E no easy at all but wetin person go do?
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
PREGNANCY HORMONES AND HUSBAND'S NONCHALANT
ATTITUDE
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
PREGNANCY HORMONES AND HUSBAND'S NONCHALANT
ATTITUDE
Hello Stella,
Firstly, i want to thank you for the platform you have here. I must say, ever since i found this platform 2 years ago it has helped me a lot.
Firstly, i want to thank you for the platform you have here. I must say, ever since i found this platform 2 years ago it has helped me a lot.
I got married two months ago to my university lover, we are both graduates now and are through with service since last year. It wasn't really a wedding of my dream because we are both unemployed but my husband is a hard working man and has been providing me with basic needs right from our university days till now so i thank God and have hope in us because i believe we will be fine.
Recently, i was a bit worried because I am yet to conceive though hubby isn't worried, luckily the TTC post came up, i keyed into the testimonies and believe i will send my testimony soon. Lo and behold, i missed my period last month so i told hubby that I'm not sure if it was pregnancy but I'm sure of the signs i see so we should wait till i run a test to be sure.
Few days ago, i felt a little funny; i was sweating profusely, was breathing so fast and felt like throwing up. I quickly told his sister to call him, when he came i got so shocked with the way he asked what was wrong with me, i told him and he said ok. Meanwhile, the feeling had already stopped but the urge to throw up kept disturbing me, to my greatest surprise, hubby dressed up and went out and left me there in the bathroom.
Hmm!
Hmm!
He came home hours later and all he asked was if food was ready because he was hungry. Ahh! I kept calm and served him food, he went out again and came back at night asking for his food; i got so angry and told him my mind. How could you leave me in such condition, not caring about how I feel but asking about food only?
I got another shocker from him, he said vomiting is not an illness and as such, he is not supposed to stand and look after me and even if i was pregnant, am i the first woman to take in? WTF?
I couldn't control myself, i just started to cry upon hearing that statement. I went straight to bed and started praying while crying. I prayed to God to give me the strength i need because the feeling i had was just to take sniper so i could lose the pregnancy.
It's been few days after the incident although he had apologised some days back but as it is, i am giving him the silent treatment and i want it to go on as long as i can.
I have lost faith in the marriage already and feel i should just go back to my parents for a while. I can't confide in anyone around because i was told never to disclose my marital problems to friends and family.
I got another shocker from him, he said vomiting is not an illness and as such, he is not supposed to stand and look after me and even if i was pregnant, am i the first woman to take in? WTF?
I couldn't control myself, i just started to cry upon hearing that statement. I went straight to bed and started praying while crying. I prayed to God to give me the strength i need because the feeling i had was just to take sniper so i could lose the pregnancy.
It's been few days after the incident although he had apologised some days back but as it is, i am giving him the silent treatment and i want it to go on as long as i can.
I have lost faith in the marriage already and feel i should just go back to my parents for a while. I can't confide in anyone around because i was told never to disclose my marital problems to friends and family.
Please help me, I need advice on what to do.
*sigh*..My dear take it easy before early stage pregnancy hormones breaks up your marriage.
Its not that serious dear,look for the right moment and discuss how his statement made you feel.If he wasnt like this before then he might probably be under some kind of pressure,probably finance.
Take it easy and talk with him,okay?
I know a lady who Marriage packed up because her hubby couldnt handle her new behaviour during pregnancy,he moved out and insists he will only still be married to her if they live apart,and she has refused that arrangement so for now things have fallen apart....The child she was pregnant with is almost 2 years old now and the man left them in the house he bought and is living in a rented place.
*sigh*..My dear take it easy before early stage pregnancy hormones breaks up your marriage.
Its not that serious dear,look for the right moment and discuss how his statement made you feel.If he wasnt like this before then he might probably be under some kind of pressure,probably finance.
Take it easy and talk with him,okay?
I know a lady who Marriage packed up because her hubby couldnt handle her new behaviour during pregnancy,he moved out and insists he will only still be married to her if they live apart,and she has refused that arrangement so for now things have fallen apart....The child she was pregnant with is almost 2 years old now and the man left them in the house he bought and is living in a rented place.
Kwakwakwakwa...
ReplyDeleteYou want to go back to your parents because your husband didn't pet you while you were vomiting?...
Ngwanu,go nau...what are you still waiting for?...
Well lemme not yab you because it's your first pregnancy..."
Didn't ur husband pet u huh
DeleteDon't mind her, daddys girl...
DeleteWho sent u to rush into marriage.
You think its beans?
Even with money its not beans...
Its even burnt beans with insects inside wen the man is broke.
I like the man's response.
DeleteTalk to your mum and don't disturb the man with vomit ish. Look for a job to support him before your nagging wears him off.
Everyone now wants to send in chronicles... Why won't she say she wants to leave the marriage when everything you FEMINISTS here say is to encourage young people and indoctrinate them not to endure anything coming from men folks.
DeleteI wonder when if a child escapes creeping and starts walking after birth.
Abeg, if you want to leave your marriage and go to your father's house, you should jare, make your husband go enjoy himself... Daft woman.
Bia!poster, how old are you again? Dis what happena when kids get married!In dis silly rant of yours, you have threatened to go back to your parents house, threatened suicide by sniper, all becos your husband didn't pet you when you were vomiting ...realllyy? Has it occurred to you that he has a lot on his mind asper finances. Is it your vomit the family will use to feed? You said you are both unemployed, your marriage isn't up to two months for Gods sake and you are already pregnant..NNE, where is your brain? So inside poverty, you still want him to be romantic okwaya? Shey you've not heard the phrase" no romance without finance"..biko, cut the poor man some slack and shift with your pettiness. I'm sure he's not ready for another addition to the family now considering the circumstances, how do you expect him to be excited upandan?He stil apologised to you o, you are not still satisfied...mshheeewww!Drama queen! You need to calm your tits or just go to your parents house..Am sure the poor guy will heave a sigh of relief.
