick and co God set watch una. You either be a sinner or you're not. Not half and half
DeleteExactly trinity!!! Collect or don't
DeleteTrinity thank u so much...the Bible says your body is a temple of God not your dick or your pussy...smooching is fornication..ds ppl won't hear..if u can touch,suck nd do other stuffs,jst put d dick already cos nothing remain
DeleteTrinity 👍for some people mind, na only inserting be sex. Make them dey deceive their selves.
DeleteThe insertion is what leads to HIV,pregnancy and murder (abortion ) which comes with severe side effects,those girls are still sinning but they are trying not to end up sad on earth and in heaven.
DeletePoster two, u r d sidechic.
ReplyDeletePoster one, you are looking for a standby girl whom you'd be fucking so it would help? Just come clean. *goes back to read city people*
Poster 1 only someone that has been in your position can understand your situation and advice and u have been in your situation and scaled through.
Delete1). Stop watching porn.
2). Get a hobby
3). Do not allow yourself to be alone
And in 3 to 4 weeks your erection will be restored. If your excercise, you'll be back in 2 weeks
Very very important, stop watching porn. It's destroys everything. It's hard but try
DeletePoster 2 receive sense & move on..
ReplyDeletePoster 1 May God fix your Abunna back..
P1:
DeleteNow, let’s summarize how masturbation affects intimacy from the above story:
It takes over every aspect of their life.
They prefer to watch porn and masturbate than have actual sex (with their spouse).
They are stuck in a position where they are conditioned (or programmed) to only respond to fantasy and masturbation. Dr Bernell of Reclaim Health called it ‘intimacy impotence’ which is the ‘increasing inability of the man to connect, bond and truly be “one” with his partner—to enjoy full intimacy which is physical, emotional and spiritual. Instead, he opts for “self-sex” in the company of cold, imaginary, fantasy images.’
Another thing you may not know is that masturbation causes erectile dysfunction in men (the inability to get or keep an erection firm during sexual intercourse).
Culled: virtueandintimacy.com
Anyone addicted to masturbation needs a whole lot of counselling and praying with.
U need someone u can accountable to to help u walk through it.
But d question is are u even willing to fight this? If u keep claiming that u and God are 5 and 6 yet u blatantly disobey His Word... Well dat mentality won't help u.
Get up and get ur spiritual life fixed. That's d way to start this restoration journey cos truth be told, it takes God to break this habit.. Only God, not self discipline.
Virtueandintimacy.com
poster one the best option is to give your life to Jesus, Jesus is the only way out of MASTURBATION, read your bible daily and fill your heart with the things of God. Marriage can never and will not bring out from that spirit of MASTURBATION.
ReplyDeletewishing you all the very best.
Who Jesus epp? Abeg shift.
DeleteJESUS HAS HELPED LOTS OF PEOPLE!!!😮I AM A WITNESS. GOD BLESS YOU AS YOU DO SAME.
DeleteJesus has helped me,try Jesus,he will never fail you
DeleteWho Jesus EPP???.....I am certain you are not a Christian,if you are you won't insult the lords name like that.
DeletePoster one you need a doctor for advice, bvs will just confuse you hahahaha, poster 2 follow your mind, thinking about my life as I was reading ur own post, Jesus fix it for me, I need help.
ReplyDeletePoster 1,
ReplyDeleteYour spiritual wife don render your prick useless...you need a serious deliverance from a real man of God like my daddy in The Lord!...
Poster 2,
Mumu!!...
How many times have i warned you people here to stop dating one man?...
Their are thousands of men that are good looking mehn...leave this guy for good...
Poster1
ReplyDeleteKeep searching, you will find your missing rib who will unlock your thing from the bondage of 'hole scare'.
Poster 2
You people like disturbing Stella's chronicles box with stupid stories, you will see the handwriting on the wall and still send in stupid stories asking stupid questions.
poster two if no insult you will not learn or be sharp, you better run for your dear life and focus on your studies. The guy is using you to warm his body, when the other girl comes back he will dump you. Stop giving your totoh for free, keep it for the right man.
