Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives...

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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

CONFUSED BUT IN LOVE

Hi Stella good day,

I must commend your great work,time and patience you have towards your blog .

Am 26 years old and in a relationship with a great guy who is 40 years old.We met some 9 years back through the social media and we got into a relationship for like a year and broke off because he came back to the country and told me that his people introduced him to a chick who they wanted him to get married to (he doesn't stay in the same country with me but his family does)I was upset and blocked him from all of my social media handles.

He pleaded with me that he didnt like the chick and doesnt want 2 marry her but I still broke up with him.Fast forward to some weeks back,I unblocked him and he started confessing his undying love.He's been waiting for me and that am his wife.I accepted dating him again being that I was single.

We stay in different countries hence we talk everyday,almost 24hours a day.He complained about the way we talk so we reduced the hours a bit. We started having issues after I asked him for some money for a project I wanted to embark on,he promised giving me but each time I asked about the money he promised me,he just gets upset and we start arguing.So I had to stop asking.There came the issue of his exes,he would gist about them and say he didnt gbensh them but the next time he's giving the same gist,he would say he did.I told him I wasnt comfortable with his lying about something silly cause I don't care about them chicks in his past relationships.

Now the problem is keeping in touch with him,wanted to apply to move down to where he is,so we can be closer but he refused saying I should stay put until the end of this year when he would come see my people and that if I move to where he is presently,might leave him alone.He's also very obsessed with me,cause he told me how he used to re-add me using another ID to check out my pix or updates.That scared me cause I call that cyber stalking.

I have falling in love with him but am scared of two things(we havnt still seen each other)but we do face time.Don't know if I can stand the distance plus don't know if he can take care of me.I purposely asked him for the assistance cause I wanted to see his reaction but he promised to give but didnt and hasnt made a move to.

Please my fellow bvs what do I do?I would really like to settle down with him but are my fears in other?

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

TAKE A WALK OR WAIT FOR CHANGE?

Hi Stella and Bvs.

Am a young lady of 24. I met a guy in April, he is 32, an only son, not rich just OK and is more like a family friend and we are both from the same village and state, but we both never knew each other till the April we met. 

After a week of meeting him he proposed but I didn't accept because i felt everything was happening too fast and we needed to take it slowly and also get to know each other better though and he agreed, but he already told his parents before proposing and trust mothers now she already called my parents to inform them even before i got to know of his intentions, both families are so excited to a fault, you know now, same village and state stuff esp with the igbos. 

Am also excited and love him but not carried away because there are issues concerning him that bothers me; 

1) He is the only son and has just a sister who is married also, he still lives with his parents in the same compound but not on the same floor, it's a duplex, am worried about how to start my family in their house. He doesn't intend moving out anytime soon. Please is it ok to start my family with him there for now or should i insist on moving out?

2)His way of life is a lot different from mine, he does more of clubbing, a heavy smoker, drinks and hardly goes to church, stays out late but he's very nice, we agreed to be celibate and never gets drunk. I love him and want him to stop majorly the cigarette.

 Please how do i go about it? Is change possible? Or should i let him be and walk out since our life styles don't match but i don't condemn him at all. Though he claims to be happy with the life style and i agree with him but it doesn't in any way make me happy cos am kinda the churchy mary amaka kind of girl though not perfect lol. Thank you.