This is shocking!
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
THOUGTHS OF BARRENNESS.
Hi Madam Stella,
I am broken, and I don't know what to do again.
I am 25 years old and I have never ever ever seen my mensuration.
It hurts that while in the hostel in secondary school I will watch my mates fixing pad on their panties while on their period and I will just pretend I am using tampon hence the reason they don't see me using pad. I don't know what went wrong with me. On getting to the university, I rented an apartment and refused allowing a room mates just because of the fear of them knowing my most kept secret.
Aunty Stella believe me I have prayed, over prayed sef, radically prayed for God to help me, nothing seems to change, is it fasting ( I have been fasting and trusting God like forever) and waking up midnights to pray? (Became my hobby). I am still trusting God, even to the point of choosing a specific date of the month to begin my own invincible mensuration by pretending that my menstrual blood is flowing, yet it's like God has forgotten me.
I have tried traditional method even to the point of going to alfa's place to seek for solution, but all to no avail.I just feel God has no use for me on this earth, starting with the fact that I am from a broken home, plus my mum and dad divorced just after 5 months of being married (before I was even born). These two things weigh me down psychologically and mentally but I bless God because i have not lost my JOY in him. And i thank God that I have never had any suicidal thought even in the midst of all this.
Before I had a surgery in 2008 (appendix), I did scan, and I remember the doctor showing me my womb and he told me it was intact. Later in 2009 I went for another scan as directed by the doctor to check to know why I haven't started seeing my mensuration at 18, after the scan I was told my womb is not showing so clear that they doubt if I have a womb at all ( 'how possible is this' was my question to the doctor). Stella honestly I had never had sex by then, let alone getting pregnant or having an abortion that would cost me my womb.
Later in 2011 I started dating my first and still current boyfriend, and I tried so hard to hide the fact that I don't see my menstrual flow from him thinking he will make a joke outta it. I kinda tried faking it for him and I kept on reminding God that he should bless me and make me start seeing my flow. But now he knows the truth but we keep having issues over his character and his kinda belief and I am scared things might not go well, and I am scared to ask 'where will I start from again'?.
The blog visitor who spoke of how God heard her prayers after praying for the intercession of saints Rita, Gerald and Jude for three days, made my day when I read that, madam Stella I keyed into it o infact did mine at 12 midnight and for 9 days, telling God that if He did it for the blog visitor He will also hear my prayers. For where, its been more than a month now and its like God doesn't care bout me.
But the worse of it all is that EVERY MONTH I have the worse menstrual pain anyone can think of. I'm usually sick with a very high fever, and I will lock myself in my room ( because I don't like people seeing me in pain) and groan and throw up like I'm pregnant, and it will go on for at times more than 10 hrs and I will keep crying and begging God to help me from this pain that weighs me down. Please let me not even tell you all to what extent I have gone it will just open another chapter of my little shattered life.
Stella I am a great lover of kids, you need to see me when kids are around me, you will almost think I gave birth to them. I always feel like let the ground just open and swallow me whenever my mum ask me 'baby how far, have you started your flow'?, Stella I literally die every time I hear this question.
I'm in tears writing this to you, it hurts so bad. Why can't God just answer me and make me able to have kids?, how can I get married and lie to my husband just because the truth is shameful?, how can I go into marriage trusting that God will bless me with children without struggling when He can't even hear my prayers now?
Please my dearest bvs, what can I do, please help me, I don't want to be barren, I wanna have my own kids, I don't want to bother my future husband and his family with any form of childlessness. Everyone says I am the take home to mama type, it kills me when I hear that because I don't wanna be a burden to anyone's family.
Please I need help, there's no medication the doctors have asked me to use that I did not use. What am I not doing right?.
Oh no, I haven't given up hope just yet even with this pain I just still believe God will do it for me, but i am human and my faith is growing weaker day by day.
Dear bvs please trust me because I honestly wish I were lying and this whole thing is not true, and I know some people will say I am just making this story up. please I beg you in the name of God, it will kill me if after opening up to a family I have never seen, some will still insult and shatter my life the more.
Please don't let me ever have any regrets posting this to my blog family, because it will kill me faster.
*Instead of questioning God,why dont you praise him? I know that your FAITH is shaky right now but a popular BV here gave testimony in the TTC post that her sister in law had no womb but got pregnant!
I dont know of any Doctor that can help you except DR JESUS!
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
FALLING IN LOVE AND INTER TRIBAL MARRIAGES
Good day Stella, i'd just go straight to the point.
I am a Yoruba girl from Osun state. 3 months ago I met this guy from rivers state and from the onset he said it was love at first sight for him. We got talking and right now as I am writing this I'm head over hills in love with him.
I am a Yoruba girl from Osun state. 3 months ago I met this guy from rivers state and from the onset he said it was love at first sight for him. We got talking and right now as I am writing this I'm head over hills in love with him.
I know some people would say the time frame is short to fall in love but honestly it feels like I have known him all my life. Now the issue is that everybody is saying one scary thing or the other about inter- tribal marriages.
We love each other and want to spend the rest of our lives together but I need advice from people who don't know me therefore would be Frank and sincere with me. Please my fellow Bv's what's your take on this.
Everything in life is a risk,it may work out and it may not but you will never know if you do not take a chance and igve it your best shot..if he is ready to take the long haul with you and you love him..HONEY GO FOR IT AND DONT MIND SOME COMMENTS THAT WILL DISCOURAGE YOU.....
He works right?
chronicles......
ReplyDeleteLord have mercy on me for crying and asking you when this pain will stop (every first day of my police)
DeletePoster 1.. The Lord is your strength
Poster2. I don't have anything to tell you, you don't know if the guy wants to marry you or not...
Awwwwwwww
DeletePoster1,I really understand how u feel.....but also know that God don't need u menstruation before he can perform miracle.
People without womb get pregnant let alone u.
Still trust him....
Poster2: I wish u the best
Whilst reading chronicles 1, a thought came to me 'that is a grand testimony ' my dear, I think you need to change your prayer point, start thanking God for this grand testimony he wants to manifest in you. Have u ever heard of a woman who doctors told she didn't have womb, who wasn't seeing her period get pregnant and have babies? My dear, put aside this worries, u have castes ur worries on God, forget about it and start thanking him, focus on getting Married to watch this grand testimony manifest, am thanking God for you already. Abraham and others trusted God blindly/ foolishly, do same too. I prayed for you.
DeleteOk, now I can read the 2nd chronicle.
Honestly I still don't know why people call on God for a solution and still go ahead to help themselves. Please, where is it written in the bible that heaven helps those who help themselves? Is it that they don't trust God enough to take control?. His ways are not our ways and His time is not our time. Poster 1, please, if you say you've prayed, fasted and all, that means you've handed it over to God so go and sleep. There is nothing God cannot do and there is nothing you can do so why don't you drop this problem in the Things For God To Do bag and live your life with joy in your heart. Bible says without faith, its impossible to please God. From all your narration, you don't have an atom of faith cos if you, you would know that if God could give a wombless woman a chance, your story is indomie Noddles. Please, hand the matter over to God once and for all and let Him show you why He is God. It might not happen immediately but it will happen when you least expect it. Please pray and have faith. Jesus Rules.
DeletePoster,abeg go and rest joor,its doesn't mean anything,its ur own nature,my mom sister has d same nature with u and she gave birth to 9 children,whenever she suppose to see her period,her tip of all her finger would be red for 5days and after d 5days d finger would be normal,pls be rest assure ure absolutely alright. 👊👊👊👊👊👊👊
DeleteP1. What u jst described is similar to a condition called cryptomenorrhea characterised by cyclical pains n amenorrhea. This would mean that your vagina isn't patent. As thr is a plate sealing it, hence retrogade flow of menses. Ps it can b TX but You must see a consultant gynae asap, for further evaluation
DeleteYou might have PCOS and endometriosis which causes amennhorea I.e no periods. This may mean painful periods and bleeding never starts. Try going on microgynon to jump start your periods and when you are ready to have baby maybe you try clomid to force your body to ovulate. Best option is of course to see a gynaecologist. Not a dr. Got this info online + some common sense. Hope this helps and may God heal you IJN.
