Wow,this one is Omugwo with ISH!...Imagine having 8 sisters in law and a mother in law that doesnt send? *GBEGE!*
Stella,My husband has 8 sisters and all from same mother, he happens to be the only boy and last born. When we got married I noticed his sister will just come and say they came to rest in my house,i was always wondering what the rest is about when their husband is at home. But no quarrels with me but she and hubby always have clashes as to how his spending his money.
Fast-forward to my first child in 2012 which is my mother in laws million grand child and my mom's first...my mother in law came not for omugwo but to see how we spend money, when am eating she's counting my meat, even in her son's food too. Asking me why we have two fridge in the house.
Asking me how we have acquired so many property within this short period that everything is suppose to be one at a time that her daughter that got married before us does not even have this type of property. I always tell her to go and ask her son cos his the one buying them.
My mom comes to cook and put in the fridge, my mother in law will wake up in the morning ask his son what he will eat, make it for him, she too will eat her own and clear the pot. Even when I fix my self something to eat she washes plate she won't wash the one I use to eat(not that am not grateful she's washing plate but why do it to hurt me) had to report her to her son to playfully tell her to stop washing plate and all he does is dash me money and say don't worry she will soon go.
She wakes up in the morning, makes tea for herself and for her son and forgets about me. Always feeding her girl children with lies and they too will call and start to insult me.... She spent a month and the day she left I was whole again.
Sorry to say this but I don't like my mother in law cos she doesn't like me, imagine she tells me am eating her sons money that's why am getting fat.... Even when I remind her am breastfeeding.... She will say and so. When I had my child nobody made pepper soup for me she pressed my stomach for two days and said she has tried.....
Please nobody should just tell me she has good side because she baths baby only when she feels like and when I take baby to her at night when I can't console him she will tell me she is tired that she carried baby throughout the day(meanwhile he sleeps throughout the day and wakes at night) that it's my turn to carry him during the night...
Meanwhile this woman was so nice to me when I was dating her son. What happened? But I feel it's cos of the fact that she thinks am eating her son's money meanwhile she gets her allowance without delay even when we buy and send her stuff I am the one who collects oga money and say let's send something to your mom she will only call my husband and say thank you and forget me...
This guy had nothing when I married him and he said it himself that blessing comes with marriage. She and her children push me and force me to say things that I shouldn't say...... I am just tired about everything cos now I have two boys and I ask myself if I will be like them... Cos right now her thought is that i have taken her only son but they don't know they are the ones pushing him away.
I called her last week to check on her and when we said our good byes she thought I had dropped the call and started saying ''stupid girl she won't go and find work she's just home eating money.... ''
As if money is food and I wonder how much she thinks her son even has. Please I need good advice on how to make this relationship work cos right now it's not working and I really want to fix it.. Please don't say I should go through my husband cos he would just say hes busy that he doesn't have time. I am one strong girl that can take the heat but it's not healthy.
The sisters are a case on their own but I don't have strength to type.. I want to have a relationship with them but all we do now is fake smiles at each other.
BV Tessy
The Omugwo chronicle series.
ReplyDeleteGetting boring
DeleteEfereke oh!
DeleteConcentrate on your marriage and free them.
DeleteYou don't force yourself on people.
Tessy, you should have expected all these drama from day 1. Their kind of family is like that. The sisters will want to be manipulating you and giving advise on how to run your home. Just ignore them. But I will advice you get a job even if it's small money. Get a job not because you want to stop eating your hubby's money, but maybe to lose some fat and earn more espect. Address mama's issue in front of your hubby, don't make the mistake of reporting mama to your hubby privately. He will apologize and beg you to keep coping with her. Tell her you heard her conversation, let that be the 1st time hubby will be hearing of it so he can tell her his mind without mincing words or thinking twice. In all, be nice to mama. You will be fine.
DeleteSorry dear, the solution to your problem is that you get something doing, get a job you will earn their respect trust me
DeleteI commented on my sister who was in similar shoes. She married Only son, 6 sisters and last born. It wasn't easy oh! The relationship never got amended until the woman passed on at 74
DeleteBut in my own case, three of the sisters backed up my sister and hubby. While the other three were behind their mum. The woman was very rich. Her daughters are rich also, home and abroad. So she had no eye in her son's money. Infact! Na her connections the son been dey use hammer before they quarreled. She even left enough property in Lagos, for her son in the will, some of which all the children never knew about. So it was understandable that she felt powerful. In this case that you're responsible for her and her eye is in your business. Well....
