Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives..

Hmmmm!!!

 NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
OVER-ACCOMMODATING HUSBAND

Stella, nice job you are doing! Keep it up!

I am blessed with a happy family of 3. Hubby is a wonderful man with a large heart too. 

The issue I'm having is that my house is over crowded, for 3 years that I've been married, i have never really enjoyed privacy of any sort.
We live with hubby's sister and kids and a few family relations; his friends also come around almost everyday. Hubby is an importer and his ware house is behind our building. I don't know if it's because we have a BIG house that they all come around. Infact, all the rooms are occupied and i'm already loosing my temper because it's a big stress for the Nanny and I.

Hubby has slowly turned our house to a big restaurant, i go through a lot of stress everyday that i now look older than my age. I have talked to hubby about it several times, he told me it's the way he receives blessings from God. My SIL's kids are 3 and have been living with us since January.

 I told hubby to rent a flat for them, he refused saying " WHO WILL LIVE IN ALL THESE EMPTY ROOMS?" and they don't help out in chores but only behave like a "MADAM".

Please note: For the period of 6 months we courted, it was like this. I complained to my mum and close ones but they advised me to be tolerant, that it will minimize as soon as we get married. Now 3 years and counting, for where? Rather it keeps getting worse.

My elder sister advised me to show them a little attitude and always serve them a little food and beans constantly, whenever i try to adhere to it, hubby will almost fight me and ask why I cook beans everyday since we have enough food in the store? My mum keeps encouraging me to pray more and tolerate them, the most annoying thing is that one of his distant aunt will be coming over to stay this weekend for treatment, her children also stays in the same city as we do, I told hubby to tell her to stay in her children's house but he refused telling me to prepare a room for her. 

I feel so sad everyday when i return from work because i do not enjoy my home anymore. Not that i'm not accommodating but the stress is too much for me.

Please help me, i need advice on how to handle this.


So sad that your house is full?wow
Since it is the cooking part that stresses you up,why dont you hire a cook to take care of that?I really dont see anything wrong in what your hubby is doing cos i love a full house and I love to help and if i could,i would do same if i was back home.
Since you cannot change it,then find ways to make it easier...get a cook or cooks to ease the stress,get a house keeper to clean,keep hiring until he complains or asks you why and then you re-table how you feel.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
ANTENNA UP CONCERNING LE BOO

Hi Stella,
I'm new here and i absolutely love this blog! It really feels like a family here. Kudos!!! 

I've been following the chronicles and hoping I see something close to mine so I'd just note the opinions and advices and not bother sending mine but as I haven't seen any, i decided to send in mine because i'm really confused right now.  

Ok, here it goes : I'm 26 and I've known my boyfriend for about 6 years (we attended the same university), we were just friends even though he started asking me out in my final year of which I constantly declined because i had a boyfriend then.

He graduated before me and kept asking me out even when i graduated. I still declined but we remained friends, chatting once in a while on bbm etc. He's a nice guy and we get along well.

Fast forward to last year, I was single so I decided to give him a chance and we started dating (note that we stay in different cities). The thing now is, he doesn't ever like talking sexuality or anything close, we still gist like we used to when we were just friends. He has never come to see me in my city, even when I go to his, he suddenly makes excuse about travelling ASAP. He doesn't like to cuddle, have sex etc but he is a party hopper, smokes and drinks. 

He's always out with his friends like every other night. Once i'm back to my base, we resume our platonic gist again and it's very annoying. It's really confusing!

Now he's seriously talking about marriage and i'm like, are you for real? 

Hold up please, you wanna marry me when I think you don't find me attractive or what? He begs and says it's timing and all when i know he's deliberately avoiding intimacy. 

Even kissing na war! 

Stella, I secretly suspect he is gay and most times, my instincts are right. I can't snoop because of distance and even at that his phone is constantly passworded.
I wanna save both our time and move on because I don't understand this anymore. I can be celibate for as long as I want so sex is not my problem but I mean, even if you wanna abstain, at least show that you find your spouse attractive and you guys can be compatible sexually, isn't it? If you see him professing love and marriage, you won't believe it. 

I know something's not just right.

Please house, what's your opinions on this and could I possibly be overreacting? How do I confirm for sure he's gay? I ain't marrying a gay dude abeg. 

Thanks Stelz.


If you are right and he is gay,that means he wants to marry you to cover up..
Hmmm,there must be a way for you to be sure..
Maybe someone will suggest something.All the best and write back to let us know how things play out.