DeleteThank you dr chy...as for the illiterate who doesnt know gynecologists r drs, i carry nyash for you madam common sense
DeleteNa wa oh!
ReplyDeleteMe I'm here, looking for who will menstrate for me every month and bear the cramps too.
Poster, all will be well with your tohtoh, amen!
Poster 1 pls go to a good hospital, very likely ur hormones are running wild....esp ur prolactin. For ur info, I personally know someone who never saw her period before getting married(she told her hubby o, and he was like " not marrying u for children"). It eventually turned out to be hormonal imbalance and she has 3 children and pregnant with the 4th! Pls go to a good hospital and stop this self pity u are subjecting urself to!!!!
DeletePoster 2: Nigeria has how many tribes again???? Only Rivers state alone has almost as much tribes as naija. Deal with it jare, the mean thing is if he is worth the risk! All the best....
Poster: Be strong
ReplyDeletePoster2: Every r/ship is a gamble, you have to get in the game with the mindset to win, & the mindset of it not being a do or die affair.
#CerseiLannister: Tears arent a womans only weapon, the best one is between your legs.
Thank you (poster 2)
Delete#Cersei Lannister: Shame, Shame, Shame...
DeletePoster one, could try visiting this church in Lagos state.. Resurrection Praise Ministry.. It is located at Navy town , behind satellite town.
ReplyDeleteSuch cases are treated there and I am very sure it is a spiritual problem. I have seen a woman gotten cured in this same situation.
Y not just say Jehovah sharp sharp... But all his member Don run commot Co's of false prophecy.
DeleteY not just say Jehovah sharp sharp...but all his members Don run commit Co's of false prophecy.
DeleteYes oh, my new church! The Pastor in Warri is super charged with power! I wish I knew about this church way back and hope they open more branches. Poster 1 try to see the Pastor personally, and also see a fertility doctor ie Prof Ashiru of Medical Art centre in Lagos. He's an endocrinologist and could be of help.
DeleteShut UP!!! you want her to visit that Church called JEHOVA SHARP SHARP baa, Mbanu.,church Whr people run frm ....dnt Go any where poster, look for a good gynae and take your medications well, ve faith u'll be fine.
DeletePoster 1: see all the headache and math ur little brain has calculated because u haven't seen period.The docs u see is it abracadabra they do n send u on ur way?im saying so cos I had secondary n uni school mates with Same issue and I found out that it's only if u meet with a good gynae then ur case is half solved.Even one was placed on bcpills but I'm not a doctor so I can't explain but it worked for them.Abeg see a good gynae n stop thinking barreness first mbok,it is not thy portion.
ReplyDeleteYeah, I believe she hasn't met a very good Doctor, it could just be an hormonal issue which can be solved with certain medications.
DeleteYeah, I believe she hasn't met a very good Doctor, it could just be an hormonal issue which can be solved with certain medications.
DeletePoster 1 there is nothing God cannot do. Even some women who menstruate regularly with womb intact still find it hard conceiving.
ReplyDeleteGod created you that way for a purpose and I am sure it's so you can glorify him when he surprises you.
Secondly, you need you a man that will know your situation from the onset. Leave that toxic relationship and forget how long you've dated this guy.
And lastly, I am sure there is a name for your condition only in Nigeria doctors don't know these things so I'd just tell you to hold on. Focus on finding the right partner first before crying about not conceiving when you aren't even trying to get pregnant.
Poster 2 you are not ready for marriage else you won't be here in 2016 asking silly questions.
Lol thank you for the silly reply (poster 2)
DeletePOSTER ONE IS NOT SERIOUS!
ReplyDeleteYou call on God, you disobey his laws by going to "alfa" (medium) and keep boyfriend whom you "fake menses for"; meaning you are having sex etc. So who are you deceiving; choose this day who you should serve; God or Satan!
Thank u!
DeletePoster 1. U can't serve God and mammon. How can u claim to serve God and also consult with idols? (alfa)
Secondly, from ur narrative u seem to lack faith, yes! Faith is all u need.
If only u can believe and not doubt.(luke 8:49-56) He is "Jehova" the God that calls forth things that be not as tho they are. He doesn't need a womb or in ur case monthly menstrual flow to give u children.
Pls focus solely on God, believe, do not doubt, see it done(visualise ur miracle) and praise God for it.
U don't need 2 be righteous 2 obtain a miracle from God. But u need 2 be righteous 2 retain it!
Poster one. Please and please attend the Deeper life bible church revival that holds every sunday evening from 5pm-7pm. You will surely testify. It is well with you in Jesus nane.
DeleteJesus!!!
ReplyDeletePoster 1 just say to yourself THAT I AM A FRUITFUL VINE AND WILL GIVE BIRTH. LET IT BE YOUR NATIONAL ANTHEM.
ReplyDeleteSince you have done everything possible medically, can i invite you to see my Bishop. If you are interested, let me know. Believe in yourself and never look down on yourself. The devil is happy when he sees the children of God sad. As far as you a woman, YOU WILL GIVE BIRTH. MARK MY WORDS.
Poster 2... Go ahead since you believe in him and him in you. If you are 100% sure marry him. Dont let anyone tell you otherwise. You do not need long courtship. Abeg who long courtship don epp?
Nobody lol, thanks (poster 2)
DeleteWhy do u(poster 2 keep replying all who comments on your issue?
DeleteDear Poster 1...stop focusing on the fact that you have not seen your menses and focus on a big God who does not need you to see your menses before he blesses you with children. Don't ever think you are barren? Ovulation is even better than seeing menses and even at that, God has blessed many women with children who never had their ovulation.
ReplyDeleteUnderstandably you should be worried but cast your cares upon God and remove your mind. Go out, have fun, stop being depressed, eat well, pray, trust God. God loves you. Na your type go born plenty.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Poster 2: since he isn't igbo the discouragement might not be much.I don't know what's with ppl n yoruba n igbo marriages.First bfor u start falling head over heels in 3 mths be sure that the rship is leading somewhere bfor u give urself bp, also find out his people's thoughts abt it and ur people too(not on a formal note yet oo).Love at first sight doesn't mean it must end in marriage inugo, easy does it honey.
ReplyDeleteYes I know and believe me it wasn't planned. Will take it one step at a time, thank you (poster 2)
DeleteThe witches and wizard in your village has tied your womb!...
ReplyDeletePoster,hope you or your mother didn't offend someone in the past...make una check wella!...
Cos I know one woman that tied her husband's side chick womb just to teach the stupid girl a bitter lesson!...
She did it in a way that no pastor or dibia will untie her womb...
Try and gbensh your boyfriend raw to see if you can atleast get pregnant...
Na wah on...
Poster 2,
Two tribes have something in common!...Rivers men don't stay with one woman likewise una people...
So it's a perfect match!,,,
Your stupidity is now on the high side
DeleteLol... Queen I disagree... My father for one stayed with only my mother
DeleteLol funny u (poster 2)
DeleteOr someone (might even be parents) have sarcrificed her womb.
DeletePoster you better go for correct deliverance and forget doctor palaver for now.
Madam I too sabi! And you who stays with one man but fucks around with several boys???
DeleteNa mouth you get abeg! I read your comments most times and I just smile. You are just someone with an inferiority complex masking it with better gra gra. When you are faced with real life situation, your type go fear. I pity all those taking to your advice.
You wanna lead people in the path you will never even dare tow.
All mouth and no action.
Shut that gutter you call a mouth, queen.if you don't have what to say just shut the hell up and don't bring your stupidity to SDK blog
DeletePoster 1 listen and listen to me. There are women in your condition, few though, that have 4 to 5 kids. Most TTC women see their periods. I read anatomy and physiology and I read and wrote few papers on physiological dissimilarites in the human body. I know what I'm talking about. As long as you have ovaries, you are most likely to get pregnant when you try. Your body most likely recycles your flow or there's no outlet. When you want to start having kids, visit a fertility specialist or an OBGYN who knows his/her job. You'll be fine.
