The Reality of what's going on is that,gone are the days when men marry a woman who has no work and ask her to stay put and tend to the house whilst he works...In these times,if you do not have a job,he will take you home (to the bedroom) but not to Mama......
The first question they ask is ' where do you work?'
ReplyDeleteI'm telling you sister! And they just assume your pay
DeleteMen no longer want "full housewives". Gone are the days they tell their woman to stop work and take care of the home. I for one won't like to depend wholly on my man, nor my thing.
DeleteU know dis! Lol! Do u live in Abuja?
DeleteBut y is it DAT no1 is marrying Linda ikejis type ?.......DAT is to say , no b only woman get problem , men to gbofu!
DeleteLol.
DeleteEspecially those fb toasters.
DeleteSo the woman manages the home, children and marriage and still works to contribute. The man only contribute half and the wife also does half. That makes the woman a slave And the man go still call the shots even unto cheating.! Hmm modern day slavery!
DeleteLol, that's cos men of today are lazy kind of, they don't mind women being the bread winner. They even want already made women more than women wanting already made men.
Deletesome of the men still marry 'jobless' ladies and help them get a job or open a business for them.
But for the most part, it goes both ways in today's world, ladies choro loaded men, and that is what is killing us ladies too. We don't want to build with the men, we want them rich, as if we were there when they were struggling. That's actually one of the reason they treat us like trash when they find out we are in for the money
Not true. Before I agreed to date boo I told him I wanted a job before I wld settle down, Nna mehn he quickly submited my CV to his company. Im presently seeking employment and boo keeps telling me to relax abt it. He calls me his Oriaku and gives me all I need. He really doesnt care if I work or not, he even prefers I continue schooling and just let him meet my folks officially. Yes, some guys are dreamy like dis oo. So ladies stop saying all men are dogs.
Delete@Ada-nne well said.
DeleteToolz trying to divert attention from herself
DeleteWhy won't they ask where she work? Why should a woman be jobless in this jet age. Two is better than one.. Besides to be independent feels good and boast your selfconfidence and your man will respect you.
DeleteAdanne
DeleteGbam
Ada-nne i concur
DeleteMany men are lazy and don't want to hear financial burden alone. What about the women that are working and the man is jobless and sitting at home doing nothing
DeleteLazy
ReplyDeleteBut truth be told some women can be lazy sha...why go to school and enhance your abilities just so you could stay at home and do nothing...if you don't want to work, don't get an education cos it's useless
DeleteI don't care what a lady has,I don't mind if she has more money dan me,but I wanto be d one to pay all d bills,buy her tins n do all my responsibilities...but I can't marry someone from a very poor family cos of dia consumer mentality.d poverty mentality seldom leaves dem...all dey talk n think about is money.a lady doesn't neccessarily come from a wealthy home,but must not be from a hungry setting
DeleteLmao@bitchplis_you killed me with laughter.hahahahahah_Iloveu jare
DeleteBitchplis rapu that thing. I am from a wealthy home, when I mean wealthy, money is not a problem. But I can talk money for the whole universe. You can't catch me dating a church rat or a rich man from a poor background. I luuurrr money die
DeleteBitchplis, spot on!
DeleteStill trying to figure out how to cope with this stingy husband of mine even when he knows I recently lost my job. 20k for monthly keep up. Praying hard for a good job then i'll not even be bothered
DeleteNo man wants to marry a full liability.As a man I won't and will never ask my wife to feed the family or pay our kids school fees.There is this joy I derive when my woman tells me she's busy at work,seeing her well dressed in the morning and the bye kiss makes me get hard.
ReplyDeleteI just love you for this....
DeleteAwwwww
DeleteFor the good reason, wellsaid.
DeleteU need to see my sista inlaw in portharcout, she's lazy, jobless and has ruined every biz he's opened for her. We all know bout the juju this ijebu woman take tie my uncle. She only sits at home , browses and uses the phone like forever. Very soon the family go speak up.
