H.I.A.N!!!!
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE..
RE-INCARNATION TALES
Stella i love your heart of gold!!!
Please keep it up!
I am blessed with 3 lovely Children 2 Boys and a Girl. I discovered that my Hubby loves my daughter more than my Boys all because of Superstitious believe. To break the story down, When my Mother In law was alive, I noticed that she loved my Hubby unconditionally, as my Hubby is the last borne and bread winner. Unfortunately my beloved MIL died 6 years ago (Feb. 2010) and my 2nd Son was 3 yrs during that period. (have not yet had my Daughter) But during the period when my MIL was alive, Hubby loves my Boys so much.
Whenever MIL comes for a visit, she always tell me to take good care of Hubby for her cos she doesn't joke with him, and she always make this Statement whenever Hubby buys her Gifts, "IN MY NEXT WORLD I WILL REINCARNATE IN YOU" but i never believe in all these reincarnation of a thing because we are all Christan's (My Family and Hubbys Family) I got Pregnant with my daughter (JAN. 2011), Since i birthed my Daughter OCT.2011 till date, Hubby and Siblings in law Dont joke with her.
They always say it`s their Mother!
Hmmm...
And the confusing thing is that she looks so much like MIL, There`s this big dark birth mark MIL have on her Jaw, My daughter has same!
I am very worried about these because Hubby loves my daughter more than the Boys, whenever he comes home, he`s more concerned about my daughter, he doesn`t care about the Boys, he buys her many gifts, even put her in a different school that pays higher than the Boys. and this issue is really affecting my Boys cos they always complain that daddy doesn`t love them!
I have tried to talk to Hubby about this severally to show them equal love, but we end up quarrelling. whenever my daughter does wrong, if i scold her, Hubby will almost fight me for doing so, I have spoken to my Siblings Inlaws about these, but they wont listen, instead they tell me it`s their Mother!
If you see the way Hubby treats my Daughter like a Queen Eeehh!!
He doesn`t even allow her feet to touch ground!
Imagine i cant send my daughter for an errand in the house because Hubby will always intervene, saying i should send the Boys.
Whenever i try to correct my daughter, she will always say
" I WILL TELL DADDY WHEN HE COMES BACK!
please I`m already loosing my temper, i don`t know how to handle this, she`s my only daughter, i don`t want her to end up being a Daddy`s girl, i want her to understand how life is , because she wont live with me forever, i dont want her spoilt!
Stella please I`m confused and i need advice from my fellow bvs on how to handle this problem.
*Madam abeg this wan pass my power,i dont have a girl child so i do not understand this situation.let me pass and read comments...This your Chronicle is kinda spooky,i had what the Germans call ''GANSEHAUT' whilst reading it!
first chronicles for the week.
ReplyDeleteYes,reincarnation is so real- when I was a little younger,my dad and I can fight for africa,nothing he does is ever right to me,and nothing I do,is ever right to him,to the extent we both had the mind of killing each other,this continued for so many years,i went to the university,my dad can not bring himself to send me money,only my mom did,this continued until one day,i met a Catholic woman who "sees"and she told me that I need to pacify my dad and she doesn't understand what has happened between my dad and i,so when I went home I told my mom,she got the message immediately and she sent me to my village to meet her mother(granny) and she did some things for me and the hatred I had for my dad left me,ever since then,we have the normal father and daughter love.
DeleteThe story long jor,am tired of typing.
Madam stop getting worked up over unnecessary something. Am a mother come back child, pampered silly by my dad, rude to my brothers infact I was calling all of them names. If you beat me in the morning, I will start crying again towards d time dad will come back. Even if my brothers don't beat me, I will still say they did. But the day my dad was going to put a stop to it all, he asked 1 of my brothers to beat me for insulting him. Chai! I didn't believe it but it happened and since then, I learnt to be careful and watch my tongue. Am happily married and a mother too. So take it easy. Now to my mum. While all of these were going on, mumsy doesn't spare me. She beats me at any opportunity even in the presence of my dad. Shebi the last thing that will happen is for my dad to beat my mum. So correct her and keep talking to hubby. Don't a fuse about the whole thing.
DeleteIf your husband doesn't love your daughter now, that would have been another problem. Please relax it's common among father's loving their daughters apart from that reincarnation thing.
