OhMyGod!
VAGINISMUS BROUHAHA
Dear Stella,
Nwanyi oma! asampete nwanyi! Heaven sent! ............
OK, enough of the praises, i just had to get that in there. I am the younger sister of the lady that had vaginismus. I sent you my cry of help about last 2 years ago or so on behalf of her, and i promised to let you know how far it went.
If you remember , you helped me hook up with the bv that had the same issue, and we took it from there, i don't want to bore you with the intricacies of what i have been through in helping my sister since then until now, but just know that the bv has been amazing, from referring us to her doctor that did the necessary surgery, to lending us the apparatus my sister needed until we got her hers, i mean she has just been awesome.
Right now, although my sister has done the surgery, she still has not been a blt o make love to her husband and this is the 9th year, i am honestly tired! It is a secret i can not shout out to the world to know, and my hubby feels i should not let it bother me the way it has been bothering me because it does not seem to bother my sister. But Stella, if you were in my shoes won't it bother you?
i am happily married for over 5 years with 2 kids and she has not even had sex yet talk less of having kids and she is in her mid 30's! i mean, am just tearing up here, what do i do? does any body know of a sex doctor?
sexologist they can refer us to? or do you know of any other form of solution or route we can take to make this year a victorious one for her.
Thank you once again Stella, for all the free help and advices we get via you, remain blessed sweets
PS: make me anonymous.
Hian!...
ReplyDeleteDoes it mean that her husband can't make love to her or that he can't get her pregnant?...
Well,she should look for another man that would do that to her since her husband is not capable...
Queen, its not her husband's fault.Google it. Her vagina actually closes. So its not about looking for another man.
DeleteI just concluded that you are an illiterate.
DeleteNothing shot of ds can be expected of a trash filled brain of yours. U will never learn nor listen neither will u ever read to comprehend. All that matters is for ur comment to be seen n viola-that gives u d relevance n peace of mind u so desire but can't get in real life except thru SDK.
DeleteI swear, she doesn't even read to understand, always too fast to post her stupid and senseless comments. Madam queen and Boss of foolishness, you're so insensitive and it irritates me, you should take a chill pill and stay off sensitive posts.
DeleteThis queen must be an illiterate. And na u dey advise pass oooo. I pity person wey follow ur advise
DeleteQueen is so senseless. Do you even read or u just rush to comment so u can be seen. I bet u went to an adult school hence the way u reason academically. It's better u always comment with a dictionary beside u do that u can stop being senseless and begin to act ur age.
DeleteNa wa o, Queen of illiterates I hail o. When they say Google is your friend you think they are referring to the Nigerian police ba? Don't run from Google biko, embrace it. Next time before you comment go ask Google... Bye.
DeleteChai!!!
DeleteQueen did you just type that?
Hmmmmmm.
Adonbilivit.
Kwakwakwakwa everybody cursing unda anon...
The fear of queen is d .....
This is very strange. Maybe her horseband doesn't know how to romance a woman. Any girl I romance, her something is always juicy and slippery like Ogbono soup.
ReplyDeleteKwakwakwakwa...
DeleteIt has nothing to do with romance but a lot with anxiety, fear, emotional background, std etc. But it is highly treatable! I just wish the lady in question didn't go for the surgery because here, you only need yo see a physical therapist and a sex therapist to get treated. Most times your gynecologist will refer you after examinations. The main job is done by the physical therapist and later, the sex therapist. You are advised to start with kegel exercises , then other measures are put in place. Pls forgive my typos! 9yrs after surgery and no sex! Ha! That is too long. May God heal her IJN, Amen.
DeleteYou're just as senseless as The queen and Boss whatever.
DeleteHahahaha,you are just a "Bambino Shakespeare"
DeleteLmao James o
DeleteAnon 12:12, d surgery worked for me. Infact, i'm d BV dt refered dem cos mine ws after 2yrs plus. I had tryd everytyn I cud tink of. I even so a psychologist, yet notyn,did d kegels and all but all came 2 not. D surgery ws my last option and it worked for me by God's grace.. @ Poster, maam, I pray ur sister get d necessary help she really deserves from here, amen!
Delete*saw a psychologist*
DeleteDis is Very serious dear God pls help out.
DeleteThis is my first time of hearing this
ReplyDeleteLike there are some women that find it hard to have sex?
The vagina is too tight for penetration?
Odiegwu.
I don't even understand. Science beats me mahn!
DeleteMy dear,it's really strange.She hasn't had sex all her life,and has been married for a whole nine years???? This is really serious o.Her husband doesn't mind? Then he must have kids outside.Nawa o
DeleteThis is serious...
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This is so sad.
ReplyDeleteEnd time mermaid.
Really sad but there should be a way out
DeleteDid u say your sister has had d surgery???
ReplyDeletePlease what sorta surgery is it? Was her pcg muscle cut off or what? Please expanciate
Anyway it seems your sister has got grade 4 vaginismus bt I'd like for u to state further...has she ever had penetrative sex in d past or her hubby though still trying is her 1st?
What she needs now is to go see a psychologist,a gynaecologist and a pharmacotherapist.
Noticed I didn't say she could see @least one;i meant she has to see all 3 respectively
Forget about seeing a sex doctor 4now...it won't do much
Goodluck
Remindds me of the movie teeth.