DeleteI will gladly want to be a help mate to a kind of man with your mentality
DeleteMy guy, don't say no man, I've been in the married game for 16yrs now and proud to say my wife never worked for anyone. I like her at home pimping herself to standard n sing my praises to her C.O.friends, I know what women like.
DeleteHusband material 5000 yards! 👏🏼
DeleteAnon 18:59 is the truth!
DeleteYour the type of husband I want
When my hubby has all and says, CHI stay at home,look good and look after the kids, I will gladly do so.
Who likes stress? Well not me.
Lovely comment.
Delete10000 likes.
Anon 18:47, don't mind your business o. That's how you ppl scatter marriages.
DeleteI need u in my life right now! **wink**
DeleteNa so dem dey talk. When dem marry na different matter. It will be - "woman where do you think you are going dressed like that?", "you sure say you never get toaster for office?", bla bla bla. Nonsense! Come back and talk after 15 yrs of marriage plus 4 kids.
DeleteIt depends.......many abusers want one to control.
ReplyDeleteHowever a lot want financially empowered women but many have wrong reasons for one. Look around, a lot of men want sugar-mummies, a steady maga that would handover their accounts and assets to them. Wonder why a lot of matured and rich single ladies are hounded........many a times by men. A lot of them brothers want to get lucky, rip them off. See how they yell. I want to make my money, and marry at least my equal.
Lol
DeleteEveryone wants the good life. If you arnt born into it or work for it then you marry for it.
People should look for enterpriaing wife that will double whatever you hive her or set her up with and no squander it.
I am more of a woman running a business so she has time not really work. That way she can cater to me and the kids.
I agree Tools but if I were you I would not put this up on social media seeing that you just recently got married.Learn lessons from your friend Toke and be guided, ..best wishes
ReplyDeleteAnd What has that got to do with her just getting married?
DeleteDon't mind her...
DeleteIt's obvious her husband married her because she is working cos no sane man will bring in a bag of fufu as wife!...
Fake marriage!...
Anonymous please think outside the box you will know what its got to do with it
DeleteSeems like her huzzy has given her rules and regulations with financial marital obligation.
DeleteOriegwu!.
Agree
ReplyDeleteDon't mind diz bitches dat think it's all about having a pretty face and a bomb pussy
DeleteMy girl is a medical doctor in the navy and she's pretty, smart and loyal
You women...smh
DeleteYou guys are confusing. If you dont work how do you attain all the heights of men in the corporate or professional world? If aloma mukhtar wasnt working wld shr have been the 1st female cjn?
If diezanni wasnt qorking would she have been the 1st ever female petroleum minister? if Arunma oteh wasnt working, would she have been the sec dg?
No man wants a visionless woman.
But how will you feel after your parents toiled to educate you and all you do is cook, clean etc.
I support a woman having her own thing not necessarily working under someone. I want a woman i can support to achieve her dreams.
The world has changed. Times and seasons have changed so we human beings don change too.
ReplyDeleteMy husband must work just like they want women to bring something, so it is with we ladies that want men to continue provide.
No man wants a liability, that is the truth.
It's mostly Nigerian broke men.
ReplyDeleteSome rich men don't even mind,they will even be the one to tell their wives to stay at home.
But as a woman it's wise to have your own money so when he starts misbehaving you won't even feel it.
Not necessarily the broke men..
DeleteBack in the University, I had a boyfriend who wouldn't marry any girl that wasn't working. He was very well to do, lived well, and took very good care of my needs in school, very generous but wasn't going to marry a girl who wasn't working..
He was ready to wait for me to finish school, serve and then get married but his temper did not allow me stay with him. He never abused me emotionally, physically or verbally but I could see it was something that was going to happen..
And before I forget, all his friends had that mentality. Infact it was just him among his friends dating a student..
He got married 2 yrs ago and true to his word he married a working class girl
Exactly!...
DeleteWhich rich man wants her wife to be answering yes sir/ma to a nonentity in the name of boss?...
Most men I know dosent want their wives to work including my brothers...and yes,they are equal to the task!...