DeleteCan u imagine, some women can be very stupid and annoying. U should be grateful to God for answering ur prayer instead of looking at hubby's attitude. I'm sorry buh i hate women like u. Remove ur eyes from ur hunby and face ur pregnancy
DeleteStella can like to sabi people eh!! There's hardly any chronicle here that Stella can't relate to.She must know someone who has passed through similar experience...Na so.Back to you poster,did you say you both are married and unemployed? Chineke!! How do people do these kinda things to themselves abeg? Nawa.How won't he be nonchalant when he has to think of how to make money?Upon say una no get work,you come carry Belleon top.I'd worry more about how to take care of the baby on the way if I were you.Raising a child no be beans o.He even had the guts to ask for food,which food biko? Hian!!
DeleteThank God say snipper nor expensive wouldve been more worried abt how u will get cash 2 buy one. Goodluck.
DeleteBabies carrying babies
DeleteHow old are you again poster?
The only ish I picked from this chronicle is that you are both unemployed. How are you guys coping in this economy?
DeleteHow can u be getting worried about getting JUST 2 months after getting married. Jeez!!!! 2 months oh. That is still honeymoon period na. 2 months oh. Thank God you r now expecting but learn to chill. ur body too dey shake
DeleteYou wanna leave the mareiage abi. Clap for yasef👏. Idiro serious eziokwu. You are not serious at all. Pack comot na, who hold you. Na you first get belle abi? Poor man is strongly to make ends meet for you guys and you dont even know what setback he had that day or what your calling him back home that day made him put on hold. You berra chikota onwe gi onu (put yourself together) and understand that you are now a wife and boyfriend/girlfriend things are over. If you like have phd in silent treatment na you know. The more you make the home front uncomfortable for him, the more he will seek comfort outside. If you like give yourself sense, if you like dont, but if you disturb us again with this kain misbehaviour, the thunDA...the thunDA that will fire you is still taking pre-wedding photos.✌
DeleteYou never ready for marriage silly girl! So because you 'suspect' you may be pregnant, the man shouldn't go and hustle? By the way, this one you are both unemployed and pregnant, how do you hope to fend for yourself and baby? I don't understand why 2 unemployed people should rush into marriage anyway. Each to his own.... Stella dey here for una beggy beggy.
ReplyDeleteSee ur mouth like pop corn must u call her silly
DeleteYou wanna drink sniper and lose pregnancy!
DeleteSorry dear you won't just lose the pregnancy but your life too.
You called him because you are nauseating, to come use his tongue to pack the vomit or what, oh I forget you said he's jobless no wonder
My dear grow up and live in the now, marriage is no movie
This is harsh.
DeletePeople are differnt and not everyone can tolerate a man who isn't caring. What's so silly about that? It's their first pregnancy and even if her husband can't be there 100% cause he is looking for money he should at least ask her if she's okay not ask her for food. There are some men that don't act right to their wives and in such cases if the woman gets small attention from outside, it will cause her to fall.
Poster, bear with hIm. He's never been married before its his first time and he's also learning as much as you are. Not every man grew up in an environment where they pamper women, so they don't know. Also, he might be stressed out thinking that you're bringing a child to this world when he doesn't have money. You people should thane rushed into the is marriage, IMO. Two unemployed people can really frustrate themselves.
He has apologized, so watch it from here and try and be strong. Also, he might be one of those that like drama before they sit up. Maybe you need to act like you're fainting when you have small headache before he knows it's serious. Try and study him more. We learn everyday. Take it easy dear
Thank u at popeyes,how do people even get married without any source of income,and now they want to drag an innocent child into this.Posted,while I were busy keying into getting pregnant,u should ve keyed into getting a job first or pray your husband gets one.Pple get married any put a hold on child bearing for a while until they are financially stable
DeleteI tire o.I really don't know why people knowingly walk into perpetual suffering their eyes wide open.I just can't abeg!!
DeleteChikito I love your comment,
DeleteDat was a great comment frm a matured mind @ chikito.
Delete@chikito chop kisses God bless your hustle. Most sensible comment so far. Dear
DeleteWomen una they try shaaa, Poster to be a man no be one day something, Maybe the guy man no own him side, but calm down all will be well
ReplyDeleteI'm not talking because I just wanna make a comment, but this lady you are a very foolish person. You didn't see the job posts to key into, ttc at 2months? So you expected to get preggy at the first night. You are very wicked. You didn't even let this man enjoy his marriage, you are already preggy and you want him to rub your back and say congrats. How old are you BTW? You sound immature. Who even funded your wedding? Tueeeehhhh. Where will u get money for baby things? Bringing a child into your poverty, you are very wicked. Nonsense. I bet you stay in the slums because your mentality stinks
DeleteHaaaaaa nawa ooo, anonymous is it ur preggy? Is it ur home? Y so much hatred? Odikwa egwu.pls no die on top dere matter biko.anu mpama
DeleteIf I talk now they'd call me harsh and say it's probably why I'm still unmarried.
ReplyDeleteAn hungry man is an angry man and I'm sure you've heard that severally.
A man who can't feed his family will not be happy at all and then news of a new mouth to feed is also somethin that wouldn't sound nice to his ears.
The mistake of getting married with no stable income is already done. Please be calm and put yourself in his shoes, the pressure is high and with the current economic situation it's expected for any man to act that way.
He has apologised, forgive him and try to bring peace to him and for your own self. You have life growing inside of you.
Pele dear.
Why harsh, go n marry ur own brokeless nigga. To be married is sweet oh
DeleteA man who can't feed his family shouldn't get married in the first place.... My girlfriend is tormenting me with marriage. She is working and I am not, I won't bulge to that... Tomorrow na she go insult say I no be man even after na she force me do am...