ReplyDeleteTo unlock his phone if he uses finger prints, get him drunk or give him sedatives, when he is fast asleep, use his finger to unlock it and scatter the phone inside out before he wakes up, if he uses his finger to lock it, take it back to him and lock it. If you see wetin pass your eyes and you want him to see it, fine! Butwhatever your eyes see, na you go bear the pains and heartbreak oo.
ReplyDeleteWetin she de even find inside the phone sef?
DeleteYou already know ure not the only one..... Why hurt urself sum more?
I clear my chat per line. Carry my fone go FBI dem no fit see my chat except if they go further which ordinary people no sabi
Delete@Poster, Jesus will solve your problem for you
ReplyDelete@Poster2, let go of that guy, he's not your man
*Larry was here*
@poster1, you're really 5n6 with God e show for your body gan
ReplyDeleteShebi na only one one Shennel hyacinth I dey see for this blog.That oyibo pepper wen do that marketing strategy for valentine post and wen do birthday post ?
DeleteCome ,look for another name to use and stop confusing my eyes .
Poster two, i dont know wat to tell u o. I hate men saying dont worry im sorting things out. My dear jst keep an open mind, because there is a 99percent chance that he is going to go back to his first. Enjoy it while u can, n keep ur eyes open for ur own man.
ReplyDeleteP.s you dont need a fortune teller to tell u that wen a man starts giving excuses that involves his family and another woman, jst go into the river n start fishing for new men.
Poster one, ur problem is that u hv made ursef get used to ur own hand and therefore the idea of putting ur something into any kind of hole scares u. Almost like a lady being scared of unwanted pregnancy n therefore deriving pleasure by her own hand. You only need to reorientate ursef. However u do it is ur deal.
Poster2-leave that guy
ReplyDeletePoster1-u need a Gf who will show u love and the sweetness in sex,once u have that,u no go ever masturbate again
Stupid girl like u ibukunoluwa,a student for that matter.idiot at 27
DeleteAnonymous 16:53 go and buy baba dudu or sisi pelebe and lick it
DeleteAsk ur Yoruba frnds
Trust me,it will help sweeten ur heart😘
Poster 1... continue to deceive yourself eh. since you and God na one and six pence. I pity your life as you have made the devil your best friend with masturbation. I pray to God to deliver you from the SPIRIT OF MASTURBATION.
ReplyDeletePoster 2... stop looking down at yourself. Ups your activities. If he is flocked by ladies, try and get guys to flock round you too. Dont be intimidated. It is well with you.
If you cant, abeg park your kaya and leave to avoid heartbreaks
Stella i love this your meme I just dey observe. Make i follow you observe the foolish man
ReplyDeletePoster 1, huh? Drink alomo or baby oku next time.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, let God fix it.
Poster1: Some chronicles are better off answered in google, i wonder why u bring them here, Start by getting rid of your porn stash, thats the number one gear, or learn to deprive urself from buying MB atimes if u use ur phone...
ReplyDeletePoster2: The both of you are just deceiving urselves!!!
#Jaimelannistar: Have you done much fighting yourself, Lord Frey?
WalderFray: I’m a bit old for all that.
Jaimelannistar: No, but back in your day.
WalderFray: The purpose of fighting is defeating your enemies, isn’t it?
WalderFray: I’ve defeated mine, Riverrun belonged to House Tully for a thousand years. Now it’s mine. What do you call that? Victory!!!
#Lord Varys: But what do we have left, once we abandon the lie? Chaos? A gaping pit waiting to swallow us all.
DeletePetyr 'Littlefinger' Baelish: Chaos isn't a pit. Chaos is a ladder. Many who try to climb it fail and never get to try again. The fall breaks them. And some, are given a chance to climb. They refuse, they cling to the realm or the gods or love. Illusions. Only the ladder is real. The climb is all there is...
So I am watching edo south APC campaign n oshiomoleh is shouting I am in the mood!I am in the mood!!biko Anty Iara how far now??chooi but this politicians are mouthed Sha.