My dear not only naija men oooo I think our naija men copy dis from western guys!
Delete*his wife...
DeleteThis right here is the main issue I am having with my fiance right now. He doesn't want me to work a day. He's bn begging for me to be a stay at home wife, that he would make me comfortable bla bla...but I know I belong to the corporate world. Infact,I didn't know his kind of specie still exists in Nigeria. His offer is tempting but I want to work. So help me God.
DeleteI was discussing this with my friend just yesterday.
ReplyDeleteThe General's era,I think,was the last to marry non-working ladies.
That's not to say loads of men still don't marry non-working women. But it's not just very popular. Hasn't bn in the past few years.
These days,especially with Nigerian men.resident here,u try introducing a lady to a guy and the first thing they ask u the "Introducer" is "Where does she stay and what does she do?"
And it's not just them,their Naija brothers abroad too want financially independent women.
And of course we know the No 1 reason for this. Times are hard in Naija so some men can't do it all alone. Others too,don't just want a stay-at-home wife.Its not necessarily about the money aspect. While some want you to stay to tend to the kids first. You can now fly when the kids are a bit grown. Lol
But basically,the harsh economy has forced many people's hands.
Well,it's only a lazy broke ass that ask such question about a girl...
DeleteSo many lazy men these days...
I see no reason why a woman in this day and age will not be working or at least doing something even if it is from the comfort of her home e.g baking.
DeleteTimes are evolving and for the sake of the kids, one can take a career break but I am definitely against a woman being idle no matter how rich her husband is.
Even the likes of Caroline, Mrs Otedola have something going on for them.
i believe in equality of gender. ***wink
DeleteMaybe my fiance is from the Generals era or something. I have not met his type anywhere else in Nigeria. It's frustrating abeg. How Won't I work.
DeleteTrue tho;but not necessarily for all..
ReplyDeleteFunny enough,those who have very nice working class wife that contribute very much financially for the upkeep of the home just dont appreciate them,and are either busy being jealous of them,or abusing them physically/verbally.
@MARTINS ABOY
So Martins,which one are you?...
DeleteEven men who stop dia wife from working and pay all d bills alone abandoned dem wen dey want dem out ! Take d case of domestic violence for example most of d women wants out but dey can't because they ain't financially ok! So it's d two ways my dia!
DeleteLmao abeg Linda free Aboy biko
DeleteStory of my life with steady verbal abuse. I pay the bills..rent o, food, light, clothes, shoes, home appliance, fuel, transport, diaper, baby food including giving him some pocket money, yet he is always quick to abuse me verbally. It is so draining. Can't afford any good thing for myself cos I spend every penny at home. Imagine me saving every kobo of my last salary to make up the rent, I ran into a friend that sells underwear and I bought myself 2 pairs or pants cos I really needed it yet i felt so guilty spending money on myself when there is rent to be paid that I hid the pants in my wardrobe but my heart broke when hubby was given some money last week by his friend, you will think the first thing he should do is to save it for rent or buy food stuffs as our kitchen is bone dry. Oga went to buy 2 nice pairs of shoes for himself. I saw it and went ballistic on him. Nonsense human being. #ijeuwam
DeleteAnon 19:05 where do you people meet such men sef?
DeleteYou do all that and yet he verbally abuses you? I don pack tey tey if na me.
Don't have that patience abeg.
Rolex chic should come and read this comment from Anon 19:05...
DeleteThe problem with you is that you gave him the impression that you are capable from the onset...
Madam,with the way you are going,you will develop HBP on top this your marriage...
WTH?...you better divorce the idiot or get a rich side bobo that will be helping you out!...
Lol,queen lady biko hapu m oo!!
DeleteNo be my mouth you go hear say i...............................
Choi,Amebo!! Kikikikikiki
@MARTINS ABOY
If the man is super rich he wouldn't care if the woman is working/making money, because he's capable to take care of her, she don't need to stress her self. Some rich men don't allow their wives to work sef, they want her to sit and take care of the home/kids.
ReplyDeleteThis is what my Mr is proposing. Aaaarggghhhh.