DeleteYou women are something else... But for the man above, he shouldn't have gotten married.
#wisdom. Well said
DeleteHenceforth, you shall be called Solomoness.
@ anon 17:30, don't bulge biko, stick to your decision no matter the pressure. The first thing a man needs is work before wife.
DeleteWell said at 17:30. My pastor said before praying for single ladies, let us pray for the young men to get jobs. In this economy that everything is expensive, I pray God blesses your husband with a job or start a business.
DeleteCan I sneak in here to say the word is budge not bulge don't take offense ko. You correct who u love.
DeleteThanks @ anon 22:53
DeleteMy dear what's your problem? You just got married 2 months ago and you've been worried about being pregnant to the extend that you joined in the TTC Prayer. Abeg is the TTC prayer not even more than 2months?
ReplyDeleteWhy are you so in haste about everything? Just finished service, got married, crying for delay in conception? Abeg wetin be your problem gangan? Why are you taking life this serious, you must have frustrated that man's life to make him behave like that
*Larry was here*
She's a Russian citizen.
DeleteWhen you marry u can talked. My husband will soon come back ooh
DeleteI agree. She seems to be in a haste. When I take time to plan they tell me I worry too much. I hate rush. I no fit for story for my life oh
DeleteI concur...partially though! It's her life.
DeleteNo mind her
DeleteRush rush.
She hurriedly married and now she wants to rush out.
Go your papa house if you can't keep your hormones in check let's see road.
Larry one million likes for your statement.
DeleteLady your desperation is out of this world. Only God know who you're competing with na you go hear am. I don't feel sorry for you.
Thank you oh Larry me too I confuse say she join team ttc jst 2 months after getting married.
DeleteI dont understand how a man can be so insensitive, madam please dont let pregnancy stop u, go out n make a living for both u n ur bby. I hate it wen ladies depend on men, u should atleast be able to take care of urself incase he decides he is done with the marriage
ReplyDeleteIs not as if you are married
DeleteThis is not chronicles, Aunt madam,please take it easy, is not that serious.
ReplyDeleteFind a good time to let him know how you feel or how what he said made you feel. Cikina
Even d ones they nevr pay their pride brice get mouth for sdk
DeleteSame thing my friend is going thru
ReplyDeleteShe started bleeding two days ago and her hubby didn't show any sign of care even when she told him they might lose the baby
He didn't even call all thru dat day not until yesterday he called twice my Frnd didn't pick (hubby traveled)
I don't even know what to tell her seff ....she wants to go for an abortion and said they need time apart to sort things out
Make I borrow advice for here go give her cos me I weak for matters like this
Bleeding in pregnancy is an emergency but my dear nausea isn't. Your friend and this poster dey different situations.
DeleteYour friend shouldn't go for any abortion. If she has the means she should quickly present at the hospital except she is non chalant about the pregnancy as well.
Wait a minute. .though your story wasn't detailed cos I don't understand what she means by not caring..
Her husband travelled what if he was involved in an accident and that's why he couldn't get through ..that's how she would go and have an abortion.
Hope you all know abortion ain't legal sha..
There are lots of them. My dad was like that too. We had to call him to order as we grew up and saw it. It may even slip to children. It's an African dad thing especially those who grew up in polygamous homes. That's why I can't stand uncaring guys.
DeleteWell, if ur husband was in Europe, what would u have done?
ReplyDeleteBoth of u should be mature!
Or u go to ur papa house, if that will give u peace of mind!
*cold dey*
See this mgbokwo sef get opinions
DeleteSist u don't have problem nau, remember the saying, 'men are like babies' common, you are a strong woman act like one.
ReplyDeleteMen are babies ko, babies nI. Na it make some of una dey marry babies true true. Don't look for people who have their shit together. Be there joining issues with men who aren't ready to be men and keep calling them babies
DeleteKia Chikito, why am I so loving your responses. Babies indeed dear , reason we have women who take all craps thrown at them smiply because they allow such.
DeleteWho be baby?
DeleteLol
@Chikito, Your comments are always on point. I love the way you reason.
DeleteI think what the poster is worried about is the uncaring attitude of the husband. Even if she was not pregnant, a little sense of care goes a long way especially between a husband and wife. What if it were something serious than pregnancy hormones, is that how he would leave her without caring to know what is going on?
I see the husband as a non- challant person and it's a very bad attitude.
Dear poster, please talk to your husband about how you feel I'm sure he would reason with you. It's too early to allow things like this to cause strains in your marriage.
I wish you the best!
Take things easy iyawo tuntun, e go better
ReplyDeleteIs this poster serious?!! You called ur hubby to come just because u wanted to vomit?? is that how u will be calling him eveu single time? vomiting is not that serious. free the guu abeg
DeletePoster have you gone to the hospital to confirm you are actually pregnant. Do that first but I love your faith.
ReplyDeleteyour hussy is not mad about your being pregnant but mad at about how the economy situation is affecting him and then a baby comes along.
Pray for him to have a good job and also pray for forgiveness and also forgive him, because your silent treatment will affect any good chance of him having a better job to do. God answer prayers of women FAST than men. Ask God for forgiveness and keep praying for him, it will turn up well.
Kk sis
DeleteThe best comment.
DeleteStella you just brought the word out of me , your husband said those things out of pressure. When a man is broke he can do and undo.
ReplyDeletePoster u don't have a problem atall,don't go looking for issues where there is none.
ReplyDeleteHave u married before
DeleteAsk her again.lol
DeleteMadam, you are a very a very selfish and self centred woman. He should put his life at a standstill bcos you are pregnant? Are you kidding me??
ReplyDeleteNo be your dey get 3 children in the horseband's house without drama? And you are here talking rubbish.
U must be a nag and a quarrelsome woman. Why didn't you tell him what your problem is and what you want him to do?
