STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
WHEN *GBENSHING' GOES WRONG.
Hi Stella,
Okay so i would try to keep this as brief as possible. Am a 22 year old medical student, am in my 2nd year of med school, i have been in this country for 6 years but i had to do my first degree before med school as is the practice here. so i have been here for a while but i generally wasn't able to engage in many social activities due to my tight schedule as a med student, by September this year I would officially start my clinical studies so I would permanently be in the hospital which is very stressful and busy.
So I decided this summer I won't travel back home and I would try to have some fun. I met a Nigerian girl who was in college here about 1 month ago and we hit it off, last Friday she sent me a message that she was going to the club, so i offered to come with her. we had a lot of fun and when we were done we got a taxi and went back to her place, as expected we had sex.
I had volunteered to assist in A children hospital the next day so left immediately we were done so i wouldn't over sleep. on Saturday evening i sent her a message to check on her, then she told me she was really drunk the night before and didn't really remember what happened, I was so shocked, I told her what had happened and she made jokes about it and said she must have been really drunk to have forgotten.
I know for a fact that someone who is drunk cannot consent to sex so am really worried about where that puts me, i promise she didn't even seem drunk, she had only 1 shot of jack Daniels and a bottle of coke when I was there only if she had been drinking before she left home. at first I wasn't worried, but as days pass I have become more worried that I could be accused of rape any day.
My family and I have invested so much in my education and I wouldn't risk all that for a few minutes of pleasure, my bro said i shouldn't worry about it, but am considering going to see her so we can clarify what actually happened, am so confused and stress right now.
is it rape if i didn't know she was drunk?
i know the fact that i left immediately makes my story seem so bad but she invited me back to her place and she was sober enough to call the taxi and even asked me if i wanted any thing to drink when we got to her place, i don't think it was possible for me to know she was that drunk. am i worried over nothing or should in be worried?
*sigh*..This is serious!
Chronicle time, story time.
ReplyDeleteBetter don't mention this your fear to her before you give her ideas. Ask her out on another date and be romantic and all with her. It's no big deal at least she's not under-aged? Hopefully.
DeleteThis is no Chronicle sir.
DeleteAll the 'chroniclers' una nor dey bring feedback?
Like that woman wen dey look for chicz for her horseband to suck, make una dey bring feedback ni, so that stella gho create post for unaz, then we sef gho know how effective our advise be.
If only you knew how who right girls are in this part of the world, then you would have realised you don't have any problem. Worry only if your parents are rich and she gets pregnant but for rape, nada
DeletePropose 2 her in a big way tell her u luv ha n gbogbo enh after 6 months jst follow wind go after dat police no go gree say u rape o ti tan
DeleteChronicle has landed. Opens totoh.
DeleteEmjay u don't know why is truecaller. Bush geh forming tush. Nbe like u. Na you lie those lies claiming it's your friend. U think we are blind to see. Kikiki
She doesn't want to look cheap thats why as is expected of girls who don't want to look cheap
DeleteSince you know a lot about what is expected
Mbaise my boos gho slap d living day light outta me if I follow latrine toilet like u roll inside portor portor, abeg pack ursef one side efulefu.
DeleteSmallie. Face your patients n stop worrying us wit ur childish fears.
DeleteTake her out on a date to a nice restaurant, treat her like a queen, make her feel special, be a gentleman, do this 1,2,3 times.....during the day that is, and don't go home with her,use your patient/clinical stunt as excuse,after that u can leave her
DeleteTrust me, it would erase the memory of the first night.
Good luck
Waiting to comment on CBN *spreads dollar crested rug* brb
ReplyDelete"As expected,we had sex"
DeleteThis reasoning that made me dread clubbing in school. You are not even dating this girl.
Can't a girl and a boy go clubbing without that mind set?
Back to your issue jare.
If you sincerely know you didn't force her,you don't have anything to worry about.
Kiddo,face your studies.
Chronicle from a man....now this is something
ReplyDeleteChronicles from a sissy.
DeleteA very Confused Sissy I must say...#In Tyrion Lannister's Voice#
DeleteAtheist no talk like dt o. He is lucky she is not an oyibo girl. Go out with a girl and she says she did not remember the night before can turn out to be another thing. Poster I hope you used condom sha. You need to meet her and talk things over and next time keep your member in check.
DeleteFrom a boy.
DeleteHiaaaaaaan!
ReplyDeleteSex is really overrated
DeleteThe trouble it brings far outweighs the few minutes pleasure it gives
Had a nasty experience recently and i've prayed to God that when He helps me out of this, i'm going celibate
I'm really sober now
I guess you've heard the story of how other stupid Nigerians messed up in foreign countries, where the law works.