DeleteIts not really a bad thing if d wife is working at least to aide d livelihood if the family but d annoying thing now is dat guys have become so lazy dat dey don't wanna work hard anymore...all of dem have turned themselves to contractors weda dey know how to go about it or not. They v become so lazy dat dey don't wanna do hard jobs again to earn a living rather they r waiting for manna to fall from heaven in d name of getting one contract or d oda wyl some of dem have become parasites looking for hardworking women to marry so dat dey can feed dem... D trending thing now is dat men don't buy baby foods again for d kids nor even pampers just bcos their wives can afford to get them,they run away from their responsibilities n wen ladies own up to confront them on dat they turn to wife beaters...mtchew...Ladies pls b careful....don't fall a victim to any of dem all in d name dat u wanna get married... Put everything in prayers n believe dat God should direct ur own man to u,a hardworking n caring one at dat who doesn't shy away from his responsibilities. Am also praying for mine too. God Bless You....
ReplyDeleteThank you!...
DeleteStory of my life o
DeleteI'm with you..
DeleteSet the records straight from the outset! Draw the starting and finishing lines. The problem is taking what you can't tolerate from the beginning and expecting a change after marriage or half way through married life. It's fulfilling to foot your own bill as a woman but it's very heart wrenching to assume the role of a man as regards finances in marriage. Every woman wants to be spoilt. Who trophy wife NO epp?
DeleteSet the records straight from the outset! Draw the starting and finishing lines. The problem is taking what you can't tolerate from the beginning and expecting a change after marriage or half way through married life. It's fulfilling to foot your own bill as a woman but it's very heart wrenching to assume the role of a man as regards finances in marriage. Every woman wants to be spoilt. Who trophy wife NO epp?
DeleteMy bobo no want make I work o. Na me wan kill am with career this, career that sef. Hian.
DeleteNow this will be interesting...
ReplyDeleteReading comments
Some men still do not want their wife to work. They are over capable of paying the bills. They even give wifey monthly pay.
ReplyDeleteTo each his own. What works for A might not work for B.
As it is for me,na to continue my hustle until i meet that multi billionaire that will tell me how he wants wifey(I shantelle) to run his home.
You are my girl!...
DeleteBiko don't settle for less cos suffering in marriage no be beans...
I know right. You go just turn tourist.
DeleteYes that's true. D thing is some women don't saved from d monthly allowance because dey don't know d value!
DeleteLa fresh,I'd rather be a tourist than a sitdown look. Na dog name be that.
DeleteShanzEmpire
before nko who wants to marry a liability in this modern age
ReplyDeleteWait dey are coming for u!
DeleteLol toner, I've been jobless for ages now, all my kids r in school and I've never been made to feel like a liability. Some men really don't care, mine calls me 'matheewress' d tax collector. So don't generalise.
DeleteNot true. Before I agreed to date boo I told him I wanted a job before I wld settle down, Nna mehn he quickly submited my CV to his company. Im presently seeking employment and boo keeps telling me to relax abt it. He calls me his Oriaku and gives me all I need. He really doesnt care if I work or not, he even prefers I continue schooling and just let him meet my folks officially. Yes, some guys are dreamy like dis oo. So ladies stop saying all men are dogs.
DeleteMy sister is 29. Graduated 2 years ago and no job! So if a man comes for her hand in marriage, she should not wed abi? Nonsense! Toolz is big in size, what else will attract a man to her? A girl either brings her beauty or money to the table! My cousin built the house and is responsible for her home because she is 9 years older than her husband and we don't know what job he does or where he works after 6 years of marriage! Whatever works for A does not mean it should work for B.
DeleteI kinda agree Stella
ReplyDelete2 hands are definately better than one, i cnt even start listing out the advantages
ReplyDeleteFact. It is not even good for a woman not to work its better you work and earn a living. The days of house wife is dead and buried.