ReplyDeletePoster one, it's such a sad case. I think the doctors need to check if your glands are producing necessary hormones. Are you fully developed like with boobs, public hair and hips? I'm more concerned about the excruciating pain you feel even without the flow. You really need a good gynaecologist.
ReplyDeleteMy prayers are with you.
Poster two, falling heads over 'heels' with someone can happen within a short frame of time so no worries. Does he come from a good home and is his family in support of your rship? Yours as well? Then that's all that matters
My dear, he isn't close to his family because they aren't helping matter. They Didn't help him through school or anything so he doesn't even want their opinion (poster 2)
Deletepublic kor.. secret ni
DeleteOmg! Poster one
ReplyDeleteI soooo wish i could hold you close right now and tell you everything will be fine. So sorry about your predicament. Don't give up! Keep praying! Keep praising! You just might be at the edge of your breakthrough. Trust me, God never forgets anyone, your story is going to be proof that all power belongs to God and there's nothing He cannot do. God is in control dearie,stay strong!
Poster 2
You wouldn't know if you don't give it a shot. Whether your union will work or not has got nothing to do with tribe or anything but the individuals(you and your partner) involved.
Thank you, just so you know he is a great guy forget tribe (poster 2)
DeleteFor there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others--and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it."
ReplyDeleteMatt. 19:12
Poster one; are you in the first group -born eunuch? You need to study the teachings of Christ to understand the peculiarity and expectations of God for these people. Settle on Luke 1 and you will find peace. Again, stay away from going to witch doctors or alfas and from illicit sex.
Poster 2:seek d face of God then do ur own research find out d customs n traditions of where he comes from n his family background.
ReplyDeleteTry to take It slow n steady for now. One day @ a time.
Poster one, you're wasting your valueble sleep and time praying and fasting, you're talking to yourself.. There's NO GOD!!!!!!
DeleteI concluded that 2weeks ago.
I will do just that, thank you (poster 2)
DeleteThe fool has said in his heart there is no God
DeletePoster1-Trust God and trust me,u will get pregnant and have ur own kids...I'm not a doctor neither am I a pastor but note my words today..."u will be a mother"
ReplyDeleteThat u are not menstruating doesn't mean u can't get pregnant
My dear u have a womb...God doesn't do an incomplete job...He created u completely and never forgot to put in ur womb
Say little prayers and praise Him more
Abi is it not that my God nii
I'm a living testimony
Poster2- it depends on ur mindset
If he is a good man...forget his tribe
He is a wonderful man, thank you (poster 2)
DeletePoster 1 only God can help you , I know you must have gone through hell,ask God for forgiveness and place yourself at his feet to perfect your life ....sometimes our thoughts for ourselves may not be God's wishes for us. You dint do this to yourself , only God knows how it happened only him can perfect it.
ReplyDeleteSweetie have strong faith , don't lie about it , someone who will love you will love you . Don't feel inferior because u are not.
Tell God to lead you .
Poster 1, don't give up. Miracles still happen. Your case won't be different. Just believe God. With Him all things are possible.
ReplyDeletePoster one, I am not to judge you, but seek God in full sincerity and avoid sin. There is no way God can hear the prayer of one who fornicates, visits alfas etc. Seek God in all sincerity and he would do a wonder in your life. If you are in the east. Visit Ven. S. N Awuzie. He is an Anglican priest and a real man of God. He is in Nnewi diocese. Trust God, He alone can help you
ReplyDeletePoster 2 nothing is wrong with inter tribal marriage .
ReplyDeleteThanks for the vote of confidence (poster 2)
Delete@poster one, have you ever heard of POLYCYSTIC OVARIES SYNDROME? I am no doctor but I think you have that syndrome. From what you said, it's all boils down to that. I would advice you to see a good gynecologist and trust God even when trusting him seem difficult. Praise him in advance and thank him in faith for what he has done. I heard of someone who has never seen her period giving birth to triplets. God that did it for her will do same for you. Look for scripture verses that talks about your situation and speak it into your life. God has done it for you. Dry your tears. God asked several persons in the Bible is anything difficult for me? Believe Him! Nothing is difficult for Him. See a good gynecologist and don't stop praying and thanking God. God be with you
ReplyDeleteMy dear, it Is well with you. I'm also in tears as am writing this after challenging God. Cos it' seems he has abandoned me and was already contemplating suicide. Just a single post by a friend on IG changed my life, I realized that delay is not denial. Who knows thr might be a reason for the delay in your menstrual cycle. God has a plan for everybody and his way we cannot comprehend. His thoughts towards us is of good and not evil. If you will join my faith with urs, let's embark on a 7days praise to Almighty God, the Doctor of all doctors. I HAVE FAITH AND BELIEVE HE WILL PERFECT ALL THAT CONCERNS US. WE WILL BOTH RETURN BACK HERE TO SHARE THIS GREAT TESTIMONIES IN JESUS NAME, AMEN. SHALOM!
ReplyDeletePoster 2 please you don't even have a case,do you know how many tribes are in rivers state that you'll just expect us rivers people to care about one Yoruba girl,if your boyfriend's family don't like your tribe then it is his family and not rivers state.we are not as tribalistic as your people.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 please use this same internet that God has exposed you to to google on your problem,no matter how isolated you think you are there is someone else just like you.or you can also find a specialist.
Poster 1 your case is spiritual... I heard of a Lady who had a spiritual husband and also spiritual kids. Whenever she's pregnant for the spiritual husband in d marine world, in d physical she would be suffering from morning sickness, throwing up etc like a pregnant woman till she puts to bed for her spiritual husband in the water. So u need to keep praying and trusting in God for your deliverance. Please don't hide your problem from your future husband, let him know when he proposes to u so that what happened to your parents won't happen to u.
ReplyDeletePoster 1,your post just made me sad.I have heard of women who don't see their period conceive,you might be in that category too.Why are you hiding it from your mom?I will advise you go to a teaching hospital so test will be carried out extensively.With God,all things are possible so don't loose hope of having kids.Women without tubes & womb concieved.
ReplyDeletePOSTER 1,please brave up and see a specialist and not just a general practitioner,cause from ur write up im not seeing u mention a gyna or other forms of test apart from the scan.ur body menstruates but its not sending signal to ur brain,it might be some form of hormonal imbalance.please go thru any means to find out what is causing it,there is no problem that is new,its for u to find the root cause.please continue praying and sing praises instead of questioning God ,believe he has already done it,even if there is no womb.i know u can still give birth.just be strong i know its hard now but u will need to be,don't worry about u not getting married cause u will abi don't u believe God has designed ur own man for u even before he made u,stop allowing ur mind and thoughts create unnecessary fear.
ReplyDeleteposter 2,please have a mind of ur own and stop listening to world people that have no experience of what u tell them but just draw unconfirmed conclusions.whether u marry from ur tribe or not just watch out for his xter,his family and find out about the tribe in general.but not basing ur judgement by them say them say.
I will, thanks (poster 2)
DeletePoster 2, go ahead and marry the guy if two of you truly love each other.
ReplyDeleteSome yoruba people or Igbo people from the same town marry each other and end up in an unhappy marriage while some people from different countries and traditions find true love and happiness in their relationship or marriage.
Baby this one ur comments are now making sense,I hope all is well honey😂
DeleteThanks so much (poster 2)
DeleteSensible for once. Keep it up.
Delete@1, so ur only problem is the insult u will receive, ve u ever read any chronicle here dat we don't insult, if u don't want insult then don't bring ur problem to us.
ReplyDeleteShut the fuck up if you have no advice to give. Bitch!
DeleteWhere is your advice for her now ? Yo you now, you have said something right ?
Delete@poster 2 what matters most in marriage is marrying the right partner and not marrying the right tribe.
ReplyDeleteI believe he is the right one, thank you (poster 2)
DeletePoster 1 go and see an obstetrics gynaecologist. There's a doctor I recommend any day any time. He's the bomb like DH says
ReplyDeleteThe bump please
Deleteposter one number you give up on God, he can still make you a mother, women without womb has given birth countless time, why not keep on praising Him, serve Him the more, win souls for Him, God will surely do a new thing for you.