ReplyDeleteI remember the movie too. At times I pray rapists get their thing chopped off while in the process
DeleteMadam please go spiritual about it. Since the medical aspects didn't work. Take her to mfm
ReplyDeleteI concur with Tiwa, this ish sounds spiritual like wth???
DeleteAnd why is the posters' sister not concerned? after 9 years of marriage still no show? Hian!!!
Her hubby deserves a medal!
Na wa o.
ReplyDeleteOur hospitals are not up to standards at all, the doctor who operated on her would have introduced her to a sex therapist who would have worked on her immediately.
ReplyDeleteMehn, I dunno but she and her hubby need to see a trained psychologist, who will suggest treatments for her.
I don't understand
ReplyDeleteHow will u understand after smoking weed. 😀😀😀😀
DeleteNa wa. wahala everywhere. I pray she gets the desired help and enjoy sex like any other woman
ReplyDeletePls it's a spiritual something bcos a friend of mine had the same issue. There's nothing the hospital didn't do, she kept running from one hospital to another spending lots of money and at the end the husband divorced her. She decided to go seek for spiritual help abt it and by the grace of God she is OK now and getting married again in September to another man
ReplyDeleteYou can contact Mrs Funmi akingbade, she is a sex therapist, and she writes her articles on saturday punch,sex and sexuality, I think she should help.
ReplyDeleteYes, Love Struck,I agree with yr suggestion. Let them contact Funmi Akingbade.
DeleteGod will hear ur cry my darling
ReplyDeleteShe isn't concerned? Maybe she doesn't love the man. And she DOESNT want to have sex with him.
ReplyDeleteNaaawaaoo!
ReplyDeleteI'm simply speechless!
9 years without sex????
Lord have mercy, some people are suffering oooo!
How is the hubby coping? I guess he's getting it outside abi na unto oral tinzzzzz with wife? Mmmmmmmmm! This is DEEP! So many questions.
Lord Jesus bikooo fix this, Amen.
I don't get it
ReplyDeletethe three most common contributing factors to vaginismus are fear of painful sex; the belief that sex is wrong or shameful (often the case with patients who had a strict religious upbringing); and traumatic early childhood experiences (not necessarily sexual in nature).
ReplyDeletePeople with vaginismus are twice as likely to have a history of childhood sexual interference and held less positive attitudes about their sexuality, whereas no correlation was noted for lack of sexual knowledge or (non-sexual) physical abuse. Since surgery has been done already, she should meet a well trained psychologists.
All the best.
NAwA oo, women with plenty problem. Tight vagina, wahala, loose vagina, double wahala. God why na.
ReplyDeletePoster you sure say no bi fear (fear of the huge monster prick, wey her husband get)do your sister so? Abeg ask her oo.
But if no bi prick, biko see gynae, inugo? If ur sister no get headache, why you get headache, even get fever join on top her matter? Sisterly love sef.
God have mercy.
ReplyDeleteJames u no well o.
ReplyDeleteTHis one na prayer o.
...and she is not even bordered, she needs prayer.
I pity the husband, may GOd help them
Abeg Elena, what time do you have to attend to your patients?
ReplyDeleteJust simple question.
If u had a tv set or something close to a tv set,ud know some of us are still on strike
DeleteEs er hymen stil intact after d surgery
ReplyDeleteNa wao, orishirishi we go hear
ReplyDeleteThis is whh you must gbensh the girl well before marriage. If the man had gbensh well, he would have know. And the wicked woman, knowing she had this issue still went to marry. Witches everywhere!
ReplyDeleteShe should definitely see a psychologist... If she is in Lagos, she should go to LUTH and ask to see Dr Umeh.. Can't recollect his surname right now..... He is a psychologist and we'll versed in the area of sequel dysfunction. May God help her out
ReplyDeleteJesus U need to fix this!
ReplyDeleteMay God see them through.
ReplyDeleteThank you all for your comments! Wish i could reply all, but i cant. She has had sexual relations before with her first boy friend who disvirgined her and afterwards sge met her hubby and they decided to be celibate in all of the 5 years they dated. And no, he is not impotent, we yave caught him ontop of another chic while they were dating and he has a kid from another woman before he started dating my sis and on top of that he has been cheating on her witg countless women(i blame my sister entirely). We have also go e spiritual via churches and countless delivery sessions until i brought d issue here years ago. Pls if you have an address or contact of any sex therapist, that would be helpful. God bless u all!
ReplyDeleteDoes she have a crush? Can she try fantasizing or meeting the person, or watch adult movies? I honestly dont know what to say. So sad, i pray she finds the perfect cure.
ReplyDeleteThank you all for your comments! Wish i could reply all, but i cant. She has had sexual relations before with her first boy friend who disvirgined her and afterwards sge met her hubby and they decided to be celibate in all of the 5 years they dated. And no, he is not impotent, we yave caught him ontop of another chic while they were dating and he has a kid from another woman before he started dating my sis and on top of that he has been cheating on her witg countless women(i blame my sister entirely). We have also go e spiritual via churches and countless delivery sessions until i brought d issue here years ago. Pls if you have an address or contact of any sex therapist, that would be helpful. God bless u all!
ReplyDeleteYour sister can't stand the man. She's only staying married to be married.
DeleteI do not know if my reply to some of the comments here is showing. I have never commented before in all my years here, except for now#poster#
ReplyDeleteThank you stella for posting this. Sorry for the typos, i have taken note of some points here and will keep you posted. Regards
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