I hope that you go back to your papa house so that he can get a better woman.Some Women will pretend to be angels during friendship only to bring out their true colors once they marry and carry belle. they will now feel that they don trap the man already.
Coming from someone dt can't afford the pride price of a village girl. Male gwemz
DeleteJames James u done come back? Welcome oooo😁😁😁😁😁😁😁
DeleteThanks alot for this comment..na so wan bastard girl sef wan decieve me oo!if no be God.Guys dont ever rush to marry any babe oo..fakers are too much.wicked babes everywhere "pretending to be wife material my foot.
DeletePoster: E never reach sniper na? such substance shouldnt even be bought & kept in ur house, since u have suicidal tendencies, just bcus u werent pampered you want to hit the terminate button? do you read other ppls chronicles here? what then would they do?
ReplyDeleteI bet hes seriously seeing the unborn baby coming in with more financial challenge, & responsibilities, that made him react that way... Go easy with him, & keep working together.
#TyrionLannister: You're a whore!
Sansa is fit to bear my children & you're not.
I can't be in love with a whore.
I can't have children with a whore.
How many men have you been with? 500? 5,000?
Shae: How many whores have you been with?
TyrionLannister: I have enjoyed my time with all of them & I have enjoyed my time with you most of all.
But now that time is over.
# Lyanna Mormont: Bear Island knows no king but the King in the North, whose name is STARK!!
DeleteReally tyrion said that to shae, I need to follow up my game of thrones
DeleteJon Snow: "For the watch"
DeleteLmao
Abeg who be Jon snow father?
DeleteRagar Targeryan @anon 01.26
DeleteI think ur husband is acting as a result of the pregnancy hormones too. It happens. It is just a phase in life my dear. This will surely pass. It's not even a serious matter. U need to ask God for forgiveness for thinking "sniper"... that thought wsnt called for IMO.
ReplyDeleteMadam poster you must be stupid o, from what you narrated here i can't find an issue except you want to make one. Should he put his life on hold and baby sit you because you are pregnant? Deal with the symptoms alone abi you want him to help you vomit?. Give yourself brain and just tell him to spend more time with you at home. You wan drink snipper fool, nor be you go die?, drink na you must be a kid.
ReplyDeleteYou must be stupid to call another that ghetto broti. Let me ask, when did you marry sef
DeleteThis poster sef SMH!!! I'm pregnant too and i don't expect my hubby to stand and watch me throw up, in fact i act so strong around him that he begs me to rest. No man wants a needy woman. Not in this harsh economy! A beg shift joor.
DeletePoster how old are you?. Do not create a storm in a tea cup. This little problem and you want to quit . You are funny. Marriage is very hard if you must know. A lot of women cater for themselves including paying medical bills when they are sick. I'm an example. Stop looking for trouble. If you start keeping malice at this stage of your relationship, you risk losing your husband's affection. Better seek good advice from people who have been married for long.
ReplyDeleteShe probably didn't estimate what she was getting into.
DeleteLots of ladies want to get married but don't know how to be wives,
DeleteHahhaha dear poster u are a newly wedded couple so issues like these are bound to spring up...
ReplyDeleteIt is not enough to pack out oh... with time u will be used to him and u will accept him that way.
Make I laugh with you.this is marriage not boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.Better wise up and be a lady because you are no more a girl....women are stronger than men emotionally,dont let this little nothing spoil your honeymoon stage.....
DeleteYou suppose to go and empower yourself before starting a family since you both are jobless.manner doesn't fall from sky anymore!!!!😉😉😉
Laffs..on point le prestige.
DeleteManner fell in my area for Mushin jst yday.
Hian...wat is his problem?abi he no wan make u born yet.?all ds long relationships once dey marry dey start acting strange...mtcheeww
ReplyDeletePoster,you got married two months ago and TTC?? You and hubby are unemployed?? It seems that you are the lazy type so because you are pregnant you called your husband to rush home because you felt like throwing up?? That obviously put him off am not saying I commend his actions towards you but you should have let him come home first and break the news after asking how the day went for him.
ReplyDeleteYou alone know your husband. What do you want us to tell you? Communicate with him and let him know you would appreciate that he show more concern during the duration of the pregnancy while you be more supportive of his struggle in making sure that he provides for the home.
Heei hold it chick are you married
DeleteAnonymous 16:38 AKA Poster, with all this ur response under comment of people insulting just showed you are mannerless, rude, stupid, foolish and anything I can call a dumb person. WTF is wrong with girls of nowadays and marriage? Kilode? Who they pursue una.
DeleteYou made the poor boy marry you when he can't even cater for himself, and you quickly want to use pregnancy to hold him after he has married you, inferiority complex want to finish you. I know people like you. See ehn you have not seen anything, better go out and look for what to do or start fasting and pray to God to provide a job for your husband. Cuz you never start. Msheeew. I must marry, desperado
Some men are really unlucky when it comes to marriage. See as this woman just manufactured trouble in her home and she never display those character during friendship.
ReplyDeleteMadam, what crime exactly did your horseband commit?
Shame on you if stay put in his house and refuse to park ur property and go back to your father's house.
Welcome ohhhhh I missed you
DeleteMadam take am easy ooh nah so he dry be
DeleteAre you sure u aint the hubby wt ur brokeass
DeleteJames James welcome back my crush on sdk😁😁😁😁😁😁I'm very sure alot of people miss ur comment...
DeleteGod bless jere James
DeleteJames the genius😂
DeleteAs e dey hot😂
The poster is not the troll abeg dnt cuss her. Am just having fun
DeleteAnnoyed troll
I don't see a chronicle in your story...welcome to the institution called marriage...it is not a bed of roses.....sometimes it will be very sweet and @ times it will be the other way....Lady be patient and pray for your home.When I got pregnant the second time,hubby did not talk to me for 2 weeks,cos we did not plan to have another baby too soon.