DeleteIn other news, I'm looking for a romantic guy biko. I'm married to the most arrogant unromantic nigga ever. Couldn't even do anything for his wife's birthday. Please if you are interested in making me smile and laugh again, pls let's hook up. Be in Abuja oh pls. And no strings attached just strictly sex. I'm tired of being a good wife. It doesn't pay!!!!
DeleteReincarnation is real according to my mum whenever her uncle gives birth the baby will die if it is a boy and it happened four times. On the fifth he cut the baby into pieces and burnt it when he died and when next. They had a son he was born with burnt scars all over his body and after that non of his son ever died. The boy now a man still has burnt scars on his face.
DeletePlz how do we hook up?
DeleteFear God anonymous. May God fix you
DeleteAnon that wants a sweet guy, how do we meet?
DeleteIs it a tale by moonlight?
ReplyDeleteYes reincarnation is so real!...
ReplyDeleteInfact,this world and life is so confusing,..
I agree with you. That life is confusing. Its simplistic of christians to believe that if something is not spelt out in the bible, its not true and that believing it makes you an unbeliever. How can the true nature of God and all His history and all his doing be contained in a 1000 leaf book? Or is it 2000? God manifests in strange ways. So its good to keep an open mind.
DeleteI spent sometime in my leisure life as a paranormal investigator and enthusiast. Conducting research and there's this peculiar one about clinical hypnosis. Some children narrate events they cannot ordinarily have known. Speak languages they werent taught. Some 3 year old kids narrating strange things about their previous death or their former house. A lot of scary stuff.
As for poster: take charge of your house. I wont want to say you should take your child for 'deliverance'. Just be a woman and stand your ground. Tell your husband not to break up his home. She's but a little girl and how its important youre able to control her. Would his mother have liked for her grandchild to become a spoilt brat. Whether she reincarnated from Mother Theresa or Lady Diana. She has to follow the laws of the house. Stamp your foot down. Hopefully, all that will demystify the girl
Nne make I take space here.
DeleteMadam poster well done oh 👋
This your matter ehn... I've heard it before... Marks and all. Hmmm!!! Your daughter is really getting some good spoiling from her dad and she knows. But you are right, re-incarnation wont help her in future. (Who re-incarnation epp?) Hmmm.... I thought I had advice for you but right now I don't know oh. Cos it's not just hubby it's his siblings too. It will be like you're fighting their mother if you try to do anything drastic.
Madam, you need to pray. (Watch war room? I dunno) But you need to really pray for whatever bond to be broken if you don't like what you see. That means your girl may not learn how to cook and clean and be a domesticated woman because she is 'your madam' now oh! My immediate sis is carbon copy of my grandma and my dad loves her, even though he tried not to show it. it wasn't a blown trumpet. Na we see our late grandma picture (she died when dad was still in uni) Confess say them resemble. Even at that, my dad will flog and shout on everyone equally. You might lose your son's love if this isn't tackled. Diffemrt school? That's extreme. Here's hoping I haven't magnified the problem and consequences in your head. *hugs*
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteVery scary something...
In other news, I'm looking for a romantic guy biko. I'm married to the most arrogant unromantic nigga ever. Couldn't even do anything for his wife's birthday. Please if you are interested in making me smile and laugh again, pls let's hook up. Be in Abuja oh pls. And no strings attached just strictly sex. I'm tired of being a good wife. It doesn't pay!!!
DeleteNoo, please don't do this to me please
DeleteMy dad was like ur husband for more than 10years with my sister.....in his case it was his grandmother, he proudly called my sis "my granny". he Don tire now,,so let ur hubby be..
ReplyDeleteRe carnation is real.
What's wrong being a daddy's girl? I dunno.
ReplyDeleteAah. .. should I give you a list? Them be like phlegm. So spoilt, ill-mannered and usually weak. Too soft to do anything in life. Many of them can't even keep a home. Everything they call daddy. Husbands get tired of becoming puppets. Small argument she don carry bag go daddy house. Then when daddy passes on, you see a 40 something or 50 something year old woman behaving very useless to herself cos daddy isn't there again.
DeleteIs it in uni? Small thing they cry. Secondary school daddy will be coming to see principal everyday. Cos his daughter came home with mosquito bite or you gave her homework that (he thinks) is too much. Abeg....