ReplyDeleteHave you sit down to talk to your mum one on one? ask her some questions about her past and the kind of idol her parents or your dad's [parents do worship, who knows you may get a closer solution. will put you in prayers.
@the first poster I just want to hug u. I don't know what to say BT the good lord would do it for u. I will remba to say a prayer for u.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: take Stella nwunye's Korkus' advise.. It will end in praise soon.
ReplyDeletePoster1 may God heal you dear. God will surprise you soon and answer your prayers. He will dry off your tears
ReplyDeletePoster. 1......So sorry dear...i don't know what to say..God knows what to do to you....He will perfect everything that is pending in your life and He will give you peace...Since,you have done everything medically possible...God will intercede on your behalf
ReplyDeletePoster 2......Is your family against inter tribal marriage?...you have to know their mind first...if they are against you marrying from other tribe...then please stop that falling in love nonsense and look for your own tribe and marry......You can take the risk if you want to.....All the best.
@Galore
My mum is reluctant but saying if it's the will of God, his family isnt in the picture, thanks (poster 2)
Delete@poster 2, stop saying his family iss nt in d picture, hez family will cum in d picture later on in d marriage( if it apuns), snc he did nt fall frm d sky, and u cn as well try bridge d gap inbtwn dem, as aa gud wife to be, nutn dt apund btw dem is unforgivable#my2cents#
Delete@ poster: please see a gynecologist. A very good one. Then pls, don't Ever limit God. W/o ur menstruation, nor womb, he will give you children. God doesn't change and what we deem as #impossibilities is his own area of specialization. I know of a good gynae, if u are Lagos based. Then never lose faith in God. The bible says, with God, All things are #possible. God has not left nor forgotten you, he just wants to make u a #testimony sweetie.
ReplyDelete@ poster: please see a gynecologist. A very good one. Then pls, don't Ever limit God. W/o ur menstruation, nor womb, he will give you children. God doesn't change and what we deem as #impossibilities is his own area of specialization. I know of a good gynae, if u are Lagos based. Then never lose faith in God. The bible says, with God, All things are #possible. God has not left nor forgotten you, he just wants to make u a #testimony sweetie.
ReplyDeleteposter two what do you really want? that is what matters the most. you are not a small girl, why will you allow what people say or think affect your relationship? you should be old enough to know what is good and what is bad, stop listen to people.
ReplyDeletemake up your mind on what you want and work for it, do not give up cos of what people say abound inter tribal marriage.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster 1,
I can only imagine your pain. I feel for you.
My advice is, there may be more than one way to get your problem solved but if you're gonna go the God ( faith) way, you'll have to completely surrender to him. Live a life that pleases Him, which means stop sinning. It's never easy as we are humans and are constantly tempted.
Give your life to Christ, pray for the baptism of the Holy Spirit. He will help your walk with God easy. Get to know the God you pray to, read your bible, faith journals , pray etc. have a personal walk with God. The more you know Him, the more your faith in Him is built. There's absolutely nothing God cannot do.
One of the reasons why a lot of people do not get their prayers answered ( apart from doubt) is that they also go to other gods (native docs etc) looking for solution. No one can mock God my dear. If you're going to go with God, then go 100%. Forsake all others. Stop gbenshing your partner and doing things God hates (sin).
You see, each time you pray, the devil accuses you of your sins, things like that can hinder the answers to ones prayers o.
I'm writing from experience.
So, if you're going to choose God as the source of your solution (since the doctor's medication ain't working), then choose him exclusively. Stop worrying. God is the creator of wombs, he can replace your lost womb.
Just believeeeee and you'll seeeeeeee, sister nothing pass God (singing)
Poster 1, I pray God answers your prayers. Don't relent in your prayers okay? It is difficult to continue praying wit out answers, but God is faithful. Stay strong okay?
ReplyDeleteHead over hills ko, Head over mountains ni.
ReplyDeletePoster 1. Keep on praying and seek out second opinion medically.
I don't why I found mysef laughing @ poster1. Do you know the kind of God you serve? I bet you don't. Well I don't know if is the same God with mine but mine works wonders. He has the ability to give you more than a child. All you gatta to do is trust him. Tho I doubt if you can do that coz you seem to he in a haste.
ReplyDeletedear poster one, I understand how u feel. I actually know someone that had this problem, she had never menstruated. and so any suitor that came to her, she always told them this problem. many left her after she told them but then came a pastor who was interested in her, she told him upfront, he went ahead n got married to her. she wedded a virgin, n thanks b to go, she has 2 sons now no delay. God is still in d business of doing miracles but u have to go clean to him. if u are fornicating, stop it n ask God for forgiveness n then start thanking, stop praying abt it. just thank him for answered prayers, stop letting it bother u anymore. live right through his Grace. if u have suitors, do not hide it from them, d one that God has for u will stick with u n in d fullness of time, u will birth your own children. it happened for this woman I know, it would happen for u to, if u live your life right with God.
ReplyDeletecongratulations in advance.
Poster 1: just believe God OK? Hold Him tight and please stop fornicating. Free your mind, remember the joy of the Lord is your strength, focus on anything that gives God Joy. He will be glorified in your life.
ReplyDeleteDon't marry a rivers man .I did and he's good for nothing
ReplyDeleteLmaoooooo then what'll you say about Calabar men? Rivers men take good care of their women.
DeleteYour husband is just a lazy individual.
Hahahaha, thanks
DeletePoster 1: i've seen a case of a girl without breast and she has not seen her menses for 22 years. I dunno how she copes but she's just so joyful.
ReplyDeleteU feel menstrual pain every month without anything coming out? There's hope. U need to see a very good doctor. When I mean good, I mean very good and u know what that entails, lots and lots of money.
Well, you'll be fine.
Poster 2: some inter-tribal marriages work while some doesn't. Depends on you and ur guy. But wait o, yoruba and rivers? Never seen such combo b4 o
Well dear, this is one right here (poster 2) thank you
DeleteStella, you took the words out of my mouth as regards Post 1. In all things, the Bible says give thanks.
ReplyDelete@Poster 1, I'm crying as I type this cos I know how devastated you would be, but my dear worry not. I have this strong belief that you will get pregnant, since you do feel the menstral crap, start trying it out now. You will have the full cause to glorify God because you will get pregnant and give birth to beautiful children.
ReplyDelete@Poster 2, there's nothing bad about inter tribal marriage, I've seen many of it that really worked out, the challenges there is from your family and his family. If you're ready to stand on your ground on it, then fear not.
*Larry was here*
Thanks for the vote of confidence (poster 2)
DeleteHello poster 1 your story really touched me and i want to share this with you to tell you all is well.
ReplyDeleteM aunty has this same issue..she Never i mean NEVER menstruated but has 4 grown children and even a grandmother now.
She shares her story with everyone to attest to Gods amazing ways!
Blood never came from her vagina every month, she said she has only pains at certain days of the month and noticed her palm were always very red like she was beaten for some days.
And she got married and had 4 kids.what i would suggest is change your prayer point asking God to make you fertile with or without a period.
This might sound crazy or unreligious but you can try for a baby before marriage so as not to get the pressure of trying to conceive after marriage.it might help to try now that you are still young and fresh.try 10-14 days after that pain you have normally believing its your period.
God will see you through, do not worry God is able.
Yes dear, I agree
DeletePoster one how do we help you without your contact. Pls visit any salvation ministries around you there's a church program by 4:30pm and it has been on for 4 days today is the last day,google the address of your location since I don't know where you are.
ReplyDelete@Poster 1,the fact that you feel cyclical pain every month for me is a positive one.you never mentioned seeing a gynaecololgist.You may have cryptomenorrhoea aka haematocolpos (big terms) but it simply means you are menstruating but due to an outflow obstruction the menstrum isnt visible.it can be surgically corrected.Go to a very good gynaecologist and do as many investigations as they ask of you.let us know how it goes
ReplyDeleteFinally!!! Thank you for this comment. Poster, go see a Consultant Gynaecologist. Your case isn't so serious. Be patient, pray and work with your doctor.