ReplyDeleteSo whr did sperm jump from to fertilize ur egg na?
DeleteOk that's true oh, through bluetooth.
She obviously means afterwards, when she told him...
DeleteI'm sure your hubby wasn't ready when you decided to go TTC on him. He clearly wasn't moved all the while you couldn't concieve cos he wasn't ready. Will the baby eat sand?
DeleteI know how women wish to be called mothers ASAP but first things first. You should have tried to get a job first. Obviously you can't handle one now since you can't even deal with your hormones.
Better sit up and prepare for the baby else the next place you will want to pack your bags to will be to your ancestors.
*amourrahere*
Stella, the husband of the 2 year old child is one of the most inconsiderate people I have ever heard about. May God visit him wherever he is
ReplyDeleteLinda has been preaching
ReplyDeleteI came and joined her ministry
NEVER MARRY A BROKE DUDE. Whatsoever pressure you may feel will only tarry for a while.
Broke and naughty. What a combo
Dts y you nvr marry
DeleteNonsense chronicle
ReplyDeleteYou got married 2 months ago
You were TTC when?
I jump and pass biko
Who you help
DeleteMy dear ignore some advice u will get here. Ur husband is still a nice and caring man may be d taught of having a baby and u peoples current financial situation is making him act like this. JUST BE STRONG UR MARRIAGE IS STILL YOUNG.
ReplyDeleteHormonal Don dey worry... Ur hubby might not be a caring person.. N u should know. Or ur hubby is scared cos of the finances.
ReplyDeleteWomen and unnecessary attention. If u re not feeling well, Takia of ur self if the man is not willing. You think if u tk sniper, it s only d pregnancy u wl lose? Wot abt u? Pls jt calm down n do wot u can do 4 urself. If he sees u doing it on ur own, he wl adjust
ReplyDeleteMadam abegiii, so because of this thats qhy you wanna lose faith in marriage, i laugh in swahili. Expect more surprises as some men arent romantic. Grow some skin and stop been touchy. He loves you. You better stop that cold treatment and mould your man the way you want him moulded. It would take time but tou would get there. Its only 2 months abeg. Show him how u want to be treated by treating him that way. Many married pple u see smiling and been together for years qent thru worst things. Abeg marriage no be fairy tale. Enjoy ur pregnancy, if u need petting, call your mum.
ReplyDeleteMtsheeeew!!!!!
ReplyDeleteThis is what happens when kids get married.
ReplyDeleteIberibe!!!
Mtsheeeew.
Dts y u are an old cargo
DeleteYou are an idiot. Next time drink the sniper and don't come here to disturb us.
DeleteYou have time to be responding and insulting everyone that calls you out, weda na you dey give the poor boy badluck. Drink sniper and carry your wretchedness away from the poor boy.
Anuofia
Make una pity dis poster na.na so so insult.e haf do
DeleteMy dear,no vex.
ReplyDeleteGive the brother a break oh Mma. You said it yourself, he's tried taking care of you even while in Uni and that's even without a job. He's not a bad guy and insisting on milking this issue may make him think his one bad behavior has made you forget everything he's done.
Ndo ohhh? E nu go? 1st trimester wahala na real horror movie and you'll need him for the ride trust me.
Forgive bros
y are u like this,y do u want to use ur hand 2 destroy ur marriage.u sound very very petty and plus ur preg hormones it will double.u want at any quarrel u run to daddy,u are a joke.i know u like all this mushy mushy stuff but come on its not all the time ur hubby will bin the mood for that,im sure he is going thru financial strain hence his indifference to the baby news,he is automatically calculating the bills.malice has never helped anyone please stop it ,u will only b compounding more to the already existing problem.
ReplyDeleteYour opinion is not needed
DeleteThis story get as e be o. Too one-sided abeg. Did u guys quarrel before or there's an unresolved issue that has been going on for months we don't know about. You can't just give the story of him snapping at you next thing is you've lost faith in the marriage. Not everyday is meant to be rosy so for you to say you've lost faith in the marriage means there are lots of things you aren't saying. Maybe he's not happy you're pregnant especially since you both don't have a job. But why get married if you don't have a job/business sustaining you both. Some people still dey use their two korokoro eyes enter poverty😩it is well my dear. Pele so gbo!
ReplyDeleteMtcheeew!!! Seriously??!!! Poster u sent in dis rubbish as chronicle? D guy try self wey him apologize, is pregnancy disease dat d world shud stand still becos u are having morning sickness?? Ur type are d ones giving modern women bad names. Instead of u to start thinking of wat to do to support dis husband now dat a child is on d way, u are there shedding useless crocodile tears about a silly issue like dis. Mstcheew!!!
ReplyDeleteV u sent a chronicle before
DeleteKai, ds js reminded me of my own. My hubby has been helping to cook, clean and take care of my oda kids when he gets bk from work. I too work buh ds pregnancy is js not friendly. He uttered d same statement few days back. D tin pain me eeehhh. Ds is d man dat cannot take insect bite, his eyes wl js turn red turn red talk more of ordinary pregnancy throwing up. I js dey wait for am. Am not vexing, I like ds opportunity. I wl not raise hand to do anything again till I gv birth. I think I hv bn pampering him b4. Even when I get beta, nothing from me. He gast to tk ova and do dat tin women do; work and take care of home.
ReplyDeleteChai, "r u d 1st to get pregnant?" Okwaya? He has bn helpful buh he js spoilt d whole tin. I dey vex.
Hahahahahahhaahahaha
DeleteThis woman won't kill me!
Big belle,sorry now.
Forgive him.
ROFL@ Okwaya? It feels like something I can type...Okwaya? LMAO!
No vex bikozienu.
