Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives..

I just cannot understand some Mothers...why poke nose to this extent?

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
SERIAL CHEATER ADDICTED TO ATTENTION FROM MEN

Hi guys,
I am a 25 year-old lady in a relationship with a 32 year- old man but I have a serious problem. I am addicted to attention from other men.

 I feel like an ungrateful person because i'm blessed with the most mature, kind, loving, understanding and generous man yet I keep cheating on him.

We've been together for a little over a year now and in the course of our relationship, I've cheated thrice with 3 different men. I don't have any emotional attachment with these men as I keep them only for the attention.  I have countless other men constantly calling me, taking me out and giving me gifts. I just love the attention, I know I need to end it because my man is talking seriously about marriage. 

 He kinda suspects I see other men but has no proof. I've convinced him that they are just clients from work who call me late at night because I work with a high luxury company where most of them like to call at night due to their busy schedules, he believed me.

We give each other the freedom to hang out with other friends and he feels when i'm out, I hangout with my girlfriends.

Recently, he told me that he loves me so much and that's the reason he doesn't check my phone or messages because he doesn't need a reason to distrust me. 

I feel so bad because he works really hard, even when I was faced with financial problems, he was there for me. I love him so much but I can't stop seeing other guys.

I'm not sleeping with anyone else now but I enjoy the multiple attention and I think this started as a result of my lifestyle in the university. Back in school, I didn't have a boyfriend, I enjoyed being chased by multiple guys and making them prove their love but right now I'm stuck with this 'habit' and I need a way out. 

It's not the money that's my problem, I don't even need their money but if it comes, fine.

Please advise this young girl as you would your sister.  Thanks a lot family!

*I love attention too so whilst they advise you,let me study my case and see if mine is an addiction..I dey come.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
FAKE MARRIAGE TO HELP SECURE A RESIDENCE PERMIT

Hi Stella,

Thanks for using this platform to touch people. My story goes thus:

I am a lady of 24 years in college, my boyfriend is 25 years  and we both live outside the country. We have been dating for a year and half now, he's really a nice person. He surprised me with a trip to Vegas for Christmas, he got me a car and other lovely stuffs. 

I am very independent because I work also but he is a spoiler. I have my papers in the country I reside but he doesn't and he wants me to get married and help him with that, I know he likes me for real not because of his papers.

As for me, I am not ready to get married at all and he is not either but just for the sake of his papers he wants us to get married now although he's not being pushy about it, he's also  searching for a job because he has just graduated from college.

I am super confused. He thinks we should travel outside our country of residence to get married because he doesn't  want people knowing. He spoke to my mum and she said it's okay. For the wedding to look real, we need people's presence and I am so scared to ask my sisters because I know they will judge me.

My question is, should I go ahead to assist him or not?

*Open your eyes and smell the pizza burning..He is a spoiler because he wants something from you.how can you get married this way?what if you do it with him and he walks away?jnYour mum said its okay?Okay as in?MYGoodness!

Dont do it!!!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER THREE

WHEN MAMA BECOMES A STUMBLING BLOCK AND SAYS NO

Hello Stella,

                     I love your good heart! Please this is very urgent as i am very confused on how to handle it! 

I met my man friend (now fiancee) last year August . He is an amazing man. He understands me and treats me like a queen. The issue at hand is age difference! I am 29 and he is 51 years. I told my mum about him, she said over her dead body will she give out her only daughter to her age mate (mum is also 51). And he wants to see my people for introduction 27th of next month!

 Although he told me everything about him with proofs that he was once married with 2 kids, but unfortunately the wife and son died in the Sosoliso air crash from Abuja to PH 11 years ago. living behind her little daughter now (14) yrs. He said he found it very difficult to fall in love since then and i am the only one his eyes could behold. He introduced me to his family and beautiful daughter last year December ! 

They welcomed me warmly and takes me as part of them. I have tried talking to my mum about this but she said "Gloria nwam" Lai lai!!! She kept on telling me so this is the way i wants to pay her back? I do understand my mum, she suffered to raise us when dad died. me too have suffered many heart aches from previous relationship which mum knows about. I have told people close to my mum to help me talk to her but she told them she will kill herself for me. 