So I wish you luck.
Ignore them and concentrate on your hubby,show him more luv nd giv him more attentions.cos d more d man luvs u,d less attention he gives to der complains abt u. Talking frm experience duo. Stay blessed
DeleteDear Stella, please can you kill this omugwo chronicles of a thing? It bores me out please. Thanks!
ReplyDeleteYou don't need to read it, you can just Waka pass
DeleteIs not compulsory for you to read it.
DeleteThen don't open the post na? I know you're tired of hearing this but are you always this stupid? Hian
DeleteSorry anonymous 13:06 we so much love it and majority wins d vote
DeleteI love it!!
DeleteMy dear if you can't stand the heat, leave the kitchen. You mustn't open the post na
DeleteBTW I like it.
OMG!!! Seconded
DeleteStella LOVE. Pls don't 'kill' this omugwo chronicle. I enjoy n learn alot from it. My dear u can jump n pass the post wenever u see it. Thanks
DeleteOmugwo chronicle is not boring ooo. The people saying it's boring is the unmarried ones. Don't worry your omugwo chronicle is loading.
DeleteAbeg shift!!!
DeleteHaba!!! Anon abeg chill oooo. Kill wetin? Ehhh? If you close your eye and pretrnd you didnot see the post, then jump to another post... will you die?
DeleteAbeggi stellz don't "kill" the series most of us learn from it.
Which kind kill it? I'm unmarried but I love this post as I see it as an opportunity to learn from the experience of others to know how to handle or avoid future occurrences. Stella pls don't kill anything o. Many are learning
DeleteEvil Inlaws. God Will keep You Safe My Dear.
ReplyDeletejust got married not even up to a month my sister Inlaw will not let me rest,always at my house everyday wit her 3children,her husband is not in the city were we stay and she dose nothing just sit at home,when am back from work and want to cook she will come by 4pm till 10pm,am tired,I need my space but she is not getting it and I don't want to insult her but she is pushing me,she will come some time in the morning,she want to control my home and want to know every thing we re up to.I don't like it,talk to my husband but he don't want talk to her,I hate the fact that we re staying close,that I should come and wash for her!!! some in laws will bring out the devil in u.
Delete@ anno u mean your SIL telling u to com and wash her clothes for her
DeleteShe must be MAD
She must be mad are u her maid??
DeleteTessy, my dear you are a blessing to the man and he knows. They all know. Hence the jealousy. 8 girls before one boy but you already have two boys. My dear give him one more boy. That scarce comodity and then relax and enjoy your marriage. Leave them. Don't insult them but never let them get to you either. God has blessed you already.
ReplyDeleteYou have said it all anon. Just look the other way. You want to make what work? Abeg leave that one. You can be smiling with them ,even if you don't like them don't show it. It's better that way. Don't ever bring them close to you else you are finished. So long your hubby loves you,you dont have a problem. Be nice to your MIL whether she likes you or not. As for your SILs, abeg bone them they don't matter. They should go and face their various homes. When they are around,be nice and when they go,be happy that they have left your house. No matter what they say to you,don't insult them. Remember they are your senior so act the respectful younger sis to them. Shove whatever decision or contributn they have towards your home. My dear I'm telling you this cos I understand what you are going through. Your MIL is the only person that should matter to you. Try to be cordial and nice to her. Remember she's your hubby's mum. Just try and ignore her. Act as if you don't hear whatever she says. Please don't ever insult or disrespect her. Cheers
DeleteNne relax, you are blessed indeed. Remember that you're married and your new home is your own family. No matter what they do make sure they don't penetrate the happiness in your home and you need to be very prayerful coz you don't know how far their hatred runs. Be gentle as a dove but wise as a serpent.
DeleteGender inequality...u must be igbo
DeleteNa wa!
ReplyDeleteDon't mind all of them,one of my sister in laws is like that but I no send am.Its not your fault that you are blessed!
ReplyDeleteYour mother in law for marry her son naw...
Nne just manage them,give to her when you guys have and don't forget to always show love even when hurt by the person.
It is God that rewards.