ReplyDeleteJesus fix it
ReplyDeleteI'm not in a good mood jawe
Poster1 it's a mindset thing
ReplyDeletePoster2 this your English Na wah o law student did you pass your exams with this kind English
Poster2- Walking into a marriage where you know your future in-laws do not want you is a recipe for disaster. You are still young, wait for the right man to find you.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 pls leave that guy, his baggage is too much... He already has a gf and u are just a side chic, he is possessive and secretive yet he snoops on ur phone...just imagine!, his parents want him to marry someone from d east and ur from d west, he is a ladies' man and ur not comfortable with it, lastly u are gonna be traveling and will be gone for a year( he's gonna get another side chic just as he is using u to replace d main gf abroad..he can't have his main gf and side chic abroad, he must get another side chic at home).
ReplyDelete@ poster 2... Good looking men are hard to keep except you are extremely beautiful too.
ReplyDeletePoster1- Maybe you are gay, this one wey your rod dey fear toh toh so.
ReplyDeleteToto-shy.... Lol
DeletePoster 1 - Apostle wanker Continue the Masturbation,that may be your calling and Ministry...
ReplyDeletePoster 2; Move on before you are moved on...
Lol!!!@ apostle wanker
DeletePoster 2 why are you hurting yourself, you are in love with a "selfish sombori". You better let go heal and move on. Stop deceiving yourself.
ReplyDeleteMonsieur wanker......continue ooooo Sha no go use your hand pull your sick comot.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Did you say you're awaiting law school? Hmmmm....... abeg make I keep quiet.
Know one thing tho....... that guy is not going to marry you. He's from the east and his family has picked a spouse for him. You better waka..... no come dey cause katakata for their family cos in the end, you'll get burned.
Poster one.... U already developed a bad habit and u can't let go cos u love it. I remember when I was wit my first bf n still a Virgin, I didn't allow him do d main thing but every other thing was present, he deflowered me after 2years with his rod active. I will advise u stay away from all girls for a while and stay off masturbation too, after a while get a new gf and try all over again. But u know what... Its best u give your life to God and wait till after marriage b4 u try again, e go surprise u say God go reward u with rod to fill d hole. Lol.
ReplyDeletePoster two.... There is fire on the mountain #in d voice of Asha# u Berra leave d guy b4 he leaves u so that it won't hurt much.
All said.... #i drop my golden pen#
Poster 1 : you are very annoying. I am sick today but I decided to gather strength and reply you.
ReplyDeleteIf you want someone beside you to collect your free dick - then GO AND MARRY. Anuofia.
You think girls are just objects to fuck abi.... no vex me now cas my bodi no strong for rubbish today.
Poster 2 : Your chronicle no make sense jare. You people should just marry of trap him before you travel.
I no get power joor.
Na WA o
ReplyDeletePoster One - You are now suffering from "erectal dysfucntion", its a side effect of too much masturbation, which makes your penile muscles weak. See a doctor. Even if you start dating a porn star, you would still have this issue until you treat it.
ReplyDeletePoster Two - Please move my dear. You are nothing but a side chick in the hands of Doctor. You just happen to be one of many others. You dont need this kind of distraction in October when you resume lawschool. Lawschool is serious business, you can look up the failure rate. All the best.
Hahahahahahah @ st frankool your head no correct. I don't tire to dey repeat mysef biko. Some people are just forever daft. Nothing you say to dem will make dem change. Never be a second option una go hear. Dont worry u will wake up and realised he is married to his bae.mumu girl. Keep giving him free pussy.
ReplyDeletePoster 2. Why did you fall for a player?
ReplyDeleteP1 put it to God in prayers as una be 5 & 6
ReplyDeleteP2 you better don't put all your eggs in one basket, shine ur eye.
Poster 1 since you're 5& 6 with God, why not meet him or ask him to solve your problem. Kapish.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 you're in a toxic relationship, get out now before its too late. Moreover that relationship is heading no where. He's checking your phone but you can't check his??? Dude is cheating.
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Poster one please go to MFM for deliverance. What you have is called spiritual wife and she is a jealous one at that. She doesn't want u to sleep with another girl. When ever u masturbate, don't u know ure sleeping with ur spiritual wife? If u don't do something fast, u may never have a settled home.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, no matter what we tell u, u wont leave him. I know ur type. And yes his parents will not allow him marry u, igbo people are like that, most of them. When u go away for 1 year, please u will meet someone else n forget him.
