Omugwo Chronicles - Part 2

A Blog Visitor shares her Omugwo story... Continued from Yesterday HERE.

......So we got a help, told her when to start but my baby arrived before then. 

My mum was already on her way even before we called her. So she came with nothing, not even a change of cloth. LOL. 

Hubby called my MIL, she said she will start coming.

MIL came with foodstuffs and ata lilo (grounded pepper) sef. She dropped it all at home before hubby brought her to the hospital to see me. Afterwards hubby said ''Mama let's go home so you can go cook'' ...

she said No she wants to stay with her grandson. My mum said No problem she would go cook.

 To cut long story short, my mum went home that night while MIL stayed overnight in the hospital. 

We were discharged the following day.

When we got home, MIL went to the room and sat down. It was my mum who boiled water for my baby's 1st bath, bathed the boy and massaged my body.

 She was just talking. I mentioned bringing dirty clothes from the hospital my mum asked me to use washing machine but I said No don't want to use it for my baby's clothes. She wanted to wash it but I declined cos she needed to go back home that day. 

Stella, that was the beginning of my wahala. 

I slumped that day. Hubby quickly rushed me in and put me to sleep. Only for me to wake up and hubby was the one cooking. 

''Why not your mum?'' I asked. he said she asked what she will eat and he had to cook for her. 

This is a woman that's not even as old as my own mama o.

Following day, my help started so I was able to rest. MIL bathed my baby and viola! the boy took water into his nose. 

My days old baby started having running nose. My mum came back too and took charge of cooking. 

Hubby told me that he wants to ask his mum to leave. Told him to leave that to me.

I asked mama if she will like to go and rest since my mum is around, she said Noo, she has told people she's going to her son's house for Omugwo and that what will she now say brought her back,That my mum should go instead and take care of my dad.

Mumsy stayed and became a slave to all. A slave to all because she will cook and serve my MIL, pack her dirty plates, wash and even bring water for her to wash her hands especially at night.

 Chai! 

Stella I was angry but she asked me to be patient. My mum is bigger than this woman in every way even in body size, LOL. Didn't know my hubby was watching it all. Think he talked to her but just noticed that MIL started taking her plates to the kitchen herself and even wash.

My mum left after 2 weeks and I was back to square one. I will bath my baby because MIL can't bath him without putting soap in his eyes or water in his nose. 

I had to cook what we would eat cos the help can't cook what I will eat biko.

 My MIL will just sit in the room. Making calls and telling people how she's enjoying. I called my mum and told her I will change it for this woman. My mumsy, God bless her said I shouldn't try it. That I should just look DEEP AND THINK OF HOW I CAN MANAGE HER. That she has a good side if only I can access it. Then I asked God for Wisdom and you know what, I was able to discover my MIL's good side.

She KNOWS HOW TO PACIFY AND BACK A BABY. Then I decided to key into her good side. Whether she's around or not I have to cook for my hubby and I. So adding one mouth to it won't hurt me. Plus mama's own is to sleep, she doesn't put her mouth in my affairs. I make sure she backs my baby once I finish bathing him.

At the end of her 1 month stay, we were both COOL and in good terms. She even told my hubby he married a good wife. That I don't behave anyhow to her.

So what are the lessons I learnt :

1. Everyone has a good side, if only we can just discover it.

2. I am going to be a MIL someday so I have seen what I should do and shouldn't do.

3. ‎There are some exemptions, why not go to God in prayer.

4. No one can be like your mother so quit comparing.

5. Don't ever use your hubby's support against his mother. They don't ever forget.

6. Lastly, erase the MILs' are bad mentality and deal with Mama on a fresh note.

Note that 2 experiences may not be the same. But let us learn from one another. 

Thank you .

THE END!

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