Choi I miss my Preggie daysssss! I wantttttt
Poster what kind of drama are you acting? Don't use your hand to destroy your home. Did your husband consent to this pregnancy? You are both unemployed and just got married two months ago yet you have rushed to get pregnant. What is wrong with you? How can you think of taking Sniper to end your pregnancy. From what you've explained you are desperate and irrational. Stop blaming hormones.
ReplyDeleteIs not all men that has patience to pet a sick bae. Eg my fiancee kept complaining when I had malaria upon I was on my own he came and took me to his house in the name of taken care of me,all he kept saying is I hope you will not be acting this way when you get pregnant . He kept lamenting that I promised to cook white soup for him and I had no option than to make soup for him with dizziness.some men are something else
ReplyDeleteHhahahahahahhaha...I swear, u just reminded me of my ex...one time I had malaria, after I used my drugs and he managed to pet me small o, small time he don dey waka up and down sulking that he's hungry..I had to get up and still cook that day ..some men are somtin else ..Hian! I just knew I couldn't marry someone like dat o..
DeleteCant help but laugh "promised to cook white soup" don't worry dear, love is your strength
DeleteMine is the other way round. I thought he is not caring. When I had typhoid and he came to pick me from school to his house, his mum is a nurse and she asked me to stay with her after giving me injection, Mr. Boyfriend refused oo, he took me to asaba from agbor that night and he gave me the best treatment ever, at midnight I will just feel cold towel cleaning my body, I felt for him oo, cuz I gave him sleepless night for 3weeks, I thought I was going to die, when i recovered, he said "baby if you get pregnant you won't leave my sight at all" choi I fell in love more
DeleteBoth of u are not yet mature mentality for marriage
ReplyDeleteGod please surprise me too, blessed me with the fruit of the womb Pls God let this month not pass me by I want to be the next to testify. Pls Father come and wipe away my tears do this lord and take all the glory Amen.
ReplyDeleteDear poster Pls take it easy with your husband and follow Stella's advice. may God almighty bless your husband with job and may He continue to bless your home. the lord is your strength stay bless.
Silent treatment is emotional blackmail. You better stop it because your husband will start resenting you for it.
ReplyDeletePoster what on earth is wrong with you?..quit being stupid and petty.you are married for only 2 months you still have forever to go (hopefully) and you are acting childish.
ReplyDeleteYour husband has apologised and you are foolishly giving him the silent treatment. .madam please grow up.
You have lost faith in your marriage and want to go back to your parents house over a non issue.madam are you sure you are ready to remain married?
Back to the issue that exposed your childishness. ..so just cause you are pregnant anytime you are nauseous you would inform your sister-in-law to call your husband to dip his hands in your mouth and precipitate vomiting so he can rub your back or madam what were you expecting? madam snap back to reality and quit being stupid.
You are pregnant and you know early morning sickness is associated with pregnancy in most people. .your write up didn't state you were having intractable vomiting or 3ven vomited at all,it stated you were nauseous. I see no reason why you would scare your husband ,acting as if you were dying to the extent of getting his sister to call him.
The poor man probably ran down thinking of the worst only for you to tell him you felt like vomiting. That's annoying.
Agreed his response sounded inconsiderate but he already apologised.
Please don't allow people who genuinely need a child come for you because if you a TTC and pregnant now the thought of drinking sniper to terminate a pregnancy just cause your husband didn't pick you up,kiss you all over and get you a range rover sport on account of you being nauseous shows how low you reason.
Madam when you are vomiting uncontrollably,you have diarrhoea ,fever ,body pains ,abdominal pains ,vaginal bleeding e.t.c inform your husband so he can take you to see a doctor..
Nausea alone shouldn't cause all this wahala...
I know some people may come under this comment and say trash...just so you know pregnancy is not a ticket to stupidity lounge and if you feel her stupidity is justified remember she has about 8 more months to enjoy that lounge and this is just the beginning. (Na so she go dey scream nausea the husband go dey run upandaun he go miss contract wey go bring them money)
See epistle wey this poster make me write sef.
DeleteIn another news ...how can you claim to be TTC 2 months into marriage?
Why are you TTC when you both are unemployed?
You stated he is hardworking. .yes that's good but you both need to have a steady flow of income cos arrival of a newborn is not agidi ati eko.
You both should have being on family planning and delayed conception even if it was for a year...
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Madam allow your hardworking husband hustle well before you would land here would plea of baby things and start tagging him useless meanwhile the problem is lack of planning.
Gbam!!
DeleteOrela you don vex but funny enough some husbands give all the services you just mentioned above,my sister's husband got her a range rover sports and was petting her all through pregnancy,my own husband pets me silly,some women are not that lucky to meet men who know how to show love but it is not impossible to meet men who are just God sent.
DeleteWhen did u marry
DeleteChop kiss for dis ur comment😘😘😘
DeleteNobody will say thrash o!!!
DeleteYou've said it all, this poster's head is empty like komkom milk.
Gbam!
DeleteOrela I would stand as your voltron if anyone tries to spit trash on this beautiful piece of advice!
DeleteChildish poster you don hear? I dint even have patience to read to the part of taking sniper. Next time when you feel like taking sniper, do it! Dont threaten us with it here. Oniranu!
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DeleteNa true you talk jare.
DeleteThanks my dear for stating my mind....At poster,whenever you feel nauseous,put bitter cola or Tom Tom into your mouth to keep it down.
DeleteChop kiss for this comment. Nor mind that lady.
DeleteThe useless girl is even responding and insulting her mother's mates here. Rada rada!
Deleteyou are such a child
ReplyDeletePoster, I think u shud calm down. I have an idea of wat d whole scenario looks like. I was realy interested in dat part of you marrying ur university lover and that u both finished service last yr. Pls just take it easy. Itz not good to be broke o, not to talk of a man. He might be frustrated, pls dis is the time he needs u to stand wit him (a work in progress) ..keep praying .. All will be well.