DeletePoster one , don't relent in your prayers and stop complaining, rather always praise God and thank him for the children he will give to you.
ReplyDeleteI remember a story a pastor told in a service I attended a long time ago , he said there was a sister in his church that was very devoted and she had same issue with you, never seen her menses and was of marriageable age .
The pastor said she always came to him for prayers for her to get a husband and he said he usually pray for her and finally there was a man seeking for her hand in marriage and the pastor said he was feeling so guilty when he wedded them knowing the girl wasn't seeing her menses .
But the lady was so overjoyed on her wedding day that she was finally getting married and after the wedding when the got home as she was bathing she was just appreciating and praising God, behold she noticed she was menstruating as she was showering.
Just start thanking God and praising him and let the one that make the impossible possible step in and please stop formicating as such things can hinder your breakthrough.
Poster one, i pray God heals u and u begin ur period in Jesus name Amen.
ReplyDeletePoster two, marriages work out because the people involved need it to work therefore they work towards making it work, the same kind of work is what u put into every marriage whether inter or intra tribal... kisses
We will make it work,thank you (poster 2)
DeletePoster1- not everything is spirutual. Please go and see a gynecologist. At best you could have an imperforate hymen and at the very worst, congenital absence of the uterus. But how can you know if you don't see a doctor for evaluation and management?
ReplyDeleteYes! I think the symptoms she mentioned (high fever, throwing up) are signs of intoxication. Her menstruation maybe regular but just not flowing out. Wait but she mentioned she's not a virgin either.... Hmn 🤔🤔🤔🤔
DeletePoster one just keep believing God for a miracle, there is nothing he can't do. God hears you and at the appointed time your miracle of seeing your menses will locate you in Jesus name.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: never listen to what people say but what your heart tells you. No time is too short falling in love. Relax ur mind and allow things fall in place and don't let people's opinion to decide for you.
My heart is calm with him, thanks so much for ur advice (poster 2)
DeleteP1, still hold on to God....ask him to forgive you going astray.
ReplyDeleteSo far there z life sis, there is full hope.
God bless us!
P2. I think its u that z gonna marry this dude n not tribe whatever.... People will always talk, even if you mawi the prince, they'll still talk. Forget em n go for who you find happiness with.
I will, thank you (poster 2)
DeleteWow
ReplyDeleteAnd here I am complaining whenever 'aunt flow' comes and someone is out there wishing for it. Thank God for everything I have nd don't have.
Wow
ReplyDeleteAnd here I am complaining whenever 'aunt flow' comes and someone is out there wishing for it. Thank God for everything I have nd don't have.
Chronicle has landed. Opens totoh
ReplyDeletePoster one pls hang in there. God will sort u out when the time comes.
Poster two. It won't work. Period. I wish I can tell u otherwise but that's the truth. You know u Yoruba's are very typical and loud with many relatives. Rivers too are loud but carefree with culture and values. Let me atop here before they come after me. Inter tribal marriage is crap BTW. Sorry hun, try ur felloe Yoruba ejor
Why is it crap? Would love to know more, thank you (poster 2)
DeleteOh dear poster1 I have been in ur shoes I started menstruating very late and till date I flow once in a while this year have had my period only twice to show you are not alone. Am happily married and praying to God to bless my womb.
ReplyDeleteNow to my point during my adventure to look for reason why I don't have my monthly flow @ d clinic I went to then,I met a lady when its time for menstrual cycle her palms become so red and always in chronic pain,she said she has been to many clinic before she was referred to that her hospital, we kept touch till then and now she has a son,My advice for you check yourself during this ur monthly pain what changes do you notice in ur body,Dont loose ur faith their are worst cases and they are mothers. I can refer you to my doctor he has really helped in my journey and I hope to hold my children soon. God be with you.
@ poster one I feel your pain so much,I just pray God answer you speedily ,we don't really understand the ways of God,we might think he has forgotten us but there is an appointed time for everything,and definitely your appointed time is now,just keep on believing ,it Is only God that help us out and no one ,not even your doctor or Alfa,stick to your faith and you will see God wonders in your life
ReplyDeletePoster 2 ,it is you that is dating him and is only you that knows what's good for you.put it in prayers and you will get the sign if he is the one for you first before thinking of inter tribal marriage.for me I don't care about tribe just d person personality that's what matters
I know he is the one, but I will keep praying. Thank you (poster 2)
DeleteTo poster 1...Jesus take Control...samething happened to me while in boarding school,precisely my jss3,though I started having my cycle @ a young age.for a whole year I did not see my cycle but still I was happy coz of the troubles wit it.but when I noticed it was getting out of hands I had to tell my mum in which we took into prayers and also I was withdrawn from the school,God so kind that same month it started flowing again.my dear don't lose faith in the creator of the universe coz everything and everyone here on earth has a purpose.it is well with u...
ReplyDeleteIt's worrying that you are yet to see your period but God does not follow protocols.
ReplyDeleteI gave a testimony about my pregnancy here on Stella's blog.
The doctor said there was cyst in ovaries.
When I was praying to God for conception I honestly didn't really pray for the cyst to vanish. I know I reminded myself and God that he knows all hindrances that can ever occur on earth yet He called me fruitful and said have many Children and multiply... - Genesis 1:28. I reminded Him that He said 'WHEN you see the children that I will give to you, you will acknowledge that I am the Holy God of Israel. You will honour me and stand in awe of me ' Isaiah 29:23. God said WHEN Not IF.
So I told God that He didn't need to chase the cysts. He should show us all that even in hindrances, He is the God who saves, the Warrior and the LORD Almighty,Psalm 68:20. Exodus 15:3, Isaiah 51:15. God did exactly that! Amazing God.
Who is he that says a thing when the Lord has not permitted? They will fall.
My advice -
1. open the Bible, especially in a version you can read and understand and relate with (I got the Good news instead of using King James). Search for God's words on His integrity and power. Search for His words on His love for you and search for His words on healing and children. Read, meditate, grow your belief and claim it all. Remind yourself - you might need to underline those words in your Bible and even write them on a book.
2. Grow your faith more by reading faith books. You can download on the Internet for free. Kenneth Hagin, Grace Copeland, David Oyedepo books I read.
3. When doubt comes chase it away even with your mouth. Miracles are often stopped because of human thoughts about Logic. Honestly I I logic that made me not really want to pray about vanishing the cyst but I changed it in my favour, remember God is full of compassion.
4. Try to lead a honest life and avoid sin as much as you can.
5. Pray for mercy from God.
6. I also asked for intercession with Divine mercy, St Gerald, St. Rita and St Jude.
7 . Hold the faith, when you pray and ask for something, believe that you have received it and you WILL be given whatever you ask for - Mark 11:24.
8. There is power in thanksgiving and praise.
9 . God loves you send hears you. God is pleased with your success Psalm 35:27.
10. I wish you everything good and chase away that fear about being from a broken family.
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Poster1 you have to stay strong and don't relent your efforts in praying, but also seek extensive medical diagnoses from a specialist cos sometimes we attribute some health issues to spirituality when in reality some of these issues are not medical mysteries. Poster 2 it is even more risky not to take a risk, you'll never know until u try so just try.
ReplyDeleteI will thanks (poster 2)
DeleteOnce upon a time,a young lady had an incomplete abortion that infected her uterus.Doctors had too evacuate her womb to save her life.She started dating the surgeon that carried out the evaccuation.5 years down the line,d doctor said he wants to marry another cos he is sure she won't birth a child.She got pregnant and had a son.Just let it go,stop worrying,pray and believe.
ReplyDeleteYou need a divine touch. Please visit winners chapel, cannan land this Sunday, 10th July, 2016 as they have a special healing service. Yours shall not be an exception. With Jesus all things are possible. Pls cheer up!
ReplyDeleteP1
ReplyDeleteHow old was sarah when she gave birth? Problem with christians of this generation is we all wanna see workings right away. What would it profit u to see ur period and not get pregnant? Or u think its everyone that bleeds that gets preg?
E. A Adegboye once said "if it seems prayer has failed, try praise".
P2.