Chai!!! Chikito, you nailed it. *kisses*
Delete##i am favoured in Jesus Name. Amen.
Reincarnation is real.
ReplyDeleteJust wondering why he is deliberately trying to cause enmity between the kids. They don't deserve to be brought up that way at all.
ReplyDeleteI pray you find the wisdom to tackle this without quarrels.
Although I know men take a special liking to their girl child but this one is don't understand and never heard of to the extent of putting her in a special school to the ones the boys attend. Very spooky!
This reincarnation thing ehn my siste people who believe in it u can't change their mindset.The only problem Is that ur daughter might be a spoiled baby and ur hubby won't see bad in it.He won't know the damage he is causing till she's getting married, no need fighting abt it anymore pls just teach ur boys what is right simple.
ReplyDeleteMy grandma and 2 cousins died in fire accident in Benin expressway 3 trucks collided ni oo n boom fire.My uncles wife birthed a baby that period and she came with a red scar on her back that they ClAiM is fire.My sister see where they have named this little girl grannies names y? Cos they said grannie reincarnated.So, pls don't let small thing cause a rift in ur marriage inugo.If u believe she didn't reincarnate then tell urself and ur God.
Continue fucking to get another daughter. In that case the attention she gets will reduce, but if it doesn't reduce and the girl gets spoilt, then use the second daughter and sons to console your self. Not all children must make sense. After all they are all passengers in marriage. They will leave for marriage someday and u and dh will remain.
ReplyDeleteLol. So true, get another daughter. If it doesn't work, concentrate on ur second daughter and sons and teach them what's right. Leave hubby to over-spoil his granny incarnate. So u don't av problems in ur marriage.
DeleteIf she does that it's even worse!! That one worn have scar so they will treat her like the boys. Madam, pls don't birth any child anymore for now. You may not be able to handle it oh!
DeleteHian!
DeleteAs I read thru, I said "thank goodness she's d only girl, na dt 1 for worse".
I also hope u ve closed oo except u go born boy bcos ur MiL wil neva reincarnate 2ce. Dts wen u'd see sibling rivalry.
Ve a 2boys n 1girl. MiL begged for a namesake, also my pple don't joke wit namesake's ish.
Coincidentally MiL died n I took in and I knew I wud birth a girl. As custom n practice, baby girl bears MiL's names n is loved by hubby.
I no jealous or vex bcos he's not misbehaved.
I too is d only girl amongst 2boys, named afta my father's granny (my great grandma), I was loved silly but i no spoil.
Don't report or complain to ur inlaws again.
Find time to ve mother/daughter hours to bond.
And wen she misbehaves, secretly bind n cast any 'old' rebelous spirit in her. Loll
I so much can imagine ur fears of d future.
God's grace
Lmfao!
Delete@anon 15.07, ur comment is bae!
Hahahahaha!
am reading comments today................
ReplyDeleteabove all you need prayers and see your pastor with your hubby.
He had better concentrate equally on those boys also, teaching them good sense of right n wrong is equally vital, that's how they'd grow up into men & maltreat their women.
ReplyDelete# Eddard Stark: Lord Baelish, perhaps I was wrong to distrust you.
Petyr Baelish: Distrusting me was the wisest thing you've done since you climbed off your horse.
@ Poster, talking about incarnation, something similar happen in my Family, my grand mother has always said that she will come back again in my family, The day she died, A Baby Girl was born in My Family. Having said that, for me I have told God that If Incarnation Is Real, I don't wanna come back to this world again... But try to Love all your Kids the same way
ReplyDeleteLmao... Wetin dis world do u abeg
DeleteMadam, your husband and siblings has believed a "wrong doctrine" and the spirit of error is what is working here. It is the spirit of the antichrist; delusion. It "works" to enthrone error as you can see it doing already. It tends to idolatry, satanism; do not be surprised when your daughter begins to have sexual affiliations with your husband if you do not take corrective measures. What are these corrective measures? You said you are "a christian". That means you understand that we do not wrestle against flesh and blood . . . and the weapons of our warfare are not carnal; begin to fast and pray and teach your kids same. It could turn out a long drawn war and LOVE CONQUERS ALL. The moment you begin to fast like "morning till evening" and pray at midnights, do not be surprised to see your late mother in law fighting you; that's the spirit fighting back and do not give up till you have victory. TALKING FROM EXPERIENCE
ReplyDeleteThe thought of sexual affiliations also crossed my mind oh! But I say make I no talk.