ReplyDeleteLol
DeleteVery true. Bf told me korokoro that if I didn't have a job he won't have come near me with a long spoon. He has a great job that can cater comfortably for a family but he needs the wife to be doing smth too
ReplyDeleteThat your Bf does not love you...so if you loose your job(God forbid)dude will flee?...
DeleteHmmmm....
Hope he is not the only one in your life though...
My friend husband make sure she got a job first before he put d ring on it. To think he's a white guy oooo
DeleteNot in all cases. Been married for years and i have never worked in my life since i got married right after i graduated. My husband sent me to school but still will not hear of me working and he also makes sure i and our child doesn't lack anything at all
ReplyDeleteYes that's a true man!....my man wanted to spoil me like this but I refused mehn!,..
DeleteI want to have my own money and flex with my sugar sons...
Hope say u dey save? U Better start investing on landed properties or gold cos there is wat dey call raining days!
DeleteNice...
DeleteHahahahahahahahaha! Queen Queen!!!
DeleteAbeg nor wound me with laff.
ShanzEmpire
If u don't have a job be creative do business, don't necessarily buying n selling, be a CEO
ReplyDelete*not*
DeleteRight!
DeleteNigerian mem are really becoming useless as the days go by...if the women are made to partake partly or fully in the whole welfare of the family including assisting financially,what will now be the main role/responsibility of the nigerian men in marriage??? Cheating i guess...mtcheew
ReplyDeleteWhen we scream gender equality I hope you know this is what it entails??
DeleteAbroad husband and wife share the bills. Boyfriend and girl friend share the bills. Even in the restaurant on a date zrhey spirit bills so why shouldn't it be same in Nigeria...??
And u want ur husband to join u in doing house choirs?
DeleteI love you!!!
DeleteOdikwa egwu nnem! Mstchewww!!
DeleteDouble mtcheeeeww
DeleteLol @house choirs
DeleteThey want a woman who can contribute financially and still secure the home front - a superwoman. They make reference to supposedly "archaic" traditions to support their chauvinistic arguments in favour of the male gender but still want the modern woman. What do men want exactly? The modern woman or the traditional woman? Na wah o.
ReplyDeleteThat's why marriages these days don't last cos you don't expect a woman to be helping out in the home financially and still be loyal...
DeleteNot possible mehn!...
Once a woman contribute financially at home,she will no longer have respect for you!...
I tireoo
DeleteI think men need to answer this question! The modern woman or the traditional woman???
DeleteYes o..d respect is gone truly...The role of the man is to provide and the woman d homemaker....let's not get it twisted people....
DeleteWell it's depends though, even in the 21st century there are still able men that don't want their wives to work. Things are going back to base now ooh. Men want women that can manage their home and take proper care of their children.
ReplyDeleteMy husband dont allow me to do my biz during pregnancy cos my biz is too stressful! For sure he pay me %70 of wat I am supposed to earn/make every month.
DeleteKpakam
DeleteWell it is a fact. But now a days too women does not marry men who can not help in house/kitchen chores And must be a TIGER in bed.
ReplyDelete...TAG A FRIEND, COMMENT & PRAY 4 SDK BLOG...
Hahahahahahahaha @most b a tiger in bed choi
DeleteI agree...I mean it's common sense. If you love your man, why make him bear an unnecessary burden, when you both can carry it? Same with not wanting men who cannot do at least certain domestic chores. She has to work? Yes! He has to join in taking care of the house domestically? Yes! Why? You both are adults, responsible for yourselves, your families and each other. For humanity to not only grow but become better, each sex must be capable in most things to a certain degree.
ReplyDelete🙌🙌
DeleteEven Tblizz wanted Tiwa to leave her career and be cooking for his lazy ass...
DeleteAs for what nau?...if I must contribute financially for the home,you must do the house chores too...infact we will share it...
Kpakam
DeleteYou are right...
DeleteSpot on!
DeleteTake Kiss....
DeleteWell, that's how it should be.
ReplyDeleteI'd totally feel inadequate if there's nothing I can bring to the table, in terms of finances.
Especially, seeing as I believe in equal rights.