ReplyDeleteJust give your life to Christ and stop fornicating.
Mtcheeeew...
ReplyDeletePoster,there is nothing to be worried about...
Akuko umuazi,..I'm out abeg..
Poster face God
ReplyDeleteFace ur studies
Remember d son of whom u r n stop being a fucklicant.
Has she accused you of rape?
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Thank God you know you are worried over nothing. Next post please....
ReplyDeleteAm sure u didn't use a condom, stupid boy, so u just realised ur parents sent u there to study and not to club and fuck a drunk girl, gerrarahere.
ReplyDeleteExactly, he prolly didn't use one. That's the only logical reason why he's worried
DeleteAs expected you had sex?
ReplyDeleteAs who exactly expected?
As u expected Na... Dats y u are concerned abt that particular sentence... 😊
DeleteI follow u ask that question
DeleteWho was expecting the expectation?
Hahaha, so funny. Really who expected?
DeleteAs in ee...who exactly expected..mtcheeww
DeleteGo take HIV drugs,AND ALWAYS KEEP TO THE COMMANDMENTS OF God so he will bless you,May God bless all the people who avoid Premarital sex and May He comfort and bless all Rape victims
DeleteExactly, ask him oo,lol
DeleteAbi oo
DeleteOmo alai leko jati jati
Akuko umu azi.
ReplyDeleteShe knew what happened, she just don't want you to see her as cheap.
I guess she initiated the sex. Babe was horny......I hope you used condom?
He prolly didn't
DeleteYour head too correct.
Delete@ didi gorgeous... I know that girl on your profile.... SCAM ALERT😯
DeleteShe hasn't accused you of anything yet and I don't think she put up a fight when you were taking off her cloths.
ReplyDeleteHope you used protection though?
She has laughed it off, so do the same. You can also ask to meet with her during the day, in a public place to talk to her about that night and ask her how she feels but then it could make her raise suspicions.
Just think about it very well, calm down and stop panicking it won't do you any good.
She is also probably acting like she doesn't remember because she didn't intend to have sex with you or you were a bad fuck.
Finally if she is akata, then just get down on your knees and pray like never before. Don't stay too close to your door because the police might bring it down looking for you...just joking but keep it in mind.
Hahaha,you nailed it. That police part though,lol
DeleteDon't stress ur head about it but if u r still worried,meet somewhere public Nd iron it out
ReplyDeleteI guess you've heard the story of how other stupid Nigerians messed up in foreign countries, where the law works.
ReplyDeleteJust give your life to Christ and stop fornicating.
Well, it could be consensual rape. They send you to school, all you know is to be pricking holes up and down. Ntorrr!!!
Better be a very good friend to her. Keep her close...hehehehe
Sd'cockus. don't lemme search for my comment
Consensual rape?
DeleteThat's a new one
What will.someone not read on the interne . hahaha
DeleteConsensual rape lmao
Oga, this one you are very disturbed. It seems you gbenshed her something skin to skin.
ReplyDeleteSo you did not know your family invested much when you gbenshed her. Just pray she no tell police you rape her.
ReplyDeleteMr. Explorer your eyes Don clear. Better go and join an S U church
Speechless. ...
ReplyDeleteWhy did u even tell her u guys had sex? Since she claim nt to remba. Also when u told her how did she react? Was she angry u guys had sex? So many unanswered questions that i will just wait for my fellow bvs to give u advice. I will be trolling every post as I am braiding my hair n bored.
ReplyDeletePoster tell her u were joking when u said u guys had sec since she de lie say she no remember nd pls don't straighten anything with her, by d time u go on and on about it, she would sense u r scared
DeleteJenny u get sense lol....
DeleteAhh, this one is nothing, many girls usually say tgey were drunk after sex, so they don't look to loose or so you don't think they are too easy
ReplyDeleteLol@ Stellas sarcasma
ReplyDeleteGuy take a deep breath & chillax, you're in naija.... Ladies don't go around looking for a cheap lawsuit or baseless accusations.
#TyrionLannister: I don't pay you to put evil notions in my head.
The ones already there don't need company.
From his academic description, you should know he isn't in Naija.
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Delete#Cersei Lannister: [to Margaery] If you ever call me sister again, I'll have you strangled in your sleep...
She was joking about it? I don't think you will be accused of rape tho.
ReplyDeleteMtcheeeeeew, it's not rape, she is only trying to cover up,so she doesn't look cheap, she was fully aware.