Tough one
ReplyDeleteYour own is omugwo from hell
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DeleteYou are reporting MIL to us now oh! I think that you should just ignore everyone and stay on your lane!
ReplyDeleteMteeeew!! I have not been married oh! What do I know sef! God pls put me in the right family where everyone mind their business.. Thank God that I can give people that silent treatment like kilode when they start being nasty.
Yea that's me. I'm the HOD of silent treatment. I won't say nada.
DeleteYou most not be friends with every body. Continue with your fake smiles one day y'all will forget and make it real.
ReplyDeleteGet a job and stop trying to please people. Not everyone will love you.
ReplyDeleteEven blood relations have bias not to talk of people you have no blood relations with.
Be normal and fear God in all you do.
Tessy you were wrong in telling her to go and ask her son for buying the things. You would have told her IT IS THE LORD'S DOING, IT IS MARVELLOUS IN OUR SIGHT (Complete it).
ReplyDeleteSo you be fatty bom bom. Abeg go lose small weight jare. Since mother inlaw say make you look for work, abeg go look for one.
You are just a good girl. good girls no dey last for mother in law hands ooo. Better wake up and take CHARGE. Dont mind mother inlaw. She is jealous because you took her son's love, affection from her. Una too dey drag for the AFFECTION.
You are right about the good girl not lasting in the MIL's hand. I tried for years for mine, I thought love would conquer all. Obviously, she was just interested in trouble. Everything you buy her complaint. It's felt like we were fighting for her son, who couldn't correct her. Fast forward 12 years, I let my man know he could go marry his mother. I shut out her negativit. I only speak to her when it's Christmas or very necessary. Now, I don't know of she is negative or nit, I don't care. I never buy her anything, her son gives her money.it truly is over.
DeleteI think ur mother inlaw is kinda cool. She jst has the normal 'he's my only son, no woman is gud for him syndrome' as long as she doesn't come to ur house to chase u away. Endure her complains from a distance and dnt let it border u. Like u said, it's nt healthy. So jst keep ignoring her, u dnt have to report her to her son. Jst keep being a good daughter in-law. She will def get tired some day.
ReplyDeleteKeep faking smiles with ur sister inlaws. They shud face their own marriage and problems.
Maybe you should really go and find work. You all are so petty.
ReplyDeleteIs it your joblessness? Hian!
DeletePress CTRL IGNORE and face your hubby and kids!
ReplyDeleteWhen I married, my MIL started giving me issues cos we're from different states, same tribe though. Her thoughts are that ladies from my state are too wise, it got so bad that I sent my chronicles then. My mum told me to pray and endure, hubby is always defending me before them. My only crime was marrying an only son with plenty sisters and being educated and successful.
ReplyDeleteI prayed about this relationship with MIL come tire. So one day that she came with her wahala, I had to speak with her firmly like I have never done before. I recounted the ways she has treated me before hubby and her daughter. Her daughter even supported me. She was shocked that i could stand up to her before everyone, hubby allowed all and didn't take sides.
Since that day eh, we have had peace. No more rumours of how I jazzed her son or other issues. Now we have an understanding, respect me and I will respect you.
So I suggest you respectfully and firmly speak to her, make sure you do it before hubby so she won't change the story. Then depending on the outcome, pls try and be nice to her. Just try, then pray.
As for sisters in law, once you have a good relationship with MIL, their power diminishes.
In all, I try to be fair to them all so I can report them to God with clean hands.works for me.
I bet you're from imo state and your hubby is from anambra state.
DeletePoster no two people are the same. You don't have same destiny with this commenter so please don't do what she did because you may do it and your husband will vex and kick you out. Pray and ask God what to do. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your understanding of things and he will make your path straight.
DeleteNice one anonymous.
DeleteMy dear ignore all of them joor yimu. And yes sit down, spread and chop your husband money, and make sure u chop the money make dem see nonsense.
ReplyDeleteIgnore their painful talks and acts, call to check on them from time to time. Do your part and leave the rest to God.....The best part is that your husband appreciates you. Shikena!
ReplyDeleteI think your complain is silly she doesn't like you but she's not disturbing you. Yiu are the one disturbing yourself. Why shd she call you to thank you for money. Whst insult
ReplyDeleteThe solution is for you to get a job, get a maid too, you will earn your respect. I have kids My MIL is similar to yours and I have 5 SIL so because I was working no one judged my good looks or clothes. My husband doesn't earn much but we r comfortable and grateful. So get a job u will earn respect.