And I also agree with her. Guys these days when looking for something serious, always look out for a woman who has something doing.
#WhiteDiamondOut
Exactly. We scream gender equality in Nigeria but dont know what it entails..
DeleteI'm all for a man taking care of my needs and all but I'll feel very inadequate if I can't contribute financially to the house..
I'll feel even worse if I have to wait monthly for a man to credit my account before I can get any thing for myself...
Choi choi...
DeleteExactly, Anon.
DeleteI see some people here misunderstand the post sef.
Nobody is saying to marry a man who'd be living off you, or abdicate his responsibilities as a husband and father.
Just that it's kinda funny to just sit at home everyday, doing nothing, especially in this age and time, when one can even work from home.
Asking for money for panties, makeup, pad and every little thing.
Well,a responsible man might not complain but it's not making sense.
#WhiteDiamondOut
Well, not for every man. There are lots of single pretty girls in the OIC where I work but naaaa I can't, I married my girl, I can easily get get her a job if I want but for now I choose to pay her to look after d kids, when they are of age, I can organise a job for her. She's content cos I make her content.
ReplyDeleteThat's you but dis is a general topic and thousands of people can relate.
DeleteYou are a real man!,..
DeleteThanks for the comment, cos I resigned to have our two babies. I stayed home for almost 3years. It depends on mutual understanding.
DeleteAnyway am resuming work in September! Twas awesome, may not work for everyone.
Nice one. Family first since u re competent. Cool cool....
DeleteYou are the man. Why wont your woman lick your feet
DeleteIf Capt demuren was a big shot, he wouldn't care if u worked or not but economy is hard. I haven't seen a billionaire wife working under any man.
ReplyDeleteYou haven't seen??
DeletePlease go back and look thru the billionaires we have in Nigeria, their wives are working or doing a very good business. It's same abroad..
Most everybody marry to a big shot? Please accept d truth jare
DeleteThank you!...instead they will start up a business for you....
DeleteToolz husband is a typical yaraba man that likes living off their women!...
Lolz. Kpakam
DeleteAnon,which billionaire's wife in Nigeria is working for someone?...
DeleteWhich abroad? I live in the suburbs, wives with children are not working! When the children are older, they go back to work.
DeleteStella u lie small, that one that's not working is the one I took to mama! My female colleagues all date d bosses n sometimes we collect our share, so it's a no for me.
ReplyDeleteI will still throw you off that boat though.
ReplyDeleteYou evil..lol
DeleteOK so that's why the next thing they ask for after your name is what you do for a living. I see....
ReplyDeleteExactly😀
DeleteWhen my mum is not a burden to my father, then I would now grow up to emulate who now? That is why I don't even make friends with lazy girls, who have little or no zeal, I love hard working girls, if no job find something to to, learn a trade, acquire a skill, don't just sit there looking for men to give you 10k,20k and blaming relatives for abandoning you.
ReplyDeleteA man is the head of the house but a woman as the neck should provide akara at least to support the bread winner.
Originally a man should take care of everything bc when it comes to decision making your see them claiming right they are the head and bla, bla,but when is time for money they won't remember that they are the head again.
But with the way the economy is and all, I advise all women to better find something doing and also gain some respect from your man.
Rolex chick,hope you don't form miss independent to your boyfriend cos when he finally marries you,he will leave everything for you to do knowing fully well that you are capable...
DeleteBabe,shine your eyes...
This reminds me of someone, husband said don't work and she agreed to take care of the kids.
DeleteIf she needs anything she has to write a list, the man will scrutinise the list, review, complain and then cut slash the list to something really ridiculous.
Meanwhile, dude has money.
Nobody told before she dusted her certificate and started working.
When my mum is not a burden to my father, then I would now grow up to emulate who now? That is why I don't even make friends with lazy girls, who have little or no zeal, I love hard working girls, if no job find something to to, learn a trade, acquire a skill, don't just sit there looking for men to give you 10k,20k and blaming relatives for abandoning you.
ReplyDeleteA man is the head of the house but a woman as the neck should provide akara at least to support the bread winner.