ReplyDeletePoster u met her and after a week u went to club with and u said as expected u both had sex! Who was expecting the expected?
ReplyDeleteYou shouldn't have had sex with her that day!
U no fit hold body abii....now she doesn't remember abii...I've always told guys to never have sex with a girl who's had a drink...most times they don't think straight
U said she only took a shot...Lol...I have an uncle who will take ordinary lacasera and he will start misbehaving I swear to God
Just pray she doesn't accuse u of rape and keep ur pants up next time bruh!
Lol @ misbehaving after lacasera
DeleteLwkm!!!! 😂😂😂😂
DeleteHahahahahahahahaha, Nigerians wont kill me with there mode of advice. Lacasera? Hahahahaha
DeleteSince she has not called you out on anything, why worry? Except there is something more you did you are not telling us? Don't see her about it, just check on her to guage how she is doing and how she is reacting to you. Be more careful next time. You will benefit greatly from abstinence for now, thank me later. Achieve your goals, then settle down in marriage.
ReplyDeleteDid she say she is reporting u?
ReplyDeleteHahahahahahaha
ReplyDeleteCalm down guy
That girl knew what went down she's just pricktending.
She won't do you nothing and next time make you self dey ask questions like Is your eyes clear? Do you really want to collect? To avoid this kind story.
OK bye.
omoh, nawao...
ReplyDeleteThis guy must be a virgin ooo...yhu gbenshed for free and yhur still complaining???move tf on with yhur life bro, this shit comes once in a while. Be strong bro!!!
The guy just got me laughing. Taking plenty on top of gbenshing. May be the guy no perform well sef, that's why the girl dey form 'forgetful' ... lol
DeleteMaybe she's shy and doesn't want you to think less of her
ReplyDeleteKeep your pants zipped next time and stop acting like a sex starved animal
ReplyDeleteI didn't bother reading till the end just noticed a medical student that doesn't know the difference between (I'm) and (I am). Under no circumstances should you used (am).
ReplyDeleteAbegii all these yeye correctors. Using "am" bothered you so much, you abandoned his story to rant mtcheww Pele o grammarian. One would think you are perfect gramatically.
DeleteOya tell us the difference between I'm and I am. How can you not know there's no difference between them. See ya life outside?
LMAOOOOOOO you sef gbagaun!
DeleteUsed: past tense
You all should stay in school.
DeleteYou are talking like a guilty minded person. did you rape her and your conscience is pricking you? She hasn't said anything about rape, you didn't rape her, why in heaven's name are you worried about it. Trust me if she was going to accuse you of rape, she would have by now.... This your story get as e be. I think you raped her as you are sounding guilty as hell.
ReplyDeleteOr maybe he slipped her one of those drugs used for date rape. That's why his conscience is bugging him so much
DeleteYes I think she was showing signs of being tipsy, and he carried on. If someone doesn't remember something as vigorous as sex it's either he can't fuck and she doesn't want to hurt his feelings or she actually was super wasted.
DeleteHe dnt rape her ooo , he's in a foreign country nd is scared.. Am sure it's university of Salford peeps
DeleteThis one na Gbege oh
ReplyDeletePlease how can i view 50+ comment. I browse through my browser
ReplyDeletePlease how can i view 50+ comment. I browse through my browser
ReplyDeleteI do not think you have anything to be worried about. Trust me, someone who is really drunk won't even have the stamina to have sex. She says she cannot remember what happened the night before, that isn't your problem, it is hers. As long as you are overly sure you didn't force her to have sex and she isn't accusing you and didn't even accuse you in her text messages, please keep calm about the whole thing. One more thing, do not delete those messages. Someone not remembering what happened the night before is a whole different ball game.
ReplyDeletePoster please face your books since u are idle. What is the head and tail of this chronicle or you think its everyrhing u bring here. The lady DOESNT remember anything but you want to go and remind her abi? Si ebe a puo.
ReplyDeleteShe's just messing with ur head but my brother don't u think u shud focus over there till u r a bit more settled? Na small tin dem dey use kill us over there oo abeg.Face ur work inugo and be careful next time.
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ReplyDeleteHIAN
ReplyDelete@Galore
Hope u used a condom so she won't say she forgot to take pills.
ReplyDeleteNna stop working girls do that a lot i bet she wasn't drunk she just doesn't want to admit having sex with you. Since she can't remember then Nothing happened. Hope you used a condom sha? If not then get ready to be a daddy.
ReplyDeleteNa wah!
ReplyDeletePoster it seems you did not tell us the whole truth. Why are you so agitated. Did the girl accuse you of rape? Did she tell you that she is pregnant?