Infact my aunts made secret investigations about my fiancee and found out that all he told me was 100% true and he is a very responsible man. I am very worried Stella. In this man i believed this word that says " Age is just a number" cos he looks way younger than his age. Stella i really wants to settle with this man! he understands me and handles issues soo matured. He  takes good care of me, pays me monthly up keeps, even though i work. 

he advised me to apply for masters degree, which he promised to sponsor. He said he just want the best for me. people that knows him Kept on telling me that i met the best man any woman could ask for, which i can testify to. since i knew him its just once we f*****! he doesnt disturb me in that aspect. He said he just need a companion. His daughter came back for holidays lastweek, my fiancee called me and gave her the  phone to greet me. After greeting me, she asked me  "Mummy when are you coming to visit us? Stella i was shocked. 

My Fiancee said she told her daughter everything about me and she said she loves me and also suggested she wants to be calling me "MUM" . And this man kept on telling me that i looks and behaves like his previous wife. i believed him cos i saw her pictures and the funny thing is that i looks like his daughter too. Hmmm i am absolutely on a crossed road as i dont know what to do.

 Forgive my typos as its very urgent. please Stella i need help on how to handle this, thanks a lot.

If age is the only reason your Mother does not want you to marry him then she does not have a case....Is it possible to arrange a meeting between your mum and this man?

Tell your mum that you want her to meet with him and then you will let him go...Meeting with him might charm and convince her that you have a good man in your hands.

My dear are you willing to let this man go?

My dear,if all else fails to convince your mum,then do what people do when desperate measures call for desperate actions.

CALL HER BLUFF!

Good luck honey and let us know how it goes.

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MARRIED FOR THE WRONG REASONS

Hello Stella, I trust you are doing great. I can't express how addicted I am to your blog..Ah! You almost gave me a heart attack the other day when  your site was down..

My name is Nne, I am 26yrs old  and I have a confession to make to you and your blog visitors.

Majority of my family members do not know about this even my father.

I was a single young lady looking for a new start or something.....I just knew I want something new for a change but I didn't know what it was that I wanted. You know being a Gemini can be a little trick at times....

I was comfortable financially and I was living alone in a little cute  apartment. I had all that I needed at that time and I was happy but I wanted something new for a change.

I meet a man who lives in Spain, through a mutual friend. he told me his plans about getting married also that he is already married with kids and living with his family.

I thought about it for months and for some reasons I agreed. In my mind , I thought well I love my space and seeing that this person is already married (which is not a big deal in my religion) he won't be much of a problem to me and more so, since we won't be seeing everyday that we won't have issues.

 Truth me said, I just wanted to get married so no one will bother me about finding a husband and being that I have fear for marriage . 

I felt like , I was going to be married but still live my normal life because the he is not going to stay with me 24/7. I don't mean single life like cheating on him or going clubbing or whatsoever. It more like me having my space. I know how weird this might sound to you all but that's just me.

He is very caring and generous when he wants to be and a bit of a control freak and likes things done in his own way and timing, but I am a free spirit person and very spontaneous also my mood determines my next move.

 So if he catches me on a good day I will do whatever to please him and someday I want to have things done differently.

So, finally we met and , we got married. After a short period of time, things changed for us. I got bored of him and he was becoming overly protective and possessive

You know sometimes we see our own reflection in other people. He is sleeping with his wife and he is a pretender because he will not  want her to find out that he is married to someone else for fear of loosing his kids and his stay. So you can imagine that there is no peace with a liar bcos he knows someday, someone might do the same to him.

But I honestly do not care if he sleeps with her or whatsoever.. I just want my space to breath.

However, I am planning on playing along with him like we are cool and when I have made solid arrangements, I will leave him or I could just have a real talk with him whenever he comes back and we just end the  marriage like two grown adults because it's not working for us. We fight all the time and he is unhappy and same with me.

There is no point faking happiness or marriage if it  is not working . Moreover, I have nothing to lose or gain in it cos by law we are not legally married and might never be which is fine by me cos I just want my peace of mind.

It's been over a year now no physical contact with him.

I know I didn't say anything about being in love with him ,that's because I really do not know what I feel for him , and he seem rather obsessed than in love with me.

Stella, thank you for reading. I feel much better penning my feelings down and sharing it with your blog visitors

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