DeleteIt crossed mine too. I am not saying it will surely happen, but the devil has created a gap in your family, and he could try to maximize it. You need to do all it takes to nip this in the bud, spiritually, physically etc. God forbid but what if something happens and you are not around? Their unusual closeness could germinate to something else. He may not allow her to marry when the time comes because he would feel no man is good enough for her. She could get so spoiled and later become a burden to your family or end up in a bad way. It is still early yet. Don't give up and pray for wisdom to take the right action now.
DeleteI thought same too cos I've seen something like that. Her dad didn't allow her talk to boys, he gets jealous and all.
DeletePoster, like the anon said, put everything in prayers.
Hahahahah 😂😂😂😂😂 Stella ooooo
ReplyDeleteThat frog got me in stitches , abeg it's better to b silent than to give kwe kwe advise .
Poster I almost tempted to say have any child hopefully it's a girl ... But this one they believe that particular child is their mom , Uve got a big problem that shouldn't be underestimated .
Your daughter is gona grow up with a sense of entitlement and might not be able to function normally in the real world . I am almost sorry for you. Your hubby is messing her up .
Well , if you can find an elder he respects , to talk to him and alight the future dangers he's risking .. Even if that's his mother , the girl is is still a child , and should be taught basic core values and disciplined if need be .
Even Jesus was once a child , and am sure he was scolded ...and trained well. Good luck wit this . This is not healthy at all ... Very soon you and daughter would start to be competing for your hubbys love .
Also get close to ur girl child . Get very very close to her . Love her too , that way she's better able to respond to your scolding , and try to explain why she's being scolded.
Your boys would be fine .
I will so read comments on these, my mum do such, if scold my nephews in her presence wahala, if I beat them n na war.
ReplyDeleteThis one pass me
ReplyDeleteI lack words....gaskiya!
ReplyDeleteI have this frnd yeah...her dads mum left the world the day she was terribly sick! She came into the world with a birth mark that signified something ...the birth mark of her grand mothers step dauta dt her grand ma killed..her grand ma didn't like her one bit and gave her tribal marks on her face when born
ReplyDeleteTHANK God my grandparents were all born again before i was born. Imagine the bullshit! 😮 tribal marks?! Because
DeleteYour horseband is overdoing it. That is not good. Yes we have reincarnation but his is beyond possessiveness.
ReplyDeleteAbeg you need divine intervention jare. Why will he ignore the boys. I know fathers loves daughters when they are born but this is way too much.
That your daughter need strong hand jare before she becomes too rude and unbearable. Show the boys love too. If you are working, get goodies for them.
Your horseband head no correct lai lai
Hian hhhmmmm, i tink u should give him love portion cos dats the only way ur hubby will obey u, u will ve total control over him & ur daughter.
ReplyDeleteMadam, every mother always hv a special relationship with her any of her son that love her more than others. Eg my mum loves me more my bros and sis. It is bcos I can do anything she tells me.
ReplyDeleteAnd
Chai, James..... You can lie.
DeleteJames.... Na why you get bad mouth? Eyahh
DeleteReincarnation?? Never believed in it being true. Though people say it's in de bible.
ReplyDeleteD bible also said; it is appointed to man to die once, after that comes judgement. So dunno what to believe anymore.
ReplyDeleteOpen your bible and read well. Not 'people say'
Delete@ poster madam you should try and correct it now,since it is early ,cause the way am seeing it it might get worse ,yes I believe in re-incarnation,it happens to some people.
ReplyDeleteU no get problem. We all know my mum fav child but it didn't affect Us in anyway.
ReplyDeleteREINCARNATION HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH WEDA YOU ARE A CHRISTIAN OR NOT, IT IS REAL, EVEN IN THE BIBLE, ELIJAH REINCARNATION AS JOHN THE BAPTIST... THERE IS NOTHING BAD ABOUT REINCARNATION, YOU PEOPLE SHOULD STOP BEING SHALLOW MINDED BIKO, PEOPLE DIE AND COLE BACK AS OTHER PEOPLE... SOMETIMES INTO THE SAME FAMILY... GET THAT STRAIGHT...
