Omugwo Chronicles-14

This is what i call Double- wahala Omugwo!

Stella,thanks for allowing us to share our 'Omugwo chronicles here.

I got married in 2014 to a loving husband who has domineering sisters,he is the only son and so is used to mummy's advice.

During the pregnancy,my MIL was always scared,I should follow her to her church for midweek church programmes,call so so man of God for prayers.I got tired of the whole invitations and had to start avoiding her.You know all these 'mountain of fire like churches'.

When I was discharged from the hospital,problems from my family's side and DH started.My mum came that same day I was discharged without much clothes cos they live 3km away from me and so I thought maybe by weekend she would come with her bags and omugwo things.

One week passed,she went to change her clothes without even a tuber of yam or smoked fish,(mind you I bought stockfishes and packs of smoked fish and so didnt want to be disappointed after delivery)

I felt so bad all through she stayed but I summoned courage to ask her why she didnt buy anything for me since this is my first preggy,she said ''you and your DH are working naw'.

Her response made me cry cos I made sure she wasn't lacking after my wedding just to make her happy and it looked as if my mum is damn stingy.

My MIL lives also close by and she made sure she monitored my mother's omugwo,what she bought,what time she bathed my baby,who and who came and the way I carry my baby.There was a day she gave me olive oil to always apply on my baby's head,BVs after two weeks,come see dandruff.I vexed that day for my hubby cos it was as if she was now the head of my family.

Two weeks post delivery,MIL warned my hubby not to allow any gifts from people and he should cram names of people that came for the baby cos of jazz.I got so angry when hubby told me and had to shun both him and his mama

( we kept malice for some days).

My mum didnt help matters at all,she only bathed my baby and cooked once in a while.Every night was so horrible for me cos my mum doesn't do "night omugwo".

So after a month,I got tired of my mum's complaints about how we don't cook what she likes,how my husband is not good for me.I started getting so upset and nag the hell out of my husband.

So one day,mum told me,she was planning to leave the next two days(one month post delivery),i was so happy about her leaving cos I was really tired of the quarrels between me and hubby because of her.We gave her money and other things and she left.

Then i strategized how to 'shut up' my mother in law a little 

(she knows all about taking care of babies but can never do it.).

Her coming everyday was to look for what to gossip about or complain,so when she was about going,she asked me for transport fare and i gave her the amount that had no balance after payment.Yea,i intentionally did it and she never came back to complain like before.

Tho she never did omugwo,hubby also sorted her out.

What i learnt during that period was always be patient and apply wisdom while dealing with your mum and MIL during omugwo.

Never allow anyone to bring unhappiness to your home,especially mothers.

Lastly as a woman,try to be financially independent,you can help remove shame from your husband's face during this omugwu,remember so many hidden things are discovered (we both have good paying jobs).And explain financial situation of your home to your mum prior to her visit,it helps a lot.

I don't just know how to go about with my second baby,i don tire for them abeg. I don't mind hiring...!

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