Poster 1:Bro i understand how you feel but heres a solution, buy viagra or vega 100mg, and take 2hrs before starting sex, eg u wanna go club, pick a gal and then straff, take d drug either of them before leaving your house, so by the time you are ready to fuck, the drug is well circulated and i bet you no jupiter would make your prick fall, once you can confidently have sex in subsequent times, u stop using the drugs, before u send another chronicle of not being able to perform without taking drugs
ReplyDeleteso I missed yesterday chronicles, after reading, went through comment. then I saw this “My dear please go and beg your FIL. Go with your mother or an elderly woman to beg if possible cry and roll on the floor I'm sure he will have pity on you and let his son marry u. Good luck." mehn BV's are so funny, was that annoy for REAL or bn Funny?
ReplyDeletePoster 2. Will you wake up and smell the coffee? That man is only biding his time with you. You are the side chicks and he told you. Stop all this love talk my friend.
ReplyDeletePoster 1. You need counseling
Poster 1, God know wot you are going through but u have to put your total trust in him for a total deliverance. Poster 2, I think u no the best decision.
ReplyDeleteP2: I feel like just a replacement for the other girl till she returns... Re read what u wrote and meditate on it... Ur sub-conscious mind v already told u what u need to know. P1:u r v erectile dysfunction... See ur doctor, then after stop watching porn and go for a deliverance session... And after a while get a girl u r really attracted to..
ReplyDeleteyou see @poster one, that's d problem right there. d devil doesn't want u to know d truth. u are already saying hey 'pastor a pastresses don't preach to me" d devil don't want u to know d truth. he has taken hold of u hence your defence. d bible says, u shall know d truth n d truth shall set u free. u cannot be 5&6 with God n still Masturbate. but there is freedom in Christ. d first step is to rededicate your life to Christ, confess your sins to him, ask him to come into your life n uproot every root of sin. n then take appropriate measures n avoid those things that lure u into masturbation. u should know that wen u surrender your life to Christ, u should run away from sin. u cannot b a new creature n still live your old life. flee fornication n all appearances of evil n ask d Holy spirit to help u. u will b free. u can go for counselling. God bless u.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 I guess u should get busy with ur life and avoid loneliness and try and abstain from downloading porn....that is the weapon that get u on..poster 2 I have nothing to tell u ..go to school and face ur study
ReplyDelete1- You need deliverance
ReplyDelete2 - You need deliverance (Common sense you need)
okwu agwum na onu, aka na uche.
Nonsense chronicle today, very childish
ReplyDeletePoster 1 you need delevrance, poster wake up from your sleeping bed before time pass you by.
ReplyDeletena wah for waec
ReplyDeletei m sorry for dis posters,d confusion too much
Poster 2: Why are you desperate? A guy snoops around your phone and yet locks his and you just keep quiet dey ask us wetin you go do... welldone clap for yourself, let me tell you something, you dont need anyone's advise, just advise yourself deep down your heart you know the truth and the reality..
ReplyDeletePoster 1: You are not ready to stop, you even get gut dey talk say you and God na 5 & 6 and yet you cant talk to Him and ask Him for help...Mtcheeeew
Poster one i have materials that can help you overcome masturbation and help you get back to normal. If you need it request for my email address.
ReplyDeletePoster one, 1st do away with all ur porn starch... Den put a sticker in ur room or ur phone of "No mastubation today" then be counting days, weeks, and then months, be accountable to someone that understands and is not judgmental, above all commit it to God, make a commitment to him and vow to stop mastubation. Now note even if u fall into it again come out immediately and mk a fresh commitment. It's a pretty difficult habit to break. So be objectives and positive. Get very spiritual after two weeks u are on ur way to freedom and try to hate d act and porn generally..
ReplyDeletePoster2 read the last paragraph of your epistle slowly....when you are done reading it, thank that instinct of yours that put that in your thought. Bounce my dear.
ReplyDeleteWhy do i feel the second poster is talking abt a Dr Francis?!
ReplyDelete