Its a good time frame. I know a guy, met a girl and 1 week later he was ready to give it all up 4 her.
All my siblings except 1 married outside my state sef. Its all down to both of u. Me i wont meet the woman of my dreams and not marry her cos of tribe.
Well thank you, I appreciate (poster 2)
DeleteFeel like crying 4 poster 1, dear God will her ur prayer dear, jut have faith dou is not easy. I hope is not a spiritual problem.
ReplyDeleteLol @your last question stella,you don't want her to "come and go"and marry broke ass different tribe man,
ReplyDeletePoster 1, this is for you. God does not work in the way we human wants. I was in a church women gathering and a lady gave a testimony on how she never saw her period but has 2 kids now. So just keep trusting God. U don't need to see any period or have a womb. He is a God that uses basket to fetch water just to disgrace the bucket, the God who breaks kernel with egg just to disgrace the stone. The unchangeable God. Believe and have faith
ReplyDeletePoster 1-God has a big surprise for you
ReplyDeletePoster 2-I am Yoruba and my wife is Edo, am a Muslim and she is a Christian.. u may have challenges of all this "Ah omo ibo lo fe marry"? no mind them just follow your heart..afterall my wife is my mothers favorite nw.
I will thanks, and I wish you the best (poster 2)
Deleteposter 1, watch the program "I did not know I was pregnant" you will see that you can be fine. Please trust only in God and stop fretting. If it comes, fine. These days, there are other ways to have babies. check that you ovulate and have eggs and a womb and you can always have a child. get real medical personnel to give you "the talk" search the net.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 stay away from any form of sin especially sexual sin. Stop engaging in premarital sex. Living a righteous life is the fastest way to be delivered from the chain of the enemy.
ReplyDeleteNarrative 1:
ReplyDeleteImperforate hymen?
I'm not a medical personnel, but I've heard of cases like this, especially because you have what seems like acute dysmenorrhea every month.
I think you should go to the hospital for a PROPER check up.
Poster one. Please praise God. Praise him morning, afternoon, evening night. Every time, don't ever stop praises, don't give up keep praising him from your soul, spirit and body. Stop committing fornication. Abstain from all appearance of sin and trust God like never before. He will see you through.
ReplyDeleteI will also advice you go for deliverance at mfm.
Poster one I have a friend like you who is 26 and experienced menstruation before, infact her ex fiance ran away immediately he knew about her situation but you know what, she is one of the strongest persons I have met, so full of hope and life. Dear please focus on that which makes you happy.
ReplyDeletePoster marrying from your tribe doesn't guarantee a successful marraige.
Poster 1.. why are you bothering urself? Do you fink its everyone that menstruates? You may even as well be ovulating sef and when the time comes you will take in. You are busy crying while God is up there watching and shaking his head at you! Wipe your tears, it isnt necessary.
ReplyDeleteAgain.. please go to a good gynaecologist. Yours looks like a case of endometriosis. Am not sure cos your history isnt complete. Goodluck
To the lady with period issue, have considered d fact that dia may be a blockage, ask ur parents if u were circumcised when u were born, some carelessly done circumcision can cause blockage, which I hope can be corrected surgically. Like u said, u normally feel cramp monthly but nothinflows out which means dia might be a blockage, am not a doctor but AV heard of a case like dat, all bad blood for over 10 years has been compiling in her body, luckily for her she was treated.
ReplyDeletePoster one, you are very very ok, I know of a woman who have same issues with you, but she is married with kids now and her grown up daughter too have never seen her menses via the virginal, they usually see their menses on the pal,I.e mother and child, pls try and make an observation, when you are feeling that menstrate pains,check your palms and you will see that they are reddish than normal, pls do this and give us a feed back, don't worry yourself biko. The lord is with you already.
ReplyDeleteChaaaaaiii I once had a friend like that o
DeleteMenstruating with her palm
It will be swollen and red and she won't be able to work and na hair stylist she be o
So pple are like her too
She's a mother of two now tho😂
*palm,* menstral
DeleteThat's Endometriosis, uterine tissue outside the womb. May b cause by retrograde menses, due to possible cryptomenorrhea. Mayb what poster 1 is going tru.
DeleteMy close friend has never menstruated for one day all her life but she has 3 healthy boys! Menstruation does not mean ovulation and vice versa! Stop worrying about the future. The future will take care of itself. Cheer up
ReplyDeletePoster one, please try to go to Christ Embassy healing school, I know some people here will discourage you but the healing school is real. They build up your faith so you can speak to your body.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 if the guy is responsible , go for it. I am from one of the O states of western Nigeria and hubby is from Niger Delta, with the way i have been treated by Inlaws and hubby, i pray my girls don't marry Yoruba especially men from Ikorodu, because of friends experiences with yoruba men, some are responsible but most of them just flaunt and allow women pay bills.
Thank you dear. He treats me like a princess (poster 2)
DeletePoster1:stop crying, God will comfort you soonest.
ReplyDeletePoster2: follow your heart.
I will, thanks (poster 2)
DeletePoster 1. Why not go for proper medical check up,nd dat ur bf dat av started giving attitudes can't stand by u wen worst problems comes(i don't pray u av worst problems dan ds o)
ReplyDeletePoster 2.if ur parent are not against it Pls go ahead.
They are still nursing the idea (poster 2)
DeletePoster 1: God hasn't given up on you,He is able to do all things.Keep trusting Him and He will surely deliver.
ReplyDeletePoster 1; you never mentioned seeing a gynecologist. That's the first thing you need to do. You can go to a teaching hospital .I don't know how buoyant you are and your location, I can recommend a gynecologist for you in a private hospital (if the protocol in teaching hospital becomes overwhelming ).
ReplyDeleteThe fact that you have cramps monthly is seemingly a good sign.
Dear second poster,I've been in ur shoes all along but it came to a final end last month. The drugs d doc I went to see gave me worked perfectly but he insisted I went for a pelvic scan,bring it to him n then he gave me the drugs.its cheap though.#600 for two tablets which I took Sunday night n Monday morning.he said it will come after two days but it didn't till after 5days.I would have told u but bv esp Elena doesn't mind her business.OK drop ur digits n I'll call u.hoping that it will help u like it did me.gracias
ReplyDeleteDear second poster,I've been in ur shoes all along but it came to a final end last month. The drugs d doc I went to see gave me worked perfectly but he insisted I went for a pelvic scan,bring it to him n then he gave me the drugs.its cheap though.#600 for two tablets which I took Sunday night n Monday morning.he said it will come after two days but it didn't till after 5days.I would have told u but bv esp Elena doesn't mind her business.OK drop ur digits n I'll call u.hoping that it will help u like it did me.gracias
ReplyDeleteDear first poster,I've been in ur shoes all along but it came to a final end last month. The drugs d doc I went to see gave me worked perfectly but he insisted I went for a pelvic scan,bring it to him n then he gave me the drugs.its cheap though.#600 for two tablets which I took Sunday night n Monday morning.he said it will come after two days but it didn't till after 5days.I would have told u but bv esp Elena doesn't mind her business.OK drop ur digits n I'll call u.hoping that it will help u like it did me.gracias
ReplyDeleteMen get in here pls
ReplyDeleteI was in a rlshp that lasted for few years in school, we were so much in love of which he claims to love me more, I later left due to some circumstances. He kept calling for the past two yrs so i decided to go back to him since I haven't found another love either but am now afraid. I haven't had any reason to doubt his love infact he is so very open to me, I know his few friends and family, what he does, his income of which he gives me the greater part to keep for our future investment cos he is aware am a good manager while he is a careless spender. He has always been asking me to marry him and adresses me as his wife, I dnt snoop and dnt care as well although he dated someone during our breakup and they brokeup a month before we made up. I haven't caught him cheating, he takes good care of me, we stay in diff cities but yesterday one of our family pastors called and said that someone is trying to decieve me, he didn't mention his name but I have been afraid and suspicious of him though I have no reason to just that he is the only man am dating. Do you think after opening himself to me, he can still nurse the intention of fooling me
i'm sure that pastor meant the movie producers, they deceive us all the time with make-believe stunts and acts..... If u like mumu urself and lose gold while ure scared of the shadow of a fly.