ReplyDeleteIt seems I am missing something here.
Poster calm down, ur jst getting agitated over nothing. Since she hasnt accused u of rape keep ur cool, u r going to put ursef in trouble if u keep bringing this up. Jst tlk to her nmake her understand n since she said she didnt remember not that she didnt want it. Keep calm and reason things out with her, she hasnt accused u of anything yt
ReplyDeletePoster dnt go over to her place n be asking her dumb questions like "is she hurt from d other nights event" U may just end up putting the rape idea in her head, remember whites think differently than us...
ReplyDeleteRather if ur really worried n wanna know where u stand, ask her out for lunch n if she agrees take her somewhere public NOT YOUR HOUSE n just chat her up like Normal friends n if shes hurt or confused she wud let u know, cos one thing girls hate d most is a guy not checking upon dem after a crazy night of sex.
Most importantly dnt bring up d issue of d sex n if she does,make her feel appreciated n not used.
Best advice, poster don't go asking her s out it or letting her know u are scared ooo, u will be causing more trouble by doing that
DeletePoster say this prayer with me
ReplyDelete"Our father,who hart in heaven......
Better ask dat girl out,and start dating her officially,so she does feel used.
Wait assuming you were also drunk too.
Better talk to a lawyer friend to know in advance wat defence u can use..
In Nkechi's voice "did they send u to go and 'collect' in sch,continue, d thunder,d thunder dat will fire u,is already tormenting ur mind" signing out
....is already tormenting your mind. ..hahaha
DeleteI pray that she dosent report it as rape,but this should be a warning to you,abstain from sex and face ur studies
ReplyDeleteDUDE, YOU DID not even mention being worried about eternal life! You have lived so recklessly and has only showed us a pinch of your recklessness and God has continued to call you to sanity. the savior is waiting with his outstretched hands; do not only be afraid of going to human prison. Be afraid of going to eternal jail; hell!
ReplyDeleteThis is serious. This is what you should consider doing, start preaching love to the girl. Get closer to her. Get her to fall for you so she will not feel you used her. This could work.
ReplyDeleteMtcheeeeewww. What z this one even saying?
ReplyDeleteShut up and stop being scared, she won't accuse u of rape,she just doesn't want u to see her as a cheap girl. But don't fuck anyhow next time,idiot.
ReplyDeleteI do not know how close you are to this girl.
ReplyDeleteBut you need to pay her a "friendly" visit.
Like call her on phone, tell her you want to pay her a visit, ask her if she wants you to buy her something, like chocolate or ice-cream, chips or whatever chops she might like and if she probably has a movie for you guys to watch. Make sure this call is recorded. Sound friendly, care-free like some friend going to see another friend.....Your aim is to DISARM.
Inform your brother or close friend who knows about this about this visit and plan below.
Get a recorder or a good phone that records. Get to her house, never in the late evenings though. Enjoy the chops you bought with her and probably watch the movie till you reach midway. Pause and have the talk....Be careful how you bring this up so it doesn't look like that is your purpose for coming. Make it sound like it was a spur of the moment thing.... Tell her how you respect her and see her as a dear friend. Ask if you indirectly hurt her by YOU TWO DRUNKENLY HAVING SEX seeing as you guys were not fully relationship item yet.. It wasn't your intention to get drunk and you do not want to feel each party took undue advantage of the other. Ensure you RECORD, RECORD and RECORD. Let her do most of the talkings. Fear, panic and small pikin brain can make you mistalk.
Use your brain, you will be the prepared person here, so steer the conversation in your direction. Do not sound pleading or beg or paint her as a potential victim. Make it sound like it happened,you guys were both drunk, and had sex, and you can barely remember how things went. Don't go into details of that night, you only need her confession that it is consensual.
Do not beg abegoo...if she likes you before, she could turn it around and blackmail you into being her boyfriend.
Do not paint her as a victim....she may develop ideas.
Ensure you RECORD, RECORD, RECORD.
Once you have gotten the confession, Go back to the movie, throw some lame jokes and enjoy the rest of the movie. Leave not long after, you can ask a friend to give a fake emergency call, so you don't overstay and expose your purpose of coming.I believe you have brain, DO NOT ATTEMPT SEX WITH HER even if she pulls out a knife.
Duplicate the evidence and safeguard.
Do not immediately withdraw.
Keep In touch from time to time, hi and hello things.
Save up all chats. It sounds cold but prison is colder.
Use your head. If you execute this well....good for you.
You too, face the books they sent you to study and keep your tiny penis in your pants where they belong. Do not enter foreign trouble. So many boys are in trouble for this.