Originally a man should take care of everything bc when it comes to decision making your see them claiming right they are the head and bla, bla,but when is time for money they won't remember that they are the head again.
But with the way the economy is and all, I advise all women to better find something doing and also gain some respect from your man.
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DeleteSO TRUE. I pray ladies empower themselves. It's not enough to be beautiful and be able to do house chores. What do you bring to the table? Do you have a handiwork? If you lost that office job today, would you still proudly stand and bring your 2kobo to the table? There is a confidence that comes with being self sufficient and not waiting for a man to give you what you need.
ReplyDeleteSimple!!
Delete#WhiteDiamondOut
Obara Jesu. Opens Toto
ReplyDeleteOnye ara!...
DeleteAkwuna Ike!...that's the only thing you know...
Stella, on the contrary, I know some rich business Men who would rather their wify stay at home to take care of home and his kids while he brings the money home. Its all depends shaa
ReplyDeleteSo that they can control them financially. When a man can control you financially, that's the end of your life. Even when he is abusing you, you can't step out. You can't run for help. You can't leave him. You will keep tolerating all his bullshit because you have nothing on your own. And maybe the little savings you have wouldn't even take you far..
DeleteThat's true but dis is d real deal jare.
DeleteIt all depends my dear. So right.. All hands re nt equal
DeleteWas Tiwa not earning?
DeleteAnd late Lekan's wife?
We are only just catching up to the western world and economic realities. In the west people live together so they can share rent or mortgage. So they look in for in each other someone who can bring something to the table. Ladies shop for your beauty and make up products at diapersnmum.com
ReplyDeleteSo true and %99 of Africa ladies want to marry oyibo 😃😃😂😂
Deletemadam Toolz now that u ve joined the elite league of married women, u can "shook" ur mouth into discussion shebi. U can post question that don't "concern" u. y did u not post ur thanksgiving "pisture" now and tag it " thanksgiving with my boo" Nonsense. That picture showed the world that u re all about fame and brand. Park ur big ass somewhere and let people see road.
ReplyDeleteYou dey mind the fatty faeces ass💩💩
DeleteToolz ain't 💩💩💩💩💩💩💩💩💩💩
Y are u so pained? Please focus on d message not d messenger!
DeleteYesso.. Not wives that asks4 money for slightest thngs.. Maggi, match stick etc
ReplyDeleteHope you will also share washing the kids cloths ironing them cooking feeding and backing them. Isi azu! You will want to emulate the westerners only were it will favour you olodo! Am a working mom I wish I can stay home it's not easy!!!!!
DeleteOrimma
DeleteShe said the bitter truth but mind you all of that won't still keep a man
ReplyDeleteNara iseeeee....
DeleteLol. Cc: Toke Makinwa!
DeleteIt allCan't keep a man oh! Him go marry who him want finally. So be yourself.
Nice topic, so I ask a question, where should a woman's money be useful or needed in marriage and taking care of the family. Matured response please.
ReplyDeleteA woman's money is meant for her and her alone!...
DeleteBut Toolz... you are the breadwinner in your home. Just as Toke was also the bread winner.
ReplyDeleteSo we are meant to be asking you, how does it feel to feed your husband and pay the bills?
%190
ReplyDeleteMama Ori Oke, be guided indeed.... You just got married.. Don't speak too soon o!
ReplyDeleteInternet will wreck marriages o!
ReplyDeleteDo not compare your own situation with other people. Men have different reasons to marry.
Some are from poor homes looking for a woman to uplift their family
Some are rich and just need that beautiful companion who they can show off at parties. They don't care if she can cook or clean (Example, my aunt).
Some are financially ok, but they want the woman to stay home during the early formative period of their children's lives.
Some need you to work to augment what they bring home.
Some want you to work so that you can buy your Brazillian hair and help your family. They don't ask how much you earn as long as you don't disturb them.
Some are gold-diggers looking for someone to feed them.
Some don't want you to work because they need to subdue you.
Face your own marriage!