DeleteExcept he calls ur BFs name and detailed secrets no one else knw, don't take that fraud serious.
Someone is trying to deceive you?
DeleteIs the guy the only person in your life?
It can be your father, mother, brother even friends
Btw, is the guy ugly?
Send a chronicle and stop using short cuts. Nobody should answer you. If you can't tell if you're being deceived or not, you deserve whatever you get. Bye
DeleteDear first poster,I've been in ur shoes all along but it came to a final end last month. The drugs d doc I went to see gave me worked perfectly but he insisted I went for a pelvic scan,bring it to him n then he gave me the drugs.its cheap though.#600 for two tablets which I took Sunday night n Monday morning.he said it will come after two days but it didn't till after 5days.I would have told u but bv esp Elena doesn't mind her business.OK drop ur digits n I'll call u.hoping that it will help u like it did me.gracias
ReplyDeletePoster 1: It is very possible that you menstruate but do not know. Few women menstruate but do not bleed out. My Physiology lecturer mentioned in school then that she has this friend that doesn't bleed. The only thing that happens is that her palms turn reaaaaally red and she's married with kids, so I don't think there is anything to be worried about.
ReplyDeletePoster 1. My love that is wat u are. Never give up. I know of a story of a lady who never had her period but had a child. God has not fosaken u. I only see my period 3 to 4 times in a year. I usually see mine every month b4 but the testimony started 3 year ago. I call it testimony bros I know God want to glorify his name. I know I will be having triplet. Same with u, u will be having triplet. Don't worry it never late. I love u and hug from me.
ReplyDeletei dont usually comment but i should today. Poster 1-there is nothing impossible for God to do. Someone very close to me never menstruated and she is a mther of two kids today so keep faith. Poster 2-inter tribal marriages are very challenging and interesting. and yes,they work. i have been arried for 8 years and i have never wished for a better family. its about the person,the family not the tribe.
ReplyDeleteYou don't have to tell us if you comment all the time or not, drop your contribution and run along
DeleteThanks for the advice, I wish for that too (poster 2)
DeletePoster1 I feel ur pain bur then we can only tell u to hold onto God,stop being depressed Nne, just kip tanking God for life nd he's Mercy.. At the rite tym ur menses will cm ND u will cm bck here for testimony...
ReplyDeletePoster 1..I can almost feel the pain u're in while typing this.. Come n collect **hugs**..but u do realise u are not alone right?.. Instead of crying everytime and beating urself up over things beyond your control, which is even worsens the matter because emotional stress messes with your hormones.. Why don't you channel d energy into seeking medical help, find a specialist, do research, read about d problem, Google is your friend..and who told you can't have children ever heard of IVF?.. It was designed for people who had problem ovulating or perhaps a blocked uterus,I know der's help for you out there.. N no matter the outcome of the situation, d most important thing is self love and acceptance.. Say no to spirit of self pity please,focus instead on becoming very successful, trust me it solves 70% of your problems, that way u can afford artificial insemination or even a surrogate if u want..good luck darling, be happy, dats all that really matters *kisses*
ReplyDeletePoster 1. Go see a dr/gynecologist. That is the 1st thing you should have done. You may have imperforate hymen this one you feel pain every month
ReplyDeletePoster, all these people here telling u to trust God, God will surprise you, God is a miracle God...... They're all lying to you, they're just consolling you... They'd never allow their sons or brother marry you. Liars on this blog finish.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster 1, you are the one delaying your miracle. God dosent love sin. Stop the premarital sex.
ReplyDeleteWithout holiness and Godliness no man can see God. Live a holy and pious life. Make a vow to God that period or no period u will carry your pregnancy to full term when u get married. Claim unshakeable faith that God has indeed settled you.
Poster 1, I would like to encourage you with the testimony of a lady in my church. This lady never saw her period for one day but kept believing, trusting and working in the Lord's Vineyard, she was in three different units in church and was a regular fixture to the extent that so many people (me inclusive) thought she was a church staff. She said she kept telling herself that her working in the Lord's Vineyard shall not be in vain, that she was sure that God will reward her efforts and she never let her faith waiver and she stood firm in HIS words which shall never go unfulfilled. As of today this lady has 3kids within d space of 5 year's. So rather than waiting and looking for your menstrual period, just live your life, continue to praise, worship and believe in him. I believe what you desire is pregnancy at the right time, so focus on that and I am sure the Good Lord will answer your prayers. Don't let your faith shake and remember you don't have to be menstruating before you can get pregnant. I pray and I know God will show himself to you
ReplyDelete@Poster 1; Don't give up because your set time has come, just keep praising and thanking God for your miracle, I know of a formal colleague who had set of twins and never saw her menstrual cycle, God is able to do exceeding and abundantly above all we could do or imagine, He is still God, at the center of it all keep your gaze on God the perfecter of all things and live your life full of Joy, say NO to self pity.
ReplyDeletePls visit my church on Thursdays or watch d prophet on mitv every Wednesday by 11.30 pm.the God of ayodele babalola stillstill.college bus stop Ikotun egbe,center point ground.days where d programs holds.
ReplyDeleteIf you are having pains and no period then it's a medical problem. A girl in my school then has this condition she had so much paints and no period. I think she went abroad they removed this massive tumor form her like huge clots. We saw the pictures and we were amazed. After that she started swing her period with pains. I'm sue we have good doctors here that can perform this surgery. You need surgery and of course prayers.
ReplyDeleteposter1, please just focus only on God and stop diverting ur trust, God will answer u like stella said try praise.
ReplyDeletePoster 1...kindly hit ma name and send me a mail if u are in abuja
ReplyDeleteI feel your pain @Poster 1
ReplyDeleteKeep trusting God but ask your mum the circumstance behind your birth and she too should fast and go for deliverance with you.
RIvers men love fat ladies so if you're one, no need to fear just pray.
Poster 1. Don't stop trusting and believing God Sweetheart. Like Stella said, praise God. When prayer fails and your faith is weak, don't ever stop praising God. I have heard of a testimony just like yours how God showed up for her, he will do same For you only if you trust In him. God's time is the best and God never comes late. God bless you
ReplyDeletePoster 1 from glory to glory, let me tell you a secret that will work for u, instant miracle, first u need to give your life to Christ, with your whole heart,and follow God's instructions faithfully , read the word, your solution is on the word. Word of God has your answers.then pray Kingdom prayers . matt 6:33.and go out fr soul winning.matter 6:33 works like fire.please engage diligently.if you can visit any winners chapel around your vicinty.let it be to you according to your faith, and you will see God of double wonder show up in your life.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: I can't imagine what you are going through. But I believe you have to do a full examination and get a diagnosis
ReplyDeleteI am a medical student and there has to be a cause for your predicament. Identifying the cause will help you explore your options. Also the best doctor is Jesus, remember the woman with the issue of blood I have seen a real case of that testimony recentl. Don't go to God in prayer panicking, go to him from a place of victory, praise and believe and you can't be mixing fornication and prayer together. Be either hot or cold. Looking forward to your testimony. "I have a God who can crack a nut with an egg, just to embarrass the stone"
Poster one pls , you need to see a good gynaecologist. They would do proper scans, transabdominal and or transvaginal. I dont want to scare you but yes it is possbile the womb is not properly developed , also we need to be sure you are ovulating!! So a hormonal profile would be done to establish this. You say you have pains every month this is possible if you have endometrosis. Please you need to calm down and seek a proper doctor , infact any govt hospital would do this basic tests for you and then you can take it from there. Stay strong and dont panic sending you e hugs
ReplyDeletePoster 1:pls go and see a gynecologist.
ReplyDeleteMy cousin never saw her period even in her 20's. She got married in 2001 at the age of 25 or thereabout. She took in immediately. She even had a set of twins in her second pregnancy. Today, her kids are all grown. So, just relax abeg.