ReplyDeleteABOUT YOUR ISSUE, I DUNNO WHAT TO SAY ABOUT THAT BUT HURRY UP IN PUTTING THINGS RIGHT WITH YOUR HUSBAND BCOS YOUR DAUGHTER IS WELL ON HER WAY TO BEING A SPOILT CHILD, IT'LL SO AFFECT HER, ESPECIALLY WHEN MARRIED, SHE'LL BE LAZY AND CAN'T COOK, SHE'LL BE RUDE AND FEEL LIKE EVERYBODY SHOULD WALK UNDER HER... I KNOW COZ I AM ALMOST LIKE THAT... TELL YOUR HUSBAND THESE, PLAY THESE SCENEARIO FOR HIM AND TELL HIM THIS IS WHAT IS WELL ON HIS BELOVED DAUGHTER'S WAY IF HE DOESN'T CHANGE NOW THAT IT IS EARLY, BECAUSE WHEN HE MIGHT DECIDE TO CHANGE MIGHT BE LATE ALWAYS, WHEN THE HARM/HABIT HAS ALREADY BEEN FORMED, THEN WHEN HE STOPS SHOWING HER THAT AFFECTION, SHE'LL LOOK FOR IT SOMEWHERE ELSE, THEN THAT WOULD BE CATASTROPHIC FOR ALL OF YOU, EVEN YOUR SIBLINGS IN LAW SAYING SHE IS THEIR MOTHER, TAKING IT LIGHTLY, COS SHE MIGHT GET PREGNANT... INFACT SEND THIS LINK TO YOUR HUSBAND SO HE CAN SEE PEOPLE'S COMMENTS/ADVICE AND ADHERE TO THE REASONABLE ONES... BETTER NOW THAN LATER...
Matt. 17:12, 13: “[Jesus said:] ‘Elijah has already come and they did not recognize him but did with him the things they wanted. In this way also the Son of man is destined to suffer at their hands.’ Then the disciples perceived that he spoke to them about John the Baptist.”
DeleteDid this mean that John the Baptist was a reincarnated Elijah? When Jewish priests asked John, “Are you Elijah?” he said, “I am not.” (John 1:21) What, then, did Jesus mean? As Jehovah’s angel foretold, John went before Jehovah’s Messiah “with Elijah’s spirit and power, to turn back the hearts of fathers to children and the disobedient ones to the practical wisdom of righteous ones, to get ready for Jehovah a prepared people.” (Luke 1:17) So John the Baptist was fulfilling prophecy by doing a work like that of the prophet Elijah.—Mal. 4:5, 6.
You really sabi the koko! I have some as friends *pewk*
DeleteHmmmmm
DeleteHusband wey neva undastand or use commonsense see d future, na him hug her if him read d comment section?
Ok na!
Madam u know ur man well, if he wud get 'mad' for posting this, abeg no tel.
The siblings go even HATE n trust them to manipulate hubby. Before u know it, dey wil go for 'ekpere' (Prayers) n d man/woman of God wud see u as a threat or sugest u ve a hand in mama's death hence ur fears.
Be wise.
Chili, I rove you. Your trolling is funny sef, lmao
DeleteGod bless you anon 16:04, reincarnation is of the devil. It is not biblical. You better take that daughter of yours for deliverance before familiar spirits take over her.
DeleteLol..madam,pls handle ur daughter before it becomes too late if she becomes wayward tomoro d blame will be on you and not ur husband
ReplyDeleteMen usually pamper their daughters bcos the boys are meant to be strong and tough. But this ur horseband own is extreme. Which one be to put them in different schools? Na waah
ReplyDeleteSheybi em love ur daughter ..good ...omor leave him with d love of hz life 4 a while ..em eye go clear..show d boys lots of love...
ReplyDeleteHoly fuck! Was the first the i said wen i saw ur heading.
ReplyDeleteReincarnation exists, i dunno, my grandma even thought i am my dead sister,i grew up looking like her n im the only daughter too, bt trust my parents they dont n didnt spoil me none, i was made to do all the house works. Bt sometimes i think i think in ways others dont, i usually associate it with the fact that i thinks deeply n alot too. I dont know if pple reincarnate,personally, i dont believe it! Bt u hv got to put ur foot down n insist on raising ur daughter to the woman u want her to be, talk to ur hubby n make him understand how it even affecting the other kids....