This sounds dangerous...
DeleteWho get fuel to read all this?
DeleteEpistle on top this small matter, na wa o.
Nice one...poster read up 👆 and swing into action
DeleteAnd too long
DeleteWho takes a recorder to see a dear friend if they aren't up to something(eg setup). Doesn't the act scream scripted? If you're not guilty or haven't even be accused why script an act to a supposedly good friend?
DeleteDoing all you advised will actually mean he's guilty and is trying to create a coverup/defence situation
BTW, where I am, randomly recording people without their consent when they aren't committing a crime is ILLEGAL, don't know about Naija or where the poster is.
Poster close your eyes to Empress Cho advise, if you no wan use your hand bury yourself
Don't usually comment but this is the best advise I have read so far as regards to this post. Poster grab this advice to save yourself from being confuse.
DeleteThat babe was sent and now she is set to ruin ur destiny. Sex is the easiest means to lost ones' glory and put u in fear and trembling even when all is all. Pray, pray and pray that she won't take it anywhere.
ReplyDeleteI always tell guys to run from freebies and quickie from all these ogbanje gals. U meet a stranger and next tin is Gbam, in and out. Make some guys try fear God small
Don't fear, just pray with psalm 51 and 91(Reading it loudly).
Oscar tell them ooo. You wee meet a stranger and the next thing to do is to look for an opportunity to gbensh, na una sabi.
DeletePls shut up!!
DeleteYou ppl are too religious in that junk u call a country
Aswear this thing got me laughing
DeleteAnony 16:10, e dey pain you ba? Continue gbenshing anyhow until you meet your Waterloo. My junk of a country? Mumu, get it in your thick skull that you are not your country. Mtch
DeleteShe's a 'friend of Jack'...u don't need to worry
ReplyDeleteHonest truth is the girl was not drunk at all, infact she remembers everything to detail....you did not do it the way she wanted it, you are a flop in bed she is embarrassed to even think she slept with you. Please improve on your gbeshing skills asap.
ReplyDeleteGbam! Gbammer!! Gbamest!!!
DeleteLike I read what you write here before commenting up there. The guy must have flopped with the gbenshing.
DeleteGuy why you dey stress yourself now ? You don gbenshed abeg rest. Here no UK wey them dey shout rape for no cause.
ReplyDeleteYou didn't rape her and she was aware you had sex but didn't want to admit to it by forming drunk.
Are you sure she only had one drink? Did you or someone else put something in her drink? Why are you feeling as though you could be accused of rape? Did you rape her? Were you violent? This narrative is weird.
ReplyDeletePoster, pls have a chat with her. And clear her doubts. But be careful what u say.
ReplyDeleteSomething similar happened to a bro of mine. Before u know it the girl accused him of rape.
Most of the people here don't know how easy it is to get accused of rape in the western world. It seriously ruins lives.
ReplyDeletePoster right now you need to fast and pray seriously. Please take her out for lunch. Show her you care about her. These oyinbo girls are crazy. Just show her you care about her. Do not have sex with again oooo. Cinema, coffee etc. Just do that for a couple of months. Make sure you communicate mostly in texts so you have proof that you guys were cool after you had sex
It's a Naija girl. Gosh don't you read first?
DeleteThe fear of white man's land is the begin of wisdom. If na for Nija you do this one now, you for don dey tell your guys how wide her pussy dey or how her pussy dey smell. Is good for you.
ReplyDeleteMumu story...small boy..u no get nerves nd u dey gbensh without..abeg shift
ReplyDeleteWell, if the girl can call a cab, then she wasn't drunk enough.
ReplyDelete1. Is either she doesn't want to accept she slept with you because you no Sabi OR
2. She has something up her sleeves i.e.(messing you up and claiming rape because you have something good going for yourself).
so guy, do not even raise this topic again to her, to avoid arousing her curiosity. Keep it low with her, don't hang out with, keep forming busy, until she eventually gives up on you. You have your bright future ahead of you. You don't want to mess it up all because of your manhood that you couldn't control.
Ps. Let's hope she no get evidence say you rape her. #ifearcheapakata
I hope she doesn't read this blog as this may give her some kinda ideas u're afraid of...In d meantime,tie ur legs and pretend to be a mermaid
ReplyDeleteMy dear I hope say you use condom. If you no use am na double wahala. That's not a rape normally after partying na sex be the next thing. Guy cool your mind
ReplyDeleteWorry not cos you both did it and enjoyed it.
ReplyDeleteThere's cause for alarm. Really.
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