ReplyDeleteYou tried so hard to make the situation look worse than it was...WHY?
ReplyDeleteYou want us to bash your nurseband?
Don't you know with his financial condition he shouldn't have an erection, now he had an erection and a baby is on the way...you're here playing mind games.
Gbam
DeleteHian!! Is dis a chronicle? Poster nawa for u oo, how old are u? Its like you watch too much ZeeWorld... Babe forget oo, the kain love we play for Zee World na fantasy oo... You want your husband to be looking at your face 24/7? Na u go tire oo... U wan leave ur 2 months old marriage ontop wetin? Abeg stopiit biko....
ReplyDeleteStella am very busy these past few days, how u dey? I am on tour with Drake and King Fahd can't stop calling my phone.... Lemme run, Oprah Winfrey asked me to meet her at Sunset Beach....
😂😂😂 werey. Pls say hi to Oprah for me.
DeleteYou got married two months ago and you are TTC???? Poster you don't have a chronicle biko.Waka pass, let people with real life chronicle come inside. I felt like giving u e-slap after this comment. So you want him to be baby sitting you there when he is supposed to be hustling outside.
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile I have been unable to access this blog through my mobile except I go through the old posts Nd enter web version. Who has an idea?
I'm realy touched by this story. You just got married two months ago, Babe calm down. To be honest wit you, i think u shud slow down on d baby making part. Grow into ur husband first before he becomes a father. It is nt easy my dear plus money answereth so many things. Money is key. Pls o, let him make money first. You too shud find a money-making venture for ursef.
ReplyDeleteI had a very good laugh, that was what happened to me 14yrs ago and I nearly quit my marriage if not for my mum,but today am happy I stayed
ReplyDeletePoster, i know ur hubby did bad buh that is not his real face. Forgive him pls.
ReplyDeleteMy dear...even if her husband is supposedly uncaring now as she wants to paint him...are you forgetting he is unemployed ?..haba..maybe the guy was out looking for job...and here she is talking trash...she doesn't know his mind should be focused on getting enough now cause there would soon be a new addition to a family that's just 2 months old..haba...na hug and Pele dem go take buy baby food and diapers?
ReplyDeleteLet's be real here this woman is petty....
If she said she is vomiting...having fever and body pains I would understand...but nausea. ..chai. ..
Haba...as inconsiderate as she thinks he is he has apologised and she plans on giving him the silent treatment as longs as she can.
When married people should remember they are getting married to an entirely human being who has likes and dislikes different from their own...They aren't getting married to puppies or pets that does all one's bidding.
Poster if you like pack up your marriage over the fact that you felt like vomiting.
Is this a Chronicle? This poster isn't ready for marriage abeg.
ReplyDeleteSo what exactly is your problem sef. Have you been confirmed pregnant by a home test or blood? 14 or 15 year old get pregnant and go on to have healthy babies so what is the problem with you? What if he was working and not around the moment you were throwing upnwould you have gone to his office to throw up there? Maybe it's because your hubby is unemployed that's why you are thinking he shoule be baby seating you.
I may have sounded harsh but the truth is this; you are married now and with marriage comes wisdom,patience and tolerance. Why will you be giving him the silent treatment cos of a trivial issue? Why not talk to him instead and pour out your hurt and move on?
Please your marriage isn't even 6months yet and you are already sending a chronicle. Talk to your hubby and you both should work things out. All the best.
ReplyDeleteGo and get a maid or better still tell your mum to come and stay with you at this early stage of your pregnancy.
I pray God gives you the strength to carry your pregnancy.Please,if things don't change for the best,don't be in a haste to take in again.
Egba mi ! This one too follow for chronicle? O ma ga o !
ReplyDeleteYou didn't even look for a job to support him in this hardship. You will come back to complain of not buying any baby stuff if you continue like this. You need Jesus and do not stress the hardworking man as he is still young probably under 30 years
ReplyDeleteMumu woman.
ReplyDeleteYou just got married 5 minutes ago and you are already stressing the poor guy.
ReplyDelete@ Poster dear one word for you GROW UP!! You ain't daddy's girl no more...U have got to mature , this is not university love, this is the real deal.. think of how to better the life of your family and start acting mature.. Welcome to the university of marriage...
ReplyDeleteyou are stupid and should remain in your father''s house. You are annoyingly childish and not ready for marriage because this is nothing compared to what will come. 2 months and u jumped on TTC. What happened to getting to know each other and having a baby when you both get a job? What is wrong with these children of this generation. You should apologize to that man and get useful. Pregnancy is not an excuse to be stupid & lazy. Get a job, child!!
ReplyDeleteWise words
DeleteGod bless you o. Children of nowadays. Foolishness personified. What's the hurry. She's even busy replying people,yarbing them that they are not married. I'm married but I can tell you that it is better to be single than to be in this condition that you find yourself. More is yet to come.You will learn the hard way.
DeleteKids of nowadays do noy wanna reason with their heads. One can get married early and plan when to start having kids, back it up with prayers while they work and save.for the family
DeleteBut some won't hear. I think they are Muslim .
Madam Sniper,there's a new product in town,very effective.It's called snipering Otapiapia......very much available,affordable and subsidized.
ReplyDeleteMadam u neva start marriage. Worse things will still happen. Learn how to ignore and forgive.He even begged u, some men will ignore u and drs nothing u can do. U can neva get a perfect man. Preg is not a disease u v to brace up urslf for dn journey ahead. God help us all.
ReplyDeleteIf it is possible that you take the sniper and the baby will appear in my womb I will ask you to go ahead with the sniper drinking. U are such an ungrateful woman. U claim to have been reading the ttc post? If you have been reading it you wld av appreciated that baby. Who told you being pampered is an everyday thing. What were you expecting getting married without jobs?
ReplyDeleteMadam you sound really young and not ready for marriage .