ReplyDeleteDear poster one, I think what u have is MAYER- ROKITANSKY-KUSTER-HAUSER syndrome. It's a Congenital disorder that causes the vagina and womb to be under developed or absent. Affected women usually do not menstruate. Women with this disorder have normal female external genitalia and functioning ovaries. This means you can have ur own kids via assisted reproduction or miraculously. I have never ruled out the place of miracle in my practice and won't start now. God still heals people. You can goggle and read more on the syndrome. God bless you and remain strong and faithful as you wait on Him. Peace!
ReplyDeleteOnly God have the answers to all questions.
ReplyDeleteOnly God have the solutions to all problems.
Only God have the revelational knowledge that can give total freedom from bondage.
Hold on to God and you will have reasons to rejoice and be celebrated.
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Poster 1...there is absolutely nothing that our God cannot do. I was born with a hole in my heart, God healed me perfectly without surgery or medication. Today I am 32yrs old, with a 14mobyhs old son, perfectly healthy to the glory of God, my heart is in Great shape. That God that closed the hole in my heart, will hear you and fix your reproductive system. Trust him and don't quit on him. You are loved sis.
ReplyDeletePoster 2... I am in an inter-tribal marriage. I don't even understand a word in my husbands language till today. I met my husband and he proposed to me after 2WEEKS of our meeting, yes just 2wks and I said the big Yes. We are 3yrs in marriage now and waxing strong. My in laws are the best I could ever wish for.
So my dear, pray, search your spirit and if you are sure he is the one... Then Goodluck dear.
POSTER 1, POSTER 1, the pain and high temp (fever) you are experiencing is bc you are ovulating!!!!! Check your vaginal discharge during that period, it is a clear & slimy even if it's just a little or scant. Sweetheart that's your ovulation period, WC means you are producing eggs, it is so small and invisible to the naked eye. You probably pass it out like normal vag discharge w/out the bleeding or shedding or the uterine (womb) lining.
ReplyDeleteWHAT IS MENSTRUATION ??? ie the bleeding discharge.
It is when the uterus (womb) sheds it's lining if no implantation of a fertilized egg; i.e. if no preg occurs.
Absence of menstruation is called AMENORRHEA. Causes.
1)I don't want to believe u don't have a womb. Go for another scan, in a teaching or reference hospital. Believe that God created you well and after his own image, declare it aloud.
2) Hormonal imbalance ie those that regulate or cause the monthly flow.
**Your doc can run blood tests to check your Thyroid gland(it's in your front neck) if it's underactive or overactive. So remind your doc.
**Another hormone is Prolactin. Your doc should order blood test for this.
Note, you can be put on some Hormonal meds for some time to see if it will trigger building and shedding of the uterine lining wc is menstruation.
3)Is there a family history of same condition ?
So tell your Mom, prepare financially & psychologically to go to a good hospital, consult with specialists.
There are those who've given birth but no womb. BE ENCOURAGED.
Lastly, pls take this serious. Do not go for any spiritual baths or sacrifices ! It is not of God. As your virures & glory are just being washed away to empower water spirits thereby putting you in more bandage. With the devil nothing goes for nothing, something got to give. Be afore warned.
***Since you have faith in God and u sabi fasting & praying; GO TO MFM where God works in the raw. Where the underlying causes will be revealed. Where you are encouraged to go to the hospital but also you will be taught how to ask God to turn your situation around. So many have girls have been delivered of such disorder MFM right there with the start of their flow, all stained up, but shouting praises to God.
Blessings dear, there is nothing God cannot do.
Sorry for my long epistle. Hope you read this late post.
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ReplyDeletePOSTER 1........GO TO A GOOD GYNAECOLOGIST. if you experience monthly menstrual pain yet so no blood it is possible you have an outflow tract obstruction. that means its possible you are menstruating but there is a blockage/obstruction thats why you cant see the blood coming out. please bring out and money and go to a good doctor NOW!!
ReplyDeleteposter 1 I think you should keep on believing in GOD. He will surely answer your prayers. HE said in the book of Deuteronomy.. BEHOLD I AM YOUR GOD, IS THERE ANYTHING TOO HARD FOR ME? your answer should be NO. don't give up on him I believe your time is now. I'm also believing God for the fruit of the womb I've been married two years now no issue, I haven't given up on him and I don't intend to give up. my God is able I know this month will not pass me by. mensuration or no mensuration you will get married and have your own children in Jesus name. if there's any hand in it God almighty will surely caught off those hands.. my dear your time is now , if seeing your period is the problem, I decree that before this month ends you will start seeing your period in Jesus name that is above every other name Amen. remain blessed!
ReplyDeletePlease find your way to Liberation City for deliverance. God is using Dr Chris Okafor mightily.
ReplyDeletePoster 1,you're just scared the fact that you've not bled does not mean u can't give birth,nne calm down nothing is amiss. Poster 2 if the guy is really for you. Bone tribe difference.
ReplyDeleteGod forgive me for asking why do i have to keep up with this pain.Even in your pain, learn to praise God. Your situation is not the worst. Stop asking God.start praising him. It's easier to praise sef. Believe firmly in him. You will carry your children. No matter how long it takes. Remember God never fails. I'm a living witness o. God never disappoints. When the Lord turned the captivity of Zion, they were like them that dream.....
ReplyDeletePoster 1: I feel ur pains but obviously u r yet 2 get proper evaluation 4 ur problems.. God wks 2ru man n in ur case I ll advice u present urself 2 any nearby teaching hospital where they have a n he can tk it 4rm dia..u nid sm radiological investigations. Wish u luck
ReplyDeletePoster1, please just be calm, the Lord is your strength!!! Deae, if u are close to ibadan, go to UCH and ask for Professor Adewole's( the present minisster of health.private hospital. ( Royal crown hospital ). God is really using him, he's a good gynaecologist. Please try and look for him. Incase u need more information, revert plss. U will never regret it. He will monitor you til u get married and give birth with the help of God. God bless ur soul.
ReplyDeletePoster 1.The problem is caused by hormonal imbalance .the best and cheapest drug is birth control pills.It work like miracle.I have seen people that have used it and it worked marvelously.My wife lost her pregnancy and D&C was carried out on her .She did not see her menstruation for 0ver 3 months.Several drugs were recommended but failed until with met a doctor and recommended birth control pills.Exactly 28days of the pills, the menstruation came.It corrects hormonal imbalance in the female body.
ReplyDeleteHi Poster 1,
ReplyDeleteI wish you would take time to read this & I dearly sympathise with you on this ordeal. Never forget that you're priceless gem chosen by God even before you were conceived in your mother's womb. Hence, God KNOWS YOU!
Although, out of desperation you did displease God by your lack of Faith & you seeking other gods. Yes, i'm not in your shoes & i don't intend to be judgemental (Sincerely, i am sorry if i do). However, you need this fixed but there are some certain steps that you need to take into receiving your blessings.
I encourage you to read Psalms 51:1-19, David sinned & fell out of grace with God. You need to appeal to the mercy of God & be honest about it. Also, understanding the severity of sinning against God, will help you on your quest to repentance. Please do not give any excuses or justification rather, just desire to reform & recognise that forgiveness is not deserved but he should show mercy. Remember, God looks at the heart!
Once you have done this, you can boldly approach the throne of grace & engage Jesus with the specific request you want him to answer; praying with so much intensity & passion followed with the act of faith. Sincerely, that's all you need. If you will be patient and have faith like that of a mustard seed. You will get your glory. Please do not go seeking his face with a doubt filled prayers & all try to avoid holding grudges, offences or bitterness against anyone.
There's this particular song i constantly have on repeat by Travis Greene - Intentional. It says "All things working for my good, it's intentional... never failing God" I'd love for you to download the song, even in your weakest moments, please go back & listen it. At some point in time, stop asking God for the same request, pray for other things or people. Have faith that he has heard you and he's busy working on surprising you. I believe if you can follow this steps, you will find sudden peace.
To this end, i wish to invite you for a special healing service in any Living Faith (Winners Chapel) round you on Sunday 10th July 2016. Surprisingly, our theme for this month is "I will restore health unto you". I pray as you come, may God heal you of this.
Have a wonderful night rest.
Cheers!