Inukwa i will tell daddy when he comes back!
Madam really pray abt this issue o, infact pray repeatedly, as much as reincarnation might exists u cnt have ur daughter becoming a brat in ur house! Thats extreme!!
DeleteAbiku so oloogun di eke
DeleteHuh?
ReplyDeleteChewing my garlic
Fathers usualy bond with daughters.
DeleteHubby was very jealous of my love for my father...
I kept saying u'd experience it n let's see how ur son inlaw wud react.
My girl is just 1yr yet u need see...I just laff.
Like I sed before, pls bond wit ur daughter. Even if she's very close to her dad, she wud support ur every moves n manipulate hubby neva to 'hurt' u in anyway.
Fathers usualy bond with daughters.
DeleteHubby was very jealous of my love for my father...
I kept saying u'd experience it n let's see how ur son inlaw wud react.
My girl is just 1yr yet u need see...I just laff.
Like I sed before, pls bond wit ur daughter. Even if she's very close to her dad, she wud support ur every moves n manipulate hubby neva to 'hurt' u in anyway.
Dear poster, I don't want u to take dis matter as a joke o, Pls take ur girl for deliverance from ur pastor because ur mother- in law has use her mouth to affect ur life b4 she die and u must reject her claim on her b4 she grow older. B4 u take any physical step Pls take d spiritual step first to conquer any words spoken to her life negatively d word (she's our mother) is bad 4 a young girl,their mother is dead dis is ur own daughter and she has her own destiny Plss do all u can to stop dem from speaking negatively to her life. I pray God will give u insight to dis matter Amen.
ReplyDeleteThe power of the tongue!! Let all mother's here learn oh
DeleteYou guys are about to divide your house into two and raise a spoilt brat. You have to go serious with your hubby and let him know just how you are feeling about things. Show your kids equal love, care and fair treatment.
ReplyDeleteI believe in reincarnation anyway.
Madam let that girl be.
ReplyDeleteYour MIL came back and your husband knows
Such a beautiful thing
Stop worrying yourself cause there's nothing you can do about the situation.
Your husband knows something you dont know about the reincarnation thing in their family, sit him down and talk softly and let him explian things to yoy. As for the divided love, tell him the truth about the effect of his actions on his boys and the family as a whole. What it will do to the gal in future if ahe is overpampered. Dont antagonize him o,just discuss at a good time aiit. You will be fine dear I know its a serious case, and an annoying one at that please try and calm down and just Use wisdom.
ReplyDeleteOk, lemme just read comments ( Osama's daughter ).
ReplyDeleteIt happens,
ReplyDeleteIt happens,
ReplyDeleteWorried mum...reincarnation is real.I'm a christian.But I can proudly say that I came from my great grand mother.I don't look like my parents,I look exactly like her,she has a mark on her left leg,I have the same too.I watch a short video of hers,we talk the same way,twists eyes and hands the same way.The height of it all is that she told my father that she will come back as his second daughter.It happened.so,just teach and correct her subtly she already knows everything u r teaching her.
ReplyDeleteI look like my maternal grandma. Height, shape, legs and feet. Even this my hot body na her! My hair wey I dey battle since 1900, na her. If i abuse you ehn... my mother will say you sound like my mother. Im the shortest in my house. Like her. Only difference is I'm lightskinned and she's darker.
DeleteNo one thinks special. Or even mentions it like it's an achievement. Not even my elder sis who resemebles the other granny. I think that's where the problem starts from.
Anony 15:28, explain more about"she already knows everything u r teaching her". Let us learn please.
DeleteChikito, i look like my paternal grand ma but that woman too get bad mouth and beautiful. She didn't reincarnate though, she died when i was in high school. I don't even like it when people say i look like her.