ReplyDeleteWhy in this harsh economy are you being unwise? Are kids running away ? Or sperm and egg don finish for Una body ?
Instead of you to find somthing to do , to bring in extra income , you are there disturbing God for a child . Both of you are jobless for God sake . What would you use to feed your baby? Breast milk yes.. But what about the other expenses that comes wit it? You ought to have waited for at least 2 years to enable ur hubby get on his feet .
You pressured him to marry you even though he had no job , you pressured him and God for a baby- now it seems you finally have it , yet u no gree rest . I don't blame you - it's your joblessness that's giving you time to be silly .
Please move to your dads house , Na same you go use ur hand destroy ur marriage - keep threatening to move home. 2 months marriage and already you are being such a nag. I pity ur hubby
Is 2 early na, y d chronicle? I don't c any problem here jst d fact dat got upset, instead if this malice thing u would have tell him his own 2 now and free ur mind.
ReplyDelete😂😂😂😂Poster you really v time replying pipo...I tot u needed advice. Anyways...I think he's actually kinda frustrated dat not only does he not have a job,on top of it you are already pregnant.. U should have been more careful not to get pregnant yet wen both of u aren't working at d moment... Assuming you r working n he's not,it would v been a different issue but both of you aren't. How do u wanna sustain ourselves? You know dat tyms r hard now... Since you r already pregnant,I advise you better find sth dat would yield income for you n ur baby,even if its selling mineral n water in your compound using ur house fridge...u will b surprised how much u will make out of it...for d sakes of ur baby o,so dat you won't v to transfer aggressions on d poor child... You v to act fast now before its too late.
ReplyDeleteUr hubby is actually not happy dat he can't provide for you at d moment,so just take things easy n put it in Gods hands. Meanwyl reason d selling of mineral dat I suggested.
When I was pregnant for my first kid, about 10yes bck and in my first yr too, called hubby to tell him d result is positive with high hopes of him screaming or at least showing some excitement. He just said ok and changed d topic. Madam chill pls he might not even notice he did wrong. My marriage is happily aging and am happy in it with three adorable kids
ReplyDeleteSorry the feeling would
ReplyDeleteProbably get worse but hopefully he would come around. I was pregnant was unplanned as i am On contraceptives and hubby outrightly told me i am on my own,the thing do me like nollywood movie. I had to be strong and just bone him would experience my morning sickness alone infact would go to another part of d house so i dont feel bad he is not paying me any attention. Was a trying period for our marriage cos my head was just calculating i kept my calm and was 2nd trimester his brain reset.
So honey most important thing is your health and the baby's go and confirm with a PT,then start your prenatals and be strong okay . He would come around.
Young lady, there is nothing really serious about your situation. I know is those early hormones, it can really get to you at your early stage. Please take it easy with your husband; while you are thinking about his bad insensitive side, also remember his numerous good side.
ReplyDeleteSome men are like that, they can be overwhelm and not know how to respond to such cases. You are still very young in your marriage, how can you be tired so soon? Just try and talk to him and make him understand how you're feeling. Your husband is not a bad person; so don't listen to bad advice.
In this part of the world i live in, most marriages crash even before the first baby is born; due to hormones and the men not knowing how to handle things.
One of my close family friends almost took the wrong decision last week, because of similar issues if not for our quick response and positive advice they would have been separated by now. To think the wife is due for delivery next month!
My dear, please take it easy and keep your home safe; for there is no better home than yours out there. You can always ask your husband for assistance in the kitchen, if you are too tired to cook. Communication is the key.
She isn't stupid to start with, they both aren't doing well financially and he knew immediately that she was pregnant. And her pregnancy hormones kicked in at that moment, one thing you are in for a long one.
ReplyDeleteposter u r not alone.. this is my second preg if u c d way hubby is treating me sha.. in fact in my presence he will be cheating with other babes.. m all fed up with d marriage hubby is soooooo selfish, at 7months hubby didnt give me one kobo to get maternity wears nor baby items.. I am really confused and I can't even discuss with anyone.. the only conversation between us is.. did u cook.. what did u cook or from my side I tell him we don't have so n so for house keeping.. in fact I personally think hubby is fed up with me though he denies it but that's the way I feel.. imagine him traveling for two days and not even able to call n ask how we are doing? even after me calling him he refused to call till d day he was to return and that is so I know he is on his way back as in make I cook for am.. anyways patience they say is the key.. so I De wait patiently before I loose it
ReplyDeletehmmm, my dear poster, what type of hurry hurry in life is this, you both just finished youth service, both of you are unemployed and you hurriedly got married and just two months into marriage you were worried already about conceiving to the extent of joining team TTC, i think both of you should have first tried to get jobs, the economy is so hard now, marriage comes with a lot of challenges especially when there's not much finance, bringing a child into the world is also a challenge of its own, all the pre-natal visits and other stuffs a baby would need. the guy already feels the pressure, don't blame him for acting the way he did, take it easy abeg, it's not that serious.
ReplyDeleteI can see the poster going up and down replying rubbish. You married a broke man huh? You are in for it.This is just the beginning. A broke man can't be caring and romantic. Live with it or go back to your papa house. Better start sorting out how to pay your hospital bills and do baby shopping before 9 month's come upon You like a surprise. Rush rush. You couldn't use your common sense to wait for finances to improve before taking in. Tomorrow now you will come here to beg. Biko get out of here before I also your dumb ass. Are you travelling for summer???hehehe
ReplyDeletePoster, you are childish, agreed your husbdand's response was wrong but yours is far worse, you sound so immature.
ReplyDeleteWhy are you people so mean and unsympathetic? Would it have killed him to at least offered to take her to the hospital for a PT? She is his wife and is obligated to take good care of her.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry poster but you married an insensitive man. But did you not know he was this way when you were dating?
Just put this behind you for the sake of peace, yours and your baby's health.