ReplyDeleteLADY T HEAR THIS. YOUR MIL IS NOT AS BAD AS U THINK SHE IS, SHE MAY BE ANGRY WITH YOU COS SHE FELT YOU TOOK THE ATTENTION FROM HIS ONLY SON AWAY FROM HER. MIND YOU UR HUBBY IS THE ONLY SON AND THE LAST BORN , THEY MIGHT HAVE SHARE CLOSE RELATIONSHIP. ITS ALWAYS LIKE THAT. MAKING HIS FOOD ( SHE STILL SEES HIM AS THE BABY HE USED TO BE) PLS TAKE IT EASY WITH HER. SHE IS BLINDED WITH THE LOVE SHE HAS FOR HIM. IT TOOK MY MOM MANY MONTHS OF PRAYER TO BREAK THAT IN HER. DO U KNOW WHAT SHE TOLD US ? SHE SAID I DONT WANT TO BE A PROBLEM TO MY DAUGHTER IN LAW, COS OF TOO MUCH CLOSENESS. MY MOM UNDERSTOOD THAT ON TIME BECAUSE SHE IS A MARRIAGE CONSELLOR. PLEASE TRY AND WORK IT OUT WITH HER. AND YOUR SIL WILL BE ACTING ON WHAT SHE FEEDS THEM ON. PRAY FOR THEM, AND SHOW THEM LOVE.
ReplyDeleteIt really hurts the eyes when one type in all caps. You made sense though
DeleteLADY T HEAR THIS. YOUR MIL IS NOT AS BAD AS U THINK SHE IS, SHE MAY BE ANGRY WITH YOU COS SHE FELT YOU TOOK THE ATTENTION FROM HIS ONLY SON AWAY FROM HER. MIND YOU UR HUBBY IS THE ONLY SON AND THE LAST BORN , THEY MIGHT HAVE SHARE CLOSE RELATIONSHIP. ITS ALWAYS LIKE THAT. MAKING HIS FOOD ( SHE STILL SEES HIM AS THE BABY HE USED TO BE) PLS TAKE IT EASY WITH HER. SHE IS BLINDED WITH THE LOVE SHE HAS FOR HIM. IT TOOK MY MOM MANY MONTHS OF PRAYER TO BREAK THAT IN HER. DO U KNOW WHAT SHE TOLD US ? SHE SAID I DONT WANT TO BE A PROBLEM TO MY DAUGHTER IN LAW, COS OF TOO MUCH CLOSENESS. MY MOM UNDERSTOOD THAT ON TIME BECAUSE SHE IS A MARRIAGE CONSELLOR. PLEASE TRY AND WORK IT OUT WITH HER. AND YOUR SIL WILL BE ACTING ON WHAT SHE FEEDS THEM ON. PRAY FOR THEM, AND SHOW THEM LOVE.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm!!!.
ReplyDeleteMadam, just ignore them. Is it your fault that you are eating money? Mtchewwww! Eat the money and pack enuf. It's your and yours to spend
ReplyDeleteposter you are blessed already! two boys?! wow! just complete the cycle by giving them one girl pere and that's it...leave the matter to God because only HIM at this point will solve it, do not stop being who you are for them but most of all stay prayerful........if she says you are eating her son's money abeg continue, no be today.. thank God say you are not even barren..na dt wan go worse pass
ReplyDeletekeep being dutiful and responsible to them and your family...do not change for them and yea like an anonymous said, give them that silent treatment like they do not exist! Alas! she has 8 girls........ watch God do His work Nne.
my 2 shile
poster you are blessed already! two boys?! wow! just complete the cycle by giving them one girl pere and that's it...leave the matter to God because only HIM at this point will solve it, do not stop being who you are for them but most of all stay prayerful........if she says you are eating her son's money abeg continue, no be today.. thank God say you are not even barren..na dt wan go worse pass
ReplyDeletekeep being dutiful and responsible to them and your family...do not change for them and yea like an anonymous said, give them that silent treatment like they do not exist! Alas! she has 8 girls........ watch God do His work Nne.
my 2 shile
a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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Start acting like you dont care to nw... Nonsense....