Delete@ la fresh - thank God! Cos if they died before we were born they will say Na reincarnation. my maternal granny still dey oh!! Full ground. The only grand parent alive. She can flash my phone for Africa. If she comes to Lagos I go turn driver till she leaves. She likes to worry me in particular. And we can quarrel. Small time she will send for groundnut to use and beg me. 😂😂
DeleteSame thing happened to me when i gave birth to my daughter but this time around I was my hubby's grandma. They were so close that u wouldn't know she is not his mother. When she died hubby cried like a baby and when I eventually got preggy, the whole village said it was going to be a girl. True talk, I gave birth to my daughter and Evey one went gaga. My MIL couldn't come for omugwo but kept calling to know how her mum was faring. Hubby own worse. Imagine him greeting my daughter mama ndewo! Lol. When we travelled to the village with her for the first time, MIL went around calling on her mothers age grade. Telling them that her mother has come ooo. The sitting room was filled with very old men and women, dancing and singing that their friend and sister has reincarnated. Even named my sweet daughter after my grand mil (mgbeke). Choi, what a name.
ReplyDeleteMgbeke feeling funky..... M soo cracked up!
DeleteMgbeke feeling funky..... M soo cracked up!
DeleteMy dear, Just pray about it that God should take control. Igbo people believe in such things a lot. Na so my mama people say I be their mama lol. See flexing but e no last as dem don dey die one after another. At some point it became embarrassing for me because anytime my mom takes me to visit her siblings or dey visit that is how dey will address me. "Our Mama" Hian!! I will just change my face because I can't understand how they will link me to a dead person I never saw or knew the kind of life she lived.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, you can't change anything by fire or by force but time will change them. She will grow up to understand that is it meaningless to have any connection with the dead. I enjoyed mine as a child bec I always escaped beating when my mom's siblings are around. But when I became older I just rejected it.
Take your time and show your kids equal love. Your duty is to ensure that the boys bond with their sister very well. Make sure you erase any sign of hatred okay? Just teach them to love each other and make them believe no one is better than the other.
All the best.... Christ is your strength.
She will grow to reject it after she has been spoilt abi? Ok na
DeleteDear Poster, for her to ce back with the same birthmark. That is surely the woman. Don't bother so much. Do your own bit in raising her right. And keep trying to make him understand. These things happen even when there is no reincarnation. Don't hate your baby girl. She needs her mama.
ReplyDeleteYou didn't start the fight early Nw she as grown u can't stop d love between them. advice for you is to start showing d boys special love too than the girl, makes it looks like competition and see how jealous she will be cos she will start getting close to you for attention.I had the same issue with my hubby when he started showing extreme love for the gal scolding my son whenever he touched his sister, playing with her and ignoring d boy omo I start my own too kissing d boy gud night without kissing the gal,hugging him whenever he does something good, d gal change fast fast whenever her dad his around na my leg she go sit make hin brother for no take her place as d baby of d house funny gal. Hope dis advised works for u
ReplyDeleteI didn't know that jealousy and deception resolve problems. Please stop using manipulation to solve problems
DeleteIt's good to be back here...
ReplyDeleteI missed you guys
I missed this blog.
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ReplyDelete@ POSTER I kind of agree with WORLD PEOPLE. You need to draw close to your daughter she is your daughter as well not just daddy's girl. if you keep tilting or take sides with your boys only, u would be generating another kind of war as well amongst your children and everybody will blame you, draw them together and keep preaching love and treat them same when their father isnt around, Pray and play with them, read story books and the bible that promote unity amongst them ( that story of breaking sticks and bending broom) when you scold her, draw her close and tell her what she did wrong and so on. I tell you when you do this and also pray to God for husband ( like that film WAR-ROOM) God is alive and he does miracles. it is not easy but the lord will give you strength **E-hugs and kisses** ignore the re-incarnation issues and try to unite your family ( you are a merlin now, lolzz).
ReplyDeleteYou didn't reject her word but with God all things are possible. The best gifts you can give them is leading them to Christ now. Get on your knees to break that covenant, take her for deliverance and always take them to Bible study and teach them about Jesus's love. You have to act while the sun shines before your husband starts sleeping with her.
ReplyDeleteAnon 15:10 has said my mind and yes, it can lead to sexual immorality (incest) if you don't act now. Jesus is waiting for your call.
Hmmnnn.. This world.
ReplyDeleteOya Laff you wont be dissapointed
Reject words spoken by close relatives if you don't like it...
ReplyDeleteIt is better for your husband to treat your daughter like a queen because she is a queen. Women are always jealous of their daughters when their husband loves her very much.