You're right!
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Deletehaba tools... i'm highly dissapointed at your actions... so you are part of the ladies that look down on single friends after marriage.... because God helped you to see husband, you did not wait for the ink to dry before posting this question... why didn't you ask 2 weeks to your wedding? i'm sure you're the type that would start avoiding some people or saying "my husband said you should not come to our house"
ReplyDeletena wa oh!!! nothing wey person no go see for this world!!!
High Maintenance is outdated as partriachy ! About time Man & woman take care of themselves .
ReplyDeleteSdk nor dey publish my comment again. She don use my comments cook owo soup for LaFresh ugly husband finish
ReplyDeleteWho dash Lafresh husband?...
DeleteShe is still going from church to church searching for one...
Which one is queen of ashawo club again !!!! Hian
ReplyDeletehaba tools... i'm highly dissapointed at your actions... so you are part of the ladies that look down on single friends after marriage.... because God helped you to see husband, you did not wait for the ink to dry before posting this question... why didn't you ask 2 weeks to your wedding? i'm sure you're the type that would start avoiding some people or saying "my husband said you should not come to our house"
ReplyDeletena wa oh!!! nothing wey person no go see for this world!!!
I have always believed in a working class lady, because it's not everything u ask a man money for eg, u can support ur parents and siblings without having to ask him, sometimes buy urself good clothes n shoes without waiting on him. May be becos I have always bin independent minded as such I can't depend or wait for a man to give me. When a woman has her own money she empowers herself and has bragging right.
ReplyDeleteLa fresh,it is better for me to become a tourist than a sitdown look. Na dog name be that.
ReplyDeletei don't have a problem with working or wanting to marry someone that works... but when you just meet me and the first question you're asking is where i work or how much the coy pays its staff is a no no for me... Men these days have become the gold digger while women have become the hustlers... In fact its rude to talk about money at all except you are giving me as a gift or offering to pay a bill for me... its also rude asking how much i buy my shoes, hand bags or hair and saying ÿou be big girl oh"... if you want to buy it as a gift, go to the shop and ask for the price... i'm tired of all these leeches these days..
ReplyDeleteMon ami. One million 😂 likes for your comment. Toolz don't even discuss such a sensitive issue now. Try and focus on your husband so as not to send the wrong signals....
ReplyDeleteI was expecting to see a picture of your thanksgiving service and proudly Tell the world the truth about C&S that its a living Church of God. Face your marriage!!
ReplyDeleteI don't feel comfortable asking for money, eg to make my hair,nails etc I feel I own myself that and I make my hair every two weeks, I work n do biz and I pray after marriage my hubby won't ask me to stop working cos I v tasted money, I love making money....
ReplyDeleteAnon 19.05 and you are still with that man.
ReplyDeleteSince my university days broke men do not just turn me on at allll. Infact my friends knew me back then. I don't date broke men talkless marrying one.
Is your man jobless that u are d one doing all this??? You are trying, Lord is ur strength.
You better buy ursellf nice things, and stop giving that man pocket money. And he actually opens his hand to collect it.
In my life I have never given men shi shi. Gift I give, boy you a shirt or 2 if I see smthn nice if I go out. Little things like dat.
Till now my husband sef he knows, it has to be a loan and u will pay me back. And it's little things like pls help me do 20k transfer to my broda in school and I will pay you back.
Toolz should post the pix of her wedding Thanksgiving on her IG Page before I any other thing.
ReplyDeleteYoruba men can use their wives sha. The woman will make the money, take care of the home front, and get cheated on.
ReplyDeleteAnonymous 19:05 you are a big fool, total fool and complete fool.....why allow a man use you like that? God forbid. You better wake up and stop paying the bills....he has seen you as Mumu and taking advantage of you.....Walahi I wish I can give u an eslap right now...warahell. Am sure the idiot will even be giving another girl money...I take care of you then you give me verbal abuse, I swear to God na u go suffer... Stop letting that man use you. Don't know why we women allow men get away with too much....he is an infidel abeg
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