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a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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Start acting like you dont care to nw... Nonsense....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
Ignore all of them biko and one day, give them a shocker by telling them your mind, shed tears if necessary and give them a stern warning not to disturb you again. Trust me, dem go fear fear
ReplyDeleteI can't wait to get married and experience omugwo😉😉
ReplyDeleteGood for you @poster
ReplyDeleteMy dear keep pretending with them, that is what I will do if I was you. Eye-service
ReplyDeleteNot everyone will like you, don't let this cause a wedge between you and ur hubby.
Making a war with ur In-laws will never turn out well.
Keep calling her and keep doing your best. At dat age its very hard for them to change, ur hubby talkn to her, she might take it as an insult.
You have a good marriage, ur husband provides well. take dis as ur cross to bear in the marriage.
Luckily none of them live with u, except on short visits.
Abeg enjoy ur marriage and ur kids
Poster no two people are the same. You don't have same destiny with commenter anonymous 13:27 so please don't do what she did because you may do it and your husband will vex and kick you out. Pray and ask God what to do. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your understanding of things and he will make your path straight.
ReplyDeletePoster no two people are the same. You don't have same destiny with commenter anonymous 13:27 so please don't do what she did because you may do it and your husband will vex and kick you out. Pray and ask God what to do. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your understanding of things and he will make your path straight.
ReplyDeletePoster no two people are the same. You don't have same destiny with commenter anonymous 13:27 so please don't do what she did because you may do it and your husband will vex and kick you out. Pray and ask God what to do. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your understanding of things and he will make your path straight.
ReplyDeletePoster please ignore whatever she says or does. she is probably not happy you are having it easy in your marriage. Just few years into the marriage you've got two boys, acquired properties unlike her who had pass through God knows what from her MIL before getting a boy. Don't stop the good deeds because God sees your heart. I also think you should get something doing or further your education.
ReplyDeleteIgnore her and the rest of them. You seem to have a good stable marriage, don't stir up nothing. Remember you are out numbered so let it rest. Enjoy your marriage and limit your contact with them. Christmas is only once a year, so designate Christmas as the time to mingle with them.
ReplyDeleteOne thing I would advise you to do is to ensure your name is on the house title. I have a feeling that these are the people who would come to toss you out of the house should anything happen to your husband. Ensure your children and yourself are protected.
@POSTER - - Your MIL has good sides too..O yes!
ReplyDeleteDo not use breastfeeding as excuse not to exercise and loose weight. Get something doing it mustn't be a job, you can open a boutique, be a make-up artist, I mean something that will keep you busy atimes and see how the woman will take/respect you.
From your write-up,you took her love away from her which is in order. You can play smart by sending her gifts from time to time and jokingly tell her one day that you didn't take her love away from her o, she'll melt. Always be prayerful because you can achieve PEACE by using force or garagara.
As for your SIL, maintain your lane and be neutral, do not love one above all. Even when any of them use cunny to be your friend, my dear be neutral and stay in your lane since your hubby backs/supports you. Do not fight anyone but rather your hubby should always inform you when anyone shows interest to come visit and if its in order, fine, if not, tell him not now.
Even if your husband has money I mean EGO, its better you have yours so that some people won't be seeing you like "ORIAKU" ONLY, but also "ODOZI NA OKPATA AKU."
MY DEAR GO LOSE WEIGHT ABEG, your MIL has told you the bitter-truth, do something and also lose weight.
Poster just try and get a job or you ask your hubby to start up a business for you, with that they will know that you are not a lazy woman ready to chop money.
ReplyDeleteMother In-law- Sister In-law Verses Daughter In-law lol. I could only imagine that's all.
ReplyDeleteTessy please find something productive that earns income to be doing. It will kill a few stones for you
ReplyDelete1. You'll be too busy to notice what your in-laws are saying and doing
2. You will shut them up about eating his money
3. You can have an extra stream of income to save towards your kid's future
Events if it only takes a few hours a day.
So you dont think you should get a job? After a while, even your husband will no longer respect you if you do not have a means of income. Ignore your mother in law for now and see about adding value to yourself, to be forewarned is to be forearmed, they have shown you what they will do if God forbid you husband dies. GET UP AND GO TO WORK!
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