ReplyDeleteIt is better for your daughter to be a daddy's girl than to grow up and have daddy issues. When a father is present in a girls life, she will grow up having a healthy relationship with male folks. She will gravitate towards men that treat her with respect and love because the first male that she adored treated her that way. She will hardly be a victim of abuse , she will hardly attract fuckboys because her self confidence will be high.
Now, boys should be treated like men which your husband is doing. He is training them on how to be a better man, to be independent and be a great provider. It is your job to remove any iota of jealousy from the boys and explain why your husband is treating them that way.
Whether you like it or not, some children are loved more than the other, it is the way it is. Please stop bringing division in your family. Your husband is treating your daughter the way a woman should be treated.
Just admit the fact that you are jealous. As for your daughter, she will learn what she needs to at the appropriate stage.
All these long sermons on reincarnation is just a smokescreen, men adore their girls, women adore their boys. Get busy woman. Just get on your knees and pray for her, your daughter will turn out very well, healthy with a sound self esteem.
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Xoxo you are talking of a normal healthy father daughter relationship. Poster's husband is carrying his affection for his daughter a little too far because of his belief in reincarnation. This has to be curtailed before he ends up with a spoilt daughter. Too much of everything is bad.
DeleteBest advice ever!! Madam poster this is all you need to take home and it will benefit you. Well done XoXo
DeleteKai! This post be reminding me of Second Chance telemundo.
ReplyDeleteBeat her wella when she does something wrong and the father is not around. If she threaten to tell her dad, threaten to make her friends stop playing with her. Lol
ReplyDeleteTry and correct her now b4 it becomes too late o.
Color me fetish,but I can't wait to have my sister back,let her reincarnate speedily abeg. I'll treat even more than ur hubby is treating ur daughter. I will spoil her almost to the point of ruin. People keep saying she's coming back,well I'm waiting....impatiently too.
ReplyDeleteAaaaawwwww. I can totally imagine.
DeleteRIP to your sister.
Madam this is my area of experience. Reincarnation is very very real.
ReplyDeleteBRB.
Only prayers can give wisdom
ReplyDeleteBV, dads tend to openly show love and affection to their daughters more than their sons and mothers tend to show more affection to their sons and not their daughters. I'm sure she might be your husband's favorite child but I'm sure you also have a favorite child though you might work harder to hide it than he does. Relax and try to show your sons plenty of affection to balance out their dad's behavior and ensure that they are good big brothers to the princess in the house.
ReplyDeleteGaskiya, sai dai in karanta comments.
ReplyDeleteAbi, karanta abinki yar uwa!
ReplyDeleteMy story is an obseration I made concernig my 3 kids. They all took theirfathers's features. If ihadnt carried and birthed them, I'd swear they aren't mine.its so bad that at my daughter's wedding guest who did not know the family well all thought my SIL was the mother of the bride! Now that's gene dominance at play. I always wonder what the talk would have been if these kids had all come out with my features being dominant?
ReplyDeleteMy story is an obseration I made concernig my 3 kids. They all took theirfathers's features. If ihadnt carried and birthed them, I'd swear they aren't mine.its so bad that at my daughter's wedding guest who did not know the family well all thought my SIL was the mother of the bride! Now that's gene dominance at play. I always wonder what the talk would have been if these kids had all come out with my features being dominant?
ReplyDeletePoster am sensing an incomplete info in this story,well the truth of the matter is that you are just jealous that your hubby's attention is on your daughter not you. Bone all this your stories that he loves the gal more than the boys. Anyways just give it time,whatever goes up must surly come down.youre hubby will adjust in due time.
ReplyDeleteMy bro died when my nephew was just about 3 months. This nephew looked so much like my cousin then until my bro death. Come and see transformation. Months after his death my nephew started to look like my late Bro. Everyone was shocked. The resemblance is serious ooo. He even developed the crossed eyes like my bro. To cap it all up, he started to develop eye problems at 2 years and needed to use thick glasses like my late Bro. Just like your hubby my other Bro (his father) treats him like he's all that matters. It's became really annoying and unfortunately for the boy who also was enjoying being spoilt people do not like him. He always plays that daddy card too.
ReplyDeleteIn short, keel talking to hubby and pray to avoid subbing rivalry that early. Don't let hubby spoil your girl for you. Your only girl for that matter. Let hubby see the effect of his actions on other children. All children deserves to be treated fairly. They will never forget.
You mean Gänsehaut???
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