Omugwo Chronicles -8

Did you have an Omugwo?I didnt and its no big deal..LOL

Hi Stella,
I want to also give my 2cent too about my experience. 

I am a young lady from Cross river state, the part I come from, its a must for your mother or mother in-law to take you to her home and nurse you and the baby for some months. So my first baby was through CS and  before my due date I asked my mother to come, so she was with me throughout the hospital period and my mother in-law was coming to check on us time to time. 

When we got home, my mum asked me if she can take me home (her house), I told her no, because we live in separate town, I plead with her to stay with me. She agreed and stayed for 2wks  before leaving, after she left my mother in-law came to take me too, cos that's our culture. 

At first my husband declined cos he knew I will pass through hell. I told my husband to let me go so it won't look as if am disrespecting her. I went after 2days, I started bathing my baby (Thank God my mother taught me that before leaving) , washing our clothes, cleaning the house even when my sister in-law was there, she didn't care about us and I couldn't say anything to her cos she's 10yrs older than me.

 So I kept my Cool and took everything just normal,four days later the worst happened, no food for me to eat my mother in-law left for work, the daughter was busy making her nails. I took snacks and waited till 4.pm for my mother in-law to get back so I could go to the market, I went to the market came back and cooked without anybody's help , my sister in-law was the first to dish it out. 

All this happened within a space of 1week, my baby was the crying type she sleeps around 4am everyday and this was the time my sister in-law chose to wash clothes with iron bucket, I couldn't sleep, my husband knew everything and each time he wants to react I will plead. My husband one day told the mother that there is no need for me to stay there cos no one is helping me not even his sister, my mother in-law flared up that I came to scatter her family,and how can I tell my husband things about her daughter, I told her my husband knows the sister than I do so she shouldn't just go there. 

So she accepted for me to go back the next week, Stella I was so happy and at the same time praying for the week to run fast, 2weeks was like 2yrs in there, my husband makes sure he buys food for me everyday Which I share with my sister in-law lol , staying in my house was better cos my husband always help out a lot. before I left I was Cool with my mother in-law, I found out she's a type that doesn't need stress but she has a good side too she can pet a child to sleep . 

My sister in-law till date has never bath my kids though she has her good sides too. So when I gave birth to my second baby my husband told her not to even think about taking me home, so she  stayed for 2days and left. But she's the best mother in-law ever, her good sides supersedes the bad side. Always taking sides with me. Lol.
Anonymous BV.