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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
WHO SHOULD PROFESS LOVE FIRST?

Good morning Mrs Stella, guess you are doing good? I must say you are really doing a great job here. I'm actually confused and would need other people's opinion on this.

I'm a young lady in my final year in the university, not a party type and my life cycle is just from home to school and from school to church, I hardly visit friends because I'm an introvert. To the issue on ground, i have once been in a relationship but after a while the guy's family relocated to Abuja while mine to Port Harcourt. 

Although then, we were still very much together but distance became a barrier and later on he started discussing sex with me so I had to break up because I believe in sex after marriage and not the other way round. 

From my 100 level till now, I get advances from guys but some are after my shape and beauty, others want me for a wife because they view me as a wife material but they are not ready to be faithful to me. 

There is this guy who happens to be a good friend of mine for a while now, the truth is he doesn't pretend to me and he expects same from me. I have been very transparent with him just like he is to me. I just discovered now that before we became friends he had interest in me and that he had made researches about me before being my friend and now I am having feelings for him. 

The issue is he knows I love him but I guess he's scared to say he loves me because sometimes he will call me to say he wants to discuss something with me, that I should visit him the next day but when I get there he would look for a way to avoid the discussion and start saying something else. 

Another thing I found out is that he loves my company so much and always wants to be around me. He wants to know my every nature so that he can please me at all times but now he wants me to admit that I love him even though he hasn't said his but I normally wave that topic aside because I expect a guy to say it first.

Please I sincerely need advice on how to go about this and let me also say he once told me i'm his wife but he needs more confirmation from God. 

Thanks

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
FUTURE MIL's INTERFERENCE IN MARRIAGE PLANS

I will be 28 years in 3 months time, I have been dating this guy for over a year and we were supposed to formalise our relationship this year but many things are coming up which are tiring. He was supposed to rent his house this year because he still stays with his parents. Rent costs over a million and I know that will take a huge chunk out of his salary, so I promised to support him.

I was unemployed for over 2 years but when I started work middle last year, I saved 300k. I gave him to help support for the rent. The mum came up with travelling for Hajj and he borrowed her the money, now she has only paid half, we are still expecting the balance. He later got money for his rent but his mum told him why he was in a haste to rent a house that we should wait till December.

His excuse is that the mum wants him to be in the house when she returns from traveling and he needs his parents' blessings before he leaves.

Stella, can you imagine wedding preparations were put on hold because his eldest brother whose introduction was done 4 years ago is thinking of getting married this year so we should wait.

My man earns well but his family collects so much from him as if he doesn't have his own life. Now I don't have a stable shelter, i sleep from one place to another. We were supposed to go pay for rent tomorrow and show his mum the house because she must approve it but she said no outrightly that we should wait till December. 

I cried this night and didn't say anything to him but he saw I was pained. Right now I feel like leaving and another part of me is saying I should be patient.

Please has anyone been in my shoes or what can I do and how do I handle this? Thank you.